From "Too Good to be True" to not answering my calls. Help!
Q. I have been dateing this guy of the late 3 months. when i met him I questioned why he wanted to date me. He has dated lots of beautiful women and is Friends with pro football players and nba players Me im just the girl from the neigborhood. I just ...
A. 6 July 2010: Now he is blaming YOU for him not calling? Wow he's got a set on him...
Sounds like a narcissist... google it.... (read in full...)
From "Too Good to be True" to not answering my calls. Help!
Q. I have been dateing this guy of the late 3 months. when i met him I questioned why he wanted to date me. He has dated lots of beautiful women and is Friends with pro football players and nba players Me im just the girl from the neigborhood. I just ...
A. 30 June 2010: Is he by any chance seeing someone else?
I'm sorry you CAN'T MAKE him talk to you. I would let this one go.... (read in full...)
Ex will not give me permission to take our child away. Should I just do it anyways?
Q. I want to take my child away for a few months but Ex will not give permission. Should I just go and face the consciences when I get back? We are seperated but not legally. He is on the birth certificate. If anyone has been in this situation...
A. 30 June 2010: I think you need to talk to a lawyer and have the custody and parental right done right.
You can in fact be facing more then an irate ex if you "just" do it.
Seek legal counsel. Be smart.... (read in full...)
Why won't he date me when we are having sex?
Q. Hello, I had been having one night stands with a guy from work for about 5 years . It was so painful because he would always say he didn't love me and then we would have a row and and I would try so hard to forget about him that I ended up seeing ...
A. 29 June 2010: I agree with TimmD.
Stop having anything to do with GUY#1 - cut the contact with him as much as work permits it.. He's had 5 frigging years to decide to be with you, yet.... He doesn't really want to. He just wants you to hang around and be avail... (read in full...)
His ex is forcing him to chose between his son or me and now he isn't contacting me!
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I met a guy off a very well known dating site and we hit it off straight away, we became very close in three weeks to the point where we even told each other we loved each other, I know silly really when we hadn't even met before ...
A. 29 June 2010: If he lets his EX bully him when it comes to HIS life, honestly he isn't worth it.
I'm sorry.
I think you left the ball in his court, now I would not write/text/call him again, unless he gets back to you. Personally I don't see a future for you... (read in full...)
I want to do it with the right guy, and I'm not sure he is! Help!
Q. hey i am 16 and my boyfriend is 18. we've been together 6 months on and off he wants to go further but i'm not sure i kind of want to do it with the right guy and am not sure if he is. Help !!!...
A. 29 June 2010: I agree with everyone else. If you are not sure, then you are not ready and HE is not the "right" guy.
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What is a good quote for a tattoo - to show I have overcome depression?
Q. I suffered from severe depression in the past and want to get a tattoo to show that I have overcome it. I want to get a quote. does anyone have any suggestions...
A. 29 June 2010: I would advice you to talk to a tattoo artist about placement as well. Inner upper arm may not be a "smart" place to put a tattoo, since women tend to get "droopy" skin after pregnancies/age.. I would reconsider the placement.... (read in full...)
Guy sending me emotional messages but sleeping with someone else.
Q. I am in touch with a person younger to me who sends me emotional messages. He has been honest to tell me that he is sleeping with another girl. at times he has expected more commitment from me than i feel i should be owing to him. i do not know if i ...
A. 29 June 2010: Cut off the communication. He isn't worth the time or heart ache.. He will walk ALL over you.... (read in full...)
Do you think I should try to regain the friendship with my ex without telling my boyfriend?
Q. What do you consider cheating? I'm sure this is a common question but I have a particular situation in mind, and I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend in the slightest. We've been together for 14 months, and are completely in love. Recently, ...
A. 29 June 2010: Anything you can't tell your partner or do in front of your partner is detrimental to a relationship, In my humble opinion.... (read in full...)
What is a good quote for a tattoo - to show I have overcome depression?
Q. I suffered from severe depression in the past and want to get a tattoo to show that I have overcome it. I want to get a quote. does anyone have any suggestions...
A. 29 June 2010: I think you need to figure that out yourself, YOU are going to have to live with whatever tattoo you get and IT HAS to have meaning to you.
... (read in full...)
Meeting with husband after separation, not sure how to handle it!
Q. I have been separated from y husband for 5 weeks now, due to his excess drinking. He has been working away and not been prepared to communicate. He has just called to say he has landed and we are meeting up tomorrow so i can pass on his mail etc....
A. 28 June 2010: I'm thinking he wants you to be around just in case... And that is a not really a good thing.
Maybe he doesn't know WHAT he wants right now, but what do YOU want? If you are over it, then you can file for divorce as well. YOU don't have to wait ... (read in full...)
Should I wait 5 years to be with this older man?
Q. There is this guy and he is 5 years older than me. my parents have forbedin me to talk toi him. I like him a SUPER LOT. and im not shure id i should wait like 2 years to be with him. i really want to but most people thinks it a bad idea. idk what to ...
A. 25 June 2010: I agree people have advised you AGAINST seeing him for a reason.
You parents were young once, they grew up and in the process learned quite a few things about life, which is most likely Why they are telling you, you can not see this guy. THEY are... (read in full...)
I plan to move to America... but how do I to tell Mum and Dad!
Q. hello reader i am 17 and i didn't stay at school or go to college i have regretted that as i haven't been able to fibd work. i am now thinking about going back to college and getting some education the thing is next year if i have enough m...
A. 25 June 2010: I think Tisha covered most of it.
Having a dream or a goal is a good thing, but in order to reach said goal you need to PLAN! It might take a bit longer then you think, to be actually ABLE to move to the US. And once you get here... it may not ... (read in full...)
Should I stop drinking altogether?
Q. so i started drinking when i was about fifteen years old and drink pretty much ever weekend since... lately i has been seeming that i drink until i BLACK OUT and this is scary to me cause i cant remember anything...i can never just have a couple ...
A. 25 June 2010: You know the answer. The answer is YES. ... (read in full...)
Why is she angry that I told her she was easy, when she is?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have a close mutual friend. She says she only fools/sleeps around with men if she potentailly sees them in a relationship. And she's had a few flings. So the other day she was wondering why this guy, whom she was seeing...
A. 25 June 2010: Maybe it would be EASIER for you to keep your thoughts to yourself on certain subjects ;)
To be honest, EASY is a way nicer classification then what some people might have used..
It's her life, her body. I would venture a guess that she b... (read in full...)
Meeting with husband after separation, not sure how to handle it!
Q. I have been separated from y husband for 5 weeks now, due to his excess drinking. He has been working away and not been prepared to communicate. He has just called to say he has landed and we are meeting up tomorrow so i can pass on his mail etc....
A. 25 June 2010: You know, I would tell him to come pick up his mail. Then when he shows up hand it to him and close the door.
I would also suggest he gives you a forwarding address OR a friend of his you can hand it over to.
I agree that you need to make it ... (read in full...)
My husband wants an open marriage, I don't
Q. my husband after 7 years of marriage wants and open marriage meening he wants to ahve sex with other women and i CAN HAVE SEX WITH OTHER MEN IM NOT OK WITH THAT WHAT DO i DO?...
A. 25 June 2010: I would tell him how you feel. Personally if my husband pulled that on me I would tell him that it's time for a divorce because there is no way I will stay married to a man who sleeps around. That is not a marriage, that is a farce.
If he wants... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 25 June 2010: Drinks cost an arm and a leg in Strip clubs, specially if he is buying rounds. I honestly don't know if you can charge lap dances and so forth on your card.
Again.. He doesn't want to be honest with you.... (read in full...)
DearCupid has helped me with this online lover before and I need your help again!
Q. I met a guy on the Internet who lives in Sydney and am feeling unsure about his latest antics and am wondering whether things may be changing for the better or whether he is still out to exploit me for his own gain. I'm aware that I need to pro...
A. 24 June 2010: ARE you AWARE that a LOT of what goes on through webcam/Skype ends up on the WEB for ALL to see? Are you AWARE that he can RECORD whatever you do and broadcast it ?
What I just don't get is WHY you still talk to this sick F... What he wants is... (read in full...)
DearCupid has helped me with this online lover before and I need your help again!
Q. I met a guy on the Internet who lives in Sydney and am feeling unsure about his latest antics and am wondering whether things may be changing for the better or whether he is still out to exploit me for his own gain. I'm aware that I need to pro...
A. 24 June 2010: ARE you AWARE that a LOT of what goes on through webcam/Skype ends up on the WEB for ALL to see? Are you AWARE that he can RECORD whatever you do and broadcast it ?
What I just don't get is WHY you still talk to this sick F... What he wants is... (read in full...)
DearCupid has helped me with this online lover before and I need your help again!
Q. I met a guy on the Internet who lives in Sydney and am feeling unsure about his latest antics and am wondering whether things may be changing for the better or whether he is still out to exploit me for his own gain. I'm aware that I need to pro...
A. 24 June 2010: ARE you AWARE that a LOT of what goes on through webcam/Skype ends up on the WEB for ALL to see? Are you AWARE that he can RECORD whatever you do and broadcast it ?
What I just don't get is WHY you still talk to this sick F... What he wants is... (read in full...)
If you were kissed by a man in the 'just friends' category... you would...?
Q. Girls, how would you react if your best male friend kissed you? As in we are both 26 and she does know I like her but on this day we were just driving and I suddenly pulled the car over, and she said "what are you doing", I said "this" and leaned ...
A. 24 June 2010: If you want to know how she feels about the kiss ASK her. You can guess and speculate all day long and never know.
Ask her, tell her how you feel and then well, RESPECT her and her decision.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Should I trust the boy who's been hiding his very dark history from me?
Q. Hello, I hooked up with a boy two years younger than me...(I am fifteen.) He was really sweet and passionate, but I just found out about his more-than-unusual past. My mum approached me about it, and let me know that he'd spent quite a bit of time ...
A. 24 June 2010: Yeah I'm with CindyCares... It sounds a lot like bad fiction.
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Pictures of my girlfriend's chest are on another man's phone!
Q. What should I do. I have found out on a recent night out my long term girl friend allowed one of her friends boy friends to take pictures of her breasts? I only found this out when I read some messages he has been sending her on facebook about h...
A. 24 June 2010: Ah, I apologize Lola, I thought he meant the messages was posted on her Wall. ( for all to see, hence.. not really snooping)
She is obvious a little insecure and want reassurance from another guy.. The thing is.. where does it end? with 5 guys lik... (read in full...)
Last week he wanted to marry me, now he says he isn't happy!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me.We are both 25 years old.He has had a few long relationships but was never able to picture a future(marriage,kids) with them like he could with me.He LOVED discussing our future.He showed me every day how in ...
A. 24 June 2010: Not giving him the space he may need right now, is almost as bad as nagging.
IF it's meant to be it will happen. I know that sounds corny and useless, but you need to show him that you CAN control the more "manipulate" side of yourself... (read in full...)
Is he being fair?
Q. Hi there, I have a problem with my bf whom I met online last year. I'm 31 and he is 43. When we met he knew I had 2 kids, 1 who is 14 and the 18mths baby. The problem I have with my bf is he does not want my daughters father to be anywhere near his ...
A. 24 June 2010: Are you crazy? Sorry to be so blunt but really? You would chose a MAN over your own child?
I would dump his so fast he head would be spinning for a week.
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Pictures of my girlfriend's chest are on another man's phone!
Q. What should I do. I have found out on a recent night out my long term girl friend allowed one of her friends boy friends to take pictures of her breasts? I only found this out when I read some messages he has been sending her on facebook about h...
A. 24 June 2010: To Lola, I don't think it matters if she knows who knows about the pictures, the FACT that she let a guy take pictures of her chest is the bigger issue.
And looking at her Facebook is not what I would call snooping. Now if he went through her e-ma... (read in full...)
Last week he wanted to marry me, now he says he isn't happy!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me.We are both 25 years old.He has had a few long relationships but was never able to picture a future(marriage,kids) with them like he could with me.He LOVED discussing our future.He showed me every day how in ...
A. 24 June 2010: I think he had enough. To use either break up or divorce as a threat is only going to make it come true. ( a break up or divorce) I'm not trying to put you down, but that is really immature and foolish, specially if this was NOT what you really ... (read in full...)
What's the point of giving him oral sex when he doesn't cum?
Q. Hey I asked a question before about being nervous of giving oral sex http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fear-of-fellatio.html Okay I got over my fear and gave him a blowjob last night. He had his eyes closed through out and was moaning. My fear...
A. 24 June 2010: M husband told me when we first started having sex that he had never cum from a BJ. Ever. It took a LOT of patience and creativity ;) but he sure doesn't have a problem any more.
Also I can recommend this book:
http://ww... (read in full...)
How do I get over a fling?
Q. im finding it very hard too forget about this guy i had a fling with for 2months, the last time i saw him he was chattin up a girl in my face, i cant even move on cant stop thing about it. no guy in my past never done these things in front me knowin ...
A. 24 June 2010: Well, knowing that the guy is a total DOUCHE BAG should help you get over him, fast. Honestly, WHY would you still want the guy? He is obviously NOT boyfriend potential.
If I were you, I would chalk it up to a learning experience.
And hon... (read in full...)
Should a blow the whistle on an affair?
Q. I've known for a couple of months now that on of my friends is cheating on her husband, and that he is none the wiser about her adultery. Both of them are great people, and I know that neither one is truly satisfied with their marriage the way they ...
A. 24 June 2010: If it is YOUR friend who is cheating maybe you could talk to her. Personally if I had a friend and knew she was cheating I would tell her to stop and think. That she needs to come clean with her hubby. Having an affair is NO way to fix a marriage, ... (read in full...)
What happens in Las Vegas... Really... What's happening in Las Vegas?
Q. We have only been living together for 3 months, and I even moved across country to be with him, as we were long distance for a year and a half. So, one morning before he left (for a boy's weekend in Las Vegas), I walked the bedroom and heard him at ...
A. 24 June 2010: Shady shady shady.
Sorry I would not believe a word out of his mouth either. There can be a designated driver, but a designated condom holder? WTH? are they 15?
Sorry, wouldn't fly with me either.... (read in full...)
Pictures of my girlfriend's chest are on another man's phone!
Q. What should I do. I have found out on a recent night out my long term girl friend allowed one of her friends boy friends to take pictures of her breasts? I only found this out when I read some messages he has been sending her on facebook about h...
A. 24 June 2010: Total no-no. WTF was she thinking?
Sorry I would not be OK with this... what's next? Her "bush" - "trimmed hedges"?
I would explain to her HOW it makes you feel, if she doesn't get it and call the guy and ask him to delete the pictures, I'd be... (read in full...)
Radical Right-Wing Romeo Drives Juliet Crazy! Help!
Q. My boyfriend is a Christian. We've been together 1 and 1/2 years. I consider myself a lapsed-catholic. He feels very strongly about his beliefs, namely he's totally against abortion and homosexuality. My sister is transgendered and in the process of ...
A. 23 June 2010: Sorry that seems like a match made in Hades. Except your husband wouldn't believe in Hades....
I don't think your relationship can get better, only worse.
I would run for the hills.... (read in full...)
I lied about previous job but my new boss is my old boss's wife. How do I handle this?
Q. I am not sure what to do. i got a job yesterday and i lied to the woman who hired me that i have not been employed anywhere else. i was afraid she would not hire me to see i quit my last job. the problem is i found out the lady who hired me is ...
A. 23 June 2010: I think if you get the job and want to keep it you need to fess up and be honest.... (read in full...)
It's all or nothing for this army guy. Is he just being selfish?
Q. A guy I was talking to from the army doesn't want to have anything to do with him because he can't deal with me not being sure if I would be with him and move with him to georgia...we have been talking for a month now I really do like him but he ...
A. 23 June 2010: I think he isn't for you. The whole it's all or nothing is no way to start a life together. It has to be 50/50
Being an Army Gf/F/Wife is not a walk in the park. I've been one for over 12 years now. It's certainly not for everyone. Every couple o... (read in full...)
I'm 18, he's 36. Is that wrong?
Q. I know this is going to sound like another 13-in-a-dozen age gap question. But I need some advice. Sorry if this is long and boring, but I need someone to read through it. I'm a normal girl and I used to date guys my age. I had a couple of boyfri...
A. 22 June 2010: I'm with C. Grant on this one.
I can see a mature 18 year old girl being with a guy who is older, though 18 years seem like huge difference. However, a 26 year old man... he really shouldn't have a lot in common with an 18 year old. If he does.... (read in full...)
Why does he keep dropping me and then come running back?
Q. I have been in college for three years now, and have dated many guys throughout the years, most of them being the typical tool frat guy, but last fall I met someone I thought was totally different. He treated me like no one else, he was the country ...
A. 22 June 2010: He keep coming back because you let him.
He keeps dropping you because he doesn't want to be seen as the bad and unfaithful guy to his GF at home.
Let this one go. It's NEVER worth dating a taken guy. ... (read in full...)
I was telling him about past relationships and he got offended!
Q. i started getting along really well with this guy who i never thought i would. time passes and we got closer and closer and we started to develop feelings for each other. he told me about his feelings and i told him that i felt the same way so we ...
A. 22 June 2010: I say, better now then later. If he doesn't like the fact that you have a past he's not for you. Let him go.
Also, dragging up the past is not the best conversations, honestly.... (read in full...)
Do women keep it honest or do they have grey areas like men do?
Q. I am really curious and need women to be honest here. I've been dating this girl for about 4 weeks and we are starting to talk about making it exclusive. She's amazing, and I am pretty sure she thinks the same about me. So she asked me the ...
A. 22 June 2010: I'm pretty sure that depends on the women :)
I think most will tend to down play the number, but if they feel a deep connection with the partner I think they will be honest.
Just because she is awkward around other guys when introducing you ... (read in full...)
Why does she essentially require that I have an erection during oral sex?
Q. My fiance and I have a pretty good sex life but it's not without some quirks. I've always enjoyed giving her oral sex. She claims that I'm the first who has been able to bring her to orgasm this way. The problem is that she essentially requ...
A. 18 June 2010: Ask her to have an orgasm without any stimulation.. Or riding a bike with out the wheels..... It is about the same. I think that is a ridiculous insecure thing to demand. You might have to EXPLAIN to her that erection is NOT the only sing of being ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he's not a sexual person...is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating long-distance for eight months. We're finally going to be living in the same city. We're both in our 30's and haven't had sex with each other yet. He wasn't bringing it up, so when I finally did, he said, "We ...
A. 18 June 2010: You guys never talk about sex before you actually met up? As in, this is news to you? (that he isn't "that" sexual)
Personally I do find it a little odd for a guy in his early 30's. I don't think I have ever met a guy that wasn't "into" sex. May... (read in full...)
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