He's married to my friend, but we're together and I'm jealous of the time they spend together.
Q. Hi there, Im really not sure anyone can help me but i need advice. I have been very hurt over the last 2 years by somebody who i work with. it is a very long story but to cut it short i fell deeply for a man i had known for three years. we would me...
A. 11 February 2010: Are you kidding?
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Ideas for Valentine's Day if you're single?
Q. What does a single guy do for valentine's day weekend? This is a light hearted thread for actual ideas - if you want to rant about the lameness and/or commercialisation of the day, and how it's totally rubbed in your face that your single - th...
A. 11 February 2010: Have a "singles" brunch on Sunday:) That is what we used to do. Though some friends would bring their BF/GF to them as well, that is just how we rolled :)
We never really made a huge fuss out of Valentine's. It was just an excuse to all hang out... (read in full...)
Will the court take my kids away from me just for smoking pot?
Q. Hi there...I smoke weed and have 3 kids...I don't smoke around them and they don't know that I do it. My ex-husband knows that I have always smoked weed and now that I pushed for child support, he started calling DCF on me...twice in the last 6 ...
A. 11 February 2010: If you really love you kids you need to stop with the pot. This is not about you, but the future of your kids.
I think it's pretty simple really.
Also make sure you keep EVERYTHING - his phone messages, threats, if you have any documentation of... (read in full...)
Is it wise to leave my 28 years old fiance for a 53 years old man?
Q. It's about 5 years already that I'm just attracted to older men.I can not be with young guys for too long.I find them boring,unreliable,hard to deal with... but because of my mum who is so angry at me for loving an older man that she just saw his ...
A. 11 February 2010: I think if it was that easy for you to be "distracted" by another guy, the 28 year old is not for you.
However, 25 years difference is a lot. It's a whole generation really. I wouldn't go "run" off with anyone but I would break up with the fian... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have friendly phone sex with a classmate when I have a boyfriend?
Q. well...im in a committed relationship...its been 7.5months..me and my bf really love each other..i want to ask that is it ok to have friendly phone sex with my classmate?(we actually don't mean it,its just 4 fun)i mean is it ok or whether i will be ...
A. 11 February 2010: No. Unless you think you can do it in front of your boyfriend. You already know it's wrong.
Consider what values you want to have and you want in a partner. Same with morals. Get some.... (read in full...)
Have I got my boyfriend enough for Valentines day?
Q. For valentines day I got my boyfriend a necklace and card. I was wondering if that would be enough?...
A. 11 February 2010: What else do you think he HAS to get? A car? A Boat? ;)
I think it's sweet you thought of buying him a gift. Enjoy Valentine's Day. And remember it's not just about giving and getting "stuff"!... (read in full...)
He dumped me for another girl so why does he keep texting me?
Q. My ex broke up with me for another girl, but keeps texting me asking how I am and how school is and I don't reply coz I don't think it's fair. Anyway, yesterday he text me while I was in college saying 'Hey. did you send me an e-mail? x' and I...
A. 6 February 2010: He wants you hanging around just in case his new GF don't work out.
And I wanna BET he didn't get a chain e-mail from you.
I wouldn't bother asking him why he keeps texting... I would just block his phone number and e-mail.Pretend h... (read in full...)
Do I break up with her before or after valentines day?
Q. After much difficult deliberation, I think it is time I break up with my girlfriend. Or, at the very least, have a much needed "state of the union" conversation that will quite likely end in our breaking up. We've been living together for alm...
A. 5 February 2010: Why wait til after? Why pretend?
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My boyfriend is cheating on me! Should I leave? or stay?
Q. hi, ive just found out my boyfriend is cheating on me. im unsure on what i should do. whever i should leave him or stay. please help... ...
A. 5 February 2010:
Why the need to stay? It's not like he is the last man on the planet. Don't YOU think you deserve a man who treats you with love and respect, not deceit and betrayal?
What you have to ask yourself is this.
Can you truly forgive him?
Do ... (read in full...)
He cheated, lied and got a woman pregnant....why did he do this to me?
Q. I am heartbroken, my partner who I lived with for 3 years not only cheated and lied for the last 8 weeks of our relationship but got a woman he had a brief fling with pregnant. He has shown no remorse for what he did and has walked away from all our ...
A. 5 February 2010: He didn't do it TO you - he did it despite of his relationship with you.
Why did he do it? Who knows.
As I see it, you need to look for the silver lining here. And it is huge! He is out of your life. No more wasting time on a man who isn't th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gave me the same engagement ring he gave his ex!
Q. Hello, my boyfriend gave me an engagement ring that was previously used by his ex girlfriend. He says that he redid the ring, but the diamond is the same. It makes me feel uncomfortable. There is also a plus, when we started the relation...
A. 5 February 2010: That is just tacky. I think you better tell him NOW that you don't want this ring, but would love one he had picked for YOU.
Tacky tacky.
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Confused and laughing - don't know if my boyfriend is gay.
Q. My boyfriend and I recently are taking a break so he can try and be in his child's life (long story). I just found out that he signed up for an adult friend finder site, and has his profile to looking for males and joined a couple groups about ...
A. 5 February 2010: If you two aren't dating I don't think it's your problem any more. Obviously he has some curiosities and maybe he feels now is the time to check them out?
However, if you two start dating again, I would be honest and ask him and make sure he ... (read in full...)
How do you get over cheating?
Q. How do you get over cheating????? Is emotional or physical worse from a woman's point of view? Is a man's point of view different? Thank you x ...
A. 5 February 2010: How do you get over it?
1. Well you forgive yourself first.
(even if you didn't cheat) I say this because most women who have been cheated on, felt they were to blame one way or another.
2. Once you have realized that YOU didn't do this, ... (read in full...)
Feeling self-conscious when I'm on top during sex?
Q. I want to ask other girls out there for their opinion on feeling self-conscious when you are on top during sex? I don't know why I feel that way. I'm not a heavy girl, however I do have an issue with my stomach because I have a curved spine so...
A. 5 February 2010: Honey, turn off the lights and have a few candles lit, that way you won't be to overly conscious of how you look to him, though I can tell you this... The sooner you learn that sex is about enjoyment (for BOTH of you) the sooner you will forget ... (read in full...)
Is Three A Crowd?
Q. Hi Aunts. Okay alot of people will think im a lucky girl but to me, its a nightmare! A year ago i was out clubbing with my girl friends and i met a guy Alex* talking, he bought me drinks etc. Well after about an hour, he said 'Be right back', when ...
A. 5 February 2010: All I see is a LOT of drama down the road. I'm sure the two guys and a girl is all fun and games til people develop feelings. What sucks is, you might have to cut them both loose and start over with a whole different guy. Otherwise there is going to ... (read in full...)
Should I be moved out by now? Should I feel like less of a man for looking after my mother?
Q. I'm 32 yrs old and still living at home with mom. I'm not completely a momma's boy... but I do love her a lot. Hey she'll always be my #1 girl. Well my parents have been divorced for along time and I've always been the man of the house. I'm not a...
A. 5 February 2010: I think you need to do what feels right for you, whether it is living with your mom or moving out on your own.
To be honest, I would never date a guy who is still living at home in his 30's. But that is a personal preference. I have always l... (read in full...)
Would you prefer a real rose or a fake one?
Q. Valentines help! I've been with a girl for a couple of weeks and have planned to take her out for a meal on valentines. I just wondered though, I'm planning on giving her a single red rose, but wanted to know on whether that rose should be real or ...
A. 5 February 2010: If you are going to give her a single rose it should be REAL.
However, I like the idea Fatherly Advice suggested that you call her mom and ask her what color she likes best in roses. She might love white, pink, yellow better:)
Real Fake an... (read in full...)
He said he was dating to teach his ex girlfriend a lesson. Where does that leave me?
Q. Hi guys. I really like this guy and we've been out a few times but he is still in touch with his GF and I recently found out that he decided to start dating as a 'payback' (according to him) to 'teach her a lesson' for some lie or other she told ...
A. 5 February 2010: He sounds toxic. Eww. No hun, no reason for you to hang around, he is just using you to get back at his ex.
Drop him, like a bad habit.
You can do better!... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to ask my new husband for a new bed?
Q. Is it wrong for me to ask my new husband for a new bed because I do not want to sleep in our current bed because his live in girlfriend slept there? Every time I think about it makes me angry and would like a new start even with our things. I'm ...
A. 3 February 2010: Explain how you feel to your husband, he might not even have thought of that. Personally I would refuse to have slept in a bed his ex GF slept in, most cause I have met the ho-bag.... (read in full...)
My partner wont name me as a joint tenant on the house we share even when we get married, is he just covering himself in case anything goes wrong in our marriage?
Q. I fell in love with a man 15 yrs older than me, everything was rosey. We got together about 2 yrs ago and he asked me to marry him after 1. It is my first proper relationship, I am in my early 20's. I moved in with him to his house - which he built ...
A. 3 February 2010: It's his house, he built it, he paid for it.
If you have any doubt as far as WHAT you might GET in case of divorce get a prenup. That way you and your future husband can hammer out the financial details before getting hitched.
I'm sorry but... (read in full...)
I waited 3 months for a dinner reservation in a top restaurant and my bf has just cancelled out. Is it ok to take another man to not miss out on the dining experience?
Q. A while back I booked a table at the supposedly best restaurant in the UK and it took me 3 months and a cancellation to get in. My b/f has known about it for weeks and how excited I am about it. Today he texts me to say that the mother of his child ...
A. 3 February 2010: Ask your BF what he thinks about you going to eat with another guy. though I think it's kinda unfair on the other guy. It's kinda like stringing him along, don't you think?
Why not take a good girlfriend and eat, drink & be merry.
Personally, I... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 3 February 2010: I totally agree with Sorcerer.
His son SHOULD come first.
It's one day. Not even a "real" holiday. It's a day where jewelers, florists and candy makers make a pile of money. That is it. Yeah, I'm a little jaded maybe.
Don't get me wrong I ... (read in full...)
Is she just a confused women who doesn't know what she wants?
Q. Ok here goes..I broke it off with my ex about a month ago b/c I felt like I wasn't full getting what I need out of the relationship. she is 31 and i'm 34..In the beginning, she spoke of marriage, having children, loved my house in the country, loved ...
A. 3 February 2010: I think she has commitment issues, but I could be wrong.
Maybe she felt you were rushing her? That would be my guess. I know a lot of women who "mold" themselves to the guy they are dating, as in take on his interests, dresses in clothes,... (read in full...)
MY bf of 8 years just up and left to another country without telling me.
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. I've done everything for him. He left in the beginning of January to his sister in another country, without even notifying me. I heard it through the grape vine. He hasnt contacted me up to now. I've...
A. 3 February 2010: Well you might not want to hear it, but I think him leaving was a blessing in disguise. Now you can concentrate on YOU. He seemed like a useless fella to be honest.
Find yourself a man who not only love and appreciate you but contribute to the r... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 16 months continuously sends friend requests to models, adult film stars, etc. Should I be worried?
Q. Does anyone have any insight or advice about this: my boyfriend of 16 months continuously sends friend requests to models, adult film stars, etc. He doesn't know these women personally. I am a little concerned, and wonder if I should be worried ...
A. 3 February 2010: Seems like he is looking for greener grass, as in, I think he is thinking.. WHAT IF... one of these porn stars replied.. Maybe it's a fantasy, but I still find it disrespectful to you.
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Should I confront my bf's female text buddy over flirty messages?
Q. I have founds some texts on my bfs phone and to cut a long storey short from a female he apears to have met online or through a friend (as she doesnt know how he looks), although the conversation is flirty its not sex-chat, and its unclear weather ...
A. 3 February 2010: She didn't do this to you - HE did. If you need to confront or talk to anyone it's him.
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My partner of 4 years will insert a vibrator, accept oral, but wont give me anything in return and just tells me to 'sort myself out'.
Q. Hi. I am 23 and my girlfriend 25. We have been dating for just over 4 years and living together for 3. In all the time we have been together we have never had sex. We tried at the start of our relationship but it hurt and she has been relucta...
A. 2 February 2010: Does she sexual abuse in her past? I can not really see any other explanation to her behavior then that.
If she can handle a rabbit she can handle you, might take patience and a little lube, but I doubt she is unable to "take" you. The vagina i... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband wear his wedding ring?
Q. My new husband is always forgetting his wedding ring. It drives me crazy and a little offended as well. I asked him if he doesn't want to wear it and why, he says that thats not it and I don't believe him. Why do you think he doesn't wear it?...
A. 2 February 2010: I think you should ASK him and trust his answer.
I don't wear mine, because it got stolen and we just haven't replaced it, my husband on the other hand always wears his.... (read in full...)
Her bad attitude cause me to break up with her, did I make the right decision?
Q. me and my girlfriend were together for about 7 months. I decided to end it last night because i feel like enough is enough. Every time i go out into town she has a problem with it, she is off with me when im in town and off with me the day after...
A. 2 February 2010: If the relationship turns sour after only 7 months, it's better to get out and count your losses instead of keep trying. Specially if you don't feel happy with this person.
Honestly most people are still in the "honeymoon" phase around 7 months, ... (read in full...)
We met online and out of the blue he asked me a question I didnt want to answer
Q. I've met this guy online,we have engaged in nice conversations so far via messaging and we talked a few times on skype.The last time we talked he randomly asked me If I thought of him.I didn't know what to say.Of course I had thought about him but I ...
A. 2 February 2010: I don't see a problem with being honest. That yes, you do think of him. Now how detailed you want to be in that answer is entirely up to you..
Now wouldn't you be curious as to whether is is thinking of you?
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I met a man online, it seemed okay at first, now I am not so sure
Q. Help please, I met a man on a dating site. i contacted him first then he sent me hello message for free. Then he dissapeared for 1 month then suddenly he added me as a favourite and paid money to become a member to send me a message he told ...
A. 2 February 2010: He seems very iffy. Too many little alarm bells are going off in my head reading your post.
I'm guessing they did for you too. Trust your gut and cut your losses.
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Does he mean it when he says he never wants to get married again?
Q. PLease help! I went on a date with a man that is twice divorced and 50 years old. His first wife cheated on him and the second wife took him for everything financialy. We met the other day for a casual meeting. He is nice and funny. He was with a ...
A. 2 February 2010: If you want marriage, this guy is not for you. I don't think he is kidding when he says he doesn't want marriage. I can't say that I blame him either. But I do find it kinda trite when a guy assumes all future partners are going to do X,Y,Z because ... (read in full...)
What is up with my ex's behaviour?
Q. My ex and I have been trying to be friends again. And the one day we went out to movies and coffee. And it really felt like a date because he insisted on paying for everything and taking me home. However the next day he was really distant towards ...
A. 2 February 2010: Could be he isn't sure HOW to be a friend to you, could be he isn't sure how he feels towards you.
Do you have a big need for him as your friend? If not, let it go. I think hanging on to ex's can make new friendship and relationships harder. ... (read in full...)
I am supposed to get married in 2 1/2 months but I just got my sister in law pregnant!
Q. hi im master splinter . in about 2 and a half months im getting married BUT THERE IS ONE THING i need to get of my chest its my sister inlaw to be well about 2 weeks ago my girlfriend went into hospital to give birth to our 2 child . i was there at ...
A. 1 February 2010: You made your bed, now lie in it.. Sigh.
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My ex got cheated on by a woman with her own ex. Now he has asked for contact, ..could it be he is missing me that bad?
Q. My ex(he broke up with me,we lived together for 3yrs)We haven't talked in 9mths when the other day he asked my daughter to ask me to call him. He's always been painfully shy. He did date someone while we where apart that went horrible wrong. He ...
A. 1 February 2010: It could be that he feels safe talking to you, it could be he's looking for a "re-bound-girl".
I guess it's up to you if you want to talk to him or not.
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I had unprotected sex and now I am 3 days late.
Q. okay I'm goin krazy !!!! My cyle has been commin dwn on da 27 of every month. A day befo my cycle wuz suppose 2 come I got on Adepix and I started walkin okay kool only 1 thing where n hell is my CYCLE !!!!! it wuz suppose 2 come dwn Wed and now ...
A. 30 January 2010: Only way to know for sure is to take a test.
Using the pull out method is NOT safe.
And please .... write in English next time not text/net speak. That is just ridiculous to try and read.... (read in full...)
I am thinking of coming fwd now the guy who molested me has been convicted of doing it to another.
Q. Anyone with legal knowledge. Advice would help. Here's my situation: This is difficult to share. I am currently 23 years old. I live in Texas. When I was in my early teens, 14 actually, I was participating in a summer track league. We would...
A. 29 January 2010: I would find out the name of the prosecutor in his case and contact him. I don't know if they can add on to his sentence ( I'm not versed in law), but the reality is when someone like that creep of a coach molest children only a small % will come ... (read in full...)
I accept his views but don't like him pushing his religion on me.
Q. I am currently dating a guy who I have gotten to know through work. At first glance, he seemed shy (or antisocial). I don't work with him often but when I did I realised he was a friendly person, and after a few weeks, we started hanging out. We get ...
A. 29 January 2010: I would dump him and find someone you have more in common with, long term you two will never be happy together.
PS I can not stand people who can't keep their religious belief's to themselves. I can respect any one's faith ( almost) but don't pr... (read in full...)
I have just found out that he actually has a girlfriend of three years, who he lives with. I am at rock bottom
Q. I feel like a right fool. Me and this guy at work have been flirting for about a year and have kissed a numerous occasions, he only shows an interest now and then which never makes me feel good because I know he is just using me for a quick thri...
A. 29 January 2010: Ignore him. That is the best thing you can do if he flirts with you I would tell him, you know what, save that for your GF, then walk away. Hopefully that will shut him up.
As for telling the GF. Don't worry about it, he will be caught sooner o... (read in full...)
How can I get my 7 year old to stay in bed and sleep???
Q. Hi i know this is a site about relationships, and this problem is about my relationship with my 7 year old daughter in a round about way. I'm at the end of my tether with her at bed time, for the first few years she went to bed with no trouble, but ...
A. 29 January 2010: Awesome, glad it is working for you all!... (read in full...)
Two days and no call. Should I wait a bit longer?
Q. Ok, Here's the scenario.. 10 years ago I was in a relationship with this girl..She was 18 and I was 20... I just got out of the Army and came back to the state. I passed by her town (80miles from my home town) and picked her up and took her home ...
A. 29 January 2010: Good luck Jay.... (read in full...)
Two days and no call. Should I wait a bit longer?
Q. Ok, Here's the scenario.. 10 years ago I was in a relationship with this girl..She was 18 and I was 20... I just got out of the Army and came back to the state. I passed by her town (80miles from my home town) and picked her up and took her home ...
A. 27 January 2010: Go to Walmart, but her one of those prepaid phones and a phonecard for her then you two can always keep in contact.
Also I would ask what actually happened 10 years ago. It obviously had an impact on the both of you.
Thirdly but not last, Sh... (read in full...)
How can I get my 7 year old to stay in bed and sleep???
Q. Hi i know this is a site about relationships, and this problem is about my relationship with my 7 year old daughter in a round about way. I'm at the end of my tether with her at bed time, for the first few years she went to bed with no trouble, but ...
A. 6 January 2010: I think you need to get your ex-partner and you mom all together and sit down and talk strategy that EVERYONE will follow.
Them you all (preferable together) needs to sit her down and talk to her. See if she can open up a little. Somethin... (read in full...)
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