My boyfriend had an affair and now he has a child with her, I want us to work but I am just so hurt!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 yrs and have 2 children together. Last year he was having an affair and the other woman now has his baby. He loves his child and wants to be a part of his life. My problem is I know he and this woman have ...
A. 31 March 2010: Seems like he isn't a keeper honey.
*hugs*
I'm so sorry, not only did he betray the fidelity of your relationship, he betrayed your trust, he betrayed your private innermost thoughts and feelings.
You may not believe this, but you DO... (read in full...)
Fear is getting in the way of satisfying her
Q. One night my girlfriend got really carried away when she was on top and it slipped out. She sat on it and it hurt really bad. I was lucky that she didn't break it. Now when she gets on top I go limp. I get hard again real easy but the only way ...
A. 24 March 2010: First of all OUCH! And glad you are OK.
Second of all, just because the EX could only get her of that way doesn't mean you you can't find other and more creative ways to have her enjoy and orgasm. Don't worry about the ex or her previous sex life... (read in full...)
My student/teacher relationship is going good, but he feels anxiety about how we started!
Q. Okay, So Im interested in knowing what people think of this situtation, if not for myself but maybe for my current boyfriend who is struggling with some issues. As a senior in highschool I took a class with a teacher my older sibling had had....
A. 23 March 2010:
Normally I don't advice to taking a break from a relationship, but maybe it is not a bad idea in your case. Or maybe consider talking to a neutral third person, like a pastor, priest, rabbi or couples couselor.
I also think there is something el... (read in full...)
My friends are encouraging me to take a adderall, can it be harmful?
Q. So, I have testing tomorrow and my friends have been encouraging me to take adderall to help with my concentration. I'm a bit of a spazz. So can adderal do anything bad to a person? I really need some help. ...
A. 23 March 2010: DO not take any kind of mind altering medication with out your doctor thinking it is necessary.
As for you being a spaz, maybe what you need is to learn time management instead.
If you feel you can not concentrate well during school/tests tal... (read in full...)
Should I tell my nother who thinks I don;t live up to my potential to lay off me?
Q. My mother fears that I'm not "living up to my full potential." I don't see why because I'm in a school for gifted children (or teenagers, whatever), I was accelerated a grade, I currently have a 4.0 and I can get into college solely on scholarships. ...
A. 23 March 2010: Well as a mother myself I can offer you this advice.
The reason that YOU are in accelerated program in a school for gifted children is as much BECAUSE of her as it is because of you.
I would suggest you DO talk to you mom about the video games ... (read in full...)
Am I really everything he says I am?
Q. I ended a relationship a few weeks ago due 2 an abusive incident. My ex and I argued over the dumbest thing and he chose to choke, hit, and yell at me. I left him a week later with no warning or calls; just disappeared. I know leaving like that is ...
A. 23 March 2010: You know who you are. He obviously don't. After someone abused you, you don't EVER owe them anything, not an explanation, not a darn thing.
Be PROUD that you walked away from this while you are still alive. While your soul is fairly intact. ... (read in full...)
He called me a 'dog', should I accept his friendship proposal?
Q. my ex boyfriend cheated with me...and abused me infront of his new girlfriend. He told me he loves his new girlfriend alot and can not afford to lose her. He also said he'l marry her in future. Infront of his new girlfriend he called me DOG. Now ...
A. 23 March 2010: Yikes I agree with the other uncles and aunts..
WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD you have anything to do with this looser?
Heck no! I would tell him to sod off! Don't surround yourself with people who tear you down, they are toxic. Surround yoursel... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I could be pregnant even if he pulled out before he ejaculated?
Q. Hello my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex but he pulled out a minute before he ejaculated.. i'm concerned now because i'm also ovulating.. i have been for a couple of days.... is there a great enough chance i could be pregnant even if he pulled ...
A. 23 March 2010: Ask a doctor, really!... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I could be pregnant even if he pulled out before he ejaculated?
Q. Hello my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex but he pulled out a minute before he ejaculated.. i'm concerned now because i'm also ovulating.. i have been for a couple of days.... is there a great enough chance i could be pregnant even if he pulled ...
A. 22 March 2010: Yes, there can be little swimmers in the pre cum.
Be smart and use condoms and even better use both the pill and condoms if you don't want a child.
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My husband says he is not in to me, yet does not want a divorce or to work on it either.
Q. I have been married 24 years. About 12 years ago we started to grow apart. Intimacy became less and less. My husband's attitude towards me was that of disdain. There were in-law problems (they don't like me, I wasn't their choice). This became ...
A. 22 March 2010: What do YOU want?
Having an affair will effectively destroy whatever you guys have left in the marriage. Is that your way of trying to goad him into divorcing you? Cheating is stupid. The only one you ever really cheat is yourself. However ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my girlfriend but have a crush on her sister. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 19 years old and have fallen in love with my girlfriend of a year, we've had a fantastic first 6 months but the last 6 we have seemingly ran out of steam and every part of our relationship is falling apart. We rarely have sex, and get in ...
A. 22 March 2010: Stop looking for the greener grass within the same family..
If you and your GF isn't working out, then it isn't working out. However, to start look at the sister because it isn't working out is so wrong on so many levels.
Work on your relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had an affair and now he has a child with her, I want us to work but I am just so hurt!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 yrs and have 2 children together. Last year he was having an affair and the other woman now has his baby. He loves his child and wants to be a part of his life. My problem is I know he and this woman have ...
A. 22 March 2010: Talk to him. If you have any questions then sit him down and explain to him that you need answers.
You two have a LOT of unfinished business with the whole infidelity YOY TWO need to deal with that before moving on to the now and the future. ... (read in full...)
How can I turn my 80% good man into a 100% perfect man?
Q. My boyfriend is a good man" but there's one problem he dosen't clean" he has time and energy for sex but not for cleaning how can I turn my 80% good man into a full 100? please help!...
A. 22 March 2010: Drag him into the shower EVERYTIME before sex, maybe he will get the hint. If not, tell him.
Also.. word of advice.....
Don't expect men to read your mind, they can't.. AT ALL.
Last but not least, you can't always change a man. They are w... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend wants only sex, and wont do anything for me. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I only have sex! He won't do anything for me, he won't finger me, or go down on me, when we have sex we keep the top half of our clothes on, and when we're done, he rolls over...every time. What should I do? I want to stay with him, ...
A. 22 March 2010: Time to find yourself a new man, honey. Someone who likes to give not just get. He sounds awfully selfish and sucking in the sex department.
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Does he want me to call, or was it just a closing line?
Q. After a date, if a guy says ' Ok well give me a call later or something'... do you think they actually want you to call them, or could it just be a closing line?? shouldnt the guy call the girl?? :S ...
A. 22 March 2010: No the GUYS don't always have to do the calling, if they did nothing would get done. *kidding*
Call him.
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My boyfriend is being abusive, is it the Indian Hemp affecting him?
Q. I met my boyfriend in 2006,he is not that rich so i always help him financially. Everything has been okay until this year.He moved in with me,later i saw hemp in his possession and i claimed to have thrown it away. He beat hell out of me and that's ...
A. 22 March 2010: No it is not "just" the hemp affecting him, he is an abusive person. Walk away. Dump the douche bag maybe next time he feels like beating you up, you may not wake up.
Don't let others treat you like that.
THAT is not LOVE.
And Don't try a... (read in full...)
Lost: can this marriage be saved when the baby comes?
Q. I'm torn and not sure what to do. My wife and I have had a rough relationship for 18 years, 6 married. We separated late last year - and discovered she's pregnant. i moved back for 3rd trimester, and we're trying. Alot of the major issues (em...
A. 20 March 2010: Sorry a baby is never the way to "save" a marriage. That is putting enamours amount of pressure on such a little person.
If you two SERIOUSLY want to save your marriage I suggest you two consider counseling or a neutral third party, such as your ... (read in full...)
Why is my dad doing this?? should I continue to live at home
Q. I am starting uni september next year and my brother who's away at uni says i should stay at home and attend uni.. that i would be able to buy a car and drive there because he stays on campus at uni and university life is very expensive. but my da...
A. 18 March 2010: You Dad wants you to not only enjoy the whole "being on your own", but most likely he trusts you to be mature enough to be on your own.
It's not like he is kicking you out and locking the door.
Having lived "out" I had my own apartment when I... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 18 March 2010: When he does show up are you the one to apologize? I'm betting you are.
He knows your weaknesses and takes full advantage of them. He knows you would be upset with him leaving more then with the actual argument.
Leaving you sitting, is his ... (read in full...)
We got married in private, and because of this my cousin does not feel this marriage is "real" and he wants to end it. What can I do?
Q. My cousin and I are in a relationship. . I was married at the time and he was not. We both loved each other deeply and were crazy for each other. So we got married behind the closed doors and was not done in public. We took this relationship ...
A. 17 March 2010: It has nothing to do with the ceremony - he jsut wants out of the marriage.
I think he is a bigamist and THAT is illegal.
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Boyfriend spread a secret around school
Q. I told my boyfriend, whom I tell everything to, that my best friend was pregnant. I assumed that he would keep this a secret, like he does with anything personal I share with him, but found out that he told his friends at school. My Pregnant best ...
A. 17 March 2010: I kind of agree with The good doctor there ( Dr. Reality Check)
YOU were the one to pass on the information about your BFF.
Learn from this lesson and have some respect for things friends and family tells you that you KNOW you need to keep to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to say no to being her daughter's godmother because my friend has never bought my son anything?
Q. my bestfriend and I been friends for over 10 years good bad happy and sad. I had a beautiful baby boy in 2006 and of course she is the nanny. My son is 4 years old and she hasn't did anything for him haven't brought nothing ! I can only recall her ...
A. 17 March 2010: I think yo uneed to reconsider WHY you ask someone to be their Godmother, it is NOT just about material stuff...
But if you don't want the responsibility that IS being a Godmother tell her no.... (read in full...)
He tricked me!!!!!!!
Q. I like my guy friend, he is nice about my crush, but today he tricked me into kissing his cheek and then he made fun of my blushing!!! so I punched him, and he got a little angry. He did not hit me back, he left. Why would he do that? We are always ...
A. 11 March 2010: He like you.. Get over it.
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He had an affair with me but now is putting the blame on me that they are getting divorced.
Q. I've been trying to find ways to get over the hurt I've just experienced. I found this website and read one woman's question and her experience sounded exactly like mine. I recently was invovled with a married man for 4 months. Last night our ...
A. 11 March 2010: Well first of all, STOP dating married men and you will NEVER end up in a situation like this.
He did use you. Understand that you deserve better. We all do - married or single.
You might also want to take some time and examine WHY you had no p... (read in full...)
Suggestions for lube?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been enjoying tit wanks for a while now and she's really good at them but was wondering about maybe using some lube in the future but are unsure what type to use. Any suggestions?...
A. 7 March 2010: I agree with the water based ones. You can get a huge variation of flavors with those as well. ... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening me with "truth" tablets, do they exist?
Q. Ok everyone Im still in contact with my ex. The thing is my brother done something not horrible to him and my ex thinks im involved in some sor of way The other day he said something o me over the phone about hes ordered somehing on lin...
A. 27 February 2010: Read Franks answer til you understand fully what he is saying.
He is your ex tell him to stay away and take a hike. And CUT CONTACT! That guy is not right in his head. Really.... (read in full...)
Sould I stop talking to this married man for good?
Q. Hey, I need your help. Please don't be so mean against me when you read my story, because we all make bad choices and I never planned on being with a married man nor do,I want to break up anyone's marriage. So, here's the story. Some years bac...
A. 25 February 2010: Honey, wake up and smell the coffee... HE IS STILL MARRIED!
He doesn't want to marry you or be with you, he jsut want you on the side. You know all this so where is my question to you....
Why are you letting a guy treat you like this?
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He ran out on me - no explanations!!
Q. Dear Friends, I need your help. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We moved in together three months ago. Only 8 days ago (2 days after V Day!) he was being romantic making breakfast for me and got a text, a better offer so ditche...
A. 23 February 2010: I'm guessing he found some greener grass and "forgot" to tell you...
I'm sorry :(... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped ME, but she gets pissed when I go out or leave a comment on Facebook!
Q. Hey My ex gf broke up with me two weeks ago because she thinks she should be single but still tells me she loves me, doesnt want anyone else and doesnt want me to find anyone else. She also questions me if i go out anywhere and gets jealous if ...
A. 18 February 2010: Block her from your Facebook, remove yourself from HER Facebook and let her be. Move on with your life.
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Should I stop loving her because she might be a slut?
Q. I was in a relationship for four years we have been broken up for ten months and i still dearly love her but we were talking and we came across the subject of sex and she told me that she have had sex with two guys and i really love her but idk if i ...
A. 18 February 2010: Yes DUMP her... now!
She deserve a decent guy.. you aren't it.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend too 'big' to have sex with?
Q. i am only 5'1 amd weigh about 137lbs but my new boy friend says his penis is 7inches he is about 6'1 and weighs about 235 lbs is that two big for me we havent had sex yet but i do have four kids thati did have vaginally...
A. 18 February 2010: I can't see why you can't have sex.. You can always be on top ;) ... (read in full...)
Why would they label me a stalker?
Q. My nickname is Rocco I have talk to this girl and she labeled me a stalker the other day, meet her on myspace and we talked I got her digits and we would text I told her my school situation and she cracked a joke but then it was like we would te...
A. 17 February 2010: She has a boyfriend, the boyfriend found out about you, she is cutting you loose so he won't be mad..
If a girl is taken, back off. It onle means drama if you don't.... (read in full...)
How can I practice being ontop?
Q. IS there any way that i can practice being on top without actually doing it and making a fool of myself?? I usually try it when I'm drunk however when I'm sober i usually want to do it but I'm so frightened of messing it up and my boyfriend just t...
A. 17 February 2010: Honey, with you on top he really isn't going to complain about a darn thing you do :)
Keep eye contact and enjoy the ride.
You could start our facing away from him and see how that works or being top but have your chest on his chest and go fro... (read in full...)
I'm being told too many different things about feeding my baby and I'm worried I'm doing it wrong! Help!
Q. hey, i need some advice, i had a baby 4weeks ago, my partner already has a child and i was worried about him saying "your doing this wrong" but instead its everyone else and im feeling mega depressed and a failure. i had to have a c-section and my ...
A. 17 February 2010: Which of the midwives did you like the best? Call HER and ask her.
There are many reasons to why he is acting the way he is:
1. Allergy to the formula
2. Hungry
3. Gassy
4. Picking up on YOUR anxiety.
I would suggest you call the midw... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has caught me flirting online, and now he hasn't spoke to me for over a month!
Q. question to the guys. my boyfriend of four years has caught me flirting online. its not the first time and we always broke up because of it. i never cheated i did it for a laugh when he was at work,i did text them but never met any. i denied it and ...
A. 17 February 2010: I think he is done with you and the relationship.
YOU might not see any harm in the flirting, obviously he did, and you didn't care as long as you got your thrills.
Maybe what you need is another flirty person.
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Where does the loyalty lie?
Q. my friend was not loyal to me i cheated on my girlfriend and he chose to be with her by confessing to her....who is right here..........
A. 16 February 2010: You cheated. You got busted.
Some say bro's before ho's, but you.. were a ho too.. so, a doubly screwed..
I wish your ex-gf Good luck!... (read in full...)
Need opinions on what happened to me..thank you for reading!
Q. I am writing this as my "burn letter", to free me from the pain I am going through and to try to get over this and ask people what did I do wrong so please bear with me and read this, thanks! I went about 4 times with a girl in nov. 2008 (we were...
A. 16 February 2010: Can you say high maintenance girl? And not in a good way.
Be glad it didn't work out, she really didn't want it to work out. She acted like a spoiled brat who is still hung up on her ex.
Woo be very glad you avoided the mess and drama this w... (read in full...)
I can't walk away but I don't want to be his little bitch either!
Q. Ok so here's the deal; I like this guy a lot. And I'm really comfortable with him more than any other guy. We went out twice before and he ended up lying to me both times. The first time he cheated on me and the second time he told me he loved me ...
A. 16 February 2010: This is one of those things that is good to learn early in life.
Learn to say no when people treat you like a doormat or with disrespect. Dump the sucker and ignore him. If he wants to hook up, tell him no thanks, we tried that and it sucked. ... (read in full...)
Selfish sister???
Q. I just want to see if anyone else finds my older sister as selfish and thoughtless as I do? Basically, shes 35 and has her own family - 2 kids and a husband, nice home etc. Im 26 and about to have my first baby. For as long as I can remember, my...
A. 14 February 2010: I would "write" her off for now. Let her do her thing. Obviously family doesn't mean the same thing to her as it does to you.
Some say blood is thicker then water, it isn't really, it's just red... If she doesn't want to spend time with you all,... (read in full...)
Why does he want to keep me a secret? Is he just using me???
Q. Well im seeing this boy, and he asked out another girl (my best friend). So i immediatly dumped him, my friend didn't know we where going out (well seeing each other) at the time, so I didn't say anything. Luckily she said no. Then about a week ...
A. 14 February 2010: He wants to have you to hang around in case he doesn't "score" whichever girl he fancies..
Tell him to get lost.
You don't need to be someone's "security blanket".... (read in full...)
Will sleeping with him make things better between us?
Q. I started talking to my sister's boyfriend's best mate which ive only just started talking to, and he said he liked me and i liked him. i went over his place and and we hung out for about 4 or 5 days and then he was saying he was bored. and i was ...
A. 14 February 2010: No sleeping with him won't make it all better. Sex is not a band aid. Sex is something two people who truly love and care for each other share.
If he is bored with you because you aren't having sex with him, then I'd dump him right away, he isn't... (read in full...)
He's married to my friend, but we're together and I'm jealous of the time they spend together.
Q. Hi there, Im really not sure anyone can help me but i need advice. I have been very hurt over the last 2 years by somebody who i work with. it is a very long story but to cut it short i fell deeply for a man i had known for three years. we would me...
A. 11 February 2010: Are you kidding?
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