I left my husband from another country. He will not respond as to whether he has filed for divorce or not
Q. My husband lives in a different country, he’s lives in the Middle East and thinks he is my boss! He has always been very abusive towards me in every kind of way and 9 months ago I left him and cut all contact with him as he was abusing me again...
A. 30 June 2020: None of us can do much else, as we can not read your husband or his uncles minds any more than you can.
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My family is mean behind my back but when confronted they deny it
Q. Hey, I'm having severe problems with my parents and I don't know what to think. My dad is a functioning alcoholic who is never happy. I'm 25 married with 2 kids we live in the upstairs they live below us. We tried to move out several years ago but ...
A. 28 June 2020: You know what they think about you and your husband and what they say. They apparently aren't confrontational people so they won't admit to it to your face.
So what then?
Well, you and your husband keep working on moving out and taking care ... (read in full...)
Why would my sister ignore my emails but put on quite the show when my brother is privy to the email?
Q. Thank you in advance to all who take the time to answer here. I have one brother and one sister. I am in the middle in age. I find that if I send an email to my sister giving all my news and asking about her news lately she has been ignor...
A. 28 June 2020: If she for years have "endeared" herself to your brother, then it makes logical sense that she would continue to do so, if he is tied into the email.
If she only "pus on a show" when he is included, you know the answer. She wants HIS attentio... (read in full...)
Scary embarrassing sleep disorder might ruin my relationship
Q. I have a bit of a problem. The worst first. Sophomore year I KNOW there is something wrong with me. I do what every guy does but it's once day in the shower done and over with. I'm quiet so I'm pretty sure parents aren't aware. Still, a few times a ...
A. 27 June 2020: I get the initial fear, but the thing with secrets? They come out eventually, and if you tell it to her yourself it would be better than her experiencing it and not knowing that it's something you have no control over, right?
I think I would be... (read in full...)
S this lockdown angst or anxiety or have I just hit the eject button?
Q. I am going a bit crazy! It's as if the normal and rational part of me has just left the premises.. Is this lockdown angst or anxiety or have I just hit the eject button? Kiddies happy and silly laughter normally makes me smile but today it's drivi...
A. 27 June 2020: Is it lockdown angst?
Quite possibly. And for that I don't think there is a quick fix. There aren't much you can do to prevent a tiny virus to "go" where it goes and infect people. It's like trying to shoot a fly with a cannon.
But what you ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling confused and lonely and wonder if I should give up my life dream?
Q. Hey Cupid’s, I need some advice at the min about feeling stuck in a bit of a rut. I moved to London in October and haven’t really made any friends yet, especially now during lockdown! I am really struggling with feeling lonely, and what’s worse...
A. 27 June 2020: Are you going to roll over every time there is bump in the road? Or, are you going to find ways to get back up and GO for what you want?
It's not like the Covid situation is the norm. Hopefully it won't be ever again. But there will ALWAYS b... (read in full...)
I left my husband from another country. He will not respond as to whether he has filed for divorce or not
Q. My husband lives in a different country, he’s lives in the Middle East and thinks he is my boss! He has always been very abusive towards me in every kind of way and 9 months ago I left him and cut all contact with him as he was abusing me again...
A. 27 June 2020: File from where you are. I'm not sure, if you HAVE to go to his country to file. I think you can be the one to file from your end.
You don't NEED contact with him to file from your end.
The thing is you can even go there and still be ignored... (read in full...)
Should I let go of all of this relationship mess?
Q. Hi everyone, the issue that I am having is that my bf has not told any of his dead ex wife ( she died last year in july) friends or people that he knows in common with her that I exist and that I am his girlfriend , yesterday I told him about it, ...
A. 27 June 2020: You ask if you are "entitled" AND "can demand" things from your BF. We can't "give you permission" or tell you what you can and can not do in a relationship.
But I would say this, no you are not ENTITLED to have him tell everyone that he is datin... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's family doesn't like me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost nine years, we've known each other for eleven years and our relationship has had it's ups and downs but his family has always treated me and continue to treat me like a stranger. My boyfriend's ...
A. 26 June 2020: You can't MAKE them like you. Not one bit. If you have been trying for 11 years and haven't gotten anywhere, I'd stop trying.
If you plan on marrying your BF and having kids, DO remember, they will be your kids' grandmother and aunt.
I'd hon... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets annoyed with my questions
Q. My boyfriend gets annoyed with my questions. He says I ask a lot of questions but I think it's a way to keep up with a conversation. He says there's Different ways to communicate without asking. We are in a long distance relationship this really ...
A. 26 June 2020: Why are you in a LDR? Why not look for someone you can actually spend time with IN person?
As far as asking question, I think it's normal to be curious, but there are questions like how was your day, how is your family, what is your favorite... (read in full...)
Scary embarrassing sleep disorder might ruin my relationship
Q. I have a bit of a problem. The worst first. Sophomore year I KNOW there is something wrong with me. I do what every guy does but it's once day in the shower done and over with. I'm quiet so I'm pretty sure parents aren't aware. Still, a few times a ...
A. 25 June 2020: Just tell he beforehand. How hard is that?
It's not like you can help having a sleep disorder. My husband is dealing with PTSD and would have night-terrors the first couple of years after his last deployment. It was scary, but more scary for him.... (read in full...)
I'd like to know if something is going on between my husband and his male friend, or am I just plain crazy?
Q. Hi everyone. I've got an issue at hand I could use some advice on. I don't know if I'm just crazy or what? I've been married for 8 years and although I love and trust my husband I have recently become weary of his friendship with his former lawyer. ...
A. 25 June 2020: There could be a ton of reasons for the kissy-face emoji. These are men who are GOOD friends, I will presume they goof with each other as well as any other adult males.
And you can't go by emojis either. They can be used entirely "sarcast... (read in full...)
We had some good dates and now he messaged me and said he's not ready for a relationship
Q. I went on a few dates with a guy and they seemed to go really well. He’s very shy and has had a difficult life from the snippets he’s told me. He’s experienced a lot of loss and due to a rift between his parents, he doesn’t see much of either of ...
A. 23 June 2020: I think this guy liked you JUST fine, if not a bit more than that but has commitment and other issues that he hasn't worked through and dealt with so he carries it around like extra baggage.
This isn't about you. This is him.
Does he need ... (read in full...)
Is a year too long to make my LDR boyfriend wait?
Q. Hello I'm a single woman of many years I'm just finally starting to get back in the romantic spot light .So I met this guy on the Internet very respectful all I ever dreamed of he sends me money we talk for hours on the phone.He even told his ...
A. 23 June 2020: Do you mean you want to wait a YEAR to meet up? Why? You don't build a relationship over tech. While it makes you FEEL good you won't see how you two GET on in "real life" if you only chat over the phone (videocall or not).
While I think it's OK ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of a crush on a Co-worker ?
Q. I am crushing on this guy I met at work. He is an agreeable and friendly sort. But asking him out or expressing my feelings to him is out of question since he is a senior colleague. I don't want to make things awkward at workplace or put my job on ...
A. 22 June 2020: That's the thing with a crush, you can't entirely control it. You can control what you CHOOSE to do with it, like you chose to keep your infatuation to yourself. Which, I think was both smart and professional of you.
Maybe you should pin point wh... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that sometimes my boyfriend likes to use a ball gag on me during sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a healthy, regular sex life. My only concern is that sometimes he likes to gently use a blindfold, tie ups and a ball gag. I like the blindfold and being tied up, but I don’t love the gag. Is it a red flag that he even wants ...
A. 22 June 2020: I absolutely agree with Auntie Cindy.
Trying some (like the ball gag) and deciding it's NOT for you IS OK! And his asking if YOU want to try it, is OK too. I don't see it as a big red flag.
He just likes a tiny bit of kink added in. But it... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my boyfriend's 6 year old sleeps naked with him?
Q. My boyfriend Face Timed me the other night. I the back ground his 6 year old daughter was standing there naked. I was kind of shocked because I don’t let my daughter who is 8 do this. She also sleeps nude with him. Is this normal?...
A. 22 June 2020: I agree with FA
For some it's normal, for others it's not. If they don't have AC and the house is hotter than Hades, maybe it was an easy choice. Or the kid was getting ready for a bath/shower or just got out of bath shower.
For me, I thi... (read in full...)
She's given me oral but I'm sort of afraid of giving it back
Q. I have sort of a messed up question for you. I'm 17 and I have a girlfriend who just turned 15. Her parents are really strict and protective but sometimes they let us alone together. We basically have only got so far as making out but one time we ...
A. 21 June 2020: I think you two need to pull the breaks here.
She JUST turned 15... YOU can get in trouble for any kind of sexual activity even if your parents are OK with it, which is seems like they ARE NOT. Which means.. they find out? You will "pay" the pric... (read in full...)
We fought my husband has not forgiven me and is now talking about separating
Q. Hi! I really need your help to get out of this mess. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. Both of us are in medical profession. Two days ago we had a huge row regarding a business he recently started with one of his friends. We ended up ...
A. 21 June 2020: If a conversation rapidly turns into an argument there are some unresolved issues and those DO need to be talked about.
My husband and I have always stuck to the "don't go to bed mad at each other". And it works (for us). Because it means WE have ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy who is so happy to seem me and talk to me not want to meet up with me?
Q. So long story short, there was a guy in high school who had a crush on me but never did anything about it. 5 yrs later I message him on fb we hit it off and hes super intrested, we arrange a date and he blows me off, I tell him you had your chance b...
A. 21 June 2020: I'm with FA, he either has a partner of sorts OR he has massive issues/baggage that you REALLY don't want to deal with.
And I see red flags galore.
First of all WHY would you reach out to someone to someone who "supposedly" had a crush on you 5... (read in full...)
How do you make new friends in a city where you know only one person and your co-workers?
Q. Hi, I'm 22 yo, just moved in february to another city where i know nobody. I am a very social person by nature, i like to talk to people, but I couldnt make any new friends. I only met this one neighbor with whom i spend some of my free time.. M...
A. 21 June 2020: What are your hobbies, sport? Sometimes it can be a good way to meet new people through hobbies or sport. It help that you SHARE that common interest.
So many look into what kind of groups or teams you can join?
... (read in full...)
Is it ok for my girlfriends male colleague to stay over at her house?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship where my girlfriend lives in England and I'm in Wales. I haven't seen her since the end of March due to lockdown and even though things are now easing slightly regarding lockdown, the rules/guidance a...
A. 20 June 2020: How long have you two been dating?
How often did you USED to see each other and were/are there any plans so far of either (or both) of you moving closer?
The biggest reason LDR fizzle out is distance and lack of intimacy and spending time IN... (read in full...)
We fought my husband has not forgiven me and is now talking about separating
Q. Hi! I really need your help to get out of this mess. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. Both of us are in medical profession. Two days ago we had a huge row regarding a business he recently started with one of his friends. We ended up ...
A. 20 June 2020: I have to agree with FA.
Saying "I'm sorry doesn't erase what you said". It doesn't erase the issues you two obviously have.
His family not treating you right, is that HIS fault? No. He can't MAKE his family like you, love you or be decent peo... (read in full...)
Cannot cum during sex with my bf
Q. So I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple of months now and we’ve started getting intimate. We’ve both been tested for STIs before we even took our clothes off- not that we don’t trust each other, but better safe than sorry. Needless to say we’ve ...
A. 19 June 2020: Start by using condoms. If that works, go from there. There really are no magic way to "make you" ejaculate.... (read in full...)
Snapchat causing issues
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for around 10 months. We’ve known each other off and on since we were kids and we’re surprised when we both realised we’d liked each other for so long. Unfortunately when we met he had a girlfriend and I don’t ne...
A. 19 June 2020: I forgot to add that it's NOT the app that is the issue, I think you know that.
If you plan on staying together and make this work (regardless how of how it started) you TWO need to talk about boundaries and trust.
If he had MANY friends and... (read in full...)
Snapchat causing issues
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for around 10 months. We’ve known each other off and on since we were kids and we’re surprised when we both realised we’d liked each other for so long. Unfortunately when we met he had a girlfriend and I don’t ne...
A. 18 June 2020: Well, if you relationship started out as an "affair", no wonder you feel a bit insecure. You KNOW what HE (and YOU) capable off.
Admitting you "did wrong" doesn't change the facts.
Your BF CHOSE to delete the app. Which I think is the right thi... (read in full...)
I want to move on from a relationship that left me broken.
Q. This relationship has left me broken and I really don't know how to move forward. I was with him on and off for the past year and it was the best time of my life. We have so much in common, got along beautifully and never fought. He has a young son ...
A. 18 June 2020: Op, they are NOT this "perfect" little family. They weren't before and they won't ever be, because they are toxic for each other. If you have been looking at their Facebook and think OH they are so happy now, then you need to (not only STOP looking ... (read in full...)
I want to move on from a relationship that left me broken.
Q. This relationship has left me broken and I really don't know how to move forward. I was with him on and off for the past year and it was the best time of my life. We have so much in common, got along beautifully and never fought. He has a young son ...
A. 17 June 2020: I would also advice that you STOP looking him and her up on social media. Unfriend him, BLOCK his number and then delete it.
People who keep going back to a toxic ex or toxic relationship do it for whatever reason, missing the drama, wanting ... (read in full...)
I found a lipgloss in my boyfriends car now what ?!
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now we have a baby together he’s 2 we also live together . So I would say this relationship is serious right?! Wrong !! So about two months ago I snoop though his phone and went through his Facebook I found a ...
A. 16 June 2020: I'd kick him out.
For one reason alone, HE keeps lying to you. Which means he think you are "dumb" enough to fall for it.
He probably CAN'T tell you the truth. He has no idea WHO dropped that lip-gloss, but it's pretty unlikely it's some 70 yea... (read in full...)
How do I help my friend who is in love with a woman who is wrong for him?
Q. I urgently need to help a friend of mine who is freshly,but blindly in love with a lady that do not match him. Hi there! A long time friend of mine is in a crash with a lady that it is very sudden and down right incompatible.let me rais...
A. 16 June 2020: It sucks to see close friends or family make the "wrong" choice in partners but the thing is it's THEIR life, their choices and... their responsibility.
You could ask him how much he knows about her past, her kids and her drug use. Maybe also sug... (read in full...)
How will my parents react when I tell them I want to meet a person I met online?
Q. A few months ago I met a guy online, we instantly hit it off and spend hours a day texting and face timing each other. He is sweet and makes me laugh. He recently mentioned meet once this pandemic is over and the boarders open back up (I’m ...
A. 16 June 2020: It depends on a LOT of things.
1. WHERE do you plan to meet? If it's your home town (he will have to stay at a motel or friend/family of his) then I would feel less worried about it. I would still i9nsist on you meeting him in a public place, n... (read in full...)
I want to move from the friend zone to the romance zone.
Q. To the male readers here, has anyone successfully gotten himself out of the dreaded friend-zone? You know, when a girl you fancy treats you like her best friend and it is difficult to turn it into something romantic. If you have, could you please...
A. 15 June 2020: I think your BEST bet is to wish her well and move on. If she was on the fence about you, she might find you more appealing if you walk away. Yes, it's a girl thing. Especially, if she is young.
She has already turn you down. Why try and FORCE a ... (read in full...)
I've been in abusive relationships and worry the problem might have been me!
Q. The last four years of my life have been a world wind. I was in an abusive relationship which he was charged twice for assault and I still never had the power to leave. The last 2 year of the relationship (what I know of) I was cheated on ...
A. 14 June 2020: Is it YOUR fault that someone else is a total twat?
ABSOLUTELY not.
That is out of YOUR control.
What you ARE responsible for are YOUR action. Not someone else.
So in the sense of talking "fault and blame", you HAVE to look at your... (read in full...)
My friend is icing me out for a stupid reason...
Q. My friends and I went out for drinks a week ago to celebrate our graduation. My school gives out informal academic awards for the best student of each subject along with our respite cards, and of my friends began complaining , unprompted, about how ...
A. 12 June 2020: What do you do?
You accept that your friend can't handle criticism and that you are not a good listener.
In friendships AND relationships there are times where people NEED to whine, rant, let it all out.
She was disappointed. She whined... (read in full...)
So worried about the safety of my friends baby
Q. Hi there. Such a great site with wide answers. I am in a quandary here. I have a friend in her mid thirties who is a new mom. She is an alcoholic and before she decided to get pregnant after consulting with her boyfriend I begged her to get her d...
A. 12 June 2020: No, telling her won't make a difference.
An alcoholic is addicted to their drink. She CHOSE to get pregnant without getting totally sober first, so she might very well have affected the baby from conception with her drinking. And she knows it... (read in full...)
I don't know how to deal with the angry man my partner has become.
Q. Hello everyone, i just need your opinion guys. Im with my partner for 5 years now. For First 3 years we are fine.. but slowly is changing. He used to be a good hard working man, but then suddenly it changes. Last year he stop working, he said he ...
A. 11 June 2020: Hi OP,
I'm sorry yo feel so stuck and lost at the same time. I think you know that the relationship you HAD is no longer healthy no longer good. For either of you. HE takes his own laziness and frustration out on you. Which is absolutely unfair. ... (read in full...)
A long term friendship has become exhausting!
Q. Me and my friend have been friends for about 8 years. But lately I’m finding being her friend exhausting. She gets herself into silly situations that I have to help her through or to get her out of it. We lived together for 3 years at one sta...
A. 11 June 2020: Sorry, kitten on keyboard....
You CAN try and guide her to be more self-reliant and responsible FOR herself.
It is NOT your job to fix her, her life or her choices Or to put out the fires she starts.
I would also make sure to tell her yo... (read in full...)
A long term friendship has become exhausting!
Q. Me and my friend have been friends for about 8 years. But lately I’m finding being her friend exhausting. She gets herself into silly situations that I have to help her through or to get her out of it. We lived together for 3 years at one sta...
A. 11 June 2020: That would be too much for most people to try and help with, OP I totally get why you feel a need to figure out a more permanent way to help her.
I think you should encourage her to go talk to her doctor, have her ask for a referral to a dieticia... (read in full...)
Even though I am lonely I don't want to be in a relationship.
Q. Hi all. Recently at my college I became interested in a girl in my class, and she became interested in me. We got to know each other, and eventually we started dating. The relationship seemed as if it was going smoothly, however it only lasted a...
A. 10 June 2020: It happens OP.
Your first GF was immature, just like you, and that is OK. She wanted to date someone else and dumped you for him. IT HAPPENS. It's not about you - which I know sounds weird, but it's about the girl who ended it. SHE decided ... (read in full...)
How does agreeing to coffee or a walk suddenly change direction like this?
Q. A good friend passed away last year. It was very unexpected. Her husband [widower, I think you call him] contacted me yesterday afternoon and asked if I would like to go out sometime. I was pleasantly surprised and told him I would. Now today...
A. 9 June 2020: I'd wish him well, and look OUTSIDE of the friend circle for someone to date.
He chose to cancel the plans FORWHATEVER REASON, and all you can really do is accept that and move on.
None of us can know what is in his head or heart. I'd leave... (read in full...)
I'm sick of babysitting an immature co worker
Q. How do I tell my coworker that I am not here to babysit her sadness for her or to control the capacity she has for emotions. Everyone in the office literally caters to her when she pouts and screams. She’s laid on the floor at one point to get ...
A. 9 June 2020: I'm with WiseOwlE
I'd be professional, kind, but also stop enabling this young woman.
Unless you are told to take her work load, don't do it. If she can't handle working maybe SHE needs to consider quitting and finding something else t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lives with his ex and I'm not comfortable with it
Q. Hello, I met my bf on a dating site and he is a pretty good guy. A few things I find a bit concerning though. He lives with his ex. Him and I live in different provinces so we dont see one another much. My bf and his ex are raising a child ...
A. 8 June 2020: If this is early stages of the courtship, you don't really have a say about where he lives. Doesn't mean you can't dislike it.
He OBVIOUSLY have an arrangement with her. Either because they still are an item, neither can afford a place on their ow... (read in full...)
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