Married for 5 years and I'm unhappy and don't feel desired
Q. Hi Hope you can help me with my marriage and whether this is normal. I have been married 5 years. We have a 3 year old and I have 2 stepchildren. My husband is a really wonderful father and works really hard. I work full time as well. I don’...
A. 16 May 2020:
Marriage, like ANY long term relationship, is hard and require constant investments and work. There will be times where it requires less work, some more, but it's not as simple as saying your vows and everything will be perfect from then on.
H... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the fixation on my crush
Q. So I have a crush on a guy. We were meant to meet for a walk a two weeks ago but a misunderstanding/miscommunication happened and we didn't end up meeting. He asked if I could meet the following day but I said i was busy with clients. He has...
A. 15 May 2020: I think if you are interested in guy #1 you should send him a message and see how he is doing. That you are sorry you were so busy with work last time you spoke, but hope he didn't take it as you not being interested in getting to know him - in your ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and have no breasts!
Q. I am 17 and have literally no breasts!!!! Most of the boys and girls who I'm friends with mock me about it and I'm the only one in my friend group who doesn't have a boyfriend. All my friend are like D cups or C cups and I'm barely an A cup. What ...
A. 15 May 2020: If you think it's your breast size that determine whether you have a BF or not, I think YOU need to rethink your life and reality.
If small breasted women never got BF or husband's... there wouldn't BE any small-breasted women.
Focus more on... (read in full...)
My partner's family never acknowledge my birthday
Q. Hi everyone, I am 63 and my guy is 65. We both own our own businesses, both fairly healthy. No children. We got together six years ago and both had no children from before. He lives with me in my house and they have often visited here and spent a ...
A. 14 May 2020: I'm with Auntie Cindy.
My mom was exceptional at remembering people's birthdays, sending cards and gifts. After she passed away... nothing. My brother and I email each other for birthdays, I do remember SOME birthdays and send cards but I'm not ... (read in full...)
This guy I've met shares a house, and sometimes meals, with his ex wife.
Q. I have met someone He is divorced and has 3 grown children the youngest is 20 and still in college. The ex wife and he share a house he lives in the basement and she lives on the first floor. They sometimes share meals and when daughter comes home ...
A. 14 May 2020: I have to agree with the general consensus that only YOU can decide if this is something you can work with or not.
Personally? I'd wish him well and move along. It's great that he and his ex can make it work and I have to say there has to be more ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him if he still wants to bother
Q. Hi! So I have been speaking to this guy for a few weeks now - met on tinder but have talked on the phone and everything. He’s after a relationship as he said he’s had enough of one night stands or whatever (this isn’t the point of the question ...
A. 13 May 2020: So you yourself came back to judge the "aunt and uncles" who suggested that Tindr might NOT be the best place to find a partner? And the admonishing us for doing so, but you can?
OP, you don't have to TAKE any of the advice FREELY given.
You ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex fiance distancing himself from me? He wanted to be friends
Q. Hi all... My current boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago. I was really heart broken. So, I reached out to my ex-fiancé for advice. Him and I haven’t spoken in a year. My ex-fiancé told me he wasn’t in love with me and left me for his ex. His ex ...
A. 12 May 2020: OP, you need to let exes be EXES.
They SAY they want to be friends because it makes them SOUND nicer, it makes them FEEL good to not just dump someone and move on. And some might even think IN the moment that they MEAN they can and want to be fr... (read in full...)
I don't understand why my sister needs to make me look bad to elevate herself
Q. Hi there. Thank you to all who respond to this question. I have a sister who is seven years younger than me and a brother some years older. I was very close to my brother growing up...from a military family...starting new school all the time...t...
A. 12 May 2020: Your sister sounds like a damaged person, you yourself call her a skilled narcissist, and those people are VERY skilled at fooling others, lying convincingly, gaslight people, create havoc but seemingly not participate. In other words they "design" ... (read in full...)
He only wanted friendship before now it appears he wants more but his ex is pregnant
Q. My heart is really hurt and I don't know what to do. Maybe I know what to do but I don't like having to do it. Any suggestions? My qualifier (call him Ted) and I are both AA members to the same group and I have known him several years. When we f...
A. 12 May 2020: Yep, I'm with Kenny and Mystiquek
I'd walk away and keep it as being AA buddies. For one, he has been using the AA group as a dating pool, which I would think is NOT the best idea as people there have a LOT on their plates.
He's known yo... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend still love his ex?
Q. I’ve been with the guy of my dreams for almost a year now and he goes above and beyond for me most of the time. Before me he was with this girl that he absolutely doted on for 7 years and was in a bad way when they finished Apparently. The the ...
A. 12 May 2020: How much older is your BF than you?
Because if he had a 7 year relationship with this ex, then a 2 year one and now 1 year into yours, he must be older than you. I would presume.
If you (general you) have been with someone for 7 years and you ... (read in full...)
I don't know if my husband is insecure or its something deeper?
Q. Hi everyone. I am married and my husband was lovely and attentive, but now we are married he wants me to change the way I dress, not wear makeup and not see friends. He gives me money for shopping, but I do not have my name on the bank account ...
A. 12 May 2020: I would suggest you open your OWN bank account where YOUR salary goes in, then you can transfer each month X amount of money to the "shared" bank account for bills.
Is he insecure? Probably, but more so he is controlling.
He waited until mar... (read in full...)
I feel I would be better off staying single and just getting a bed buddy.
Q. I am a single mom. I have been divorced twice. I attract toxic people. Or people who need fixed. I am trying to get back into the dating scene. I feel like I truly know myself now. I am sensitive and an over thinker. I am wondering if I should just ...
A. 11 May 2020: You think you can keep your emotions out of a "FWB"?
You think you will be "safer" with casual partners? Because you would be dealing with someone who isn't invested in you AT ALL.
And if you have a tendency to be "drawn" to toxic men, do yo... (read in full...)
Should I ask him if he still wants to bother
Q. Hi! So I have been speaking to this guy for a few weeks now - met on tinder but have talked on the phone and everything. He’s after a relationship as he said he’s had enough of one night stands or whatever (this isn’t the point of the question ...
A. 11 May 2020: I have to agree with Cindy here,
YOU have to decide is this "enough" for me? When we talk do I really get an idea of who he is?
I don't think you should ask either. You already kind of know. He isn't putting much effort into getting to know ... (read in full...)
I like dressing up and acting as a woman but my wife is pushing me to have sex with a man
Q. My wife encourages me to dress as Joanne every day. She tells me that she told all of her co workers about me, about how my eyebrows are plucked into thin, highly arched lines, how my ears are pierced, how I keep my fingernails long and shaped ...
A. 10 May 2020: Her behavior is strange. I have to agree with Kenny that she seems to enjoy to emasculating you further. It's not just pretending you are a woman but demanding that you service her male friends sexually, while she takes pictures and watches...
... (read in full...)
Is normal for my boyfriend to bath and shower with his six year old son
Q. Is normal for my boyfriend to bath and shower with his six year old son. He also, sleeps naked and allows his son to see him naked is this normal. Or red flags to where I should be concerned and running away from this man. I don’t have children. ...
A. 10 May 2020: I don't think it's super weird. If the child was female then yeah, pretty weird. A boy? less so.
But... but the age of 5-8 most kids develop a sense of modesty with their own body and is at age I'd say 6-7? DEFINITELY old enough to shower by thems... (read in full...)
How can I deal with a negative person
Q. Best way to deal with someone who says things like "I'm not being funny but" "I don't mean to be awful but". A family member is constantly saying these things. She doesn't always refer to me but generally when talking about other people. Like ...
A. 10 May 2020: Some people are not aware just how negative they are, so it might NOT be a bad idea to gently let her know that you wish she was more postive. However, you can't CHANGE who she is.
I had a neighbor who was a TOTAL Debbie Downer on EVERYTHI... (read in full...)
Confused about social media and my crush
Q. Please no judgements, this hasnt been easy on me as this has carried on for almost 2 years and been very difficult for me emotionally, Ive had a difficult last 2 years which is unusual for me. We met in class and we both were in relationships. I had ...
A. 10 May 2020: If you are both in relationships now, Or EITHER of you still are, then yes, I think unfriending and blocking would make the most sense.
Having a crush happens, but what you DO with those feelings shows what kind of person you are. YOU chose to... (read in full...)
No one takes me on real dates
Q. Dating is not what I thought it would be and I'm ready to give up! My first boyfriend I was 13 and it was fine till he dumped me. We were in 7th grade and most teachers by then didn't make us have assigned seats so we sat next to each other. W...
A. 10 May 2020: Maybe you should take a little break from TRYING to date.
Boys your age WANT to do more, it is UP to you to set boundaries and define what you will or will not do.
At age 20.. it's pretty normal to KISS someone you date. Cuddling and wel... (read in full...)
What are examples of someone being a co-pilot in a relationship?
Q. I have been torturing myself wondering why I was not good enough for my ex-boyfriend. He made a comment to me that will forever haunt me. He said I was never his "co-pilot" and that "I will never be what he wants me to be". I don't understand what ...
A. 10 May 2020: Only he can really define what HE meant by co-pilot.
We can only guess.
And my guess is, he said whatever popped into his head as an excuse to have cheated on you and dumped you. If he had really meant that "I will never be what he wants me... (read in full...)
It feels like a slap in the face to provide everything for this relationship and not even get the respect of an adult conversation.
Q. Hello! I have been in a relationship for over two years. My SO hasn’t worked most of our relationship. I have an apartment that he pretty much stays at unless he goes home after a fight. I am constantly stressed about bills and responsibilities ...
A. 9 May 2020: So what's next, OP?
You know this is unhealthy and detrimental to you to stay, so what is the next move?
You are not expecting too much here from him. He just have nothing to give YOU. (or he CHOOSES to not give anything).
He knows FULL w... (read in full...)
Why does my husband have an unhealthy obsession with me, my body and other men looking at me?
Q. I am a 35 year old woman married for the last 6 years and have a 2 year old child. My husband is a genuinely good person who dotes on the baby and me. The problem is that he dotes on me a little too much. Despite being married for 6 years and ...
A. 9 May 2020: I think perhaps you need to stop "playing along" all the time. If this makes you uncomfortable you NEED to use your words and tell him.
He he brings up how other men look at you, you tell him, :"look babe, I don't care. I CARE that you enjoy lo... (read in full...)
I feel devastated at his betrayal. Do I move on?
Q. Hi. just wanna ask some advices. so i have this LDR bf for a year and 4 months now.bwe met in person January 2020. things went well and planned future together. as we continue being in a LDR, its not easy to keep the relationship strong and healthy. ...
A. 9 May 2020: There is nothing to "settle" OP, you caught him in his lies and all he did was lie some more. And it wasn't a one off, this was the 3rd time (that you know off) he did this WHILE "dating" you.
That is not a good basis for a relationship, right?
... (read in full...)
How can I help him? He says his penis is dead
Q. My name is friendly I have a question about my friend he is 40 going to be 41 in November we been friends for a year and we haven't had sex for awhile he said to about his cock is dead. What can I do to help him From your friend...
A. 9 May 2020: Probably the BEST thing you can do is tell him to go see a doctor. It can be low testosterone, it can be other medical issues that prevent him from having an erection.
Not something YOU can fix for him.... (read in full...)
I'm still grieving the death of my husband.
Q. My husband passed away 8 months ago after a two year battle with lung cancer. Since then, work has been able to distract me from my grief but I have been working from home due to COVID-19. It's harder on me being home all the time, surrounded by his ...
A. 8 May 2020: I'm so sorry for your loss, OP
Whomever said 6-8 weeks is enough time to grieve must never have has a loss that close!
I'm still feel the loss over my Mom's death and that has almost been a decade!
I think you should try and talk to your doc... (read in full...)
I want to help my boyfriend deal with his past sexual abuse
Q. Hi all. I wasn't sure where else to ask this, but I am not sure what my best actions can be. While drunk, my boyfriend recently divulged some information to me about his past. Basically when he was 14 (he's 28 now), an older woman (early-mid ...
A. 8 May 2020: It's good that he trusts you enough to tell you about it, but this is not something YOU can fix.
I would suggest that IF (and only IF) he brings it up again, you TALK to him about seeing a psychologist. That it might HELP him to talk to someone ... (read in full...)
Can a swinger give up that scene and be monogamous?
Q. Can a swinger give up that scene and be monogamous? I’ve started seeing someone who I really like. However they’ve been into swinging and I just don’t know if that’s something that people just give up. I prefer a monogamous relationship. ...
A. 7 May 2020: You would have to ask them.
We can't expect "swingers" has a hive-mind and all think alike, feel alike and live alike.
I would definitely have this conversation BEFORE investing any further.
You say you prefer a monogamous relationship,... (read in full...)
How can my ex be so cold about the ending of our relationship?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend coming up three years, but we split up three weeks ago. A few days ago he said it's not when he will miss me because he missed me already. He wouldn't outreach tell me the relationship was over but despite asking him to ...
A. 7 May 2020: Maybe that is how HE deals with a break up?
While YOU might have preferred that he showed some sadness, loss or regret, he isn't you. Maybe it was to "save face".
He might also have "checked out emotionally" a while before the actual break up,... (read in full...)
It feels like a slap in the face to provide everything for this relationship and not even get the respect of an adult conversation.
Q. Hello! I have been in a relationship for over two years. My SO hasn’t worked most of our relationship. I have an apartment that he pretty much stays at unless he goes home after a fight. I am constantly stressed about bills and responsibilities ...
A. 7 May 2020: What is the biggest issue here?
The fact that you BELIEVE his “Men can’t let anything slide or women lose respect for them” bullshit!
Seriously?
He has nothing REALLY to offer you. He can't chip in financially, he doesn't WANT to listen t... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to finally move on?
Q. A few years ago I fell for a friend. We spent a lot of time together and all of his words and actions signalled he had romantic interest. I did not know where I stood with him so I asked him and he started panicking and said “he might have been ...
A. 7 May 2020: Maybe his own town is now "empty" of new women to try and woo. Or the kind of woman he WANTS to woo. Also.... Not dating in his own area might be so he can have privacy or avoid gossip from past dates, or it's a small town with "slim pickings".
... (read in full...)
Is it ok to talk to two people at once on online dating?
Q. Hi all, I have had a rough few years and have abstained from the dating scene during this period in part because of a breakup that took me a long time to get over. My life currently doesn't allow me to meet new people often so I decided to try...
A. 7 May 2020: Thanks for the update, OP
And while the coworker analogy makes sense... there is a HUGE difference is making new "friends" with coworkers and looking for a partner in life - but as you said, it's too soon to decide on exclusivity because you have... (read in full...)
I'm struggling but my partner offers no encouragement or support
Q. I’ve been feeling really down and low since I gave birth to my little boy (10 months ago). I eventually went to the doctors when my little boy was 5 months old, it helped talking to my doctor though nothing got followed up and I still feel the same ...
A. 5 May 2020: You might WANT to surround you as much as possible with positive people but you CAN NOT demand that they BE positive because they are around you, like his family.
You can't CHANGE other people. You CAN however find ways that help YOU make it easie... (read in full...)
What's the deal with stepmom/stepsister porn!?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, There is something that has been perplexing me more than usual recently, so I thought I would bring my question here: What is the deal with porn movies about f***ing a stepmom or stepsister!? I'm not here to fetish-shame and I ...
A. 5 May 2020: It's the taboo about the "forbidden fruit" that many people dig.
Since mother/son or brother/sister kind would be rather eww, they go for the "next best thing" the "steps". Taboo and kink and fetishes sell. Porn is a HUGE industry, they want to ... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable situation with man I am dating and a friend that he slept with
Q. Hello everyone, I met someone on NYEs and we hit it off really well. He is a close friend of my roommate. They have a huge circle of friends from college and have a lot of history together. These group of friends often have parties together...
A. 5 May 2020: I think you are ignoring the biggest issue here.
The FACT that he has slept with not one, but SEVERAL of the females in the friends-group, but not "deemed" them good enough to date, should ring a bit of an alarm-bell, huge red flag. While he... (read in full...)
Why do men keep viewing me as a booty call in college?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a question about college guys, hooking up and dating. I recently transferred to a new university and I realized it was a huge mistake. Outside of academics, I don't like my classmates or the location, but I've already been her...
A. 5 May 2020: I don't think it's YOU, OP
I think it's (unfortunately) part of the "generational culture" and definitely "college culture" at SOME colleges. And it might be that because you seem aloof you becomes a bigger challenge.
Anyone who sends you an... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin if we didn't actually have sex
Q. Me and this guy were just hanging out and we start making out he tells me if I’ve ever had sex and I say no so he says he’s just going to put the tip in he try’s and I told him to stop he tries again and it hurt even more so I said no he said he got ...
A. 5 May 2020: Well technically, no, you are not. How much of the penis "goes in" is irrelevant. BUT on the other hand, you two didn't have "actual" sex either. So, you CAN call yourself a virgin if that is important to you.
Not everyone bleeds first time. So... (read in full...)
I hate my husband for putting me down
Q. I hate my husband! I'm am clumsy person and makes unintentionally tiny mistakes. He always calls me stupid, retard, etc. I have a master's degree and I come from a good family. I don't call people's names even if I am mad. My husband said I'm weak ...
A. 5 May 2020: I think you should back your bags and leave.
He isn't going to stop treating you this way. He doesn't see you as his equal. And that might BE because you are better educated than him.
People don't call people they CLAIM to love for derogatory n... (read in full...)
Why does the Guy I’m seeing ask me insecure type questions ?
Q. Met this guy a month ago and he’s been pursuing me for awhile. First night we met up he cooked and baked cookies for us. he begged me to come over again and i did. But the second time i ended up spending the night and we had sex. I stayed again this ...
A. 5 May 2020: So OP, why did you have sex with him already before you were sure if he was someone you REALLY want to be with?
Yes, he is feeling insecure because you two slept together but you perhaps don't seem as keen as he is.
The thing with "jumping th... (read in full...)
Why does he keep reminding me that he’s single, is he only looking for something casual?
Q. In every conversation I have w/this guy he throws it into the conversation that he's a single man. Or everytime we meet up he reminds me of his relationship status. And he always ask me “when’s the next time you’re coming over?” Or “when will i see ...
A. 4 May 2020: I have to say WHY not asking him straight out?
It seems like he wants more, what exactly HE wants none of us can say, HE can though, so ASK!
UNLESS you are not interested in him. And if you are not, perhaps you need to step back so he doesn... (read in full...)
I've met a girl online and the relationship is hard work.
Q. Let me begin by saying I never had a girlfriend. I met this girl online, and we really hit it off. Im going light on the details but thing is, she wants something more, to bee more than friends and I feel something for her. We know each other ...
A. 4 May 2020: It's probably too soon to tell. You have talked for LESS than a month.
My questions are:
WHAT is the hurry?
WHAT is holding you back?
( you say it's hard work, in what sense?)
(what are your reservations?)
Can you see ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to talk to two people at once on online dating?
Q. Hi all, I have had a rough few years and have abstained from the dating scene during this period in part because of a breakup that took me a long time to get over. My life currently doesn't allow me to meet new people often so I decided to try...
A. 4 May 2020: While personally, I think ONE at a time, sometimes you get two. I think it muddies the waters (so to speak) with having too many iron in the fire). But if you can handle it, I'd say keep talking.
I think as long as you keep SEX (sexting, various ... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to finally move on?
Q. A few years ago I fell for a friend. We spent a lot of time together and all of his words and actions signalled he had romantic interest. I did not know where I stood with him so I asked him and he started panicking and said “he might have been ...
A. 4 May 2020: By moving on and keep moving.
And you are right it wasn't his fault. You made it clear you had no interest so he ZOOMED on to another women which in fact, SHOULD make you even more secure in your OWN choice of NOT trying to pursue him or encourag... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to finally move on?
Q. A few years ago I fell for a friend. We spent a lot of time together and all of his words and actions signalled he had romantic interest. I did not know where I stood with him so I asked him and he started panicking and said “he might have been ...
A. 1 May 2020: He has already rejected the idea of you and him, so while it might hurt your feelings, why waste any more time or tears on a guy who isn't REALLY interested in you?
Only wan who can GIVE you that strength to ACCEPT that he isn't for you, and vice... (read in full...)
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