Is your sex drive driven by emotion?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncle’s I wouldn’t really call this an issue, however I would like others opinions on it. So I’ll get to the point. I am 30 years old and have been single for a few years. I have dated a few men in that time but nothing ha...
A. 11 August 2020: Simple answer is yes, for many it is.
I'm the same as you, I have not slept with a guy that I hadn't dated for a good while and it was something more of a bonding moment (for me) that solidified that this was a guy I could see myself with long ter... (read in full...)
My partner did some work for me and I thought he's give me a break on the cost but he didn't
Q. I have been with my partner for 10 years, we live together.The relationship is a bit rocky. He is a builder. I own a rental flat that needed some work doing to it. He did the work and has now sent me an invoice for his labour, for quite a large sum ...
A. 11 August 2020: I agree that you can try and negotiate the price down especially if you paid for materials.
However, WHO does business like this? Who doesn't get a quote first? And then (even if he Is your partner) check out what other people would charge?!... (read in full...)
I'm dating a virgin and think I should break up with her because of it
Q. I am a 29 year old male, currently dating a 33 year old woman. We met just before the coronavirus lockdown in the UK. Things are going well and we get on with each other, however, I discovered around a month or so ago that she is a virgin. I am...
A. 9 August 2020: If she is from a religious and conservative background she is probably NOT wanting to have sex until after marriage. Since you two haven't TALKED about this, you have no clue.
If you want a partner with whom you can have sex while getting to know ... (read in full...)
My married lover broke it off and is now trying to have sex with his asexual wife!?
Q. My married lover broke off our 5 year relationship after his wife saw some messages exchanged between us. We are still in touch. But he has now told me he attempted to have sexual relations with her last night and failed. He's always maintained the ...
A. 9 August 2020: Yep, I'm with Cindy
You BELIVE that HE is telling the truth about his marriage and wife. And that is YOUR mistake.
He dumps you because the wife finds out, then regale you with details of "bad sex" in order to entice you to rekindle and be ... (read in full...)
Am I high maintenance or what?
Q. Hi everyone I had a date tonight that i just feel confused about. Would love to unpack with you all and get information. A guy I've had 2 dates with already invited me to his friends' "party". I was told it was saturday and assumed it would be ...
A. 9 August 2020: I have to agree with Cindy,
I think you should have asked more questions BEFORE going. It you knew it was more of a "family" event than a "party", then you could have told him that you think that is a little too soon for a 3rd date.
So I do... (read in full...)
How long will take me to get over him?
Q. I met this man at my old job. He would come to the floors i was working on as we worked in different departments. Then he gave me his number to text him. i was over the moon. We started talking getting to know each other and he told me that i caught ...
A. 8 August 2020: OP, you made a mistake.
You took a chance on a man who possible just used you. Who most likely isn't living with his ex, but his WIFE and children.
The reason he didn't want to be seen in public with you, was to avoid the drama with family and ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to ask to come over to his place?
Q. Guy I’ve been seeing asked me a few days ago “when are you coming over my house” and i said “whenever you invite me” and he laughed he always comes here but never asks me to actually come over there...
A. 8 August 2020: Why not tell him the next time he comes over that NEXT time you will come to his house? For him to give you a time and date and... address.
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I think my mother in law is faking illnesses
Q. I'm starting to get the impression that my mother in law (mil) is faking illness to get attention. She is single, no partner, and feels lonely from what I'm told. At the beginning of our relationship my husband and I discussed how we'd handle our ...
A. 8 August 2020: Suggest to your husband to go look for a house or apartment close by that she can afford, that way she can be closer but not IN your house. You both can still help out and take care of her without having to live with her 24/7
Whether she is fakin... (read in full...)
Family tradition of naming the first son 'John'
Q. My daughter (29) is expecting her first child with her husband. They recently announced it's a boy. Apparently my son-in-law's family has a tradition of naming eldest sons the same name - let's just say it's John. So my son-in-law's father is John, ...
A. 8 August 2020: I think you should stay out of it as well, your daughter is a grown woman and soon to be a mother.
If SHE and her husband are FINE with using the name as a middle-name, I think they should. But that is MY personal opinion and I'm sure you have one... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend recently stopped contacting me on Fridays
Q. Hi. I'm in a long distance relationship. I've noticed that for the past 3 Fridays my boyfriend doesn't contact me at all. He contacts me every other day of the week but nothing on Fridays. Even if it's late at night after a long day or if he was ...
A. 8 August 2020: How long has this LDR been going on?
And is there a reason he can't have a "day off" so to speak to just "do him" ? I mean I can see taking the Friday off, it's the end of the work week and maybe he JUST wants a day to chill, maybe he feels th... (read in full...)
Girl I Dated Months Ago Is Gossiping And Trying To Start Nasty Rumours About Me
Q. Well, semi ex gf. We dated and she kept insisting she wanted a relationship though I wasn't sure because she was really flaky and kept cancelling and rescheduling on me, provoking me by telling me how much of a handful she was, insulting me and ...
A. 7 August 2020: OP, first thing you have to REMEMBER and ACCEPT is that you have ABSOLUTELY no control over what other people say, do, feel or think. ABSOLUTELY no control.
Second thing, it's OVER with her and you dodged a bullet. She sounds immature and somewhat... (read in full...)
How do I work with a woman who is difficult and has an unwilling attitude?
Q. Hello, This question is not related to love. I’d like to ask your opinion about how to deal with a female co-worker while working from home. I manage HR and Admin. She is the Admin Assistant at one of our offices located in another State. She is r...
A. 7 August 2020: I have to agree with Youcannotbeserious,
Start out with ASKING her, (I'd personally e-mail her - so you have the "chain of evidence" (so to speak) that it was brought up with her.) And ask her what's going on. Because you have noticed that she... (read in full...)
I am a deeply jealous and insecure women should I get professional help
Q. I have a beaufuial loving fiancee, but lately I have more insecurities in my mind . I just cant help but not feel good enough for my boyfriend . He does all the right things a boyfriend should we are allways together , laughing , being ourselves, ...
A. 6 August 2020: I absolutely agree with Auntie Cindy,
DEFINITELY, find a counselor and work on yourself. Only YOU can fix your insecurities and work on being the BEST you, you can be.
Being a little insecure, I think WE all have in us. Bur for you to feel that... (read in full...)
I’ve never had to deal with a break up so intense like this before, much help would be appreciated
Q. Me and my boyfriend have just broke up after a year, things were great when we first met it was like I found someone not who I only find attracted but is smart, hilarious and very good looking, And I was extremely comfortable around him and I ...
A. 5 August 2020: EDIT:
And you CERTAINLY should stay and be his verbal punching bag either.
SHOULD of course be :
And you CERTAINLY shouldn't stay and be his verbal punching bag either.
Sorry, for that typo!... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend still have a thing for this woman he was obsessed with?
Q. Hey guys, I had previously post about this topic I am about to discuss further the only difference is that it’s basically a new update, of something I recently found out. So this is the link to my old post, read it so you can remember http://...
A. 5 August 2020: I think he gave you the photos and the external hard-drive to you on PURPOSE for you to find this. He knew perfectly well that you would snoop.
I think he ENJOYS having you unsure of yourself and your position.
OR he wants you to JOIN him in h... (read in full...)
I’ve never had to deal with a break up so intense like this before, much help would be appreciated
Q. Me and my boyfriend have just broke up after a year, things were great when we first met it was like I found someone not who I only find attracted but is smart, hilarious and very good looking, And I was extremely comfortable around him and I ...
A. 5 August 2020: Of course it feels so intense!
You have been on a crazy rollercoaster this last year! Imagine you have NEVER been to an amusement park, but you know what a roller coaster is. Then you get put on the biggest craziest one and you cling on for dear... (read in full...)
My lover and I have wild sex but now I see he's talking to his girlfriend again and wants her back!
Q. So I've been hooking up with a guy for the past 6 months. We get together to have sex. I'm pretty crazy so the sex is wild. He's been enjoying it just as much as I have. He was with his girlfriend at the time and had a 7 year relationship, which I ...
A. 4 August 2020: Because the sex with you is just entertainment.
There is no depth between you. You were someone from his past that he got to bang. It's fun and exciting but not what he truly wants long term.
The EX-GF for all her "faults" is who he thinks he... (read in full...)
Do I say good luck to my ex who is having some tests done?
Q. My Ex and I have endured a rocky relationship to then splitting up the last few months, we have seen one another, stayed over, gone away then next we aren’t talking for days when I ask for more. We aren’t in contact at the moment as I said enough ...
A. 4 August 2020: Not wishing him good luck (or whatever you say in that situation) doesn't make you a bad person nor an uncaring person.
NOT texting for ANY reason, is just HOW you are going to move forward with a life without him in it.
I definitely think... (read in full...)
Two men not sure which one to choose
Q. My age is a big factor in this situation. I have 2 male friends who have a liking towards me. Well call one A and 1 B , A i have known longest but he isnt 'stable' doesnt have a regular job and can be up and down with things but said he wants kids ...
A. 4 August 2020: I have to agree, I'd go for neither.
While A is nice I'm sure, he is a bit of a loser (no offense really) and B is nice too, you would be way past your fertile age before he gets into action or if it happens faster he might not realllllly want it.... (read in full...)
Scared to be myself to my boyfriend, friends and family
Q. Hi, I feel a bit stupid asking about this because it probably seems so trivial. I think everyone has the feeling that other people don’t properly understand them, yet at the same time are so confident that they know us. There is a gap bet...
A. 4 August 2020: Everyone copies someone in some way. Even the most "avant-garde" people out there draw inspiration from OTHER people. Seriously.
Getting your ears pierced is not something so "out there" that ONLY your BF have piercings... right?
If you want t... (read in full...)
My FWB lied about being single. Do I confront him before ditching him?
Q. Hello. I've had a Friend With Benefits (FWB) since last November and i've just found out that he's lied to me the entire time about not having a girlfriend. I don't know how to deal with the situation. I've asked my friends and they have differ...
A. 4 August 2020: While confronting him might FEEL good in the moment, I would honesty ghost him. And if he DOES find a way to get in contact I'd ask who he is and tell him you have no idea who he is and that he needs to stop contacting you. And then keep blocking ... (read in full...)
Why does a wife blame a mistress for his affair, and let her husband off the hook?
Q. I would like to know WHY it is that the wife vilifies the mistress when she finds out her husband cheated on her with the mistress for years? Why does she BLOCK the mistress on social media while taking her husband back and working on the marriage? ...
A. 4 August 2020: Why?
Because it is easier.
I think it's really that simple.
However, wives aren't STUPID. They have to make a choice (or rather a SERIES of choices) that affect A LOT more people than just them. Like, family, kids, friends. It can also aff... (read in full...)
My husband said he would slap me if I did that again
Q. Please advise My husband and I went for a hike yesterday with hope we would be able to socially distance. We wore our masks of course. As he was studying the trail map another man (masked) came and stood next to him also wanting to look at the m...
A. 3 August 2020: I think you both reacted with an OVERREACTION..
"that is not 6 feet" and grabbing your husband like the stranger had bubonic plague is a BIT over the top! Had you been my husband and acted like that I would have walked home and not left the hous... (read in full...)
I didn't disclose everything that happened and now its too late to tell my boyfriend
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend broke up with me and we were not together for a month (second time spitting up). I thought this was it for good this time. I slept with someone else during this time as did he ... both telling each other. Yet i did also kiss ...
A. 3 August 2020: You know a relationship that is on/off RARELY works out in the long run? As you really CAN NOT conduct a healthy relationship if you two keep breaking up when it get's tough.
I mean you two couldn't even keep it in your pants for a MONTH! Having s... (read in full...)
Would it be silly to keep living here with basically nothing for me?
Q. Hello lovely Cupid’s, Hope you’re all doing well and keeping safe and sane during these difficult times. I posted just before lockdown about the fact id just moved to London to fulfill my lifelong ambition of moving to the city but felt a bi...
A. 3 August 2020: Going up North for work, family and stability is smart.
The likelihood of finding decent accommodations in London is always a roll of the dice, so I do get that, but there really isn't enough for you to stick around and LIVE. What happens when you... (read in full...)
Was he being passive in trying to see me again? Should I contact him or let him get in touch?
Q. I went for a walk with a guy who was on my course (he invited me). We walked and talked for 2 and a half hours. We had a laugh and had some deep conversations. He asked who I went on holiday with and asked 'family, friends or boyfriend?'. Is he ...
A. 3 August 2020: Do you WANT to spend more time with him?
He TOLD you to let him know... so if you WANT to spend more time, ask him/tell him.
If you are BOTH single and you want to spend more time with him why sit on your hands and wait?
I would guess h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hiding his phone snatches it away I'm concerned about his girl friend
Q. Hey everyone. I made a post on here in Jan addressing my bf platonic friendship with this girl (you can go to my other question for backstory). Essentially between then and now my feelings towards her hasn't really changed. I have anxiety and can ...
A. 3 August 2020: Maybe you should just BE honest here?
Tell him you AREN'T OK with him having female friends. But that would also mean, YOU can't have guy friends either. IS that what you want? To limit friendships for you both?
Maybe what could be a good ... (read in full...)
I've never had a girlfriend should I just give up?
Q. I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend or date before should i just give up?...
A. 3 August 2020: Maybe finding someone with a similar hobby? So you can get "lost" in that hobby together?
Not having dated in 10 years doesn't mean you NOW NEVER can date, it just means you are a little "behind" on the experience curve. Which again, isn't a ... (read in full...)
My wife's 50th birthday is coming up and I want a divorce
Q. My wife's 50th birthday is coming up and she wants something special to celebrate it. With the COVID-19 restrictions and all that entails that would prove to be tough anyway, but the reality is that I want a divorce. We have been fighting like ...
A. 1 August 2020: I'd help throw her a party (with all the adherence to the restrictions) and then AFTER her birthday bash tell her you want a divorce.
Don't be a petty Pete.
You "ruining" her birthdays will not only hurt HER, it will come back to bite YOU in t... (read in full...)
How can I stay in love with my partner? I'm worried of my love turning into hate
Q. My god help me, im losing trust to anyone already. Im so scared, so much.. my partner and me are together for 5 years now. I used to love and trust him. But i dont know exactly what is going on with me. I have an extreme bad experienced from the ...
A. 30 July 2020: You say you can't trust him and you are losing the loving feeling you had for him.
Have you tried TALKING to him?
Asking him, what DO you mean when you say:" I think this relationship will not work anymore" ?
And expressing how you don't... (read in full...)
How do I end a lifelong friendship?
Q. How do I break of a life-long “friendship”? You know how they say that you do not choose your family? In my case it works just as well for a friend. Well, let’s call her Anne, is definitely not someone I would have chosen as my friend as an adu...
A. 30 July 2020: YOU grow a set and TELL her;" Anne, I have thought about thoss for a long time and I don't see this friendship being something I want to maintain. It doesn't add anything positive to my life, only stress and negativity and I'm at a point in my life ... (read in full...)
He got a text from someone on a gay site do I bring it up? Or just ghost him?
Q. So I went on a date today having chatted to this guy for over a year. He had told me he’d meet up several times but he was very busy so it kept being put off. I was really surprised when at the weekend he asked “ so ok when we doing drinks?” Anyway ...
A. 30 July 2020: I forgot to add, it's really NONE of your business what apps he has on his phone. You ARE NOT dating him.
Take this behavior as a GOOD hint for you to wish him well and move on. No need to "confront" a person you have "talked" to for a year.
... (read in full...)
How do I stop going after unavailable partners?
Q. I have a continual habit of pursuing unavailable men. I just broke up with my boyfriend, who fit the unavailable mold. We were friends for 2 years. I told him I had feelings for him twice, to which he rejected me twice but wanted to stay friends....
A. 29 July 2020: I think this is really a YOU issue. YOU don't have much self-esteem or perhaps you just don't really KNOW what you want or maybe more... HOW to get a partner who has the qualities you are looking for.
And I can tell you this, there is no magical ... (read in full...)
He got a text from someone on a gay site do I bring it up? Or just ghost him?
Q. So I went on a date today having chatted to this guy for over a year. He had told me he’d meet up several times but he was very busy so it kept being put off. I was really surprised when at the weekend he asked “ so ok when we doing drinks?” Anyway ...
A. 29 July 2020: He might be BI. Or gay and in denial.
Also, a WHOLE year of texting before setting up a date? That (to me) doesn't sound like a guy who is REALLY interested in dating you.
Being effeminate doesn't automatically make him GAY. Some men are mor... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my b/f went to see his sister who tested positive for covid. Is it wrong of me to feel upset?
Q. My fiancé went around his sister who has tested positive for covid. It makes me upset that he went around her te help her when she was having an anxiety attack I’ve never had one so I don’t personally know how they are but the fact that he went in ...
A. 29 July 2020: I think UNLESS you are having a difficult pregnancy where you NEED to have someone around or you re about to "drop" a baby, you are being a bit selfish.
Having a panic attack is beyond debilitating. I seriously doubt anyone would "fake" one for ... (read in full...)
Friends With Benefits Ghosting Me After We Had Sex The For The First Time
Q. Met a guy who mutually agreed to be friends with benefits with me. Long story short, we hung out at his place the past weekend (our second meeting) and had a great time, it feels. Good sex, good conversation. We really get along. Only problem ...
A. 28 July 2020: FWB generally means you were friends first, not strangers who pretend to known each other well enough to know if the other person is being honest.
You don't know him from Adam, OP
Could be that he doesn't REALLY want to be fWB, maybe he just wa... (read in full...)
Is it just a fling? Or is it more?
Q. I have been in a long term relationship for 9 years now - with all its ups and downs. We've bought a house together (not married, no children). I was a pretty straight edge person, until i met this other guy. Also in a 10-yr long relationship, the ...
A. 27 July 2020: What it is - is STUPID.
You are BOTH committed to someone else. You are BOTH cheating. Maybe what YOU need to consider is your OWN behavior here. How is it OK for you to cheat? Because you "just can't help" yourself? Because that is flipping... (read in full...)
My sister's boyfriend doesn't like me?
Q. My sister has been dating her boyfriend for almost four years but I still barely know him. Since I know she's going to marry him, I want to establish a good relationship but his behavior has made that difficult. In conversation, he does not ...
A. 27 July 2020: I'd take FA's advice and set up call times to when he is not around, if possible.
Is it a red flag or "abnormal" behavior? I don't know. How long are these phone calls? What time of day?
I can see from his perspective that it can be annoying ... (read in full...)
Do I expose a cheater?
Q. As i write this down i realise how stupid it all sounds and how much of a massive idiot i’ve been. Just over a year ago i went to a 20 year school reunion, i don’t live in the town anymore but i have a lot of friends there and my parents sti...
A. 27 July 2020: You don't need to "warn" the wife. She already knows, that is why she kicked him out.
You are just ONE of many he chased for his own entertainment.
As for your parents? WHY on Earth would they want you to keep seeing this guy? After he LIED to... (read in full...)
I don't whether to fight for it or to move on from this relationship
Q. Hello everyone, my ex-gf of 10 years have recently just broken up with me. To be exact she broke up with me July 15th. i will try to make this long story as short as i can. Everything started when she moved down to Oklahoma with her parents in ...
A. 27 July 2020: I think a 10 year relationship in your mid 20's are VERY rare. You two pulled it off. BUT if you two started dating at 15/17 WHO you wanted for a partner THEN and who you want at the age of 25/26 can have change drastically.
She moved back hom... (read in full...)
Why is he mad that I moved on?? When he did not want me.
Q. My ex fiancé left me for someone else two years ago. He always said he wanted to be friends. Recently, him and I connected over Facebook and began a friendship for the past three months. He was nice at first but when I told him out I had a boy...
A. 26 July 2020: I think if you WANT your current relationship to BE healthy and work out, you NEED to let this ex go and block him. He is not looking out for your best interest or for your new relationship.
He was hoping to re-kindle something with you, maybe be... (read in full...)
I've never had a girlfriend should I just give up?
Q. I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend or date before should i just give up?...
A. 25 July 2020: Is that how you want to live life?
When things aren't handed to you, you quit? You give up?
If the batterie on your car dies are you going to stop driving? Just give up?
That's kind of sad. Where is your gumption? Your sense of setting an... (read in full...)
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