Why did He asked to finish inside me during sex?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for two months. The day he came over and was saying weird things he normally doesn’t say. We started cuddling and he said “i don’t know how you’re going to feel about this but ... i have love for you” then about 20 minutes ...
A. 25 August 2020: You don't OWE him to finish inside of you. But you would have a MUCH easier time of being in control if that if you kept condoms around and didn't have sex without your partner wearing one. It's just common sense to use a condom with a new partner ... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating leaves me in the dark about things
Q. Hello. Been a while. The guy ive been seeing for about two months now has in every other aspect been great minus the issues im here to ask opinions on. He was in a 14 year relationship that ended a year ago. They have two children. He had the ...
A. 24 August 2020: First off, BLOCK her. She doesn't need to text or call you. AT ALL. She is no one to you and you are no one to her.
Also block her on all YOUR social media. And don't troll hers either.
Secondly... It seems like this isn't going to work. H... (read in full...)
My parents never allowed me to drive?
Q. Hello, I need some advice. I am 24 years old and don't know how to drive. My parents never bothered to let me take lessons even if we had the money. When I said I wanted to start driving at home 17, they laughed. I have an older sister who started ...
A. 24 August 2020: Dude, what a bad excuse.
Take lessons, get your drivers license and move on, you can't make this your parents fault. I have a 16 year old who WORKED all summer to save up for her driver's training. She starts in a couple of weeks. I also have a 2... (read in full...)
Relationship anxiety. I don't want to lose him, but his anger makes me feel unloved
Q. I've had an argument with my boyfriend. Basically, about 2 weeks ago, we got a bill through the post, addressed to him, but when opening, the second address was his exes house. She'd reinstalled Sky and not changed some details and after 3 months ...
A. 24 August 2020: OK, OP
You need to chill.
You CAN NOT control who he runs into and who he talks to! You are not his parent. And he isn't 5!
I get that you don't want him to spend time with an ex. Understanble, she is an ex for a reason. He can't HELP if... (read in full...)
My husband can go three weeks without talking to me after we've had an argument
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some perspective on what I'm feeling and for someone just to give me some real home truths if possible. I have been married for almost 3 years now and it's been a very rocky marriage from day dot. Prior to marriage...
A. 24 August 2020: I would ask him (when he ISN'R being silent), how the two of you can solve issues that crop up if his participation becomes silence from him.
You can't clap with one hand, OP and you can't work on a marriage or relationships without BOTH spouses ... (read in full...)
Tips for dating a escort?
Q. What advice is out there for dating an escort. She is in love with me that I am certain, I know I am crazy in love with her. We were friends before we started dating so I knew what she did for work but as things got more serious what use to not ...
A. 23 August 2020: I agree with Code Warrior.
Only thing I can add... is ALWAYS use condoms.... (read in full...)
Should I propose before or after living with boyfriend?
Q. Hello, I would like advice on cohabitation. My boyfriend lives with his mom and I currently live with my parents. He and I have been dating for 8 years. I would like to move out and live with him although I'm not sure if I should propose to him and ...
A. 23 August 2020: Absolutely agree with FA on every point.
Living on your own is a GOOD thing to experience and learn. Being dependent on each other from the get go is not a good idea.
Finances is one of the TOP reasons people break up.
Lastly, proposing now... (read in full...)
I am having a hard time facing that he has moved on and lied to me when there was someone else
Q. Hey everyone could really do with some advice. So my ex who I was with 4 years and have a child with, we split up this time last year but I have tried constantly in that time to get us back together for the sake of our family. He moved back in ...
A. 23 August 2020: I know it's hard but you HAVE to accept that it is over. Having a child with someone doesn't mean they will STAY with you and BE with you forever.
You had a guy who didn't even BOTHER to propose when you got pregnant. Because he wanted to leave EA... (read in full...)
Why did He asked to finish inside me during sex?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for two months. The day he came over and was saying weird things he normally doesn’t say. We started cuddling and he said “i don’t know how you’re going to feel about this but ... i have love for you” then about 20 minutes ...
A. 23 August 2020: I have to agree with YCNBS,
If he is ASKING to come inside you AND also keeps telling you not to leave him, it sounds like it is partly a "marking his territory" (your body) and partly in the "if she gets pregnant she won't leave me.
There a... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and terrified. I thought I wanted a baby but now I'm ready to end the pregnancy
Q. Hello. I need help. I will turn 40 in two months and I have found out I am 5 weeks pregnant. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship and we decided to try and have a baby a few months back. I should be extatic, right? Wrong. I am perrified ...
A. 22 August 2020: How about you talk to your husband?
And talk to your doctor (maybe even bring your husband with you to the doctor)?
I really can't give you and other advice because this is between YOU and your husband. I think at 5 weeks it's still so abstrac... (read in full...)
Has my FWB stopped contact because of my skin color?
Q. Feeling a little bit confused and disappointed with one my really good friends/FWB guy. He’s a black guy, I’m a white girl. We’ve been really good friends and FWB for the last two years. Absolutely great guy, fantastic sex, we had an awesome ...
A. 22 August 2020: Don't be sorry for asking this question. It's obviously on your mind and it's not something you feel you can talk to him about, so asking total strangers isn't moronic or stupid.
Yes, I think your skin color is part of it.
But... only p... (read in full...)
A friend's contact is down to once a year. Why even bother?
Q. First of all, this is not a love relationship question. It's purely about friendship (same sex). There's this person I know since my school days. After graduating, we stayed in touch. In the first decade or so, we wrote to each other just a few...
A. 22 August 2020: I'm with Cindy.
This doesn't have to be a big deal. Either don't reply, or suggest to her that there is not real point to continuing, or just take that 30 second and reply ONCE a year.
I have a couple of people that sends birthday greetin... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend but I miss him terribly he was my best friend
Q. I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 7 years. I called off the relationship. Although I am well aware that this breakup has been coming for a year now, I feel I've lost my best friend. He's a great guy; we can talk about anything and everything. ...
A. 20 August 2020: I think you knew a long while ago that he wasn't the one for you. I think you really knew about 2 years in. When you decided that marriage was no longer on the table (unless he changed) THAT is when you should have walked away.
Because you CAN ... (read in full...)
He sulks and is only nice when he wants sex
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since last November. He doesn't have a big sex drive and we maybe have sex once a week, I would be up for it every night! He has turned down nearly all of my advances over the months which has hurt and knocked my ...
A. 20 August 2020: While I get that it knocks your self confidence when he turns your sexual advances down, you also KNOW that HE feels that it is ENTIRELY and WHOLLY up to him to initiate and decide when sex "should" happen. And when HIS needs aren't met. he pouts ... (read in full...)
My teenaged daughter is pitting her father and I against each other
Q. This question is about my relationship with my 17 year old daughter. Her father and I divorced 10 years ago because he was abusive towards me and her as well. My daughter has always been sweet and cheerful and had a very close relationship with me....
A. 20 August 2020: Trying counseling might work, it might not. But worth a try. Some "kids" have their "rebellious phase" later than others.
It might also be that your ex is JUST very good at pushing buttons with her. (as in manipulation)
Stick to NO smack talk... (read in full...)
I realize I am in an abusive relationship but don't know what to do
Q. i went on a few days away trip to the coast with my partner but when we got there he was fed up and bored and his personality changed and he became nasty saying he doesnt like going on holidays and moaning about everything. so i left him in the ...
A. 19 August 2020: I'm sorry, OP
Did none of this nasty behavior show up UNTIL the vacation? Because that sounds so strange that a person can go from being decent to being like kind of asshole while on vacation. (not that I don't believe you, I just wonder if you s... (read in full...)
Should this be a sign that the crush is done on his end?
Q. Hey Just a question to understand men...we had a crush on each other.. For a longggg time He was so. Shy around me.. Never talked to me that much.. Only said hi.. Just condial . I did not reciprocate the feelings because I am not ready for ...
A. 18 August 2020: Maybe try and STOP reading more into this there there is. Seems like you are putting the cart before the horse here.
He had a crush on you. You played down your own interest and focused on another guy. When you then see him again he is no longer s... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cope with my 13 year old having dementia
Q. My 13-year-old son was diagnosed with dementia in February, and me and my husband are struggling to cope, especially as there's stay-at-home orders in our state. It's a struggle to cope with looking after him and a 15-year old daughter who fee...
A. 18 August 2020: I'm with Cindy here, I would get a second opinion here.
While it can happen that someone that young develop Dementia it is super rare. Maybe there are other things going on?
I would also look into what kind of care can be available (in ho... (read in full...)
My teenaged daughter is pitting her father and I against each other
Q. This question is about my relationship with my 17 year old daughter. Her father and I divorced 10 years ago because he was abusive towards me and her as well. My daughter has always been sweet and cheerful and had a very close relationship with me....
A. 18 August 2020: I think you need to keep your kids out of your squabbles with your ex. You don't need to know what your daughter thinks about YOUR taxes or your ex's taxed and what he can and can not afford. You CERTAINLY don't need to pick her brain about ANYTHING ... (read in full...)
When things didn't go the way he wanted with the bank he stopped contact. Was he just using me?
Q. Hello. I am separated for 13 yrs now and I am in a relationship with a man who is 15 yrs older than me. He was my teenage crush, I was 16 yrs old and we kissed once. He is known in our city as a womanizer. We become closer through email (lon...
A. 18 August 2020: Glad the scales fell of your eyes with regards to this man and that you didn't end up bankrupt and brokenhearted.
Chin up.
And take this experience as a learning experience. Don't MIX money and romance.
Hope you are doing well, and thanks f... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and its ruining our relationship
Q. A year ago amidst a fight, I discovered my boyfriend of 4 years whom I live with, in the first year we had been together, had still been messaging other women via Facebook. A month after he told me loved me he had apparently invited a woman ...
A. 18 August 2020: You think you should "just" trust him because he said "I love you"? Because that makes no sense.
OF COURSE it makes you not trust him fully! You know what he did, what he is capable off. You don't trust him because you CAN'T trust him.
You nev... (read in full...)
I'm feeling frustrated with my marriage my life and not being able to conceive
Q. My husbamd ran a business that he was financially locked into for 4 years with a narcissistic business partner. He earned zero money and it seriously drained and stressed him out. When he got out of it, he started up again on his own and was doing ...
A. 17 August 2020: Have you seen a doctor/fertility specialist?
Maybe that is something you could think about doing. The thing is, in a marriage it's not about ONE person. You are not a bystander, OP, you are part of this duo.
So I do think that you need to talk... (read in full...)
What should I think of the way he is treating a FWB situation?
Q. I have a guy friend that I hooked up with once. He use to be a friend of my ex boyfriend. Now not so much. His oldest daughter is friends with my daughter. So we have texted a few times about that. One night about a month ago he messaged me asking ...
A. 17 August 2020: He isn't going to date you. Ever. the whole "bro-code" excuse is not valid. Because he HAD SEX with you. BEFORE he told you about the "bro-code"... If the "bro-code" meant something to him, he wouldn't have fucked you in the first place.
He is... (read in full...)
How do I discuss finances with my boyfriend?
Q. Hello, How do talk about finances with my boyfriend? Currently, he is working in retail while I am unemployed. Before I lost my job, I earned about $22k and worked for six months before getting laid off. My boyfriend is still working and maki...
A. 16 August 2020: I think instead of thinking OH this can't ever work, maybe sit him down BEOFRE MOVING in together and ask him, HOW much do you know about saving up, about investing? About taxes etc.
And then tell him, that you can HELP him be better (if he wants... (read in full...)
Does my bf want to bang his mom?
Q. Precursor: my boyfriend is a recovering addict and sometimes when he's being sketchy I go through his phone to see if he's trying to score or has scored. I know it's not right, but we have a baby on the way and his addiction has done so much damage ...
A. 16 August 2020: Does it mean that a person who watch XYZ kind of porn wants to DO that porn in reality?
No, not always.
For some it's the taboo. The "uh this is SO naughty". For others, it's a matter of not having healthy boundaries and thus going for progre... (read in full...)
Why do these people ask me questions that they won't answer if asked?
Q. I have a few people in y life who ask questions they themselves talk vaguely about. They're close and I feel uncomfortable asking them why they ask something that they themselves do not talk about. For example, a friend of mine always asks abou...
A. 16 August 2020: My advice?
Give out as much info as you get back, with some common sense used (of course).
I'm fairly private. I don't gossip. I don't want to hear intermate details about your partner, and while I might be curious about this (such as finance... (read in full...)
I think I screwed up with friends and don't know how to fix it
Q. Guys I'm really upset as think I screwed up with some friends They've recently started a new role and I put some complimentary comments on LinkedIn but they have said the company think it's weird I was commenting even tho it was all very complim...
A. 15 August 2020: It's still not the right place to put such comments, OP
Keep that for Facebook and Instagram and such, sites that are MADE for this. While you say it wasn't personal, it also wasn't appropriate.
Just delete it and learn from this.... (read in full...)
Does intelligence in a relationship matter?
Q. Hello, I would like to know your opinion on intelligence within a relationship. Does intelligence between two people in a relationship matter? Does it matter if one person is smarter than the other. My boyfriend always claims that he's a nerd...
A. 14 August 2020: I want you to look at what you wrote:
"Honestly, I think it's childish and it's like he says he's smarter than me. " - it's LIKE he says he is smarter. No, a HE says he is smarter.
I think HE is actually also a wee bit insecure (so are you) thu... (read in full...)
I don't want to invite my aunt to the family party because she has a reputation of stealing food and gifts
Q. Am I wrong to want my aunt (on my dad's side of the family) not to come to a small party of 13 people that's happening next month, simply because she stole presents and food last time? (the presents as it were, were clothing and wine for my sister ...
A. 14 August 2020: I would be honest with her if she calls and ask again about the party. Say, sorry Aunt ZX I am not inviting you to this one because last time you were invited you walked out with some presents that wasn't for you and you also swiped the food. It's ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for 7 years so now I'm afraid to
Q. I am 58yrs and never had sex for 7 years Now I have boyfriend and I am scared because I don’t remember any thing ...
A. 14 August 2020: Just tell your new BF and go slow.
Don't try and have sex until you FEEL ready, and when you do, relax and enjoy it.
Learn what HE likes, show him what YOU like and just TAKE your time.
It might not be mind-blowing the first time but it wi... (read in full...)
I think I screwed up with friends and don't know how to fix it
Q. Guys I'm really upset as think I screwed up with some friends They've recently started a new role and I put some complimentary comments on LinkedIn but they have said the company think it's weird I was commenting even tho it was all very complim...
A. 14 August 2020: Go delete it.
LinkedIN is for WORK not for social commentary or compliments. POTENTIAL employers of these people will see this and they don't need to see YOUR compliments. UNLESS!!! You at some point where their boss and the compliment was in r... (read in full...)
Can I reach out after 10 years and apologize again?
Q. When I was 15 years old I met a girl and we became very close. We were best friends for about two years and we fought about petty shit the way teenagers do. Her and I were never romantically involved and we both always claimed we were “straight”. We ...
A. 14 August 2020: Start by forgiving yourself. OK, so you were a bit of an ass when you were 15... trust most people are to an extend. Though some more than others, and with the drama that was an undercurrent of some romantic interest and what have you... it's ... (read in full...)
I know he's lying but I need concrete proof
Q. Hello, I have a question I hope someone will know the answer to. So I have been dating someone overseas. He definitely has money issues asks me easily for money. I dont give any. Yes we've seen eachother several times because I go there. Any...
A. 13 August 2020: You are right. Sorry FA :) I did make a math boo boo!
Sorry OP.... Disregard my whole post....
... (read in full...)
I know he's lying but I need concrete proof
Q. Hello, I have a question I hope someone will know the answer to. So I have been dating someone overseas. He definitely has money issues asks me easily for money. I dont give any. Yes we've seen eachother several times because I go there. Any...
A. 12 August 2020: Why do you need concrete proof here?
YOU know what's up. You know he is TRYING to USE you financially. This isn't LOVE.
HE wants to go to Turkey, so HE can PAY for himself to go, how is that YOUR problem? Or your responsibility t... (read in full...)
How do I uninvite my BIL to a party where my friends will be there?
Q. Hi all, so for the first time since lock down lifted I decided to invite my friends around for a house warming party at my new place. My husband has his friends round regularly were I am expected to be the hostess with the mostess which I generally ...
A. 12 August 2020: Why can't the brother come?
Maybe YOUR husband FEEL more comfortable to have someone around that HE knows well and can hang with.
How it it that YOU alone can decide who gets to come and who don't? What is really going on here?
You sou... (read in full...)
My partners daughter is a brat to me lately
Q. Hi all, I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years he has 2 children from a previous relationship and we all get on great.. usually. His son is 11 and a lovely lad, his daughter is 9 and a diva she is lively and loving and we have shared s...
A. 12 August 2020: Talk to your partner and decide how you BOTH need to move forward here - UNITED front. And if need be talk to her mom too (that should come from the DAD though if you 3 aren't civil). So ALL the ADULTS in her life are on the same page.
By being th... (read in full...)
My husband thanked me for sex and I feel sad and hurt about it
Q. Had sex with my husband whom I've been with for 28 years, married 24 years. He as had a operation down below so needs a device to get it hard. I gave him oral sex recently and sat on him and he came without needing the device. He thanked me for the ...
A. 12 August 2020: Wow, I think you are being way unfair to your husband.
He said thanks because it seems like you made a BIG effort to make sex work without him having to use device. It made HIM feel more like a man ( I would guess) and it was good for him, enj... (read in full...)
Would he want a relationship with me if he were to leave his wife?
Q. I was seeing an attached guy for almost 4 years and I recently broke it off because I realized that I wanted more and I started getting jealous of his home life. First of I just want to say I never wanted to be the other woman in the first place, I ...
A. 11 August 2020: If it's been 4 years and nothing has happened, why would it?
Why do you set your own sight so low? Another woman's man?
Not only that but he has KIDS too! Even if he DID leave his wife for you, HE would still want to spend time with these kids,... (read in full...)
He's the perfect guy but doesn't please me in bed. What do I do?
Q. Around two months ago I met this really great guy, he’s been super sweet and I could definitely see myself pursuing a life with him because he’s different from any guy I’ve ever met he treats me like a princess, he’s a gentlemen and has a great ...
A. 11 August 2020: Dude! OP~!
You have only had sex ONE time! And it wasn't a disaster! While I get the sexual attraction it's important how come you didn't figure out that he didn't turn you on or drive you "wild" BEFORE you slept with him?
Because if yo... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that my partner keeps their status on single on FB ?
Q. Hi Should I be concerned that my partner keeps their status on single on FB ? She asked me the other day if I'm the type that likes and or needs their relationship status changed on Facebook- I'm not I don't have mine showing and I'm not th...
A. 11 August 2020: I don't think so, personally.
OP, it's a SOCIAL media status. THAT is it. It's not what's important in life. Freaking FB shouldn't RULE your life to the degree that it makes you "worry" because she hasn't changed her "online status".
I hones... (read in full...)
My parents want to come visit for 2 weeks and I'm willing to put them in a hotel. How do I tell them this?
Q. My parents were not terrible parents. They were good parents but there is some conflicts between us. My dad always prefer my older brother over me and my half-sister (my dad and brother have more things in common) and my dad would always takes my ...
A. 11 August 2020: SELL it to them as YOU are doing this for them :)
Seriously!
Try and make an itinerary with stuff you would like to do with them while they are there, things to show them, places to eat etc.
But also tell them that you WANT them to be comf... (read in full...)
Is your sex drive driven by emotion?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncle’s I wouldn’t really call this an issue, however I would like others opinions on it. So I’ll get to the point. I am 30 years old and have been single for a few years. I have dated a few men in that time but nothing ha...
A. 11 August 2020: Simple answer is yes, for many it is.
I'm the same as you, I have not slept with a guy that I hadn't dated for a good while and it was something more of a bonding moment (for me) that solidified that this was a guy I could see myself with long ter... (read in full...)
When things didn't go the way he wanted with the bank he stopped contact. Was he just using me?
Q. Hello. I am separated for 13 yrs now and I am in a relationship with a man who is 15 yrs older than me. He was my teenage crush, I was 16 yrs old and we kissed once. He is known in our city as a womanizer. We become closer through email (lon...
A. 23 July 2020: No, no no... DO NOT get a loan THAT big with a guy you knew 20? years ago! OR with someone who you have a romantic attachment to! IT will NOT end well.
The fact that he has stopped contact when the bank didn't want to agree to HIS terms (in way... (read in full...)
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