Do cheaters usually regret cheating?
Q. About a month ago my boyfriend of three years told me he cheated. He told me a couple days after it happened. This was the first time he had done it. As he was telling me he was very apologetic and he cried. That was the first time in three years I ...
A. 17 November 2011: Some do, some don't.
I think the fact that he fessed up, apologized and felt remorseful for it, shows that he DID regret it. He didn't wait til he got caught.
However, it doesn't change the fact that he DID cheat.
Hopefully HE learned ... (read in full...)
Am I controlling?
Q. I was analyzing my own behaviour the other day and I began to wonder if I was controlling or not. I dont have to know where my boyfriend is or what he is doing at all times. I am fine with him having a social life. What does bother me is no...
A. 17 November 2011:
I don't think you are controlling either, but I think you need to face the facts that he isn't wired like you. Sometimes it might take him a few days to process things in order to be able to share them with you, or anyone else for that matt... (read in full...)
How do I go about talking to this guy more?
Q. So I've been frequenting the Starbucks near campus for the past few weeks when I have classes. I'm starting to recognize some of the baristas and they recognize me too. But there's one guy in particular. He's one of the new ones, and he's as fri...
A. 17 November 2011: I think he is interested, not just Starbucks friendly :) I would just talk to him when you stop by, see where it takes you.
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Is he not over his ex? Or could he decide this was a mistake?
Q. around 3 weeks ago i met a guy at a club, swapped names and numbers etc and we have literally been texting non-stop since, and not even little texts, proper long, full on essays (mostly around 8 page texts). I'm not exagerrating, apart from when we ...
A. 17 November 2011: He really likes you, but as he writes he is confused because he still has feelings for his ex.
I have to give him major points for not just stop talking to you, but because he felt like he "owed" you an explanation, that makes him a good guy in m... (read in full...)
How can he just turn his feelings off for me?
Q. I recently posted a question about having not heard from my boyfriend in a week. I ended up calling him that night to see what was going on and he ended up breaking up with me. He said that his feelings had been changing in the past two months and ...
A. 17 November 2011: Here are my 2 Cents for what it's worth.
1. He's been wanting out a lot longer then he said, properly because he's meet someone else or is keen on someone else.
2. Get your money back.
3. Stop arguing with him over his Facebook, if you two... (read in full...)
He keeps telling me I need to move on but comes back to me whenever he is upset! Now he is seeing my friend, should I just delete both of them out of my life?
Q. My ex and i broke up 5 months ago and he keeps telling me i have to move on, we decided to stay friends but hes always talking to me and kind of treating me like were still in a relationship, ex. (he still calls me when hes upset with anything, ...
A. 17 November 2011: I would stop taking his calls and take a break from her. You are not going to move on it you keep letting him rope you back in.
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Boyfriend will only sleep on the couch, not with me
Q. please help my boyfriend and i have been together for 9 months now been staying together for the past 3 months, in the past month or so he has stopped sleeping in the bed with me and will only sleep on the couch. there has been a few times whe...
A. 17 November 2011: Ask him.... (read in full...)
Everything went great, he took me to his house, I met his mom...but then he tried to kiss me and I freaked out! Now he's gone from calling and texting me everyday to nothing!
Q. I am a freshman in college. I met this Cuban guy in the Finacial aid office and I have been thinking of him ever since...... I had a little crush on him. Two months later I saw him again at the library, and he said I wonder why I keep running into ...
A. 16 November 2011: Yeah, I don't think you can fix this one. Your reaction was so over the top and you sent many mixed signals, the poor guy might think you are just not a good fit for him at all.
Honestly, why did you freak out?
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Girlfriend is staying with her baby's daddy for 2 weeks...cause for concern or not?
Q. So I've been seeing a lovely single mom for about a year, was FWB for about 6 months and were good friends for about 2 years before that. She has a 2 year old girl, who is just the most adorable little critter ever. This is not my first ...
A. 16 November 2011: I understand why you feel uneasy, and honestly I would tell her, I would also suggest she stays in a hotel instead of with him & his family. It's jsuta little too intimate for my taste.... (read in full...)
I'm confused! He's cancelled 2 dates and now doesn't respond to my texts
Q. Hi everyone sorry if this long I just really need help trying to figure this situation out I met a man 9 month ago I moved into a flat near him in fact 30 seconds away any way he asked me out I said yes he had been single 6 month after splitting up ...
A. 16 November 2011: He is just not that into you :(
Look for another guy, this one isn't worth the hassle.... (read in full...)
Can the contraceptive pill cause an upset stomach?
Q. I've been on the birth control pill for two and a half months, the first month I was completely fine but after my first period I generally had an upset stomach on-going for a month. I'm curious to whether this could be due to the pill before I go ...
A. 16 November 2011: If you think it's the pill call your doctor, could be the brand you are on that upsets it. There are many things that can cause upset stomach, such as Crohn's, stress, IBS. So seeing your doctor might be a good start.
It can be that your "bacteri... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable around our house with teenaged daughter walking around in just underwear!
Q. Our oldest daughter is now 15 and tends to walk around the house in just her bra and underwear or nothing at all. My husband and I get on her about it all the time, but she doesn't seem to care. Will she grow out of this or will it get worse? Is ...
A. 16 November 2011: Normal. As odd as it may seem to you, your daughter is ok with herself and that is a good thing.
My oldest (11) is "allergic" to clothes at home, I swear! She loves to help out with cooking/baking though and my rule, no "nakid people" in the kitc... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to incorporate caring for a dog or cat as part of improving one's emotional health?
Q. Pet ownership is cited to have many benefits for humans. Owning a pet can help reduce stress, improve your emotional health and may even promote faster healing. What are the best ways to incorporate caring for a dog or cat as part of improving one'...
A. 16 November 2011: Adopt one from a shelter or rescue.
Dogs, well depending on the breed there are many things you can do with them, walk, agility, obedience and so forth.
Cats, require less physical "work" all they want is someone to pet them, feed them and of... (read in full...)
My wife's son is tearing us apart! What to do?
Q. i have caught my wife's son (21 year old) with large quanities of skunk weed 3 times now, the first about a week after we were married 2 years ago,it turns out that he has been reported to the police on 5 occations by 3 different people on our ...
A. 16 November 2011: Wow, I would leave too. You can end up holding the rotten end of the stick one of these days all because of her "baby".
Yeah, I'd be gone & and file for divorce asap.... (read in full...)
I don't want to blow chances to go out with girls who could be perfect for me just because I can't get this girl out of my head!
Q. about a year ago i was waiting for my bus to go home from college at the station and this girl walked by and we both stared into each others eyes and smiled at one another we both kept looking at each other as she walked past. me then being a shy ...
A. 16 November 2011: It's not love it's lust, honey. It's pretty normal too. The thing is she HAS a BF, so she is off limits. Doesn't mean you can't say hi next time you go past her.
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How can I talk to this good looking stranger on the train?
Q. i go to work everyday in train, there's a guy who travels in same train well in other compartment.. over the days i am fallen head over heels for him. i cant think of anything other than him for rest of day. i cant eat cant sleep i think only ...
A. 16 November 2011: Sounds more like lust then love. Like a crush on a total stranger.
If you want to get to know him, next time you see him just say hi, see what happens.
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What can I do about these teenaged girls calling me a pedophile?
Q. hi, basicly i got called a peado on the way to work by two school girls about 15 years old cos essentially i looked at them, i got through the cow gate (i go accross a field) i noticed they were waitibng for me to get through so they could pass ...
A. 16 November 2011: They are obviously being brats, however if it worries you I would go talk to their school/teacher/headmaster.
Other then that I would ignore them.... (read in full...)
Wife emailing old boyfriend--should I be concerned?
Q. My question involved my wife's contact with a boyfriend she had 25 years ago. Recently, my wife noticed that her past boyfriend was divorced. She admitted to sending him an email regarding his recent divorce. At the time she seemed excited b...
A. 16 November 2011: I'm guessing it's one of those, curiosity and "what ifs" she is going through. She is getting something out of the contact or she wouldn't do it.Either it's a boost for her to know that he failed at marriage (like he failed at the relationship with ... (read in full...)
We aren't speaking but I want to wish him a happy birthday!
Q. Ok so a couple months ago I lost someone really really really special to me. And even though its been a couple of months I still miss him a lot. What makes it worst is that his birthday is coming up this Sunday and I'm wondering whether I should ...
A. 16 November 2011: Send him a card in the mail.
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My girlfriend has rather strange views I don't agree with and I'm not sure if I should be in this relationship
Q. ive been with my current gf for about 3 months. it all seemed great at the begining but as i really got to know her. i found out that her ex husband abused her kids she did not go into it but i assumed sexually. she is now having issues with her...
A. 16 November 2011: For me personally her attitude and "emotional baggage" would be a deal breaker. I can't see how you can have much in common with this woman (given her views). She might get some better coping skills through therapy, but she will still be who she is ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you open up and talk personal things with someone you just met?
Q. Guys: Would you ever open up and tell a girl who you met on a night out something very personal about your family life? For example one of your parents being seriously ill/getting a divorce and the effect it has on you and the lifestyle because of ...
A. 15 November 2011: Maybe he just needed to get it out and since you were open about your family, he wanted to do the same.
I'm thinking he felt you were a person he could be open around.... (read in full...)
I'm sick and tired of him ignoring me! Help!
Q. My bf of 2 years was ignoring me lately and most of the times he wont call for a week. I told him repeatedly this is not acceptable, even he is busy he should have atleast left me a message. Anyway i lost my control and didnt call for nearly 2...
A. 15 November 2011: To me that would mean he is no longer interested in being with you, but don't have the "balls" to break up.
Sorry :(... (read in full...)
He left me for harmless online flirting. Why?
Q. I have been with my chap going on 4 years. I have flirted online which was harmless and meant nothing. Just a bit of a joke and no more. I understand i hid it from him,but only so he wouldnt get the wrong idea as we had a break up over it once. ...
A. 15 November 2011: Because the flirting online wasn't "harmless". He felt you were cheating on him (as do many people).
Honestly, to me it seems like YOU were the one willing to throw the relationship away for a little bit of "harmless fun".
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Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 15 November 2011: I would tell him to go find another place to crash, I think you need to trust your gut feelings.
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My wife laughs too much now. How can I tell her?
Q. My 4 years old wife smiles and laughs 24/7 for now reason. I was in a relationship with her for 16 months before we got married. She is 26, I am 28. I know she has got good sense of humor but it doesn't mean that one's month should be open all the ...
A. 15 November 2011: You rather she cries 24/7? Cheer up man!... (read in full...)
I need help getting over my feelings for this 16 year old girl!
Q. So Ia am a 28 year old guy, and I think I am falling for a 16 year old girl. It started out as her flirting with me about three months ago, and I thought it is just a phase she is going through and just shrugged it off. But as time has passed the ...
A. 14 November 2011: You need to nip it in the bud~ Tell her she is very sweet/cute *whatever*, but that she is also WAY to young for you.
You need to grow up and act your age, she isn't some teenage ninja who is going to jump your bones and you are totally helpless... (read in full...)
Should I tell my former teacher I'm in love with him?
Q. Hello, I'm 21 years old and I graduated from high school three years ago. During my senior year, I fell in love with my math teacher. We always got along fine, but he never showed any preference towards me. After I graduated, we ran into each...
A. 14 November 2011:
If he is single, then I wsee no problem in telling him that you had a major crush on him.
If he is not, then you need to stop wasting your time on this guy.... (read in full...)
Why is sex hurting now?
Q. I'm a worried seventeen year old and need some advice. I'm scared to whom I should turn to. My situation; I've been have sex for my boyfriend for the last ten months and just the last couple weeks, I feel like he has been hitting the top of my ...
A. 14 November 2011: Get it checked out by a doctor, I would venture a guess of UTI as well.
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He says he's given me 3 chances. Says he will not talk to me any more if I don't allow more than kisses and touching next time.What do I say to him?
Q. I like this guy ever since I was little , we grew up together and Finally one day we started texting dirty and he wants me to do stuff to him and I want to but I'm still a virgin and don't know if I could please him and I don't know how to do a ...
A. 14 November 2011: Don't ever do things you don't REALLY want to do. And NEVER do sexual things JUST to "hold" on to a guy.
Tell him to go "toot his own horn".
He is taking FULL advantage of you, your youth, naivety, inexperience, and the fact that you have ha... (read in full...)
What did I do wrong?
Q. Last week I met a young man (english) who I admired as an entertainer realising he was a womaniser and free and single etc but amongst many others he e mailed me occasionally and last week met in town for lunch which I paid for as he doesnt earn ...
A. 14 November 2011:
Maybe he didn't see the lunch as naything "special" and therefore didn't text/call you back? Maybe the guy has no manners, maybe that is "just" how he is?
I may be jaded too, but I don't see you getting your money back either. Other then e... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to exchange texts with a friend who fancies me or is my boyfriend just trying to control me?
Q. My BF and I have been going out 2 years. For the most part we have had a healthy relationship, with only a few bumps in the road. This first was when he went away for 2 weeks and came back and said he needed his space, but really he had been ...
A. 14 November 2011: I think you know exactly why you did it, to make your BF jealous.
Good for you for not flirting or being inappropriate, but of all the people you could have talked to you picked the one who would IRK your BF the most.
I don't know why he ditc... (read in full...)
I didn't bleeed when I lost my virginity this weekend. Did we do something wrong?
Q. dear cupid, i lost my virginity this weekend. i will admit it hurt a lot for me, we did it for the second time (same night) and it was better the second time. however, i was quite disappointed because i dont think my cherry popped as there was no ...
A. 14 November 2011: Not all girls/women bleed when they have sex for the first time. ... (read in full...)
Why do guys feels the need to brag?
Q. Why do guys brag? He was a party boy and obviously I didn't give him anything sex-related/making out related to brag about. so... when people asked why we hung out around one another...he said that I hung around him and even the police couldn't...
A. 14 November 2011: He's a immature selfish brat, that is why.
I'd start to ignore him. If people ask why you hung out with him, tell them you had a brain-fart or a lapse in judgement.
Don't beat yourself up for not recognizing an asshat.... (read in full...)
Whenever I manage to save up a bit of money, my boyfriend expects me to treat him to a big dinner
Q. Just wanted to ask, is it fair that my boyfriend expects me to pay for dinner sometimes (for the both of us) when he's the one with a pretty good, stable part time job (24hr) and I'm unemployed (because my college schedule is loaded)? I'm not tryi...
A. 14 November 2011: No, you shouldn't just shut up and pay.
Save up your money. Go 50/50 if he is that cheap. Make a budget and if he complains, show him JUST how little money you actually have.
Honestly, he should appreciate the effort you make when cooking him... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on attending a concert while I'm in surgery
Q. This may take me some time to write so here goes. I've just moved in to a house with my bf of two years, we've got a mortgage togther. We started to try for a baby around a year ago and in september I got pregnant with fertility treatment. After ...
A. 14 November 2011: He sounds like a selfish prick..
It's not like it is the LAST concert he might ever attend.
And you throwing fits is well, kinda normal for someone going through what you are going thru, you have the extra hormones raging too.
I would ... (read in full...)
My Bestfriends girl is flirting with me... What to do?
Q. Ok well my best friend has a girlfriend that he has been seeing for about a year but the other day she started flirting with me. Now im 20 so I know what flirting is and how it works and she was serious. She has always been my type and has hinted it ...
A. 14 November 2011: Follow the Bro-code. You don't hit on your best friends girl, specially when you know he likes her.
If she wants to be with you, she would have broken up with him already.
Tell her to cut it out.... (read in full...)
He didn't get me anything for my birthday! Its the principle of it!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 8 months and while of course it started off great we are going through some tough times.His family found out about me and dont exactly approve of me which is pretty big in my culture. and ever since ...
A. 14 November 2011: You should tell him. At least he could have bought you a card.... (read in full...)
My wife was sexually abused. No one else knows. Is it wrong to spill the beans?
Q. As the subject says, my wife was sexually abused as a child. She was also raped as an adult - possibly more than once. She just confided this in me, although I have suspected as much for a long time now. As a result, she is an alcoholic. She...
A. 14 November 2011: No, don't tell, it is not your place. IMHO
However, I do suggest that you help your wife get some much needed therapy/counseling.... (read in full...)
Are my feelings warranted, of feeling a bit disappointed after he said that I could join his family for Christmas?
Q. I am very disappointed and let down by my supposed male friend who is gay and who has a boyfriend. I have known him for 15 years. He is aware that I do not have any family or support where I live and knows that I did not want to be alone on Xmas ...
A. 14 November 2011: I understand his family and how they feel, after all they are still in mourning, I think you need to think about that before you think about not wanting to be alone. He is trying to make everyone "happy".
Is there anyone else you know whom you... (read in full...)
Next month I'm meeting my Boyfriend's family for Christmas. But he'd rather I didn't give them presents. How will it look if I arrive empty handed?
Q. I have a dilemma of etiquette on my hands! Next month, I'll be meeting my boyfriend's family for the first time; his parents, grandmother and three siblings. My boyfriend has a rather acerbic relationship with his siblings - an older brother and ...
A. 14 November 2011: I would make a nice basket with goodies for the parents. I wouldn't worry about the siblings.... (read in full...)
Duped Wife? Or not?
Q. I am married for a little under 4 years. I found out my husband has cheated on me from the beginning. He is one of these people who find it easier to "blame" me rather than to take any responsibility other than "I'm sick" routine. Although he ...
A. 14 November 2011: No, honey, get your ducks in a row and then divorce his dumb-ass.
I doubt it will come as a great big shock to him.... (read in full...)
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