How can I get my girlfriend to have orgasm through penetration?
Q. Alright:L So, I'm currently in the midst of my 2nd long-relationship. I'm not particularly experienced, having only been with 3 girls including my present girlfriend and was inquiring as to which positions/rhythms and how much staying power wo...
A. 5 December 2011: Honestly, I think you have a better chance at helping her orgasm if you don't try and make it into something akin to a science project.
Read up on G-spot though, but your best best is learning how to stimulate her clit while having sex.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong because I don't want to buy fast food for my bratty disrespectful brother?
Q. Hello everyone! I have a question ... Am I wrong for not wanting to buy my little brother food? I know it sounds wrong but here's my problem. My little brother is 12 years old. And he is very rude! He will curse you out!!!!! He doesn't listen a...
A. 5 December 2011: No I would reward the little brat either, I would however sit your mother down and tell her that she NEEDS to do something about this. HE is NOT your child that is right, but if he is 12, YOU are the one he is around the most. You mom rely on you ... (read in full...)
Do you know anyone who has many college degrees, but is working in a job far below his potential???
Q. Hello all, This is a question on career options. I know...I know...this site is mainly dedicated to relationships/love/sex questions. But I am posting a career question here as my experience with this site has been good so far and I get the most s...
A. 4 December 2011: Yes,have two degrees and not working atm. But would take s job below my "potential" to keep my family afloat. I would also do it while looking for a job that is more in the area I have my degrees.
Not uncommon at all.... (read in full...)
Why does my ex post a photo of his ex from 2 years ago on facebook?
Q. I split up with my LDR boyfriend because he wouldn't commit to me and he was messing me around. I told him he had to let me move on if he wasnt prepared to commit, but we could remain friends. He was horrible back to me so I deleted his number and ...
A. 4 December 2011: My advice STOP looking as his Facebook page and be glad you followed your gut and ended it.
He is using that old picture to hurt you, because he knows you will be looking. So stop playing his game.
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The big question ... What do girls think when ....
Q. What do girls think when they see a decent-looking guy with a fat, ugly girlfriend? What do they assume about him? I'm pretty sure that if a guy is seen with a hot girl, people think he must be something special. So is it the opposite if he's...
A. 4 December 2011: I guess it doesn't bother me at all. I don't think anything about it really. I would assume (if I were to "judge" the situation), that she has one heck of a personality. And that HE is a dude who isn't shallow and superficial.... (read in full...)
He takes lots of time out with his friends. How can I stop being jealous, before I ruin the relationship?
Q. I need help with this one. My boyfriend and I, together for 13 months, we have a daughter together. When he hangs out with friends that are guys i get jealous. When he drinks or gets drunk with his friends i get jealous because while he is doing ...
A. 4 December 2011: Ask him to take care of the baby from time to time and YOU go out with friends.... (read in full...)
Why do married men lie and tell you there are separated, when they not?
Q. Why do married men lie and tell you there are separated, when they not? ...
A. 4 December 2011: To gain a woman's sympathy and trust. To make a women who would NEVER sleep with or date a married man interested.
Because he is a douche lord.... (read in full...)
Father with two kids and a persistent housewife
Q. We have a married couple with 2 kids where the husband wishes to divorce his wife but she wants to continue with the marriage. Here are some questions I'd like to get your answers to : 1)How can a single father protect himself and the kids when he...
A. 2 December 2011: Get a good lawyer.... (read in full...)
Will our sexual spark come back, even in our 40s?
Q. My wife says Im too horny all the time and we are in our 40's and Im wondering when the sexual spark will return. I have waited for a long time for this but lately I am thinking she has lost hope and is not intrested in me anymore or sex for that ...
A. 2 December 2011: I actually agree with the female anon reply. There is something else going on that has nothing to do with sex.
It could also be a medical factor, as in hormonal abnormalities, depression, stress and so forth. It is MUCH more common for woemn to... (read in full...)
What do you think of this matchmaker's insights?
Q. I was watching this um...interesting show the other day, "Millionaire Matchmaker" and my first impression was, "eh. Superficial, loud. Predictable to an extent." But, the "matchmaker" said something that interested me in a sense. Her advise w...
A. 2 December 2011: I think those shows are superficial too, but I agree with the advice up to a point.
And like most of the aunties said, this is advice for people in their late 20's and up.
IF you are looking for marriage, I can see that after 2 years together y... (read in full...)
Did he put his ex before me, and should he have told me he went out?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up for what seems like such a stupid reason, so I need some advice on whether he is right (if so I need to remodel my thoughts) or I am right. I'm trying to keep it short and to the point. I was having a bad day, he ...
A. 2 December 2011: I would sit him down and tell him how it made you feel. From what you write and his "thing" with the ex ( I don't know what else to call it) I would say he isn't over her. And not letting you know he's going out with friends (and her) and even ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "leg-fetish"?
Q. I understand the whole foot-fetish thing, but is there a specific fetish toward 'legs'? A female friend and I were discussing what we were in to and I told her I'm a sucker for a killer set of legs, which she said is a foot-fetish. However, I'm not ...
A. 2 December 2011: I agree, it's not a fetish, you are just a leg-man. I'm an "ass-gal" lol I love a good man bum!
Fetish is quite another thing. If you have a fetish, you are obsessively fixated on either an object or a body part.
Like AskMen explains it:
Fo... (read in full...)
Am I freaking out by thinking the worst?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for a while. We aren't "boyfriend and girlfriend", so to speak, but we talked abut moving on to that stage. He travels a lot for work and doesn't own his own cellphone (in this day and age... I know). when we met and ...
A. 1 December 2011: 1. If he has a job, he has a cell phone. Specially if he travels for work, I can not IMAGINE any company who wouldn't either PROVIDE a phone or DEMAND he has a cell phone. So I call the BULL Sh!T card, on the no phone thing.
2. He had severe w... (read in full...)
I had sex with a friend and now he won't talk to me
Q. About a week and a half ago I went to a good friend of mine's house, there was a party, and at the end of the night we ended up having sex. Now, I've known him for a few months now, and we were just good friends (we had cuddled a few times ...
A. 1 December 2011: I would talk to him, face to face. Tell him you aren't interested in a relationship, but that you like him as a friend and would like to keep the friendship. Personally, though, he can't have been that good of a friend if he treates you like this.
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I feel unworthy to be with anyone!
Q. i feel unworthy or incompatible for any lady i meet. alone and down but too scared to show my face in public cuz i feel like an ugly outkast. i have friends. and my family is supportive. but i have no comfidence in myself. advice is much needed....
A. 1 December 2011: There has to be something you are good at. If you don't know what that is, take the time to figure it out. Don't worry about relationships right now, focus about you.
What in life do you LOVE to do?
What are your dreams for yourself for the... (read in full...)
What is with men being attracted to teenagers?
Q. I've seen a few questions on here about this. Guys if you're in your twenties why don't you want to date someone your own age? Why do you want to be with someone who hasnt even finished school? Is it because it's forbidden?...
A. 1 December 2011: I don't think it's because she is forbidden, I think in many cases it is because guys are WAY slower in maturing mentally/socially then girls are.
I also think dating someone younger (from a male perspective) means that they (the men) are the "wis... (read in full...)
Will not getting him a huge gift make him hate me?
Q. I am freaking out over my boyfriend's Christmas gift. He works and I don't (I'm looking for a job though!) and I have some ideas - a video game he's wanted for a long time but never got around to buying it, a good webcamera for his computer because ...
A. 1 December 2011: The amount you spend on a gift doesn't equate how much you love him.
I think you should find him something you think he will appreciate and that you can AFFORD.
Stop Fretting.... (read in full...)
Am I being self-centered and uncaring by refusing to listen to my wife complain constantly?
Q. My wife is from another (very poor) country, and her family is still in the other country (in addition to her parents, she 5 brothers and sister). Her family constantly asks her for financial support, and she's helped them out quite a bit over...
A. 1 December 2011: I'm going to play Devil's advocate her for a few, just bear with me :)
She is venting to you, her husband - just like you now are venting (and asking for support and advice) here on DearCupid.
Look at it this way. In the 15 years of marriag... (read in full...)
I gave him a taste of his own medicine and we've ended it but it still bothers me!
Q. Hello, i need a little advice. Urrm where to start, so quite a few months back a new boy moved to my school, i had known him from being a baby, his family knew mine they are friends. So a few days before he moved i spoke to his mum on facebook and ...
A. 1 December 2011: In the future remember this, two wrongs NEVER make a right. You stooping to HIS level doesn't help you or make you a better or more desirable person. It makes you just as shitty as he is.
I think he wanted to go out with you at first because ... (read in full...)
Would it be better to not get married and disappoint our families?
Q. I am due to get married in three months. For the past two years I have been catching my soon to be wife in darting chat rooms. She has been clumsy and left things around,including guys phone numbers. I have never been able to get past this as she ...
A. 1 December 2011: I agree with CaringGuy, she doesn't want to be married - at least not to you.
And do yourself a favor and DO NOT marry her. Your families will get over it. A ring on her finger will NOT fix this, it will NOT make her stop.
You obviously can't ... (read in full...)
He's gone from callimg me "hot and sexy" to "beautiful and gorgeous," does it mean anything?
Q. Hi Guys, I realise this isn't a serious thing and it isn't a problem, I am just wondering and don't have anyone I can ask. Thanks for your responses in advance. I have been seeing a guy for a while now, he was my friend before hand and he has...
A. 1 December 2011: Personally I would rather be labelled beautiful and gorgeous then hot and sexy, by someone I care about. Hot and sexy can be any "random" babe, but beautiful and gorgeous seems more personal.
Maybe it means nothing, maybe you are not longer "... (read in full...)
How long should I give him before I decide its not going to happen?
Q. Dear Cupid, I met this guy online and after two months have passed he asked me if he could contact me on my mobile, so I gave him my number and we chatted a couple of times and texted each other. The thing is he keeps telling me that he want...
A. 1 December 2011: Have you told him that if you two are to meet in "the flesh" that you want HIM to make that effort?
If not, I would be honest and tell him.
Right now you have Christmas coming up, so there won't be a good chance for him (or you) to spend ti... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to make the 1st move because I've never done that before
Q. Hello Everyone I need some advice on a stiuation I am, many of you guys now but here is a recap. At my work there is a customer at my work an older guy (maybe 7-8 years older) who I am really attracted to. He always comes shopping frequently every ...
A. 1 December 2011: Next time he comes in before closing ask him out for coffee afterwards?
Baby steps, honey.... (read in full...)
Ex wants to try again but how can I after I seen what turns him on?
Q. Hi everyone, could do with some strong advice before i cry. I split up with my boyfriend a few days ago as i caught him lying to me. He moved out and i stopped all contact. Then thismorning he sent me an email and when i went to reply i found an...
A. 1 December 2011: Sounds like you never really knew the guy.
My question is this, why are you letting him call shots? YOU broke up with him because he was a liar, he will STILL be a liar if you try again. What has changed in 3 days? Nothing!
Except maybe ... (read in full...)
Am I reading the signs correctly?
Q. okok so ive been chatting online for 2 weeks with a lovely girl - shes 26..gorgeous. funny. intelligent. etc... after a week, she confided that she had a bf.. i was super chilled. said wow he must be awesome. i hope he appreciates what he has... she ...
A. 1 December 2011: I think you are being played and are wasting your time.
You are a "fantasy" for her and she isn't interested in you in "that" way, sorry.
The fact that she claim she normally has a "replacement" "lined up" sounds absolutely skanky.
If yo... (read in full...)
Man over 20 with a teen?
Q. I am a 24 year old male and I was wondering is it illegal for me casually date a girl who's 17? Or just simply be good friends with her?...
A. 1 December 2011: Why not take the time to get to know her? See if you have things in common before getting serious? And IF you two really click, the waiting til she is 18 for sex shouldn't be too hard. (nu pun intended).... (read in full...)
I think my crazy sister in law wants my husband!
Q. I think my sister in law is trying to destroy my marriage because she is jealous of me and hates me because she wants her brother, my husband. She is constantly putting me down but playing it off as joke so if I say anything it will seem as if I'm ...
A. 1 December 2011: Why does she even come visit your house, honestly she wouldn't be welcome in my house.
I would have to put my foot down, she sounds ridiculous.
If your DH won't do anything I would pull her aside and tell her that if she can't behave like a no... (read in full...)
She's 17. Do I keep in touch? Keep talking, or let her be until she is older?
Q. So im in college which is new to me after leaving the military and there is a girl in one of my classes who i absolutely enjoy talking to and she tells me she loves hanging out as well. she parks her car near mine most of the time so that we end ...
A. 1 December 2011: I don't see the huge age gap between 17 and 24, honestly. But I wouldn't pursue a physical relationship til she is at least 18. However, consider that at 17-18 she is still a "girl" and you are at 24 considered a adult.
Take it slow, Joe. Enjoy he... (read in full...)
Law-school girl drama-Llama!
Q. I'm 28 and have been studying with a 21 yr. old girl in law school. She started slacking a bit and I told her to shape up or I wouldn't study anymore. She said I shouldn't be so abrasive right b/f finals week. We were supposed to study together ...
A. 1 December 2011: Do you need her to finish your studies? I mean do you NEED to have her as your study partner?
If not, find someone else and let her do her "high school" "I'm too cool for school thing".
It's not up to you to help her through law school. Pers... (read in full...)
Went through his phone. Not sure what to make of findings
Q. Huge problem. I went through my boyfriend's phone almost a year ago, found nothing, but he got really pissed and I promised never to again. But I did tonight. And I'm freaking out a little because his friend (a girl) texted him saying if she didn't ...
A. 1 December 2011: In my opinion you SHOULD be able to trust your partner 100%, unless they have given you reason not too. And if they have given you reason not too, that needs to be worked out.
When you start to snoop his phone it shows a HUGE lack of trust an... (read in full...)
"Momma's boy" - attractive or not to women?
Q. Want to get some feedback from women here... I grew up without a father so my mother had to be both parents in a way. As a result, I've always been a "Momma's boy". She's not protective or invasive in my personal life we just have a very solid and ...
A. 1 December 2011: I think it really depends on the guy. I have to say I do find that a man who has a good & healthy relationship with his mother knows how to treat a GF/Wife. I think having a solid and healthy relationship with your parents is a good thing - at any ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 1 December 2011: thank you for the update.
I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to, but it's good to see that you have taken it in strides and are working to move on.
As much as it sucks to know that the marriage failed, sometimes it's just not me... (read in full...)
I feel like I am taking 2nd place to his smoking weed habit. Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend used to be a heavy pot smoker (i'm talking daily) and and gave it up for about 7 months as he knows im not comfortable with it. However, about 3 months ago he relapsed but i only found out as I caught him lying. Since then he has said ...
A. 30 November 2011: Go overseas, enjoy your vacation but honestly, I wouldn't expect him to change because YOU want him to change. Obviously HE doesn't want to change. Going on a trip won't get him to stop thinking about weed or even doing weed. So yes, I DO think you ... (read in full...)
Ladies, once you meet a new interesting guy, when do you allow that first intimate touch?
Q. Ledies, you meet a new interesting guy. When do you allow that first intimate touch? Is it any different if you meet him while you're hurting from a recent break up? Your answers are important to me....
A. 30 November 2011: I guess it would depends on what you mean by "first intimate touch" - if you mean sex or just a caress or holding hands. To me a caress on the face can be plenty intimate. If there is chemistry it would be hard to keep my hands to myself, but as far ... (read in full...)
I am interested in a 17 year old girl and her mother is encouraging us to have sex! Why??
Q. I am interested in a 17 year old girl who seems to like me but is a little reserved.She is an only child. Her mother is encouraging the relationship actively. She even told me that sex was okay if I loved her. What is mother up to? I find it a ...
A. 30 November 2011: That sounds downright creepy.
Maybe, she wants you to know that she doesn't think it's wrong for the two of you to have sex at some point.
Listen to your gut.... (read in full...)
Not sure I want to officialyl end the marriage, but I definitely want to make it legal. Any advise?
Q. I live in the state of New Hampshire and my husband and I have had a rocky relationship for quite sometime now. We have been married 14 and 1/2 yrs now. He doesn't seem to understand or want to believe that if things don't start to improve then the ...
A. 30 November 2011: Maybe this can get you started?
http://www.divorcewriter.com/Start_the_Process.asp?src=g_NHold_1b&gclid=CKet1Oq83qwCFQen7QodHElZsA... (read in full...)
I'm not model material and don't want my b/f to photograph me
Q. My boyfriend is a photographer, and he wants to photograph me for part of his portfolio. I insists I should do it but I'm so worried. The other girls he photographs are skinny models. I'm a uk size 8-10. I know I'm not fat but I will just not look ...
A. 30 November 2011: I think you should do it :) I had an ex who was a model, and he asked a friend of his (photographer) to take some pictures of me ( none were nudes) - I didn't want to at first, but honestly, those are some of the best pictures of me I have ever ... (read in full...)
Why would a girl ask a guy why he doesn't flirt with her when she knows that he is in a serious relationship with a live-in girlfriend?
Q. Why would a girl ask a guy why he doesn't flirt with her when she knows that he is in a serious relationship with a live-in girlfriend? I find it strange and rather disrespectful. Is this something that people generally do? Because I don't think I ...
A. 30 November 2011: Because said girl think the world revolves around her. Maybe she is VERY used to being hit on and when it doesn't happen she is going to question it.
If you were single and you met a guy you liked, you would want to know if he was single or taken... (read in full...)
After 1000 messages should I meet this online man?
Q. Okay, I met someone from Turkey over the internet I did not ask to be his friend he asked me. to make a long story short and numerous phone calls, and 1000 messages later he says that he is in love with me, and I feel the same for him my question ...
A. 30 November 2011: I think it seems like a "fairy tale" but for now it's all talk, and all fantasy (up to a point). I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou 100% it can easily be that you are in love with the idea of love more then the actual guy.
Should you meet him, may... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me over 12 times and gave me a STD. How do I cope with my hurt and the feeling he's going to do it again and soon?
Q. I've been with the same guy for 4 years we have a baby together but in the past 2 years he cheated on me over 12 times. One of the times he gave me an std I found out from his sisters friend because he gave it to her as well. Another time a girl ...
A. 30 November 2011: I'm wondering why you are still with him? You DO know that no matter how much you love him he isn't going to change? He keeps cheating because he knows you will take him back, the only one who is getting hurt is you, so I ask you WHY are you letting ... (read in full...)
I want a baby but my bf wants to first better financial situation. What should I do?
Q. Im 16 and lost twins 4 months and i was 5 months pregnant, it was the hardest thing ive ever had to go throu but my boyfriend was really supportive. after just getting sorted about forgetting loosing my twins ive started to really want another baby ...
A. 30 November 2011: I'm sorry for your loss, honey.
Chigirl is right, you need to wait. You boyfriend is right you two need to be financial secure.
Live life a little, you are only 16. There should be no hurry to start a family.
And consider talking to your... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 15 July 2010: I'm sorry I think she's been wanting out for a long time and didn't know how or when to tell you. So she used the excuse of being unemployed to move home. To start over.
As someone who had to give up more or less, my entire life for my husband ... (read in full...)
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