How do I stop crushing on him?
Q. How do I stop crushing on someone I have to see and work with everyday. The other night we were at a sleepover. He started sleeping by my side, holding on to me. At sometime during the night, I realized he had his back to me and was making out with...
A. 19 December 2011: Well, honestly I don't see why you even have a crush on this guy, none of his actions (that you have mentioned) seems like the kinda guy a girl would WANT to crush on.
He seems like a total horn-dog ( a guy who will sleep/make out) with anyone a... (read in full...)
So hard to walk away after so many years. Where do I find the strength?
Q. So the holidays are fastly approaching and I am dreading every minute of it. My husband and I have been together for 18 yrs now and it is now over. We decided a few weeks ago that he needed to leave after the holiday (only stayed cause of our 3 ...
A. 19 December 2011: I can't imagine being in your shoes. I'm so sorry. He sounds like he is having a huge midlife-crisis honestly and I DO think you are doing the right thing in both "letting" him stay for the holiday and asking him to leave asap afterwards.
You a... (read in full...)
I don't want my one night stand to be a one night stand!
Q. A year ago at Christmas time I met an interesting man at a party, there as an instant click, spent the evening chatting and flirting and got a cab home together (along with my sister) but he never asked for my number before hopping out at his place. ...
A. 19 December 2011: First off, I would never have gone home and had sex with him without knowing if he was dating your friend's BF, they could just have had a tiff that day and him chatting to you was his way of making her jealous, you just never know what people do to ... (read in full...)
My wife's sister openly flirts with me and "accidently" walked into the bathroom wearing just her panties!
Q. Do many young girls flirt (and more) with older men? My wife's younger sister has openly flirted with me many times and touches me and last summer she "accidently" walked into the bathroom wearing just her panties. Ever since I married her sist...
A. 19 December 2011: She might feel "safe" around you, you might be teasing the crap out of you, because a. she is jealous of her sister or b. because she can.
If you find it inappropriate you ought to speak up.... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 19 December 2011: I honestly think you are making a bigger deal out of this then you need too, but again, that might just be the difference in personalities.
My husband is a soldier and have deployed 3 times (in the last 7 1/2 years), which mean that while he is go... (read in full...)
I know for a fact that I'm in love my my science teacher
Q. I'm completely and utterly in love with my old science teacher. I'm 15 and a sophomore and he's 28. He teaches freshmen science so I no longer have him as a teacher. I know for a fact I am in love with him. He is the only person who can make me ...
A. 16 December 2011: It sounds more like a crush then actual LOVE.
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Am I being controlling, or am I just being cautious and protecting my marriage from further destruction?
Q. Hello, I need some advice and opinions. My wife and I have been married for 16 years and its been a pretty tough marriage from the beginning. We have both been faithful over the years, but not real happy. I just recently realized that I've been a v...
A. 16 December 2011: Yes you are being controlling. You know your wife and should TRUST HER, no matter who she goes out on the town with, she is WHO she is and you should after 16 years of marriage KNOW that person well enough to trust her.
Talk to her about what you... (read in full...)
Let's just be friends....
Q. Hello lovely people :) I am having a little rant here, because I truely do not understand the thinking behind this statement "Let's just be friends". Say you have been on a number of dates over a month or longer, you feel things are goin...
A. 16 December 2011:
Well be glad you didn't have sex with him, honestly sex doesn't really change anything. He might have thought well, if we have sex maybe I'll feel something for her. KWIM?
He just wasn't one for you.... (read in full...)
Guys! What are the motivations, excuses, reasons, justification for men who are cheating?
Q. I'm trying to better understand motivations for men cheating. So all the men out there... IF your woman is very attractive, always sexually available and ready for you, gives you massages, regularly cooks meals, works and pays her own sh...
A. 16 December 2011: Having morals is not "fashionable" any more, cheating however is the new "black" it seems.
Why do they do it? Well have have a few theories. 1. they think they deserve better 2. They think they won't get caught 3. That cheating is OK as long as ... (read in full...)
Let's just be friends....
Q. Hello lovely people :) I am having a little rant here, because I truely do not understand the thinking behind this statement "Let's just be friends". Say you have been on a number of dates over a month or longer, you feel things are goin...
A. 16 December 2011: He doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but I think he has come to realize that he just doesn't feel "that" way about you. I think the reason he kept asking you out was because he liked you as a person and was hoping he would feel more of a ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher a serious perv?
Q. I have a male teacher,lets just call him Mr. Y.I was in class today,and I was wearing shorts and a v-neck and he came up to me and said "Hi Leila,how are you?". I just said"Um,fine.".Then he told me that we were doing a test soon and gave me a ...
A. 16 December 2011: Not sure what you are looking for -since you already reported him.
Trust your gut.... (read in full...)
Does my husband need viagra?
Q. So every time me and my husband have sex it only last like 4 or 5 min. And after that he can't seem to get it hard again, it sucks he can't go another round.. he's 31 so he's young , n I'm 23 and I never get pleased by him..what can I do to make it ...
A. 16 December 2011: I would suggest he goes see a doctor before trying viagra. There can be a simple explanation to it.
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Boyfriend cheated with multiple girls
Q. Found out my boyfriend cheated on me with 5 girls from my area Including MY BEST FRIEND. His defence was " technically we're not in a relationship its more of a friends with benifets thing " He introduced me to his family as his girlfriend, birthday ...
A. 16 December 2011: You can accept that it is a FWB or you can dump him.
You can not change him or his perception of the relationship. Since he obvioulsy don't really care about how you feel about it.... (read in full...)
Husband and mother in law issues...
Q. I have been married to my husband since 2008. I moved in with him because him and his mom already had a house. She put the down payment and he pays the monthly morgage. His mom is 72 set in her ways and a perfectionist about the cleaniness of the ...
A. 16 December 2011: Honestly, I think your husband is wrong, absolutely. I would sit him down (without the MIL near enough to hear) and tell him that you have a NEED/WANT/DESIRE to spend that night just with him, since you are kids free. If he can't understand that I ... (read in full...)
Caught her having sex with 2 of my friends at our housewarming.....I'm so hurt she cheated but turned on at the same time!
Q. Hi. my girlfriend and i met a year and a half ago and weve just recently moved in together. Its both our first place on our own. A month after we moved in we had a house warming party. after a night of drinking i woke up to find my girlfrie...
A. 14 December 2011: Wow, had that been me, her back would be packed and she woudl be out the apartment and out of my life.
Most people get turned on when they watch sex, why do you think porn is such a huge industry?
What I don't get is why you didn't man up. A... (read in full...)
Live with family or live with boyfriend?
Q. I promise it's a quick read, if a bit long! This is a two part question: Part 1: My parents are asking me to pay for bills now that I just graduated and got a job (I make $25,000 as a receptionist). I would be okay with that but 1) ...
A. 14 December 2011: I will also echo, that it doesn't matter how much your parents make, you are a grown up, start acting like one.
That would mean paying your way. Rent, food, utilities.
I lived with my first BF from 19 to 24 - paying half ( sometimes more) ... (read in full...)
I unfriended an ex on Facebook, and I just added him again. Now its awkward!
Q. I dated Mr T for a short time and he ended things. We were friends first through work. I've carried a torch for years btw it hurt a lot when he ended it so I defriended him in FB not to hurt him but for the following reasons, to: Keep me from spy...
A. 14 December 2011: I agree with Olderthendirt.
People put WAY to much into FB.... (read in full...)
Too early to talk babies?
Q. Im in a relationship and have been for 10 months my partner split with his last girlfriend of 9 years they have one child 6 and still txt as if there friends in jan she walked out I was there for him and we got close and now where together he really ...
A. 14 December 2011: I would say it's too early if you aren't sure. I would give it another year to decide.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arrived for a 2 week stay with me without any money! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has just arrived for a 2 week stay (we're long distance) without any money! He says he's taking a month long break unpaid and has just enough to meet child maintenance payments during this time so I'm going to have to cover for him. He ...
A. 13 December 2011: Talk to him. Either figure out what he and YOU expect and what you two can work out or tell him to go home. How can a grown man in his late 20's not have saved up to go visit his GF? and to at least take turns on footing the bill? Unless he had to ... (read in full...)
Someone sent my girlfriend flowers at her office on her birthday.
Q. So my girlfriends bday was this pat friday and someone had delivered her over to her job a basket of Yellow roses with red tip, purple roses, yellow daisys and other flowers and a plush version of her favorite character. She initially thought that I ...
A. 13 December 2011: Could be Boonridge is right, that she sent them to herself to keep you on your toes.
Either way, it's flowers, they will last 5 days and go in the trash, why make such a big deal out of it? Yes, I DO think if she knows who sent them she should t... (read in full...)
He changed plans and is going skiing instead of taking me to my winter formal. Is it okay to go with one of my guy friends? What are your thoughts?
Q. So my boyfriend of a year and a half and I have been planning on going to my senior year winter formal together at my school (he attends a different school). He recently got invited to go skiing during the week of the dance. Upon asking me if I ...
A. 13 December 2011: Um I can't see why you shouldn't be able to go with a male friend if your BF blows you off to go skiing.
Am I justified in my beliefs?
Yes, I would absolutely go. And not alone.
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My husband is saying hurtful comments about my weight! Help!
Q. I need help! I have only been married 1yr. Well next month will make it a year. We have been together 3years though. I am in the military and i am currently deployed. I work out a lot to keep stress down, and to give myself something to do. My ...
A. 13 December 2011: What is wrong with him? As far as I know men don't (in general) want fat unfit wives they want a wife other men want..
The problem is NOT you, it's him.
Talk to the chaplain, maybe he can give you some tools in how to deal with your dumb husban... (read in full...)
Someone sent my girlfriend flowers at her office on her birthday.
Q. So my girlfriends bday was this pat friday and someone had delivered her over to her job a basket of Yellow roses with red tip, purple roses, yellow daisys and other flowers and a plush version of her favorite character. She initially thought that I ...
A. 13 December 2011: I wouldn't put too much into what kind of flowers they were, could be what was ordered had to do with an amount, not particulars. So I think as far as that you are over analyzing it.
Someone DOES have a crush on her and does know where she work... (read in full...)
I've lost my libido!
Q. I am Gay Guy, in a Civil partnership. I have appeared to lost my libido, and my partner has turned to using phone lines for his sexual release. I get very frustrated with him, and at a loss as how to handle this....
A. 13 December 2011:
I agree, get checked out, could be something as simple as low testosterone. And honestly if you are annoyed with him for his behavior I can imagine it's even harder to feel like having any kind of sex with the guy.
Bad sex can also lower ones l... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex makes me uncomfortable... should I invite her to the wedding anyway?
Q. So I can't decide whether I want one of my fiance's best friends to come to our wedding. We are having a very small wedding - basically just family and very few friends due to cost and the fact that it is going to be a very informal wedding...
A. 13 December 2011: I would invite her and hopefully she will have the common sense to say no, thank you.
There is no real reason to be jealous of that girl.... (read in full...)
Discovered his secret phone and dating site registrations...but he has managed to turn it around on me for violating his privacy!
Q. I discovered that my boyfriend of 4 years has been registered on several dating sites and texting off a secret cell phone. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he went very serious and asked me why I have violated his privacy. He has offered ...
A. 12 December 2011: What else can he do? If he WAS a good guy he wouldn't have cheated in the first place, so obviously he isn't the man you thought he was. I would leave him to himself and his new "dating site" and find a decent fella instead.... (read in full...)
I cant make myself leave him even though I know I should!
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for 2 years. I never really introduced me to his friends as gf. For them i was just his friend, he is not cheating on me, so i never really raised any issues on it. He never really talked about our future. Yesterday he...
A. 12 December 2011: Only person who can change this situations is YOU. Stop being a doormat and leave his sorry ass.
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My son's father makes much more money than me so why is he always asking me for money?
Q. Ok My son,s father has a grown daughter, 23 hrs old, whom lives with him on/off (when she is not at her boyfriends) and now I find out that he has been paying her car note which is almost 400 dollars a month. Her and I have never gotten along as I ...
A. 12 December 2011: Sorry for the late answer, yes I would not want to be with him. I think it's nice that he still feels responsible for his daughter, but all he does is enabling her into being a grown spoiled brat opposed to a child spoiled brat.
I think your son... (read in full...)
Do we have different ideas about gift giving or is he just cheap?
Q. Hi,im confused any suggestion will be appreciated.im in relationshi for ayear, we serious talking marriage now, bt sometimes i wonder whom im dealing with,.my b/f acts stngy.i buy him gifts on every occasion, cooks him meals,and treats him well ...
A. 10 December 2011: Stop giving him gifts, if you expect him to give you one, because you gave him one. Tit for tat doesn't work.
Does he work? Do you know how his financial state it? Seems to me he's not very financially stable, I mean he can't even pay to call you... (read in full...)
Best friend and I like the same girl. She likes me. Do I ask her out and betray my friend?
Q. I really like this girl and she told me she liked me but the problem is that my best friend likes this girl too and everyone knows that he does. Everyone also knows that this girl likes me but almost noone knows I like her. So here's the situatio...
A. 9 December 2011: If he is obsessed with her, I wouldn't ask her out. I would talk to him though if you still want to, but I rather not have a date/GF then lose a friend.... (read in full...)
Late period (and very important date very soon)! Any ways to bring it on?
Q. I've always had really regular periods, and if they haven't come exactly on time, they've been a day or two early. Never late though. And yet, this month it's taking a while to arrive - I'm about three days past my expected date. I wouldn't worry ...
A. 9 December 2011: Stress can deplay it, but I don't think there are anything you can do to speed it up. If you don't like sex during your period you can still do plenty of other "fun" things.... (read in full...)
My gf cheated on me. Should I spoil things with her new guy or just let her go?
Q. ok i'm in a dilema should I be a total git and ruin things for her or should I let it go tell her I dont want to hear from her again and explain how much she's hurt me. my gf and i split about a week ago. The relationship had been hard for ab...
A. 9 December 2011: I'm willing to bet he knew she had a BF (you) and he still hit on her and texted her, so.. I don't think he gives a crap. Also, those two deserve each other, I would not waste any more time on either of them.
Remove her from your life, block he... (read in full...)
Monogamy: How do I get there with the guy I've been with for 2 months.
Q. I've been dating this guy for 2 months now and I want to know when is it appropriate to ask if he wants to be exclusive at some point. Or at 34 years old - is it just assumed at some point? We are now spending two days/nights a week together. It s...
A. 9 December 2011: No, it's never assumed at any age. You need to put it out there as plain as you can.
I agree with Fatherly Advice - you really needs to start talking to this guy.
Setting boundaries is not a bad idea once the two of you decide what you two are... (read in full...)
He asked what turned me on, and is now avoiding sexual intercourse because of it!
Q. Got a really strange question for you. My boyfriend has asked me over time what turns me on. He knows some things but recently he asked again and I finally told him one thing. Now he seems to be avoiding sex with me. I told him that I dont wa...
A. 9 December 2011: He is avoiding sex like the plague, because he doesn't want a child right now. I think that is pretty logical.
You need to talk to him. Reassure him that you wouldn't TRY and get pregnant to fulfill the "fantasy".
I honestly, think he had hop... (read in full...)
My son's father makes much more money than me so why is he always asking me for money?
Q. Ok My son,s father has a grown daughter, 23 hrs old, whom lives with him on/off (when she is not at her boyfriends) and now I find out that he has been paying her car note which is almost 400 dollars a month. Her and I have never gotten along as I ...
A. 9 December 2011: Stop giving him money. Instead of giving him money put them aside for YOU to do stuff with your son.
Unfortunately, CS doesn't cover 1/2 the costs of raising a child. HE should know that, but honestly I don't think he cares.
Personally I ... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 9 December 2011: Cerberus I think you are spot on, but I do think that OP assumes her man is, on top of all his "husbandly duties", a superb mindreader.
I can't imagine why any woman would want to be so dependant on a man (or partner) that she can't think or... (read in full...)
Do girls think about their ex's penis
Q. I was wondering if girls think about the size of their ex's penis. My girlfriend made it a point to tell me the sizes of her ex and it hurt my self esteem because i'm just average. And she sounded like she was gloating for them. For me and guys I ...
A. 9 December 2011: Not really, if I think back (fondly) it's cause an ex was good at using his "joystick" not because of the size. But really I don't spend time reminiscing about ex's or they "joysticks".... (read in full...)
I am pregnant but don't want to tell date I've met online
Q. ive been speaking to this guy who i meet on plent of fish for over a year now and never meet untill 2 weeks ago and have met twice now we get on really well over txt phone and in person, but the thing is he told me he wants to be with me and ...
A. 9 December 2011: This is not something you can pretend isn't there, you are 5 months already, trust me it won't be long. This you have to be honest about. You think he will want to be with you if he find out you lied?... (read in full...)
If someone in my family is depressed, am I liable to get depressed too?
Q. I'm not sure if this is a stupid Question to ask and if it's the right site to ask it on but I'm scared of becoming depressed. The tone in my house has gone down a notch since my sister has got herself into some trouble and has brought my mothe...
A. 9 December 2011: Yes up to a point, you are more likely to catch it (as you call it) but you are also more likely to see it before it escalate and hopefully get help.
http://lifeyourwayonline.com/is-depression-hereditary/... (read in full...)
Dating online and he was dishonest. What should I do?
Q. hi, so im having a hard time in know what to do in my relationship.. I met this guy on a credible website that he had been on for a few years before i ever joined. lets just say it was a military website...three years later we had taken our ...
A. 8 December 2011: Honestly, I would SERIOUSLY reconsider this. He has been on that website claiming to be military (sorry, as a military wife that REALLY offends me) - he had lied about his age and he is busy "getting" to know other members too. What DO you re... (read in full...)
I started the relationship for all the wrong reasons and now I am not sure how to go on! help!
Q. I have been with this guy for 2 years, he's divorced 2 kids. I did not want to date divorced guys with baggage but I couldn't seem to be getting anywhere fast so I went out with him after meeting via internet dating which I started because I hadn't ...
A. 8 December 2011: So he wasn't the "right" fit for you, doesn't mean you have to stay with him. End it with him, the sooner the better. Take some time to figure out WHAT/WHO you want from a BF/partner and work on that.
Sometimes we make mistakes, but they are only... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 6 December 2011: I think your husband's armor is still pretty darn shiny from where I sit :)
If you wanted him to drive behind you the whole way, you should have told him.
Be glad to know that he has faith in you and your abilities.
Put on them big girl ... (read in full...)
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