Duped Wife? Or not?
Q. I am married for a little under 4 years. I found out my husband has cheated on me from the beginning. He is one of these people who find it easier to "blame" me rather than to take any responsibility other than "I'm sick" routine. Although he ...
A. 14 November 2011: No, honey, get your ducks in a row and then divorce his dumb-ass.
I doubt it will come as a great big shock to him.... (read in full...)
How do I tell the girl I've been seeing for a month, that I have herpes?
Q. Ive just found out ive got herpes, ive been seeing a girl for about a month. we've used protection every time we've had sex how do i tell her i have it. Shes a old friend as well and i feel really bad about having it, i don't know where its came ...
A. 14 November 2011: Yes you have to tell her.
http://www.stdtestexpress.com/herpes/?ibp-adgroup=google_paid_research&gclid=COPtz9WytawCFYuc7QodDjjPIg... (read in full...)
My dear friend was in a horrible car accident, but instead of contacting me first, he contacts some chick he's been talking to for 2 weeks?
Q. I'm not sure if this really counts as a relationship or love question, but I really don't know where else to go, and I really need advice. Last night, one of my dear friends was in a car accident. I was informed shortly after the face, absolutely ...
A. 14 November 2011: I think you are overreacting a bit. He sees you as a friend and her as a potential mate. I'm sorry that might not be what you want to hear.
Does he know how you feel about him? Because I think he is clueless..
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Dumped by text. Why should I do the right thing? They all betrayed me
Q. I got dumped by text and cheated on. Then for some dumb reason everyone took my exes side. Then I ran into the two faced sheep and they ignored me. Why should I do the right thing? They all betrayed me. What makes them think that it won't happen...
A. 14 November 2011: I'm sorry that is just harsh and immature to dump someone by text.
But look at it this way, IF this is how they act when it comes down to crunch time, are they really people you WANT in your life? Karma will come by sooner or later.
Time fo... (read in full...)
He's really slow at taking the hint
Q. Ok I'll get right to it! My boyfriend is the shy, quiet, reserved, sweet, tall, mysterious, handsome type of guy. We've been good friends for a year and started *officially dating a month ago. Thing is I'm his first girlfriend and he knows I've had ...
A. 14 November 2011: Men aren't mind-readers.... If you want something you need to express it with words or actions.... (read in full...)
Other Non-Pregnancy Methods
Q. Hello everyone, I thank you for taking your time reading this, I was only wondering if there is any other way to prevent pregnancy other than condoms and birth control pills. I really appreciate it, thank you....
A. 14 November 2011: For your age group? no. I wouldn't suggest a IUD at 16 - nor would I suggest the implant. Condom AND birthcontrol pill together is the BEST solution.
Or.... no sex at all.... (read in full...)
Dating students as a TA?
Q. I am currently a TA at a university and I teach a lab course for pre-meds. The semester ends in a few weeks and there will be only one more lab session meeting next week. Other than talking with the students about class related material, I only joke ...
A. 14 November 2011: I think as a teacher or teacher's assistant you need to maintain some sort of professionalism.. hitting on female students isn't it.
And honestly, you are being played... ... (read in full...)
I walked in on a co-worker speaking ill of me!
Q. Awful day at work, coworker from another department helped out in our office. When I left to help clients, the "helper" was talking about my writing! I had returned to the office and stood in the door frozen as she talked to my colleague about my ...
A. 14 November 2011: Try to let it roll of your back. There will ALWAYS be people out there full of judgement and critism. Those you learn to spot and stay away from.
Don't stay home because someone can't keep her trap shut. Don't miss out on your job over this.
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Are people joined at the hip once they marry?
Q. Once people get married are they joined at the hip? Do they get time outs like a week at a time, a few times a year? On average is this acceptable? Kids can survive without a parent once in a while right? Do you think giving partners time out will ...
A. 14 November 2011: I have never compared my marriage to others. Nor have I ever really wanted a holiday on my own. I quite like the company of my husband and kids. With that said, I have ALWAYS managed to make time for ME and MY hobbies. I have also travelled with my ... (read in full...)
Sex while music is playing?
Q. Hello everyone, just after a few personal opinions here! Do you think it's a good idea to have sex for the first time while music's playing in the background or can that be a distraction from (or to) your partner? I'm thinking classical music, ...
A. 13 November 2011: I think music is a great idea.... (read in full...)
He cheated, I broke it off, but I want answers!
Q. my bf of a few years cheated on me its been a week since i broke it off with him. im still in a lot of pain. i told him to leave me alone and he said he would respect that. i promised my self to cut off all contact i blocked his number and deleted ...
A. 13 November 2011: There is no such thing as closure. I don't care what people say. There can be a sense of understanding and accepting, but closure is really rare.
Nothing he can tell you will make it hurt less. Nothing he can do will make you really understa... (read in full...)
She went from a stripper to an online web-cam model. Am I being unreasonable being uncomfortable about her new job?
Q. My brother and I were eating at a restaurant and I spotted a beautiful girl. I gestured to my brother to look at her and she noticed that. As my brother and I walked out to my car, she came outside and my brother urged me to approach her, which I ...
A. 13 November 2011: She was upfront about being a stripper. Kudos to her. I'm guesing she has no great skills (as far as education or "real" work experience) that could land her a job to pay for the lifestyle that stripping has made her used to.
When you started ... (read in full...)
His ultimatum: Get rid of my online friends and date site profiles,or he is going to leave!
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months has given me an ultimatum. Either I get rid of my on line friends and Date Site profiles,or he is going to leave. I have been on them for 3 years and enjoy it. I feel a bit like he is telling me what to do. Which shall I go ...
A. 13 November 2011: Depends on what kind of Online friends you have.If it are people of the opposite sex that you flirt with and have sexual conversations, then I don't blame him - IF they however, are people you like talking to in a non-sexual matter - I can't see why ... (read in full...)
She kept it from me that she is HIV positive!
Q. Am a guy who in April meet a girl, i fell in love with her so much that even though she sometimes acted childsh i would readly forgive. unfortunately she kept something important a secreat her HIV status, of which she is HIV positive. our ...
A. 13 November 2011: I will repeat what others said, you need to retest 3 months and 6 months after last unprotected encounter.
I guess it is up to you whether this is a deal breaker or not. The lying and hiding it would be for me. And.. I'm not sure I'd would wa... (read in full...)
Are people joined at the hip once they marry?
Q. Once people get married are they joined at the hip? Do they get time outs like a week at a time, a few times a year? On average is this acceptable? Kids can survive without a parent once in a while right? Do you think giving partners time out will ...
A. 13 November 2011: I know some couples who ae "joined at the hip" and some that aren't - it really comes down to the couple.
The thing is to find someone who feels the same way, have the same ideals and values.... (read in full...)
Why did this special connection end?
Q. Hi guys, i'm so confused. And asking you guys on the internet is the last resort I have to get some advice and clear my mind. Anyways, I've been in a FWB relationship with this guys for about 2 months. We started off by hooking up when we were bot...
A. 13 November 2011: Maybe he knows you aren't interested in a relationship, but he is? That might be why he is pulled away.... (read in full...)
The kiss was a step too far
Q. This is a little embarrassing to talk about. Well, my roommate and I had started experimenting with each other earlier in the year, and now we do quite a bit of stuff on more of a regular basis. Anyway, recently while we were messing around, ...
A. 13 November 2011: Sounds like he is in denial. Honestly if you aren't sure, pull back from anything sexual.
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Boyfriend cheated three times, is that reason to dump him?
Q. Hi there. I've gotten together with this guy about 2 weeks ago after we had been dating for 3 months. I found out he's cheating on me just three days after we got together and yet he's done it 3 times already. I'm really confused since he seems t...
A. 13 November 2011: Unless you want to wait for him to cheat a fouth, fifth or sixth time... I'd dump him.
Obviously he isn't going to stop.... (read in full...)
Do girls always find nude art in a guy's place offensive?
Q. Ok, I studied film in college and since then have gotten interested in still photography as well, especially photographers like Howard Schatz, Patrick Demarchelier, Andreas H. Bitesnich, and Herb Ritts. Nudes happen to be one of the subject-matter ...
A. 13 November 2011: I have seen a lot of those in my days, some nude males some nude females. Doesn't bother me.
BUT here is the rub, so many women are body consious and therefore start to over analyze WHY you have naked women on your walls. I think if you bring ho... (read in full...)
My best friend's boyfriend likes me??
Q. Hi everyone, About a month ago my best friend started going out with this guy. Before that relationship, she was together with this she loved so much. And he broke her heart, so she was really depressed for a few weeks. So now she is together...
A. 13 November 2011: Don't do it. It's that simple. A good friend is for life, boyfriends aren't always.
Don't let guys touch you, unless invited to do so.
google The Girl Code.... (read in full...)
I want to go back to counselling. Will my counsellor be offended that I didn't come back to counselling after summer?
Q. At the end of the last school year, I used my university's free counseling services. Though my counselor was helpful and supportive, I felt panic each time, before I went. My heart would beat extremely fast, and it was difficult to breathe norm...
A. 12 November 2011: She won't be mad or offended, just go for YOU. YOU are the one needed counselling.
I think she will be glad that you trust her enough to go back.
Go for it. It's YOUR mental health.
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I was a really good friend. Even though he told many lies. I thought we had 'something'. So why does he now say we are just work colleagues?
Q. i was close friends with a guy until recently. i helped him a great deal with work, money and was a really good friend supportive and loyal, but something always bugged me. It was the stuff he was telling me which i found out to be huge lies. ev...
A. 12 November 2011: He sounds like a selfcentered moron. Delete his number, don't talk to him again. Move on. He isn't worth worrying about.
It seems like he lives in his own little world of lies, when he gets caught in one of them, he gets mad and "attacks... (read in full...)
My right breast has been itchy, is this normal?
Q. I'm 16 and for some reason my right breast mainly my nipple just randomly got itchy. I looked it up on google and it took me to breast cancers. Of course I got scared, and asked my mom. She said I was to young for it. [my grandma die from it so ...
A. 12 November 2011: With the cold weather season kicking in it is most likely dry skin more then anything. It can partly be hormonal too.
If it still scares you, tell your mom you want to see your doctor. Learn how to do your own breast exams.... (read in full...)
Did I freak her out with my last text?
Q. Hi, I met a girl last week at my friends party. She danced with me for over an hour we kissed quite a bit and she really showed interest staring into my eyes holding me all that stuff. She asked if I wanted to exchange numbers with her and we did. I ...
A. 12 November 2011: A LOT random with that last text and honestly, if you want to get to know her, don't text her in the middle of the night.
You want to get to know her? Pick up the phone and call her, ask her out for a movie or coffee, but stop trying to "get" to... (read in full...)
10 years younger boss: Is he trying to fight the fact that he may be attracted to me?
Q. I am 56 years old and I look good for my age. I work with a lot of guys, and I am friendly with all of them. But, my BOSS makes me feel uncomfortable. He avoids looking at my eyes... when I try to talk friendly with him, he repeatedly tells me t...
A. 12 November 2011: Eh, does it really matter if he has a crush or not? I highly doubt you got the promotion cause he fansies you, if so, he really shouldn't be boss...
He is your boss, keep it profesional and classy. And maybe there is another promotion in sight.
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Should I have a woman to woman talk with his ex? he talks to her every day. What should I do about him not answering me when it comes to her?
Q. I met my boyfriend almost a year ago. Our relationship moved pretty fast, we seemed to click right away and began spending all of our time together. While he did disclose that he was separated and getting a divorce he failed to tell me that he ...
A. 12 November 2011: I don't think you will accomplish anything by talking to her honestly, she knows about you, she knows about the baby and she knows how it felt to be put second.
You need to sit your BF down and explain it again. How it makes you feel.
Honestl... (read in full...)
I would hate to fall for her and find out she's playing me.Am I a convenient fantasy or a genuine love interest?
Q. I met a woman online in a chat room. It wasn't any sort of "Adult" chat room. It was just casual. She lives one state over from me, but we have never met. At first we were just friends, but over time our conversations became more intimate and ...
A. 12 November 2011: I have to agree with the other two posters. If she is a Med student she doesn't have time to both be a waitress and talk to you as much as she does.
The fact that she keeps talking about how hard it is to make ends meet without strippin... (read in full...)
I don't want to end up getting attached to someone who I'm going to end up having to take care of like a baby when I'm older.
Q. Hello everyone, To make it kinda short and sweet, I'll just get right to the point. I've been dating this guy who's two years older than me for about four years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Being a Senior this year at high school, it defiantly go...
A. 11 November 2011: I think you know what you want and that is a good thing. I don't think he is getting that.
Would I break up with him over this? That really depends, if he has other qualities and some kind of ambitions/dreams for the future.
What attracte... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to get a tattoo of her ex who died and it worries me that I'll always be a second choice in her life
Q. Hi i am in a dilema my girlfriend wants to get a tattoo of her ex 's name who died it worries not cause im jealous but because im afraid of being her second choice and not being able to make her as happy as he did i dont wana tell her not to get the ...
A. 11 November 2011: It'sd her body and her mistake to make. I DO think it is a mistake to add a name to your body in the form of a tattoo, but maybe it is part of her mourning process. After all the guy is dead, all she wants it to remember him. Doesn't mean that she ... (read in full...)
Now I wish I hadn't sent those nasty drunken texts!
Q. I been seeing a guy for a while, purely on a sexual basis but it's usually only when he wants - yes I do realise he is just using me but it doesn't really bother me too much as it is the best I and he (well he claims anyway) have had. Anyway he ...
A. 11 November 2011: Eh, let it go. In the end it's just not worth it. ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much for handmade birthday cards from my grandsons?
Q. I have two sons, 32 and 30 years old and I have two grandchildren, one is 4 and other is 1 year old. It was my birthday today 11/11/11. Earlier this week I asked my sons to make, with my grandchildren, a birthday card for me with the date 11/11/11 ...
A. 11 November 2011: I don't think you are asking too much either, you might be expecting too much of them though.
I wouldn't HINT at it, I would tell that all you really would love to get is a card :)
My kida are a bit older but they still make their grandpa's ... (read in full...)
Why did I get used and how do I resist him?
Q. I did something really stupid, it's a typical issue really. I slept with this guy, I'm 18 and he's in his early 40's. We get on really well, we work together and he used to make me feel special, he would hang out with me, hug me etc. we kissed on ...
A. 11 November 2011: Instead of being mad at yourself, you should have a little anger towards him. After all he took full advantage of you and your youth, old pig!
Now you know that he is a dirty old guy who just wants to get into your pants, and that he has a GF, do... (read in full...)
I have recently met a lovely guy, I like him a lot and we have a lot of chemistry... but he's married!
Q. Hi everyone:) Just want you opinions on something... I have recently met a lovely guy, I like him a lot and we have a lot of chemistry... but he's married. He has been separated from his wife for a few years and they are in the process of sellin...
A. 11 November 2011: Normally I would advice any one to stay away from a married person, becaue 9 out of 10 married people don't really want a divorce.
If you think ther is potential for you two, then stay friends, but I would let him know that you aren't interest... (read in full...)
Could a sexual friendship with soon to be X sister in law be wrong?
Q. I'm currently separated from my wife, her brother is also separated from his wife. His wife and I have been secretly communicating by text, email and have met at a resturant to talk. I am attracted to her sexually. I think she could be sexually ...
A. 11 November 2011: I think until you are BOTH legally divorced that is not smart to start up a new relationship.
As far at it being your soon-to-be-BIL's-ex - I don't know.. I think it comes off as a little "inbread" if you get my point. I can so much potentia... (read in full...)
My wife wont have anal sex, should I go to a prostitute or will I regret it?
Q. Hello friends, i know i have been several times here on DCupid issues about that issue, but still i want it to get this help from you! Please! Here it comes: i wish i could get intercourse in the anus in my wife but she doesn't want it anymore, we ...
A. 11 November 2011: Dude, Read Chigirl's answer and grow the hay up! ... (read in full...)
Rocky relationship with Married ex. HELP.
Q. So i have an ex boyfriend, i guess you could call him that i love him alot! Anyway we started of as good friends and things went from there. However, he decided to go back to his wife who he was separated from, they have three kids together etc. ...
A. 11 November 2011: Sorry, but I agree, you are wasting your life and time on this guy. He is NOT going to leave his wife for you.
You are convinient when he has "needs" but other then that, he can't be bothered.
Why are you letting this guy walk all over you? Ho... (read in full...)
Is it bad that my friend who is 19 has foreplay with strangers?
Q. Do you think it's bad if a girl who is only nineteen, has foreplay, but not sex with guys she's met on a night out? Because, my flatmate does this and says it's being young and having fun. She said she wouldn't ever sleep with anyone she just ...
A. 11 November 2011: I think she is setting herself up for some real trouble.
Who does that? Invite strangers home for "foreplay"? Bizarre. I guess it's like having loads of "heavy petting" session with various strangers.. I don't get it.
I think she needs to be ... (read in full...)
I hate my girlfriend's new haircut
Q. My girlfriend got a new hairdo the other week and I hate it, but I don't have the guts to tell her. When she said she was going for a haircut I thought she meant just a light trim like she always had but little did I know she would be coming home ...
A. 11 November 2011: I would tell her the truth, but I would do it as "diplomatic" as possible. As in, to be honest I liked you hairstyle better before because it fit your personality, face whatnot better.... (read in full...)
He said I "owe" him sex!!! Should I feel bad?
Q. On another note, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend last week after him controlling me for over 2 years. A week before I had began getting closer to my guy friend but I hadn't noticed it 'till I broke up with my boyfriend. It's been a week since my ...
A. 11 November 2011: You don't owe him anything. Tell him to go fly a kite.... (read in full...)
Should I wait until my boyfriend returns from Afghanistan to break up with him?
Q. Hey everyone, Quick back story: My boyfriend is in the Marines and he is currently deployed to Afghanistan. We've been together for a year and a half and had been friends about 5 years before we started dating. The problem: I started a ...
A. 11 November 2011: Yikes, I know how it is with a loved one deployed. My hubby used to tell me don't make car packages as he could get "everything" over there, I still made him some from me and the kids and he still... would point out stuff I "should" have added.
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I feel as if I'm just his bit on the side...
Q. hey, im a bit fed up tbh, i admit i do get boys attention but its always for one thing. there have been 3 boys, where we met up and everything and later found out they had a gf. and then the others text met up get want they want and then ony cal...
A. 11 November 2011: Try get to know a guy the "old fashioned" way. As in sp-end time with him, get to know him by talking, not just texting.
And honestly, yes I would end it, if you aren't looking for some " fun" then end it. He is NOT looking for a GF or anything... (read in full...)
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