Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 10 November 2011: Dump her, and stay single that way you won't have any issues with feeling "bad" for cheating.
Poor girl.... (read in full...)
What does he really think and want and why with me?
Q. So there's this guy, we'll call him D, he always flirts with everyone but he is always doin' sexual stuff to me in class, such as stuff like grabbin' my butt, pokin' me in my boob, runnin' his finger up across my butt, or vibrating it, all in a ...
A. 6 November 2011: Because he is a disrespectful asshat. Slap his hand next time he lays a finger on you and tell him to keep his mitts to himself.
Don't let some clown grope you like that.... (read in full...)
Birth control and tumors-does anyone think their is a connection?
Q. Dear Cupid. I am 17 yrs old and am diagnosed with a benign tumor in my breast. They call it "fibroadenosis". I've also been on birth control for 7 months but have not told the doctor. Does anyone think me being on birth control has anything to do ...
A. 6 November 2011: None of us here are doctors.
This is CLEARLY something you ought to talk to your doctor about.... (read in full...)
Is my sister taking advantage of my late cousin's husband? Is it OK for them to date just one year after my cousin passing?
Q. My cousin died of cancer one year ago at the age of 46. She was married for 14 years to a wonderful man (whom I will call "Bill"). They decided not to have kids because she was diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of their marriage, but were ...
A. 6 November 2011: Do you think Bill should be alone for the rest of his life? In order to honor his wife?
I think it's up to Bill to figure out when he is ready to date again. He will never forget your cousin, no matter who he dates or when he starts to date the... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gets angry when I mention things I want to do. How can I cope better with her reactions?
Q. Hi.. My name is Chris and i am 23 years old.. i have a girlfriend for 1 year and 3 months.. we are happy and in love.. sometimes i feel like i cannot do anything else than seeing her..i feel like i cannot watch soccer or generally do anything ...
A. 6 November 2011: Seems like you have to walk on egg-shells around her. Maybe it is HOW you say it, not what you say that she reacts so strongly too.
And of course she gets upset when you say you want to travel by yourself. I mean most people are in a relation... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: Two months together and you only see each other on the week-ends.... That would be something like 8 dates. So no, you REALLY don't know each other that well. Not well enough to you wanting to make HER official and for HER to want to sleep with ... (read in full...)
Wife cheated on me while we were engaged!
Q. I don't know what to do. I just found out from one of my wife's girlfriends that she cheated on me while we were engaged. We just got married 1 1/2 years ago. While we were engaged, I applied for and got a great job, I had to travel a few times in...
A. 4 November 2011: I call BS on her not remembering. You need to sit her down and tell her you need to know the truth. Hopefully she will respect you enough to give it to you.
Also, I guess YOU need to decide if this is something you can live with, forgive and move... (read in full...)
Is it okay to set a mood for my first time?
Q. I'm planning to lose my virginity to my boyfriend in the not-too-distant future, but while I'm excited about the prospect I know I'm going to be pretty nervous too! I'd like to create an atmosphere in the bedroom (nothing too extravagent - maybe ...
A. 4 November 2011: Honestly, I think he will appriciate it. And yes, I think it's ok to set a mood.
... (read in full...)
He said that if I don't find a way to enjoy giving him head that our marriage will be over!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost four years. When we had been dating for a month I told him that I hated giving head. We have been married for a little over a year now and he is telling me that if I don't find a way to enjoy giving him head ...
A. 4 November 2011: I'm 100% with YouWish., but if you want to stay married, I think Chigirl has an excellent solution.
My question is this, did you give him head before you got married? And if you did, why did you stop? If you didn't.. well, then he ought to have ... (read in full...)
Doubtful if I did the right thing.
Q. Hi, When I was younger ( 4-5 years ago ) I started a relationship with a girl from my class. It went fine and was your run of the mill high school relationship. We used to chat for hours over the internet and phone. We would hold hands and talk in ...
A. 4 November 2011: I don't think you did anything bad. Unless your culture is all for marriage before sex. Did she date you because you two made plans to marry at some point? Or did she assume you would marry her?
You were young, physically, emotionally and mentally... (read in full...)
I'm gutted! I can't believe that after 8 weeks he's moved on!
Q. My ex of three years finished with me in a nasty way in june - by changing his locks on me. we were continuously arguing about his children etc and he said he couldn't take any more. after a month he wanted to start seeing me so we both decided on ...
A. 4 November 2011: I think the two of you were never on the same page or even in the same book as far as your relationship goes.
He kept some of the photes because he liked them and he could show them to others, without having to explain his relation... (read in full...)
How should I ask this girl out over facebook?
Q. Over the past couple of days I’ve met a girl at university. We seem to be mutually interested in each other and I think I have a more than decent chance of successfully asking her out. Despite the fact she’s on my course, we are doing completely ...
A. 4 November 2011: I would make an affort to TRY and see her face to face and ask, if THAT doesn't happen you could write her an email through her Facebook and tell her you have been wanting to ask her out, see how she responds.... (read in full...)
Why do I get aroused when I wear a velvet blouse, I am a male, not gay??
Q. I wored brown velvet blouse ,when iam alone in my home ,i don't no why wored.i love to wear a velvet blouse ,only the velvet blouse not other blouse ,iam not a gay ,iam a real man ,pls ans me to tis question...
A. 4 November 2011: First off, Gays are real men too..
Some fabrics has a feel to it, that a person find arousing. Some like silk/satin some like fur, others like velvet and others again prefer simple cotton.
There is absolutely nothing abnormal about it.
Now... (read in full...)
Two kids with a rebound girl I never loved. What advice would you give me?
Q. ok were to start me and my parnter have been together for 5 years on and off. since the birth of my daughther shes been jealous because i love her more than my patner. but the true matter is i didnt love my partner that much to start of with she was ...
A. 4 November 2011: I agree with the first Anon.
You need to set new guilde lines as co-parents and non partners. A ring on the finger doesn't fix a broken relationship.
Why keep trying when it obviously doesn't work? And for crying out loud, STOP having unprotect... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend and her mom to stop giving money to her brother? I think he's cheating on his wife!
Q. how can i stop this? hi my girlfriend and her mum keep giving money to there brother / son. he's got a good job makes 1800 a month driving for the same company as me. but he keeps asking for money and saying " dont tell my wife " i think hes ...
A. 4 November 2011: I don't think it makes him a cheater, neither him being good looking or prefering big boobs. Or even "mooching" money of his sister and mother.
You CAN tell your wife that he makes as much as you do, so she really doesn't need to give him extra mo... (read in full...)
How do I know if he's truly serious with his new girl?
Q. I would see this guy on and off very randomly for the past year or so. I recently see through Facebook that he's seeing someone. She's ten years younger and from the looks of her pictures she seems very immature. She dresses very sleazy and every ...
A. 4 November 2011: How SHE looks and acts is really a moot point, I think maybe you should judge his taste in girls more then the actual girl? If you absolutely feel a need to judge.
Honestly, I think he sees you are a "booty call" girl who if he is hard up for a la... (read in full...)
I want HIM to say that we're together, what do you think?
Q. Hi, =) well, I have started at a new college, and I've been there for a good month or so I think (I'm a girl by the way). I had not too recently broken up with a guy..VERY badly I must say, probably the most horrific 'romantic' experience of my life ...
A. 4 November 2011: Kate, jut take it slow and enjoy the flow. You could ask him at some point wher the two of you stand, if you are exclusive and "bf/GF".
What's the hurry?... (read in full...)
We were "together," while he had a gf, then he split, what was the story?
Q. It had taken me a long time to get over a guy that I fell hard for. We had great chemistry but never wanted to make me his girlfriend. He's 34 and has joint custody of his son with an ex. I am just thirty, independent, hard working carreer woman. I ...
A. 4 November 2011: Let it go, he isn't worth it. Obviously he has a rather "trashy" taste, maybe that is why he doesn't want a relationship with you? You just don't "fit" into what he wants. He might be one of those guys who prefer younger women because he thinks they ... (read in full...)
Why does he act like we're not texting or talking at all?
Q. So there's this guy that I really like and we had been texting for a while but he doesn't act like we talk 24/7 or that we even text at all... I just don't understand. We really hit it off and are always flirting with each other but at school? ...
A. 4 November 2011: For some texting isn't "real" and if he can't show you attention in school, stop texting him. He seems to like the attention from you two texting, but.. he doesn't seem interested in YOU as a person.... (read in full...)
She is more like my sister so I don't know why the sudden coldness and indifference to my wedding plans! Help!
Q. I have a bit of a problem with my friend that i dont no how to address. She is more like my sister and we have been inseperable since young children so it is obvious then that when i started planning my wedding i asked her to be my maid of honour. ...
A. 4 November 2011: Talk to her. After all she is your best friend. Maybe she thought you didn't want her ideas about the wedding, maybe she felt like her input didn't matter. Talk to her, that is the only way you will truly know.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend, ex-gf and bf problems! How do ask for my time and money back?
Q. Hi, Girlfriend problem, So to start, we have known each other for 2 years and started dating 8months ago and we have been perfect all the way through. We live apart (50miles) but see each other once a week/2weeks. We are set to be engaged in the s...
A. 4 November 2011: I hope I don't offend you, but you come off as very needy.
1. the GF, I understand you would like to speak to her more each evening, so maybe you could call her? Or just tell her that you miss your long conversations. It could be that she is tryin... (read in full...)
I like her a lot, but I don't want to wait forever, what do I do?
Q. Hi. I'm hoping I can get a little help with this situation I've found myself in. I met this girl a few months back. She started working at my office and we became pretty good friends, we would often tease and flirt a little with each other. I wa...
A. 4 November 2011: Well, I think she kind of used you. Her relationship wasn't going as she wanted it too and she got the attention she needed from you. Two wrongs doesn't make 1 right. She is emotionally bonding to you, while still being with him. Many would see that ... (read in full...)
Why would his ex send naked photos if nothing happened between them?
Q. Dear Cupid my bf recently told me his ex gf ever sent hum naked photos of herself and although he said that it was quite some time back and that he had already deleted them, I still feel uneasy. Of the random things we always talk about, he suddenly ...
A. 4 November 2011: Maybe photos were exactly as far as they went at 14. I don't know why he tells you about it out of the blue, but I would guess he wants to make sure you know he doesn't keep secrets.
I suggest you work on trusting him and not letting your imaginat... (read in full...)
My lazy, manipulative in-laws are living off my wife and I find this hard to deal with. Am I being heartless? Or am I justified in taking a tough stance?
Q. My questions are based on how to handle supporting my wife's family financially. To give you some background, my wife and I are are married for over two and a half years now. Her family consists of her mother and sister. She lost her father t...
A. 4 November 2011: I have never been in a similar situation. Neither mine nor my husband's families are "moochers".
To be honest, I don't think you are being hard at all. Sit your wife down and make a budget, see how much you two could save up instead of handing ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: Maybe, it would be a lot easier for us all to give you our point of view if you put in the amount of time you have dated this "unofficial" girl. After all, not all girls want to sleep with a guy that they are still unofficial with. It has NOTHING to ... (read in full...)
I already have trust issues and now my younger boyfriend wants a threesome!
Q. I have been in a livein relationship for 15mths now. I ham 43 my boyfriend is 28. He now wants a 3sum, him, me and another girl. At first I wanted to please him but have since told him that I was worried about the following 1 I couldn't ...
A. 3 November 2011: I think he knew you would do this out of fear of losing him.
It's something YOU really don't want to do, so sit him down and tell him. I can't do this. It's not for me. Now if a 3-some is more important to him, then your relationship, what do ... (read in full...)
Does she mean she doesn't want to talk to me anymore?
Q. I met a girl about three weeks ago. I hungout with her two days after we met. Anyways, we talked alot the first week. We were both flirty and I could tell we both liked each other. She slept over the next weekend and we had a good night. The next ...
A. 3 November 2011: Yup leave her be, no calling, no texting. Time to move on.... (read in full...)
What do you think she meant by "and modest"?
Q. I'll make this very short... I said. "I may not be a great doctor(I'm really not a doctor),but I'm a pretty super guy. Her response "and modest". Now I know the meaning of the word,but man I'm prolly reading way into this...but she knows I r...
A. 3 November 2011: I think she was following your directions and being sarcastic right back at you.
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After he walked out, I joined a dating site and when he found out, he dumped me!
Q. Me and my boyfriend (ex now) had an argument,and as normal he walked out. The day after I joined a dating site. Only a day I know, but we was not together. He has found out and now dumped me. Its the longest we have ever broke up. He says he does ...
A. 3 November 2011: Eh, I don't blame him. It's kinda like a slap in the face, like he meants nothing and you are already looking for hi sreplacement. Put the shoe on the other foot for a minute. HOW would you feel if HE had done the same thing?
PS How did he find ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to allow me to see my friends?
Q. I'm coming to you all to see if I can get a few opinions on my marriage. Recently I have come to notice a few things happening. I had asked if I could go and see my friend that is about an hour drive from where I am. He said no, that it wasn't ...
A. 3 November 2011: Why do you need his permission?
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How to play the player ?
Q. how do you play a player at his own game ..?but when u like the guy and trying not to show feelings ..when ur just pure (friends with benifits lol ). guys n women hu have or are players please to answer thanks...
A. 3 November 2011: I have never played with "players". It's not worth it.... (read in full...)
My wife made out with another woman when I was not there. Should I be mad? Worried? Turned on?
Q. My wife made out with another woman at a Halloween party. Should I be jealous, mad? We have talked about fantasies involving a 3 some from time to time over the years. A few times, during sex, we have even talked about her doing something with ...
A. 3 November 2011: If it upsets you it upsets you. Why not call her out on it?... (read in full...)
How do I keep a guy interested without going overboard?
Q. So, I've met a few lovely guys in the past few years, who I would have loved to have a relationship with, but I keep blowing it. I fall for them quite quickly, text them more often than I should and think I come on a little too strong (without being ...
A. 2 November 2011: Use texing only for confirming plans or letting him know you are late or whatnot, do NOT try and have a realtionship based on texting.
If you want to TALK to him CALL him.
Take the time to get to know them, hang out, see a movie, have a pi... (read in full...)
I want to meet up with her, but we didn't meet on a dating site. Am I reading too much into her being nice?
Q. Hi all, I have been talking to a girl on a penpal site and she seems really nice and I was considering after a bit more talking to ask about meeting up. The problem is, she says that people seem to just message her saying things about her being'...
A. 2 November 2011: I would plan casual outings and hang out together. No talk of relationship or sex.
Be her friend, that IS what she is looking for.... (read in full...)
I did all the housework at first, then we had a baby, and now he wont help out!
Q. Ive lived with my husband for 8 years. We had our first child this year. I work full time and so does he. Before we had a child, I did all of the housework, yardwork, clothes and dinner myself with no help. Now that we have a baby, I have very ...
A. 2 November 2011: Yes! to making "honey-do-lists!"
Sit him down and divide the chores. Make a nice list of each of you and stick them on the fridge.
Tell him, THIS is what I need you to help out with. And IF he doesn't get it done.. Ignore it and do your own ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me 5 times, and broke up with me, but I want him back because I love him!
Q. Hello Agony Aunts and Uncles. Well i'm having a very hard time moving on from this guy i really love, care about and wanna be with but he broke up with for a very stupid reason. This isn't the first nor the second nor the third time i've been in ...
A. 2 November 2011: You want him back so he can cheat on you some more? I just don't get it.
You need to realize that you can stand on your own two feet and behaving like a doormat will result in people walking ALL over you.
YOU are in charge of how others treat... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over my husband's cheating?
Q. Why cant I get over my husband's cheating on me and joining internet dating sites during a 5 year period? I have been to marr counselling with him and to my own counselling but this still haunts me almost everyday even though it has been 2 and h...
A. 2 November 2011: I don't think I could have said it better then So_Very_Confused.
It was something HE chose to do, knowing that it WOULD hurt you when you found out.
Yes, cheating can happen if a relationship is not working 100 %, but the thing is, the pe... (read in full...)
When boyfriend's parents come visiting, things go missing!
Q. Me and my partner live together, we've been together for 4 years now; he's a great guy, kind, loving and caring. Our relationship does have the occasional squabble, but over trivial things, not things that cause break-ups in other relationships. ...
A. 2 November 2011: I agree, have your husband deal with this. Also, maybe take them out to dinner in stead of having them at your house.... (read in full...)
Do most men want a younger woman and can't get turned on by their older wife?
Q. I'm really puzzled now. I want to know the truth about sexless marriages, when it is over 20 years long marriage. Now we reached 1 year with no sex, due to my husband lack of sexual desire, what started with an ED. But it stayed undiagnosed ...
A. 2 November 2011: He could have low testorone or Hypo gonadism. BOTH decrease the sex drive significantly. And both not something neither he nor you would noticed since it happes (usually) over a longer period of time) Hypo Gonadism, can give weightgains in the areas ... (read in full...)
What do I take my father in law's comments to mean?
Q. I recently told my father-in-law (in a state of despair and hurt and expecting some empathy) about his son's (my husband) cheating on me with different women. Father-in-law's response was that I was not the only woman to have been hurt. Does his ...
A. 2 November 2011: I think he is telling you that you aren't the first women to be cheated on. Seems like cheating isn't a "big deal" in their family. Which I find sad.
I don't think he was talking about previous GF of your husband, but women in general.
I also ... (read in full...)
I'm worried this might have just been a one night stand to him....should I give him more time to contact me or move on?
Q. I met a guy on a quiet night out who I instantly clicked with, we spoke for hours about everything and he seemed really genuine, we took a walk after closing time (I wasnt drunk neither was he) and it was really nice, we sat on a park bench for ages ...
A. 1 November 2011: When he texted you, did you text him back?
If you did text him back I'd give it a couple more days and if he doesn't get ahold of you, chalk it up as a ooops.
If you didn't text him back, I would text him, with a quick hello, how are you. See... (read in full...)
He thinks I am playing games. Is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy I'm currently seeing?
Q. is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy i'm currently seeing? i just don't feel like i know him well enough yet to sleep with him, but in his mind i think he's getting frustrated because he thinks i'm just using it as an excuse and that im a...
A. 1 November 2011: I agree with Auntie CindyCares, I don't like the term "witholding sex". That means you are using sex as a bargaining chip, nothing more.
If you don't feel like you know him well enough, be upfront with him. If he isn't ready to wait TIL you are ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: Well, let me put it like this, IF the girl you are dating now ( the celibate one) hears about you having meaningless sex with some FWB, WHILE you and "celibate girl" were "dating"... I'd be willing to bet you she will dump you for cheating.
If yo... (read in full...)
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