Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....
Q. My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...
A. 28 October 2011: Seems like you are on the path of "getting totally over the cow" ! Good for you!
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Why do men have affairs despite not being ready to leave their partners?
Q. Why do married men like to have affairs with other women, though they are by no means ready to leave their legal wives? What is this mentality? Don't they have any fear for the consequence? Don't they feel anything bad about other parties (both wife ...
A. 26 October 2011: I think anyone who cheats (man or woman) is selfish and selfdestructive. They all KNOW it's wrong, but will justify it any way shape or form they can, usually by blaming their partner.
People who "serial cheat" do it because they have gotten a... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....
Q. My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...
A. 26 October 2011: Why waste time on her? You already wasted 7 months with her. Why do you feel a need to "catch up" with her?
I think you are putting yourself in a position to get hurt all over again. IF she really cared about you, she wouldn't have cheated ... (read in full...)
Am I weird for not wanting to sleep around or cheat on my boyfriend? All my friends seem to be doing it!
Q. Why are my friends doing this? am I weird to think is wrong? My friends say am boring and I should change my rules when it comes to guys. I've always been the kind of girl to only kiss a guy or have sex with a guy when we're in a relationsh...
A. 26 October 2011: I agree with CaringGuy, maybe you have the wrong friends if that is how they act.
You have to follow YOUR moral compass, do what you believe is right.
If the same girls jumped og a bridge into a 100 meter deep gorge, would you even feel tempte... (read in full...)
Should I confront her husband and let him know what his wife has been doing with me for the last 2 years, or let nature take its course?
Q. well , where do i start , was working with this girl for a couple of years , we became the best of friends , would talk about every thing and any thing , she is married , im single , and has kids , i knew all this before any thing had happened , ...
A. 26 October 2011: You could tell her that if she doesn't tell him, you will.
However, if you DO tell her husband, she sin't going to come running to you when he wants a divorce.
And how much do you really know about her marriage?
Obviously there is mo... (read in full...)
Should I tell people I'm a virgin when I meet them?
Q. I'm 26 and still a virgin. I've not had many boyfriends, i'm quite shy and don't go out much - prefer saving money for holidays and concerts. Whenever i meet someone should I tell them i'm a virgin or not? Thanks...
A. 26 October 2011: No, I don't think you need to make announcements of your "sexual status" until you have gotten to know a guy really well and are ready for it. When you are ready, tell the guy, so he knows. Other then that, it's no ones business.
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I've only ever been with her, and our sex life is boring
Q. A little back story, I recently turned 23, about 5 years ago I started talking with a woman I met long-distance, she had been coming to see me for about a year, and then I went to see her. I stayed at her house one night, and they kicked her out.. ...
A. 26 October 2011: I think the only thing you are open to are YOUR fantasies and ideas - think about it.
If it's not working for you, end the relationship. Find someone who is as "adventurous" or "curious" as you.
You know how people say you can "lead a horse to... (read in full...)
Do I have another child or go to college?
Q. Hi Everyone, Im having trouble making up my mind. Im 22 and married. I have a 2 year old son. Ive been thinking of going to college but lately ive been thinking of having another kid. Why? well because i want my kids to be around the same age. Im ...
A. 26 October 2011: I hope you do and that you acomplish your goals!~... (read in full...)
Please advise me!! We were best friends, more than friends & enemies, where is this going?!
Q. Please help .. im so sick and tired of this! My bestfriend's boyfriend was the boy version of me and we began to talk and got to know each other more and more. I started to like him, the feelings grew stronger and i was pretty sure he liked me too. ...
A. 26 October 2011:
Two wrongs never make a right :) (as to the Girl code) Because others do stupid/hurtful stuff never justify you to do them, if you know what I mean.
This is the age where you start to realize that having a moral compass is a good thing ( and ... (read in full...)
Is he just leading me on for fun? How do I approach it with him without offending him?
Q. Hi, i'm not sure where to go with this situation. My best friend knows i'm gay, and is completely fine with it, as in it's something we talk about daily. He's not got a girl friend anymore and hasn't had sex for a few months so i know he's desp...
A. 26 October 2011: Ok so he's curious but not curious enough to actually try it.
Don't ask him and don't spend more time feeding your crush. He says he doesn't want "male/male" sex, so respect his choice. Even if his actions tells you something else, it could be... (read in full...)
Is he just leading me on for fun? How do I approach it with him without offending him?
Q. Hi, i'm not sure where to go with this situation. My best friend knows i'm gay, and is completely fine with it, as in it's something we talk about daily. He's not got a girl friend anymore and hasn't had sex for a few months so i know he's desp...
A. 25 October 2011: Tell him to get off you and stop teasing. See how he reacts.
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Why does fiance want to put wedding rings on layaway when we have the money to buy them now?
Q. My fiance and I have been together going on 4 yrs. We are engaged for about 2 yrs. Wants to put the rings on layaway. We have the money to right now. The thing is I asked if we can. He simply answered we can but is just another bill coming to us. ...
A. 25 October 2011: He is trying to be smart about it, spread the cost out without digging into the savings, I don't see the problem.
You ask if he wants to marry you? Well you are engaged right? That means in the future you are BOTH expecting to marry each other. I... (read in full...)
Drunk party made me spill my secrets in front of my bestfriend! Help?
Q. Well first of all yes i know i am underage but hey just thought id have abit of fun it isn't like i do it all the time so please do not lecture me about drinking i know the effects and what i am about to say i did bring it upon myself. ...
A. 25 October 2011: Let it go. We all make those mistakes.
If he has the good manners as to "forget" about it, you can do likewise.
However, now you know, drinking makes you blabby.. So watch your intake.... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why do guys only want to sleep with me and not have a relationship?
Q. hey, i am 21 and know people say im still young should be enjoying myself not worried about realtionships but (and please dont judge me) iv slept with 53 boys and only 3 if had a realtionship with. it isnt that i dont what a reationship beca...
A. 25 October 2011: It's pretty simple. Getting to know a guy via text isn't working for you. It is not getting to KNOW some one with some random back and forth texting.
TAKE the time to actually know them. THAT mean hang out, see a movie, go to a museum, a soccerga... (read in full...)
He's cheated and given me an STD! How do I confront him?
Q. Hi everyone I have just found out my boyfriend of a year has been cheating on me and now I have a std I really loved him but now he has been cheating on me I know I have to break up with him how do I bring this up to him I know he has been cheating ...
A. 25 October 2011: Eww!!! what a man-skank!
I would box up all his things at your place and dump the box on his door steps with a note, you gave me an std you nasty sob! Tell your other women she needs to get tested and so do you.
After that.. I would forget all... (read in full...)
Advice for an English girl moving to America?
Q. Hey I'm an English Girl looking into doing one of my university years abroad in the US. There are 2 parts to my question really: 1) I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we are in a fairly long-term comitted relationship, and this i...
A. 25 October 2011: I'm from Europe living in the US and it is a cultureshock, but not "that" big, maybe because I have lived in several European coutries as well. When I was 18, I took a year off before starting Uni and worked/lived in London it was a blast. When I ... (read in full...)
I found out my husband fathered another child! What should I do?
Q. I'm so confused. I've been married to my husband for nine years next month, and we have two boys together, who are five and three. We were a happy family up until last night when my husband told me that he'd fathered a child, another boy, with ano...
A. 25 October 2011: Did this happen before you were married? How old is the child? Is he paying support to the mother?
Can you forgive it? Well, that is totally up to you.
I don't see he has ANY excuse to cheat. And being DUMB enough to not even use protection? ... (read in full...)
Is it time to give up on love?
Q. I am a 42 year old woman and I think I’m about ready to give up. I was married for 14 years when my husband left because he decided he was gay (although he later decided he was bisexual). Then three years later I fall for another man. After 6 ...
A. 25 October 2011: Don't give up on anything! 42 is still young enough to live life.
I understand the "complex" you might feel, but when you look at it... it's about THEM not you. Your first husband didn't turn GAY/BISEXUAL because of you. He most likely always f... (read in full...)
I need advice! Someone I thought was a dear friend has scammed me for 2.5years!
Q. can anyone advise me plaease. its taken me 2.5 years to realise the guy i thought was a dear friend has been using me and scamming me for money. i saved him from getting sacked and believed all his sob stories about being in financial trouble when ...
A. 25 October 2011: Yes, he will always be a liar, cheat and scammer. It has worked for him with you and mot likely countless others.
Learn from this. Take away that giving money to people is not always the "right" thing to do.
If the amount is big enough and y... (read in full...)
Please advise me!! We were best friends, more than friends & enemies, where is this going?!
Q. Please help .. im so sick and tired of this! My bestfriend's boyfriend was the boy version of me and we began to talk and got to know each other more and more. I started to like him, the feelings grew stronger and i was pretty sure he liked me too. ...
A. 25 October 2011: First off.. Girl Code.. YOU do not date or go after your BFF's BF.. big no no.
Also, don't date BFF's ex's.. It's awkward, can cause drama you don't want and besides if he wasn't "good" enough for your BFF, is he good enough for you? IF he didn'... (read in full...)
Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?
Q. Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...
A. 25 October 2011: Thing is, men and women.... judge anyone they meet in the first maybe 15 seconds? and what do we all judge on, given the short time? Looks. Looks are just not enough to keep a most women interested long term.
Some say that VERY masculine men like... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seems to be focusing way too much on his ex and I can't stand it anymore
Q. I would be very greatful of some help please, this problem has dragged on in my mind for far too long and I'm becoming more and more depressed in my relationship that I'm not sure if it's worth continuing it anymore. I've been with my partner for ...
A. 25 October 2011: I think you have outgrown him, quite simply put.
He will never stop this behavior. This is something he has no notion of even considering changing. He likes all his "dirty" memories. I think it makes him feel.. potent. Honestly, I don't think ... (read in full...)
I've only ever been with her, and our sex life is boring
Q. A little back story, I recently turned 23, about 5 years ago I started talking with a woman I met long-distance, she had been coming to see me for about a year, and then I went to see her. I stayed at her house one night, and they kicked her out.. ...
A. 25 October 2011: I think you are together because you think you should be, or because it is convinient. I don't see any love there. At least not from you to her.
I also think, you come of as rather selfish and passive-agressive. Thinking that the relation... (read in full...)
Ex-wife, husband ties. Effects on a new relationship or marriage?
Q. I'm seeking opinions on a situation with my husband and his ex wife.They have children together so I understand they will always have some connection/communication although the two daughters,and a son are all grown with lives and families of their ...
A. 25 October 2011: Yuck, sounds a lot like my situation about 5 years ago. IT is hard to deal with.
The thing is, in your case, he had been doing this (talking, supporting, advicing) his ex for 16 years before you came into the picture. So for him (and her) it feels... (read in full...)
My friends tell me he's dangerous
Q. dear cupid, i take guitar clases once a week, and i've been with this teacher for over a year. at first he seemed normal, but like he has become really weird now. He calls me stuff like princess and my love... he tells me he loves me and tha...
A. 25 October 2011: Tell your parents, get a new teacher. This one is a totaly CREEP!... (read in full...)
Do I have another child or go to college?
Q. Hi Everyone, Im having trouble making up my mind. Im 22 and married. I have a 2 year old son. Ive been thinking of going to college but lately ive been thinking of having another kid. Why? well because i want my kids to be around the same age. Im ...
A. 25 October 2011: I agree, go with college you are only 22, so there is still PLENTY of time for more children.
Get the college out of the way, it really is much harder to get done with 2 kids. There will always be excuses not to go back, yet.
Do this for... (read in full...)
I assume this is nothing more than him just flirting with me?
Q. I will try to keep this as short as possible. I have a male friend (acquaintance) I have known for 6 years. I see him about once a week maybe less and text and speak on the phone with him from time to time once a week. Over the last year t...
A. 25 October 2011: I have a friend like that (known each other since we were 6) when I was in my late teens, I thought I had fallen for him, but he wasn't feeling the same way about me, so we stayed friends and always had a great time together, we were actually each ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment and will a girl mind if her virgin boyfriend had a bj from someone else?
Q. Im a virgin and for awhile ive been wanting to get a blowjob. Is this okay for me to do because ive always wanted to be in a real relationship before I started to experiment with sex. Will it be okay for me to experiment a little since im single ...
A. 25 October 2011: If you believe in sex being a casual thing, then go for it.
I'm from an older generation/different "school" and I just don't get how anyone bothers with sex without meaning. If the urge is that great.. well then there are plenty of way to self-ple... (read in full...)
He's like a jack in the box..popping in and out of my life, constantly. How do I deal with this guy?
Q. I met "busy bee" a year ago, we hit it off right away and the chemistry was just wow. at first he seemed excited i was excited he was my first of everything, my first real explosive kiss, we connected!! we would link up here and there, I thought he ...
A. 25 October 2011: Have you told him to stop playing you like a yo-yo?... (read in full...)
He's my emplyee and the apple of my eye. Can we be more than that? Do you think that it's all wishful thinking on my part?
Q. I recently hired a new male employee (I am a gay male) who is 16 years younger than me. We have a great relationship at work and have even hung around together after work on a few occasions. He knows that I am gay, and single, and he is well over ...
A. 25 October 2011: Good luck!... (read in full...)
Does he want me or my body?
Q. Hi I’m having trouble figuring out if this guy likes me or just wants me for my body. So I’ve known this guy for about 3 years, but we have never really started hanging out till the beginning of this school semester. We go to the same college and ...
A. 24 October 2011: Tell him you are interested (if you are) and see where it takes you. If yo uare unsure of what he "wants" from you take you time to go on dates (just you two) and get a feel for him before you jump into bed.
It seems to me that he really likes yo... (read in full...)
I found out that my girlfriend was talking to another guy, on the phone? What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend was working and a guy that she use to hangout with called her and they were on the phone for 20 min or so. Should I get mad at her? Plus she was ignoring my phone calls. What do I do ...
A. 24 October 2011: How about trust your GF? If they constantly were on the phone with each other, I can see why you might be mad, but from what you have written, I don't see the big deal.
Was she ignoring your calls because she ACTUALLY needed to work?... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment and will a girl mind if her virgin boyfriend had a bj from someone else?
Q. Im a virgin and for awhile ive been wanting to get a blowjob. Is this okay for me to do because ive always wanted to be in a real relationship before I started to experiment with sex. Will it be okay for me to experiment a little since im single ...
A. 24 October 2011: Would it be ok if your potential GF GAVE another guy a blowjob before she met you?
I think you need to figure out your priorities. Either you want a GF and do the "firsts" with her, or you want to experiment. You can't really have both.
Though ... (read in full...)
I assume this is nothing more than him just flirting with me?
Q. I will try to keep this as short as possible. I have a male friend (acquaintance) I have known for 6 years. I see him about once a week maybe less and text and speak on the phone with him from time to time once a week. Over the last year t...
A. 24 October 2011: It seems like you have told him at least TWICE that you like him ( in a roundabout fashion) and he hasn't reciprocated.
I would just enjoy the banter and stop trying to read into things that may or may not be there.
He doesn't seem like a guy ... (read in full...)
He has told me he is bi and he knows I'm gay. Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend. We have been friends since second grade and I've liked him since sixth. I think he likes me too but he already has two people he is interested in, both girls. I don't want to lose the friendship if my observation is ...
A. 24 October 2011:
If he is actively pursuing girls, I would not tell him about your feelings. I think he already knows you like like him, but he hasn't reciprocated. I think he wants to "just" be friends.
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Are these signs a stranger likes you?
Q. there is a guy in my school and he has been staring at me for few weeks? the first time, i caught him staring at me from across the room, so i stared right back for who knows how long (but pretty long), and he looked away first. i don't think much ...
A. 24 October 2011: Don't overthink it ( you already are)
Yes, I would guess he is interested. If you get a chance say hi to him and see how he reacts.
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I haven't had a first kiss yet?
Q. I am 18 years old and have yet to have a first kiss let alone a first boyfriend. I do feel really bad about it especially since most of my friends have fwb's and hookup buddies. I wanted to wait until I have a boyfriend to have my first kiss, b...
A. 24 October 2011: I think you have to figure out deep down what you really want.
You can go out there and have meaningless sex, kisses and hook ups or you can take the time to find the guy you really want to share this with.
I just don't see the point of doing i... (read in full...)
My biggest fear is being cheated on?
Q. I haven't had a boyfriend yet, but my greatest fear is being cheated on. I guess it's because growing up my dad cheated on my mom and even went as far as to introduce me to one of his mistresses. But my greatest fear is being cheated on and hur...
A. 24 October 2011: I think you are on the right track logically, but actually living it can be much harder.
I would say, take the time YOU need to get to know a guy (when you start dating) before being intimate. Talk about your morals and values and even your fea... (read in full...)
Why did I bleed during foreplay when I've lost my virginity 10 yrs ago?
Q. i'm female, almost 26. lost my virginity 10 years ago when i was almost 16. i was with my boyfriend tonight and after we had some foreplay he had blood on his hand. it most definitely is not that time of month. i cannot and do not understand this. i ...
A. 24 October 2011: Time for a check up, honey.
He could have nicked you with a nail, but to be on the safe side see a Gyno.... (read in full...)
When my ex said "I met a nice guy", was that her way of trying to make me jealous? Or does she really want me to leave her alone?
Q. So I recently am going through a break that happened about 2 months ago or so. I was with this girl for about 8 months and I still miss her. The other night I got drunk (yes stupid) and texted her. I guess I just wanted to text her when I was sober ...
A. 24 October 2011: It means she has moved on and you need to delete her number and move on as well.... (read in full...)
He's my emplyee and the apple of my eye. Can we be more than that? Do you think that it's all wishful thinking on my part?
Q. I recently hired a new male employee (I am a gay male) who is 16 years younger than me. We have a great relationship at work and have even hung around together after work on a few occasions. He knows that I am gay, and single, and he is well over ...
A. 24 October 2011: Since you are his boss and in the "position of power" I think you need to cool it. I'm pretty sure he likes your company and his job, but he should NEVER feel like he HAS to date the boss to keep his job, know what I mean ?
(and I'm not saying t... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into this guy's behavior's?
Q. I started getting weird vibes from a man at work. He is married with two kids. We work together and keep it professional. I noticed that when people are not looking, he will wink at me with a smile. He did this twice. If I need something that ...
A. 24 October 2011: I think it can be one of three things, 1. he is trying to make you feel at ease or 2. he is hitting on you, 3. he is a flirt.
I'm honestly guessing #3.
If you ignore the signals he keeps sending out, hopefully he will realize that you are not... (read in full...)
He's like a jack in the box..popping in and out of my life, constantly. How do I deal with this guy?
Q. I met "busy bee" a year ago, we hit it off right away and the chemistry was just wow. at first he seemed excited i was excited he was my first of everything, my first real explosive kiss, we connected!! we would link up here and there, I thought he ...
A. 24 October 2011: You either accept that THIS is how it is or you tell him you back off, block his number and move on.
He is not going to change any time soon, this seems to work well for him.... (read in full...)
Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?
Q. Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...
A. 23 October 2011: Usually that is the first thing you notice about someone, their looks. I have met many people in my life who weren't exactly lookers but they exuded such selfconfidence and humor you don't notice their looks. Some people just grow on you. ... (read in full...)
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