I feel as if I'm just his bit on the side...
Q. hey, im a bit fed up tbh, i admit i do get boys attention but its always for one thing. there have been 3 boys, where we met up and everything and later found out they had a gf. and then the others text met up get want they want and then ony cal...
A. 11 November 2011: Try get to know a guy the "old fashioned" way. As in sp-end time with him, get to know him by talking, not just texting.
And honestly, yes I would end it, if you aren't looking for some " fun" then end it. He is NOT looking for a GF or anything... (read in full...)
Have I been downgraded to FWB??
Q. Your thoughts will be appreciated. Thank you, I need to write and for somebody to listen :) So just a summary, because I've written many ... My boyfriend of 9 months cheated on me with a LDR in another country thru this computer and skype. I do...
A. 10 November 2011: Yes, he wants you for booty calls. Someone to sleep with when he feels like having sex with someone familiar.
He sounds like a piece of work.... (read in full...)
A week after his wedding (not to me)...he's sleeping on my floor. HELP my head is frying ? What do I do next?
Q. Hi..I got friendly with a guy a few years ago. he was a single parent in a long distance relationship, we became friends..... I babysat the children, took them to school...grew to love all of them and we had some really fabulous 'family' times ...
A. 10 November 2011: Honestly I'd tell him to go back to his wife. You can't be his doormat.... (read in full...)
do women tend to get into FWB relationships with someone for whom they have at least some romantic feelings, hoping it will turn into more?
Q. This question is just out of curiosity, and it has nothing to do with my situation (I'm married, faithful, etc.) There seem to be a lot of questions on this board by women who have feelings for their FWB. Typically, the questions are if their FWB...
A. 10 November 2011: Sageoldguy1465 nailed it.
I think most women have some feeling for the guy, but may or may not be ready for a relationship.. or they know the guy isn't, so they "settle" for a FWB hoping for more.... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend is still Married but getting a Divorce?
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend has been hiding the truth from me that he is married to someone else for the past 2 years that we have been together. I had to beat the truth out of him because I had always been suspicious that he was hiding ...
A. 10 November 2011: What else do you think he could be hiding? lying about?
Why bother with this man? He is NOT going to divorce his wife, if he had those intetions he would have been honest and divorced by now.
... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 10 November 2011: Dump her, and stay single that way you won't have any issues with feeling "bad" for cheating.
Poor girl.... (read in full...)
Realisation that your ex is a bloody 'user!!'
Q. Tonight, I have (at last) realised why my ex keeps in touch with me...because he's bored (as he work nights) and for a 'confidence' boost...(occasionally, but rarely texts me when he's off...!) I am no longer going to play 'his game'... Just...
A. 10 November 2011: Maybe up until now you got something out of the communication too? Or maybe you are getting to a point where you are over him?
Don't feel bad about it, just stop taking his calls/texts. Block his number.
... (read in full...)
My Guy Friend wants more than friendship but I don't feel the same!
Q. So there's this guy. Who I've known for five years, but really never felt anything toward romantically. He's my best guy friends and has helped me through alot but the thought of dating him, let alone kissing him, or holding his hand creeps me ...
A. 10 November 2011: You need to tell him you just don't feel any chemistry, don't string him along.... (read in full...)
My wife shared a hotel room with a male colleague!
Q. Is it ever OK for a married woman to spend the night in a hotel room with another man? My wife has been working at this new job for 2 years. The company scheduled an out of town trip for seminars which will help her get a promotion that s...
A. 9 November 2011: I'm usure why you didn't suggest she get her own room or why she didn't just do that on her own.
I find it really unprofessional for co-workers to "hook" up on a seminar like this.
I think she called you because she was really uncomfortable ab... (read in full...)
Considering 2 guys for a FWB relationship but should I consider either of them?
Q. About 8 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. It was really hard on me because i was really in love with him. It took me months to get over it. Now Im finally getting my life back and I feel really good. But I'm starting to miss having someone ...
A. 9 November 2011: Sorry, I agree with Pinktopaz. FWB is meaningless sex, because you don't have to put in the work of a relationship, you are just in it for the physical benifits.
If you want a guy to hug, kiss, talk to and have sex with you obviously don't re... (read in full...)
I treated my b/f like a king, he cheated and I need to move on but I'm a mess!
Q. my boyfriend of three years cheated on me. i know i did nothing wrong i treated him like a king and it still backfired.i know he has a lot of issues but none of that was an excuse for what he did. i am devastated! a complete mess. i want nothing to ...
A. 9 November 2011: I doubt the guy loves anyone but himself. He might have liked you a lot, but obviously not enough to repect you and not cheat on you.
I know it's hard, but I would stop worrying about what he might or might not have felt, thought, done... It was h... (read in full...)
He chose to watch sexy nurses instead of time with me!
Q. My boyfriend chose watching sexy nurses on TV instead of reading the horoscope with me...what should I do?...
A. 8 November 2011: I agree with Eyeswideopen.
I don't see the problem?... (read in full...)
How can I improve my self esteem?
Q. I have very low self esteem now. I've never had much self esteem anyway, but now that I'm newly single, it's plunging down to a whole new level! I feel ugly, especially. I can't help comparing myself to other women, even to my own friends, and ...
A. 8 November 2011: Focus less on your looks and more on your personality. There is something out htere that YOU are good at. That you SHINE at. Find it and focus on that.
Thin hair? Well, I'm pretty sure you can find a competent hair dresser who can help you find... (read in full...)
Considering 2 guys for a FWB relationship but should I consider either of them?
Q. About 8 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. It was really hard on me because i was really in love with him. It took me months to get over it. Now Im finally getting my life back and I feel really good. But I'm starting to miss having someone ...
A. 8 November 2011: I am from a different generation then you, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
I don't believe in having casual sex with someone you know, just so you have someone to have sex with. To me it feels like the experience of sharing sex, should m... (read in full...)
Does an interest in transexual porn make me gay?
Q. If i get turned on my 'lady-boys' 'she-males' or whatever you want to call them does it mean i am gay? or bi?...
A. 8 November 2011: It's hard to say. I think there might be some (at least ) bi sexual curiosity.
She-males are looking female, trying to act female, yet maintain their penis which (to me at least) makes them men. Men with boobs. And there are rarely any "real" f... (read in full...)
Does anyone else ever wish they were a young child again?
Q. Anyone ever wish they could go back to being a young child?.i often wish that .do i need counselling or would you say its normal to think like that ?...
A. 8 November 2011: I had a great childhood - I would love to go back. No worries, no cares, just fun and lots loved ones around.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex won't leave us alone!
Q. MY b oyfrined was with his now ex for 4 years, he cheated on me with her in our first 4 months of dateing, i found out and i had a constant battle with her fro 6 months! shed keep finding ways to contact me after i blocked every number. it got to ...
A. 8 November 2011: Why are you bothering yourself with her?
SHE isn't the one cheatng on you.. HE is!
It's not going to stop unless HE stops it.
I can't imagine being in a relationship where I would have to police my BF's phone and "check up" on him. Clear... (read in full...)
I treated my b/f like a king, he cheated and I need to move on but I'm a mess!
Q. my boyfriend of three years cheated on me. i know i did nothing wrong i treated him like a king and it still backfired.i know he has a lot of issues but none of that was an excuse for what he did. i am devastated! a complete mess. i want nothing to ...
A. 8 November 2011: Honey, there is nothing worng in treating someone you love like a King. Nothing you did MADE him cheat. He decided that ALL on his own.
His loss, big time!
Cut the contact 100% - don't let him sweet talk his way back in.
It might take a... (read in full...)
Is my ex just being nice to try and get in my pants? I don't want to fool around with him as I still want a relationship...
Q. So I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and we've just started talking again. He says he doesn't want a relationship with me anymore, but later told me he still wanted to fool around. But I still have feelings for him and still want to ...
A. 8 November 2011: It seems like he wants a FWB thing. Not really you, but someone familiar to have sex with.
I would drop the contact too. Easier to move past him.... (read in full...)
I don't want to let him go, but I need to if he doesn't see a future with me
Q. We've been together just over a year. I know he loves me in some fashion (I am one of maybe 3 people in his life that actually understands him and that he feels totally comfortable with). I asked him the other night if we were going anywhere with ...
A. 7 November 2011: Seems like he IS thinking ahead. He knows in order for him to be more "serious" or "commited" he needs to have his finances together.
Howevr I don't see anything wrong in asking how long that might take.... (read in full...)
Is it time to exit this relationship? His actions are scaring me. Plus my Bf watches porn everyday and that he's been calling gay chat lines.
Q. Need some help.. Basically last weekend I went on my boyfriends phone and found he watches porn everyday and that he's been calling gay chat lines.. Which I really dont understand. He said he rang it as needed someone to talk to, but a gay chat line...
A. 7 November 2011: Time to say bye bye - he's abusive and doing stuff behind your back he really shouldn't do. Gay or straight chat lines it's still iffy. He accuses you of random cheating.
Honey, LOOK at his actions. Is THAT someone you want to be with?
... (read in full...)
How do I handle my girlfriend? She is acting like a complete bitch!
Q. I need help with my girlfriend She is acting like a bitch and I know she is not but she says I constantly annoy her and always tell her what to do when the only thing I tell her to do is to don't drink to much whenever she does And she gets a...
A. 7 November 2011: I think maybe you need to let this one go, she doesn't seem to really want a relationship, just to be able to say that she has a BF.
And she does sounds like a total Bi...
Why are you putting up with this?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she's only been with 2 men, but I don't believe her. Am I right?
Q. I dont know what to do. I have been with my girlfriend for the last 5 years, but I cant trust her. I am 25 and she is 24. She has told me that she has had two boyfriends before me who she had sex with, but I have heard that she has had more. I think ...
A. 7 November 2011: Wow, poor girl.
If you don't trust her with this I doubt you trust her in any aspects. I think you are being disrespectful and are projecting your WANT to sleep with more women onto her, like you have to sleep with as many people as you "think" ... (read in full...)
My brother's fiancée is cheating, do I show him the proof or not?
Q. Hi I am in a bit of a dilemma, I was invited by a friend onto a dating site called Badoo. So I joined to see what it was as I had no idea, and I came across a profile for my borther's Fience (definitely her as it was her picture) stating that she is ...
A. 7 November 2011: Is it by chance an old profile? or is it recent? Personally, I would show my brother. What he does with it is up to him.... (read in full...)
Ex says I should have sex with him because I owe him my virginity since he waited for me
Q. Me and my now ex-boyfriend just broke up because of me not being in love with him anymore. Although we're broken up, he's telling me to have sex with him so we can both loose our virginities and then he'll move on. He says if we do have sex, he'll ...
A. 7 November 2011: You don't owe his squat.
You need to find some one YOU want to loose your virginity too, for the right reasons, not because the dude demands it. How ridiculious!
Honestly, honey, I would laugh it off. Tell him it's not going to happen. You j... (read in full...)
Holiday romance.....I like him but does he like me?
Q. i went vacation met this guy, after meeting sometime at a party. we slept together. then i teaxted him asking if he wants to meet me before i leave. no reply. then i went back to my country. After a month i went back again then i met him at the ...
A. 7 November 2011: I think he likes to USE you, and that is about it.... (read in full...)
Have I jeopardized my chances with a really amazing person, because of my one night with another girl?
Q. Last week wednesday I went on a night out with my friends from university. We ran into another group from our college at the club and got chatting to them and to cut to the chase, being very drunk I ended up getting then going home with one of the ...
A. 7 November 2011: Well, I think if you can't control what head to "think" with when drunk, slow down on the drinks.
Now if she still talks to you - the girl you like, I wouldn't fret too much, just don't "pull" another bad stunt any time soon.
You are young... (read in full...)
This guy should come with a warning label!!!
Q. So I've been dating this guy for about 3 weeks. He's 55, I'm 42. I got divorced a year ago after 15 years of marriage and haven't dated or had sex with anyone at all during this mourning period. The guy I'm dating at first claimed he had just broken ...
A. 7 November 2011: What a scuzz! Well, now that you are newly back on the dating market, consider taking a LOT more time getting to know a guy. Heck, maybe even do a background check first.
I'm sorry you were attacked and WTG on keeping yourself and your friends ... (read in full...)
Should I get a nose job when I am older?
Q. Okay, so I know my questions are always kind of superficial. I am young! I don't have very many deep issues in my life right now. But I have this persistant thought at the back of my head all the time, and it is this: Should I get a nose job ...
A. 7 November 2011: I'm not a pro-plastic surgery person in general. I don't believe in needing to alter who we are genetically, unless it's for a decent medical reason.
But I DO understand how you feel. I would suggest you put the thoughts aside til you are at least... (read in full...)
I invited a man with me home, and now I'm worried he's watching me since he knows where I live!
Q. I'm actually very worried now, this guy i met last night he came back to my flat and we didn't sleep together. We just made out a lot and then he slept in the same bed as me since it was late.. Well, I was talking to my mum today about it, but said ...
A. 7 November 2011: Now you know better for next time. Not all guys are stalkers or psychos, so don't go crazy with worry.
In the future, don't let guys spend the night unless you know them. Even if nothing happens. ... (read in full...)
I love my fiance and I want to get on with his family! So why am I being made to feel like an outsider?
Q. I get the feeling that a certain member of the family of my fiance, doesnt like me and judges me because Im not religious. The person that I believe does not approve also has a lot of prejudice veiw points that I disagree with to the point of b...
A. 7 November 2011: Honestly if their FACEBOOK status/posts grates at you, hide them. Don't look. They are not going to change.
As for them not enjoying your campany well, that sucks, you can't pick family, same goes for in-laws.
Have you talked your fiance abou... (read in full...)
How do I reveal that I told a lie at the start? I don't want to ruin our marriage plans for next year.
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice.. I'm a bit ashamed about this but when I first started seeing my boyfriend over a year and a half ago, I told him I went out with one of my brothers friends before him. I only said this as I felt ashamed that I hadn't ...
A. 7 November 2011: TEll him and tell him why. It's not that big of a deal IMHO. ... (read in full...)
Is my hiv risk high?
Q. A month ago I had unprotected sex with a guy who possibly has multiple partners. however, he said he's clean. 4 days later i had unprotected sex again with another guy. is my hiv risk high?...
A. 7 November 2011: Are you trying to get HIV? Or what is the reason for not using protection?
I will way this though there is a bigger chance of you getting a "simpler" STD then HIV, but you could easily end up with HPV, which in worse case scenario can cause ce... (read in full...)
What do I do? The medication I'm taking makes me feel like a zombie
Q. I've been on Citalopram for a year and switched over to Setraline as i had a panic attack once and citalopram was making me too tired to do anything other than sleep. Been on sert for a week. I joined up rowing and archery. My strength and enduranc...
A. 6 November 2011: Make an appointment with your GP - no one here can give you the medical advice you really need, your DOCTOR can however. HE knows YOUR medical history and you.
There might be a medicine that works better for YOU. It could be something as simple a... (read in full...)
What do I do? The medication I'm taking makes me feel like a zombie
Q. I've been on Citalopram for a year and switched over to Setraline as i had a panic attack once and citalopram was making me too tired to do anything other than sleep. Been on sert for a week. I joined up rowing and archery. My strength and enduranc...
A. 6 November 2011: Make an appointment with your GP - no one here can give you the medical advice you really need, your DOCTOR can however. HE knows YOUR medical history and you.
There might be a medicine that works better for YOU. It could be something as simple a... (read in full...)
He's a friend of my husband. What should I do now? I am so hurt by his behaviour after I played a trick and caught him flirting
Q. i always doubted that my boyfriend was not being honest with me when he said that he loves me so to prove my point i created a fake id on face book with a different female name and sent him a friend request which he accepted without knowing that it ...
A. 6 November 2011: I think you both made your bed, but refuse to lie in it. Aren't you a little to "old" to be playing these juvenile games?
Maybe focus on your marriage and see how you can make it work instead of starting new "relationships" and then sabotagi... (read in full...)
Laundry drama. Is she being ungrateful, or am I messing up by doing an incomplete job?
Q. Since we have been living together (2 months) I have been the one doing the laundry. I have been the one primarily doing the laundry because I am much tidier than her and I generally don't like to go more than one and a half weeks without washing. ...
A. 6 November 2011: Eh, I think she is being totally ungrateful!
Honestly, I would tell her when I do laundry I will: wash, dry and fold it, but SHE put HER OWN away. Or, I can do my laundry you can do yours.
I do most of the laundry in this house. With 3 ki... (read in full...)
I wonder if family stress should be blamed for the loss of my cat to kidney disease? Or are there other factors that cause kidney failure ?
Q. Hi Readers, I lost my Cornish Rex Male cat in April of this year. He was like a friend to me and I am still very distressed about it despite having counselling and being on anti depressants. If there are any other cat lovers out there I was just w...
A. 6 November 2011: First of all, I'm sorry for your loss :(
Like mentioned before, Kidney failure is very common in cat (as far as cause of death) I can't say if stress did it or if it could have been diet, food allergies, genes, infection and so forth. For inst... (read in full...)
I've done everything to help him but he used me!
Q. how can i pick myself up. ive recently discovered a man i thought was a good friend has used me for personal gain. whenever he needed money-i was the only one he trusted -i feel so stupid. when he started my job he seemed genuine and i did like him ...
A. 6 November 2011: Well, maybe have a good long talk with the two friends who DID see through him - Ask them how they knew. TRUST your friends.
It happens that you met people in life who aren't "good" to be around. So in the furture before you go out on a limb for... (read in full...)
He's stood me up 3 times, I guess he never liked me?
Q. Why couldn't he have told me he's not into me instead of leading me on? So there's this guy that I like, I thought he liked me too. He told me he wanted us to take things slow. But he's stood me up 3times. We'd make plans but when the day come...
A. 6 November 2011: I agree, he wasn't that into you :( Sorry.
I wouldn't waste any more time on him.... (read in full...)
What does he really think and want and why with me?
Q. So there's this guy, we'll call him D, he always flirts with everyone but he is always doin' sexual stuff to me in class, such as stuff like grabbin' my butt, pokin' me in my boob, runnin' his finger up across my butt, or vibrating it, all in a ...
A. 6 November 2011: Because he is a disrespectful asshat. Slap his hand next time he lays a finger on you and tell him to keep his mitts to himself.
Don't let some clown grope you like that.... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: Two months together and you only see each other on the week-ends.... That would be something like 8 dates. So no, you REALLY don't know each other that well. Not well enough to you wanting to make HER official and for HER to want to sleep with ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: Maybe, it would be a lot easier for us all to give you our point of view if you put in the amount of time you have dated this "unofficial" girl. After all, not all girls want to sleep with a guy that they are still unofficial with. It has NOTHING to ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: Well, let me put it like this, IF the girl you are dating now ( the celibate one) hears about you having meaningless sex with some FWB, WHILE you and "celibate girl" were "dating"... I'd be willing to bet you she will dump you for cheating.
If yo... (read in full...)
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