I want a baby but my bf wants to first better financial situation. What should I do?
Q. Im 16 and lost twins 4 months and i was 5 months pregnant, it was the hardest thing ive ever had to go throu but my boyfriend was really supportive. after just getting sorted about forgetting loosing my twins ive started to really want another baby ...
A. 30 November 2011: I'm sorry for your loss, honey.
Chigirl is right, you need to wait. You boyfriend is right you two need to be financial secure.
Live life a little, you are only 16. There should be no hurry to start a family.
And consider talking to your... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time? I really love him and I don't want to get over him!!
Q. Hi So I like this guy and I've liked him nearly all year and I asked him out about 4 weeks ago.. He said no because he wasn't ready for a girlfriend but he liked me as well.. Liked me more than any other girl.. My bestfriend asked him if he ...
A. 26 November 2011: He told you he isn't ready for a GF or a relationship, so honestly you can stay in touch with him, be his friend, but I would honestly not hold my breath for him to change him mind any time soon.
What the hurry?... (read in full...)
Is it just sex to him? Or does my ex really want us back together?
Q. my exbf broke up with me 3 months ago. Tuseday morning he sent me a message said he wanted to talk and apologize, and he insisted he's not drunk. so we went out and grab some coffee that night. and he apologized to me about what he did before a...
A. 26 November 2011: Stick to your plans, don't let him dictate what you do. I think it was partly for sex and partly to see how much you were willing to do in order to re-start the relationship.
I wouldn't worry too much about it, either have fun the next 2 months w... (read in full...)
He's controlling. How can I get him to not control my life?
Q. X is someone I recently met. He's fun to talk to and we started seeing each other more often. We hung out for a few week and really liked each other. When he was younger he never had a serious relationship except one for 6 months. All the other gi...
A. 26 November 2011: Sorry, honey, you can't "fix" him. That is most likely why he doesn't have more then one serious relationship in his past.
Him wanting to control who you talk to is just the beginning. If you two get more serious, he'll want to control everythi... (read in full...)
I love him. How do I cope with him? Or even move on from my married boy friend, who cheated on me, AGAIN?
Q. hello aunts, i am still obsessed with my married boy friend who cheated on me 3 months ago. Since then i have been living in tears as i love him so much. I know he is bad, but i cannot make up my mind. He cheated on me even before and i forgave ...
A. 26 November 2011: I agree with the other aunties, he isn't cheating on you - he is cheating on his wife.
I don't understand how you could even THINK he would be ... "faithful" to you when he can't even do that for his wife.
He sounds like a loser honestly, ... (read in full...)
I have hero worshipped him for years.Shall I just give up before making a fool of myself?
Q. I have always been friendly with a man 10 years older than me. I really wish he would see me as more than a friend. He is a single parent with a mixed race son. That is not be a problem to me. When I first got to talk proper with him, he did say ...
A. 26 November 2011: I wouldn't tell him how you feel, it wouldn't do you any good as he isn't interested in you like "that". He just can't see you as anything else but a friend. If it is too hard for you to be his friend" only" then you need to let him go.
I don't th... (read in full...)
How did he get over our relationship so quickly ? He broke off with me and three weeks later was in a new relationship.
Q. i was in a relationship for a year with a guy that i was sure i was going to marry. we were talking about getting engaged and looking at rings and everything.well,about 6 months into the relationship,we started arguing about different issu...
A. 26 November 2011: Stop looking at his Facebook.Block him if you can't control yourself, because you are only making it worse for YOU by looking at it.
Secondly, people get over heartbreak in different ways, from what I have seen a lot of men seem to "try and get ... (read in full...)
Three year LDR. It's not working. Should I tell him how I am feeling now, or wait until I get back?
Q. Ive been with my long distance partner for 3 years. I am travelling overseas and planning to live with him when I get back. But I don't believe in our relationship anymore. I care for him and want him to be happy. I do love him, but we have bare...
A. 26 November 2011: I would wait the 3 week and tell him in person. I don't think it will come as a big surprise, and honestly sounds like you both have kinda moved on already.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
What is wrong? I feel I'm closing myself off from others. I can not understand why this is happening.
Q. I just don't know what's wrong with me.For a while now,I've felt so down,tired and so very,very sad.There's no reason for it,nothing's happened to me.I'm just so sad. I feel like closing myself off to everyone and just disappearing into my own worl...
A. 26 November 2011: Sounds like you are suffering from depression, however I'm not a doctor and can't really diagnose you.
Self isolation is pretty typical for people with depression.
Go see your doctor, maybe you need to referral to see a therapist or may... (read in full...)
I wanted to ask his advice on getting a tattoo. But he didn't want to know. Is he just being mean to me?
Q. So I've been talking to this guy and everything seemed Like it was going good until today . I texted him and told him I was watching this movie and he said lol I have fun and then I told him it's weird and I need his help he said wish I could ...
A. 26 November 2011: If you want to TALK to this guy then quit the texting and pick up the phone. I can't believe how many young people (your age group) thinks that you can carry on a relationship and get to know people via text, you can't.
He most like thought ... (read in full...)
He moves on to new woman so easily! Am I being unfair to feel he led me on only to drop me again?
Q. To all those people out in the world, that gift their time to answer our problems.... I thank you! I would be so grateful for opinions on my situation. My partner of 4 years and I split up six months ago, because I found he had been lying and I co...
A. 26 November 2011: Obviously if his lips moves he is lying, honey - LOOK at his actions not his sweet talk. HE is not going to change. Not for you or anyone else.. Sorry he is just a big fat douche bag.... (read in full...)
Is sex outside the marriage infidelity when it's a 5 year plus sexless marriage?
Q. I have a very long term friendship with a woman. Her marriage has been dead for many years but stays because of her high school children and financial reasons. My marriage has been over for 10 years. During coffee last week , sex became a topic. She ...
A. 26 November 2011: It is still infidelity. No matter how you toss and turn it.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have sex four or five times in one night?
Q. I was having a lighthearted chat with my boyfriend this morning about first-time sex. I'm a virgin, he's not, and after almost a year together we're planning to go through with it soon. So we were talking about condoms etc. and to cut a long sto...
A. 26 November 2011:
Oh yes... Specially at your age...... (read in full...)
I thought I did something thoughtful but I think I scared him off!
Q. So the past month I have seen this guy at the bar I go to, to start with it was just a casual look at me but in the last two weeks he stares at me and when he sees me holds my gaze and i thought he was interested. Last night when no one was watch...
A. 26 November 2011: If that scared him off I hope he trips in his shoe laces! Though... I have to say it's sounds a little odd to do for a grown up man lol
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My b/f wants me to finger myself in front of him and I don't feel too good about it
Q. My boyfriend wants me to finger myself but i dunno what to do as i feel embarrassed even when he talks about it, im 18 years old and my boyfriend is 17 years old, we have slept together and i am now pregnant but still i dont know what to do, when we ...
A. 26 November 2011: Honestly, if he leaves because you have some boundaries he is not worth a pot to piss in. If you don't want to do it, then don't. Tell him YOU are you and the ex is the ex. He needs to have a LOT more respect for you IMHO. He sounds like a ... (read in full...)
Why my ex is rude to me?
Q. I've been together with my ex for 1.5 year and it was the very first serious love for both of us. He broke up with me because he said it was too serious right now and he doesn't know what is gonna be in the future...he's now in a relationship with ...
A. 26 November 2011: Stop talking to him. Let him be an asshat without you around. If you don't have a choice (as in being a place where he is too, ignore him) don't try and engage him in conversation, simply pretend he isn't there and that his opinion and actions ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy ignore you but freak out about what you think of him?! Any help appreciated! :)
Q. There's this guy I've had an on again off again "relationship" with for four years. (Think Chuck and Blair minus the sex). His "friends" do some nasty shit, and I've cautioned him about getting involved so they pressure him to avoid me, which ...
A. 26 November 2011: I would stick with your decision, to end it and not start it back up. Why does he care? Because whether you are in a relationship or not, he wants your approval. Might be because he deep down know you are 100% right, but just don't have the n... (read in full...)
Is boarding school the right thing in this circumstance?
Q. Recently my wife and eldest daughter died in a car crash and i was left on my own with a 14 yr old daughter. her mum used to work at her current school and her sister went to the sixth form there and shes told me that she dosent want to go there ...
A. 25 November 2011: First off, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Would it be a full time boarding school? Maybe a switch can be a good thing for her, but going from being around family (you) to "isolation" might be hard. What does she think? Did she herself suggest ... (read in full...)
Can my ex take me to court and get custody of our son?
Q. I need some advice. When I was four months pregnant I left my son's biological father because he forced himself on me sexually and used to hit me. After we split I tried to be civil with him for our son's sake. Well sometime later we got into a big ...
A. 25 November 2011: Yes he can. Whether you like it or not he is the father.
However, since your current man signed the birth certificate, unless he (the bio-dad/sperm donor) gets a DNA test to prove the child is his, he doesn't really have a foot to stand on.
D... (read in full...)
Texting time... why does he take forever to reply!
Q. I met this guy about 2 weeks ago, and we hit it off right away. Since then, he's text me without fail everyday, which is good as usually guys trail off after a few days! The only thing which confuses me, is how long he takes to reply to each tex...
A. 25 November 2011: I don't think an hour is long, he may not be a fan of texting, not everyone is. Does he work, go to school?
Personally, I think texting is overused. People shouldn't carry on a relationship over text.... (read in full...)
LD Boyfriend takes snapshots of me on skype.
Q. Hi. I just found out recently that my boyfriend takes snapshots of me while we talk on Skype. He did that for every time we talked on Skype, we are in a long distance relationship. And he took SO MANY like really TOO MUCH pictures. He just showe...
A. 25 November 2011: Are any onf them inappropriate? as in you undressed? If not, I wouldn't worry too much, though that really depends on how well you know the guy.... (read in full...)
My bf had a crazy fit and hurt me. Should I take him back?
Q. I have been. With my fiance for 3 years and we have had a lot of ups and Downs but here recently it has gotten. Horrible. And. As got in a bad fight. Last. Week and he called me a fucking. Whore and tried pinning me down on bed so I couldn't move. ...
A. 24 November 2011: No, don't take him back, he is one sick puppy and what happened would just be the beginning, next time you may not be so lucky. You may not even be breathing.
If you feel so bad for him, find him a good therapist, he needs help.
Love can't fi... (read in full...)
Can my new Facebook friend be trusted? Should I send him the picture he wants?
Q. I met a guy on Facebook, he said he likes me, he is really nice and sweet. But there's something weird about him, he wants me to send him my picture but he doesn't want to give me his phone number. He said he is just being careful and I'm being ...
A. 24 November 2011: READ Maverick answers again... she hit the nail on the head:
"Quote"
1. The phone mystery: why would a young, genuine guy be so careful with his phone around a cute girl? "end quote"
Anyways, good luck with your most likely married 35+ perv... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my husband doesn't cheat again?
Q. i am married for 2 years now. my husband has been cheating me.when i confront him he seems remorseful.what do i do to make sure he doesnt cheat again?...
A. 22 November 2011: It's not your "job" to "make" him not cheat again. You didn't MAKE him cheat before.
If you two get some counseling maybe you can both work past it, however, it's on him whether he cheats or not.... (read in full...)
He pursued his ex but won't pursue me. Should I leave?
Q. My boyfriend and I had known each other for 4 months now. Before we were in a relationship, I was the one who texted him everyday and he will Text back. We also went out because I was giving him hints that i'll be in town on my days off( I used to ...
A. 22 November 2011: Who is he dating her or you?
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Could he tell that I had had sex with someone else the day before?
Q. ls it possible for a guy to feel that you had sex with someone else? l had sex with my guyfriend at a party and a day later my boyfriend showed up and we had sex. afterwards he said nothing and ignored me the whole night, in the morning we tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: No he couldn't have felt it, if he was pissy he proberbly knew, someone told him I'm betting.
And honestly, shame on you.... (read in full...)
He rejected me, but still acts interested. What's his deal?
Q. See the question? Yeah, why do guys do this? It's not only irritating but disrespectful. I asked a guy out at the end of September that i had been crushing on for the whole summer. (he's 29 i'm 21). I was proud of myself that I was so straight ...
A. 22 November 2011: Then stick to having him as a friend of sorts. If he is fun and good company I see nothing wrong in that, but I wouldn't take it further, not with him.
Wonder if that co-worker turned him down? Kinda seems that way to me.
Anyhow, liste... (read in full...)
He rejected me, but still acts interested. What's his deal?
Q. See the question? Yeah, why do guys do this? It's not only irritating but disrespectful. I asked a guy out at the end of September that i had been crushing on for the whole summer. (he's 29 i'm 21). I was proud of myself that I was so straight ...
A. 22 November 2011: I think he finds you tempting when YOU aren't showing interests, so it's about the chase for him.
Personally I would not try for a relationship with this guy, he just runs a little hot/cold to me. He sends out so ambiguously signals (and I think ... (read in full...)
Impotence without a medical cause?
Q. I have a 49 years old husband. He is impotent at the last few years. He is ok medically. What could be wrong with him? Is it possible to be impotent without a cause?...
A. 22 November 2011: Has he had his thyroid and testosterone levels checked? If not, then he should, both can drastically lower the sex drive and the "get it up" ability.... (read in full...)
I think he's just living with me for the kids and because he doesn't want to live alone
Q. I feel my partner or supposed partner has a problem. He has started going out at wkends binge drinking and taking amphemines. We have 2 kids and our relationship has always been volitile. I dont feel he loves me and that im just the maid that does ...
A. 22 November 2011: Sorry :( I agree with MiaMine - you got a 42 year old child on your hands.
He COULD be having low testosterone and low sex drive or it could jut be a classic case of seeing you, his partner, as the replacement of his mother.
Does he work?... (read in full...)
He used to mess me around but now he's back in my life wanting a bit of fun...I'm not getting any younger, so should I go for it?
Q. I'm not getting any younger and will be a 40 next year but during those years, I have not really had a steady committed relationship with anybody as I have been messed about and let down a few times. I have had a few dates along the way but nobody ...
A. 22 November 2011: If you feel an itch - got for it. Have some fun for goodness sake!... (read in full...)
Feeling beat down in this relationship
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 years, we have 2 young children together. I don't even know where to start, but I feel so broken and withdrawn since our last argument. We don't fight all the time, but when we do he says the most hurtful things. ...
A. 22 November 2011: Well at some point you are going to have to "woman up" and tell him :"HERE! and no further" This is not acceptable to me and if it keeps up, I'm done, leaving.
Whether you believe it or not YOU are in charge of how people treat you. If you LET ... (read in full...)
He suddenly stopped all communication, should I give up?
Q. I met this guy at University through mutual friends. We texted constantly for a few days and things were going really well, when suddenly one day he just stopped replying and when I saw him though we spoke he seemed distant. I don't understand what ...
A. 22 November 2011: I would. If he is seeing more then one girl at a time, he's not worth the effort.... (read in full...)
STI test, did I do something wrong?
Q. So I went to have an sti screening today, just because I wanted to put my mind at rest. It involved taking a vaginal swab test and a blood test. When I did the swab she just told me to put it as high as it went, which made me worried I wouldn...
A. 22 November 2011: Why did you do your own swab?
And I think you might have hit your uterus wall or something, a swab (even when hitting high) shouldn't make it sting when you pee - pee comes out your urinary tract not your vagina.... (read in full...)
How do I get this man to trust me?
Q. Hi everyone I really hope you can help me with this as I don't know what to do I met a man 9 month ago he asked me out I said yes I bought him a present for his birthday and he said it was too soon so I left that at that that was a while ago me and ...
A. 22 November 2011: If you have already told him how you feel, you need to back off on that subject. Maybe he just isn't feeling ready to move on from the past.
Just be nice and polite when you see him, if he is any kind of smart he will contact YOU.
PS I would no... (read in full...)
I need help getting a guy friend out of his depression...
Q. Ok, so long story short (Because I tend to be long-winded), I have a friend who was dumped about 2 weeks ago, I didn't want to ask too much about it, but I did want to help, because he's a friend. But this guy will NOT do anything! I told...
A. 22 November 2011:
Give him a little space. Bring over some hilarious/funny movies and order pizza and just hang out, just ask how he feels, if he wants to talk, he'll talk..
If you want a list of good movies let me know .... (read in full...)
We made it official but now he isn't texting me as much!
Q. This guy I been talking to for couple months has been showing interest in me as being more then friends, so over the weekend we decided to meet for the first time and partied with a few friends, had some drinks, and just chilled. However, as the ...
A. 22 November 2011: You know testing should not be the only way of communicating in a relationship or the only way to show how much you care.
Maybe he slowed down because he is more secure in the relationship.
Stop and think. Imagine you phone couldn't text.. ... (read in full...)
Are we just not compatible in the bedroom, or does she just need more time and experience?
Q. Our relationship is great... but the sex isn't at the moment. Me and my partner have only been together for a month now, which I accept is not a very long time at all. She was a virgin when I met her and as our relationship got underway, so did...
A. 22 November 2011: Maybe back of the sex a while and just get to know her better?
And I think if she is uncomfortable with one position (whether it's your favorite or not) drop that one and try some other ones, there are plenty to try out.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to obsess over a celebrity?
Q. Okay so i'm 15 ... and i'm just wondering if it's normal to obsess over a celebrity ... now i'm not crazy or anything. It's a member of a not so popular band and i was in covent garden for about the one and only time last week and i wrote as a jok...
A. 22 November 2011: At your age? Yes. As long as you understand that a crush is a one way thing. And as long as you stay safe, you never know what kind of weirdo you can attract who ALSO read the twitters. Or the celebrity him/herself can be a whack job.
... (read in full...)
She has left me and is now engaged to her ex! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I am a male 24 y.o a graduate student study abroad. When I study abroad, I met this angel, she is the most beautiful girl I ever seen, and I love her so bad (we came from the same country, btw). The problem is that she already have a boyfrien...
A. 21 November 2011: I think she never broke up with her fiance - she just used you while being away from him...
Good luck with the rice & mice.... (read in full...)
We fight so much! What should I do?
Q. I have almost been with my boyfriend for a year and we fight so much. I think I love him but then theres days when I just dont know anymore. how do I make things better and save our relationship ?...
A. 21 November 2011: 1. What exactly do you fight over?
and 2. all relationships takes work, but if it is more hassle then "enjoyment" people start to lose how they felt initially for the other person. You are both still young and forming your own personal... (read in full...)
Can my new Facebook friend be trusted? Should I send him the picture he wants?
Q. I met a guy on Facebook, he said he likes me, he is really nice and sweet. But there's something weird about him, he wants me to send him my picture but he doesn't want to give me his phone number. He said he is just being careful and I'm being ...
A. 20 November 2011: Don't send him any pictures til you fell like he is worthy of some trust. LISTEN to your gut, it's telling you something is hinkey.... (read in full...)
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