Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?
Q. My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...
A. 2 February 2012: Do you really want him back?
Do you really think he will change? ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 10 November 2011: Dump her, and stay single that way you won't have any issues with feeling "bad" for cheating.
Poor girl.... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: Two months together and you only see each other on the week-ends.... That would be something like 8 dates. So no, you REALLY don't know each other that well. Not well enough to you wanting to make HER official and for HER to want to sleep with ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 4 November 2011: Maybe, it would be a lot easier for us all to give you our point of view if you put in the amount of time you have dated this "unofficial" girl. After all, not all girls want to sleep with a guy that they are still unofficial with. It has NOTHING to ... (read in full...)
He thinks I am playing games. Is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy I'm currently seeing?
Q. is it wrong for me to withhold sex from the guy i'm currently seeing? i just don't feel like i know him well enough yet to sleep with him, but in his mind i think he's getting frustrated because he thinks i'm just using it as an excuse and that im a...
A. 1 November 2011: I agree with Auntie CindyCares, I don't like the term "witholding sex". That means you are using sex as a bargaining chip, nothing more.
If you don't feel like you know him well enough, be upfront with him. If he isn't ready to wait TIL you are ... (read in full...)
Does anyone regret having sex too young and not waiting until marriage?
Q. I'm just wondering had anyone regretting having sex too young, or not waiting till marriage as ive been in a steady relationship now for over a year and a half but havent had sex... me and my boyfriend are happy about this but im wondering about ...
A. 1 November 2011: I have no regrets about having sex before marriage. I had actually NO intetions of ever getting married, I have never treated sex as something casual. EVER.
My first was at almost 19 with a guy I truly loved and we were together for 4 1/2 years. I... (read in full...)
I feel like all he wants is a substitute mother!
Q. I have recently moved in with my on/off partner of 7yrs. He used to live live with his mum but she passed away 4 mths ago and he has now decided he wants to be a proper father. The problem i have is that he has started pressureing me to give up work ...
A. 1 November 2011: If he sold his mothers house, he would have made some money correct?
If you are done with the relationship, tell him, and if you can/want to give him 14 days -30 days to find a new place. He sounds like a room mate not a "partner".
I think... (read in full...)
Is recycling presents a bad thing? He has so many relatives and my finances are not great!
Q. With Christmas coming up in less than 8 weeks, my finances have never been more unstable. I'm 19 years old and a student; I used to work part-time, but haven't been able to find another job since my last one ended abruptly in August. I have about ...
A. 1 November 2011: I see no problem with regifting these two necklaces - I think it's actually rather thoughtful gifts.
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Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: Well, let me put it like this, IF the girl you are dating now ( the celibate one) hears about you having meaningless sex with some FWB, WHILE you and "celibate girl" were "dating"... I'd be willing to bet you she will dump you for cheating.
If yo... (read in full...)
I really regret having webcam sex, will there be any repercussions?
Q. Lately I've been feeling intense anxiety about everything bad I've done in the past. I'm cleaning up my act BIG TIME. One huge thing I regret was having webcam sex with this guy i met on the internet......so do you think there will be bad ...
A. 1 November 2011: Well, now you know it was a mistake, and not to do it again.
You need to start thinking before you act - that is all part of growing up. Learning from mistakes and thinking first.
Can it have any bad repercussions? sure if the guy is some kind... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to tell someone you think they have narcissism?
Q. I have been reading some information on narcissism and am pretty sure this is what my husband has. He thinks he's better than everyone else and will only talk to people he deems good enough so can be rude to other people. He thinks only about ...
A. 1 November 2011: I don't think you would gain anything from telling him. And no counseling only works if HE actually wants to participate. You can't fix him, neither can counseling. And someone like that, in most cases don't want to change.
I agree with So_Very_... (read in full...)
A man she had a thing with years ago commented on her Facebook, I feel so betrayed!
Q. Yesterday i saw a post of a picture of my wife and my grandfather on facebook and saying that she feels much happy because never had a real blood grandpapa and for having a grandfather like him,etc. And everybody replied and liked it, and this guy ...
A. 1 November 2011: I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill...
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Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?
Q. My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...
A. 31 October 2011: I would just ignore him right back. He isn't worth the time.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that I want an abortion? Or just go ahead and do it anyway?
Q. Well... I am 28 years old and have been with the same guy for 10 years... Yes, 10 years. We're not technically married, but do plan to stay together for the long hall. And, I just found out I was pregnant. Obviously we've been being careful over the ...
A. 31 October 2011: You have to tell him. If he has been a one nights stand I might have said, well, he'd never know.
This is a HUGE thing to NOT share in a relationship. Getting an abortion is not like getting a band aid ripped off, you will NEED his support ... (read in full...)
Is there anyway I can reconnect with my husband and stop hurting him like I have?
Q. I'm in need of some serious help... I've cheated on my husband and he found me online yesterday on a site and seen some comments some guys have made. When my husband confronted me on it he said he wasn't mad about the site in general, but he was mad ...
A. 30 October 2011: If you can't seem to control yourself, stay off the Internet.
If you belong to a church you could go ask for guidance and counseling. If not I would try and find a good therapist.... (read in full...)
Is he using me for money?
Q. Ok this is hard for me..I ran into an old friend on facebook and after sharing a place for a few months about four..we started sleeping together..he mentioned porn and how he used to whack off to it while single and this was for a very long ...
A. 30 October 2011: Why are you still with him? He sounds like a toxic basketcase. And yes, I would assume he was with you for the money too,... (read in full...)
Does who I am attracted to matter?
Q. ok...i noticed mostly i'm attracted to white guys and i'm african not afrrican- american...i'm from nigeria...is this ok?...
A. 30 October 2011: We like what we like. Personally, I don't believe in "races" - there is one. The human race.
Just look a little deeper then the color of their skin.... (read in full...)
Is my proposed celibacy solution workable? And any tips on helping me get over this intense amount of regret/shame?
Q. I am 15 years old. I have given two guys bjs, and I am soooo ashamed. I regret all of it, and i feel sick whenever i think about it. I feel like i am a bad kid. However, I am in a relationship right now (although he says he doesn't care about phys...
A. 30 October 2011: Seems like you are very good at learning from your mistakes, so stop beating yourself up for making a couple.
If celibacy works for you and your BF, then good. He seems like a keeper.
Being celibate at 15 isn't such a bad idea. You are be... (read in full...)
Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?
Q. For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a baby...
A. 30 October 2011: I think it's fine that he goes out with friends, but YOU ought to do the same. You can't rely on him to always entertain you. ( IMHO) You two should take turns going out, and at least once a month find a baby sitter so YOU TWO can go for dinner & a ... (read in full...)
Why would a dumper complain to an ex about their current relationship?
Q. My mum's friend was married years ago. He retrained as a teacher and she put him through school. After he finished he dumped her out of the blue. No reason, just cut her off. She went to his parents house, but they slammed the door in her face. He ...
A. 30 October 2011: Why? Because it "works" for him. He seems very selfish honestly. Like the world revolve around HIM and what he feels/needs.
Hopefully your mom's friend will see what a loser he is and stop talking to him.... (read in full...)
True or false? Are girls attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging?
Q. I have this question about dating in general: I have heard from my guy friends and even read this on a girl's profile on a online dating site, that Girls are attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging. Otherwise if yo...
A. 30 October 2011: Oh gods no!
If you have to be mentally challenged EVERY day of the relationship, it doesn't equate excitement or everlasting love... to me it is a little too much. It would be be absolutely draining.
I'm not big in the "bad boys" get all th... (read in full...)
Anyone ever been told their friendship wasn't valuable?
Q. Has anyone here ever had the experience where a close friend (or partner or family member) tells them directly that they don't think their friendship is valuable? I've had a very a close friend of 8 years say she felt that our friendship was "no ...
A. 30 October 2011: I think you have analyzed and overanalyzed what she said to death.
If you are considering visiting her and it's nagging that bad at you, I would talk to her, tell her it still bothers you what she said, and see if she can explain what she meant.
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Gf lied and decieved me however has alot of underlying issues, should I stay?
Q. my gf and i have gone through a very rough patch recently when i found out she had been lying to me for months and texting and talking with another man along with sending semi nude photos to him and telling the man she loved him and he her. i am not ...
A. 30 October 2011: I would say she has a LOT of selfdiscovery and counseling, before she is really able to be in a monogamous relationship.
To me, what she did is cheating. I do think she coulde be analyzing the cause for her actions correctly, BUT anti-dep... (read in full...)
My friend likes me but I don't have the same feelings. Should I go out on one date with him?
Q. I'm sure this is gonna sound really pathetic and that the answer is obvious but here anyway. There's a guy who likes me I mean really likes me. We are friends so when he asked for I my number I thought nothing of it, he misinterpreted this that I ...
A. 30 October 2011: I wouldn't do it. If you don't have the same feelings for him, a "date" is not going to change it.
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Boyfriend made a comment about my small breasts and now I don't want to go near him
Q. Hi guys! I need help from you to build my self-confidence. I have a lovely bf and we are planning our future together. However, our sex life is a complete disaster... I run away from him every time he want to get closer to me. The issue is my ...
A. 30 October 2011:
If it was 2 years ago, you need to let it go. He is obviously still with you small breasts or not.
If he brings it up again.,... Ask him how he would feel if you said the same about his penis..
I would suggest you work on your body image. ... (read in full...)
Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh
Q. Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...
A. 29 October 2011: If you want laughs, find a single guy who can make you laugh, chasing after a married on will only add drama and toxicity to your life.... (read in full...)
How do you go about talking to the "other" woman?
Q. How do you go about talking to the "other" woman? I am not a exploding/crazy person and I was thinking that I would talk to her calmly but what to say? I don't know how I would start. But I really do want her to know that she's talking to my ...
A. 29 October 2011: You should have that conversation with your BF, not her. If you ask me. Talking to her is NOT going to make him/her stop. She might not even know you exist.
As I see it you have two choices:
He's cheating, dump him.
Live with it.
He is not... (read in full...)
He said he'd come over, I gave up, he then left a message. I ignored it. Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hi I just started dating some one! He called me last night said he wanted to seeme before leaving town. His daughter called him and wanted him to come and see her before he left town. He ask me if he could come over when he got back from his ...
A. 28 October 2011: I think you did the right thing. I'm sorry he had a funeral to attend, but.... he could have called you WAY before 11pm to let you know he would be running late and given you a chance to cancel or confirm.
If he has a grown daughter, he can't be... (read in full...)
Why are smaller nipples more attractive? And when I get mine reduced, will the scars be a turnoff?
Q. I have always wondered this. After hearing many pepperoni nipples and bologna nipple jokes and comments, it's easy to figure out that men are not fond of large areolae. Why is it exactly? Is it because smaller ones are more sensitive? Becau...
A. 28 October 2011: If a guy tells you there is something "wrong" with how they look tell him he has small balls.
I mean really! I would NOT do any surgery based on ignorant and stupid people's comments.
We all have nippels, they come in many shapes, sizes an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's brother is tagging along to our outings and now I don't want him for my 18th birthday party. How can I ask him not to come without sounding rude?
Q. Here's what happened the first time: My boyfriend was invited by me to my grandmother's halloween party for the family, so he can meet my family. So a few days before the party, he asked if his brother can tag along. He said he had to watch his brot...
A. 28 October 2011: Honestly, I think you can ask your BF to NOT bring his little brother for YOUR birthday celebration. I mean can't their PARENTS watch the kid just this once?
Yes, I think it would be ok for you to tell your BF, that you would like for him to NOT b... (read in full...)
Stealing someone out of a relationship
Q. okay now I need to know if it's ok to steal someone out of a relationship. I wanted this guy first and he got with his ex and still showed signs of interest in me. Seeing as at one point I was there first but may have messed up, pretty sure I did ...
A. 28 October 2011: IF you have to ask you KNOW it's wrong.
Besides he is not lipgloss.. you can't "steal" people out of a relationship. You can mess up their lives, yes, but you can't STEAL a person.
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My boyfriend has a timing plan set out for when we should have sex but I'm worried I wont be ready by then!
Q. I am worried my boyfriend is going to get tired of waiting to have sex. We are both 16. Both capricorns ;) . I love him n he says he loves me but i know how fast feelings can change so far we have been together for 2 months but we have known ...
A. 28 October 2011: Tell him that he can plan all he wants - you will be ready, when you are ready.
Do feel you HAVE to have sex because he's mapped it all out.... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....
Q. My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...
A. 28 October 2011: Seems like you are on the path of "getting totally over the cow" ! Good for you!
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We've gone ring shopping -- but he still hasn't proposed! How long is too long to wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I will have been together three years as of this coming February. We have talked about getting married and have even gone to look at rings on multiple occasions. To my knowledge, he has not gone back by himself to look again or make ...
A. 26 October 2011: I can not improve on CaringGuy's post. I think he nailed it.
What is the hurry?... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying to contact him or just cut him out of my life?
Q. I've been having trouble with my LDR boyfriend lately. We've been together for 3 years, things haven't been easy lately but I didn't think they were this bad. He was supposed to visit me two-weeks ago for my birthday, but he couldn't because...
A. 26 October 2011: I deon't think there is any doubt, he dumped you. I think he did it for both of your sakes.
Honestly, and this might hurt your feelings, that is not my intetions. I just can not understand how you can be so selfish that you can't respect why he f... (read in full...)
He lied about his uncle being dead so he didn't have to see me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now. I recently moved to another city for university so seeing each other has been stressful. But we've been planning a big massive holiday together, go away for three-weeks to the beach, just the ...
A. 26 October 2011: What a Douche-bag!
Stop worrying about what else he lied about, he isn't worth any more of your thoughts. Time to move on.
How to move on? Know that you deserve better. Don't have any contact with him, mail back any little thing he gave yo... (read in full...)
I want to take my new girlfriend to the strip club and watch her touching other girls
Q. I want to take my new girlfriend to a strip club, but am not sure what her reaction will be. For you girls, if you have been dating a guy for a month or so and he askes you if you want to accompany him to a strip club, what would be your re...
A. 26 October 2011: I would honestly dump you in a NY minute.
One month? Yeah, you'd be gone.
Who knows what you might want me to do, after two months or three.....
NOW if SHE had expressed interest in, it could be something to talk about and plan for once... (read in full...)
I've realised I made a mistake and I was too needy, how do I make things right?
Q. Hello agony aunts and uncles. I need your help badly! I broke up with my boyfriend who've I've been with for 6 months about a week ago because we don't live close enough to see each other everyday. He started to ignore my texts and when I'd call ...
A. 26 October 2011: You can tell him how you feel and see what he thinks. If he doesn't want to try again, then you will hopefully have learned from this experience.... (read in full...)
Would it be too much to give her a bracelet?
Q. Thanks in as ace for your help. Yes I am still in school. I really like this girl, she's in all my classes, and I talk to her once in a while. She has been with one of my friends for a week or two. They just broke up like a day ago. I was gonna aske ...
A. 26 October 2011: I would NOT give her a bracelet, just yet.
You don't really know her, don't even have her phone number, so giving her gifts can seem a little odd.
Now AFTER you phone her, and if you two go out on a date and you reallllly like her, then 2-3 mo... (read in full...)
Why did my friend act weird after making a funny joke?
Q. My friend was acting strange today. We were talking about this Halloween costume contest at my school and she was talking about how the winner got a free dinner from the principal. I said something like "Oh, he'd probably take them to McDonald's or ...
A. 26 October 2011: She obviously thought it was really inappropriate to write what she did.
I would guess she is a GOOD student?
It might be a religious thing. Anyways, Just let it go. If she felt it was wrong, then it was wrong ( for her).
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I like being happy but why do people at school say I'm retarded because I like to laugh?
Q. I'm a very happy person that likes to smile and laugh and for most times no reason I can't help it, I love to laugh and smile. At school people be mean to me and say I'm retarded because I like to laugh and smile. They say I shouldnt be happy that ...
A. 26 October 2011: Be who you are.... (read in full...)
I prefer giving rather than receiving! How common is this?
Q. Well I got a question, not really a problem. I like to give oral to my girlfriend, more then to get oral. Most of the people I know it's the other way around. anyone of you can recall this? ...
A. 26 October 2011: What works for you - works for you. (and hopefully your GF)... (read in full...)
What is the longest you have gone without sex whilst in a relationship?
Q. What is the longest period that someone has gone without sex, While in a relationship. Without a medical reason ...
A. 26 October 2011: 11 months - my husband was deployed to afghanistan with no R&R. Didn't have any choice in the matter. He's deployed 3 times and those times we were both celebate. IMHO that is what you do when you are in a relationship.
Now while he has been hom... (read in full...)
Which guy should I choose? I like them all!
Q. Okay so this is going to be long and I am really sorry for it. Okay so over the summer I ended up breaking u with my ex boyfriend, who is really sweet, kind and funny. I broke up with him because I was constantly mad around him and have no idea...
A. 26 October 2011:
If you don't know which one to pick, you aren't ready to date ANY of them
And honestly, if you parents have said no dating, then you shouldn't BE dating.
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Why do men have affairs despite not being ready to leave their partners?
Q. Why do married men like to have affairs with other women, though they are by no means ready to leave their legal wives? What is this mentality? Don't they have any fear for the consequence? Don't they feel anything bad about other parties (both wife ...
A. 26 October 2011: I think anyone who cheats (man or woman) is selfish and selfdestructive. They all KNOW it's wrong, but will justify it any way shape or form they can, usually by blaming their partner.
People who "serial cheat" do it because they have gotten a... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....
Q. My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...
A. 26 October 2011: Why waste time on her? You already wasted 7 months with her. Why do you feel a need to "catch up" with her?
I think you are putting yourself in a position to get hurt all over again. IF she really cared about you, she wouldn't have cheated ... (read in full...)
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