My husband is set on naming our baby after a child his mother miscarried years ago and I know I will regret chosing this name....what should I do?
Q. I am officially 3 months pregnant!! I have been thinking of names... The only problem is that my husband is set on the name Zoe, which i love, but i know he wants that name because his mother had picked that name for her baby that she miscarried a ...
A. 8 January 2013: Congratulation on your new baby :) ... (read in full...)
He and his wife are separated but he's in no hurry to obtain a divorce
Q. I met a man 6 months ago. I knew he was still married. His wife left him after an injury a year and a half ago and is involved with another man. This has been the best 6 monthd of my life. I have been single for a couple of years with two young gi...
A. 17 January 2012: So he is still married. He may not live with her, but he is married, to HER.
Honestly, I would tell him to give me a call when he is free and single. I would NOT want to date a married man, even IF he isn't with her anymore. Married is married.... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: No, what else will he lie about ?
It would a be a HECK NO! for a second chance from me.... (read in full...)
My partner tries to 'edge' a past event into our lives
Q. My partner had a 3some with his wife and her female friend years ago. I was uncomfortable with this for most of the time we have been together. My constant struggling with it resulted in regular arguments and discussions. But, not any more, I ...
A. 16 January 2012: Sit him down and tell him you are done listening to his Glory day store of the awesome 3-some. You are not impressed, not do you have any inclination to outdo his ex-wife with 3-somes.
Honestly, I think he is either baiting you, to pick a fight or... (read in full...)
My son's wedding will be a disaster!
Q. My son is 37 and marrying a 28 year old woman. My son is getting married this summer and im not happy with the way his fiancees family and friends re-acted at the engagement party 2 weeks ago because im afraid they will ruin the day of the weddi...
A. 16 January 2012: I have to agree with this Uncle/Auntie :
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A male reader, unknown2u + ?, writes (16 January 2012):
I have to beg your pardon with this answer, but I get the impression that you're more concerned with your repu... (read in full...)
The other day we where making love and he stopped to answer his phone! Is this normal?
Q. Hi,I would like you aunts opinion on this please. I am in a relationship with a man and have been for many years, we both are in our late 50's so really i was shocked and very surprised by this action of his. The other day we where making love and ...
A. 16 January 2012: I think it's very ill-mannered to answer your phone when you are in the middle of lovemaking. However, it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. AS long as it didn't happen again.
I can't imagine what is SO darn important that it can't wait 20-30 mi... (read in full...)
I found dirty knickers in my husband's car
Q. I found dirty underwear in my husband car and they aren't mine I don't known what to do? Dirty females underwears in my husband car? Im confuse I don't know what to do....
A. 16 January 2012: Ewww, bye bye knickers and bye bye husband! He had no right to be mad at you. Which made me think that he was trying to make you feel bad about the situation and that way deflect the guilt for a little while.
Sit him down and ask him where th... (read in full...)
Struggling to decode guys.
Q. Hi! I was recently talking to a group of my friends (mixed group-guys and gals) and I dropped into conversation that I had a boyfriend-just for the record I don't- but I just wanted to see their reaction but it wasn't what I expected... All m...
A. 15 January 2012: 1. Don't lie to "test" out your friends. They are going to end up not trusting you at all.
2. Don't over analyze everything other people do, it's going to drive you nuts. Next time you get a different answer then you expected, ASK what they mea... (read in full...)
Is he a player. Should I stop texting him?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! I went clubbing for the first time on Thursday night. I met a guy 4 years older than me. He kept trying to snog me :-/ I swapped numbers with him. Thing is he has tried phoning me 3 times. He has text me asking if we could meet ...
A. 15 January 2012: Sounds like a desperate dude, one to stay away from.. And eww on sucking on your straw. Who does that to a strangers drink?
I would just ignore him, he will go away.
And the whole "I miss you" he doesn't even know you.. Creeepy.... very... (read in full...)
Never had a 'real' orgasm
Q. I have never experienced a 'real' g-spot orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have had to fake it every time. When we first started having sex, we had it a lot - he wasn't amazing then but he lost his virginity to me, so I...
A. 15 January 2012: G-spot orgasms are actually rare, and so are orgasms from penetration.
Now if you are just like little good with google you can look up the two different things.
And, honey, never fake it. You only teach him to be a "crappy" lover. Take some... (read in full...)
I can't prove it's an ex texting my 14yo sex comments!
Q. I caught my ex sexualy cheating for the second time. This was 9 months ago. Since the split she had constantly tried to get me back. She blamed me both times saying i had neglected her needs, in which she couldnt explain why. Since she accepted i ...
A. 15 January 2012: Call the police ask them what you ought to do about those calls.
I would suggest you get your son a new phone #/SIM card.
I agree with the other Aunties, keep a record of things and again when you talk to the police ask then how to go about ... (read in full...)
Can the hymen be ruptured during a pelvic exam?
Q. is it possible for a pap smear to break your hymen? i got one yesterday, failed to tell them i was a virgin and as soon as she opened the speculum i was in so much pain i wanted to cry. i had a little bleeding after the test and now im fine but i ...
A. 15 January 2012: Yes it is possible.... (read in full...)
Did I wreck a chance at a third date?
Q. I met this guy online and after a couple of months he flew to see me. On our first real meeting he brought a friend and all three of us had drinks. He covered my portion of the bill. The second time I met up with him over coffee, I paid although ...
A. 15 January 2012: Call him, see how he is doing :) It beats waiting by the phone .... (read in full...)
We had a great connection, now he is ignoring me because of family issues. What should I do?
Q. I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and started talking on facebook things were going good so we started meeting up in real life. He is incredibly attractive and we spent hours upon hours talking and eventually cuddling and kissing eachother. We'd go out ...
A. 15 January 2012: Back off, the ball is in his court.
And next time, don't jump into bed so fast with a guy you really don't know that well.
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We now only have sex 2-3 times a month but she gets angry if girls flirt with me
Q. I have been with this girl for 2 yrs and when we first started dating we had sex or gave oral sex to each other alll the time. (First 8 months or so) in those 8 months there would be times we had sex 2 times a day. Now deeper into our relationship ...
A. 12 January 2012: There is something going on that makes her withhold and you flirt. You two need to talk.
And yes, I would say for your age group 2-3 times a months seems like very little sex indeed. ... (read in full...)
My sex dirve has gone down and become a "chore"...Please help me?
Q. When do u reach ur Sexual Peak? Im a women in her 30s. I dnt knw why but my Sex drive has gone dwn. My partner is 7 yrs older then me. We have been together for 8 years. In the beginning sex was GREAT! But over the years it has fallen dwn and got ...
A. 12 January 2012: It's very common.
Loss of libido can because by hormonal fluctuations, stress, depression, or from repeatably boring sex.
What else in the relationship/life is not making you happy? Because that can spill over into your sex life.
If ever... (read in full...)
Is it strange that I want sex all the time?
Q. I dont know if i have a problem or not. I think about sex all the time and would happily spend every waking hour with my fiance just having sex! I am 35 and very atractive (so iv been told).Even after sex i still want more and get frustrated and a...
A. 12 January 2012: I thinks it's OK to want sex "all the time", but I do think it's a problem if you get frustrated and angry if you don't.
Just because your ex wasn't able to satisfy you as much as you might have wanted doesn't mean your current man HAS to make up ... (read in full...)
My daughter is 4 years old and has never met her father. He is single now and I am hoping that he will assume his responsibilities... is this wrong of me?
Q. I have a daughter who is 4 years old, ever since she has been born she has not seen her father. I met her father at a bar and within a few weeks of dating I becasme pregnant. We broke up after being together a month. Then I found out i was pregnant ...
A. 12 January 2012: He seems like a totally irresponsible, immature FLAKE of a human being. Knocking girls up here and there and then taking no actual responsibility.The fact that his sperm made your child doesn't mean he will ever be a father for her.
Do you real... (read in full...)
Guy canceled our date because he was super exhausted from work. Do u think he was really exhausted or blowing me off?
Q. I had been talking to this guy from online for a week. He was amped to meet me and the night before we met he told me that he only dates one person at a time, he asked if im gonna meet anyone else and i said no that i only planned to meet him, we ...
A. 12 January 2012: I think he was being honest, since you left him a message wit ha suggestion for rescheduling, the ball is on his court.
Give him a day or two to get back to you.... (read in full...)
FWB - I am tired of being the girl he can have when he wants but doesn't want to be with. Please give me advice?
Q. i have a male friend, we've known each other since we were 7 or 8, and when we were around 15 we dated briefly for about a week, before he decided we should just be friends. ever since then we've both seen other people, but as soon as we were sin...
A. 12 January 2012: Ditch him, he plays with your emotions and use you. FWB is for people who can keep "emotions" out of the sex and who doesn't WANT a relationship with the FWB.
Drop him like it's hot.... (read in full...)
Would you post christmas/new years greetings on facebook or make it private?
Q. If you wanted to post happy christmas and new year or happy birthday to someone on facebook would you put it on their wall or send it by private message. If you did it by private message what would be your reason for doing it. The reason I a...
A. 12 January 2012: If I didn't have their physical address I would just post on their wall. Why? Because wishing someone Happy New Year or Merry Christmas is not really that "personal" that it warrants a PM, IMHO
I'm, however more of a card kind of person and woul... (read in full...)
Have sex with ex while she with another man what does that mean
Q. Hey guys, need some help, Me and my gf of 3 years recently split up and we stil talk and act like we r stil an item, we chat every day and nite, problem is she has got a bf. But she stops at myn and we have sex, (while she is in a relation...
A. 12 January 2012: Sounds like she doesn't really care for either of you. You are both just guys to sex up with.
I can just see the "oops I got pregnant drama" with this triangle.
IF she loved you she wouldn't be with another guy. It's THAT simple. Let her ... (read in full...)
We had something but he has a girlfriend. How can we remain friends but set clear boundaries?
Q. I'm very confused. There's a guy I met who's in an long distance, long term relationship with his girlfriend. We live far away, but will live near one another in a few months time. After we first met, he pursued me heavily, despite his girl...
A. 11 January 2012: Don't get into personal conversation with him, stick to work related issues.
He might have ulterior motives, he might want to see how far he can get with you without his GF's knowledge. He might miss her so badly because of the distance that he ... (read in full...)
If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him?
Q. If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him? I wish I knew these sorts of things intuitively without having to ask people. I have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrom...
A. 11 January 2012: http://psychology.about.com/od/nonverbalcommunication/tp/nonverbaltips.htm
Check out this link about non-verbal communication, maybe it can give you some tips?
... (read in full...)
Lack of a "filter" vs. chooses not to think before speaking?
Q. How could I have been expected to remain in a relationship with a person who "has no filter" and thereby often hurt me (unintentional as it may have been). How could I continue to give chance after chance of reconciliation (over a year's worth of ...
A. 11 January 2012: I see two issues as well,
Filter, OK people without filter don't just go around saying hurtful things, they are however usually very blunt and at times a little crude ( I have a VERY good friend like this) And I HAVE felt hurt a couple of times, b... (read in full...)
Fiance broke off with me to be with friend, now wants me back. Can I trust her?
Q. Hi Guys I need some much needed advice, sorry this is soo long winded just need to get all the facts in to get the best advice that may change my life.... I met the girl of my dreams 3 years ago and it was basically love at first sight after goin...
A. 11 January 2012: She is using you for a security blanket. I don't think she will stop looking for someone "better" ( not that she will find one, but you know what I mean.), but she will find another Lee at some point and make YOU seem like the bad guy..
I thi... (read in full...)
To what extent is it considered stringing someone along?
Q. When a guy calls you all the time and shows interest in you, then doesn't call as much anymore but still returns your phone calls when you call him, is that considered stringing along? When men aren't interested in a woman but they know she is ...
A. 11 January 2012: I think it depends on the guy,however, if you sense he isn't interested why pursue him? Why call him?
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A moral friendship question?
Q. Ok. I'm cool with a guy who was really close with this girl who just recently passed away of cancer. I didn't personally know her. The girl who died was married. Ok. I'm really interested in getting to know her husband. He is also cool with my guy ...
A. 11 January 2012: Wow, yes I think you come across as cold hearted, uncaring and totally insensitive.... (read in full...)
I miss my ex so much it hurts and I can't stop crying!
Q. My story is a little complicated so I will try to make it short as possible. I was enganged to a guy. We were together for 4 years. I found out that he cheated on me... (several times) so I left him. I left him without a fight... I just packed my ...
A. 11 January 2012: Stop looking at him with those rose colored glasses. You did the right thing in leaving him.
Stop having contact with him and start to accept that HE moved on a long time ago and you need to let him go.
It's not fair to the guy you are with now... (read in full...)
Did I wreck a chance at a third date?
Q. I met this guy online and after a couple of months he flew to see me. On our first real meeting he brought a friend and all three of us had drinks. He covered my portion of the bill. The second time I met up with him over coffee, I paid although ...
A. 11 January 2012: No, paying for coffee is OK, if he can't handle that.. what else can't he handle?... (read in full...)
If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him?
Q. If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him? I wish I knew these sorts of things intuitively without having to ask people. I have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrom...
A. 10 January 2012: It's not yelling on my part just emphasizing - because this is important.
If you took it as yelling, my apologies.
Yes, you can look a pasing glance, 2-3 seconds, more then that and it starts to move into the creepy zone.... (read in full...)
My husband, the stripper and the bouncer
Q. A few days ago, my husband came to me and told me that he had been taken advantage of by a stripper. He had gone to a strip club for lunch and a show. A stripper convinced him to go in the back room for a private dance for $20. Once there, she ...
A. 10 January 2012: I don't believe him either.
I don't understand who he even thought it was ok to get a "private dance" for lunch - ewww
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He'd rather watch football than hang out with me and my parents
Q. So this weekend me and my family are going out and we always invite my bf. so i called him and he said that he couldn't go because he is going to be watching football that day.so i got kinda hurt that he would rather watch football then hang out ...
A. 10 January 2012: I think it's VERY normal for a young guy (heck even an old one) to want to hang out with friend watching a game rather then eat dinner with the "in-laws".
You are blowing it out of proportions.
Jsut be glad he doesn't expect YOU to sit there... (read in full...)
My husband is set on naming our baby after a child his mother miscarried years ago and I know I will regret chosing this name....what should I do?
Q. I am officially 3 months pregnant!! I have been thinking of names... The only problem is that my husband is set on the name Zoe, which i love, but i know he wants that name because his mother had picked that name for her baby that she miscarried a ...
A. 10 January 2012: Either use it as her middle name if you have a girl, and YOU pick her first name.
Or you tell your husband, I'm not sure about Zoe, nothing about naming a baby is usually set in stones. My middle girl was an Elizabeth til the week before she was ... (read in full...)
Worried she has manipulated me to cover half of her mortgage to sort out her financial situation, how do I explain to her I've changed my mind and want to start fresh in a new property?
Q. I've been seeing my gf for 9 months now and living with her for about 5. I recently sold a flat and moved in with her whilst looking for a new one. I was about to buy a place but my gf appeared upset by the prospect of me moving out so I didn't and ...
A. 10 January 2012: I would NOT take over some one's mortgage like she is suggesting. No, no no.
Because you know what would happen of you two broke up? You would be SOL - so out of luck with every penny you put into that mortgage.... (read in full...)
Getting frustrated with his lack of proposal.....how long were you together before you got engaged? What is the average?
Q. I am rather depressed of late. I am 28, and I've been with my partner for three years, he's 26. It seems that everyone around me is getting either married, or engaged... But me. I am starting to feel left behind and frustrated with my partner's lack ...
A. 10 January 2012: I don't see what the big hurry is. JUST because others in your circle are getting married doesn't mean you HAVE to.
Maybe HE isn't ready. Are you sure you are ready?
Like I said, there is no big hurry in getting married IMHO.... (read in full...)
If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him?
Q. If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him? I wish I knew these sorts of things intuitively without having to ask people. I have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrom...
A. 10 January 2012: If a guy wear really tight pants and you can obviously see "everything" - would I stare? No.
If a guy on a hot summer day takes his shirt off, would I stare? no. I would look a few second and then find something else to look at.
JUST because ... (read in full...)
If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him?
Q. If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him? I wish I knew these sorts of things intuitively without having to ask people. I have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrom...
A. 10 January 2012: If a guy wear really tight pants and you can obviously see "everything" - would I stare? No.
If a guy on a hot summer day takes his shirt off, would I stare? no. I would look a few second and then find something else to look at.
JUST because ... (read in full...)
Is my penis really that small? My wife seems to think I am lacking in that department.....
Q. I need some advice on the classic "size" question. My wife has indicated that she thinks I am lacking a bit, or not average. This bothers me. I am about 5.8 x 5.1. However, when not erect, its about 2-3. From others perspective, is th...
A. 9 January 2012: How long have you been married ? and personally, no for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker.
If you divorced should you announce your size before dating? Absolutely not! If a women only want to be with men with a BIG one, she will most likely p... (read in full...)
What do you say when a guy cancels at the last minute?
Q. I text him yesterday telling him that i couldn't do what we originally planed today but i was still free today and we could do something else instead if he wanted to. He text me back yesterday and said i could come to his and watch a movie instead. ...
A. 9 January 2012: Why not call and ask if he is still free? You all can go to the movies? ... (read in full...)
Is my penis really that small? My wife seems to think I am lacking in that department.....
Q. I need some advice on the classic "size" question. My wife has indicated that she thinks I am lacking a bit, or not average. This bothers me. I am about 5.8 x 5.1. However, when not erect, its about 2-3. From others perspective, is th...
A. 9 January 2012: I believe you are average, but if she has only dated men who were hung like an ox, maybe that is all she knows.
I assume she knew your size before you two married, so why is it a problem now?
And since you are married which women would you ... (read in full...)
Family members trying to get my kids taken away from me!
Q. Hi , i am 19 years old and I had 3 kids but my oldest son(6 years old) passed away. So I have a 2 year old son and a 7 month old daughter. And my daddy mother keeps bothering me and my family by calling DSS , cops , etc on us saying we live in a ...
A. 9 January 2012: It IS illegal for her to file false claims of "child abuse" or "imprisonment" with CPS. CPS gets quite ticked off b/c people like her are wasting what little time and resources they have to help children who ARE being abused with their own personal ... (read in full...)
If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him?
Q. If you were chilling with a guy and he looked at your breasts for any amount of time would you not want to date him? I wish I knew these sorts of things intuitively without having to ask people. I have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrom...
A. 8 January 2012: It depends if that was the only thing he stared at. Did he follow the conversation or was he "hypnotized" by my chest?
You know what I mean?
You could talk to the girl and tell her, that you don't mean to be rude, but you have a habit of stari... (read in full...)
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