If a married man and a woman have an affair, can the woman be blamed as well?
Q. If a woman and a married man have an affair, is it the woman's fault as well? Obviously, it is the man's fault, but is the woman to blame as well as a home-wrecker? I have heard the defense of the woman saying "It was his choice to go after m...
A. 5 February 2012: The saying : it takes two to tango, is true. If the woman KNOWS he his married, then she is in my book just as guilty.
And she needs to take a second look at her moral compass cause it's screwed up.... (read in full...)
Does persistence become annoying?
Q. Simply put.. when does persistence become annoying? i had class with this girl and on the last day gave her my number but nothing came of it. We talked the other day and I mentioned that she never texted me. She laughed and such but still no text. ...
A. 5 February 2012: I think next time, ask for her number, that way she won't have to make the first move, I think Auntie Abella is right, that many girls don't want to be the one to take the first initiative.
Now if you ask for her number and get a giggle or a lau... (read in full...)
Why are men who don't like a certain kind of woman accused of being gay?
Q. I've noticed something over the years and even more so recently that I find to be rather unsettling. It's true that a lot of men like to go to strip clubs, look at porn with famous porn stars in it, and ogle women in public who resemble someone you ...
A. 5 February 2012: Honestly, if people around you call you gay for those reasons you are hanging around pond scum.
That is NOT the general attitude. I honestly think 9 out of 10 women would appreciate a guy like that and not think him gay, but a gentlema... (read in full...)
Should I cut off my friendship with him? He's acting different now
Q. This guy and I are recent friends. Sometimes I kid or joke around with him and enjoy his company. Sometimes by the way he acted I felt like he had feelings for me. He even told me something about having thoughts and feelings towards me and I kind of ...
A. 5 February 2012: I would cut the friendship, friends don't treat each other like that.
If you see him around in social situations you can be polite, but I would seek him out or try and "hang" out again.
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How do I respond to a secret admirer text?
Q. Hi, I just received this text: Hey :) How's it going? - your secret admirer xxx and am rather stumped on how to reply (or if I should at all). Does anyone have any ideas on how to respond to this situation? ...
A. 5 February 2012: Ignore it.
I think someone is setting you up for a prank.... (read in full...)
Is too much sex bad for my relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have shared a brilliant and adventurous sex life. I have a very high sex drive and he has always been able to keep up until recently he is turning me down more and more. I initiate the sex I'd say 4 ...
A. 5 February 2012: I absolutely agree with Uncle olderthandirt
*It's my view that there is no such thing as too much money, chocolate or sex.*
In your case, you might want to pull back a little and let him be the one to take initiative. Focus on hanging out, tal... (read in full...)
I regret being so shallow about a guy's height
Q. I turned down an opportunity to be with a guy who was committed and a good person. The main reason I walked away because of his height. He is 5 ft. I am the same height and petite. All I can think about is the life we could have had together. Bu...
A. 5 February 2012: Actually it's pretty primal and basic to want a tall, strong & handsome mate. So don't feel bad about that.
Now, the guy you are with, dump him.
Who knows maybe next time you meet a guy who isn't 6ft :) you will know that it takes more then ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend what his future plans are with me?
Q. So Im wondering how I ask my boyfriend if we are working towards having a future together or if this all we are goin to do. I don't want to feel like I do all the things I do for him like cleaning his place all the time when there is no future f...
A. 5 February 2012: Ask him where he sees you two in 2 years, 5 years. No one can guess what he is thinking.
So talk to him.
And decide for yourself if YOU want a future with him or not.... (read in full...)
I can't believe anything he says anymore!
Q. Ok i need honest objective advice. I'm 24 years old and been with my boyfriend for just over a year. It's a fairly good relationship - aside for some trust issues. Over the past year my boyfriend has lied to me - about big things and little...
A. 5 February 2012: He keeps lying because no matter what you still come back and forgive him.
Once the trust is gone in a relationship, other things starts to die. Like faith, love and respect.
He says he is scared of hurting you with the truth, honey, he isn't ... (read in full...)
A guy I recently met just told me he is being set up with the gorgeous daughter of a family friend
Q. Hey so I met someone recently, let's call him 'M'. Anyways we hit it off great, we oovoo every night and we text most the day. When we hang out, which has been once officially since we met about a week ago as he moved in with his dad (which i...
A. 5 February 2012: You have only known him a week, I would cut my losses and back totally off. If he tells you about "blind dates" his parents set up for him to you like it's a joke, then he doesn't care about you. I think if he truly cared he would have told you that ... (read in full...)
B/f says he wants to marry me but talks about this girl every day
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for a little over a year. We have come to our "plateau" in our relationship. But he will not communicate with me at all. He thinks I do everything wrong and he does everything right. I want to just sit and have a ...
A. 5 February 2012: You do know that when you two say I do, it is not an instant fix? That before you even consider marriage you two ought to sort these things out?
I know you don't want to hear it, but I'm going to say it anyways, why are you with a guy who doesn't ... (read in full...)
I always swore I wouldn't put my children through what I had to face as a child!
Q. I could do with some sturn honest advice as I'm feeling a little annoyed with myself. I'm in my 20's and have been with my boyfriend who is in his 40's for 4 years. We live together and have talked about marriage. The problem I have is my jealo...
A. 5 February 2012: Honestly, if you get married nothing will change. That ring won't magically fix it. Is this really how you want to live your life? With a man who is of to his "other" family constantly? I mean I get it, he is a good guy who takes responsibility for ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is going through chemo, and suddenly we're more like just friends!
Q. Ok .. complicated, but serious question. Just 5 months into a new relationship (which was going very, very well) my girlfriend was diagnosed with breast cancer. Through surgery .. then 4 months of chemo, she is now cancer free .. yet doing 6 weeks ...
A. 5 February 2012: Just the fact that it threw her (as you put it) into menopause means HUGE changes, hormones are funny things.
How long will it take? Who knows? She won't be called "cancer free" for another 7-12 months. For some getting cancer is a wake up call ... (read in full...)
He says she's his soul mate. Do I go through with the divorce or wait?
Q. My husband left my and the kids for his mistress. he met her online. She is 1400 miles away. He's been 1 1/2months. He tells me he loves her and she makes him happy but he still loves me. That he's just not in love with me. Not to mention ...
A. 5 February 2012: Divorce him.
I'm pretty sure his soul mate will take of her rose colored glasses at some point, but the thing is do you really want that lying sack of cheating man-folk back?
What is there to love about him?
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How do I respond to his text? he's a FRIEND who cut contact and avoided me earlier.
Q. Hi, This isn't a romantic relationship question but is a friendship one. Recently a friend has got back into touch with me after he has avoided contact with me (and others) since the summer. Hes quite shy but we got on really well in the holiday'...
A. 5 February 2012: I agree with Auntie Abella too.
What if someone close to him died for instance? It might not be something he wants to share right now. I would just go slowly and see if the friendship can blossom again.... (read in full...)
Does persistence become annoying?
Q. Simply put.. when does persistence become annoying? i had class with this girl and on the last day gave her my number but nothing came of it. We talked the other day and I mentioned that she never texted me. She laughed and such but still no text. ...
A. 5 February 2012: Now is the time to give up.
She would have texted you already if she was interested. And even though she liked the attention it can easily become creepy.... (read in full...)
Am I abandoning my family?
Q. I'd really like some outside opinions on this. I live at home with my parents, and attend school. Recently however, my home life has become extremely chaotic. There are tears, temper tantrums, and angry fights several times a week between my ...
A. 4 February 2012: No if you can afford to move out, maybe now is the time. It's THEIR problems and they should not involve you, they need to sort that stuff out between themselves you are not the UN!
Honey, I would sit them down separate or together (whateve... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask my partner to be responsible for half the bills? Am I being used?
Q. My partner has taken on financial responisbilities without communicating her intention to do so with me. These have stretched her resources so far that she never has any money. The result is that, although she does not ask me to assist her in paying ...
A. 4 February 2012: Stop paying?
Sit down and make a budget - split the costs. Maybe some costs can be negotiated (such as you pay for your cell phone, she pays for hers).
Now she might not have as much left over after paying bills/costs so that... can be n... (read in full...)
My partner slept with her ex-boyfriend and now I feel bad when I'm near her.
Q. I would be grateful of your thoughts. My partner walked out last April without saying a word. In July she took the lease on a rented flat and said that she had realised she still wanted to be with me. In the same month she had sex with her ...
A. 4 February 2012: The only way (as I see it) you can get "rid of that feeling" is to get rid of her. Dump her. If she wants to act single she ought to BE single, not take advantage of you and "play" single.
Just like I would say to a woman who is being taken ad... (read in full...)
My ex of one year calls me up every week, but is adamant he does not want to see me or get back together...how do I interpret these mixed signals?
Q. Hi all, This situation involves an ex boyfriend; We were together for just short of a year and he apparently fell out of love with me and suddenly dumped me over a phone call. He did not treat me well during the relationship; in fact, he wa...
A. 4 February 2012: He likes to keep tabs on you and actually inadvertently hold you back from moving on. Because HE can't move on with life he wants you to not move on either.
I agree with change your number. I would tell him to stop calling as well.
It's al... (read in full...)
Which college should I choose?
Q. I have three colleges I have in my to go to. I've always dream of goin to somewhere I love and that's away from home but I'm confused. One of my school choices is a community college its cheaper and seem less fun and I will be required to stay home. ...
A. 4 February 2012: I would visit all 3 schools with your parents (or whomever is paying) and see what it's all about and where you like to live/study the most. If there are no dorms (3rd choice) getting a job would be needed, and many college towns/areas have decent ... (read in full...)
How do I respond to the fact that everyone he know is commenting on our relationship? People I haven't even met!
Q. Should i be worried about this ?. I am dating this guy, and one of his friends sent me a message once saying " Hi. ( The name if the guy i am dating ) can't wait to see you again. I think he is in love ". This friend also sent me another message ...
A. 4 February 2012: Well, honestly I would make my profile private, first of all. And I wouldn't reply all the people who send you comments, you don't know why they are doing it.
Just focus on having a good time with your date and get to know him, his friends ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my boyfriend's proud attitude towards money?
Q. I need some help to shift my bf's attitude towards me sharing my money with him....we both work, but I earn a lot more than him. We go halves for most things, but sometimes, because he earns less, he's not able to afford things, like going to the ...
A. 3 February 2012: I think it's just how he was raised and in my book that is a good thing as long as he can handle the day to day, having a GF that makes more then him.
You can spoil him in many ways that won't cost him a thing, such as home cooked meals, picni... (read in full...)
How do I manage how I feel over his over zealous anxious checking up on me all the time?
Q. Hi All, thanks for stopping by and reading this. I have been dating a man for coming up to year now. he has lots going on his life. Eg: he is a full time carer for his disabled sister, and has three kids from an ex that he takes a lot ( they don...
A. 3 February 2012: Sorry, I think I would end it and look for a guy who actually WANTS to spend time with me.
It makes no sense.... (read in full...)
No double standard - I just want one off sex
Q. I'd like advice about meeting with a guy I met online. To lead up to this question, I must explain I've only been in long lasting relationships since I was 15. I've never really been single. My ex cheated on me last month and I'm still upset, but my ...
A. 3 February 2012: I think you are playing with your life having sex with random online strangers, because no matter how you look at it, they are STRANGERS.
Sex won't make you feel better about the break up, but if casual sex is what you are looking for I suggest ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is so overbearing I cant even pick up a newspaper with an attractive woman in it! Now she has started commenting on my friend's Facebook too, how do I deal with her?
Q. Hi guys and gals, My gf is getting a little overbearing and insecure... She accuses me of constantly hurting her when i pick up a magazine or newspaper and theres an image of a beautiful woman in a suggestive or sexy pose. She snatches the maga...
A. 3 February 2012: Sorry, she sounds like a spoiled 5 year old throwing tantrums over nothing.
I don't think there is any "easy fix" for this, other then years of therapy for her.
You have two choices, suck it up or get out. Personally, I'd get out now.... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way?
Q. Sick of my ex. Ever since we broke up he's changed! He used to be sweet, yeah annoying at times but he made the effort to get along with my friends and was nice to everyone. He dumped me after a 10 month relationship, of which only 5 were "officia...
A. 3 February 2012: Who knows why he acts the way he does, honestly I would stop worrying about him and focus on your own life and future, he isn't worth the drama.
Maybe he was just always a douche, you just didn't see it?... (read in full...)
Should my spy reply to this message?
Q. I asked a male friend of mine on FB to do some snoop work for me about a potential future boyfriend. The chap who wanted to help me ended up receiving an actual message from the guy (bf) in question telling him that a little bird told him that he's ...
A. 3 February 2012: One thing is doing a background check but ask friends to spy? Sorry, what are you? 7?
Yes, own up to it or continue with the childish games. Up to you.... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend's logged in on multiple sex sites but he swears it wasnt him, just a hacker using his details. Is that even possible?
Q. ok so here it goes, last year i found something on my bf laptop by accident he was sitting next to me and i asked wat it was,i logged into it coz his face was strange and it brought me to a profile with all his details on a fuck buddie site, logged ...
A. 3 February 2012: Just like most dogs don't heat the homework, most hackers don't sign people up for sleazy websites... And if you found the log in on his/yours computer it would take a lot of effort for a hacker, for instance, remote access and so forth and for ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend that it makes me uneasy I'm not able to visit his family with him?
Q. I don't know why I always feel like my boyfriend is seeing someone else or has some sort of feelings for another woman. He told me he was heading home for the weekend and when I asked if I could join along he said no. He said he needed to spend time ...
A. 3 February 2012: How long have you dated? Have he met your parents?
I would talk to him (but not accuse him of having someone else) just ask him if he is embarrassed to date you.... (read in full...)
I gave him a deposit but never bought the car, now he wants to keep 20% of the money! Is this legal or should I take him to court?
Q. Hi,i hope someone has a good advice for me in this case.I wanted to buy a car from owner but i did not have enough money.i saw the car and i talk to the owner about it;he ask me to give him what i have and i can bring him the rest and take the car ...
A. 3 February 2012: Depending on how much money you gave him, it might be more expensive to take him to court.
Though unless he told you upfront that there was a "cancellation fee" he can't legally keep your money, as far as I know.... (read in full...)
I feel like I owe it to my husband to have a threesome.
Q. My husband has been wanting a threesome with another women, i was for it at first but after his pushing and searching I started to have my insecruities. I feel tho, it needs to happen. I was unfaithful to him. I kissed a guy. (it might not see...
A. 3 February 2012: You don't OWE your husband a 3-some.
If you aren't comfortable with it you need to be upfront and honest about it.
Also, if he keeps pestering you suggest it's two guys and you, bet he doesn't want to have a 3-some after that..
... (read in full...)
My mind is set to leave him, but I have a suspicion that I'm pregnant
Q. Hello everyone... I'm in a stressful situation and I don't think I'm thinking clearly at all. I need some insight please...You see, I have been with a 35yr old man for two years, (I am 20) and he was the first and all that...I regret that so much ...
A. 3 February 2012: A baby won't fix him or how he treats you. I think you have already given yourself the answer.... (read in full...)
My husband supports everyone else but me. Why does he do this to me?
Q. My husband of three years will not take my feelings into consideration. Whenever there is a disagreement he will always take the others persons side against me. He will never defend me or stand up for me in any way. His sister and I do not get alon...
A. 3 February 2012: I agree with your husband, sometimes we adults just have to suck it up and just do it. However, when you do spend time with his family don't talk to her, don't start "debates" or let her get a rise out of you. I think she is one of those women who ... (read in full...)
How can I cope and continue living with him, broken hearted but apart?
Q. Hi all. I have recently broken up with my bf. We have a joint mortgage together. After much soul searching and advice from a mortgage advisor, we have both been advised to stay in the property together for as long as we can. This is because ...
A. 3 February 2012: If you can't cope with treating him like an annoying room mate, I would do whatever it took to sell the place and move on, both physically and mentally.
Maybe consider renting it out?... (read in full...)
In real life I've never wanted him to kiss me. So is my dream telling me otherwise?
Q. I just turned 18 and im having some confusing feelings. I see one of my mates twice a week (all-day) with a few of our other friends, but I was recently really annoyed by him and vice a versa. We sorted it out last week and that night I had a drea...
A. 3 February 2012: Dreams are dreams and reality something quite different. It is not uncommon to add people we spend time with to our character gallery in our dreams. Even people we don't really like all that much.
I used to dream (when I first quitting smoking)... (read in full...)
Why was I not able to reach climax?
Q. hey so the boy i like and i hung out today we were making out and then he started to finger me, it was his first time doing it and my first time being fingered he figered me for over an hour and i couldn't cum i have fingered myself many...
A. 2 February 2012: Fingering doesn't equate climax.
You need to show him where you DO enjoy being touched.
... (read in full...)
My Mexican neighbors have made life hell for us. Do I just suck it up and ignore them as I have been doing, or do I stand up and nag them back?
Q. Hey, this isn't really much of a relationship question but I don't know where to ask this. I really dislike confrontation and it makes me nervous because I start getting so angry I start crying and it's unstoppable. I live in an apartment. I...
A. 2 February 2012: I would move, personally. People like that don't have any respect for others and they are clearly teaching their kids to be just as rude.
Though I seriously doubt it has anything to do with them being Mexicans.
And no way in HADES would my mo... (read in full...)
After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?
Q. Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...
A. 2 February 2012: No one is telling you to stay with her, only you can make that decision. However, do it sooner rather then later - move on with your life and stop that drama.
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Why is he pursuing me when he has a girlfriend
Q. He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him ...
A. 2 February 2012: Because he cares more about his libido then the girls he has sex with/dates.
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Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?
Q. My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...
A. 2 February 2012: Do you really want him back?
Do you really think he will change? ... (read in full...)
Why is he pursuing me when he has a girlfriend
Q. He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him ...
A. 1 February 2012: I'm guessing he is hoping to get a little "dip in the honeypot" with you on the side.
Honestly, I would make it clear what you want/don't want from him and no more cuddling.... (read in full...)
After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?
Q. Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...
A. 1 February 2012: No, let her go back home - SHE can explain to her family what happened. (though I doubt she will be honest about it)
So, she married you for the Immigrations/Visa, now you know.... (read in full...)
After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?
Q. Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...
A. 1 February 2012: There was no indications that you two were not in a happy place when you got married? Because, let's face it is VERY rare that a women (or man) goes completely nuts after the ceremony.
IF however, she did, then yea I would divorce, because ... (read in full...)
Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?
Q. My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...
A. 31 October 2011: I would just ignore him right back. He isn't worth the time.... (read in full...)
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