I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 21 February 2012: He wants to be there for his child, but doesn't want to get back together with you.
I'm guessing he is trying to do the right thing for the baby.... (read in full...)
After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?
Q. Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...
A. 2 February 2012: No one is telling you to stay with her, only you can make that decision. However, do it sooner rather then later - move on with your life and stop that drama.
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Why is he pursuing me when he has a girlfriend
Q. He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him ...
A. 2 February 2012: Because he cares more about his libido then the girls he has sex with/dates.
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Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?
Q. My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...
A. 2 February 2012: Do you really want him back?
Do you really think he will change? ... (read in full...)
Why is he pursuing me when he has a girlfriend
Q. He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him ...
A. 1 February 2012: I'm guessing he is hoping to get a little "dip in the honeypot" with you on the side.
Honestly, I would make it clear what you want/don't want from him and no more cuddling.... (read in full...)
After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?
Q. Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...
A. 1 February 2012: No, let her go back home - SHE can explain to her family what happened. (though I doubt she will be honest about it)
So, she married you for the Immigrations/Visa, now you know.... (read in full...)
After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?
Q. Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...
A. 1 February 2012: There was no indications that you two were not in a happy place when you got married? Because, let's face it is VERY rare that a women (or man) goes completely nuts after the ceremony.
IF however, she did, then yea I would divorce, because ... (read in full...)
What was this foreign guy's motive? He used me in every way possible and I'm numb with shock now
Q. Hi this is a long story but I need perspective: I was in a relationship with an arab muslim for a year. We have broken up for the final time. He is younger than me by 10yrs (claims not a problem ever) When I think to what I have gone throug...
A. 1 February 2012: I'm sorry, but I'm wondering why with all those RED FLAGS you carried on.
You didn't look at his actions, you only heard his words, am I right? Because you say that he was charming and nice, but really? Since when is taking advantage of another ... (read in full...)
I feel like such an idiot for being ignored!
Q. I'm really upset. I went on my first date with this guy on Saturday, and it seemed like it went well. We spent twelve hours together in total on Saturday !. I sent him a message on Sunday, saying that i enjoyed the date, and that i looked forward ...
A. 1 February 2012: Don't play games with him or you will just make dating him even more difficult.
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Very troubled here as I don't think I want be with my bf anymore! What should I do?
Q. Sorry this is a bit long, but I wanted to put all the detail in. So I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. When we first got together I really loved him (I had liked him way before we got together). But recently I don't feel anything ...
A. 1 February 2012: Sometimes we just grow apart from friends and lovers, it's not uncommon and not making you a bad person.
Do what is right for you and end it. ... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable in thinking a marriage should be more?
Q. I need some advice on my current marital situation... My wife and I have been married for six years. She's very religious and, as such, there was a very strict "no sex before marriage" policy - which I agreed to. The problems began after the ...
A. 1 February 2012: If she was a virgin when she met you, she would have no idea about her level of libido. So that kind of baffles me when she said he had a low libido.
Secondly, when you dated did you cuddle, touch, make out?
Anything resembling sex? You know wha... (read in full...)
I cant stand my sister-in-law!!
Q. The title says it all pretty much. I just cant like her for as much as I try. When me and my hub were together in the beginning I would go over to his brothers house and help and clean she would be home all day pregnant I did this for about 3 months ...
A. 1 February 2012: Spend as little time with her as possible. And let the past go, for no other reason then to avoid drama and stress during the pregnancy. She sounds like she is a tad jealous of you.
I had a SIL who was absolutely fake. She'd be almost nice to ... (read in full...)
Dating 3 months, no sex. Shall I leave?
Q. I need some imput. I have a new girlfriend and everything is good except for us not having sex yet. When we started to go out we both agreed that we were going to take things slow, and we have been to this point but Im a man that has needs and I ...
A. 31 January 2012: How about talking to her about it?
Sounds simple to me.
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We are friends, but now..he wants to have sex! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, So my friend and I have known each other for about 2 years now and we hang out a lot. Our relationship kinda swerves from being platonic to romantic(in a silly way)frequently but I never really thought much of it. Until last week whe...
A. 31 January 2012: You have to decide if you want to be FWB or not. Usually it doesn't work out because one or the other starts having feelings and the other doesn't.
If you don't WANT to have sex with him, tell him.
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Is phone sex cheating?
Q. I cant stop thinking of cheating on my boyfriend .I had phone sex with another man and it turned me on ,totally!! . Is something wrong with me ? Is phone sex cheating ?I wanted to be in a open relationship and he said he will think about it ....Am I...
A. 31 January 2012: Golden rule is this, what you can't do in front of your partner or tell your partner as far as interactions with someone it's cheating and I think you know it.
Do you remember how it felt when he cheated on you? So why the double standard... (read in full...)
I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 30 January 2012: I'm sorry to be blunt, but I don't think he cares about you or the baby, he moved on with a new woman in his life.
The fact that he is ignoring you kind of confirm it.
Good luck with the pregnacy and baby!... (read in full...)
Circumcized or uncircumsized? Which do females prefer?
Q. Hi, I want to know if girls like penis uncircumcised or cirmcumcised? I'm french and in my country we are all uncut. It's about religion and culture, what is it in your country (well about muslim and jew I know) but for others country pls let ...
A. 30 January 2012: Well, I'm not American so maybe that is why I don't care :)
The thing with circumcising is that in MANY cases the male actually loses certain nerve endings in the process and will therefore "feel" less during sex.
I find it ridiculous to ri... (read in full...)
My former long distance boyfriend texted me after telling me he wanted nothing more to do with me
Q. So confused. I posted a question yesterday- please take the time to look. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-get-my-ldr-boyfriend-back.html He text back yesterday and said we had been on a years trial and to forget it. We tried and ...
A. 30 January 2012: Ignore him. Seems like he wanted to text someone and YOU were it. If he wants nothing to do with you, the only way for you get get over him, is to have nothing to do with him.
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Is it appropriate to invite this new woman out on Valentine's Day or should that be reserved for couples?
Q. Long story short, I've known this girl for about a month. In that time, we've seen each other nearly every weekend when we go out with our mutual friends. I get the vibe that she likes me, and I think I'm starting to reciprocate those feelings. ...
A. 30 January 2012: I can see both the pro and the con of doing this.
On the pro, it would be sweet to have Valentine's Day as your "first" real date. Makes the whole V-day worthwhile.
On the other hand it can also be taking as trying to be too serious too soon... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is angry with me for wanting to go on a diet
Q. ive been thinking about going on celebrity slim diet, my friend went on it and she lost loads of weight, so i asked her about it, and she mentioned it to my boyfriend at work and he went mad at me.. Its nice to know he likes me how i am, but this is ...
A. 30 January 2012: I think as long as you intend to stay healthy your weight is your business, though I DO think there are way healthier ways to lose weight then various" celebrity diets" such as eating right and exercising.... (read in full...)
Exit strategy please
Q. I have got involved with a woman, from my karate club, then i thougt something was going on with her and my instructor, she denied it. As time moved on i felt there was something, eventually she broke down saying there was but he had been ...
A. 30 January 2012: Find a new dojo.
Those two desrve each other.... (read in full...)
Why do some women want to control their ex boyfriends life?
Q. Simple Question: Why do women control or want to control their ex boyfriends? even after several years ,and several new relationships. Ex. I have a friend who remains friends with some and/or still contact ALL their ex's, but completely gets ...
A. 30 January 2012: She can only control her exes and her friends if these people LET her. I would honestly ignore her and not have her as a close friend, because obviously she has no clue what friendship is about.... (read in full...)
Circumcized or uncircumsized? Which do females prefer?
Q. Hi, I want to know if girls like penis uncircumcised or cirmcumcised? I'm french and in my country we are all uncut. It's about religion and culture, what is it in your country (well about muslim and jew I know) but for others country pls let ...
A. 30 January 2012: American (in general) circumcised little boy, because it's believed to be easier to maintain good hygiene, however... There is no medical reason to have it done. Even the American Academy of Pediatrics says so, together with all the other doctor's ... (read in full...)
Are all FWB relationships conducted, in this way?
Q. Hi everyone this question is for people who are in a fwb arrangement. how well do they treat you. I am in one. have been for 11 months now. he never comes round apart from the obvious when he is horny. he is not speaking to me at the moment because ...
A. 30 January 2012: That isn't FWB, that is being Fuck Buddies, since there isn't an ounce of "friendship" here.
If he treats you like crap why do you continue? WHAT do you get out of this "thing" you two got going?
Cut him out of your life, stop being a doormat.... (read in full...)
I can't get past his cheating ways..what should I do?
Q. Hi am miss caribbean. I am in a relationship over eight Years and I hate the way my boyfriend treats me. he cheat on me for two years and I stayed with him but I can't get over it. it hurts what should I do it makes me cry in the nite his family ...
A. 30 January 2012: If you can't get over it why not leave? He will not change.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to tell my b/f I have chlamydia!
Q. I just found out I have chlamydia and I'm so afraid to tell my boyfriend! I had unprotected sex before him and I got together. I shouldve gotten checked before sleeping with him but I didn't. I'm so scared he's going to leave me! This is the hardest ...
A. 30 January 2012: He might stay if you are open and honest, but you NEED to tell him, so he can get treated too or he might pass it back on to you or to other unsuspecting women. Which is a callus thing to do.... (read in full...)
He seemed interested and then did a complete 360! What happened here?
Q. I went to our employee christmas party,it was employees only so we were all sorta hanging and mingling with each other,well after a few drinks I was feeling rather comfortable with a coworker guy friend of mine. he and I actually flirted with each ...
A. 30 January 2012: Maybe he had someone at home too? And he grew a conscience?... (read in full...)
Asked her out on a 2nd date by text and there was no reply! Feeling a bit awkward, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I went on a date with a girl from work. I liked her and I text her the day after asking for a second date. I have recieved no reply over a week later. I can take this and i know it happens. the problem is that im likely to see her at work. we...
A. 30 January 2012: Next time call her or ask her in person. ... (read in full...)
Advise required on how to keep our affairs on the boil
Q. i had sex continually with my wife's good friend who too is married for many monthes. we know its wrong but we both want to continue. please advice what we shud do to continue our relationship....
A. 30 January 2012: GROW a pair, End your marriage - bang away the other woman and maybe see if you can find some sort of morals lying around and then add some common decency and sense to your collection, you are sorely lacking them.... (read in full...)
My bisexual girlfriend wanted to have a threesome, but the way she worded it makes me feel bad!
Q. My girlfriend told me she fancied a girl we met, and suggested we hit on her together and potentially have a threesome. I said I wasn't interested at the moment, but the issue has been bothering me a lot since. The girl in question was seriously ...
A. 30 January 2012: 2 months into the relationship is WAY soon (IMHO) to introduce more people to the bed.
If someone is already looking to "spice" things up 2 months in, it's not going to last.... (read in full...)
My little brother has aspergers and hurts me when he gets mad. How do I get my parents to believe me?
Q. my younger brothr is 9 years old and he makes me want to stab myself or him!!! the reason for this is that he has a type of autism called aspergers. all the time i have to hear "just ignore what hes saying" or "its only the aspergers" and even ...
A. 30 January 2012: Stay away from your brother? Refuse to "watch" him. Or even better, have a friend with a videophone tape it and show them. I think you need to talk to your parents about it when they are in a relaxed mode (if that happens) Ask your mom and dad how ... (read in full...)
My cousin loves me and wants me to have his baby
Q. my first cousin and i have always been close. we barely saw each other when we were little due to him living in another country, yet when he can to visit with his mum we always hung out. i didnt see him for about 6 or 7 years and he was 18 when i ...
A. 30 January 2012: If he is your first cousin, I'm not even sure that is "legal" morally or otherwise. If you two DO decide to have a child together, you need to have genetic counseling. You just had a baby, do you really need another one now? Take time to fi... (read in full...)
Going to be married in 2 months and I feel so unloved
Q. Hi all I feel I have no one else to turn to. Me and my fiancé have been together for nearly 4 years and are due to be married in march but I feel so unloved. We have sex once a month and it's over in 2 mins. I'm bored and I have tried and tried ...
A. 30 January 2012: Don't marry him til all these issues are resolved. Talk to him and he he can't see the problem, you might wanna consider calling it quits. Because a ring on your fingers and sharing vows is not going to make him want to put more effort into the ... (read in full...)
What are my chances of seeing her again??
Q. Ok i was on a date with a girl a couple of nights ago and everything was going well. We were just in this nice bar place, when some guy friend of hers from her school days recognized her and walked over to say hi. I thought that would be it, hello, ...
A. 29 January 2012: Not sure if you blew it, but honestly since he was HER friend she should have told him you two were out on a date. And he should have buggered off. Honestly, I would have left too, but I would have pulled her aside and told her that you felt like a ... (read in full...)
Black specks in underware mean?
Q. Black specks in my husband briefs after washing; what does that mean if anything?...
A. 29 January 2012: I have no idea! I would guess it got washed with something that leaves black specks or it's time to get the microscope out?... (read in full...)
Is it tacky to ask about STDs?
Q. I myself am currently a virgin and my girlfriend is not. She told me she has had some unprotected sex. She really really wants to have sex with me, we just started dating, however, we have known each other for quite some time and actually dated 4 ...
A. 29 January 2012: No, it's no tacky. It's being smart and safe. My husband and I both did, full sheet STD tests and HIV test before we started to sleep together and retested 6 months later. My husband was VERY promiscuous from early teens til mid 20's - we met late ... (read in full...)
Maybe I should just end the relationship!
Q. Hello, I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been doing a sort of open relationship for about the last 5 months. He has only been with one other girl and it was just a mindless hookup, dont care. In our particular arrangement, I told him I really ...
A. 29 January 2012: I think you liked the "idea" of an open relationship, but in honesty, you don't really WANT an open relationship. You genuinely like this guy and want him all to yourself, so why not admit it and own up to it?
Talk to him.... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 29 January 2012: I see nothing wrong in not wating oral or any other things sexually done while on your period. I mean you can give HIM oral, which I'm sure he won't mind? :)
If you don't want to do it, then no, means no. Nothing wrong in that.... (read in full...)
I just get turned off by his double checking the condom
Q. Hi everyone, I didnt know who else to bring this up with so thought i'd see what other people on here think... Basically my partner and I are in a very loving relationship. We both want children and plan to start trying in ...
A. 29 January 2012: Obviously he isn't ready for kids, hence the double checking. Personally, I would talk to him and be honest about it.
However, if he isn't ready for kids, he isn't ready and you really need to respect that. I have to say I like the idea of a guy... (read in full...)
My wife says I play games too much!
Q. Okay my wife says i play my game too much that we don't have time for each other anymore. Okay i work all night pretty much i work 4 Nights a week and then on Sunday i go to work and open. We have a 15mth old daughter together so those two days that ...
A. 29 January 2012: Sit her down and talk about it, figure out how many hours of playing you can agree on and PLEASE take some time and bond with your child without trying to play your game too, take her to the park, the pool, the back yard and give your wife some ... (read in full...)
Wife Always Walks Ahead of Me...Far Ahead
Q. This is a puzzling thing for me. About 10 years into my marriage I noticed that my wife would immediately walk ahead of me when going places. She doesn't slow down, just keeps walking. She is not more attractive for a woman than I am for a man, ...
A. 29 January 2012: When we go shopping (as a couple) I don't walk next to my hubby, I in fact will leave him on several occasions to browse or pick something up. I'm quite confident that he won't get lost or be annoyed with it. Sometimes I am way behind him, or he ... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm controlling? Am I? He's lied and I have trust issues!
Q. My guy and I have been dating about 8 months and the last couple have been a bit intense with disagreements. I'm 38 and hes 45. We both have been married before and its just some things at his age I think he should know by now. If I don'...
A. 29 January 2012: Well, if the guy has been married 3 times already (and divorced) maybe part of the reason he got divorced wasn't because the women he married were bad, but because he was and still is unreliable?
He doesn't sound like a man in his 40's honestly... (read in full...)
Could this be abuse?
Q. Am I being abuse if when I question my husband he puts on his headphones to block me out, ignores me for days, sleeps in the other room, tells me I'm negative, threatens divorce and if I try to remove a headphone from his ear to talk to him he hits ...
A. 29 January 2012: You can't change him, no matter how much you love him. Obviously, THIS is who he is. Either accept it or get out, personally, I'd get out.... (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 28 January 2012: Correction.. Shouldn't be worried, you should be pissed!... (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 28 January 2012: No, you should be worried you should be pissed.
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Could this be abuse?
Q. Am I being abuse if when I question my husband he puts on his headphones to block me out, ignores me for days, sleeps in the other room, tells me I'm negative, threatens divorce and if I try to remove a headphone from his ear to talk to him he hits ...
A. 28 January 2012: Well why does he put then on? To block you out? Why are you still with this guy?
A 3 year old might put his/her fingers in her ears and go na-na-na I can't hear you, but an adult need to TALK to his partner and figure out what needs to be done/... (read in full...)
Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?
Q. My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...
A. 31 October 2011: I would just ignore him right back. He isn't worth the time.... (read in full...)
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