Could this be abuse?
Q. Am I being abuse if when I question my husband he puts on his headphones to block me out, ignores me for days, sleeps in the other room, tells me I'm negative, threatens divorce and if I try to remove a headphone from his ear to talk to him he hits ...
A. 29 January 2012: You can't change him, no matter how much you love him. Obviously, THIS is who he is. Either accept it or get out, personally, I'd get out.... (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 28 January 2012: Correction.. Shouldn't be worried, you should be pissed!... (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 28 January 2012: No, you should be worried you should be pissed.
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After six months my boyfriend still hasn't told his new friends I even exist
Q. My extremely introverted boyfriend went away to teachers college for 6 months to make some friends. He did it! Is great friends with his housemate and a few other people he met from school. Anyway, the time has come for me to meet him up there so we ...
A. 28 January 2012: I think it kind of fits his introvert personality. Maybe it was one of those things that he didn't feel like sharing or didn't think was any one's business, it doesn't mean that he is embarrassed by you or don't love you, I think it just shows that ... (read in full...)
I am almost certain my husband is using escort services!
Q. Hi Everyone, I also am pretty certain that my husband for the 25 years is using escort services. My husband is self employed ,he not a nine until 5 man. There are alot of unexplained afternoon mobile numbers on his bill, when he dails these nu...
A. 28 January 2012: Get a print out of his phone bill with all the numbers on it (if you can) and do a reverse phone look up.
I don't think it's escorts, but random NSA people (No Strings Attached)... (read in full...)
A female friend talks about her sexual interests but when I respond she grows quiet
Q. Hi, I met this girl I know from college a few years back. We just chat whenever we meet, we smoke etc. we done this a few times. she has been talking about her sexual life and how often she needs it, I do not discuss mine. I really didn't know why ...
A. 28 January 2012: She isn't interested in you sexually. I think you are in the "friends-zone" and she kind of freak out because you tried to "overstep" the friends boundary.... (read in full...)
G/f dumped me after she lost weight saying we aren't equals!
Q. I really need help. my girlfriend of 4 years dumped me about a week back. this girl meant everything to me, I thought she was my soulmate. I've travelled around the country for this girl because of her job, disregarding my ambitions for hers. when ...
A. 28 January 2012: She sounds like she lost whatever "decent" personality trait she had along with the extra pounds.
I'm sorry she turned out to be a rather shallow & unpleasant person underneath.
Time for you to put the focus on YOU and YOUR needs/wants.
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My ex wife is upsetting my family
Q. I'm 43 and divorced 5 years from my ex wife Janet. We have one daughter together Amanda who is 13 and is living with me because she wanted it. We split up when she told me she was having an affair and when i asked her was it me or him she choose ...
A. 28 January 2012: Get a lawyer, keep all the "evidence" and sue for full custody.
Just because your ex gave birth doesn't mean she is the better choice as a mother for your oldest.
Take her to court. If she is now a single mom with 4 kids I doubt she will w... (read in full...)
I feel that I m a mother to him, not a wife.
Q. We 've been married forever. Right after my high school. We started out having no money at all to now owning a jewelry store. We split responsibility. I care of administration, my husband actually makes all the repairs and new designs. The probl...
A. 28 January 2012: You need to stop looking for men outside your marriage, it won't fix the problems. Either you take the bull by the horn and get help or you might consider leaving your husband.
Couples therapy? I think it might work for you two, since you are star... (read in full...)
Should I block my ex? He broke up with me because he didn't like the present I gave him
Q. On December 2010 I got dumped by my boyfriend. We'd been really good friends a few years before we started dating and then I feel like when we started dating we moved way too fast. Then on Christmas I got him a present and he said he didn't l...
A. 28 January 2012: Block him, who cares what he thinks! If it helps you avoid this dumbass, then do it!Maybe he will take that as a hint to leave you alone. And you are right, he wasn't worth the tears.
Guess he figured out what he lost, now you can be the one who ... (read in full...)
Sent my boyfriend a fancy picture of myself and he compared me to someone else
Q. Dear Cupid, As a new year resolution I told my boyfriend that I was going to take better care of myself.. Do my hair better and wear makeup, because usually I go without any makeup. He never complains about how I look as he himself is a pretty l...
A. 28 January 2012: I think you had every right to be hurt, that was a low blow. How do you get over it? Slowly and hopefully he will learn to keep his foot out of his mouth.
There was no need for him to do this. He could have said, I think you are prettier without ... (read in full...)
Is it alright to invite my friend's ex boyfriend to a dance?
Q. Okay so i wanna ask my guy friend to a dance and i also like him... but my friend used to go out with him but not really since it only lasted a day but she broke up with him cause she didn't see him that way. Now recently she decided she liked hi...
A. 28 January 2012: Ask your friend how she would feel about it first.... (read in full...)
Trapped in a loveless, sexless marriage. Everybody loves my husband except me.
Q. I have been married for many years and I have children. I have fallen in love with another man and the other man feels the same way about me. How do you make the choice to leave your marriage? I am not happy with my husband. I keep hearing everyone ...
A. 28 January 2012: Either way you are screwed. But honestly, I think you need to look at the future. Can you stayed married like this? Will That really make your child happier? Personally I don't think so.
However, I don't think it's ever a good idea to walk fro... (read in full...)
Could this be abuse?
Q. Am I being abuse if when I question my husband he puts on his headphones to block me out, ignores me for days, sleeps in the other room, tells me I'm negative, threatens divorce and if I try to remove a headphone from his ear to talk to him he hits ...
A. 28 January 2012: Well why does he put then on? To block you out? Why are you still with this guy?
A 3 year old might put his/her fingers in her ears and go na-na-na I can't hear you, but an adult need to TALK to his partner and figure out what needs to be done/... (read in full...)
If a guy wants you for sex but not a girlfriend does it mean you're ugly?
Q. He said it was because we live too far apart and I accepted that. Now he's dating a girl who lives near him but still wants to sleep with me. He calls me "hot" etc I've told him to leave me alone. I feel ugly :(...
A. 28 January 2012: He is a tool and honestly you are too good for him anyways.
It has nothing to do with your looks, it has to do with him being a total asshat.... (read in full...)
How can I hint to him not to get me silver as I'm allergic to it?
Q. hi there agony aunts and uncles, thanks for the good advice i have had from you with problems i have put on here, and also helped everytime, im just wanting to know and i feel a little cheeky saying this, but how do i hint to my boyfriend of nearly ...
A. 28 January 2012: Just tell him, I love the earrings you give me, you have great taste, unfortunately I can't wear them all for long since I'm allergic to silver.
And I agree with person12345 - silver allergy is rare, mostly what people are reacting to is the nick... (read in full...)
Hey guys, How often do things go well after getting a girl's number for you?
Q. I have a question for the guys on here. How often do things pan out? I mean, you meet a girl you like, you get her number. You text a little then nothing happens. I'd like to know how often this happens to other men because lately this has ...
A. 27 January 2012: I guess it depends on your texting as well, WHY not just call and actually have a conversation?
I know a lot of people your age and younger think that you can actually carry on a relationship via text, but honestly, I don't see how you really g... (read in full...)
I'm worried about gettin waxed down there
Q. I'd like to get my hair " down there " waxed lol, but i'm too embarassed about a stranger seeing my private parts, and how much hair there is there lol. I'm also worried about it hurting. How can i feel more comfortable about having it done ?. Also, ...
A. 27 January 2012: Getting waxed is not that bad, it only takes 10 min tops and you are done. Just make sure they use fresh wax, strips and that the place is clean, I would actually ask around (friends) if they can recommend someone.
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When asked if he wanted us to be in contact, he replied" I do and I don't." Meaning?
Q. Hi everyone I could really do with your help on this situation as it is really getting me down I met a man nearly a year ago now it turned out to be just sex for him I have asked him if we will be together in the future he responded with we will ...
A. 27 January 2012: He doesn't want anything but sex from you. He certainly isn't into you at all or he would have pursued a real relationship with you.
I don't mean to sound rude, but from what you write it seems to me that you are a convenient booty call. Every Ti... (read in full...)
One final meeting with the ex to talk things out?
Q. I was seeing this guy for a few months. Now that I think back, it was really unsatisfactory. I put up with a lot of crap and I was miserable but I put a good front. I mean, I was happy, but only when things seemed to be going great. So we ended it...
A. 26 January 2012: There really isn't anything to discuss. There is no such thing as "closure" for most people, because we actually spend more time blaming ourselves for things we had no power over, such as... a partner cheating, a partner no caring, being a tool, you ... (read in full...)
She wont invite me over ...
Q. I have been dating for 6 months my girlfriend hasn't had me in her house yet it bothers me.She say's she loves me and she is going to move in .I fel like im on the outside looking in please give me advice on how to talk to her about that issue.She ...
A. 26 January 2012: First thing that popped into my head was that she is embarrassed about her living conditions. Seems kinda odd to me.
Do you KNOW where she live?
I have never met a women, who didn't like to show off her home.
You always stay at your hous... (read in full...)
Is it me or is it him? Has he brainwashed me, or do I need to end the relationship?
Q. Back on here again about the same person I put a question on here about in 2010. I suppose that says it all. I desperately need some advice so if anyone can spare 5 mins to read this I'd appreciate it. I'm in a very troublesome relationship. ...
A. 26 January 2012: Seems like you have taken over the parent role in the relationship, as in paying for everything and giving him "chores".
What does he actually bring to the relationship? Emotional support, great sex? I mean there has to be some kind of "justifi... (read in full...)
Why do I keep feeling so sick whenever I go out drinking?
Q. Hey I seem to have a bit of a problem that affects me going out and enjoying myself, not sure if anyone else has had the same problem but I've receieved comments about it. Everytime I go out drinking I get so far and feel the need to throw up, and...
A. 26 January 2012: Stick with water, tonic? It's not like you can't go out and have with without alcohol.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got a lapdance at a strip club and now I am struggling to deal with this, am I just being silly?
Q. My boyfriend went to see strippers and has got a private lapdance on a number of occasions. Im finding it hard to deal with, I feel inadequate and dont feel comfortable having sex at the moment. I just feel he'l compare the way I look to the ...
A. 26 January 2012: Have you talked to him about it?
And no, I don't think you are being silly for feeling the way you do. Obviously, your BF either doesn't know how you feel or he does care. And more obvious, you two don't share the same values when it comes to... (read in full...)
In a strange place with no way back so I gave him oral, and now he hasn't contacted me. How do I forget? How do I make sure this never happens again?
Q. I went through my childhood and most of my teen years being made fun of, and because of that I often feel ugly and fat and unworthy of being loved. I met a guy a few weeks ago who made me feel beautiful and he took me out for the day it was great ...
A. 26 January 2012: He used you and abused you. Even if it was "only" oral it is very akin to rape or assault (IMHO) He took you to a place where he knew he would have all the power and you none.
How do you make sure it never happens again? 1. carry a cell phone an... (read in full...)
What is his problem? He disappears for days and is uncontactable.
Q. Okay so I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now we get along well AND we understand each other perfectly were even compatible zodiac sign wise ( hes a scorpio AND I'm a Pisces ) and everything is perfect except for the fact that every ...
A. 25 January 2012: Sounds a little odd. What does he do (work) that makes it impossible to get in contact like that?
Does he explain when he gets back/call back where he's been and what's up?
Sounds to me that you are a convenient "lay-over"... FWB, just withou... (read in full...)
Poor communication, a misunderstanding and so her friends abused me for being late. Should I be aggrieved with her since she was unsupportive to me re abuse by her friends?
Q. So this is my story. I have always wanted to be with this girl and finally, she agreed. We've been dating for a bit more than a year now. We got our ups and downs but all in all, it was pretty good, except for the fact that it was "just" "pret...
A. 25 January 2012: Break up time, honey.
The convenience of this relationship is over. If she cared you being invited wouldn't have been an afterthought.
Stop being a doormat, just because she is hot.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has genital herpes. What should I do?
Q. I'm dating a guy for a while who has admitted that he suffers from genital herpes. We haven't had sex yet. He claims that he has been cured but I was reading somewhere that herpes is incurable. Now I happen to be in love with him and I would like to ...
A. 25 January 2012: I would honestly talk to your doctor. That way you will learn the best way to prevent getting it and/or having sex with the the guy you really like.... (read in full...)
Adam or Eve, am I being played?
Q. am i jealous, stupid, controlling, or just kidding myself loving this person? what would you do? I have dated this 30 year old Micronesian for 3 months before we decided to be official. It was nice, I planned a whole day for the to of us and the...
A. 25 January 2012: Why on Earth are you still with her? And WHY would you "make" her quit her job? So she is more dependent on you? That doesn't make her more faithful.
I think she isn't really interested in a relationship and I think you are an overbearing and cont... (read in full...)
Girlfriend going off physical affection killing relationship
Q. Need some serious advise!.. I'm gay and ive been dating this lovely girl for about 6 months now.. We're both 18 and the first few months of our relationship were fantastic and we had fun and amazing sex.. We broke up for a month last year, and now ...
A. 25 January 2012: When you two went on a "break" what happened that lead up to the break up?
Did one of you cheat? Did she get pregnant? What happened? Obviously, whatever it is you two need to deal with it. There is another reason for her going off sex, then her... (read in full...)
Girlfriend going off physical affection killing relationship
Q. Need some serious advise!.. I'm gay and ive been dating this lovely girl for about 6 months now.. We're both 18 and the first few months of our relationship were fantastic and we had fun and amazing sex.. We broke up for a month last year, and now ...
A. 25 January 2012: When you two went on a "break" what happened that lead up to the break up?
Did one of you cheat? Did she get pregnant? What happened? Obviously, whatever it is you two need to deal with it. There is another reason for her going off sex, then her... (read in full...)
Now that I'm being noticed should I go for it and have sex as much as possible?
Q. American rapper Mike Jones has a song (censored version) where he says "Back then they didn’t want me, Now I’m hot, they all on me"...I feel like I’m living a similar situation and it’s confusing me as to how to proceed/live (if that makes any ...
A. 25 January 2012: I think you need to figure out what you want. Having many partners doesn't make you "more" of a man.
Maybe you need to look for a girl who shares your views, values and morals and go from there.
Just like a pretty girl don't date/sleep with ... (read in full...)
"Feeling insecure about them Toys in the Bedroom
Q. Ok here it goes its my b-day and my man has surprised me yet again. He wants to buy a toy dildo and use it on me for HIS own pleasure. But its MY b-day im the one who should be getten Pleasured. Right? I was down for it at first.but started thinkin ...
A. 25 January 2012: I think you are over thinking it. Your man (IMHO) wants to try new things to get you off (and himself) to spice things up.
If he didn't find you attractive he would skip sexy presents.
Tell him you feel a little odd about it, but who knows it... (read in full...)
Is it a good thing to jump back into the relationship so fast and move in?
Q. I was dating a guy a yr ago he was 41 and I was 20. and at the time i was in trade school, working and taking care of my gmom. And he was working none stop and had to move to atl for his job. The relationship didnt last very long because we didnt...
A. 25 January 2012: Don't jump right back in, you have grown a little while he was gone and maybe you want other things or even another person to spend your life with.
Take it slow, real slow. And if he seems to controlling, get out.
Seems to me like he wants to... (read in full...)
This guy used me and I dropped him out of my life. Then why am I feeling jealous about his one-night stand?
Q. Coming up 2 years ago I fell head over heels for this guy I knew through a mutual friend. We became best friends so quickly and we had an amazing bond. He began purposely leading me on and generally finding fun in messing with my head. But I was ...
A. 25 January 2012: I guess you are mad at yourself more then him. He took advantage of him 3 times and you... let him.
Let him go, block him, un-friend him, you have moved on and found a good guy. That poor schmuck from your past is still only capable of one nigh... (read in full...)
Concerns about a photo of me that someone shared with others on Facebook. Need advice!
Q. Someone on my friends list shared one of my photos on their wall, and they wrote a comment underneath it. I've just tried to find the photo on their wall again,but i can't see it ,so i'm thinking it has been deleted. However, the photo and the ...
A. 25 January 2012: I agree with Chalice
*If you want, you can contact Facebook and notify them he does not have permission to use your photo and send them a link.*
Don't contact him, just go through FB.
For some FB is how they live, for others, it's a place... (read in full...)
Is it fair for me to chase after this sweet guy knowing I don't really want him?
Q. Right now, I'm facing a connundrum. I'm a college student so most people want to tell me to focus on school and not a relationship. But I'm under so much pressure I feel like I need someone I can lean on and trust and who isn't looking for forever ...
A. 25 January 2012: No don't do it, you will regret it later and honestly if you aren't into him, stop toying with him. You wouldn't like it if a guy did this to you.... (read in full...)
What's wrong with sexting someone else while in a committed relationship?
Q. why is sexting (sending racy/sexually suggestive texts and FB messages) wrong? I can't see a problem with it and have been sexting an ex-colleague who i have no intention of seeing in reality. My gf of 6 months (who i love and am serious about) ...
A. 25 January 2012: You can't be serious...
Would you be sexting with your GF right next to you?
How can it be harmless if you GF's feelings got hurt?
And no she isn't over reacting and if you continue she will DUMP you, and THAT would be all on you.
There ... (read in full...)
Trying to gain confidence by understanding sexual experience but I feel lost
Q. Sex is very casual for some an almost everyday thing...something most are used to whereas Im not. So, by constantly getting action (vagina or otherwise) and then some idiot comes along with no or little experience, doesnt a woman think "I do this ...
A. 24 January 2012: No one starts out being amazing lovers. NO ONE. It takes practise, patience, imagination and good communication.
Hookers isn't going to teach you a whole lot, they are paid praise you, fake it and get it over with.
TAKE the time to get to k... (read in full...)
Why would he email me after 3 months of no contact? Should I reply with this?
Q. Why would he email me after 3months of no contact? should I reply with this? ? I loved my ex boyfriend so much. Thought he was the one. But he dumped me saying he didn't want a relationship then I found out he was cheating all along. He wan...
A. 24 January 2012: Delete the e-mail and don't reply. The only reason he sent it is for his OWN satisfaction, nothing to do with you or your feelings.
Ignore him. If he emails you again don't even read it, just delete it.
You know he was a crap BF, he isn't goi... (read in full...)
He flirts with me but loves another! Help!
Q. there is this boy, he is amazing and i think i'm in love with him but the only trouble is he's in love with his ex yet he still leads me on and flirts with me, i really don't know what to do......
A. 24 January 2012: I wouldn't flirt back. He still loves his ex, but wants to feel "wanted" so he flirts with you.
Anyone who is still in love with an ex, is not BF/GF material til til are over that ex.... (read in full...)
Going to his house to do oral...does he like me?
Q. Hi um recently I've been talking with this guy and he is in my science class. I've known him for two years now and were friends. Not close but were friends. And recently we've gotten much closer than ever. It started over Christmas break. He texted ...
A. 24 January 2012: Honey, please read the answers from Miamine & ChaliceODamnation and I mean REALLY read them, because they both hit the nail on the head.
Sex isn't like playing tag or Nintendo. And yes ORAL is SEX, whether you like it or not.
The guy wants... (read in full...)
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