What shall I do if my old manager gets this job?
Q. Hi, Please help. About 8 years ago I left my job in a call centre because of my manager. She took an instant dislike to me and made my job miserable that I started getting panic attacks. I left there and started another job in another c...
A. 19 October 2013: I agree with Caring Guy.... (read in full...)
Got the MM and it hasn't exactly been "happily ever after"
Q. this is very long winded so anybody who has the patience to read and answer...thankyou in advance! 5 years ago i started an affair with a married man. at first it was just fun then it got deeper and everybody started getting hurt. eventually...
A. 19 October 2013: Well, then you REALLY need to sit down and try and figure out why you put up with it. Is that something you want your kids to learn?
You know the saying, monkey see, monkey do? Kids learn a LOT from their parents. Good and bad.
Focus on your... (read in full...)
Embarrassed at the end of our first date
Q. I went on a first date with a guy yesterday we've known each other for a week, and I can tell he likes me but sometimes he's really unpredictable, well at the end of the date he kissed me on my lips like a little peck on the lips I thought he was ...
A. 19 October 2013: Eh, stop worrying about it. It's not like you are a mind reader, right?
It could have been worse :) At least it shows you wanted to KISS him back.
Chill, honey.... (read in full...)
Got the MM and it hasn't exactly been "happily ever after"
Q. this is very long winded so anybody who has the patience to read and answer...thankyou in advance! 5 years ago i started an affair with a married man. at first it was just fun then it got deeper and everybody started getting hurt. eventually...
A. 19 October 2013: My guess - he was always this much of a douche. You just didn't see this part of him, because he was busy getting in your knickers.
I know you posted you don't want to hear it but maybe you do. The whole WOE is me could have been 100% avoided.... (read in full...)
Is this classed as cheating..has he learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I need some peoples advice on a situation because I feel myself going crazy! I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years, all was going great up until summer of last year... I noticed he started acting really strange at the end of s...
A. 18 October 2013: I would call it cheating too, even if he felt remorse and guilt doesn't mean he didn't cheat and honestly, seems like he felt more worried about the potential STD/HIV then having a random hand-job (which I think he went a lot further with if he was ... (read in full...)
Before this relationship I was confident and secure
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now. She has had a lot of unhealthy tendencies that have reared their head in our relationship since I am her first significant relationship and she is realizing some of her unhealthy behavior patterns. ...
A. 18 October 2013: I agree with Auntie Babbit, you need to sit her down and talk to her and I would make it perfectly clear that IF she threaten with break up over trivial stuff then the relationship is over. (and YOU better stick to that decision if that is how you ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to be friends with his ex girlfriend who hurt him?
Q. Hi all, I could really use some help and opinions on my situation. My boyfriend who I've been with for about 4 months now is still friends with his ex-girlfriend who he was with for about 2 years. They broke up about a year ago. She chea...
A. 18 October 2013: To me, at least, if a person continue to talk to a person whom they don't HAVE to talk to and who hurt them a lot, they are not over the hurt and that person.
I can see no other reason to stay friends with a ex who betrayed you. None. Nor with the... (read in full...)
Will he become a stalker? Should I be worried?
Q. Hello all, I am going through some changes with a man and was hoping to get some good advice. I don’t know if I should be concerned or what??? I met him at work. We don’t work in the same department but our departments cross every now and then. In...
A. 17 October 2013: Will he stalk you? I wouldn't be surprised, the dude has lost his marbles for sure. Or like llifton said, maybe he was always a nutter.
He is obsessed. With you. And this isn't healthy in any way shape or form. YOU need to put an end to this, te... (read in full...)
I value her as a friend, but ...
Q. Hi, I'm really not sure how to proceed with a girl I've been hanging out with who I am very attracted to. She basically has a boyfriend whom she got back together with at the same time I began seeing her. So initially I was set on dating her and we ...
A. 17 October 2013: I would walk away now before you get more invested in her and her life. EVEN if she ditched the BF for you, how long do you think it would take before she might start to "talk" to another dude? Could you really trust her?
If her BF is a decent d... (read in full...)
Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 17 October 2013: Good for you!
Now who is the stupid one again? HIM - It's nice to know that there are people who actually take the advice people here on DC tries to give and more importantly that it works for you.
I hope your continued journey will bring you h... (read in full...)
She ditched me to hang out with her ex!
Q. Dear Cupid, Its been a long time since I wrote to you (I apologize), and now I am here again asking for help for more of my girl problems. In advance, I apologize for any grammar errors or fallacies since my english writing is not that great. ...
A. 17 October 2013: I think you should stop pretending to be her friend when that is not what you really want to be.
She doesn't see you as a suitor or potential BF and she is still so hung up on her exes.
I think in other words, you have been friend-zoned, my... (read in full...)
Do cheaters ever change?
Q. I've just met a Man and during a conversation we were having he explained that he had been in 2 marriages and 1 8 year defacto relationship. He continued to say he had been unfaithful with 2 women, 1, his first wife and 2 a short term ...
A. 17 October 2013: I think anyone can change, if THEY want to, not because others want them to.
So yes, it's possible that he has changed. But it could also be that he is telling you what he thinks/knows you want to hear.
... (read in full...)
I wouldn't sign the pre-nuptual agreement, so now he wants a post-nup
Q. Husband wanted us to sign prenuptials(stating that in the event of a divorce, everyone will walk away with what they had prior to the marriage.) before we got married 2 year ago. I refused though he vehemently asked for it. Well, he has requested ...
A. 17 October 2013: I agree fully with Auntie Cindy.
While I personally don't think being married to someone entitles you to any of his/her wealth, I do agree that if he didn't like that you refused to sign a pre-nup he shouldn't have married you. And asking for a po... (read in full...)
Why are thinner girls targeted more for what they wear, regardless of the temperature?
Q. Okay, so sometimes skinnier girls are shamed and teased for wearing not very revealing stuff. Where i live it is really hot, so i dont think this makes sense. i mean, if shes in a bikini or something super revealing, i can see the fuss! But i mean, ...
A. 17 October 2013: I think a bigger girl could have written your post too, it's not just skinny girls who get singled out. Honestly though, I don't think it's a "competition" of why get targeted the most. It seems that way to you because YOU are a skinnier girl.
... (read in full...)
My ex wouldn't interact with my friends but now he is!
Q. Hello all I recently broke up with my bf. One of the reasons was because he never wanted to interact with my friends or introduce me to his family. Personally I feel that if a couple got together, there shouldn't be anything to hide. Furthermore, we ...
A. 17 October 2013: Ignore it, just tell your friends to check their setting on social sites and to just ignore him too. Or even block him.
I think you were right in breaking up. If you weren't good enough to meet his family and your friends weren't "good" enough f... (read in full...)
Are girls turned off by an ugly penis??
Q. I used to masturbate very much, and this caused my penis to have some dark spots on it. Because Iam tan, it appeared that the spots are post inflammatory hyperpigmentaion. Iam virgin, but had oral sex couples times before it happened. My question ...
A. 17 October 2013: Not to hurt your feelings but there is no such thing as a pretty penis.
No, girls won't be upset or find it extraordinary ugly.
If they love you, they won't give a flying fart about what your penis looks like AT ALL.
... (read in full...)
He says he has "proof" even when he doesn't. Need help, fast!!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We're in our early-mid 30's. Every once in awhile he will accuse me of cheating and claiming he has "proof" when I know he doesn't. This morning at 7am he text me and asked me who the hell I was texting. I ...
A. 17 October 2013: I'm sorry you are hurting, but I think you did the right thing. I think he never got over what happened in the beginning )which I might add I don't think YOU did anything wrong back then).
Go NO Contact and allow yourself to grieve the "loss" o... (read in full...)
Do I chase my dream or give it up for my boyfriend?
Q. Hi there...i had posted a question about my boyfriend getting depressed since he didn't get placed and all..my dream company will be hiring freshers from my campus next week and I was dying for them to come..now my bf is asking me not to attend the ...
A. 17 October 2013: This is your future. What do you think your family would say?
Just because your BF is jealous of your success and not willing/able to do these drives - YOU should give up YOUR dreams?
If you do, you will resent it, if you don't HE will resent i... (read in full...)
FWB guys says that I'm not intellectually compatible with him. What do I do?
Q. I am currently in FWB with my best friend for a year. We know each other for long and i love him a lot, he does too. But he is not making our relationship official as he says he is not into relationship stuff. He is not seeing anyone i.e. not ...
A. 17 October 2013: I don't think you misunderstood ANYTHING. If he meant it is a general broad way and IS in a FWB with you, YOU are included (IMHO) on "those women".
He isn't much of a friend if he can "Take advantage" of a friendship and get some "FWB" out of y... (read in full...)
What's the etiquette for your dating profile?
Q. Online dating question! When do you take off your online dating profile? ! I have had two great dates with a guy I met online but notice he is CONSTANTLY on the dating site! I know it is very very early days but I still notice. Yes I have l...
A. 16 October 2013: I think you need to chill. JUST a little. Or you will go nuts before you two are even properly an "item".
My take on it. Once you two have had enough dates to decide to be exclusive, you can TALK about deleting your date-profile. Some people w... (read in full...)
My widower partner on chat rooms to women - this is ultimate betrayal and cheating
Q. hi, I am a female and i have been with my male partner for 6 yesrs. he was widowed in may 2006 and I met him on match.com in September 06. he has been hard work due to his three steps forward two steps back routine and he just has periods when he ...
A. 16 October 2013: I honestly think you are wasting your time and energy on this man.
He will NOT stop this behavior. I wouldn't be surprised if he did it before his wife passed away too.
It's only going to make YOU more and more miserable by staying. It's no... (read in full...)
How can I learn to keep dates?
Q. Helo aunts and uncles, i just want to ask a question: how do i learn to keep to dates? I find it difficult always to keep to dates and its really affectin my relationship with others. I've lost most of my friends becos i barely bring myself to hang ...
A. 16 October 2013: Sounds like you have anxiety, more then just plain nervous. Have you tried to MAKE yourself go? I have anxieties when it comes to larger groups of people, but I have learned over the years that IF I make myself go, I usually end up having fun.
... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy who is 9 years younger than me? I'm 28 and he's 19
Q. Im 28 years old and newly single, i'd rather stay single for a while to be honest but someones interested in me. The problem.is hes only 19 that is way too young for me but my friend doean't think so. I dont feel comfortable about that age gap but ...
A. 16 October 2013: Honestly, if you are NOT wanting to date him, it's OK you CERTAINLY don't have to go out on a "pity-date" or a date because you feel bad for telling him no thanks.
YOUR friends aren't the ones dating him, so it's not their concern.
Go with... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair with my married colleague?
Q. I recently ended up kissing a women I work with after a night out. It shouldn't be a problem, only she is married. We have always had great chemistry and she has made no secret of her liking me--I guess you could say she is a cougar or whatever. She ...
A. 16 October 2013: I think you need to stop a second and THINK (with the head to the north). It's not about breaking up a marriage - I would be surprised if she has cheated before and will cheat again.
But if THAT who you want to be? Some piece of "young" meat? A... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like to have the light on during sex. Is he fantasizing about someone else?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't like to have the light on during sex. He prefers to turn it off and leave another room on so you can see a little but it's still dark. Does that mean that he's fantasizing about someone else during sex? I'm not self conscious ...
A. 16 October 2013: I doubt it's because he wants to fantasize about someone else.
More likely it's "mood-lightning" or because he's had a GF who didn't like the lights on.
Ask him?... (read in full...)
Why do people let facebook ruin their relationship?
Q. I have a question about Facebook, and that is why do so many people let it run their relationships? I'm not just talking about significant others, either. They let it affect their relationships with family as well. I know my family has, at least. A ...
A. 15 October 2013: I you, I deleted my FB, not because of MY family's drama (cause there wasn't any) but my "in-laws" and maybe because I'm old I just don't "get" the NEED to FB. I call people, I send cards and/or e-mail. I don't need to tell the world that I had a ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to keep dates?
Q. Helo aunts and uncles, i just want to ask a question: how do i learn to keep to dates? I find it difficult always to keep to dates and its really affectin my relationship with others. I've lost most of my friends becos i barely bring myself to hang ...
A. 15 October 2013: Do you JUST not show up? Or do you cancel last minute?
Do you think you are depressed? or have anxieties?
Do YOU always arrange to go see them or do they come see you as well?... (read in full...)
Guys, would you take her back?
Q. This is a question for the guys, mostly! If you were a 29-year-old male, newly divorced, and in love with a new woman, would you take this woman back? - You have your daughter for the weekend, and decide to surprise your new girlfriend of ...
A. 15 October 2013: I would have guessed you were the ex-gf and thus the interest in their relationship. That is why I asked - curiosity and all.
I don't know how often I see people ( for instance my nieces who are all in their 20's) doing absurdly stupid, hurtful ... (read in full...)
He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?
Q. ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...
A. 15 October 2013: I think it's a piss poor excuse for his behavior. It is much easier to say a "sub character" made me do it then own up and be a man about it.
He knows what he did was wrong and slimy, but did that stop him, no. He did it because he wanted to. And ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my education and life choices!
Q. so i moved to Leeds about a year ago to live with my dad and his gf, a year later i hate living ere the only reason that im staying here is cause im in my final year of college and i have met new friends and met my girlfriend as well. I want to live ...
A. 15 October 2013: Can you afford getting a degree at Uni? DO you have a clear IDEA of what you want to study? What you want to do?
I took a year off between college and uni because I wasn't sure - I went abroad and worked and honestly had a blast. I didn't make gre... (read in full...)
He says he has "proof" even when he doesn't. Need help, fast!!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We're in our early-mid 30's. Every once in awhile he will accuse me of cheating and claiming he has "proof" when I know he doesn't. This morning at 7am he text me and asked me who the hell I was texting. I ...
A. 15 October 2013: Does he have access to your e-mail? If so, he can fabricate anything he wants.
Secondly, if he says all his past relationships ended because the woman cheated, I'm kind of inclined to think that he either USED to date a certain type of woman (t... (read in full...)
Guys, would you take her back?
Q. This is a question for the guys, mostly! If you were a 29-year-old male, newly divorced, and in love with a new woman, would you take this woman back? - You have your daughter for the weekend, and decide to surprise your new girlfriend of ...
A. 15 October 2013: I still have to ask, who are you in relations to these two people?
... (read in full...)
She's the only friend I've got but she's cheating and I don't like how shes changing!
Q. Hello everyone, i don´t have many friends and yet the few I have, they have moved abroad for better work, to study etc...So now I´ve got only one friend I can hang out, we´ve known each other for very long time and I can say we were best friends... ...
A. 15 October 2013: I agree with CMMP
She isn't worth keeping around as a friend, because it makes you FEEL bad for HER actions. You certainly don't HAVE to stay friends with her. It might just feel that way, but I have no doubt that there are plenty of people o... (read in full...)
Do men really think about sex every 7 seconds?
Q. Hey ladies, just have a question... I have heard so many times that men think about sex every 7 seconds. Is this an exaggeration? Also, a second question I have is, I think about sex all the time even though I don't get much pleasure out of ...
A. 15 October 2013: As a woman I would say from the mid to late teens and to the mid to late 20's sex is a lot on ANYONE's mind regardless of gender. And it is perfectly normal.
The 7 seconds? I don't think that is entirely correct, if men (and women ) where so... (read in full...)
Why does he suddenly seem distant?
Q. Why does he suddenly seem distant? I've been chatting with an old high school friend for about 4 months. We've been talking everyday (facebook, skype, phone, etc) and it was pretty intense-talking about the future, him telling me he misses me, al...
A. 15 October 2013: name, not mane....... (read in full...)
Will we get stared at or ridiculed? We are a biracial couple
Q. Hello. My name is Jeff, and I have a question that may come off as odd. I've met this beautiful white woman, and she told me she would like to go out on a date with me. As I am black, I have always wondered how it would be like to date a white wom...
A. 15 October 2013: You are both human beings. One of you (you) just have more pigmentation then the other one (she) does.
I have met many "bi-racial" couples in the military it's kind of common and most of them seem to work a lot better then not.( I put that in ... (read in full...)
I just feel like I don't belong anywhere and my life is passing me by.
Q. Ok, I know this isn't a relationship question but I need help. I'm not quite sure how to put this but my life just sucks right now. I feel like it's passing me by, and it's really pathetic. I'm not sure quite how to put this, but there's a vo...
A. 15 October 2013: 1. Take violin lesson, try it out, sitting on your hiney dreaming big will get you no where. So what if you fail at it? AT least you tried.
2. There are more then one band out there. If you used to have passion for the guitar then pick it up, agai... (read in full...)
Why does he suddenly seem distant?
Q. Why does he suddenly seem distant? I've been chatting with an old high school friend for about 4 months. We've been talking everyday (facebook, skype, phone, etc) and it was pretty intense-talking about the future, him telling me he misses me, al...
A. 15 October 2013: YouWish brings up an excellent point.
YOU know his first name, last mane and maybe even his date of birth so YOU can look him up and find all kind of information.
He might have told you he is separated, but in reality he isn't. It just sounds b... (read in full...)
I've had dreams about my teacher crush and I'm confused now!
Q. I have a crush on a teacher at my school, he's 25, friendly and good looking. Now, i have liked him since last year, and he coached my soccer team this year. Don't worry, I won't try anything and I've learnt that any 'special' attention he gives me ...
A. 15 October 2013: Old fart or not kc_100 is right on the money. :)
It is NOT love. It is a crush. It might FEEL like love and the dream reinforced those feelings. However a dream is JUST a dream. It's your sub-conscience working on things you are thinking of and a... (read in full...)
I keep my late partner's Facebook page active -- is this wrong?
Q. I had created a Facebook profile for my partner and lover of two years and he recently passed away. I definitely do not want to memorialize his profile because I just dont want to believe hes gone yet. So I am still logging in to his profile and ...
A. 15 October 2013: My Mom's FB page is still up, she died 4 1/2 years ago - my dad doesn't know her PW, so it will stay up til FB shuts it down.
I don't use FB myself anymore, but I do know quite a few of my friend have her on their friends list still. (and yes, the... (read in full...)
I want to know that we're looking for the same things in life
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 6 months. We are both 30 It has been going well but I have started to feel a bit uneasy that we only see each other at weekends and one night in the week (we live quite far from each other). This weekend he bough...
A. 15 October 2013: I think he is being smart and going slow. Whether you are 18 or 30 I think a year 1 1/2 of solid dating before moving in is a smart thing.
I can't see why he can't buy a house now and share it with his family. IF at some point you two get to a pla... (read in full...)
Why does he suddenly seem distant?
Q. Why does he suddenly seem distant? I've been chatting with an old high school friend for about 4 months. We've been talking everyday (facebook, skype, phone, etc) and it was pretty intense-talking about the future, him telling me he misses me, al...
A. 14 October 2013: Is he married? Do you live far from each other?
If he is married, well then maybe he found his conscience. If he is single, maybe he met someone closer by? And since THAT is still new he hasn't told you yet?
Or, he lost a close friend/family me... (read in full...)
Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 9 October 2013: ********I guess this has taught me the downsides of creepin and the downsides of responding to him. All those things do is get me in to trouble and make me feel like an idiot.****
You said it yourself, YOU make yourself "feel" DUMB when you PLAY... (read in full...)
Guys, would you take her back?
Q. This is a question for the guys, mostly! If you were a 29-year-old male, newly divorced, and in love with a new woman, would you take this woman back? - You have your daughter for the weekend, and decide to surprise your new girlfriend of ...
A. 2 October 2013: Women cheat as much (or close) as men do. About 70 percent of married men admitted to cheating on their wives. Most statistics found that about 50 to 60 percent of women admitted to having an affair. So it's close. So saying that women aren't geared ... (read in full...)
Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 27 September 2013: Fight for what? For him to use you some more? To play you for a fool a while longer?
He can't even carry on a serious conversation with you.
My guess is he saw you as a notch in his bed post. You two weren't dating you just slept together. ... (read in full...)
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