How can I get my dear bunny girlfriend back?
Q. Six weeks ago, I met a beautiful young woman online who I ended up falling head over heels in love with. She was affectionate, caring, beautiful, we got on fantastically, the sex was amazing, and she seemed to be into me just as much as I was into ...
A. 3 November 2013: I have to agree, it's not about your age it's about all the little untold truth.
1. Most women are smart. IF a guy lives with his "ex" it's more common then not that he is still involved with her, one way or another.
2. you lied about your ... (read in full...)
Why does she text me and say she misses me but she won't go out with me?
Q. I've known this woman for 15 years. She texted me and says that she misses me. I asked her out, I have tried calling her. All I ever get each day is a text message saying good morning and that she misses me. I should just walk away. She doesn't go ...
A. 3 November 2013: I have to agree it makes no sense, but here is my guess.
She texts you every morning because she LIKES the IDEA of a relationship of having you in her little fantasy, that YOU are her man whom she misses. In reality she doesn't want a relation... (read in full...)
Why did this gal ask me for sex on our first date?
Q. I met a woman on a dating site for serious relationships, which I am seeking. After some brief emails and a phone chat we made a dinner date. We met at a nice resturant and spent a nice hour talking about ourselves, nothing sexual. When we left, I ...
A. 2 November 2013: My guess, she have always tried or successfully used sex as a way of "bonding". Could be she thinks if she has sex with you asap you will want to keep her around. Could that is how other guys have treated her.
I would be PERFECTLY honest and tell... (read in full...)
Should I cut my really long hair because my boyfriend likes short hair?
Q. I have really long hair. Myboyfriend an i really love each other. but he likes hair short so he is asking me to cut them. should i do what he says. i cant make up my mind but i do want to make him happy...
A. 2 November 2013: Unless YOU really want to go for shorter hair then I would say no, HE can like short hair all he wants but he isn't dating you for your hair is he?
And I agree with the other aunties who says, first he wants you to change your hair, then your clo... (read in full...)
I hate having sex with my bf any hellppp???
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for the past 4 and a half years and i hate having sex with him. we are soooo different i like agressivness sexually and he likes gentleness. he only lasts about 2 minutes which is so frustrating for ...
A. 2 November 2013: Iagree if you haven't talked to him about this YET, now is the time, it should like the piss-poor sex is killing your libido. The thing is, it's NOT just about him and what he does "wrong" it's about you not effectually EXPLAINING what you need when ... (read in full...)
He cannot take any criticism but dishes it out very well.. How do I make him see this without fighting about it? I am tired!
Q. I have been with my husband for seven years I work(taxes) four months outside the home and the rest of the year I am a stay at home mom. I like this schedule because my kids are young teens and I am here for them when they are home and I al...
A. 1 November 2013: Are you guys financially OK or are you strapped? If you are OK then I would look for a part time job, if you are strapped, a full time.
I agree that teens don't need an adult to greet them after school and take care of them in the same way smal... (read in full...)
Could it be smegma or semen? Or is it evidence of cheating?
Q. this is a serious question if a man has a white powdery ring around his foreskin head does that mean he cheated and had sex? is that smegma? He is uncircumsized ....when he pulled back the skin I saw white clumpy stuff under the skin looks like ...
A. 1 November 2013: Eww, sorry.
It means he's not keeping himself clean. Not that he is cheating.... (read in full...)
Not all fathers are good fathers, but what do you do?
Q. This isn't a question as such, more to see what other people's opinion on this is. I am all for a dad to have his rights and responsibilities towards his children. But what do people think a mother should do when there was domestic abuse in th...
A. 1 November 2013: As a mom, I understand your concern. I wouldn't want a yo-yo "dad" in and out of my kid's lives either.
One thing though is how YOU feel another is the law. The law is there to protect the CHILD first. And serve the child's needs. But life isn... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents about this much older guy in prison?
Q. I am in love with a man that's 24 years older than me seems to really feel the same about me he is wanting to become a pastor really soon he knows slot about the Bible and he is devoted to God he is 53 I'm 29 he is currently in prison and has only ...
A. 1 November 2013: I suggest that if you are dead-set on being with this man that you give him 6-18 months to get on his feet when he gets out.
Do you know what he is in for? Like YOUWISH mentioned you NEED to run a background check they will cost you $6-10. I... (read in full...)
I called my girlfriend fat. I was joking but she's upset. How do I make it up to her?
Q. I have got a problem which needs your help. I met my girlfriend in Singapore two years ago and living with her in her small apartment there provided to her by school where she teaches. I do odd job there and grateful to her for that. She is an ...
A. 31 October 2013: iAmHereToHelpYou + ?, writes (31 October 2013):
Saying she's fat is like saying a guy has a small manhood.... It hurts.
Absolutely correct.
YOU wouldn't be liking it one bit if she said you had a tiny penis... even as a "joke".
... (read in full...)
What do I do with a dog a friend has never picked up or looked after?
Q. Hi all, I have found myself in a very difficult situation. I quite like dogs but I'm by no means an experienced dog owner and certainly wouldn't have chosen one as a forever pet but in the summer (June) I heard that a friend-of-a-frie...
A. 31 October 2013: Is the dog a pure bred? Or a mutt (mixed)?
If it is a purebred I would call up as many rescues for that type of bred and ask them what to do. That you have two choices, find him a rescue or have him put down. Putting someone else dog down is a no-... (read in full...)
Should I feel this guilty about not being a virgin anymore? I'm 23 and I've slept with one person!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, You all have given me great advice in the past, and I'm hoping you can help me again. I've been struggling with feelings of guilt over not being a virgin anymore. I'm 23 and I slept with my last (and only) boyfriend. In th...
A. 31 October 2013: You know virginity is not a magical thing. Virginity means no penetration. THAT is it.
Should you feel guilty? Why? What will that accomplish? The guilt I mean? It's not like you can change it, even the ridiculous surgery to remake a hymen, i... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets easily irritated at me regarding how I work and I don't know what to do? I am walking on egg shells anymore
Q. We live together. He is divorced with a couple adult children. We talk about getting married. We share the same office. I have a home based business. I have a separate work space from the office in the home. He tells me to be myself around hi...
A. 31 October 2013: Have you explained that THAT is how you work? Your process? He might have a different process (we all do honestly) but I would tell him it needs to stop with him doubting you and criticize your work methods.
I think when you start "invitin... (read in full...)
I'm confused and I know it will hurt my g/f to find out I'm leading a double life!
Q. Guys I don't know where to start and I'm so confused but I guess I try from the beginning . 6 years ago I met my best friend and my girlfriend and my first love but we are both closet cases but most people have assumed that we are an item. The last ...
A. 31 October 2013: Sounds like you WANT to be straight but you could be bisexual. It happens. The thing is if you are SO curious about what it could be with a man, then YES, you need to tell her. SHE needs to know what is going on with you.
Talk it over with her... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my manager if he want to?
Q. I am 19 and I work part-time as a server. We have this kind of newish manager, he's 31, that started about 5-7 months ago. When he first started working there, I HATED him. I mean seriously disliked the guy. He was arrogant, rude, cocky an demanded ...
A. 31 October 2013: No, he is your manager and these first impression you got is most likely who he really is. It's not hard to fake being nice and "flirt" with the young girls so they don't complain about him.
You ever heard the expression, don't crap where you eat?... (read in full...)
My friend is self-centered, but I live with her
Q. I am in my last year in college and living with 3 other students. One is a great roommate, the other is a friend from high school and her friend. The only one I have any trouble with is my friend from high school. In high school, we were very clo...
A. 31 October 2013: Yikes!
Well my first question is how much longer do you have to live together?
If it's more then 7-8 months I might be looking to room elsewhere. But you said you didn't want to move out.
I would also be honest with her. Tell how how it fel... (read in full...)
The last convo we had he said I was acting like a psycho and wants me to leave him alone. How do I fix all this?
Q. I've been dating this guy for aboyt 2 months. He has his own business and works crazy hours and gets stressed about it. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together. We went out and did enjoyable things together. Then he started a really huge ...
A. 31 October 2013: I suggest you leave him alone. You blew it.
Having ONLY know him 2 months and you put THAT much pressure on a guy who ACTUALLY had a good reason for not spending time with you 24/7 is not a very attractive and it is rather off putting.
He ASKE... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about a lying cheating ex boyfriend?
Q. I started seeing a guy about six month ago, a few months into 'seeing him' he tells me he has a girlfriend. Gave me the whole as soon as he met me he planned to end it with her but couldn't bring himself to do it but he couldn't lie to me any ...
A. 31 October 2013: First of all, I'm sorry you got caught up in something you thought might have been the beginning of something great.
Not all cheaters are scum and easy to identify. Some are "almost" decent guys who makes a scumbag choice. Or a cowardice and self... (read in full...)
My husband said he was only on the dating site to look at the pictures
Q. I found out my husband had been going on hookup/dating sites. He claimed he was using photos for masturbation vs going to porn sites. At first he lied and denied it at all. He said he didn't know how those sites got on his phone. (And I found them ...
A. 31 October 2013: Sorry hit enter to fast.
MAYBE he did it because he didn't think you would approve of actual porn?
... (read in full...)
My husband said he was only on the dating site to look at the pictures
Q. I found out my husband had been going on hookup/dating sites. He claimed he was using photos for masturbation vs going to porn sites. At first he lied and denied it at all. He said he didn't know how those sites got on his phone. (And I found them ...
A. 31 October 2013: Um, how is it ok for OTHER men to masturbate to YOUR picture but your husband can't masturbate to randoms women's?
That's illogical and quite the double standard there.
I would sit him down and tell him HOW it made you feel and what YOU find OK... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's adult son is driving me to despair!
Q. My boyfriend is in his 45 and we have been very hapoy for 12 months. We had plans to rent our places and to buy a place together. Then his 20 year son moved back in with him. Everything has changed. My 24 year old son has moved out and is very happy ...
A. 31 October 2013: I agree with C. Grant.
DO NOT move in. I would step back a little bit too, the son of your BF is not yours to raise, and IF your BF wants advice, then you can offer otherwise, I can see why he thinks it's you meddling.
I would suggest you spen... (read in full...)
I want to tell him to stop contacting me because I feel like he is playing with my heart, does he miss me or is he just saying hi?
Q. A guy I met broke up with me and said he doesn't know what he wants. he said he is lost. I asked to help him and he said no. I decided to accept it and now after almost two week no contact he texted me out of the blue and said "hope everything good ...
A. 31 October 2013: He just messaged you to keep in touch, JUST in case he can't find greener grass he can always use you as a "fall back" girl.
I would just tell him:" I rather you stop texting me, I see no point to it - have a nice life." Then BLOCK his number. ... (read in full...)
My ex won't let go and is telling people how he misses me and sending me things in the mail
Q. Can any of u lovely people help me.... I've posted here before. I was with a man a few years older than me for 2 years. In those 2 years he cheated for 15 months (I was the mistress it turned out) I tried to stay and forgive him. It just didn't work ...
A. 31 October 2013: Ignore it, IF he is married/serious GF, I would mail that DVD to his HOME (which I assume he shares with his GF/wife). Put a sticky note (not a letter) saying YOU keep this I have no need for it. (don't sign it either). That way he knows you want no ... (read in full...)
I've become extremely needy and emotional, since I'm used to have her around my finger.
Q. Hey, I recently dumped my girlfriend of 4 years. I did it because I haven't lived my life and I was feeling that I wanted to meet other people. My girlfriend was wonderful but we wasn't on the same level, she was very responsible and ...
A. 31 October 2013: Shit happens. I agree with fishdish- you really come off as a total asshat.
You put all the reasons on break up with her on her - she was kinda serious and boring and mature.. Facts are, YOU were just as boring as her. You could have made plans wi... (read in full...)
After 5 years he tells me he never loved me and was just using me for sex
Q. after 5yrs the guy i was seeing told me he had meet someone else. Now discover that he never loved me and he only kept seeing me for sex. I feel so used and cheap. Im finding it hard to deal with as i loved this guy. how do i move on? jo ...
A. 31 October 2013: How does that makes YOU cheap?
Honestly though I agree with CMMP - no one stays 5 YEARS with someone JUST to use them, I really doubt that. WHY he wants to hurt you now I have no idea.
My guess is, he had been seeing the other woman a while no... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being disrespected, used, and attacked by my boyfriend
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 13 months now, and I have never loved someone so much before. I recently started my first year of college, and my first job. My motivation was him, it was for our future. He on the other hand wont ...
A. 30 October 2013: You really can't change what he is thinking, because he is trying to pull wool over your eyes - make YOU question yourself instead of questioning him. It's a pretty common tactic. It's like answering a question with a question. You get NO answers.
... (read in full...)
My online boyfriend just used me for money!
Q. I meet my bf online 4 months back. Initially he was very sweet. And always told me he loves me very much. We never meet face to face. He is financially a broke. I helped him pay half of his house rent once. He also didn't have money to eat food I a...
A. 30 October 2013: He started to bully you when you questioned him, typically abusive user personality.
YOU don't love him, TRUST me - the guy you FEEL for was an act, the nasty rude guy IS who he really is.
CUT THE CONTACT, stay away from him.
NEVER EVER give... (read in full...)
I messed with her emotions and crushed her heart. Do I deserve her friendship again?
Q. Hi. I'm bisexual and some time ago I was seeing a woman during a rough point in my life. I was going through a divorce and simultaneously trying to detach from an emotional affair I was having with my male boss. The woman I was seeing had no idea I ...
A. 30 October 2013: No, I think you should stay far far away.
It's not about what YOU deserve, but what SHE deserves. Does she deserve an apology, most definitely, but I don't think it will help her at all. It might make YOU feel better about it, but I'm not sure it ... (read in full...)
Does being cheated on make you more likely to cheat?
Q. What do you think? My girlfriend's last boyfriend cheated on her. Would that make her more likely? Since her experience with her ex, she is very jealous with me. That is understandable. I wonder if that makes it more likely for her to cheat. ...
A. 30 October 2013: Your GF "moral compass" is broke. Tit for tat is for the playground at the Kindergarten not in a relationship.
I would have a serious talk about why she did it, why she thought it would be OK and HOW she is gong rebuild YOUR trust - she BROKE yo... (read in full...)
He keeps flaking out on plans
Q. Hi, There is a guy on my university degree who for the past year has been showing interest. We have never spoke in person (just hey, you alright?) We have different friendship groups and were both abit shy around each other. We speak on fac...
A. 30 October 2013: If you really are keen on the guy and want to "help" him move past the first date scariness - how about you look up something around campus/town that are free? Or sugest JUSt going for coffee. And then add the list to him tell him what days work, ... (read in full...)
Is this marriage bad enough to justify my leaving?
Q. Long story, but here goes. I am a 21 year old Indian woman who had an arranged marriage to the (34-y/o)man of my dreams. Or so I thought. To give some background,I am an attractive woman who was very used to getting lots of male attention. Some...
A. 29 October 2013: First of all, YOU might feel like the "relationship" you had with B was "just" an outlet, but it was an emotional one, one you craved because you felt abused and neglected at home. I'm sure if those text/sext messages had been between your DH and ... (read in full...)
He keeps flaking out on plans
Q. Hi, There is a guy on my university degree who for the past year has been showing interest. We have never spoke in person (just hey, you alright?) We have different friendship groups and were both abit shy around each other. We speak on fac...
A. 29 October 2013: He does think you are beautiful I would guess, but one thing is finding a girl beautiful another is to find a girl so irresistible that you WANT to date them.
It's not about your looks (or you really) I think he could be very inexperi... (read in full...)
Am I a total pervert for being turned on by the idea of a cute boy masturbating to a picture of me?
Q. Not long ago I had an embarrassing moment at my school where I was wearing a thin black spaghetti strap top with just a thin camisole underneath but no bra when someone conveniently decided to snap a picture and thanks to the flash you could totally ...
A. 29 October 2013: Are you a total pervert? No, but don't let it get to your head and make you do questionable clothing choices in the future in hopes that some dude you like MIGHT see you (or a picture of you) and jerk off to it.
Learn from it.
And like FA s... (read in full...)
How can something feel so right yet be so wrong? In love with a married man who loves me too, but also loves his wife and wont leave her.....
Q. I don't know what to do... I don't even know how to start. I never been on any of these sites before.. this is also a long story. I met this man at a work place..once I was working there he texted me and would flirt just a little (he had my numbe...
A. 29 October 2013: You are so young to be wasting your life pining after a man, who loves nothing more then to fill your pretty little head with lies, getting his ego rubbed and the free sex.
And you are too old to not know better. You even said in the beginnin... (read in full...)
He keeps flaking out on plans
Q. Hi, There is a guy on my university degree who for the past year has been showing interest. We have never spoke in person (just hey, you alright?) We have different friendship groups and were both abit shy around each other. We speak on fac...
A. 29 October 2013:
""Should i text him to see if were still on tommorow/wednesday or thursday? ""
Nope, I would not sit at home doing nothing hoping he will get his act together.
He IS a flake, stop wasting your time.
The fact that he can talk over FB bu... (read in full...)
5 years of my life stolen by a lying cheat
Q. My whole life has just fallen apart. I have been with my long term boyfriend for 5 years but things have only got really serious in the last 18 months, we have discussed marrige and he has been concidering moving in with me ...I have never met his ...
A. 28 October 2013: Then STOP wasting any more of your life, call him (if you can) before he is supposed to arrive and tell him to NOT stop by, NOT call you anymore, LEAVE you alone - that he NEEDS to go home to his wife and child.
After that you BLOCK his number a... (read in full...)
I hit it off with my builder but now he's blowing cold. What happened?
Q. A builder came to do some work on my house. We hit it off straight away. We had so much in common. We exchanged numbers and have chatted everyday since. Saturday he sent me a text asking what I was up to. I said I was just home bored I invited him ...
A. 28 October 2013: It could be many reasons:
1. he has a Wife, GF or partner.
2. You didn't put out.
3. He decided he didn't want to pursue it.
My guess is #1 to be honest.
I agree with Daisy, set the BAR a little higher for yourself. If you click with a... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from my jealous and possessive male friend? I have a boyfriend and haven't dared tell the friend!
Q. Hi, basically I am a girl and I have this guy friend, and he told me he liked me in that way, but I don't so I let him down gently and we continued to be friends. Then my current bf came on the scene, and if truth be told I still haven't told my ...
A. 28 October 2013: I thought he didn't know about the BF ??
And the worst bit - he has said about my bf - "it's me or him"
Or was that just in general? If you ever got a Bf?
Well, if it is, there is your answer, he WANTS to be the only MALE in your circle - if... (read in full...)
He asked me for a date but its been 5 days since I've heard from him. Is it rude to break the date?
Q. Over email, a guy asked me to go out with him on day xyz. I replied, said yes that day sounds good. It has been five days and I haven't gotten his reply confirming the date and time with me. I know he can be busy or had an emergency but re...
A. 28 October 2013: I would tell him you have made other plans because you didn't hear back from him..
Asking someone to go out on a date and leave it open to let's say Saturday, but no time and no place is NOT a conformed date.
YES, he should have gotten back... (read in full...)
Does being cheated on make you more likely to cheat?
Q. What do you think? My girlfriend's last boyfriend cheated on her. Would that make her more likely? Since her experience with her ex, she is very jealous with me. That is understandable. I wonder if that makes it more likely for her to cheat. ...
A. 28 October 2013: I have to agree with Bronzed Adonis.
He said :"I think it`s her disloyal behavior you should be questioning, not her ex boyfriend`s.
I DO NOT think having been cheated on, is an excuse to cheat in the future or future relationships, nor d... (read in full...)
I want to go slow -- are guys not willing to wait anymore?
Q. I used to be in an very emotionally unhealthy relationship of five years which was my first one i was 19- and it lasted until i was 24. I finally left the abusive relationship and have taken three years to really recover and get my self to start ...
A. 28 October 2013: I see nothing wrong in you wanting to get to know a person and feel secure in the knowledge that they are tested and clean before having sex.
I would be upfront about when you met a guy who you are interested in and who is interested in you. Tha... (read in full...)
He asked me for a date but its been 5 days since I've heard from him. Is it rude to break the date?
Q. Over email, a guy asked me to go out with him on day xyz. I replied, said yes that day sounds good. It has been five days and I haven't gotten his reply confirming the date and time with me. I know he can be busy or had an emergency but re...
A. 28 October 2013: It is a little rude to break the date, but it would be even more rude to not show up or wait for him to get hold of you. I would cancel it rather then tell him IF/WHEN he contacts you. He most likely still think the date is on. After all you said ... (read in full...)
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