Should I move on or give him some time?
Q. I've been on a few dates with this guy and he has been a gentleman, very romantic etc. He tells me that he likes me over and over again and that he wants to get to know me. We have kissed and cuddled only. Now my problem/ confusion is tha...
A. 24 September 2013: It is not uncommon for people (these days) to date a few people at the same time til they figure out if one of them is someone they want to be exclusive with.
Seems to me that HE is doing just that.
And it seems to me that YOU do NOT date more... (read in full...)
Is it against the law to save photos from facebook?
Q. I have taken to saving pictures of girls in my class wearing bikinis from Facebook or Twitter. All I want to know is if it is first of all legal and secondly if its creepy to do so. I've never shown anyone this and nobody knows I do it. I am ...
A. 23 September 2013: I would believe if they are on the Internet there is nothing illegal about it, however I'm with CMMP - it's creepy.... (read in full...)
I think he's gay but he has a girlfriend. I want to tell him I am gay.
Q. Hello there. I have a problem. recently I've really started to like this guy at work but hes going of to uni till December. The problem is I'm gay and I and lots of other people think he is but he has a girl friend. I'm ok with that because...
A. 23 September 2013: IF he is flirting this way with you then he KNOWS you are gay. Or at least bi.
I agree with Janniepeg - you are better off finding a guy who isn't hiding it (he could be bi too) OR who is ACTUALLY gay and INTERESTED in a relationship.
If he h... (read in full...)
He didn't celebrate my birthday. Am I overreacting if I break things off?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now. As far as I know, we have been seeing each other exclusively. Things have been going well this far until my birthday yesterday. I had a birthday dinner with friends scheduled for the day before my ...
A. 23 September 2013: I think you are over reacting or jumping the gun a bit.
1. It's only been a month since you started dating.
2. He JUST got back home from a wedding. (He did call you though - he could easily have waited til the next day)
3. He might hav... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or just really busy?
Q. Hello ok I had met this guy who is younger than I am, he is 31, I am 40. He seems like a nice guy and we would talk on the phone pretty much every day. He also kept bugging me about when I would take the Greyhound to meet him. I kept putting it off ...
A. 23 September 2013: My thought is this, if he wanted to see you so badly WHY hadn't he come around to see YOU? Why do YOU have the be the one to travel?
Also, if he keeps being busy when you try and talk, then he is stringing you along.
I also think there is a... (read in full...)
Normal or potential abusive boyfriend?
Q. Hello, Ive been dating my boyfriend lets call him ''bob'' for three years. During the time we've dated i've noticed he can be very possessive and controlling. He is this way about my best friends, what i eat, make up, decisions about our relati...
A. 23 September 2013: It is abusive, and you know it, unfortunately you are mimicking his behavior and throwing it back at him, I think because you are desperate for him to see what he is doing is wrong. Or because you really don't know how to stand up for yourself?
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My boyfriend believes I don't know how to act in social situations.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now, and in the last few months he's been making comments that have made me think he is getting annoyed at the fact I am quite shy. I've always been that way - I was seriously shy as...
A. 23 September 2013: I don't see why calling is wrong and why you even pointed it out. It doesn't matter what "most" people do, he is not most people to you, he is your BF. So if he calls, why make a big deal out of it? Personally (but take this with a grain of salt ... (read in full...)
She asked him to cheat but I don't know what to think!
Q. Im going out with a boy who'd ex is also one of my friends. He dumped her after a huge arguement and she recently told me that she still has feelings for him. Just a week ago she wanted to break up with her current boyfriend. She didnt want to do it ...
A. 23 September 2013: First of, she is a crappy friend.
Second of all THIS is why you don't date a friend's ex.
Thirdly, people can't "steal" other people. If you BF wants to be with her over you, there is nothing you can do. If he wants to be with you, there is no... (read in full...)
Contraception -- condoms and what else?
Q. When having sex should i use one or two forms of contraception just to be on the safe side?? I know i should ask him to use a condom but what other contraception should i use???...
A. 22 September 2013: I would second that you talk to your doctor.... (read in full...)
I am not lubricated enough and my boyfriend couldn't care less.
Q. hii..i have a problem with my boyfriends way of having sex with me the first day we could engage in foreplay first then then when am ready we get into the exact thing..just after that only one encounter he has turned to just wearing a condom and ...
A. 22 September 2013: Then STOP having sex with him, you are not his personal blow up doll.
Are you two living together? If not, don't let him stay over.
And to me having sex with you when you are sleeping is borderline rape.... (read in full...)
Could he be serious or is he a catfish?
Q. I've signed up to a dating site, had some replies - actually 4, and one looked interesting. How do I know it's not a "catfish" though? The profile looked very natural, and had a [state].gov email address mentioned in his profile, along with photo...
A. 21 September 2013: Could be that he is not very dating site savvy and is using his work e-mail (which I might add is rather unwise).
If there is something that makes you say hmm, then I would trust your gut. It may or may not be right. But I'm a big believer in ... (read in full...)
We plan to wait for sex until marriage. He still tries it on me but get pouty if I don't let him.
Q. I'm 23yrs old while my boyfriend is 28yrs we've dating getting to 4yrs now and everything is moving fine we both love eachother so much and we've not have sex because we both agreed that sex should be when we get married but the last time i pay him ...
A. 21 September 2013: Talk to him. TELL him. And if he doesn't accept it, maybe visiting isn't the thing. He needs to respect you.
And honestly, DO not get into situations where sex would be too tempting, IF you are waiting to have sex til marriage. So no cuddling... (read in full...)
Why do guys like to do this in sex?
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy for 6 months now. When we make love I am very satisfied however he enjoys masturbating onto my face or into my mouth. I just don't get it. Why do guys think this is so great?...
A. 21 September 2013: Porn.
It's that simple. In porn this is a common theme. ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl needs a cigarette after sex.
Q. What does it mean if a girl said right after sex: "after this I definitely need a cigarette". We met last week and had sex for the 1st time last night. Does it mean she enjoyed it? The issue is that she hasn't called or responded to my text. Tha...
A. 21 September 2013: Good sex - light up a cigarette.
Yea, she enjoyed it.... (read in full...)
She rejected me because of the distance, but is still texting me, even after she is dating someone else, why?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what people make of this. About two years ago I met someone when out at a bar. There was immediate attraction, and I thought she was too good for me. Then I found out she felt exactly the same about me. So much so we went ...
A. 21 September 2013: I think CaringGuy is right. UNLESS she is a good friend, I would let her know that you can't go on being friends, it's just not working for you.
It is actually holding YOU back from finding someone, because you are still emotionally invested... (read in full...)
I went on a date and he seemed bored/tired and made little eye contact. He mentioned meeting again, but did he mean it?
Q. I went on a date last night with a man I met on a dating website. He is new to where I live and so he had his profile up to meet local people. We had been exchanging texts for a while, he stopped talking because he went train (he's in the US Coast ...
A. 21 September 2013: I'd let this one go. If he is not putting forth more of an effort then yes, he isn't that into you. Sorry. :(
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Can an affair with a married man ever end happily for the other woman?
Q. Hello everyone. Before I begin, I realize I am opening myself up to a firestorm of very harsh judgment, name calling and comments from Dear Cupid's advice givers and readers. Please do not judge me. We all walk different paths in life and make...
A. 20 September 2013: You can walk away, you CHOOSE not to, just like he CHOOSES to cheat.
For now you are getting something out of the affair, and maybe you cling on to hope that he is telling you the truth.
But, have you EVER in this whole affair given ANY though... (read in full...)
Is the guy I like playing hard to get?
Q. Hello! I really like this guy in my school. He recently found out about my depression I had before. This happened because my friends were just causally talking about it. My friend told her best guy friend which is best friends with the guy I like. I ...
A. 20 September 2013: I don't think he is playing hard to get, I think he is just being a nice person.
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Was I right to block this potential scammer? What should I look out for in the future when meeting men online?
Q. I had been on a site corresponding with a guy who is possibly a scammer. His messages were removed due to spam and this guy has had 3 different usernames and his story has changed. First he said he is a widower and has raised a son by himself, then ...
A. 20 September 2013: Yes, you did the right thing blocking him, top doubting yourself.
And if you can BLOCK his number on your cell phone. Some types of cell-phones have free apps that can help you with that, so check that out.... (read in full...)
Moving my boyfriend into the house I own - what is the best way to split the bills?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend and I want to move in together. I own, he rents. If he moves in with me what is the best way to split the bills if we earn about the same but he has child maintenance for 1 child which I don't have. Thanks for the advice....
A. 20 September 2013: Sit down and make a budget.
Then sit HIM down and go over said budget and then TALK about what is OK with the both of you.
If you both work I'd go with a 50/50 - but it really comes down to what you two can agree on.
I can't see that he s... (read in full...)
How can we shake things up in the bedroom without him getting offended?
Q. Me and my partner are engaged and we have a 3 month old daughter together. We are best friends and generally very happy but I'm just not getting as hot for him in the bedroom as I used too. It's taking me an hour to climax and he can't get me wet at ...
A. 20 September 2013: Sounds like you have 2 major problems with sex. 1. not enough foreplay (since you don't seem to get wet at all) 2. a selfish boyfriend.
If he doesn't LIKE to watch porn while having sex, I can't say that I blame him. So instead of trying to add p... (read in full...)
Did I overreact, or is she too cold for me?
Q. I have been seeing this chick for 2 months now and the relationship so far has been very boring relationship. She really doesn't communicate. We had sex a week after we met up and it was great. Then we had sex 1 more time but it's always me ...
A. 20 September 2013: I think you did the right thing, because you really didn't care for her all that much.
It takes 2 to communicate and it takes 2 to make a relationship work.
If you two were having sex barely 2 months into the relationship no wonder she thoug... (read in full...)
Am I asking for too much?
Q. I need to get this out of my system. This may seem weird to some people but I would prefer a nonjudgmental point of view. I have always wanted a boyfriend that was a little clingy/jealous/possessive. Why? Because it really really really sucks fee...
A. 20 September 2013: I think you need to ask yourself WHAT about this guy (your BF) did you fall in love with?
Do you expect him to become some ideal fantasy you have in your head? Because THAT is not who he is. THAT is not the guy you fell in love with. He will not... (read in full...)
Relationship problem with family and boyfriend.
Q. hi, I've got a realtionship problem been going on for ages now n getting annoyed with it, my boyfriend has a grudge against my family he gets annoyed when I try n speak to my mum over phone and I hardly ever get a chance to talk to her or rest of my ...
A. 20 September 2013: Did you have SERIOUS problem with your family that you vented to your BF? Or is this, you can't talk to her a new thing?
I do think janniepeg is right, if you didn't have problems with your mom, he is trying to isolate you. And THAT is a bad thin... (read in full...)
Why does he not want to talk to me anymore?
Q. Well, long story short; I had a brief relationship with a man who lived quite a way from me, we'd see eachother now and then but were crazy about eachother, it was very cute, romatic etc. We called it a day when things were getting a little ...
A. 20 September 2013: Let him go, you do not really want to be his friend, you just want to keep him in your life.
If he desperate wanted you in his he wouldn't wait days to reply, he just doesn't have the nuts to cut you off.
His focus is his new GF.
Wish him ... (read in full...)
This guy seems to know too much about me -- could he be tracking my online activity?
Q. Hi. I was wondering if there is anyone on here who knows enough about computers to tell me something. How easy is it for a person to track your IP address? I ask because I suspect someone of doing it to me. He doesn't know me very well yet se...
A. 20 September 2013: Do you have Facebook? Does the account include your full name? Do you have your privacy settings in place? If not, start there.
Most people do not take proper care about what and where they put their details out on the Internet, they think it... (read in full...)
Would it be reasonable for me to ask him to limit the picture of his ex to the kid's bedroom?
Q. Hi everyone. I would like to know how other people feel about their husbands displaying pictures of their ex-wives in their new home with their new partner? My boyfriend and I are moving in to a new place together next month. He currently displays ...
A. 19 September 2013: What does your BF think? Have you talked to him about it or are you just trying to prepare yourself for a "battle" of the ex-wife pictures?
Since you are moving into a new place together (not into his) I think it's totally fine to ask that the... (read in full...)
Why did my ex stop talking to me? Did he go back to the other girl?
Q. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a year ago because he felt the long distance was not working. We were good friends for more than a year before getting together, so I still text / facebook him once in a while, but he doesn't really respond. He has ...
A. 19 September 2013: He got back in touch with you because his GF dumped him and he knew he could get the attention and sex from you.
Sorry, honey he just used you while his dry spell lasted.
He might not have gone back to the last GF, he might have gotten a ne... (read in full...)
Can an affair with a married man ever end happily for the other woman?
Q. Hello everyone. Before I begin, I realize I am opening myself up to a firestorm of very harsh judgment, name calling and comments from Dear Cupid's advice givers and readers. Please do not judge me. We all walk different paths in life and make...
A. 19 September 2013: From statistics and from what I have heard and read, it RARELY ends "happily" for the OW.
Because the relationship as it is ("dating" a married man )is already filled with lies, deceit and more red flags then all of China. THAT makes trust al... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my boyfriend liking another girl
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months. I have dated a lot of guys but never felt so in love until my current boyfriend. I have never thought about a future with any guy until my current boyfriend. I am attracted to him in every way. He has such ...
A. 19 September 2013: No, I wouldn't worry about this friend.
Two things, you CAN NOT CONTROL your BF's feelings. They might change for her they might not. But you being insecure and worrying about it not helping YOU at all.
My guess is, he has known her a LOT ... (read in full...)
My ex hates me because I said hi and his girlfriend didn't like it?
Q. Hi all, I just need to get a bit of a rant out of my system. So I dated one guy for about two and a half years and we eventually broke up, nothing harsh really just the fact that we didn't get along as well anymore, and we remained acquaintances ...
A. 19 September 2013: YOU did nothing wrong. He can't accept that his current relationship isn't working, and guess what instead of trying to fix it he is pointing at you saying it's all your fault. How the heck is that YOUR fault?
He is unhappy and has an insecure... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my boyfriend commented on one of his FB friend's picture and told her she looked gorgeous?
Q. Should I be jealous if my boyfriend commented on one of his FB friend's picture and told her she looked gorgeous? I happen to see that once because it appeared on my wall and I've seen do that a few times and maybe more that I don't know about. Is ...
A. 19 September 2013: I think Auntie Bim is right, there is nothing wrong in calling a friend calling a friend gorgeous.
He did put that comment on there to hurt you, he did it to make HER feel good about herself. A little ego boost.
Now he "could" have called her ... (read in full...)
Getting mixed vibes from this guy who ended things then reappeared. Any advise?
Q. Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice. Posted not so long ago as I had just started seeing a guy who had recently got out of a relationship. We met on a night out and from then he was texting me and we met up a few times. He would message every ...
A. 19 September 2013: I agree, take is WAY slow. No more snuggling on the couch, kissing and watching movies. No sex either.
Take the "dates" to public places so you two can hang out without pressure.
The thing is though, IF you want a BF, he is not it. Not for a wh... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a guy, and he likes me, but he had a one night stand with my friend!
Q. Hi all, would really appreciate some advice. Around three/four months ago my relationship of three and a half years started to break down. Its slowly been starting to die for the last year but I guess we didn't want to face it. Therefore when t...
A. 19 September 2013: Sorry, he really doesn't sound like much of a catch (except for the whole good looking part.)
IF he had been OH SO interested in you back then, he certainly wouldn't have slept with your friend.
If you still want to pursue it, TALK to your fri... (read in full...)
Sisters expect me to act like their mum, but now I'm expecting a child of my own. What do I do?
Q. I am 29 living with my two young sisters. They are 26 and 24 respectively. We lost our mother when we were young and since then I have grown up pretty fast.. I was 16 when she died. I have been there for them through thick and thin , however...
A. 19 September 2013: It's all they know or rather it's been all they know the last 13 years. Many people don't like change. Certainly not when it means THEY have to all of a sudden be responsible for themselves. No one really wants to grow up, unless they have to.
... (read in full...)
Should I tell them that I am also dating other people because at the moment I am not looking for a relationship, I am just enjoying myself as I am not sure what I am looking for?
Q. hey, just some quick advice really... I have been dating 2 girls, one girl I have been on a few dates with over the past few months and another girl I have dated a couple of times. Should I tell them that I am also dating other people because ...
A. 18 September 2013: Yes, be honest about it. Why lie? ... (read in full...)
Has he lost interest? Why is he ignoring me?
Q. hey, im so confussed :/ theres this guy that i've been dating, and everything was going good untill last weekend. hes a bouncer and i was on a night out and went to the club were he works and one of my friends wasn't allowed in so started shouting...
A. 18 September 2013: I would back off a few days, see if he calls/texts you and if he doesn't. Then I would presume he isn't that into you, and move on.
If you two have only had 2 dates, it's all fairly new and the fact that he didn't try and re-arrange the 3rd date... (read in full...)
Do I go on doing my job without justifying? Or do I try confronting her? What's the best strategy?
Q. Hi I started a new job and before we signed the contract, I asked my boss that I do not to wish to do particular tasks at work - which we have discussed at the interview but he forgot all about them once he handded out the tasks...I remind...
A. 18 September 2013: You go to work, do your job, go home.
Give it a little while and it will all settle. Confronting (as you put it) the other colleague who have been there LONGER then you and suddenly is burdened with a bigger workload is NOT the right thing to... (read in full...)
Is Ex-Girlfriend's mother using me?
Q. I am 42. I was in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 9 months but she broke up with me eighteen months ago to concentrate on a new business. Her mother contacted me a few weeks ago out of the blue. After several days of small ta...
A. 18 September 2013: Do you WANT to stay in contact with the mom? If you DO then, I can't see a problem with it.
If you feel/think she wants to stay in touch to hurt her daughter or get you and the daughter back together and you don't agree with that, then cut the ... (read in full...)
Two guys. Which date to cancel? Considering the circumstances?
Q. Hey, I seem to have gotten myself caught up in a very odd situation. So, let me start off by saying that I had my boyfriend for 4 months, then we broke up, except it wasn't a clean break up. We decided to stay friends, although I only agreed to that ...
A. 18 September 2013: Going shopping/looking for furniture is not a romantic date, so I don't see the big problem there.
However I do see a problem with you keeping getting back with your ex. Do you think you can somehow FIX him? Make him a better guy? Because you can'... (read in full...)
His toxic ex won't respect our relationship!
Q. We've been together 3 yrs, we just got engaged recently and plan to be married soon. We both were married before for 18+ yrs. My ex is only I the picture due to our 4 kids, his ex is in the picture because she can't live without him in her life. ...
A. 18 September 2013: I agree with SVC. It's not his ex that is the problem it's you fiance.
Do not set a wedding date til this is resolved.
I agree with CMMP, that he DID SPEND 18 years with her, so even if there are no kids from the marriage doesn't mean they ca... (read in full...)
I went on a date and he seemed bored/tired and made little eye contact. He mentioned meeting again, but did he mean it?
Q. I went on a date last night with a man I met on a dating website. He is new to where I live and so he had his profile up to meet local people. We had been exchanging texts for a while, he stopped talking because he went train (he's in the US Coast ...
A. 16 September 2013: Sounds like he should have set up the date at a time where he wasn't so tired. Even though he was tires and felt overworked he still tried to fit YOU in, so I think you must have mad some impression on him.
If you don't hear from him within a... (read in full...)
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