Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 17 October 2013: Good for you!
Now who is the stupid one again? HIM - It's nice to know that there are people who actually take the advice people here on DC tries to give and more importantly that it works for you.
I hope your continued journey will bring you h... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm loved by my boyfriend and he always puts his mom first!
Q. My boyfriend and I have more issues than I can count. We are in our late 20s, been together 3+ yrs, and live together. Issue #1, he is a mamas boy. Whatever mom wants, he does. He goes above and beyond son duties. He gives her just as much, if not ...
A. 10 October 2013: Why do you stay? Do you think you owe him anything? It's MAKING you miserable to be with him and he doesn't care.
It will NEVER change, he will not grow up because this is all he knows and I think all he wants. In his mom's eyes he can do no wrong... (read in full...)
He makes jokes about religion, but I'm religious
Q. The man I want to be with, always makes jokes about "aliens" being out there, and maybe they are the ones who created us. I am a God fearing woman, and when someone makes jokes about whom I worship, I take it to heart and it upsets me. He does not ...
A. 9 October 2013: You could talk to him and maybe if he has any respect for you and your views (he doesn't have to AGREE with them, but respect them) he could cut out the religious jokes FOR YOU.
For me this would be a deal-breaker. I'm not a Christian and would ne... (read in full...)
Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 9 October 2013: ********I guess this has taught me the downsides of creepin and the downsides of responding to him. All those things do is get me in to trouble and make me feel like an idiot.****
You said it yourself, YOU make yourself "feel" DUMB when you PLAY... (read in full...)
Why am I the one making all the effort? Why do I do it?
Q. I've been split up with my ex for 5months but I have been speaking and seeing him for the past 2months. I was with him for 2years. Since I have been seeing him all my feelings have come back and I feel like I am in the same situation of what I was ...
A. 9 October 2013: Yes, I think he is using you because you keep letting him (in the sense that you don't fully detach yourself).
He doesn't want a GF or to Date right now, but it's is NICE (from his point of view) that YOU still want him. So he is content with wha... (read in full...)
Cyber sex gone wrong!!
Q. dear users recently i made the stupid mistake of delving into the cyber sex cam world on skype. i had been talking to this girl for a while and it kind of got to what youd call online friends with benefits we ended up camming, and im sure yo...
A. 9 October 2013: I'm with Auntie Babbit all the way.
Why would she do that to you ? Was/Is she underage?
... (read in full...)
My friend forced me to makeout, how do I get over this guilt? I can't tell my boyfriend!
Q. Please help Recently I made a dumb impulsive decision to let a friend of mine drop me off in his car. His shocking colors came to picture when he insisted to kiss me and makeout. I refused for making out but he started insisting and wouldnt drop...
A. 9 October 2013: How do you get over it? YOU cut him out of your life completely.
And stop feeling guilty if what you wrote is what happened. Stop beating yourself up.... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused ...girlfriend versus ex wife and children.
Q. I am not sure what to do... My girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately. I have an ex-wife and 2 children with her, we communicate on a semi-regular basis (my ex wife) about the kids, their grades, behavior or events. Sometime we have small ta...
A. 9 October 2013: Does the father(s) of her 5 kids note help out at all financially? If not I can imagine the strain on the relationship when it comes to money.
The thing is, you do not sound at all happy in it, but somehow feel obligated because she can't take car... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I only want to be with an uncircumcised man?
Q. I know that this is a pretty touchy subject for some people, so I'm hoping that my question doesn't upset anyone. I'm 23 and I have had sex with one person--my ex-boyfriend, who I dated for a year and broke up with a few months ago. Our sex lif...
A. 8 October 2013: I don't believe in the hype that circumcised men have cleaner genitals.
I know in Europe, little boys are usually TAUGHT to clean themselves ( I have an older brother and plenty of boy cousins and friends) and I DO remember them getting these cl... (read in full...)
I don't want to live together without a commitment, but he has a deadline to buy a place
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We are both 29 year old. We both currently live with family in order to save up money as well. He is actually looking to purchase a home within the next year or so due to certain ...
A. 8 October 2013: What is the difference from you spending the week-end and a couple of nights together to him OWNING a house and you staying there a few nights a week.
If you aren't ready to move in - tell him. T don't see there is anything wrong in talking ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad fancies me and it makes me extremely uncomfortable!
Q. I first met my boyfriend's dad when i was 14, i didn't give much attention to him, but he stared at me even then but not as much when i turned 15.. he tries to touch my shoulder a lot and even my breast, he constantly stares at my ass and flirts w...
A. 8 October 2013: Tell your parents, tell your BF and if he is married and does ANYTHING inappropriate TELL his wife. In fact YELL at him to keep his nasty paws of your ass/breasts/whatever.
Dirty old bastard!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I no longer have sex because he's taking of things himself!
Q. Okay I've never had a problem like this. My boyfriend and I have been dating almost 10 months. We used to have sex all the time and it used to be great! But now we hardley ever have sex. And when we do its kind of boring. He jacks off more then we ...
A. 8 October 2013: Have you asked him? If you can have sex with a guy you OUGHT to be able to talk about it, shy or not.
Ask him straight out:" have you noticed our sexlife has become rather crappy? Do you think we can work on that?"
Bad sex can "kill" a person'... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I only want to be with an uncircumcised man?
Q. I know that this is a pretty touchy subject for some people, so I'm hoping that my question doesn't upset anyone. I'm 23 and I have had sex with one person--my ex-boyfriend, who I dated for a year and broke up with a few months ago. Our sex lif...
A. 8 October 2013: Uncircumcised doesn't mean an unfulfilling sex life.
You just had a bad lover and he HAPPENED to be circumcised.
I know circumcision is a big thing in the States (frankly coming from Europe, I don't get it, there is absolutely no point ... (read in full...)
Has anyone's ex come back after they've appeared to have moved on?
Q. has anyone's ex come back after they've appeared to have moved on? kinda like "if its meant to be it will be" type thing? my ex jumped into another relationship only a couple months after he walked away from our relationship. we were very seriou...
A. 8 October 2013: It can happen, but for it to work out again is more rare. Personally, I would sit and hold my breath for him to come to his senses and realize you were "The One."
People "move on" in different ways. Some jump head-first into a new relation... (read in full...)
I have yellow nails from my parent's smoking!
Q. Hi. Both my parents smoke (roughly 5-a-day each). They smoke outside or in the porch with the door open. Recently I have noticed I hav been getting yellow nails no one else has at home because I have the longest nails. I don't smoke! What can I...
A. 8 October 2013: IF they only smoke 5 a day and outside, the yellowing of your nails might not be from the cigarettes.
There are several things that can cause yellowing of the nails.
Iron and zinc deficiencies. Nail fungus, an internal disorder and exc... (read in full...)
He called me unstable!
Q. Dating a man for 6 months, he decided to go back and try again with his ex wife. They are common law 2 teen boys. This is the 4th time they will try again. I was the "rebound" He said he would never go back. So I didn't feel like a home wrecker. I ...
A. 8 October 2013: Isn't it nice when Karma does her thing?
I hope YOU are finding your happy place.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to be someone's friend in the hopes it will lead to something more?
Q. I met someone really cool on Saturday. I belong to a sci fi enthusiasts group on a activities website. We went to see Gravity on Saturday. It was only my second meetup with them and I had noticed one of the women there. We ended up sitting next to ...
A. 8 October 2013: I don't think it's "wrong" to like this lady and want to see if more happens, but I would not ASSUME that she is single til you actually know her better.
Letting her borrow your books are a nice thing to do you could have a tag or put your nam... (read in full...)
Losing attachement to boyfriemd but I love him... what next?
Q. I really do love and care for my boyfriend. However, I'm beginning to question his... Dedication. He is quite lazy when it comes to building our relationship. I'm always wanting to hang out and talk (he lives about 2 hrs away)... He'd rather surf ...
A. 8 October 2013: Did you JUST post this?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-him-but-im-losing-attachment-to.html... (read in full...)
Should I try to start something with a crush that works at my school?
Q. I'm 17 and in year 13 at school, I've had a crush on a member of staff that works at the school, however he's not my teacher, he just works in the school as a social helper, he's about 22 I think and we do talk quite a lot. I'm not sure on what to ...
A. 8 October 2013: No you shouldn't. He isn't there to date but to work, and HELP student.
If you contact him AFTER you leave school it is a whole other ball game.... (read in full...)
How do I get the drunk to leave?
Q. I Am DONE but he won't leave! He is rude and had a drinking problem! Mean to family and friends!! When sober totally different, I cannot take it anymore. How do I get him to leave?...
A. 8 October 2013: Does he live with you? If you rent, who is on the lease?
LEGALLY, you have to get him evicted IF your name is on the lease or it's your house.
http://www.clarkcountycourts.us/CivilSHC/landlord-tenant-evictions/
You can look up your own sta... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused ...girlfriend versus ex wife and children.
Q. I am not sure what to do... My girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately. I have an ex-wife and 2 children with her, we communicate on a semi-regular basis (my ex wife) about the kids, their grades, behavior or events. Sometime we have small ta...
A. 7 October 2013: Well, I think you are dating a woman who doesn't understand that your FIRST priority is your kids. (which is how it should be for a parent).
BUT I do think you shot yourself in the foot by not paying more attention to the time of the wedding ... (read in full...)
How to give a married man the brush off without causing offence?
Q. To keep it brief, a married man who works in the same field as me has been flirting and inappropriate since an event a few months ago. I have no intention of doing anything untoward and keep steering things back to a professorial level in our ...
A. 7 October 2013: I would just tell him :"Buster I'm not interested in you at all, you are a colleague so stick to work or appropriate topics, please". Or simply tell him:" Sorry, I don't like to be "hit on" by married men" and walk away.
Now either statemen... (read in full...)
I snooped on my partner. Is this woman my rival or am I paranoid?
Q. First off, I did something really stupid, I decided to snoop on my partner of 8 years when he accidentally left his iphone @ home. I had a premonition and i just did it. I found some suspicious looking replies to CL ads and then I started reading ...
A. 7 October 2013: Well texting her was not smart, neither was snooping HOWEVER, that doesn't justify what THEY are doing behind your back, does it?
Why would she want to come MEET the kids and not his "family"? I mean if you two have been together for 8 years YO... (read in full...)
I've become the maid and babysitter in my house because of the way my wife now acts. What can I do?
Q. i am 35 and my wife is 30 we have been married a year but together almost 6 years. we have sex maybe 1-2 times ever other month. before that about 1 year ago it was 1-3 times amonth, we have a son together and her 8 yr old daughter whom believes im ...
A. 7 October 2013: First off, I would find a job again or see if you can get your old one back. Secondly, I would have someone watch the kids and SIT your wife down. This needs to get sorted out. She can either CARRY on as she has, and be a single mom or.. she can ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend really want me, or a relationship with anyone good looking enough?
Q. I found out this weekend that my boyfriend used a pick up artist to help with getting girls who were a 10 instead of a 7 as he puts it. I have also seen a message on his phone where he sent a message to his best mate with a picture of me and asked ...
A. 7 October 2013: I can see if he has told his mate that LOOK my GF is a LOOKER - Or isn't my GF HOT?! but asking his friend If you are good looking wold bother me too, but alas that is the kind of stuff you find when you go through your BF's friend.
Other then the... (read in full...)
Why do guys want the lights on, or my shirt off, during sex?
Q. Hi peoples! Not to prescribe to stereotypes or anything, but it seems like every guy I've been with always says "I want to see you" when I say I want to keep my shirt on during sex or want the lights turned off. Anyone else notice this or w...
A. 7 October 2013: Why hide under a shirt or in the dark? Don't YOU want to see him?
I understand being modest and maybe not totally comfortable with being naked with another person, but.. if you can't be comfortable how can you even consider having sex with tha... (read in full...)
My g/f played strip poker till everyone was naked but says nothing happened?
Q. My girlfriend went away for the weekend to visit some friends. She told me that she had some drinks and ended up playing strip poker with 2 other guys and a girl. She told me nothing happened. just played until everyone was fully naked. What should ...
A. 7 October 2013: Yeah, that would not be OK with me. My partner doesn't go sit play strip poker without me. Pretty simple.
BUT I do believe that nothing else happened. I have played it in my younger days, but only when I was single and spectacularly drunk. N... (read in full...)
Should I bring up it up he was searching for strip clubs?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 months. About 5 months ago, we nearly broke up because he wanted to move to another city. He went over there for a couple of weeks before deciding he didn't want to live without me, so he moved ...
A. 7 October 2013: If this search is from when you momentarily broke up and he moved away, I wouldn't bring it up.
It's not like it's somehow forbidden for anyone to look up stuff on their computer. Actually if my husband did a search on my history he would find all... (read in full...)
I really love this guy and want to spend the rest of my life with him but he left me
Q. Hi All, Please help me out.I am so hurt. Me and my guy friend were dating for 6 months. I fell for him.He was seriously unto me and happy with me and all stuffs happened between us.He let a female friend between us and woud never stop texting ...
A. 7 October 2013: Sounds like you two weren't really on the same page. What exactly was the reason he couldn't talk to his other female friend? Because you two started dating you thought he would "like" her in that fashion too? Or was it just because she was female? ... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm losing attachment to him. He breaks promises. So what next?
Q. I really do love and care for my boyfriend. However, I'm beginning to question his... Dedication. He is quite lazy when it comes to building our relationship. I'm always wanting to hang out and talk (he lives about 2 hrs away)... He'd rather s...
A. 7 October 2013: He sounds like the already lost his attachment to you. If he rather spend time with friend and video games and you rather spend time alone just the two of you - you are not on the same page.
If you ALWAYS have to go to him and he never comes to... (read in full...)
Will I regret taking my daughter's dad off childsupport even though she is grown?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am caught up with two men that one took care of his child and then the next one disowned his children by me.Long story short I want your opinion on this the first man I have two children by him he never paid a dime? For the second guy ...
A. 7 October 2013: My questions is also - How old is she?
I have to say if she is 18+, I would most likely not ask for child support if he supported the child in question + your other 2 children, like a father should, while he was able. But like YouWish said it ... (read in full...)
Family still talks to ex boyfriend...
Q. I broke up with my ex boyfriend and now he has new girlfriend. At first we were trying to work it out or so I thought. Well now my ex boyfriend comes around my house and hangs out with my brother in law. My brother in law and my sister live behind ...
A. 7 October 2013: Yikes, that would not feel good at all. The thing is you can't dictate who your sister can be friends with and who she can't.
What YOU can do is stop hanging out when HE is there at THEIR house.
Are you even sure you sister KNOWS that it bo... (read in full...)
Help with oral sex
Q. I don't like giving blow jobs to my boyfriend. We have been together for some time now and we decides to hold on on sex and sexual favors. Now it's been a year or so we started doing oral. I love my boyfriend with everything I have and we are ...
A. 7 October 2013: Amateur porn can means just REALLY cheap porn. There is a whole range of so called home-made porn as well, which are basically just really badly shot. Doesn't mean it's more "real" then porn. And some homemade porn is really degrading, because THAT ... (read in full...)
Do I put up with the pain? See a Dr? Need advice on how to stop sex hurting so much
Q. Hello just needed some sexual health advice My ex boyfriend and I have just got back together. Completely in love with him and we have tried sex in the past but never been able to do it properly as it hurts me too much. I really want to do it...
A. 7 October 2013: I think you should go see your doctor or a gyno asap.... (read in full...)
Deletes all his texts from girls. Is he hiding something or am I crossing the line?
Q. My boyfriend deletes all the texts from other girls. Well he knows that I am jealous and I have confronted him for flirting with his colleague and knows that I sometimes go through his phone. (Please don't judge). Now he deletes all the texts with ...
A. 7 October 2013: I'm with YouWish all the way.
You can not have a healthy relationship if you have the urge or feel a need to go through his phone to see if he has been a "bad" boy.
No wonder he deletes the texts. He probably rather not have you go nuts over... (read in full...)
Help with oral sex
Q. I don't like giving blow jobs to my boyfriend. We have been together for some time now and we decides to hold on on sex and sexual favors. Now it's been a year or so we started doing oral. I love my boyfriend with everything I have and we are ...
A. 6 October 2013: If you don't like receiving oral then that is OK. It's not for everyone, personally, I get bored even if hubby tries all kind of "fun" things, it's just not great for me.
As far as giving oral. Well, I would suggest you use it as foreplay... (read in full...)
Breast fantasy gone wrong.
Q. Hello friends, i and my boyfriend had good relationship, he used to fulfill my needs and i also fulfill his needs, our sexual relation was also fine, now i started have milk in my breast, he used to fondle with my breast l**k, s**k, etc. befo...
A. 6 October 2013: As for him not respecting the HANDS off your breasts - he needs to stop pushing for it. You need to be able to tell him no, and him not getting pouty.
There can be many reasons why you are lactating, it could be a miscarriage, it could be a hormon... (read in full...)
Do you think he noticed what I am not getting in bed?
Q. I've been dating this guys since a little while and we have had sex in 2 occasions. The first time i reached climax through some running with his penis since he didn't lick/finger me. I can't cum purely with penetration. Yesterday he licked me for a ...
A. 6 October 2013: I think you need to tell him what you REALLY like in bed. I wouldn't start off by telling him he didn't get you off, but I would tell him, it REALLY gets me going if you do this or that - and either SHOW him or basically teach him.
Most women DO... (read in full...)
I have a good boyfriend now but my ex lover contacted me again and I am confused.
Q. Hi there I am in a pickle at the moment. I am currently with a man whom I love dearly and have pictured having kids with him and also marriage he's a gem! Have had a tough relationship but we've lulled through a lot together, he also has autistic ...
A. 6 October 2013: I think you are missing the "fantasy" of when the old relationship was good. And that is playing with fire.
I understand that you want some sort of closure, but it might never happen. He might just have BEEN a douche-bag - he might not have bee... (read in full...)
Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me?
Q. Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me? I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, yet I have never had a boyfriend. I know I'm not the most attractive person out there, but I'm always extremely kind thinking my personality will outdo my lo...
A. 6 October 2013: Should have been NOT - not NO..
Hope it still makes sense.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to take a male friend out for dinner - am I wrong to disapprove?
Q. My girlfriend has recently got a new job (through one of her male friends) and now she has said to me that she thinks she will take him out for dinner to say "thank you." I've never met this guy and am not at all happy about this, even the t...
A. 6 October 2013: You are WAY overreacting!
He helped her get a job and she takes him out for dinner - I DO NOT see the big deal here.
I do however see why she doesn't want you to come along. You act like you somehow own her and needs to approve of who she spend... (read in full...)
Does my landlord torment me because I'm a lesbian? She's driving me insane!!!!!
Q. hi. i hope someone can help me. i'm a lesbian and my landlord is a divorcee for approximately 18 years. to my knowledge she's straight although i've never seen her with a man, she has 4 grown kids and she's kind of dominant acting. she is very ...
A. 6 October 2013: Landlord how? Do you rent an apartment/room or house? And honestly I have never been in a situation where my landlord meddled or fought with the tenants.
What I don't understand is why you play her game. WHY the yelling at her? If she ask you ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me?
Q. Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me? I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, yet I have never had a boyfriend. I know I'm not the most attractive person out there, but I'm always extremely kind thinking my personality will outdo my lo...
A. 6 October 2013: I would NO approach him through Facebook if you see him around campus. I would just start to say hi when you see him and IF you can work up the courage, mention that you liked his T-shirt.
He might be flattered that you looked him up on FB, but ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me?
Q. Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me? I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, yet I have never had a boyfriend. I know I'm not the most attractive person out there, but I'm always extremely kind thinking my personality will outdo my lo...
A. 5 October 2013: It's all part of growing up and finding yourself.
You like movie and band T'-shirts -cool. You can still experiment with your looks and KEEP the T-shirts.
I would just try little things NOT for boys to notice you, but for you to see yourself ... (read in full...)
Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 27 September 2013: Fight for what? For him to use you some more? To play you for a fool a while longer?
He can't even carry on a serious conversation with you.
My guess is he saw you as a notch in his bed post. You two weren't dating you just slept together. ... (read in full...)
He called me unstable!
Q. Dating a man for 6 months, he decided to go back and try again with his ex wife. They are common law 2 teen boys. This is the 4th time they will try again. I was the "rebound" He said he would never go back. So I didn't feel like a home wrecker. I ...
A. 7 April 2012: I don't think YOU are the unstable one, honey I think that was just the "best" excuse he could give for his own actions. He was trying to make himself look good and you, look and feel bad.
Be glad he is out of your life, he sounds like a douche b... (read in full...)
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