Should I stay in contact with him after such a rocky start?
Q. Okay I just recently joined another dating site. It is a little different from the ones I have been on. It is a site for people who are spiritual and are into healing. I tried it out for free for about a week and then I get a message from a guy who ...
A. 23 October 2013: So why aren't you taking this as a hint to IGNORE this fella and move on? I'm betting there are guys who ARE worth your time on the dating site, this one.. isn't.
Nothing you have written about this guy makes me (to be frank) think OH WOW what a w... (read in full...)
Guys, would you take her back?
Q. This is a question for the guys, mostly! If you were a 29-year-old male, newly divorced, and in love with a new woman, would you take this woman back? - You have your daughter for the weekend, and decide to surprise your new girlfriend of ...
A. 15 October 2013: I would have guessed you were the ex-gf and thus the interest in their relationship. That is why I asked - curiosity and all.
I don't know how often I see people ( for instance my nieces who are all in their 20's) doing absurdly stupid, hurtful ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you take her back?
Q. This is a question for the guys, mostly! If you were a 29-year-old male, newly divorced, and in love with a new woman, would you take this woman back? - You have your daughter for the weekend, and decide to surprise your new girlfriend of ...
A. 15 October 2013: I still have to ask, who are you in relations to these two people?
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Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me?
Q. Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me? I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, yet I have never had a boyfriend. I know I'm not the most attractive person out there, but I'm always extremely kind thinking my personality will outdo my lo...
A. 6 October 2013: Should have been NOT - not NO..
Hope it still makes sense.... (read in full...)
Does my landlord torment me because I'm a lesbian? She's driving me insane!!!!!
Q. hi. i hope someone can help me. i'm a lesbian and my landlord is a divorcee for approximately 18 years. to my knowledge she's straight although i've never seen her with a man, she has 4 grown kids and she's kind of dominant acting. she is very ...
A. 6 October 2013: Landlord how? Do you rent an apartment/room or house? And honestly I have never been in a situation where my landlord meddled or fought with the tenants.
What I don't understand is why you play her game. WHY the yelling at her? If she ask you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to think that I can't be with a cross dresser?
Q. I have known my husband for 34 years, we have been together for 13 years, 8 of them married. He recently told me he was interested in wearing women's clothing. At first I didn't know what to say, I was very confused. Then I cried a lot and tried to ...
A. 6 October 2013: First of all, it is NOT in any way shape or form your "fault" he feels that way. NOT AT ALL.
Second of all it IS a lot to process, specially after all these years together.
It must be really overwhelming - I can't even imagine. And per... (read in full...)
Older guy for younger women?!?!
Q. Hi I'm a 41 year old, good looking single guy who only really gets on with girls aged between 18 - mid 20's. I just find them more fun and I seem to have so much more in common with them than women my own age. Do you think this is normal??...
A. 6 October 2013: 20 years differences is not a big deal AFTER 25-30. But before? Yes, for me it is odd. The brain isn't even fully grown til 25. THAT should say something.
Do I think it's normal? Not really. An 18 year old have very little life and work experien... (read in full...)
Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me?
Q. Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me? I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, yet I have never had a boyfriend. I know I'm not the most attractive person out there, but I'm always extremely kind thinking my personality will outdo my lo...
A. 6 October 2013: I would NO approach him through Facebook if you see him around campus. I would just start to say hi when you see him and IF you can work up the courage, mention that you liked his T-shirt.
He might be flattered that you looked him up on FB, but ... (read in full...)
He wants lust, I want love.
Q. I'm a 17 year old girl, when I was 16 I met this guy. He was 19. I met him on a social networking site called "tagged" we talked for a bit and really got to know each other, he use to live in the town that I lived in and I use to live in the town ...
A. 6 October 2013: He is using you. He SAYS he loves you, but he doesn't. He just LOVE to get laid, and YOU are conveniently giving it up when he asks.
STOP talking to him. Cut the contact 100%.
Find a guy who wants you for you, not for the sex they he "might" ... (read in full...)
Why so bitter, when he cheated on me?
Q. Hello guys. Could use your guidance please. Me and my ex split up about 3 months ago (he cheated on me). I still love him, but know the split was the right thing to do. I am upset about the split, but I do not hate him for it, nor am I angry a...
A. 5 October 2013: If you want to be is friend it is STILL way to early for that. Neither of you are over each other.
Even if he "moved" on to another girl.
But by keeping in contact you BOTH prolong the animosity (from his side) and the hurt feelings (from y... (read in full...)
Is this cheating on me? He says he's just making her feel good about herself.
Q. I was allowed to see communication between boyfriend and an old colleague. It was sent after we became exclusive. He talked of how hot he still found her and how she still tuirns him on and when they would meet to see where this would lead them. He ...
A. 5 October 2013: End it.
You wrote:
"He wants to go see her.. as a 'friend', stay with her and he said he doesnt care what I have to say about it."
So he doesn't CARE what you think AT all.
She isn't just some random friend he is trying to cheer up,... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's angry venomous words are really getting to me!
Q. My girlfriend gets mad at me over such petty things and then says awful things to me and breaks up with me. It's a terrible pattern and it's killing me. We are literally great one minute, then the next, out of nowhere, something small and trivia...
A. 5 October 2013: This should not be acceptable behavior AT all. Not in any way, shape or form.
OK so she gets mad, but he lashing out verbally at you basically abusing you and the relationship, it WILL NOT STOP. And you know what, I know many people with short te... (read in full...)
Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me?
Q. Is it bad to change my looks to get guys to notice me? I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, yet I have never had a boyfriend. I know I'm not the most attractive person out there, but I'm always extremely kind thinking my personality will outdo my lo...
A. 5 October 2013: It's all part of growing up and finding yourself.
You like movie and band T'-shirts -cool. You can still experiment with your looks and KEEP the T-shirts.
I would just try little things NOT for boys to notice you, but for you to see yourself ... (read in full...)
If you were me, would you try and approach this girl and potentially harm a maybe happy household? Or would you simply forget about it and move on?
Q. For about five years iv always had a small crush on the girl who works in my local post office, we would often flirt and smile a lot when we talked, she is about 2 years younger than me at 24. I have never persued it though as I have always been in ...
A. 5 October 2013: I would still walk away. Even IF her BF is the biggest A-hole on the planet, SHE can walk away from him, not start chatting up a new guy.
My advice (not just about this girl, but ANY girl) if she is taken, she ISN'T available to you. Why? Because ... (read in full...)
Why so bitter, when he cheated on me?
Q. Hello guys. Could use your guidance please. Me and my ex split up about 3 months ago (he cheated on me). I still love him, but know the split was the right thing to do. I am upset about the split, but I do not hate him for it, nor am I angry a...
A. 5 October 2013: Because you let him? Don't answer his texts - block him and he can't be nasty to you, can he?
For whatever reason he's figured out that you can be used as a verbal punching bag rather then him taking RESPONSIBILITY for the cheating.
So it r... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you have sex with a woman on her period?
Q. What are your opinions on period sex? Especially guys... Would you have sex with a woman on her period? Would you do this only if you were in a relationship with her and care about or love her? Or would you do it with a random woman if you wa...
A. 5 October 2013: I think CMMP nailed it.
It has nothing to do with a connection. But whether a guy is turned off by blood or not.
Personally, I'm not a fan of it, because mine comes with mega cramps and sex is the last thing on my mind.... (read in full...)
Why so bitter, when he cheated on me?
Q. Hello guys. Could use your guidance please. Me and my ex split up about 3 months ago (he cheated on me). I still love him, but know the split was the right thing to do. I am upset about the split, but I do not hate him for it, nor am I angry a...
A. 5 October 2013: I agree with Auntie Babbit and wanted to add..
YOU took him of the pedestal and you showed him HE wasn't worth the hassle. Nobody likes that. My guess is, he ALSO blames you for him cheating - it was all your fault somehow.. and last but not leas... (read in full...)
How do I handle these obnoxious co-workers?
Q. How should I handle these girls? I hate them? So I got a new job a few months ago and the girls there are horrible. They are very unfriendly and don't speak to me so I don't bother with them either. They are 3 girls and whenever they...
A. 4 October 2013: Personally, I would take the high road and "kill them" with kindness, be polite and the BEST darn employee your boss has ever had.
They are not there to be nice, be your friend, but to do their job. It WOULD be nice if they would grow the Heck up ... (read in full...)
Hurt and broken over an online relationship
Q. Dear cupid Im talking abt the same guy i found out has a gf a year ago. An online relationship that i wrote about that was hurting me and later realised that all along was a lie. im completely to be blamed for staying in this relationshio although...
A. 4 October 2013: Why didn't you walk away?
Well, I'm sure there are many reasons as to why you didn't. We usually stay because we get "something" out of the situation. Or because we feel we can't leave, having nowhere to go. Or simply having hope that it will all... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her, but I can tell she's skittish about it. What should I do?
Q. I’ve recently fallen for a beautiful woman. Every single bit my type with all of my strengths and flaws. I asked her for her number today and she gave it to me. When I tried to make plans she was hesitant and we never ended up making a solid ...
A. 4 October 2013: 1. YOU are not in LOVE with you. You are infatuated. Having a crush. BIG BIG difference. You take classes with her but don't know her that well. (guessing from this and your other post about this).
2. If she seems hesitant, then BACK off. You migh... (read in full...)
He's always back and forth on how he feels about me. How should I handle this?
Q. Any advice appreciated! I met a guy about 6 weeks ago on a night out. He was really into me, asked for my number and was texting a lot. It came out that he hadn't long been dumped so I kept my distance but started to like him through spending time ...
A. 4 October 2013: I would back off. If you two are intimate (as in if you are having sex) I would stop that.
Let HIM come to you, let HIM woo you, if he can't do that right now because he really shouldn't be dating, then wish him good luck and cut the contact.... (read in full...)
If you were me, would you try and approach this girl and potentially harm a maybe happy household? Or would you simply forget about it and move on?
Q. For about five years iv always had a small crush on the girl who works in my local post office, we would often flirt and smile a lot when we talked, she is about 2 years younger than me at 24. I have never persued it though as I have always been in ...
A. 4 October 2013: I would walk away, she was a fantasy anyhow. REALITY is she is with someone and has a child with HIM.
... (read in full...)
He cheated on me - is this worth fixing?
Q. Hi there, I'm in need of help. I started dating this man in sept. 2011 and we dated a year and got engaged October. 2012, moved in with him, things have been going great, was thinking i found a good man, then surprise I got into his email cause ...
A. 4 October 2013: There is nothing TO fix.
He doesn't think he did ANYTHING wrong. That is why he seems to cheat in all of his relationship, because he feels ENTITLED to do as he pleases.
It wasn't just a short casual hook- up it was a 2 YEAR relationship wit... (read in full...)
How can I confront my mother-in-law without hurting her feelings?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years now with 3 beautiful children, he is the only son and he's 34 years old. His mom is 54 years old and she still treats him like he's 15 and she's still trying to control him and make decisions for ...
A. 4 October 2013: I think you c an try and "confront" her til the cows come home, but she is who she is and she won't change.
She thinks it's her RIGHT as a mom to baby her adult son. Maybe because she is bored with her own life and therefore tried to run her son'... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle this relationship with a mooching friend!
Q. There's this mooch of a friend I had a while back which I recently unfriended on Facebook , but haven't met her since. She was basically taking advantage of my generous and "patient" nature. I was rather passive to be honest and when mistreated, ...
A. 3 October 2013: I wouldn't waste time on her either, I would just ignore her. I don't think she would care or even believe you if you gave her the "list". If she keeps doing it, she obviously think it's OK to do.
If you run into her say hi and walk off, IF she d... (read in full...)
Do women really want on FWB relationships?
Q. someone just told me the new "in" thing was fwb. The lady i was talking to said even women wanted this now. Why? is because men were I think she meant men were not that nice. I know per my recent post I think I have become that..but i do not ...
A. 3 October 2013: I don't think a LOT of woman want it either. I think a LOT of women "think" if they DO start up a FWB situation it will magically turn into a relationship.
If you don't believe in or want a casual FWB or F-buddy situation, then don't do it.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want people to know about us.
Q. He has told his two best friends about me, but that's it. His other friends don't even know I exist. I haven't met any of his friends except his two best friends (and only then because we were classmates). My friends knew about us but after he said ...
A. 3 October 2013: Ask him straight out. WHY is our relationship a secret. IF you don't like the answer or he doesn't want to give one, maybe you need to end it.
He seems a bit controlling and not really trusting of you.
Does your parents know? Does his?... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend still want to be friends with his ex...and could he still have feelings for her?
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend has told me that the break up with his ex girlfriend who cheated still hurts him a lot. (It's been a year since they broke up). Could this mean he's still not over his ex? or is it just that he's not over the hurt it caused ...
A. 3 October 2013: Instead of fighting about it I would ask him straight out why he feels he still want/needs her in his life.
I think a LOT of people have the notion that they should control who their partner talks to and when. But I disagree. And here is why. I t... (read in full...)
Guys, would you take her back?
Q. This is a question for the guys, mostly! If you were a 29-year-old male, newly divorced, and in love with a new woman, would you take this woman back? - You have your daughter for the weekend, and decide to surprise your new girlfriend of ...
A. 2 October 2013: Women cheat as much (or close) as men do. About 70 percent of married men admitted to cheating on their wives. Most statistics found that about 50 to 60 percent of women admitted to having an affair. So it's close. So saying that women aren't geared ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 years lied to me about having children, and who the mother is!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years lied to me about having children, and who the mother is I'm so confused I love him so very much and he has been through everything with me and is the kindest person I know, but at the same time I don't really know how much...
A. 2 October 2013: If you don't want to lose him/leave him - what other choice do you have then to suck it up and live with it?
And then what are you going to do when baby-mama #3 pops up?
He INTENTIONALLY withheld the information that he had a child let alon... (read in full...)
I got in to a rebound relationship/ dating too soon. What is the right thing to do regarding the guy I'm dating?
Q. I am in a relationship with someone for just about one year now. He is great, a very likable person. The thing is, this all started as a "rebound" type relationship, literally as I came out of a very tough four year relationship. We immediately ...
A. 2 October 2013: You put it perfectly yourself..
"When reasonably thinking, I should probably not be dating at all."
No, you shouldn't be dating someone you don't feel love for after a year.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for giving my b/f grief about answering her text?
Q. Hi!! A few days ago my bf asked a girl something about class over twitter, they talked about that for a few posts and then a guy that studies with them said a joke involving both the girl and my bf. The girl answered saying that she loves them, th...
A. 2 October 2013: Way overreacting in my opinion.
And I agree, not a tactful answer from his side either. I think they were just goofing off and therefore it's no big deal.
... (read in full...)
Married man got caught. Would he lie to me about this?
Q. Are there any reasons why a married man would lie to his mistress about getting caught by his wife? NO judgements please........ He was caught over the weekend and told me they were having a major fight and that he would get in touch with me. I d...
A. 2 October 2013: I'm with Daisy - I would be NAIVE to think that he is being totally truthful to his mistress when their relationship is build on lying to his wife and himself.
And maybe he did get caught. Cheaters do, you know?
... (read in full...)
I told him I liked him. He said nothing
Q. I told this guy that I had a crush on him. Before I was about to tell him I think he sensed what I was about to say. After I told him he just asked me how long I liked him and I said I don't know. I could not think straight my head was all over the ...
A. 2 October 2013: So your pride got hurt. Get over it.
You did something you were scared to do, you told him how you felt. He didn't reciprocate - it happens.
Being mad at him is illogical - he didn't do anything wrong. Giving you a hug and flirting with yo... (read in full...)
Should I worry that she wants to get herself off after sex?
Q. I'm 36, I've been married to my wife for 3 years and we never had any big sex-related problem or issue. Since a few months ago I started noticing that she was not satisfied anymore after we were done in bed. Not that she would tell me before, but ...
A. 1 October 2013: If you know SHE hasn't "finished" why don't you try and get her off, seems like when you got yours you get up and leave her to finish herself. She might say it's not a big deal but in the long run, she might get turned off sex at some point.
You "... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a fwb to turn into love and if so how?
Q. seeing my guy 1 yr now. He says he there will never be anything between us. yet one time after sex (he sometimes thinks out loud) he said emotions cannot get into this. He gets closer i think and then pulls away spacing out visits i think to ...
A. 1 October 2013: I'm sorry, I don't think it will happen, no matter how much you want it to.
He is content with not having to put forth an effort, no demands (from you) or expectations (for himself when it comes to you).
My guess is, if you told him tomorro... (read in full...)
Any advice on regaining some sort of power in a casual relationship?
Q. Hi, I find myself in a bad situation, the classic casual hook up turned messy. I am seeing a younger man casually (I didnt think there was a future in it because of the age difference) and now I am having the usual problems associated with ...
A. 30 September 2013: There is no power in a casual relationship - that is part of the attraction (for some) no responsibilities, no expectations, no demands, no power.
So, not really. But if you are starting to develop feelings and they are not reciprocated maybe it... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't think I should take my expensive purse on vacation with us! How do I address this?
Q. I recently purchased a $400-valued Coach handbag and I carry it everywhere with me. My family and I are visiting relatives in east Asia this winter, and my mom is concerned that my handbag will attract unwanted attention and thieves. While I ...
A. 30 September 2013: I agree with the other Aunties.
If you are dead-set on bringing it - then tell your mom, that you are old enough and responsible enough to handle carrying an expensive purse.
Just remember if it does get stolen you mom has the PRIVILEGE to say... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me?
Q. I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me. We met a few years ago, we fell in love, he disappeared we moved on. 5 years later we met up again, and feeli...
A. 30 September 2013: He is right - you do NOT deserve to be treated the way he treats you.
He wants to be single just in case he finds "greener grass" but til he does you are his "security blanket" or "fall-back girl". He is stringing you along like a champ and you ... (read in full...)
I just want to tell him I have a crush on him!
Q. Hey guys, so i've had a crush on this guy at school (im also a guy and i am gay) but the problem is i've never had an actual conversation with him. Im also pretty sure hes straight even though he hasn't had a girlfriend. My problem is that im sure ...
A. 30 September 2013: I think it's not a smart idea to tell your crush you have a crush on him. You don't even know him. I would say the same if you were a girl. A crush is like a fantasy, better kept to yourself. It can end really badly for you. Not everyone is ... (read in full...)
Vibrators - are they all penetrative?
Q. Hi, We've discussed vibrators and wanted to know if vibrators have to be inserted? my wife always has clitoral orgasms and is not comfortable with anything being inserted into her. Having a brief look, it looks like they need to be penetrative w...
A. 29 September 2013: You can look up things like Venus Butterfly vibrator (no insertion) it's for the clitoris only, basically.
Google those or finger vibrators/ nubs and you will find MANY that are useful during sex or by itself.
http://www.ad... (read in full...)
I did everything for him and he wants to break up?
Q. My boyfriend and I got together this january after he constantly pestered me to get with him despite all our mutual friends advising me against it. I told him I am not looking for sex in the relationship due to my religious beliefs and family values ...
A. 29 September 2013: Not worth fighting for. He liked the chase and the fact that he "got" you. The thrill has gone and he has tried to break up with you twice. End it and find someone more compatible.
You friends were right.
Be who you are, don't change for a guy... (read in full...)
He has so little time for me I feel it might be time to break it off
Q. There are a couple of similar posts up here today which is what brought me to this site, but none really sum up my situation properly which is why I am posting too. I am 28 and have been with my 25 year old boyfriend for 3.5 years. He is a m...
A. 29 September 2013: You are barely even on his list of priorities, it seems. I would end it if you need a BF to be there for you more then this one is.
After 3.5 years - a few hours a week is not at all sustainable. It might be for him, because if it didn't work for... (read in full...)
Should I stay in contact with him after such a rocky start?
Q. Okay I just recently joined another dating site. It is a little different from the ones I have been on. It is a site for people who are spiritual and are into healing. I tried it out for free for about a week and then I get a message from a guy who ...
A. 29 September 2013: For me he would go in the NO! pile. The fact that he verbally "attacked" you and criticized you for your preference in men (30'ish guys) - he sounds like this is who he is - and yes, I think he is mad at you for talking to him yet going on a date ... (read in full...)
Why do men stop talking in mid sentence?
Q. What does it mean when a man stops talking in mid-sentence? A few times he has stopped talking in the middle of his sentence.. I do not know if he was trying not to hurt my feelings or he was trying to keep from speaking his true feelings...
A. 29 September 2013: He he normally a talkative and eloquent speaker? If not, maybe he didn't know how to express his sentiment in a way that would make sense.
Or he thought your "live or die" statement was a tad to dramatic and didn't know how to explain that wit... (read in full...)
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