The baby is due in 6 days and I feel completely doomed...
Q. Hi Cupids, Long time answerer, first time asker. What brings me to the question board? I'm 6 days away from my due date and I'm freaking out. I've been freaking out pretty much the whole time. It's not my relationship - I've been with hi...
A. 27 May 2014: Thank you for the update, congrats on the wonderful baby and glad to hear it's going good.
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I explain to him he's jealous and clingy but hes not getting it!!
Q. I met this guy April 4.and we have been talking since then. At first he was really cool, sweet, loveable but now its like I love him but hes too much He crys all the time over small things And when We argue and someone apologizes he continue...
A. 11 November 2013: Cut him off. Block his number (many cell phones have free apps to block numbers), delete him of FB and anywhere else. Pretend he doesn't exist any more.
Take some control. Obviously telling him stop talking to me doesn't work, and my guess is... (read in full...)
How do you tell a man with a temper that things need to change or else it's best we divorce?
Q. I love my husband, but I don't like him. We've had a rocky relationship of 5 years, married for 2.The first 2 years we fought all the time, and his temper was out of control but in the next year, we worked hard to work out the issues in our ...
A. 11 November 2013: So start to build yourself a little nest-egg, put aside enough to get you home, look for a job back there (try online and interview on Skype if possible). Ask family if you can stay with them and if they can help you with a job.
Since you don't ha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slapped me across the face, was it my fault?
Q. My boyfriend slapped me across the face, was it my fault? My boyfriend has Bipolar Disorder. He drinks a lot sometimes, and this annoys me, whether he is being annoying when he is drunk or not. Sometimes, he is hyper and happy when he is drunk...
A. 10 November 2013: Was it your "fault"? No, the hitting was his choice, but you DID do your best to provoke him and what the result? He hit you and then tried to push you down some stairs.
If he lives in a place where you can't walk home alone, he needs to visit yo... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my cousin?
Q. should i have sex with my cousin hes 4 years older than me im 17 hes 21 nearly 22.Me and my cousin have been having a special connection for years a couple of years back we kissed and i touched his penis we both remember that night till this ...
A. 10 November 2013: I think you should be VERY VERY wary.
How icky is it that a 19 year old takes advantage of a 14 year old?! It's STILL Icky at 21!
And this is a relative? Just eww.
If you can't see yourself having sex with anyone else, then wait til you ... (read in full...)
Are there people who just don't like texting?
Q. Silly question but do some people just not like texting? I was/am seeing this boy. have been since end of july. When I see him hes lovely! We get on great, he shows me a lot of attention and clearly likes me and enjoys spending time with me. I'...
A. 10 November 2013: I RARELY text. If my husband sends me a short text - like be home in 30 min. or forgot the milk - I "might" text back a OK, see you in 30 or I'll grab a gallon.
I do NOT UNDER ANY circumstances have long or "deep" conversations over text. I ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games or does he fancy me? Why did he delete my phone number? Yet still flirts with me?
Q. Very brief- The guy is mid 40s. We work together and used to get on really really well, flirting, he use to be my bodyguard, defensive protective and at times jealous. We had a big argument, i told him i didn't fancy him (rumours were going arou...
A. 10 November 2013: Yikes, too much drama!
Keep the work place professional and you will have less of those drama.... (read in full...)
Could he really be happy with his wife and act that way with another woman?
Q. I am single and met a married man recently. We spent a lot of time together talking and the chemistry was intense. We both said some extremely suggestive things we probably shouldn't have. We both wanted to go home together but he couldn't do it as ...
A. 10 November 2013: O.o didn't see your reply:
You stated:
I just want to know that this is not normal behaviour for a happily married man and it looks like most of you are saying it is standard behaviour as long as he goes home to his wife.
I don't think i... (read in full...)
Could he really be happy with his wife and act that way with another woman?
Q. I am single and met a married man recently. We spent a lot of time together talking and the chemistry was intense. We both said some extremely suggestive things we probably shouldn't have. We both wanted to go home together but he couldn't do it as ...
A. 10 November 2013: Also, I forgot to mention. He might have been claiming to be happily married and maybe he "think" he is, there is no way of knowing if this is typical for him.
Being married doesn't mean he has a great moral compass or is a great guy.... (read in full...)
Is 6 guys alot for a girl to sleep with?
Q. I need some advise, please be honest and tell me what you think and what you would do in this situation. I recently found out my fiancé of almost 6 years had been with 6 guys before me( she was my first- she's 3 years older than me I was 22 when we ...
A. 10 November 2013: So you have 2 kids together and you wonder about her past NOW? Sorry, buddy if that bothers you, you should have thought about it BEFORE knocking her up and playing house.
Not trying to be mean or anything, but It's a DAY late and dollar short to... (read in full...)
Due to my past experience with acne, I am worried that my boyfriend is trying to tell me something. What do you all think?
Q. I am someone who went through a severe bout of acne when I was younger. I have been left with scars (no acne now) and have been seeing a dermatologist regularly to get filler and laser to deal with it. Its better, but I do still have scars. Anyh...
A. 10 November 2013: I think Anonymous 123 put it beautifully!
"Alec, the other day when you mentioned that you couldn't be with a girl who was obese or had acne, did you by any chance mean me? Because I don't know if you noticed, but I do have scars on my face from... (read in full...)
Is it ok if I want to know everything about my girlfriend? Before proposing?
Q. Im planning to propose to my girlfriend soon, is it ok in wanting to know everything about her and her past? she is the one i want to spend yhe rest if my life. however i suspect theres something shady she doesnt want to talk about and im afraid if ...
A. 9 November 2013:
What shady shit are you suspecting? Exactly?
I think you can ASK about things but a lot comes down to respect and trust. But also to the fact that the PAST IS THE PAST, it's not something SHE can change or you can change.
She isn't require... (read in full...)
Could he really be happy with his wife and act that way with another woman?
Q. I am single and met a married man recently. We spent a lot of time together talking and the chemistry was intense. We both said some extremely suggestive things we probably shouldn't have. We both wanted to go home together but he couldn't do it as ...
A. 9 November 2013: No, I don't know what he was saying, you didn't include that in your submittal. So ALL I can do is go by what you DID submit.
Are they men out there who aren't 100% happy 100% of the time with their marriage? ABSOLUTELY (same for married ladies m... (read in full...)
Her reasons seem a bit odd to me -- anyone else every decide a guy was just too good?
Q. Has anyone had to make a decision like this? I was dating someone a while ago, but it ended after two months. Since then we stay in touch as friends as she said I was important to her. In the meantime we both date other people although the per...
A. 9 November 2013: I'm with Cindy.
I want BANG! for my bucks (so to speak) I don't understand her reasoning either, to me it kinda sounds more like she was trying to "save face" (yours) and thus she wildly complimented you.
Maybe some of the studies says tha... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a happily married man?
Q. I am 35 single female never married, has a crush on a manager 35 (he is married with 2 kids under 7) in the same office building. We connected on linkedin and after that it was non stop emails from him to me telling me about at first how he(only he ...
A. 9 November 2013: Does it matter if he is happy or not?
He withheld his "status" on purpose hoping you catch your interest as a single fella, because he WANTS to see himself as a interesting single fella not a married man. BUT if he was TRULY unhappy don't yo... (read in full...)
I´d apprecaite any suggestion and any comment about his propose to me.
Q. My BF is from another country.I was there,in his country for 5 years on a scholarship, when I met him. My impression of him was that he was a womanizer,but all his friends were telling me that he is great. We were together for 5 years,and for 1 ...
A. 9 November 2013: Was it a strange proposal? ABSOLUTELY.
It was a "I tried some other girls, but they wanted things of me I wasn't willing to give, since YOU didn't ASK me for these things I "think" you will be a better wife".
He might have meant it as a co... (read in full...)
Is 6 guys alot for a girl to sleep with?
Q. I need some advise, please be honest and tell me what you think and what you would do in this situation. I recently found out my fiancé of almost 6 years had been with 6 guys before me( she was my first- she's 3 years older than me I was 22 when we ...
A. 9 November 2013: I don't think 6 is a crazy high number, but only issue is (and I don't UNDERSTAND why you don't see that) whether or not she got help concerning the stepdad raping her.
I wouldn't be surprised that she used sex to numb herself from the rape, be... (read in full...)
Could he really be happy with his wife and act that way with another woman?
Q. I am single and met a married man recently. We spent a lot of time together talking and the chemistry was intense. We both said some extremely suggestive things we probably shouldn't have. We both wanted to go home together but he couldn't do it as ...
A. 9 November 2013: Yes.
Just because a person is married doesn't mean they are now numb and blind to what else is out there.
It doesn't mean they can feel LUST towards someone else and NOT act on it.
It Doesn't mean that a married man (or woman) don't enjoy h... (read in full...)
How do you tell a man with a temper that things need to change or else it's best we divorce?
Q. I love my husband, but I don't like him. We've had a rocky relationship of 5 years, married for 2.The first 2 years we fought all the time, and his temper was out of control but in the next year, we worked hard to work out the issues in our ...
A. 9 November 2013: Yikes, I'm not even sure marriage counseling would work. If you feel you owe it to yourself and your marriage then suggest it, see what he says. If he says no, then you have your answer, he isn't interested in changing.
BTW demandin... (read in full...)
I explain to him he's jealous and clingy but hes not getting it!!
Q. I met this guy April 4.and we have been talking since then. At first he was really cool, sweet, loveable but now its like I love him but hes too much He crys all the time over small things And when We argue and someone apologizes he continue...
A. 9 November 2013: Yikes. It's been 7 months and it's THAT full of drama? Personally, I would take that as a hint that you two aren't compatible.
He is super insecure and that in itself is just a huge turn on for most people.
You can either continue (he won... (read in full...)
I said a terrible thing, and now it's over. What can I do to get him back?
Q. I said a terrible thing but I think the reaction of my long time boyfriend is way too much. We live together for 7 years and have 1 child together, our daughter is 6.5. We are young professionals, love each other or so I thought, and we are overa...
A. 8 November 2013: You pointed out the truth. He didn't like it and now he won't talk to you. Your BF have other issues besides this, you two have other issues besides this - I'm willing to be.
Yes, I absolutely agree you don't WAIT til the morning with a hurt/sic... (read in full...)
Which man do I choose? Passion or security?
Q. Hello! I have to make the biggest decision of my life and I need some advice! I love two very different guys that have different things to offer and I don’t know who to choose. With Guy # 1 I will be able to stay home with my future kids and be the ...
A. 8 November 2013: I have to agree with NEITHER.
You don't love #1 for WHO he is but what he can give you. And #2... You will regret that down the line.
... (read in full...)
Is my friend toxic?
Q. How do you know if a friend is toxic? whenever I spend time with a male friend of mine i come home feeling down and stripped of confidence. He lies a lot so I never really know what is real/not, and he always makes jokes at my expense - he says ...
A. 8 November 2013: How is he a friend? please explain. And why do you KEEP going back for more?... (read in full...)
How do I work this out? He shows no emotion at all. And in his own words is broken.
Q. My boyfriend of 9 months last night told me he doesn't love me anymore. I basically dragged it out of him. We have had loads of fights. Maybe everyday. But we are trying to work on this relationship. Both of his parents have cancer. (May contrib...
A. 8 November 2013: He is numb, my guess it's due to parents and the cancer.
I'm not saying it's ALL your fault, the hitting is though. You don't kick someone who is already down. If he doesn't give you anything back, you walk away.
I think he brings out the w... (read in full...)
The baby is due in 6 days and I feel completely doomed...
Q. Hi Cupids, Long time answerer, first time asker. What brings me to the question board? I'm 6 days away from my due date and I'm freaking out. I've been freaking out pretty much the whole time. It's not my relationship - I've been with hi...
A. 8 November 2013: Having a child doesn't mean your life as you know it is over. Not by a long shot.
It DOES mean that you are NOW responsible for more then JUST yourself.
You shouldn't feel bad for not being overjoyed. It's NOT your fault that there are women ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure whether to go to my friend's birthday night out?
Q. I'm not sure whether to go to my friend's birthday night out? I know this isn't much of a problem, but i'd like some advice. My friend has invited me to her birthday night out next week. The place we are going to is a restaurant and a nightclub....
A. 8 November 2013: You can't do this for a friend?
The evening is NOT about you, it's about your friend who is CELEBRATING he birthday. Go celebrate!
And I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou - having a valid ID on you is ALWAYS A good idea.
You can go and have f... (read in full...)
His story put me off -- am I just naive?
Q. So I met this guy and I'm trying to decide if he's dodgy. He said he went on holiday to a 5 star hotel which was practically empty because it was a front for money laundering, so they have fake guests staying in suites for 2000 a night, staying for ...
A. 8 November 2013: The owners are friends of his? then yea I would back off....
First off though, I think he is telling you some grand "I'm Mr. Bond" story.
A 5 star hotel is expensive to run in day to day, a few rooms paying 2,000 is not going to keep it afloa... (read in full...)
Why do abusive men see me as a target to be mistreated?
Q. Dear Cupid I was once in love with my Ex we went our own ways because he turned out to be very abusive mentally and physically I left him. As time went on I ran into another guy who treated me like a queen everyday of my life then he turned out to...
A. 8 November 2013: I'm not sure if YOU attract them or if you are attracted to them. BIG difference.
We all have a "type" of person that we are attracted to and maybe because of past abuse you are attracted to men who are abusive?
Did you grow up with abusive men... (read in full...)
How do I work this out? He shows no emotion at all. And in his own words is broken.
Q. My boyfriend of 9 months last night told me he doesn't love me anymore. I basically dragged it out of him. We have had loads of fights. Maybe everyday. But we are trying to work on this relationship. Both of his parents have cancer. (May contrib...
A. 8 November 2013: Why are you doing this to yourself? If you two fight EVERY day, there are clear signs that you two are NOT compatible at all.
And you HIT HIM? How is that going to help your relationship? How is that ever OK?
I'd say yes, his parents BOTH hav... (read in full...)
Why do exes try harder with someone else?
Q. I had an ex who turned up blind drunk on a date, with a friend. Then demanded I take them home. Obviously I stopped seeing him after that. Then months later begged me back, stood me up, gloated about his "new life" and kept sending me various ...
A. 8 November 2013: Because he sent you nutty, mean, cruel text messages? You block him. You delete him. You have a choice to read the texts or NOT read them. What is the Police supposed to do?
Now, if he is threatening you life then yes, by all means go to the Poli... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm masturbating too much
Q. Hi all I am a 16 year old girl who is a virgin and I masturbate really often and I feel that I do it too much and I am getting addicted as I will masturbate when I wake up and when I get home and before I go to sleep also I watch porn while I'm ...
A. 7 November 2013: Stop with the porn. At 16 you really should not be watching that much porn, it gives you a really screwed idea of what sex and love making is. PORN, my dear, IS FAKE.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/
REad up on it and learn.
The masturbatio... (read in full...)
We're not on the same page about parenting
Q. My wife tends to fly off the handle when we disagree. I need some advice about how to handle this. Thanks in advance. This morning, our daughter was being very whiny. She's 2 1/2. We've been teaching her to use her words and not whine. After a ...
A. 7 November 2013: First of all I have 3 daughters. They ALL went through the "whiny stage", the youngest more then the others.
My approach is to ignore. If you whine, I will not respond. Unless there is a reason. The child is sick, over tired, hot, hungry.
I do... (read in full...)
Can't deal with my husband's anger and negativity, but leaving him means leaving the U.S.
Q. I am marriaged to an American for more then 12 years now. I went to USA to work and study with a scholarship in Arts. We met through a friend from my Master´s Degree University. He is an Artist too,but from another University,but doesnt have a Mast...
A. 7 November 2013: First of all, if you have been married for 12 year why haven't you been Neutralized as a Citizen?
I would seriously look into the rules about you being able to stay without having to be married to him.
Once you have figured out a legal ... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 7 November 2013: Knowing that someone has issues and the living with someone with issues are two VERY different things.
A good partner and a loving relationship can help anyone a lot, but if can't FIX the issues, therapy can help give her tools, but again SHE need... (read in full...)
Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? And what do they prefer-natural or make-up?
Q. I was wondering what your opinion is on this question. Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? Because I think I am attractive but when I look at myself in the mirror I don't like my stomach,(have a few inch...
A. 7 November 2013: ***Do guys really like it when a women is natural or all made up?***
I think that comes down to several things.
1. the guy.
2. the situation.
3. the woman and her skills at putting on make up.
Most images you see of models are heavily ma... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his family complain about everything ALL THE TIME!!
Q. My BF is a whinner. He is all the time stressed up with everything. He complains about money all the time and I feel that I cant ask for anything. When he is stressed he screams,yells,and break things. I try to make him happy and make him feel ...
A. 7 November 2013: 8 years of that? Isn't it about time you accept that THIS IS who he IS? So the choice is now yours... Do you want MORE of this.. or are you done?
This is how they live their lives. If you have children with your BF, THIS is what they will learn, n... (read in full...)
Should I try to clear up the misunderstanding?
Q. I recently took an adult-ed class in my town. I have the strong feeling that this woman in the class thinks I'm a freak or something but I'm really not. For one thing, she said to me that she had lost my e-mail address and when I said we could still ...
A. 7 November 2013: Sounds like she thinks you are hitting on her. Maybe she isn't comfortable with men she barely knows asking about her kids.
You know nothing about her life - who knows maybe she has an abusive ex-husband.
It could just be that she has NO socia... (read in full...)
His reaction to his grandma giving me a gift a concern or not?
Q. Hi all, Wanted some help clarifying how to respond to something that hurt me slightly by my boyfriend of 2.5years. Boyfriends grandma is fairly old now, and I get on with her really well. Lovely lady. at her birthday dinner, i saw her using...
A. 7 November 2013: Would I ask him to clarify?
No he "clarified it" enough. You are not family and thus you don't "deserve" to be given gifts from HIS family. That is HIS potential inheritances that might be $5 smaller...
So now you know how he feels about you ... (read in full...)
Why do exes try harder with someone else?
Q. I had an ex who turned up blind drunk on a date, with a friend. Then demanded I take them home. Obviously I stopped seeing him after that. Then months later begged me back, stood me up, gloated about his "new life" and kept sending me various ...
A. 7 November 2013: There can be many explanations.
1. he learned from his mistakes and changed his ways.
2. He is still wooing her so on his best behavior.
3. You only see what he LETS you see. It might look all happy happy but that doesn't mean it is. It's... (read in full...)
Why do I experience such bad pain during sex?
Q. I'm 27 and I've been sexually active for the last 10 years but I can't explain this. Sex hurts on and off for me. This recent guy I've been seeing it hurts like a knife is going through my vagina sometimes before he even full enters me and other ...
A. 7 November 2013: Have you been to a gynecologist? Doctor for a check up? That would be MY first step.
Could be your uterus has a sharp "bend" in it where it meets the vagina -so even if he isn't in far he is "banging" up against the uterus, which hurts like a b... (read in full...)
Why do abusive men cheat?
Q. I just got out of an abusive relationship. Not only was he physically and verbally abusive but now I found out that he had been cheating on me our entire relationship. He always had accused me of cheating and now I know why because he was the one ...
A. 7 November 2013: I agree with the other aunties, it's to that black and white. It's not all abusive men who cheats and not all cheaters are abusive.
I DO think you need to stop focusing on him - the ex. And focus on yourself. Figure out why you stayed so long in ... (read in full...)
How to handle this feeling of helplessness as I don't want to date a separated man?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months. He has been separated for three years. His wife had an affair and now has a partner and two very young children. They have an 18 year old who lives with her. He assured me when we met that he has no f...
A. 7 November 2013: I agree with YOUWISH.
"separated" doesn't mean no longer married. It means NOT divorced yet and still technically married.
I would not move in with a guy unless the divorce is final. I would NEVER buy a house with a guy who is still married, b... (read in full...)
His reaction to his grandma giving me a gift a concern or not?
Q. Hi all, Wanted some help clarifying how to respond to something that hurt me slightly by my boyfriend of 2.5years. Boyfriends grandma is fairly old now, and I get on with her really well. Lovely lady. at her birthday dinner, i saw her using...
A. 7 November 2013: I think your BF is a douche. Treating his grandmother like she is some old fossil who can't make up her own mind. Who somehow has NO rights to her own possessions, big or small.
What he did to you was rude, but what he did to his GRANDMOT... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watching mother/son porn,should I be worried???
Q. I've been in relationship with this guy for 8 months( we are same age),and I always knew he likes older women witch i think its normal,but recently I find out he was watching porn mother son type ,where guy is seduce by his mother while dad is at ...
A. 6 November 2013: One thing would be liking to watch mature women or MILF's but mom/son porn? Gross.
Sorry, there is no way I could move past that.... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 6 November 2013: First I'm sorry it came to what it came to, but I think YOU know that you HAD to keep your word. Just like you expected her to keep hers.
Therapy can help, but it's not an instant fix. She was sure to have relapses, the thing is if her actions ... (read in full...)
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