I thought my Co-worker was just a good friend. So why has he been asking me explicit sexual questions?
Q. I've thought this guy at my work and I were just friends. We talk a lot, about random stuff usually. Yesterday we were texting and he was asking me when I'm going to have kids and everything. I said I don't know. Anyway so we were texting more and...
A. 25 November 2013: I'm with Auntie Em.
Just because you work together doesn't mean you have to discuss your sex life. Or get any kind of pictures of you.
JUST be professional and polite at work. TREAT him like a co-worker, nothing more. He has already shown he... (read in full...)
Do you think is okay to sacrifice freedom in order to make your hurt partner happy?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I have to admit I was not the perfect girlfriend. Although he has done things that have hurt me deeply, I know I have been worse to him. This Thursday I made a mistake and he left the relationship, I ...
A. 24 November 2013: OK, I'm glad you wrote a reply and that is was just a typo on the fidelity :)
But I don't think the relationship will make you happy, because what he expect of you is (IMHO) unreasonable. You will do all this and then still feel guilty about th... (read in full...)
Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said she has changed, or should I stay with my new girlfriend of five months who I have a steady relationship with
Q. Hi guys, Anthony here, I am looking for some advice please as I ‘ve go myself into something of a dilemma! Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said...
A. 24 November 2013: I think you are being a little unfair to "girl #2" by even THINKING about getting back with #1 - because it means you are not over #1.
But since you ask, #1 should not be an option. You spend THAT long with her and it didn't work, she is promisin... (read in full...)
I thought my Co-worker was just a good friend. So why has he been asking me explicit sexual questions?
Q. I've thought this guy at my work and I were just friends. We talk a lot, about random stuff usually. Yesterday we were texting and he was asking me when I'm going to have kids and everything. I said I don't know. Anyway so we were texting more and...
A. 24 November 2013: He is being inappropriate for two reasons, 1, he has a GF/Partner and 2. he is your co-worker.
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I care about him, but not the way he wants. What are my options?
Q. Hi everyone, There is this guy I've been talking to and we have just been texting back and forth but we have never actually met. He has been coming on strong telling me that he is in love with me and that he wants me in his life. He wants to meet me ...
A. 24 November 2013: LISTEN to your gut.
I agree this is not some whirlwind romance.. YOU don't even know the guy (and He doesn't know you) and he wants you to take care of his kids?
Just no, no, no, no.
Stop contact - I have no doubt this is a scam, I have s... (read in full...)
Don't want to lose her as a friend but she has inappropriate feelings for me
Q. Dear friends, I have a female friend at workplace (younger and single). These days I felt she has an interest to me thou she know I am married and have 2 kids. I have shown her my family photo too. As things proceeded I understood things are serio...
A. 24 November 2013: Nothing you can do. Keep your distance, because SOMEONE has to be the logical and adult in this "friendship".
SHE CAN'T/WON'T just be a friend. So staying away is better. Just be polite. And maybe try and make friend with guys.. less drama.... (read in full...)
Don't want to miss out on the opportunity but afraid I'll develop feelings for him
Q. Hi, just asking for your opinion. There is this 50's plus amazing guy at work. He is one of those rare types who attract young girls, more than guys their own age! At work, every and I mean literally every girl would do anything to go out with him(I ...
A. 24 November 2013: Honey, my husband is 44 and a "chick magnet" too - always was, but he NEVER took advantage of all those YOUNG girls who fawned all over him.
That is what this dude is doing - HE IS USING young naive girls. He already said all he wants is a casual... (read in full...)
I thought my Co-worker was just a good friend. So why has he been asking me explicit sexual questions?
Q. I've thought this guy at my work and I were just friends. We talk a lot, about random stuff usually. Yesterday we were texting and he was asking me when I'm going to have kids and everything. I said I don't know. Anyway so we were texting more and...
A. 24 November 2013: Um, well if you ANSWER questions like that he thinks they are OK. If you TELL him, "that question is inappropriate so I'm not going to answer it" Or the "mind your own business", then you most like won't get more question like that.
He either w... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable to want to keep this friendship? Or is my boyfriend right?
Q. Ok I have an issue with my live-in boyfriend (of 5 years) that I need some advice on please. I have a female friend at work. We work in the same department and we have become quite close and have started seeing each other outside of work a bit to...
A. 24 November 2013: I agree with Caring guy as well.
Your BF is basically saying that you are not smart enough or competent enough to make your own decisions when it comes to cheating. That if YOU have a friend who is cheating you AUTOMATICALLY might think that che... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to allow me to close the door to my room when my boyfriend comes visiting? We need our privacy!!
Q. Hi all, I have been with my bf for a few months and recently I invited my bf to meet my parents. What irks me is that I am not allowed to close the door when I am alone with him in my room. We don't always on the airconditioner but sometimes we do. ...
A. 24 November 2013: You can't MAKE your parents do anything. You live in a conservative country (when it comes you young people and sexuality) so it's not a strange request that you leave the door open. Now if you parents put a chair in the doorway and sat there and ... (read in full...)
Do you think he might be a player?
Q. Hi folks, I go to this club to sing and I have a lot of friends there and enjoy spending time with them. There are a few guys and women I talk to, all different ages and one girl there is my friend and she is much younger and has a new bo...
A. 24 November 2013: He's your friends BF so I would just ignore it. Maybe he was looking at you because he knew you, I know some performers have a hard time knowing that a lot of people are looking at them so they focus on ONE person or ONE spot and it feels less ... (read in full...)
So what's going on? Has she lost interest?
Q. I met this girl on a dating site. Well, a woman. She is 38. I am 39. We went out for drinks a week ago and ended up kissing. Before the date we'd been emailing every day, and after the date (Friday) I wasn't sure how long to wait, but I sent her a ...
A. 24 November 2013: I would take it as She is NOT interested and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling I'm not feeling it.
I would start looking for someone else.
Also, I WOULD NOT wait more then a day to say thanks for the day and arrange for another date... (read in full...)
Would you ever ask an ex to be your plus 1 at a wedding?
Q. Would you ever asks an ex to be your plus 1 at a wedding? I ask because my ex asked me to go to a wedding with him. He was the dumpee. It was 5 months ago we broke up, but he didn't take it so great. We've spoken on and off since, but nothing much. ...
A. 24 November 2013: Personally, no I wouldn't. I wouldn't go either.
If I was single and got an invitation with a +1 on it, I would call the groom or bride (which ever is my friend/relative) and let them know that I will NOT be bringing anyone, because that might fr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is smothering me, while I support him! How can we get back the relationship we used to have?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner for little over a year. Prior to our relationship we were very close friends for 5 years. Due to us being friends for so long, we knew each other incredibly well. My partner had a big circle of friends and ...
A. 24 November 2013: Sorry, time for him to move out.
He shouldn't be mooching of you. He shouldn't stop you from having a social life.
Why in the world is this all OK with you? Because he is nice to your children?
Do you realize that they SEE this and they a... (read in full...)
Should I stay at the job I'm at or try to get a job at the place I really want to work at after I get my degree?
Q. This isnt so much a relationship question, but more of a question thats definitely going to help my life out business wisr. Here is my dilemma. My man is a manager at WalMart, and I want to pursue the same thing. Please dont tell me hos my goals ar...
A. 24 November 2013: How big do you think (realistically) your chances would be to manage a Dollar General any time soon ? If it's not something you think will happen easily, then maybe trying Walmart might be a good idea, they have a LOT faster turn over then DG ... (read in full...)
Do you think is okay to sacrifice freedom in order to make your hurt partner happy?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I have to admit I was not the perfect girlfriend. Although he has done things that have hurt me deeply, I know I have been worse to him. This Thursday I made a mistake and he left the relationship, I ...
A. 24 November 2013: You write :
***** I will have to stop doing many things that I like and I don't really think are wrong *****
What is that "thing" that you you don't think is wrong but your BF obviously thought was not OK?
I can't really answer unless I k... (read in full...)
Booty call or blow off ?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now and I have met one of his friends, but the other night he went to dinner with a large group of friends after a football game { which is fine } but he didn't invite me. It kinda hurt my feelings but I ...
A. 24 November 2013: I think you did right in declining the "9 pm" meet up. I think setting some kind of "rules" for what you find OK and what you don't - such as just coming over for a "roll in the hay".
It's only been a month, so I would just try not to over-thi... (read in full...)
Will he always be lazy and mess up the house and not want me to be around his friends/
Q. My friend and have been fighting non stop for the past week! I am at the point where I can not stand him and that I am starting to hate him! We will be together a year next month. He moved in a few months ago and things was great. Until now he ...
A. 24 November 2013: Well, if you don't know how to set boundaries and rules you will end up raising two children, HIM and your daughter.
Sit down with him and make a chore list. Divide the chore list. Bitching at him (as you call it) doesn't work, so why keep at ... (read in full...)
The guy who had a crush on me doesn't even want to be friends anymore
Q. Okay so I'll tell my problem as a story just to make things easier. "Annie" was friends with "Wilbur" since freshman year of high school. Annie liked another guy named "Elias" who pretty much ruined her life Sophomore year by telling everyone...
A. 23 November 2013: You should leave Wilbur alone. That is what he asked you to do.
So you do to Ginger what was done to Wilbur, how is that fair?
I'm sorry that Annie finally saw Wilbur for a good guy, but she saw it too late and by her actions with regards to ... (read in full...)
My husband won't live by the same standards he sets for me
Q. My husband is a jealous person and I havent seen my cousin in 2 years as she drinks, has guys at her flat and is on facebook. These are not the kind of things that interest me but I did pop in and see her before I met my husband as she was always t...
A. 23 November 2013: He can't "make" you not see people. He can tell that he doesn't WANT you to see people (in your case your cousin) but I think YOU should have some kind of say in what you do with your life.
You got married, you didn't sign up to be told what to ... (read in full...)
Now that we're married I find he has habits I can't tolerate
Q. Hi everyone, I've been feeling so unsettled since I married two years ago. Didn't live together b4 and now some things annoy me terribly. He drinks every day. I didn't realise how anxious I'd be about this. He's the kind of guy who can't have a ...
A. 23 November 2013: When did all this start to bother you? What ELSE has changed? On your end maybe?
It's been 2 YEARS of marriage and NOW it's bothering you? Or has his smoking/drinking escalated?
Have you talked about it?
Ask him to not smoke at home (he ca... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to feel insecure in regards to sex toys?
Q. Hi all! I had posted previously about me leaving an abusive relationship. He was very manipulative and plain awful to me. My ex couldnt make me orgasm,so we got a toy to try and help myself, and when he caught me using it he would flip on me...
A. 23 November 2013: I think guys who NEED to have the upper hand in the relationship has a problem with toys.
Like if he can't give you an orgasm it's YOUR fault and thus you shouldn't have any toys.
It's insecure and petty dudes.
A guy who LOVES you for yo... (read in full...)
Fighting! Now I remind him of his ex.
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now. Our way of handling stress is much different. I'm suprised we've lasted this long. He is hot headed to the point where he says and does the first thing on his mind. I am pretty quick ...
A. 22 November 2013: You may or may nor really remind him of the ex, BUT it made YOU shut up and that was his goal. It's a passive-aggressive manipulation maneuver.
He fights dirty. Comparing you to an ex means he is telling you WHAT NOT to do and what NOT to say, bec... (read in full...)
Is this gay guy seriously blowing hot and cold, or was I off?
Q. So I met this guy, we hooked up, he refused to kiss because he said he was in love with his best friend in another country, who was also in a relationship. He said he wouldn’t kiss because he felt like he was betraying his best friend (!!!!). Alarm ...
A. 22 November 2013: YIKES walk away this guy has drama-llama written all over him.
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I accidentally missed a call from a guy I'm interested in. What should I do?
Q. This guy tried to call me late last night. What should I say to him? I met this guy last weekend, and we have been texting each other quite a lot this week. I texted him last night, asking him what he was doing, and he said he was going playing ...
A. 22 November 2013: I would say 11.45 pm is booty call time or not acceptable if you aren't dating or related OR an emergency.
You can call him and say hi I saw I missed a call from you as I put my phone on silent at night.
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Trying to save my marriage. Husband calls me names for having had sexual partners before we met. Help!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have been together for 14. We have 4 children together. Recently, he has told me that he wants to leave me because I had sex with multiple people (a total of 6, including 2 one night stands) ...
A. 22 November 2013: Hmm, is this NEW behavior? All of a sudden he decided that he wanted to ONLY marry a virgin? (or something close to that).
You were good enough to have 4 kids with, but he can't stay married because of your past? What exactly does your SEXUAL p... (read in full...)
Three days ago I suffered a miscarriage. Do I tell my ex bf/good friend I miscarried his baby?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I are 11 years a part, Im 18. We dated secretly to avoid the scandel as we knew he was moving away in december. Last week he ended it early and we are still on really good terms. Its tricky when we both are attracted to eac...
A. 22 November 2013: I will third that advice.
GO see your doctor. Having a partial miscarriage can be bad for you. You need to be seen, you need to have your hCG levels tested (simple blood/urine sample). YOU health should come first.
Then after the confirmation... (read in full...)
Mom found out I'm no longer a virgin and all hell has broken loose! I don't regard myself as a sl*t, but she now certainly makes me feel like one.
Q. I'm a 27yr female, a doctor in her fellowship in Mexico. I was virgin till I turned 25, I decided to have sex with my then 6month boyfriend who's still withe me (three years now). We are in a steady and serious relationship, even considering ...
A. 22 November 2013: You are 27, you are a DOCTOR and you are dating the man who is your first 3 years later. You are well educated an I'm guessing smart enough to make your OWN choices. EVEN when it comes to sex.
Maybe your mom had some ideal in her head that you... (read in full...)
Its great that he's a good dad, but I want to feel important too!!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has a 2 year old daughter. I have changed myself to accept this situation and moved past it. But now, when he invites me to hang out with them, i usually don't bc i don't like how it makes me feel around them. And i don't ...
A. 22 November 2013: I don't think you have changed or accepted that she IS #1 priority in his life. SHE is 2. SHE needs to be put first.
It IS NOT easy to deal with, but staying away is not going to help either. Neither is being jealous of a 2 year old girl.
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My instincts tell me he's not one for a FWB
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles I have recently started what is supposed to be a "friends with benefits" relationship with a guy who's almost 20 years older than me. He's an incredibly attractive man and we've liked each other for a few weeks and we fin...
A. 21 November 2013: Trust your gut here. End it. I don't think he can do FWB - and I think you misunderstand the term, what you are really looking for is NSA (No strings Attached.)
FWB implies that you were friends who took to the bedroom on occasion. Not sleeping... (read in full...)
Things have changed so much because of her illness -- can we get back to where we were?
Q. I need advice as am completely stuck. I'm in a long term lesbian relationship that for the past year has been incredibly difficult. When I first met my partner she was my ideal woman. Literally the moment I met her I fancied her. She was li...
A. 21 November 2013: I think it's almost impossible to rebuild trust after something like that, illness or no illness. But I would try and maybe find a couples counselor and work on getting tools for BOTH of you to rebuild that trust.
The thing is, I'm guessing... (read in full...)
Is my husband happy that I asked for the divorce?
Q. After 11 years of marriage I found out that my husband was completely diferent of the one I though he was.He always had female friends which he always helped,send some gifts...but since a while he was connecting a lot with them and I was feeling ...
A. 21 November 2013: I think SVC nailed it. He wanted YOU to be the one leaving, so HE wasn't the "bad" one.
Wish him happiness and focus in your life and YOUR happiness.
Why should marriage = misery? If it's not working anymore then walking away is not a BAD thi... (read in full...)
How can I help my son financially without it causing further tension?
Q. 21 November 2013: My 29 year old son has just got himself a good job but he is on 6 months probation before his position is confirmed. He needs a car to get to and from work and has no money to fund the purchase himself. He is unlikely to be able to ...
A. 21 November 2013: Wow, that is pretty ungrateful of him.
Sounds like my nieces to be honest... And my BIL is paying for it. Because they couldn't go with a used or cheaper car, he now has to "help" them make the car payment EVERY month (this is 2 grown kids 21 ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if my crush is interested without jeopardizing our work?
Q. Hi aunts, Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this question. I've been dating somebody that is completely 'my type' from the way he looks, to his hobbies and dress sense for around the last 5 months, everything has been great. H...
A. 21 November 2013: I was thinking the same thing as SVC.
What about your BF? Is you having some school girl crush more important then having a healthy relationship?
I get that EVERYONE gets crushes. BUT it doesn't MEAN you have to ACT on every one of them OR t... (read in full...)
Did I overreact to comments about my weight?
Q. I think I might have over reacted. I was texting back and forwards with this guy I had not dated yet. Everything was going well until he made this comment ~i don't usually date girls like you, but you look decent~ when i asked him what did he mean ...
A. 21 November 2013: I don't think you did, and I think your example was spot on.
He could have said tall girls, but he went with your overall size - as in weight.
Here is the good news though, this is a GREAT way for you to weed out guys like him. Because IF you d... (read in full...)
How to get my BF back and move on in the old direction?
Q. I was in 4,5 year long distance relationship. We were seeing each other every 2nd weekend, which is quite often for 2 countries that are far away. It was love at first sight, we had the same taste, traveled a lot together, planning to marry and have ...
A. 21 November 2013: A 4.5 year long LDR are rare. Usually one or the other will move closer within 1-2 years, but if nothing has happened after 4.5 years it might be that it's not going to happen.
There are many reason why he has decided to end it. One - if you are ... (read in full...)
Why is my fiancée's mother bribing me with gas cards?
Q. Why is my fiancee's mother bribing me with gas cards, when I've put on 6300 miles in the last two months? My fiancee can't drive because of her seizure disorder (though it has been getting more under control recently). We currently live 45 minutes ...
A. 21 November 2013: I think she is maybe just trying to help out? If you are the one who drives ALL the time to pick up/drop of your fiancee it could be that she is just trying to be nice. Not all people give gifts with strings attached.
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I feel I need to warn other women on the dating website about this aggressive jerk
Q. I need help dealing with a situation. About 18 months ago I met a guy. He was fine and gentlemanly. On the fourth date, he got quite intimidating and clearly wanted sex. He got lairy. I was scared and intimidated but luckily as he did not have ...
A. 21 November 2013: What did the dating site say? Did they get back to you?
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I just don’t see how all of these things could be happening and he still isn't interested!!
Q. I am in the middle of an extremely weird situation and am eager for a second opinion, even if it is harder to give valid advice if you have never seen me interacting with this person. So here’s the situation. There is this guy, I’ll just call him...
A. 21 November 2013: He likes you, but not the way you want him too. And he enjoys the attention and flirting with you. He likes your company. And maybe even the fact that when you got turned down (through his room mate) you didn't stop talking to him.
The dancing ... (read in full...)
I feel I need to warn other women on the dating website about this aggressive jerk
Q. I need help dealing with a situation. About 18 months ago I met a guy. He was fine and gentlemanly. On the fourth date, he got quite intimidating and clearly wanted sex. He got lairy. I was scared and intimidated but luckily as he did not have ...
A. 21 November 2013: I would actually CALL the Police and ask what you should do. And I would call the 1-800 number (or whatever number they have on the dating site) and TALK to someone.
It's kind of hard because this is a he/she said. If they ask him on the website,... (read in full...)
Came home unexpectedly and found husband in strange situation. Is he gay?
Q. Dear everyone, Hi I have been married to my husband since May 11th 2013. We havebeen together for almost 8 years. He has never shown any signs of being bi sexual or gay. Well the other morning he didn't expect me home for awhile but my daughter...
A. 21 November 2013: I'm sorry.
You said you are in counseling? Marriage counseling? So has there been other things that has made you think something is going on?
I don't think it's because he is gay, but it could be he is curious. And if you two are having probl... (read in full...)
If he's happy then why is he still on dating sites?
Q. Hi everyone, I am hoping someone (preferably with experience of this) could shed some light on my problem. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a bit more than three years. He says he is happy. If he is happy, then why does he keep going to dating ...
A. 21 November 2013: The fact that he turns it back on you, is a typical cheater method. Make YOU feel bad or guilty of doing ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong. But it's reflecting the blame of him and unto you.
If you two keep breaking up, there HAS to be a reason. I think YO... (read in full...)
Questions on sex and HIV...
Q. I've just read the stats about HIV and I'm shocked as too how many people were diagnosed in 2012. I have a few questions.. 1. How does a man get HIV off a woman? It seems there wouldn't be enough fluid exchanging. 2. How common is it to ge...
A. 21 November 2013: Your best bet is to talk to your doctor about this. And to get tested + do not have unprotected sex with a guy until you are both tested and have come clean on 2 HIV tests.
The reason the number is so high is because people are more careless... (read in full...)
Came home unexpectedly and found husband in strange situation. Is he gay?
Q. Dear everyone, Hi I have been married to my husband since May 11th 2013. We havebeen together for almost 8 years. He has never shown any signs of being bi sexual or gay. Well the other morning he didn't expect me home for awhile but my daughter...
A. 20 November 2013: That is super odd.
If something smells fishy IT is most likely.. fishy.
Why would your husband drop his shorts/underwear on the stairs if the neighbor was sitting in his living room? And if he never takes baths, again... why would the one ti... (read in full...)
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