Is there really ever a good time to break up with someone?
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months who has started to get clingy and needy. He's a very nice man and has many wonderful qualities but he is way more into this relationship then me. I'll give some examples of his needy behavior: He tex...
A. 20 July 2014: The guys was obviously really KEEN on having a full time MATE, not just a GF.
6 months is way short, but who knows maybe he found one who was as needy as he was.
The thing is you two weren't a good fit, and that is OK. Doesn't mean the next gu... (read in full...)
We're not married but he put me on his life insurance. Is this a big deal?
Q. Just a simple question... my fiancee of 6 years has put me on his life insurance but we are not married. He keeps saying that no other man will do that to me and that im lucky to have him, he keep saying i wont find another man like him. But he...
A. 29 November 2013: So you should stay with him out of gratitude? WTF?
Is it worth being with him hoping he will die (basically) so you can gain money down the line? I hope the answer is no. Because living in hell with a man like that isn't worth it.
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A guy told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend and while I know it's a lie, it's still bothering me!
Q. A bloke came up to me in my local the other night and told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend for the past 4 months. He explained that she was waiting for the right time to tell me it's over.I just burst out laughing at the thought of my ...
A. 29 November 2013: Next time you see the guy take a picture of him and show it to your GF so you two are SURE it's the same dude.
IF it is, she needs to nip this in the bud. And I would suggest to her that she takes this up with HR at work AFTER she tells him off.... (read in full...)
Am I right to not want to see my mother or her girlfriend?
Q. I visited my mother for Thanks Giving. She is 40 years old, still lives with her mother (my birth grandfather and step grandmother raised me). She lives the way she does, mainly because she has an addiction. She is dating a woman that is only 4.5 ...
A. 29 November 2013: I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. I would NOT visit your mom when "molly" is around either. She is a sick and toxic person and unfortunately your mom either doesn't care or doesn't know what to do about it.
Right now, maybe all your... (read in full...)
I'm in a huge mess...and I have no idea what to do now!!
Q. So there's a long story to this one. I like this girl that I volunteer with. She's three years younger than me and she's an EMT, I'm a firefighter and EMT driver. We both ride the same nights and have been friends for three or four years now. We ...
A. 29 November 2013: I'm with BimBim.
Same advice as before... Nothing has changed.
LEAVE her alone. She VOLUNTEER because it means something to her, but YOU are making her wanting to quit.
Don't CRAP where you EAT - which means.. don't DATE co-workers and do N... (read in full...)
Why am I meeting so many black men who freeload off women?
Q. I am a recently divorced white woman who has been dating black men for about a year and a half. Why am I meeting so many black men who freeload off women? Now mind you, not all of them are. But the ones that do.... Not only do they have no shame in ...
A. 29 November 2013: I think it's more the man you look for or attract then the "skin color" that determine if he is a free-loader or not.
Seems like you married one and dated several, so many YOU need to rethink what kind of man you attract/are attracted to?
T... (read in full...)
My ex went off on me because I'm seeing his married friend. I don't know what to do
Q. where do i start its a long story , iv been trying to get a hold of my x for the longest time we did not part well, anyway we had been together for 4 yrs friends befor that so finly did reach him we stared talking again he said he would come and ...
A. 29 November 2013: Well, I think your EX have NO say in who you mess around with, but it's kind of sad that YOU don't see the problem in messing with a married man yourself.
Both guys are trouble. It's SUPER drama and you have put yourself right in the middle..... (read in full...)
Did the text mean that he was looking to have sex?
Q. So this guy was flirting with me. We were texting and talking about the movie I just watched. Then he said "If you're free we can do something maybe... ;)" Did he mean sex? And how should I react to it? This msg just kinda popped out of nowhere. ...
A. 29 November 2013: I wouldn't ASSUME he meant sex. (though if it was after 10/11 pm then it could have been.)
All you had to say was well, take me out on a date then...... (read in full...)
Female co-worker causing trouble at work. Why don't someone confront her?
Q. Hi. I am frustrated. Lately we have been having trouble at work. We are a bunch of girls that work together so of course you would expect some bitchiness. However for two years the team has been running very smoothly until the very arrival ...
A. 29 November 2013: If you are the Team Leader you need to figure out how to stop this drama, if you can't do it yourself, talk to HR or higher ups and have her either moved or REMOVED.... (read in full...)
Guy from the dating site hasn't talked to me in 5 days. Should I text him?
Q. Hello! I've been debating about texting this guy just to say Happy Thanksgiving. So I'd like to hear opinions if I should or shouldn't. Here is the story; we chatted a couple of times on an online dating site. He said that he would like to me...
A. 29 November 2013: I think he is busy with family. Though a text saying Happy Thanksgiving is not sounding needy or anything. I just wouldn't expect for him to take time away from his family to sit and text you.
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I cursed her out, we broke up, I want her back, but she's moved on.
Q. I never felt this bad in my life. This is the first time I ever truly loved a girl and the first time I've been genuinely heartbroken. We broke up because I felt she was being cold to me, plus I had no job and I guess the sex wasn't great and I ...
A. 29 November 2013: You need to start respecting the fact that is IT OVER. She is done. Respect HER.
YOU need to let it go and let HER go. What you are doing is borderline stalking and NOT OK. No wonder she had a guy pick up her phone when you called. She was hopi... (read in full...)
She ignores me which makes me do stupid things, help!
Q. please help,I have been seeing my girlfriend for only of months.we have wonderful weekends together,but when she is at her house,she likes to use Facebook.I don`t use it at all.so when i try to talk to her she either ignores me or takes a long time ...
A. 29 November 2013: You know putting the blame on her for you DOING stupid things, might be a reason why she is backing off. IT IS NOT her fault you are being clingy or acting needy.
If you are visiting and she gets on FB, then say hey do you want me to stay and we c... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend of 7 months still has feelings for his ex girlfriend even though he says he doesn't.
Q. Hi everyone I think my boyfriend of 7 months still has feelings for his ex girlfriend even though he says he doesn't. They broke up about a year and a half ago. I feel this way because he is still friends with her even though she treated him ...
A. 29 November 2013: I agree with YouWish.
He can protest ALL he wants about being over her, HE isn't. What is the point in keeping someone like that IN your life? Specially if you do not share a child (for instance) because then you don't really HAVE a choice. ... (read in full...)
Chat room Addiction. Please help! :(
Q. dear cupid this is not about relationships. its about my chat addiction. i got into a chatroom several years back. now i seem not to be able to get off it. i have some friends and some people i hate there. i seem to be always focused on going to...
A. 28 November 2013: Block chat room on your computer, STOP going there.
No one made you chat room Queen and gave you the "power" to decide who can talk and who can't..
You need to STOP and walk away. TRY and find a hobby and INTERACT with people in "real" lif... (read in full...)
My ex says he has no feelings for me but gets upset when I don't return his calls
Q. Hello everyone, so my ex broke up with me a couple of months ago and a lot of stuff had happened since then but recently he said it was best we didn't see each other for a while as we both need to move on etc. To cut a long story short, he has since ...
A. 28 November 2013: Nutso !
Cut all contact with him. The RELATIONSHIP is over, so there is NO NEED for contact and honey, you do not OWE him a play by play of what you are doing in your life.
Why do you let him control you this way? He says hurtful things? ... (read in full...)
I'm in limbo waiting for him. How long should I wait?
Q. I met a really lovely guy of 48 who is has been separated for three years. He says he couldn't afford to buy his ex out as he has a business and house. When we met 8 months ago he reassured me it was at the final stages and amicable. I have waited ...
A. 28 November 2013: 3 Years should have been PLENTY of time to get their finances separated too. I think when people stop "trying" to get it done it's because they are content with status quo.
The STBX wife is happy with a new partner who obviously don't care tha... (read in full...)
How could my ex move on so quickly after a 4 year relationship?
Q. My ex dumped me 6 months ago. It's pretty hard for me to move on and let go. We were together for 4 years. It was a nasty breakup. We talked a few times in the first few times, but it's mostly about me telling him how much he hurt me. Last month, I ...
A. 28 November 2013: People "move on" in different ways, some jump right into something new others take time to "heal" before they move on.
Either way, it doesn't mean he has forgotten the 4 years, it just means that he has a different method to work through the grie... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with my ex casually?
Q. My Ex, who I have not seen in about 7 years, recently invited me over to have a drink. He asked me if I wanted to have sex. I was shocked as he married since our breakup but apparently is splitting up. I told him I was looking for a relationship, ...
A. 28 November 2013: If you still have feelings for him after 7 YEARS then you will go into this HOPING that sex will change his mind. And you know what? IT WON'T he just want some varm vagina to park his dick in, no strings and he KNOWS you still carry a touch so he is ... (read in full...)
He likes me, he likes me not .... which one is it?
Q. Hey I’m just started my new just as bar maid in this pub where I live. Been there about a month now I half of the guys there have been hitting on me that work there but I’m not that interested in them then one day when I was working the Friday shift ...
A. 28 November 2013: Maybe he is trying to be smart and NOT date a co-worker. He got the hint, I BET you but he isn't going to ask you. Or he is really dense, which I don't think.
He either isn't into dating anyone right now, he has a GF OR he doesn't want to date... (read in full...)
I told him I used to have a crush on him and he turned nasty
Q. I have a boyfriend, for starters. And everyone knows about him. I was friends with one of my colleagues and I thought he was a really nice guy. We spent lots of time together and slowly, I developed a huge crush on him. I went totally out of m...
A. 28 November 2013: Don't let him see that he has an effect on you. The more you distance yourself and pretend he just doesn't phase you to sooner he will stop ( I would think). IF he KNOWS he has an effect on you he will continue.
And yes, please stop beating ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with unrquited love?
Q. Hi just a general question. How do people get over someone they really like, fancy, even love and yet they know there is absolutely nothing they can do about it. Knowing it could end a friendship or even cause a right hullaballoo for people aroun...
A. 28 November 2013: I'm with Cerberus, even though I don't always think it's "that" easy. But be around them as little as possible and if possible cut them out of your life.
Pining after someone "unavailable" is wasted time and wasted emotions.... (read in full...)
I told him I used to have a crush on him and he turned nasty
Q. I have a boyfriend, for starters. And everyone knows about him. I was friends with one of my colleagues and I thought he was a really nice guy. We spent lots of time together and slowly, I developed a huge crush on him. I went totally out of m...
A. 27 November 2013: Well, now you know that he ISN'T a friend. He is mad because you USED to have a crush, which means you no longer have one. THAT hurt his pride so now he is out to hurt you.
What did you hope to accomplish by telling him you HAD a crush on him?
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Trying to end the affair but he won't take no for an answer
Q. It's been 4 yrs since I have been friends with a married man. We are not sexually active but we like each other a lot. What keeps me from having sex is the fact he is married and 36 yrs older than me. It bothers me that I care about him. It even ...
A. 27 November 2013: I agree with Auntie Em, you "can't" cot if off because you don;t really WANT to.
IF you really wanted to you would find a way. You would change your number, put him on IGNORE/BLOCKED on FB/E-mail and so forth.
You know it's wrong so JUST st... (read in full...)
Are my dating rules really too strict?
Q. Here it goes again:(. My mother just had a conversation with me that I have too many rules when it comes to guys, and that's why I don't have anyone in my life. Some of my friends agree,I am looking for some opinions here. Though I do ha...
A. 27 November 2013: I think many of you rules make sense. But that fact that you do not seem flexible is a great error on your behalf. YOU miss out on potential good guy by adhering to "rules" that you "think" will mean you will ONLY find "perfect" guy... That is not ... (read in full...)
Is there really ever a good time to break up with someone?
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months who has started to get clingy and needy. He's a very nice man and has many wonderful qualities but he is way more into this relationship then me. I'll give some examples of his needy behavior: He tex...
A. 26 November 2013: There is never a time like the present to dump this guy. He isn't for you. And it's not about his b-day or Christmas or whatnot, because then there is Easter and so forth.
It's NOT working for you, so end it. Or suck it up and deal with more of ... (read in full...)
Problems with neighbour - how would you handle this?
Q. Hello. I would like to know how you would handle this situation. I live above a young male who is intolerant of his neighbours making any sounds. Whenever we do make sounds, he bangs the walls. I get the most of it though, since I live right above...
A. 26 November 2013: I would ask the company that manage the building if they can help you find another place, since they aren't doing anything about this guy.
Also... Get some ear plugs or a ipod/headset and go about your business. If you aren't make OVER the top ... (read in full...)
How can I get someone to return my things without making a scene?
Q. I lent a friend (Nick) a DVD box set about 18 months ago. I then broke up with my boyfriend (it was awful) and I needed to go down the no contact route. This meant that I didn't see Nick nearly as much anymore because I was no longer going to the ...
A. 26 November 2013: I don't normally think 6am or 11 pm is acceptable, but I would call him and ask when YOU can come over and pick them up because you WANT them back now. That way it's a LITTLE harder for him to "forget".... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant. Should I leave my Bf? He's addicted to porn, uses weed and now he's cyber cheated.
Q. I'm 7 months pregnant and just found out my boyfriend has been messaging a girl he knows on Facebook, suggestive and flirty messages. She suggested they do something sexual, to which he replied "will it be soon?? I can't wait to stay in the room ...
A. 26 November 2013: I see nothing about this guy (except being excited for the baby) that is telling WHAT A keeper! He sounds a lot more like quite the loser.
If I were you, I would prepare myself for single mommy-hood. To be able to take care of the baby without ... (read in full...)
1st date with this guy giving me mixed signals
Q. Hiya! Recently went on a date with a guy last Saturday via online dating. We had a good flow of conversation on the site, not obssessive, then we exchanged numbers. The date was great, I could tell he was a bit nervous but once he saw me I could t...
A. 26 November 2013: I'm wondering if he is taking advice from guy friends and NOT calling you sooner or if he is (like Cindy mentioned) spreading himself out on a bunch of ladies t find the one HE "thinks" is right for him.
I know a LOT of people think you should w... (read in full...)
Relationship lacks intimcy, fiance wont let me get close.
Q. Hi ladies and Gents, My fiance is 22 and i'm 26 in a couple of weeks. my relationship lacks intimacy, I am feeling frustrated and rejected by her. we have sex once a week, if that. the times between sex are becomming further and further ap...
A. 26 November 2013: Are you two trying to have a baby ? Is that why she is off the pill?
If it is, then you two need to hold off an making a baby til the relationship is back on track. And don't get married BEFORE you two have sorted this out.
Seems like sh... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with his child. Should I tell his girlfriend?
Q. just over 4 years ago I had an affair with a man who was married, it was very brief and it only lasted a few months. I then moved on and met a man who I eventually married and we had a son together bet we split up a year and a half ago. A few mont...
A. 25 November 2013: Telling HER will do nothing for you Other then make you out to be a cow. You already knew he had a GF when you slept with him, just like you knew he had a wife the first time around.
By telling HER what do you hope to accomplish? Her leaving ... (read in full...)
She treats her friends better than me. I'm tired of doing all the giving. Time to end things?
Q. Hello Guy, I need some help. I'm a 24 year old young man who's about to finish up college in May. I'm at a point where I'm trying to make the decision to cut certain people out of my life because I don't need any unnecessary stress. This inc...
A. 25 November 2013: There is a reason this hasn't progressed, you both have been "comfortable" with this on and off thing, which means you may take it serious but she might not.
Also, you need to learn that doing things for others is not a tit for tat game. If you A... (read in full...)
Am I being taken for a mug? Should I be less intrusive? Am I too young to play the 'stepmother' figure? Can my feelings for this man actually get past all of these issues? Should I demand more from life?
Q. Hi, I recently (about six months ago) got with a new boyfriend who has a three year old child. I just want a bit of advise: He moved/ separated from his ex (mum of the child) about ten months ago and moved into his own place. 1. He still ha...
A. 25 November 2013: Well there are a lot of issues here,
1. He is financially reckless. THAT is not a good thing if you two start to talk about future such as marriage or buying a house together. KEEP having separate finances, pay your 1/2 of the expenses (if that... (read in full...)
Ex doesn't want to take me to court, but still wants contact - after everything he's done!
Q. Hi guys. Posted about this on here before. Brief reminder: My ex had our son one day a week, left him in wet clothes, we had a row, then he turned round and said he didn't want to see our son anymore. Afew months ago his latest girlfriend ...
A. 25 November 2013: Personally, I wouldn't let him see him unsupervised if there have been episodes of neglect in his care (such as wet clothes and overfull diaper which cause the child a rash).
To me it seems more like he wants to see your son to control you rath... (read in full...)
I thought my Co-worker was just a good friend. So why has he been asking me explicit sexual questions?
Q. I've thought this guy at my work and I were just friends. We talk a lot, about random stuff usually. Yesterday we were texting and he was asking me when I'm going to have kids and everything. I said I don't know. Anyway so we were texting more and...
A. 25 November 2013: I'm with Auntie Em.
Just because you work together doesn't mean you have to discuss your sex life. Or get any kind of pictures of you.
JUST be professional and polite at work. TREAT him like a co-worker, nothing more. He has already shown he... (read in full...)
Ex doesn't want to take me to court, but still wants contact - after everything he's done!
Q. Hi guys. Posted about this on here before. Brief reminder: My ex had our son one day a week, left him in wet clothes, we had a row, then he turned round and said he didn't want to see our son anymore. Afew months ago his latest girlfriend ...
A. 25 November 2013: Have you talked to your case manager? (if you have one) are you getting Child Maintenance? I don't know about the UK version of CM, but I do know in the US a custodial parent can get free legal advice - maybe you need to look into that?
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Am I about to be used in revenge sex with a longtime friend?
Q. This is a long and complex story of infidelity and revenge sex. So here's the short version. My friend had been cheating on his wife unknown to me. I've know them both since childhood. I kept our friendship at a respectful distance because I could ...
A. 25 November 2013: Yikes! Sounds like a huge mess of drama to me.
Honestly, I would tell her no.. Actually HECK NO! I get it that you fancy her and all, but this is not a roll in the hay without any strings, THIS is a "Let's created as much drama and chaos as we ca... (read in full...)
I want to break up but how? Or am I overreacting?
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years. Typical love story, we met while travelling to our home town at a friend's place, we met we hit it off instantly, we promised to keep in touch, we emailed, we sent text messages, spent ...
A. 25 November 2013: First of all are you sure he is really single? The whole can't reach him on the phone unless pre-arranged just doesn't seem normal at all, but then again not a whole lot about the thing you mention sounds normal to me.
I would not call and end ... (read in full...)
Ex doesn't want to take me to court, but still wants contact - after everything he's done!
Q. Hi guys. Posted about this on here before. Brief reminder: My ex had our son one day a week, left him in wet clothes, we had a row, then he turned round and said he didn't want to see our son anymore. Afew months ago his latest girlfriend ...
A. 25 November 2013: If you don't feel comfortable letting him have your son alone then don't.
I agree having a diaper back with diapers, wipes, change of clothes, some favorite snacks is always wise.
I would NOT let him have unsupervised visits til YOU feel com... (read in full...)
Do you think is okay to sacrifice freedom in order to make your hurt partner happy?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I have to admit I was not the perfect girlfriend. Although he has done things that have hurt me deeply, I know I have been worse to him. This Thursday I made a mistake and he left the relationship, I ...
A. 24 November 2013: OK, I'm glad you wrote a reply and that is was just a typo on the fidelity :)
But I don't think the relationship will make you happy, because what he expect of you is (IMHO) unreasonable. You will do all this and then still feel guilty about th... (read in full...)
His questions are making me uncomfortable -- am I just being paranoid?
Q. Why do I feel this way about him? Am I being paranoid? I've been seeing this guy my friends husband set me up with. They say good things about him all the time and he seems nice so far. I starting a well paid job in a few months and h...
A. 24 November 2013: I agree with C Grant.
None of his beeswax what you earn.
I wouldn't be vague, but tell him that what you earn is really not something you want to share. Don't beat around the bush. Has he told you what he makes? Have you asked? I would however ... (read in full...)
Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said she has changed, or should I stay with my new girlfriend of five months who I have a steady relationship with
Q. Hi guys, Anthony here, I am looking for some advice please as I ‘ve go myself into something of a dilemma! Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said...
A. 24 November 2013: I think you are being a little unfair to "girl #2" by even THINKING about getting back with #1 - because it means you are not over #1.
But since you ask, #1 should not be an option. You spend THAT long with her and it didn't work, she is promisin... (read in full...)
I thought my Co-worker was just a good friend. So why has he been asking me explicit sexual questions?
Q. I've thought this guy at my work and I were just friends. We talk a lot, about random stuff usually. Yesterday we were texting and he was asking me when I'm going to have kids and everything. I said I don't know. Anyway so we were texting more and...
A. 24 November 2013: He is being inappropriate for two reasons, 1, he has a GF/Partner and 2. he is your co-worker.
... (read in full...)
I thought my Co-worker was just a good friend. So why has he been asking me explicit sexual questions?
Q. I've thought this guy at my work and I were just friends. We talk a lot, about random stuff usually. Yesterday we were texting and he was asking me when I'm going to have kids and everything. I said I don't know. Anyway so we were texting more and...
A. 24 November 2013: Um, well if you ANSWER questions like that he thinks they are OK. If you TELL him, "that question is inappropriate so I'm not going to answer it" Or the "mind your own business", then you most like won't get more question like that.
He either w... (read in full...)
Do you think is okay to sacrifice freedom in order to make your hurt partner happy?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I have to admit I was not the perfect girlfriend. Although he has done things that have hurt me deeply, I know I have been worse to him. This Thursday I made a mistake and he left the relationship, I ...
A. 24 November 2013: You write :
***** I will have to stop doing many things that I like and I don't really think are wrong *****
What is that "thing" that you you don't think is wrong but your BF obviously thought was not OK?
I can't really answer unless I k... (read in full...)
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