Can someone who fell out of love fall back in love?
Q. My bf of 2 years just broke up with me with saying, he fell out of love. He tells me this has been going on for a few months and he doesn't think he can recover from it. He was so much in love with me. I was the center of his attention. We talked a...
A. 16 December 2013: Sounds like he liked the FANTASY of marriage more then the possibility of reality.
chin up honey.
It's nothing YOU did.... (read in full...)
Found out about my boyfriend's sexual past and now I'm heartbroken and sick to my stomach
Q. I love my boyfriend more than anything and I know he loves me too. We are like perfect together and I trust him with all my heart which is really hard since I've been hurt really bad by my ex. We both agreed not to talk about his sexual past. I'm ...
A. 16 December 2013: My husband was a man-whore in his youth. Everyone told me. It kind of slowed it down for us for a while, but the thing is I WASN'T dating his past or his dick. I has DATING the guy. One thing I DID insist on was STD panel and AIDS/HIV test and we ... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant? Should I buy the Plan B?
Q. So my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time last night. (In other words, I gave him my V card.) But, because we were not expecting it to happen, we went unprotected. It didn't last too long because he didn't wanted to cum inside me, which he ...
A. 16 December 2013: I agree better SAFE then sorry and knocked up.
And then STOP BEING STUPID! Sorry to be blunt, but you should know better.
If you FEEL mature and old enough to have sex you are OLD enough to THINK and use protection. And if you don't have any t... (read in full...)
Is there a tactful way to ask someone to back off on Facebook?
Q. Hi everyone, I need a little help here... So I have this friend... he has told me he's been interested in me, but I have absolutely no interest in him whatsoever. I've made this clear to him, and he seems to be just fine with that. However, I...
A. 15 December 2013: The thing is because you DO NOT tell him to stop, and that's enough he won't stop. Or learn.
You can go the "hide his feed" or block him from posting, but IF he is a friend why can't you tell him? Hey, buddy you are going overboard on MY Facebook... (read in full...)
How much fighting is too much?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm writing to ask your opinion on how much fighting is too much. I've been with my current boyfriend for just over a year, and I think he is the man I will spend my life with. In general, we get along very well, and we never have had ...
A. 15 December 2013: I think it depends on the two of you and WHAT you fight over and why. But I do think that if the fighting has increased something is going on. It's symptom.
You need to try and figure out why it's happening. ... (read in full...)
Can someone who fell out of love fall back in love?
Q. My bf of 2 years just broke up with me with saying, he fell out of love. He tells me this has been going on for a few months and he doesn't think he can recover from it. He was so much in love with me. I was the center of his attention. We talked a...
A. 15 December 2013: I don't know if it can be revived, some people think a break can help - distance makes the heart grow fonder - personally I don't believe needing breaks to make a relationship work.
I would give him his space. And yourself.
Just don't fa... (read in full...)
Does this guy even care? Is he upset? Did I do something wrong here?
Q. I need some advice. I have been talking (texting) to this guy who I met through a friend for about a month now. He seems interested in me, but I have been very caution about him. The thing that I hate about him is that if I text him, he doesn't ...
A. 14 December 2013: I think there are several things playing into the "what went wrong scenario".
1. I agree, decent manners dictate you CALL and cancel not text.
2. Carrying on a budding relationship via text is dooming it from the get go. IT IS so much easier t... (read in full...)
My husband makes twice what I do but wants to split our bills 50/50
Q. I live in an apartment with husband, Here is a break down of our expenses and earnings monthly Rent $920 inclusive of hydro. Tv phone and internet 102. Food around $300 - $330 Also we pay for apartment insurance. Food also includes a...
A. 14 December 2013: YouWish explained it perfectly.
You are NOT room mates, so IMHO you should have a shared account where ALL money goes into and that pays the bills. You should SAVE up together not separately.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date someone who teaches at my college?
Q. Okay I'm currently 17 and turning18 in about 2 months, about April last year I was seeing this guy who was 21 but cause we were both busy we sorta drifted apart, he recently started to speaking to me again and were getting on really well, only thing ...
A. 14 December 2013: Whether he is a Teacher or a TA (teacher's assistant) most schools do not allow it.
Like MissTellAll said it runs a risk of favoritism, but also of a fairly unfair match in the "relationship equality" - because you CAN date a teacher to get bett... (read in full...)
I'm about to break up with my B/f and I feel nothing during sex..no physical or emotional connection. Does this mean that sex is all about how you feel for that person?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles. I am in the process of leaving a 3 year relationship,it been tough,and volitile,but I.m finding it a bit difficult to let go of the last bit. It.s literally on it.s last legs. My question is this. The last few times I had sex ...
A. 14 December 2013: I think it could partly be because you have already checked out of the relationship. You actually rather NOT have sex with him.
I think when you feel DONE with the relationship (and him) having great sex can be a lot harder. Because mentally... (read in full...)
Should I send this letter to my narcissistic ex?
Q. My ex dumped me 6 months ago. A few months ago after I read something on the Internet, I realized that I'm a narcissist victim. I'm trying to move on, but I still think about him a lot. The last time i sent him a message was 2 months ago and he ...
A. 14 December 2013: Sending it would be pointless ( the the others pointed out) But what you CAN do is write it down as IF it was a letter for him, then put it away. Take a week or two and the re-read it and accept that THIS is the guy you dated and thankfully ISN'T ... (read in full...)
Is this desire to leave my husband a temporary phase?
Q. I don'tknow if i am the only one Who experience this feeling, but lately it overwhelms me and makes me feel restless. Short story: 20 years of marriage, 2 kids are in college, last year we are empty nesters. I was stay at home mom. When first ...
A. 13 December 2013: I don't think it's temporary at all. I think it's been building for years you have just managed to ignore it because you wee financially dependent on him.
Now that you no longer HAVE to stay, you notice all the things that annoyed you for YEARS.
... (read in full...)
Am I no longer a virgin?
Q. Hi I am in a new relationship. Yesterday my boyfriend and I had sex, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I didn't bleed and neither did my first time hurt. My question is my boyfriend inserted half of his cock inside me, does this mean I am n...
A. 13 December 2013: Yes, you are NO longer a virgin.
Were you trying to stay a virgin and STILL have intercourse? Doesn't that sound just a little trippy?
IF you wanted to stay a virgin you shouldn't engage in sex.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont take things to the next level, how long do I wait?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for ten months, we were both happy together, till his wife he was seperated from started, she said she would take him back as soon as i was gone. Well as soon as i was gone she left . We have been talking dating ...
A. 13 December 2013: Well considering he dropped you like a rock the moment his wife said she would take him back, IF he dumped you - I think you OUGHT to wake up and smell the coffee.
He doesn't WANT to divorce his wife, he doesn't WANT to do anything further ... (read in full...)
I need help with my monster in laws!
Q. Sorry this may be a long one! But I need help! Potential monster in laws. Hi I need some help with my in laws, my boyfriend of 3 years is their only child and I feel like they resent me for taking him away, because he's very busy with work and ch...
A. 13 December 2013: Have you told your BF that you feel it's kind of unfair that YOU are being judged because HE doesn't call and visit without being prompted?
Also, I would no do the shopping for his parents, HE should be doing that either by himself or WITH you... (read in full...)
Help, I'm being bullied into unemployment.
Q. I'm being pushed out of my job and I desperately need some advice. Now normally, I would never take the treatment I've received. I would never let anyone walk over me as my employers have done. But in the past, if I've been treated terribly...
A. 13 December 2013: What would I do? I would PROMPTLY look for other jobs, ANYTHING that pays about the same or something where you can use your skills.
Take EVERYTHING Bully says with a truck load of salt, it's her OWN insecurities that she is projecting on to you. ... (read in full...)
I need help with my monster in laws!
Q. Sorry this may be a long one! But I need help! Potential monster in laws. Hi I need some help with my in laws, my boyfriend of 3 years is their only child and I feel like they resent me for taking him away, because he's very busy with work and ch...
A. 12 December 2013: First of all, I would suggest you have your BF stop by or call them once a week. IT IS his parents.
And I would suggest you tell him to go by himself, so you don't have to deal with the in-laws and so the in-laws get to spend some time with him... (read in full...)
Four weeks later, has he lost interest already?
Q. Hi there I met a guy online we met and instantly hit it off... had a great time met at my local... saw him once a week since then so had x4 dates... he used to text me everyday or send a late goodnite sms too the sms have stopped... I did send him a ...
A. 12 December 2013: I think it's always so hard in the beginning to figure out what is going on.
I would back off and see if he contact you over the week-end or early next will, if he doesn't then I'd write him off.... (read in full...)
Long term relationship and no engagement!
Q. I need advice on what I should do with my dating situation. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 1/2 years, He is 40 years old now and i am 26, he was married before and has two boys one's 18 years old and the other 16. I tell my boyfriend ...
A. 12 December 2013: Do you two live together?
And have you asked him flat out, are you interested in getting married? What is the hold up? And does he want more kids?
If he isn't ready after 7 1/2 years I just don't see him ever "being" ready. I think it's BS ex... (read in full...)
Would you share your resume with a coworker?
Q. A coworker of mine who I talk to frequently was promoted to my previous position couple of months ago. Although we are in the same building, I also got promoted and work on another floor. I have helped her across the way when she emails me with var...
A. 12 December 2013: Nope, I have DONE that in the past and the person (who was a friend) applied for the same position as me. And worst of all she lied about it.
I helped her out so much with her resume, how to word it in a better way, how to make it look better, ... (read in full...)
Should I expect an official invite or am I just creating drama?
Q. I've been in a long term relationship with my bf and we have been living together for 2 years. His nieces birthday is coming up and I've been uncomfortable to attend because I haven't received an invite however my bf feels that it makes no ...
A. 12 December 2013: Yea, you are being a little overly dramatic.
It's NOT a wedding with strict rules for guests, and even then, your BF could have had +1 on the invitation and that would PRESUMABLY be you.
It's a birthday party. If they DIDN'T WANT you to come... (read in full...)
I've got nobody to talk to about my teacher crush!
Q. I really like my teacher and it's really hard when I'm in her classes, but I know I can't say anything I'm not stupid. I told one close friends but she just seems to get really awkward when I talk about it. I wanted to tell a teacher but I don't ...
A. 12 December 2013: I think both CMMP and Tisha are spot on.
YOU are not the first, or the ONLY student to have a crush on your teacher. It's kind of normal.
Bringing it up with your friends can make THEM uncomfortable because it's a teacher. AND it's a woman. Wh... (read in full...)
My Gf's phone background is a picture of a half naked guy. How can I deal with this?
Q. I'm kind of disgusted and mad that my girlfriend has a picture of a half naked guy... with a puppy on her phone... The thing is, I see her on the phone all the time. It annoys me and I said something and she was like well you had a girl on your phon...
A. 12 December 2013: Is he a celebrity or an ex bf?
If he is the first, it's not really a big deal. If it's the latter, I'd not be OK with it.
What YOU have on YOUR phone is up to you, what she has on hers.. up to her. There is no accounting for taste.
I thi... (read in full...)
Should I change my look to attract a better man?
Q. What am I doing wrong in dating? I want to preface by saying that I was in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship for five years until I walked away. A big reason why I walked away was because after enough was enough I also fell for so...
A. 12 December 2013: If you dress like a stripper, you will without a doubt attract men who sees you as nothing but a pair of walking tits.
What you wear DOES send a signal, but I don't think you have to all of a sudden dress like frumpy old lady.
I'm not sure ... (read in full...)
I have a 'thing' with a guy but he wants to keep it secret.
Q. So I have a thing with this guy, and my bestfriend over heard him telling his friend that he doesn't want anyone to know about us. I believe my bestfriend and he's the type of guy to say something like that too, what does all that mean and what ...
A. 12 December 2013: First off all DO YOU know for a fact that this is how the guy thinks?
Are you just having sex? If he is then yea, he might want to hide you like a dirty little secret. Maybe he doesn't see you as GF potential OR he already HAS a GF.
It's NO... (read in full...)
My ex asked me if I was willing to have sex with him but he has a girlfriend
Q. So, there's a lot going on. Me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago. We only dated for about a month in a half but we have been friends for about 4 years prior. After we broke up i started having feelings for him and I think I love him. So back ...
A. 12 December 2013: He know you like him more then a friend and he is trying to take advantage.
What exactly do you think you will accomplish having SEX with him? That he drop the GF and LOVE you forever? Or at least, til he starts having sex with his ex or some ran... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's job and her smoking are jeopardizing our relationship
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for little under a year and we get along really well. There are two unfortunate issues that arise that cause all of our problems. These are two things that bug me and make me question how much she actually ...
A. 12 December 2013: You can ask her to quit, but basically demand it? No.
You were a smoker when you met her, she was a smoker and now that you quit - it's no longer OK for her to be a smoker?
However, you CAN ask & DEMAND that she doesn't smoke around you, whic... (read in full...)
My negativity is hindering my happiness
Q. I am having a REALLY difficult time. I have found myself over the last couple of years becoming more and more disillusioned with life and society. It really worries me but everything about society gets me down. I won't go into too many details...
A. 11 December 2013: Cindy put it so lovely, I don't think I can improve on it.
And I agree 100% that there is nothing new under the sun. We go just about it different ways. Not necessarily better ways for sure.
You sound like you are pretty depressed, so I ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or behaving in a passive aggressive way?
Q. Ok Aunts, feeling like Im overreacting or behaving in a passive aggressive way need your advice and take on this seemingly stupid thing. Background been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs we are in the process of moving in together i am div with a ...
A. 11 December 2013: I think you are pissed because he didn't WANT you there and then tried to make it seem like YOU didn't want to come. In reality he didn't ASK because he didn't WANT to bring you.
THAT would piss me off too.
I think you DO need to talk to him a... (read in full...)
How hard should I try to be a good girlfriend in his eyes?
Q. Ive been with my boyf for 3yrs, and living with him for 6mths, prior to moving in, Id only ever lived with my parents and could barely boil an egg.. It was obvious to me that my man wanted me to learn to cook, not just to please him, but for myself ...
A. 11 December 2013: LOL @ YouWish :)
My brother cooked too, not just me. My brother and I also had the same chores. Taking out trash, taking the recycling out, doing dishes, doing laundry, cleaning our own rooms AND the bathroom. My Dad can cook, master-chef level. ... (read in full...)
He had a girlfriend the entire time we were dating and now he wants to meet up!
Q. I was dating this guy for two months. Everything was perfect, we got along, we had the same common interest and we were going to college, both of our majors went hand in hand with each other and we really helped pushed and motivate each other in ...
A. 11 December 2013: No, no no. You tell him to go FLY A KITE!
Why would even consider trying anything with him again? Do you LIKE being used?
Did he not tell you that he CHOSE his GF?
Tell him to give HER the present you don't need anything from him, then ... (read in full...)
How hard should I try to be a good girlfriend in his eyes?
Q. Ive been with my boyf for 3yrs, and living with him for 6mths, prior to moving in, Id only ever lived with my parents and could barely boil an egg.. It was obvious to me that my man wanted me to learn to cook, not just to please him, but for myself ...
A. 11 December 2013: I think you should sit him down and make a chore list. Then split it in two, same with the week days. One week you cook 4 days and he cook 3, next week -HE cooks 4 and you cook 3.
Being a good mom doesn't mean you have to be a domestic diva. It... (read in full...)
He lost his friend. Now he's yelling at me, about how it's my fault. Is it?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago, but he says that we're on break. But we're still intimate. I have a jealousy of girls because all my boyfriends (except this one) has cheated on me. Naturally, I don't like girls now. So, my ex ...
A. 11 December 2013: No, I bet it has nothing to DO with you.
IF he DID tell her they couldn't meet up because it was making YOU uncomfortable then they WERE NOT "just" friends. Or at least SHE didn't think they were JUST friends.
If they aren't talking it's bec... (read in full...)
I just discovered my boyfriend is giving his ex secret guitar lessons
Q. I went to my boyfriend's house a couple of days ago and I saw the photo of us was face down. He went over to put music on and suddenly it was upright again. There were playing cards on the coffee table and empty glasses. I asked who had been playing ...
A. 11 December 2013: It sounds shady WAY shady.
Playing cards drinking and getting/taking guitar lessons? Yea, that sounds like BULL SHIT to me.
Is he cheating? There ins't enough to go on, but I think they were BOTH looking to see if the spark is still there and ... (read in full...)
Why didn't I mean enough to him? Why did he stop making an effort?
Q. After knowing this man for over 8 years and being friends, we decided to take things to another level. He is one of the funniest and likeable people I have ever met. When we made it official, so many of his friends and family reached out to me to...
A. 11 December 2013: Being a nice guy when you are just friends is a LOT easier then being a good BF when you are dating (for SOME guys).
He liked you and the IDEA of a GF back home, but in reality he didn't WANT a relationship. But having a girl to write to and who ... (read in full...)
She keeps backing out of our dates, but agrees to arrange more
Q. So i met this girl at school a few weeks ago and she always acted really shy around me and when i caught her staring she's turn her head away and not look at me. One day i decided to ask her out and she agreed and we later set the date for next...
A. 11 December 2013: She is a total flake. And no, it's not your fault. She likes you but NOT enough to want to date you.
Could also be that she has anxieties and that is why she keep cancelling.
Either way, I'd skip this girl and move on.... (read in full...)
I really want him back. Was it wrong to say what I said, especially as I did not mean it?
Q. I previously wrote here and took some advice on tactics to win my ex back. We only dated 2 months but I fell for him hard. I started pressuring him to put a title on the relationship which ultimately pushed him away. We broke up a little over a m...
A. 11 December 2013: I think you are WASTING your time on this guy.
An man who plays at a woman's emotions and (sorry) slight desperation to be in a relationship is NOT a decent guy. And you are both playing playground games. Grow up.
I'd cut the contact and look... (read in full...)
He lost his friend. Now he's yelling at me, about how it's my fault. Is it?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago, but he says that we're on break. But we're still intimate. I have a jealousy of girls because all my boyfriends (except this one) has cheated on me. Naturally, I don't like girls now. So, my ex ...
A. 11 December 2013: You are no longer IN a relationship you are JUST twp people who USED to date having sex...
So that means in HIS eyes you have no right to be mad at WHO he talks to.
I will echo Auntie BimBim. WHY are you still sleeping with him?
People o... (read in full...)
Why does he keep on liking and then disliking my Facebook posts?
Q. Long story short, I'm 18, I dated a guy for about two months this summer, our relationship ended by him blocking me on facebook (still have no idea why and still kind of like him). A month ago he added me back because we had to talk about a school ...
A. 10 December 2013: Because he is an immature turd?
Block him if you can or HIDE his feeds/status.
Who cares why he does it? He wants you to "think" of him and he wants your attention, just for the hell of it.
IGNORE him. IF it's not about school then totall... (read in full...)
Sex isn't going so well during this pregnancy
Q. Hi. I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my second baby with my partner along almost 4 years. The baby was planned and everything is going well apart from our sex life. Ever since I was about 12 week's pregnant the sex has been off and on. To begin with he ...
A. 10 December 2013: There can be many reason and none of them is about you being less attractive.
Stress from the fact that he is bringing in another human being. Having a baby is not cheap, having another child is expensive.
Having seen what YOU went through the... (read in full...)
Why do guys ask for underwear?
Q. I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I ...
A. 10 December 2013: TROPHY.... (read in full...)
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