Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 1 January 2014: I'm guessing that is WHY she was single in the first place? She want to do the whole MEN should pay for everything, but she also wants equality, right?
I think there are some women who want the guy to pay, because they think if he can pay he can t... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 31 December 2013: Wow, you are "lucky" she isn't asking for you to pay her rent?
Sorry that is more then high maintenance that is TAKING advantage of a guy.
She better have a magical snatch.... (read in full...)
Should I encourage our kids to reach out to my ex's side of the family during this crisis?
Q. My ex and I have been separated for 3 and half years, there have been many women and of course lots of hard drama. This last woman has been quite a challenging event with her many harrassing messaging, fake accounts to contact. Its been quite ...
A. 30 December 2013: I would tell the kids, I would find out what hospital she is in and send some flowers from you and the kids. If you kids want to visit I would take them without a doubt.
This has NOTHING to do with your ex's GF and whatever else drama has happened... (read in full...)
Why do men think that lasting forever is better?
Q. This is a question mainly for the men out there. Why do you think that lasting hours while having sex is what women want? I've noticed this with all 5 men I've been with - they seem to think that lasting for ages makes them some sort of love God or ...
A. 30 December 2013: Well, I think Cerberus is partly right it's something that has always been emphasized (big dicks and lasting long = good sex), but I also think it's the day and age of "pornification" - specially when you say he will "flip you around from position ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 30 December 2013: Does she work? Is there a huge difference in jobs/pay between you that makes her think she can't afford it or is it just her way of thinking that the man pays for everything?
My guess is the latter (which isn't totally strange for your age grou... (read in full...)
Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic?
Q. Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic? I believe this is what puts people off going, the only question they should ask is how long since you last had unprotected sex. I also believe they should only ques...
A. 30 December 2013: They ask the questions that makes THEIR job easier and helping YOU easier too.
I seriously doubt you can tell them something they haven't heard before. And honestly I think sometimes it makes YOU (general you, the person who goes in to be tested) ... (read in full...)
Blocked from facebook after first meeting!
Q. The other night, I went to a bar with some friends. It's a bar where we go quite often. There is this guy who I always see there as well. He usually look at me a lot but never talk to me. It's been going on for about a year. I never really was ...
A. 30 December 2013: Sounds like maybe he has a GF? And he wanted to make SURE you couldn't contact him through FB?
Does sound odd though.... (read in full...)
Should I buy my boyfriend of 4 months the new Playstation 4?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid, I am in a LDR with a guy I met 4 months ago. We decided to make it official October of this year. Instead of exchanging gifts during Christmas time, it was a mutual decision for us to surprise each other with them in January when ...
A. 30 December 2013: Good for you poster. Glad you thought it over a bit more and came up wit ha solution that works for you both.
... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have an affair when your single?
Q. Is it OK to have an affair with someone when I am single? I don't know the girls boyfriend but I know they have been together for over 3 years. She has been really coming on to me recently and I know something could happen if I initiate it. ...
A. 30 December 2013: No, I don't think it's OK to have an affair with a person who already has a partner. (UNLESS the partner is OK with it and they have an open relationship and he KNOWS)
Why bother getting into such a mess? What if you fall for her? What if she rath... (read in full...)
Finally reaching my breaking point in my relationship
Q. Hey everyone, I have reached my breaking point in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year in February. Here lately we have been fighting non stop! Today we have fought since last night! I am so tired of fighting but I ...
A. 30 December 2013: The only advice I can give you is TO break up. It's not at all a healthy relationship.
You have been together LESS then a year and all you do is fight? What's the point in that?
And not having any money, well......do either of you work? Do you... (read in full...)
His remarks made me feel uncomfortable. How do I tell him I don't want to see him again?
Q. So this is my situation. I met a guy a while ago, and I found out from a mutual friend that he is extremely into me. I was really not especially attracted to him from the beginning, but since physical attraction is not always instant, I decided ...
A. 30 December 2013: Listen to your gut, I think it's absolutely right.
HE IS being controlling and possessive. His behavior is WAY out of line.
I would tell him (preferably over the phone, and not in person and not through texts) that you just don't feel like ... (read in full...)
Why is it more acceptable for women to use sex toys than it is for men?
Q. just a tought. why is it totally acceptable for girls the use of vibrators / stimulators and when it comes to males, the use of them makes you be seen as a perv, weirdo, looser... etc, etc... im in a ldr and we see each other every 3 months. My gf ...
A. 29 December 2013: I don't see why men can't have any toys. It's up to the guy. NOT his GF.
Though I DO think there is such a double standard because many women are ONLY able to get orgasms from vibrators not insertion toys. Men, well all they need is a good rig... (read in full...)
My ex's friend said he fancies me more than my ex does!
Q. I got a text from my ex a couple of days ago saying "I want you. I love you. ", and he said it was him texting me, and he was using his friend's phone. He has used his friends phone to text me before when he has no credit on his phone. I also got a ...
A. 29 December 2013: He is an ex for a reason, both guys are just looking to get a roll in the hay and YOU are a convenient target for some NSA sex.
I'd stay clear of BOTH of them.... (read in full...)
I have been chatting with a possible scammer online
Q. I have been chatting with this guy online and on my email and we haven't met each other yet. He was telling me that he would be away in Africa for the holidays and won't be back until Jan5th. He said he is anxious to meet me and I am having some ...
A. 29 December 2013: SCAMMER Scammer scammer. WITHOUT a doubt.
It's SCREAMING at me... You know this, but you are flattered by the all talk of LOVE and commitment.
Block him from contacting you ever again.
And contact the dating site you met him at.
Don't te... (read in full...)
I would like to know where my boyfriend is during the day, and night, 24/7.
Q. Hi all, I would like to know if its too much for me to ask my bf about his whereabouts. By asking about his whereabouts I mean just asking him his plans for the day and what he'd be doing, not the crazy gf sort of asking every hour. Personally I ...
A. 29 December 2013: I have to agree with WiseOwlE
You sound more like a parole officer then a GF. And honestly, it's not attractive at all.
If you FEEL you have a right to know where he is 24/7, you are wrong. You might WANT to know, but you don't HAVE a "right". ... (read in full...)
Is she dropping hints or am I mistaken?
Q. Im not sure if im interpreting the signs correctly. I have a female coworker who is very touchy feely with me. Im lesbian so it doesn't bother me, she however don't know my sexual orientation. Anyhow, I notice when we are around each other she make ...
A. 29 December 2013: It's not normal "straight woman" behavior. And she is certainly not being work appropriate.
I would just ignore it and try and back off. No matter what her sexual orientation is, she is rather aggressive with it and that has no place in the work... (read in full...)
Is this a mid life crisis or can men change so quickly?
Q. I had casually been seeing a guy for a year, I wanted a relationship but he didn't as he "doesn't have relationships" and I know this to be true. He had his life and I had mine, we never went out, only saw each other behind closed doors (again his ...
A. 29 December 2013: It's really hard to tell why a person makes radical changes all of a sudden.
It's like the women who asks why their abusive BF isn't abusive to the next girl. No one knows. He might not be able to STAY and KEEP a relationship going, but maybe he... (read in full...)
Should I buy my boyfriend of 4 months the new Playstation 4?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid, I am in a LDR with a guy I met 4 months ago. We decided to make it official October of this year. Instead of exchanging gifts during Christmas time, it was a mutual decision for us to surprise each other with them in January when ...
A. 29 December 2013: You need to set a WAY WAY lower limit. No more then $40-50 - and that is TOPS after ONLY 4 months and it being a LDR.
No Kindle, no PS4.
Just no.
Met up first then see how well you get on. If 2 years down the line you are still together o... (read in full...)
My husband never seems to notice hot women.....EVER!
Q. Hello, I am in my 20s and my husband is great, perfect even. He takes me out, listens to be me, we have a great sex life, we hardly fight. It's wonderful. However.... I recently began to notice that he never seems to notice young attractive...
A. 28 December 2013: I FAIL to see why this is a problem. My guess is HE does notice them without being blatantly obvious.
He is being respectful to you and that makes him gay? WTF?
So you rather have a guy who ogles every chick that walks past?
My husband does... (read in full...)
He lied to me about being married!
Q. I met this guy at a friend's party a little over 2 months ago; he was really sweet and funny and about 2 days after the party, my friend told me that her friend told her that he was asking for my number, because he was not a direct acquaintance of ...
A. 28 December 2013: I would block him (his number) and I would tell whomever GAVE him your number(with your permission) that the fucker is married. ( or was that the same friend that called and told you?) I would without FAIL make sure ALL your friends know about this ... (read in full...)
I feel so used. Why didn't he value me as a friend?
Q. Ok please help I was very good friends with a guy then he started confiding in me he had problems with the girl he'd been with for 5 years saying she was manipulative and made his life hard Stupidly I became close and we kissed a few times after wh...
A. 28 December 2013: Why didn't he value you?
Because the whole episode wasn't about you. Any woman willing to play his games would have been fine.
And you are fooling yourself if you think what you had was a "friendship".
Don't WASTE your time on people like... (read in full...)
He promised to spend New Year's Eve with him but cancelled to be with his friend. Should I stick it out or move on?
Q. I've dated my boyfriend for a year and out of the blue the past January he broke up with me. He became easily influenced by his mates as they broke up with their gfs and were single and he was the only one attached at the time. We spend New Year's ...
A. 28 December 2013: I would see if your original plans for New Years can be revived and then tell him, you made your choice to enjoy New Years with your friend and since that seems to be your MAIN goal in life (to have fun with friends) I'm going to end this ... (read in full...)
On exchange: Should I give up a good school and see him instead?
Q. Hi :) He was the most gentlemanly, thoughtful and humourous person I've ever met. We met when he was travelling. At that time, he decided to cancel his next trip to stay longer with me. We had picnics, went biking and visited new places together...
A. 28 December 2013: Paris without a doubt. Besides a train ride or flight from Germany is not that long or expensive, so IF there is something between you two you can still visit each other.
... (read in full...)
He chose an engagment ring for me, did I do the wrong thing with it?
Q. My bf of 2yrs gave me an engagement ring(only) on x-mas eve. Honestly I thought he wouldn't want to get married again. First marriage when he was a teen. Second, she cheated on him. Couldn't blame him if he had reservation on marriage. (I've never ...
A. 28 December 2013: I'm old fashioned. I believe the GUY pays for it, he picks it out.
My husband and I have VERY different taste when it comes to jewelry. But I know in this day and age most women PICKS out their own rings.
I would NEVER have picked out the o... (read in full...)
Ex-wife running my down to our kids and they're treating me disrespectfully
Q. I have been going through a tough time as of late I am married for a second time and my ex wife is married as well. Recently she started running me down to my two oldest kids my oldest daughter lives out of state and I talk to her as often as I can ...
A. 27 December 2013: First of all, cut your son's cell phone off he is 26! for crying out loud - if he can't afford to carry it himself, well then he can't have a cell phone. He knows you can't afford it and that could be why he is being rude. He has the typical sense ... (read in full...)
It's not so much what he did, it's that he lied about it
Q. hey aunties and uncles... i am in a real tricky situation and just cant seem to make my own judgement or decision on what to do... I have recently been seeing a guy for the last 7 months and am planning to get married in November... we have known ...
A. 27 December 2013: Are you still going to marry him?
What he did was deceitful and almost cruel, because he KNEW you was waiting for the guy you intended to marry for sex. My guess is, he figured once you slept with him, the deal was sealed YOU would take him no m... (read in full...)
I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!
Q. I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...
A. 27 December 2013: To AuntyEm
I mentioned the raising a dog for the specific reason that he does come across (to me and a few other aunties) as wanting a child for the same reasons a VERY young and (sorry) immature girl would want a child. To have someone that wil... (read in full...)
Do we break up now - with a wedding in vicinity?
Q. I had a habit of saying its not working anymore and lets break up which used to have a dramatic affect on my year old bf and he used to do everything possible to pacify me and drop the argument. However today he was done with me and said I am not ...
A. 27 December 2013: Well, he called you on your bluff. And now YOU have to feel what he's felt EVERY TIME you told him you were going to end it.
Give yourself and him some space and figure out of you WANT to marry him or not. The sooner you figure it out the sooner y... (read in full...)
I wasnt a priority his life, so I broke up with him, did I do right?
Q. Hi everyone! I hope someone can help me out and maybe guide me on a decision I made. I broke up with my boyfriend of about 4 months today and I guess I just need to see if people think I did the right thing as I know what I am like, I will do ...
A. 27 December 2013: I'm glad you ended it "gracefully" and not rude, because as much as you want to hurt him for being a dumbass, it's not you.
Yes, you did the right thing. You were an ornament in his life, not a priority.
The fact that he blames YOU for not taki... (read in full...)
What should I expect on a first date?
Q. I have been a closet crossdresser for a few years. Recently I had a pro do a makeover on me and was finally able to see myself able to pass with no problem. Now that I decided to go out into the world a friend of mine set me up on a blind date with ...
A. 27 December 2013: This is the "nerdy guys" first date, and she suggested you get "frisky"? I think that would be a really dumb idea. He agreed because you can pass for a woman, and my guess is he would LIKE to date women, so you are kind up a creek.
But I guess it... (read in full...)
He wants sex all the time and I am starting to get really stressed!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years and I'm starting to get really stressed out by the fact he wants sex all the time. I used to love having sex with him, but now I feel like that's his main focus and it's putting me off doing it ...
A. 27 December 2013: He is killing your libido and you are letting him.
Having sex when you are not in the mood because it's EASIER then telling him to freaking respect the fact that you are not in the mood 24/7 - or telling him that despite loving him and being at... (read in full...)
What should I expect on a first date?
Q. I have been a closet crossdresser for a few years. Recently I had a pro do a makeover on me and was finally able to see myself able to pass with no problem. Now that I decided to go out into the world a friend of mine set me up on a blind date with ...
A. 27 December 2013: Err blasted no edit..
I meant the type I wouldn't expect more, nor would I let "more" happen.... (read in full...)
I thought I was really into this guy but now I don't know!
Q. I thought I really was into this guy and now I am confused on my feelings for him. I met someone new that I am also really starting to enjoy. I was not confused about guy 1 until guy 2 came along and now I'm confused about both! We have slept ...
A. 27 December 2013: Personally, I think if a second guy can throw you off balance THAT soon into a new relationship then GUY #1 isn't it.
But if you want to figure out if there IS something about #1, then tell him, I like you but I want to go slower and I want to ... (read in full...)
I cant stop thinking about my neighbour...do I have a chance with her?
Q. Ok so lately I can't stop thinking about my neighbour. Her and her fiancé have lived next door to me and my parents for 2 years and I hit it off with both of them Immediately! They were nothing like the previous neighbours who were much old...
A. 27 December 2013: It is a crush. And it's not realistic. I think she knows you fancy her and she find that pleasing, but more like awww puppy-love then OH hubba hubba!
Or she is actually OBLIVIOUS to your crush and just TRYING t obe a good and sweet neighbor... (read in full...)
I am alway in the friend zone!
Q. I'm in In high school, I had a lot (5) female friends and not very many male friends. I am a total nerd but not the smart kind, just goofy-looking and not athletic. I do real good with math and computers and physics but I suck at English and History ...
A. 27 December 2013: I think you should ask your FEMALE friend what you can do to one day find a GF. They know you better and they know your quirks.
It's really hard to socialize of you can't read people. And unfortunately reading people is a skill you NEED to devel... (read in full...)
I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!
Q. I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...
A. 27 December 2013: If you can't interact with women, do you think you are capable of interacting with a female child? Or a child in general?
I think you need to figure out where that fear of women stems from and work on that before you choose to have a child.
... (read in full...)
After one awful attempt at sex with my ex, how do I prepare for my current boyfriend?
Q. I recently entered a new relationship after being in a long term one for the majority of high school. I had sex once with my ex, to be blunt it was awful. I couldn't even feel him inside of me because there was so much pain. We were intimate ...
A. 27 December 2013: I would honestly go see your GYN and have a check up. Make sure everything is right as rain below deck.
Then I wouldn't HAVE or even ATTEMPT to have sex til you feel ready, make sure you tell your BF.
To me, it sounds like you were too tense t... (read in full...)
What if I don't actually like my inlaws?
Q. Hi Everyone :) I was just curious…do most people get along well with their in-laws/parents of their SO? I'm in a relationship with a guy a really like, but my relationship with his family (parents and two older siblings) is just so-so. They're...
A. 27 December 2013: Eh, my husband has a big family and to be honest.. I don't like 75% of them. BUT I did grow up with minding my manners, and being civil.
I wouldn't really worry about the whole in-law thing. Unless they treat you like dirt.
It really is a luck... (read in full...)
What should I expect on a first date?
Q. I have been a closet crossdresser for a few years. Recently I had a pro do a makeover on me and was finally able to see myself able to pass with no problem. Now that I decided to go out into the world a friend of mine set me up on a blind date with ...
A. 27 December 2013: Does the guy know you are a x-dresser?
If not, I think he should know, because no matter how much you LOOK like a girl or feel like one, physically you are NOT a girl.
It's be rather underhanded to go on a date without him knowing.
What... (read in full...)
Should I twist the situation or are my friends more important?
Q. Recently one of my good guy friends, call him A, confided in my best-friend that he liked me. He also said that he was confused because he also like my other friend. If they started dating, I would probably be pretty upset, but I would be able to ...
A. 27 December 2013: I would not exclude a friend because the boy YOU like might like her more. That is being PETTY.
Do you really want to date a guy who "might" rather date your friend but settles for you because YOU are there and she is not?
I'd say invite them ... (read in full...)
I drove him to the airport, so why isnt he texting how he is away?
Q. My bf left for vacation to see his fam n hasnt txted me or anything. I tried texting him bt he doesnt reply. I know he is with his fam n his enjoying his time, bt just texting to know how I am is not much. Afterall, I was the one who volunteered to ...
A. 26 December 2013: Who knows what hew is doing with his family, maybe he EVEN left his phone in his room and just enjoy their company.
CHILL. Let him enjoy his holiday with his family. If you ALREADY texted him a Merry Christmas, the go about YOUR business and enjo... (read in full...)
My bf blocked me from everywhere but he still reads my Facebook messages!
Q. my boyfriend blocked me from everywhere only because I asked one of his girls indirectly that if she is dating someone and if she is then what his name is I wanted an answer without anybody knowing it but then my boyfriend got to know about this ...
A. 26 December 2013: So let me get this straight ou asked a girl your BF had listed as a friend if she had a BF, and if she did what his name was?
WHAT is that any of your business? If she isn't a friend of yous why are you messing with "his" Facebook friends?... (read in full...)
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