What does it mean if a person cancels a date and doesn't reschedule right away?
Q. So, I met a guy online for a date two weekends ago and had an amazing time. The conversation flowed effortlessly, we kissed and had great chemistry, and both of us admitted that were were a little "twitterpated" by the end of the date. He made p...
A. 29 January 2014: Yea, I would have preferred a honest answer or comment instead of the "spiritual" approach, but then again, maybe that just goes to show YOU that he wasn't for you.
My guess is, he thought it sounded like a "nicer" let down then being straight... (read in full...)
I dyed my hair and now look so different! Is this possible?
Q. Simple question really, I've had long dark hair all my life and never had comments like this once I dyed it lighter. I'm tanned, but I'd say my skin is more olive due to being mixed race and I have brown eyes. My hair reaches just under my breasts...
A. 24 January 2014: Look at Beyonce or Shakira? (to name a few) Neither of them are "natural blonds" but they both use the lighter hair color and it DOES make them stand out.
And like Cindy said, the MAJORITY of people from India have black hair/dark hair.
Most ... (read in full...)
Can't sleep after giving up medication. Please help?
Q. I really need some help. For those of you who do not know last year in the summer I was diagnosed with Bipolar. Its a really difficult illness to live with and I can't say a day ...
A. 24 January 2014: I agree with Caring Guy, You Wish and Cindy.
GO talk to your doctor. There are MANY other meds that can help you, if you rather not go with meds then you need to find a good therapist who can help give you tools.
Another thing you might want t... (read in full...)
How can I win her over? Should I even try?
Q. Question: A girl I really like recently told me she's going to pursue a long-distance relationship with a guy she's only recently met. Can I win her over? Should I even try? She and I went on three dates. The first two went really well. On the sec...
A. 24 January 2014: Honestly, I would not wait around for her. If the other guy doesn't work out, and she gets back with you, it's because she is settling for you, that is not what you'd want.
I wouldn't try and be her friend either, because when you feel MORE the... (read in full...)
She slept with someone else during our break
Q. Me (20) and my girlfriend (21) are in a relationship for a year and 4 months. Somewhere along the way we broke up, just to get back together 2 months later. I don't regret taking her back at all. Our relationship is even going better now than it ...
A. 23 January 2014: Could be she wanted SOMEONE to make her feel attractive and sexy? Could be she MISSED it? Could be she did it because she was TRYING to get over you.
You won't really know til you ask her.
And really, you need to stop worrying about it. If she... (read in full...)
I feel insecure. What does he see in me? I'm so different from his ex!
Q. Been together with my boyfriend for 3 years, I love him to bits but one thing makes me feel insecure and i'm honestly not sure why, was hoping for anyone's thoughts on this. His ex who is mother of his children, so he obviously loved her at some ...
A. 23 January 2014: My guess is he tried "her" type and that didn't work out for him so well, so he changed tactics and looked for a different type of woman (you).
I think most people have more then 1 type of person they are attracted to and more then 1 type of peopl... (read in full...)
Should I tell my guy that I slept with a friend while we were broken up?
Q. I'm in a messed up situation that I can't see out without losing my boyfriend who I have been with for three years. Basically, last September I had a miscarriage during my 9th week of pregnancy. We had only known for 2 weeks when I lost our baby...
A. 23 January 2014: Thanks, like I see it - that made more sense....... (read in full...)
He's not working but wants me to quit my job??
Q. Hi guys! Well i need some advice with this... i have a 6 years relationship with this man and we have a 2 year old baby, i got pregnant while we were in college... he hasn't finished yet but i did, and now i'm working... he's studying and taking ...
A. 23 January 2014: NO NO NO NO.
If you WANT to do great thing s for your daughter then FINISH your thesis and KEEP working.
He wants you to quit why? Because you got ovaries? Because you are female and thus should be at home with your child?
Keep saving the... (read in full...)
He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...
A. 23 January 2014: LOL he sounds like he is TRYING to get your attention and BINGO he did.
BLOCK him from YOUR feeds and BLOCK his feeds (he can't see that you blocked those).
And since you are so adamant about moving on, I would honestly just un-friend and BL... (read in full...)
Should I go for a threesome?
Q. So, Uni drama again. Bloody Uni eh? So someone I met in first year, liked him for ages, tried to get with him for ages, we had a sexual thing but other than that we never really went anywhere, he pretty much friendzoned me soon as he could, then w...
A. 23 January 2014: Honestly, it sounds like a clusterF*** of a mistake. Pardon my English.
Sounds like they just want to use your body, this isn't about how they like you are or attracted to you, it's SIMPLY because they know you "might" say yes.
You are sti... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a person cancels a date and doesn't reschedule right away?
Q. So, I met a guy online for a date two weekends ago and had an amazing time. The conversation flowed effortlessly, we kissed and had great chemistry, and both of us admitted that were were a little "twitterpated" by the end of the date. He made p...
A. 23 January 2014: Have you talked to him since?
Usually I would assume that he is either seeing multiple women, not that into you or he is FACT is REALLY busy.
Cancelling a date and not immediately rescheduling doesn't always mean either of the first two. It co... (read in full...)
Should I tell my guy that I slept with a friend while we were broken up?
Q. I'm in a messed up situation that I can't see out without losing my boyfriend who I have been with for three years. Basically, last September I had a miscarriage during my 9th week of pregnancy. We had only known for 2 weeks when I lost our baby...
A. 23 January 2014: So many inconsistencies with your timing, I'm getting totally lost.
How can you be 9 weeks pregnant, if you only been together for 2 weeks?
And how can he be your BF of 3 years if you met last September?
Anyhow, yes, the truth has a way of c... (read in full...)
Her training to fight makes me feel insecure.
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship with a woman I adore. Our courtship lasted a bit long but we didn't want to get into a relationship just after a few weeks of admitting we liked each other. After a little over a year, we became happily official. T...
A. 23 January 2014: So her usage of swear words has gone up recently and that makes you pause?
Maybe she is more comfortable being herself around you? Or maybe part of it is that something has changed? Maybe she feels more connected to you and is testing her limits? ... (read in full...)
Do girls do this if they are interested?
Q. why do girls do this? I went on a date with a girl last night and she was on her phone for the momst of the time and talking about other guys that are interested in her, talking about previous love interests, and acting cold. she even invited ...
A. 22 January 2014: I don't know why she would AGREE to go out on a date with you and then act like that. I would CERTAINLY not ask her out again, that is for sure. Let one of the MANY others guys chasing her, have her.
I would presume that she wasn't interest... (read in full...)
Is he playing hard to get or has he lost interest?
Q. I've liked this guy for a while, and we've have been speaking almost non stop on facebook for weeks. Then suddenly we didnt speak for a week, which is fine, as we need space, and cant talk to eachother 24/7 but I started to miss him. So I sent h...
A. 22 January 2014: If you want more/better communication, why aren't you two calling each other/texting/meeting up? You can't carry on "talking" over FB at some point it either gets "old", stale or just plain boring.
... (read in full...)
Her training to fight makes me feel insecure.
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship with a woman I adore. Our courtship lasted a bit long but we didn't want to get into a relationship just after a few weeks of admitting we liked each other. After a little over a year, we became happily official. T...
A. 22 January 2014: FA, if you re-read what I wrote I said :
"most men NEVER have to endure".
Not EVERY man. I'm well aware that there are abusive women out there and abused men. One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. 85% of... (read in full...)
First time sex and I didn't bleed... should I see my gyno?
Q. Please i need an explanation i just had sex with my fiance for the first time,and he knows i am a virgin but the problem now is i didn't bleed at all just excruciating pains...please i don't know if that is normal or should i see the gynocologist ...
A. 22 January 2014: I agree with Auntie Em and SVC it's normal not to bleed.
And it's ALSO a very good idea to start seeing a GYNO on a regular basis once you start being sexually active.
And consider being on Birth control, even if your BF uses a condom. Better s... (read in full...)
He put food on my plate, does that mean something?
Q. I have liked one of my guy friend for three years already. Whenever we played the game truth or dare at social events he would admit in truth that he liked someone. I decided to ask him one time who he liked..and he went completely silent on me. I ...
A. 22 January 2014: Giving you food can both be sweet, but also a little odd?
What if you HATED moo shu chicken? Did he ASK if you wanted any or did he just "feed" you? Or does he KNOW from past experience that that is one of your favorites (for instance).
Or did ... (read in full...)
Her training to fight makes me feel insecure.
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship with a woman I adore. Our courtship lasted a bit long but we didn't want to get into a relationship just after a few weeks of admitting we liked each other. After a little over a year, we became happily official. T...
A. 22 January 2014: She has empowered herself and that BOTHERS YOU? Really?
Outside of her training is she aggressive with you? Does she patronize you? Talk smack to you?
She went through something most men NEVER have to endure. An abusive partner, an abus... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend came back into my life, only to disappear again!
Q. My ex boyfriend recently came back into my life. We were hanging out and talking almost everyday again for about a month. Then suddenly the calls and texts just stopped. I haven't heard form him at all, and I have not called him. I just let it be. ...
A. 22 January 2014: What should you do?
Realize that he is WASTING YOUR TIME. And so are you. If you think that is how people treat people they "LOVE".
He was USING you. You were convenient and probably put out in hopes of being back together.
Don't let peopl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps saying he'll propose any day now but never does
Q. My boyfriend said he wants to marry me about 3 months ago. I told him I felt the same way. Two months ago he said we should start looking at rings. So we did. We went engagement ring shopping several times, with the understanding that no purchases ...
A. 21 January 2014: Unless he is telling you all these WILD FANTASTIC FICTIONAL stories to put you off the PLAN to propose is a amazing fashion where you have NO idea and it's a total surprise....
The story is so far fetched I don't believe ANY of it.
I guess... (read in full...)
Little contact from my boyfriend while he's on vacation. Should I be concerned?
Q. My boyfriend of a year has been on vacation for a month in another country ( visiting family). I went for ten days but now I've been home for 11 days and he has called me just once. I sent a two messages on FB and he did reply both times but very ...
A. 21 January 2014: I agree with WiseOwlE - he is ON vacation you were JUST there and spend time WITH him, now he is focusing on his family.
You are in the age group that can REMEMBER what it was like BEFORE the Internet and cell phones. So I would chill JUST a l... (read in full...)
Why would a guy check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her?
Q. I wanted to ask why a guy would check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her? I went on a date with a guy who was interested in me in the beginning he complimented me constantly and told me how much he liked the way I look, but ...
A. 21 January 2014: Curiosity?
I wouldn't worry about it, he wasn't "it" for you so whatever he does.. who cares. Don't get stuck on a guy who wants to be "Friends". ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is financially irresponsible
Q. My gf has serious personal finance problems. Even though she makes more than enough to pay her expenses and save, she consistently spends her entire paycheck and sometimes overspends it. She's open to discussion and is often willing to cutback ...
A. 21 January 2014: Maybe teach her how to budget? If she can't do it (or rather won't do it then maybe this isn't a compatible match for you).
Talk about how it makes you feel?
I don't think anyone should feel OBLIGATED to take care financially of a GF/BF, but ... (read in full...)
I caught the man in lies and he finally came clean. No contact for 3 days--should I reach out to him?
Q. Ok so I started talking to this guy, who I met online, 8 months ago. We live two states away from each other and started developing this amazing emotional connection. We did eventually meet and the connection was even stronger. About three months i...
A. 21 January 2014: You are both having to deal with "exes" and apparently his ex isn't QUITE the ex after all.
Cut the contact, he was playing a game of "fantasy" what if I was single game.
... (read in full...)
He just can't orgasm through a hand or blow job, why?
Q. My boyfriend takes a very long time (or not at all) to have an orgasm through a hand job or a blow job. It's like he gets so close but just can't seem to tip over the edge. He has guided me, told me what he likes but it is as if he is desensitized ...
A. 21 January 2014: It's pretty normal.
Hubby can last 45 min(sore jaws, I tell you) on a BJ and 2-10 min on "regular intercourse".
Men enjoy it whether they come or not, so don't see it as a "failure" from your side if he doesn't orgasm.
Mix it up. And don't ... (read in full...)
My best friend always goes after guys I like!
Q. My best friend always goes after the guys I like. Knowing this, I try not to tell her who I like. This guy Cruz and I made it obvious that we had a thing. One step from dating. I wasn't sure that I had feelings for him until two weeks ago, during ...
A. 21 January 2014: Well your "friend" didn't MAKE Cruz date her. She asked him, apparently he accepted (or the other way around).
If Cruz had REALLY felt the same way about you, as you do about him - he wouldn't have started to date YOUR friend.
I would also ... (read in full...)
He said, she said, so what should I say?
Q. Ok so basically this is what happened my crush called my sister a tramp and he was like I shouldn't be mad but then he went on to say that he don't like people calling him ratchet . I did at some hurtful things to him but he said some rude things as ...
A. 21 January 2014: What are you? 5 years old?
If someone talks smack about your sister and it isn't TRUE you tell them to go fly a kite, you don't make friends with them!
And you don't need closure you need to learn how to deal with drama and that is to WALK ... (read in full...)
Should I be friends with this man?
Q. My friend and I were talking about a few things recently and we talk about almost everything. I guess he felt comfortable telling me about his past. I talked about my ex-boyfriends and he talked about his ex-girlfriends. He has been telling me how ...
A. 21 January 2014: The fact that he has declared love and you two really don't know each other expect from those conversations is a little iffy, it's infatuation, not love.
You feel BAD for him? That is not love either. It's NOT your fault that he has had a shitty l... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont let go of my past!
Q. Please, I need help with this. In the beginning of my relationship I made the treacherous mistake of telling my boyfriend about me giving oral to another guy, as I took it not very seriously and told him lots of details, it really got to him. ...
A. 21 January 2014: Sorry, but a break from the relationship will not make him STOP thinking about this. Ot him feeling like YOU did something wrong. However staying together is not a good thing for you either.
And I'm sorry that he feels so entitled to judge yo... (read in full...)
The 'little black dress' he bought me is too skimpy for my tastes and comfort!
Q. My boyfriend bought me a "little black dress" for a christmas present. It redefines the word "little". It is a nice gift but it is very skimpy. It has spaghetti straps and is very,very short! He asked me to wear it for a new years party, and to a ...
A. 21 January 2014: Um, did he ASK you if you LIKED it BEFORE he bought it? My guess is no, so WHY not tell him, honey that black little dress you bought me was more like lingerie to my taste I thought it was super lovely that you bought it, but I don't really feel ... (read in full...)
No birthday gift from him! I'm feeling hurt!
Q. Hi, I recently had my birthday and I received nothing from my boyfriend and it really hurt my feelings. A while back he asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said that I really don't want him to spend his money on me. he said that he wou...
A. 20 January 2014: Um, you told him NOt to buy you anything. Then OK you can buy me socks. He took it as DO NOT buy her anything.
Why not JUST be honest and say Surprise me? Or I would love the new whatever book (or whatever you would like)? Why play this game of ... (read in full...)
Do you think I've been used and he's just playing me along?
Q. So a few weeks ago I met a guy out on a night out, and we hit it off quite well! (he's related to an acquaintance of mine). We kept bumping into eachother on nights out and eventually exchanged numbers. We were on and off texting for a few weeks and ...
A. 20 January 2014: I know it's 2014 and women are supposedly a lot more "sexually liberated" but many guys still think if a girl jumps into be FAST she isn't a keeper.
I don't get it, you are willing to sleep with him but YOU can't fire a text of to him saying h... (read in full...)
Epic failure, please help
Q. I'm 27, still single,never had a g/f, etc... I'm getting fed up lately, every girl I've ever liked is happy with someone else, I feel like I was robbed, feel betrayed, and I'm scared. Plus Dad is just waiting and scheming, slowly has been hinting at ...
A. 20 January 2014: Then focus on finding a job and being independent an fancy car doesn't bring anyone food on the table. ... (read in full...)
Why would my Facebook friend make this comment?
Q. I am in my 40s and the question I want to ask is not actually a love question but I am querying a comment someone put to me on facebook. A friend posted about cheap travel on facebook and I replied about how cheaply I had travelled as wel...
A. 20 January 2014: Eh? It's Facebook. I really wouldn't take anything posted on there too serious.
I think if they are friends, they would CALL and see if I wanted to met up, not leave little FB posts. As for making you jealous? What are they 12 years old?
... (read in full...)
Tired of my boyfriend's crap!
Q. Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...
A. 20 January 2014: I'm with CMMP
TOTAL deal breaker. This is poor hygiene and having the EXPECTATIONS that you somehow is his mom- and YOU have to clean up after him? Heck, no! What's next wipe is ass?
Sorry, that is disgusting. I have 3 kids and NONE of them lef... (read in full...)
Is his interest normal and does this make him more likely to cheat?
Q. I'm not sure if this behaivour is normal or not? I am 45 and my partner is 55. we have been together for two and a half years. We are passionately in love but recently cancelled our wedding. The first thing my partner does every morning is do...
A. 20 January 2014: Nothing you have mentioned about this guy makes me think I would TOUCH him with a ten foot pole let alone date or *shudder* marry him.
Why settle for a man who is OBVIOUSLY settling for you because he not longer can pick up the REALLY young wo... (read in full...)
Why would a guy ask this question" do you think you are pretty enough for me?"
Q. Why would a guy ask this question" do you think you are pretty enough for me?" Please help me understand why the guy I am seeing might ask that? I'm really not sure it came out of no where he texted that to me and I answered as truthfully as I could ...
A. 20 January 2014: Because he wants YOU to feel grateful that he is seeing you? Or because he senses that you have insecurity issues?
Either way, I would have asked him to elaborate instead of guessing.
... (read in full...)
Epic failure, please help
Q. I'm 27, still single,never had a g/f, etc... I'm getting fed up lately, every girl I've ever liked is happy with someone else, I feel like I was robbed, feel betrayed, and I'm scared. Plus Dad is just waiting and scheming, slowly has been hinting at ...
A. 20 January 2014: Do you have a job? Are you saving up money so you can move out? At 27, you should be working on your INDEPENDENCE, not depend on your parent(s).
I think once you can take care of yourself you will have a MUCH easier (not saying it will be easy, bu... (read in full...)
I expressed my feelings about the relationship and he called me psycho!!!
Q. Hello all. I've been in a relationship with a man for the last 7 months. We have had plenty of ups and downs but currently we are in a down trend. I sensed he was pulling away about two weeks ago because he had a lot going on in his life. I offered ...
A. 20 January 2014: Honestly, from my point of view it seems like he likes to be with you when it SUITS him. You are more like a FWB then a GF. No one ignores their GF or needs "space" because they are busy at work. PEOPLE find time to call here and there EVEN when ... (read in full...)
My heart is heavy with the thought that the relationship should be ending
Q. I am in a relationship with a 39 year old man (I am 42). There are a number of things that have not been right since we got together 18 months ago but I am struggling to make a decision as to whether or not to move on as I am not happy. The first is...
A. 20 January 2014: I think you JUST need to end it. There are so many reasons as to why.
But the biggest one? You are settling for a man who isn't as much into you as you are into him. You don't want to be alone so you think this guy is all you deserve.
18 mont... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance?
Q. We dated for a two years it was great until the last 6 months. He started to mistreat me such as not wanting to hang out with me and talk down to me. I broke up with him and went no contact for four months. He recently sent me flowers apologized ...
A. 20 January 2014: So you would be ALL OK with taking back a guy who treated you like dirt 4 months ago, who now "magically" learned how to treat a woman?
My guess is the "new" girl dumped him because he is an ass. And he wants YOU to be his go-to girl. Hoping h... (read in full...)
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