What are women's preferences when it comes to male grooming habits?
Q. The recent post about the doctor seeing a man fully shaved got me thinking. What is a woman's preference? Do y'all prefer your man to be shaved bald? ...
A. 4 January 2014: Nope. Some trimming of the hedges are fine by me, I actually find a man who is bald below decks unattractive. I don't know makes me think of prepubescence boys, not sexy (TO ME).
And honestly a penis needs some shrubbery to hide in... It's not... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become lazy and unappreciative.
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. For the longest time, up until several months ago he was very much "into" me, and I mean by giving me a ton of his time/attention. He text me nonstop and was always sharing details about ...
A. 4 January 2014: Well if the stems from him REALIZING that he is STILL getting laid, you are STILL running over (as you put it) when he DOES text, hen maybe you need to revise your strategy.
I'm not saying play games - because lets face it, that is for kids and... (read in full...)
I fancy my best friend
Q. I go to the gym a lot and I've fallen for my training partner, im 20 and he's 24 and I really like him, I've known him for a while but the problem is he has a girlfriend! We spend a lot of time together training and getting drinks afterwards and I ...
A. 4 January 2014: Well you really have 3 choices here.
1. RESPECT the fact that he is WITH someone else - honestly happy or not is unimportant. It really is. Because if he was SO unhappy with her, HE would leave. It's not like she runs around behind him with s s... (read in full...)
Do I wait around for him till his ex moves out?
Q. Hi just wondering if you could help me with this situation i have been friends with a man i like for about a year now he was married but they are separated but still living together till she moves out. He has told me he likes me and wants to be with ...
A. 4 January 2014: Just no, don't put your life on hold for some guy like this.
You SHOULD be able to call him IF the marriage is over and they are separating and divorcing. TO me it sounds like he is a little too "considerate" of the soon to move out wife.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become lazy and unappreciative.
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. For the longest time, up until several months ago he was very much "into" me, and I mean by giving me a ton of his time/attention. He text me nonstop and was always sharing details about ...
A. 4 January 2014: What else had changed recently?
The fact that he does the "drop me from FB and dump he" if you don't want to come over sounds like THAT is in fact what he wants you to do. All you are good for at the moment is booty calls?
You say he sent you ... (read in full...)
What are the chances I'll get a guy who masturbates over me in a relationship?
Q. What are the chances I'll get a guy who masturbates over me in a relationship? Is this becoming uncommon now? I might be able to settle for them thinking of me sometimes, my ex hardly did, I found that strange and dumped him. I gathered I would ...
A. 3 January 2014: A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2014):
" It's not really your business anyways"
That's where we differ, I think it is my business.
Why? If I may ask. You don't OWN that person. You can not CONTROL what goes on in other peoples ... (read in full...)
Is it a normal thing to stay friends with an ex or do those situations usually turn out badly?
Q. A year and a half ago, my 3 year relationship with my ex ended pretty badly. I found out she was actually cheating behind my back with a mutual friend of ours. I still loved her a lot and tried to work things out but in the end it didn't end up ...
A. 3 January 2014: I think you need to figure out the REAL reason why you feel you want to be friends with the ex. You share history with a lot of people and usually when they treat you BADLY you remove them, for your own peace of mind, so why do you NEED her ... (read in full...)
What happened in Vegas didn't stay in Vegas!
Q. my wife and i have been together for almost 3 years and have been married almost 1 year. we have had our fair share of bumps and bruises. 2 months ago, i broke a promise to her by going to a strip club with my friends on my birthday. i have been ...
A. 3 January 2014: I agree with C. Grant.
YOU have to figure out if you can (at some point) move past this or not.
Judging by your age you a both so very young, so mistakes will happen, though to me this is more then a mistake. This is a series of bad choices y... (read in full...)
Why do girls lose interest?
Q. This isn't a question about a specific scenario but rather a general question in regards to romantic relationships. Because I have seen this happening to me and to some male friends often (and it is a recurrent topic here in DearCupid.com). ...
A. 3 January 2014: It happens for both gender, this is definitely not a gender specific issue.
HOWEVER, I do think MEN are more apt to TELL a woman that he doesn't think there is a spark whereas women tend NOT to want to hurt a guys pride (or feelings) by telling ... (read in full...)
It seems the longer I stay, the harder I am finding it to break free.
Q. Hi everyone I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years. We don't live together but I was planning to move in after his brother moved out (its a small apartment and wasn't enough room for me and my belongings etc). However, his brother...
A. 3 January 2014: OK first - preemptive strike, honey. Call and talk to your mom and dad (if it's easier talk to your mom) and tell her about the break up that is about to happen tell her that one of the reasons you are breaking up is because he used BLACKMAIL on ... (read in full...)
What are the chances I'll get a guy who masturbates over me in a relationship?
Q. What are the chances I'll get a guy who masturbates over me in a relationship? Is this becoming uncommon now? I might be able to settle for them thinking of me sometimes, my ex hardly did, I found that strange and dumped him. I gathered I would ...
A. 3 January 2014: I'm with Cerbeus.
I find it strange that you need to 100% control your partners fantasies.
Do you also expect him to ONLY dream of you when he goes to sleep? Only get turned on by you ? Notice NO other females except you?
MASTURBATION FA... (read in full...)
Girlfriend needs space but I need comfort! Do I end things?
Q. Ok so I'm struggling to find the right thing to do. My gf recently lost a loved one and has since gone into a shell where she wants space yet is out all of the time. I recently received bad news about a family member and she barely said a word to ...
A. 3 January 2014: Some people are not capable of caring for others if they themselves are hurting bad, she obviously didn't rely on you for comfort when she lost a family member so it can also be that she doesn't handle grief like you do.
You might talk to family a... (read in full...)
I'm going for a physical and am a little embarrassed that doctor will see I am bald "down there"!!
Q. I'm a 41 year old male. I have a Dr. appointment coming up in a few weeks for a full physical (haven't had one of those in quite awhile). I've been doing a full pubic hair shave for the last couple of months. I'm feeling a bit embarrassed that my ...
A. 3 January 2014: Sorry, I don't mean to make fun of your dilemma,but YOU have nothing to worry about.
I have NO DOUBT your doctor have seen a shaved scrotum/private area MANY MANY times before.
Now if you have any odd tattoos in the area it might be wise to... (read in full...)
Why do girls break up with me?
Q. Two weeks ago I met a widowed woman. she is so beautiful that I fell in love of her. after 3 or 4 times of meeting many sms's suddenly yesterday she asked me to separate. I don't know why? she just said we are from two different worlds. I had thi...
A. 3 January 2014: Slow down.
You met her 2 weeks ago and already claim to be in love. Love doesn't work that way. You might be ENAMORED by her and her looks but if you go FULL SPEED into thinking it's LOVE you might make her feel uncomfortable and pressure... (read in full...)
Does he think I make a bad partner?
Q. Advice? I feel bad. My fiance smashed his finger in the door of a friends house on our way out and I failed to get him ice simply because I didnt think if my friend had any ice. Instead I said lets hurry home I know theres an ice pack there which we ...
A. 3 January 2014: Um, stop beating yourself up?!
We react differently in different situations. It doesn't make you less "maternal" or less of a partner.
I for instance can't handle puking people. I don't care who is puking I can't stand it. If no one else is a... (read in full...)
We need a place ASAP but I'm not sure how to do this!
Q. Well, my dad put us on a two and one bedroom apartment low income. But what's happens if the one bedroom opens first, Then does that mean we have to take it? And the rules are only allowed 16 days a month to see my fiancee which is stupid but he ...
A. 3 January 2014: Your fiancee is over 18 I assume, so if she is staying with her mother why is there such OUTRAGE that she is asking for her GROWN daughter to pitch in?
Why would a couple who are engaged need a 2 bedroom apartment? There is just TWO of you, no ... (read in full...)
Our sexual interests are completely opposite. Can I satisfy my needs elsewhere?
Q. I am happily engaged to an amazing man; we are getting married this coming October. He is my best friend, and an incredible person. I love him so much, and the thought of him being hurt is just too much for me to bear. However, when it comes to...
A. 3 January 2014: Maybe when you talk to him you two can find a middle-ground of what HE feels comfortable with that at the same time gives you some kink.
For someone who hasn't the "taste" for kink it's quite an adjustment. So maybe start with little things a... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a bad marriage and I have feelings for a married man who's in a similar situation like me. Have any of you been in this situation before and did anything ever come of it especially when both of you had children?
Q. Could this man be my soul mate? I have been married for almost 10 years, and I am an extremely faithful and understanding wife. Although people get married with the intention of loving in good times and in bad, I feel like I have been through ...
A. 3 January 2014: You and your husband have checked out of your marriage for various reasons.
You haven't left it yet though, but you have sought out a "new" man to make YOU feel better about the home situation and honey, that is not going to work.
If a car runs... (read in full...)
What problems could happen if we did become older parents
Q. Me and my husband both want children; we're young professionals, aged 29 and 32, and we've been married for 2 years now. We're middle-class, own a Citroen and a Lexus, and our own house, and are fairly wealthy by local standards. I'm Italian-English ...
A. 2 January 2014: I think starting THAT late is cheating your kids. My husband and I had kids late (compared to average) I had my first at almost 31 and our 3rd at 35 with no complications or worries. ( Though I DID have an amniotic test done with #3 because I was so ... (read in full...)
Possesive and controlling or not?
Q. Hi I'm in need of some advice about my boyfriend of only 3 months who I think may be possessive or controlling however I can't fully tell. I'm very aware of the fact he could be and I'm trying not to let my feelings deepen until I can understand h...
A. 2 January 2014: I think you should end it not for the "red flags" you think you see, but because your relationship is doomed - BY YOU.
YOU are looking for signs that may not be there, it's called sabotaging the relationship. Or preemptive strike. If you find FAU... (read in full...)
Is this affair just a phase in my life?
Q. Hi, I'm a married woman who's been having an affair with my coworker for 8 months now. My husband and I have a fake relationship, we pretend to be happy and try to do things together for the kids sake. But as soon as we disagree on somethin...
A. 2 January 2014: You should come clean. You are not being fair to Joe, your husband, yourself OR your kids.
Then after that you need to figure out what to do. My advice consider divorce, your marriage sounds like it's been over for a long time.
Cheating is n... (read in full...)
I love a woman who is 8 years older than me but I don't know if I want to marry her and she's pushing for it
Q. Hello. I am a 39 year old man from Ireland. 4 years ago I started seeing a single mum who has three kids. The lady is 8 years older than me and had just come out of a bad relationship. Things were fine in the beginning and we managed to open up to...
A. 2 January 2014: You say you don't think you love her enough. THAT right there means you need to end it, or you are JUST using her til you find your "younger and greener grass".
I don't think it's too much to expect marriage after 4 years together. However ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend secretly recorded one of our arguments
Q. Dear Cupid, My (ex)boyfriend just admitted that he secretly recorded an audio file of an argument that occured three weeks ago and was resolved. Today, he was angry with me and told me that he found my reaction on that audio file unbelievably ...
A. 2 January 2014: It IS illegal to record a conversation without the other party agreeing to it. There is no consent here.
Secondly, I will agree that if he recorded this, what else might he record for whatever reason.
Thirdly, you need to focus on your anger is... (read in full...)
Husband said he was just looking for friends, but I'm suspicious
Q. A little background of my situation. I have been married for almost 6 years. After about a year of happy marriage I found my husband talking with and exchanging nude pictures online. I confronted him and he apologized and promised it would never ...
A. 2 January 2014: Sorry, I would start looking for a par time job so you can pay for schooling and look into scholarships/student loans and then I would without a doubt DIVORCE him.
THIS will NOT stop.
Find a way to make it work without him, Many other women... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my brother's ex
Q. i have developed feelings for my brother's ex they split over a year ago and were together for bout 2 months my brother left her because she was already pregnant with someone else`s baby wen they got together now having stayed friends n now i have ...
A. 2 January 2014: Just no, man.. JUST no on this one.
Unless your brother is totally OK with it.... (read in full...)
Can a scorned ex wait years to get you back just to use and dump you
Q. My ex have been communicating with me in getting back with me for over 6yrs. After 6yrs I began to notice the type of changes in him that I wanted back then. Now I traveled to go see him. We got tipsy first night and had sex. Well now I'm back hom...
A. 2 January 2014: It could be that he got cold feet after, it could be he just wanted you to "want" him.
I would not call and give him a "piece of your mind" either. You were a willing participant with different expectations then he had.
I would however go absol... (read in full...)
I don't fit in with my stepfather's family
Q. about two years ago, my mother got married to this nice man whom i like, and i call him dad. but my new step cousins r so rude. they say things and make fun of my facial hair, which i dont even have! as well as the children, this one aunt, is...
A. 2 January 2014: You are going to have to learn how to ignore them. They are being rude to hurt you and the fact that your Dad (stepdad) doesn't do anything about it will only make them bolder IF you show any emotions.
Next time ANY of them bring up your facial h... (read in full...)
Now that she appears to have moved on I miss her in my life.
Q. Can someone help me understand this. I broke up with this girl about 7 months ago and I wont go into what happened and why I ended it. But it wasn't a nice break up, I ended it in a terrible way, unintentionally of course but as a result I was a j...
A. 2 January 2014: I do think it's partly "I want what I can't have" and partly regret over how it ended.
Shit happens, learn from it and wish her well.
She ignored you when she hurt, not that she is over the hurt she can be gracious and polite. Doesn't mean she... (read in full...)
Cheater Cheater!!!
Q. My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ...
A. 2 January 2014: I'm pretty sure as his WIFE you know who he would buy presents for and what he would buy - I know hubby and I talk over before or after gift purchases.
So you have a receipt, but not sure who they are for? So What I'd do would be to get an itemi... (read in full...)
I feel very sorry. But feel if I were to admit what I've done, it would blow up. What are my options to move forward?
Q. I've done something really silly and need advice. My boyfriend and I went to one of her really well off friend's house parties the other night and I got really really drunk. Recently I've been waking up the realisation I have a bit of an alcoho...
A. 2 January 2014: I agree with Darrell - give them back, OWN your actions. Stop hiding behind the alcohol.
Isn't it about time you take responsibility?... (read in full...)
I shouldn't have asked to see pictures of my boyfriend's ex
Q. Why am I so angry at him? Is not his fault is it? So I asked my boyfriend about his ex and he told me everything about her and he asked if I wanted to see a picture of her and I said yeah sure but I bet she's not prettier than me and he said...
A. 2 January 2014: That is all on you and ALL in your head.
IS he with her or with you? You, right? So what is the problem? She isn't allowed to have a better body then you? But It's OK if her face is "uglier"?
Serious, girl you need to get a grip on your van... (read in full...)
Was I being manipulated?
Q. Hi, I just want to ask for some ideas about something that happened last year. It was one of the most shameful episodes of my life but am haunted by a question about it. I was really depressed over 'unrequited feelings'to do with a guy and ended ...
A. 1 January 2014: Yes he was manipulating him and you were letting him do it, because you were HOPING for more.
He didn't say that blowjob was the best he ever had, just that it was the most fantastic experiences he'd had at work - well probably means he hasn't h... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend's ex still want to be friends with him?
Q. Hey everyone, you guys give great advice as I have been on here before, but I am back again. The boyfriend and I have been with each other for like 7 months. Long story short, him and his ex from a while ago had a bad break up. She didn't r...
A. 1 January 2014: I would honestly be more upset that HE is choosing to be her "friend" after all that happened.
They are exes. They do not "share some great bond" that needs to be kept alive by friendship that is bullshit.
There was a reason they ended it, W... (read in full...)
I love him but I can't do this for much longer!
Q. I've been married to my husband for almost two years now. Our marriage started out great. We both worked, so all our time off was spent with each other. After I found out I was pregnant, I quit my job and we moved someplace more affordable. He got a ...
A. 1 January 2014: My guess is he "thinks" you stay home all day doing "nothing" and then expects him to do "everything" after he comes home from work. This is not an uncommon attitude from guys with "housebound" wives.
My suggestion. FIND someone you trust to watch... (read in full...)
I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.
Q. Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really ...
A. 1 January 2014: YouWish put it so simply..
****How many guys could orgasm from touching his scrotum ALONE? Exactly.***
Your BF is putting pressure on you to achieve something that MAY not be possible for you. Like mentioned MOST women (75+%) DO NOT have orga... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 1 January 2014:
I find it a little icky that the MOM gives him such a calender (even if it's kinda tame) and TELLS him to hang it by his bed. That is kind of... tacky.
But it is HER house and HIS room, so just because you stay over now and then, doesn't ma... (read in full...)
He met his ex behind my back and now I don't feel like I can trust him!
Q. I've just found out my bf of a year has met his ex behind my back. He's been split from this girl for 3 years and has had 2 relationships inbetween, both of which he cheated on them with this girl. He told me about it when I was getting to k...
A. 1 January 2014: I'm with CaringGuy here.
There should be NO NEED for them to "clear any air" what so ever, they are OVER (or were) so why would they need to met up (behind your back) to discuss the past? And not just once did they met, but several times?
... (read in full...)
Why are women so judgemental about guys who want to or have experimented with other guys?
Q. Why is it seen as such a HUGE deal BY WOMEN if a guy wants to experiment with another guy? Girls can already agree that that most, if not many guys LIE and CHEAT, is it so hard to believe that they can fuse those two together and TRY, just TRY an...
A. 1 January 2014: I can't speak for all women either, but I think if you are up front that YOU are bi-sexual you are meeting the "wrong" kind of girls.
Don't forget, to date or marry a guy who had male experiences are for some women a kind of competition we can't... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 1 January 2014: I'm guessing that is WHY she was single in the first place? She want to do the whole MEN should pay for everything, but she also wants equality, right?
I think there are some women who want the guy to pay, because they think if he can pay he can t... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for a colleague who is straight! Where do I go from here?
Q. I'm a girl who likes girls. I work in a conservative environment, but I have very strong feelings for a female colleague who is very straight and it's been more than half a year already. I've tried to give up as there's not much I can do, but every ...
A. 31 December 2013: Very unwise.
First of all SHE is straight. She is not going to to experiment sexually with a CO-WORKER! How awkward would that be?
Second of all THIS is where you work, I know many people look for "love" at the work place but that is NOT real... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 31 December 2013: Wow, you are "lucky" she isn't asking for you to pay her rent?
Sorry that is more then high maintenance that is TAKING advantage of a guy.
She better have a magical snatch.... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 30 December 2013: Does she work? Is there a huge difference in jobs/pay between you that makes her think she can't afford it or is it just her way of thinking that the man pays for everything?
My guess is the latter (which isn't totally strange for your age grou... (read in full...)
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