Girlfriend keeps pressuring me to perform oral and I hate it.
Q. I don't know how to say all this without coming out like an asshole but please hear me out. My girlfriend keeps pressuring me to go down on her because she goes down on me but I really don't want to. I've tried it before with several girls ...
A. 31 January 2014: I don't think ANYONE should HAVE to do something in bed they don't like to do.
But I do think you are a tad immature when you mention how icky it is.. you think the GUNK from your penis is lovely tasting? or that musk scent from your crotch? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is circumcised and takes too long to orgasm. Sex hurts me. What can we do?
Q. 6 months of horrible sex. I am dating a men that is (''cut'') he is the first one I have dated. It is like his penis is desensitise, he thrusts and pounds during sex as if my vagina was made of steel, he takes very long to orgasm and I get sore a...
A. 31 January 2014: Yea, I doubt it's about the circumcision. He is just a REALLY lousy lover and YOU need to speak up and tell him that your vagina isn't a pothole and his penis not a jackhammer.
My guess is there is another reason he can masturbate for 3 hours an... (read in full...)
He is badmouthing me to mutual friends. Should I confront him?
Q. I had a falling out with a guy friend some months back. I discovered he had feelings for me (I had feelings for him too), things became complicated and our friendship ended on a very sour note. He ended up blocking me on all social networks. I ...
A. 31 January 2014: I agree with llifton - the thing is you need to remember you CAN NOT control what other people thing or say.
The fact that mutual "friends" are writing negative things about you might give you pause to think whether these friends are really..... (read in full...)
How young is too young when it comes to settling down and having children?
Q. Hello helpers! This is a relatively quick question, but one that i'd love some input for! I'm 18 years old, turning 19 this year. I'd say I was pretty mature for my age (alot of this coming from bad experiences in childhood). I'm currently dating...
A. 30 January 2014: I didn't met my husband til my late 20's so I didn't have kids til 30. Which I DO think was good (FOR ME). I got most of my partying, education (2 bachelor's degrees), 70 hours work week career job, traveling out of the way.
There are plenty o... (read in full...)
I can't seem to hit a girl's g spot
Q. i have 6.2 inch penis 4.5 inch straight and and around 2 inch slight down curve.. i had sex with thirteen different girl but i never get any negative comment but i still fell insecure because i think i m not able to satisfy and make girls orgasm in ...
A. 30 January 2014: Accept that your penis isn't a magic wand.
Climax (orgasm) for women through penetration ONLY is not as common as most men thing. I believe it's 20%? or less of women who can orgasm from penetration ALONE. MOST women need clitoral stimulat... (read in full...)
Does my coach like me or am I just being stupid?
Q. Hi im 17 years old, im very confused because of my Taekwondo coach behaviour towards me. Firstly I catch him staring quite a lot when im teaching someone or he sometimes stay near to me, and then help when I've done something wrong, this is no ...
A. 30 January 2014: #1 Switch teacher or dojo. He doesn't need to be flirting with his student.
Or you need to make a point of ignoring it. If that doesn't make him stop go back to advice #1 ... (read in full...)
I'm happy to be practical but I don't want to insult him
Q. Should I offer to let him use the diamond from my previous marriage? I know my boyfriend plans to propose, probably sometime this year. Neither of us make a lot of money. I still have my wedding/engagement rings from my first marriage (only b...
A. 30 January 2014: I'd sell the rings as well and not "offer" the diamonds for a new one.
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10 days and I haven't heard from him. Will I hear from him again?
Q. So I started talking to this guy on an app called Tinder and he was super cute and sweet and we talked for about 2 weeks and were talking about maybe dating and how much we liked each other already without even meeting. And then we went on two dates ...
A. 30 January 2014: Yep I agree with person12345 as well.
TRUST your gut.
Secondly.... Don't SET OUT to have a long distance relationship. They RARELY work out.
Block him and move on.
He was sweet til you two had a couple of dates after that you saw a gl... (read in full...)
I read my boyfriend's journal didn't like what I read but now I want to read it again!
Q. I'm usually not a snoop, I trusted my boyfriend when we were together, but I did something I'm ashamed of. I read his journal, and I didn't like what I read. It basically said his was unhappy with our relationship among other things, but nothing ...
A. 30 January 2014: Keep your mits off his journal.
If you can't get over the idea of him having been with others, now is the tie to walk away.
You have no RIGHT to read his journal.
If you really WANT to know, ASK him. Talk about don not pry. I don't think y... (read in full...)
Taken advantage of in business with friend
Q. Hi all, I have a problem with a friend that I have known since I was 12 yrs old. Recently she opened a shop and as I have a manufacturing business she asked me if I had any excess stock that she could put in her store on consignment. For those w...
A. 30 January 2014: I agree, treat her like you would any other client. She isn't paying on time, she isn't MOVING your stock. Maybe she needs to find another supplier?
Could be she is more concerned with the pregnancy then selling stuff.
Unfortunately... (read in full...)
Going back and forth on my decision to break up
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. In that period I have cheated on him 3 times, 1 being a one night thing, 2 lasting longer than that. My last affair has been in the last few weeks, and I started to lose feelings for my boyfriend. I ended ...
A. 29 January 2014: Set him free - AND yourself.
How do you justify the cheating?I mean how do you keep doing it if you think it's wrong? Does he know?
You will NEVER figure out why you do this TO him and TO your relationship if you don't think about it.
If ... (read in full...)
I know I'm just being jealous and my friend is just having fun but I feel like I'm being cheated
Q. Last night my friend and I went out on the town, I dressed up, put on a nice dress, did my makeup properly and for once made an effort. My friend came out in jeans and a t-shirt. She's put her boyfriend back in the dating zone (he still loves ...
A. 29 January 2014: I think you are MASSIVELY jealous of her and thus twisting what she says to make her seem mean.
Which I might add, is pretty petty for someone calling herself a "friend".
If she doesn't put money on the table when the bill is due, TELL her - ... (read in full...)
If he loves me why can't he say the words? Should I talk to him about this?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. He's absolutely wonderful and we spend as much time as possible together. I sleep over 4-5 times a week. Pretty much been playing house. Clean house, home cooked meals etc. but besides that we genuinely ...
A. 29 January 2014: He isn't ready?
I have to say it's "only" been 3 months and he treats you like he genuinely care, but if you are going to "demand" him saying ILY back before he is ready you will push him away more then anything.
What's the hurry?
If you... (read in full...)
Should people in a relationship discuss their sexual past? I'm uncomfortable hearing about boyfriend's past.
Q. Hi everyone, I had a question and I hope you can answer. If you are in a relationship with someone, is it alright to ask about their sexual past? My boyfriend was telling me about the women he has been with and it made me a little uneasy. H...
A. 29 January 2014: It's OK to not want to hear all the sordid details, but you really should tell him that it makes you uncomfortable.
At your age, we all know that our partner has had a past that includes sexual partners, but not wanting all the info is OK.
I... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable with ex putting naked photos of our son on Facebook. What should I do?
Q. This is a question concerning my ex, and our child. Hi Aunts and Uncle's, thank you for reading this, I hope to find some help. My ex and I are on good terms..kind of. We have a two y/o son and he has a 2 y/o daughter. My issue is, I'm so...
A. 29 January 2014: Just ask him nicely. If he doesn't take them down you can request Facebook to take them down.
I think keeping naked photos of kids on the Internet is a dumb idea, in a family album it's JUST fine, but not on the Internet... too many creepers... (read in full...)
We're not together anymore but we still act like a couple and have sex... it's starting to get to me. Advice please?
Q. Last month my boyfriend decided that we "take a break" (or in other words: break up) and we've been together for maybe more than three years, but we've known each other much longer than that because we originally were best friends. Him and I have b...
A. 29 January 2014: Then stop having sex, and if it helps YOU stop seeing him for a while - go no contact and FOCUS on your education.
The longer you two fool around the longer it will take for either of you to figure out if you WANT to be together or not.
Now if ... (read in full...)
He acts like he likes me but says he doesn't. Was he lying?
Q. I think he lied to me. I have known this guy for about 4 years, and we had to spend a bit of time together for work. Anyway, so he is naturally flirty, all the girls like him, and I do too, he's a bit cocky to be honest, and knows he's hot. Anyw...
A. 29 January 2014: Does it matter?
He said he didn't "like" you that way, doesn't mean he doesn't like you as a person and like to flirt with you.
And I agree with Anon female. Why tell him if you had no intentions of trying to pursue more (I think YOU were "... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a person cancels a date and doesn't reschedule right away?
Q. So, I met a guy online for a date two weekends ago and had an amazing time. The conversation flowed effortlessly, we kissed and had great chemistry, and both of us admitted that were were a little "twitterpated" by the end of the date. He made p...
A. 29 January 2014: Yea, I would have preferred a honest answer or comment instead of the "spiritual" approach, but then again, maybe that just goes to show YOU that he wasn't for you.
My guess is, he thought it sounded like a "nicer" let down then being straight... (read in full...)
When we argue my girlfriend holds her education over my head!
Q. Thanks for the responses in advance. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 4 years now. We live together. She is ready to graduate with her masters degree and I have recently graduated with my bachelors (I was not accepted...
A. 28 January 2014: Yea, I'm sorry I agree with CaringGuy
I would not allow anyone to call me stupid, specially since I know I'm not.
It seems like she is taking everything out on you then holding either her education over your heard or her "father" issues.... (read in full...)
Why send me a message, I went no contact with her!
Q. Hi there, it´s been almost two months now after she dumped me and I went no contact from the first day on. Now she sendt me something via facebook the day after my birthday, but I haven´t read it yet.... She broke up things and it wasn´t ve...
A. 28 January 2014: Like WiseOwlE said, BLOCK and DELETE her from your FB.
Maybe she thought you would be OK with a B-day greeting?
... (read in full...)
What can I do? My new teacher does not like my family. He used to teach my sister.
Q. I went to meet my teachers for my classes and when I did I found out that one of my teachers used to teach my sister. I know he hates my family. What do I do?...
A. 28 January 2014: If he makes a point of point that out to you, that he "hates" your family - I'd talk to the principal.
However, ALL you really CAN do is BE the best YOU can be in his class.
He doesn't HAVE to like you or your family, he DOES however have to ... (read in full...)
How much is too much in weekends away with friends?
Q. Can anyone help me as a married girl of 32 decide where to draw the line on whats acceptable in marriage in regards to weekends away with friends. My partner has always been selfish and spent new year with his mates in edinburgh. I was working so ...
A. 28 January 2014: How are you two doing financially?
Do you share a bank account and costs or pay 50/50? Does HE pay for his own way (for those 4 days) or would the costs go from "shared" money?
To be honest I don't really see why he can't go. Unless he spends... (read in full...)
What takes away attraction and charm suddenly when you actually want to take things forward!
Q. Hello cupid I have read a lot here where people mention they really hit it off until suddenly the girl or the guy becomes distant after two three months. Okay my question is that I understand when there is mystery,we are attracted to the unknown...
A. 28 January 2014: Well, there can be so many reasons to why it can drop off like that.
Without sex being in the picture - it can be that EITHER party wants sex to be in the picture and the other doesn't.
It can be that there is doubt if they are well matched. Yo... (read in full...)
I think I have a phobia against vomit?
Q. This weekend me and my boyfriend went to a party and stayed in a hotel. He had quite a bit to drink and as a result of this, threw it all back up when we got back to our room. ( I know this information isn't lovely but there is a point ) I think I ...
A. 27 January 2014: I can't handle people puking. AT ALL. Whether it's my kids, my husband, total stranger, person on TV - it makes me either sick to my stomach or vomit myself.
I can handle snot, pee, poo, blood, dirt but not puke.
Thankfully my husband handles ... (read in full...)
NEVER will do anything for a woman unless there is sexual intention involved.
Q. I had a discussion with a friend today about my upcoming trip, and she said that men NEVER will do anyhting for a woman unless there is sexual intention involved. I told her that I had and have plenty of guy friends. She asked me to think under w...
A. 27 January 2014: I don't know really.
When travelling the Greek island with friends we made a LOT of friends (some male) one of the group of girls I traveled with went to Canada and hung out with a couple of the guys we met (no sex) and they showed her around a... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend's friend do that? Am I overreacting?
Q. Why does my boyfriend's friend do that? Am I overreacting? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6months now. He seems crazy about me and I'm into him too. Hes really sweet and very nice. All my friends and family likes him and his frie...
A. 27 January 2014: 26? That's sad.
And I think the attempt of "hinting" how he would like for YOU to shave YOUR privates is even more sad.
Was this a random chick or a girl the other guy knows? Because if it was the latter HOW long til your BF is sharing pics of ... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to go to the same college he does, but that's a ways off and I can't say yes.
Q. My boyfriend has asked me if I would go to the same college as him I'm 17 he's 17 and I don't want to say yes because I feel like college is a time for me to be free ad explore and I love him I really do but recently he asked me if I would marry him ...
A. 27 January 2014: Speed dating?... (read in full...)
Is having an ex help out wrong?
Q. Hi. I started dating a divorced guy with kids three years after breaking up with alongterm partner (no kids myself). We lived together for a year but then he moved for work, we see each other once a month. As it happens this move for work put him in ...
A. 27 January 2014: I can see a LOT of drama in this already.
No, you weren't cheating and I would honestly tell your BF that if he rather you call him and ask him to fix stuff you will. However, I can't see why YOUR ex can't fix stuff if HE can fix stuff for his ... (read in full...)
My boss is not as friendly as he used to be!
Q. I'll keep this brief. I started working for this company about 9 months ago. A friend of mine is the executive there so he helped me out. The boss of my department showed me around the first day, normally it's another person that performs the tour...
A. 27 January 2014: Yes, I think he realized that being "buddy-buddy" with a new young girl at the office can be construed as INAPPROPRIATE so he is trying to NOT be your friend but be your boss.
I don't think it's his WIFE telling him to behave, I think it's his... (read in full...)
My ex has his baby mama, why is he trying to figure out what I'm doing?
Q. I am almost a yr out of my divorce. My ex used me and mentally and physically abused me. I was playing all bills and basically holding down the kids, house, and money. He was so lazy that I just got fed up. Toward the end of us going through ...
A. 27 January 2014: I agree FULLY with Auntie EM.
YOU got LUCKY and said no more. You walked away from a man who didn't treat you right, who lied and cheated - SHE(the baby-mama) can have him! It's not like he is some great prize....
He is hoping to WRECK your ha... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to go to the same college he does, but that's a ways off and I can't say yes.
Q. My boyfriend has asked me if I would go to the same college as him I'm 17 he's 17 and I don't want to say yes because I feel like college is a time for me to be free ad explore and I love him I really do but recently he asked me if I would marry him ...
A. 27 January 2014: No, be honest with him.
Tell him you aren't sure (if you aren't) which college you want to go to. And that you will pick one that is SUITABLE for YOUR choice in education, cost and location.
And PLEASE don't get married to please him. Who ... (read in full...)
Was this saleswoman inappropriate??
Q. I was recently in a gas station on the way to work, quickly getting a drink, it was 12pm and I was in my work uniform. I dont often go to this station but it is close to where i live. The woman behind the counter (40-48) approximately I...
A. 27 January 2014: I don't think she was trying to be rude, I think she was trying to make small talk - and neither of you seem very skilled in that.
You don't have to answer her questions, you can just buy your stuff and be on your way. None of it is her business... (read in full...)
LDR--he won't make an concessions...should I end things?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship and I am not sure if I should continue or not. We live only 88 miles apart so it is possible to see esch other during weekends. The problem is He lives in a small town and I doubt if I can find work there if...
A. 27 January 2014: No one says he HAS to sell his house, he could rent it out til the house is paid off or if you two decide that maybe you can live well together and work in his home town. The fact that he only sees SELL HOUSE as the only option makes me think to ... (read in full...)
LDR--he won't make an concessions...should I end things?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship and I am not sure if I should continue or not. We live only 88 miles apart so it is possible to see esch other during weekends. The problem is He lives in a small town and I doubt if I can find work there if...
A. 26 January 2014: To me it seems like you have come to an impasse. And not an easy one at all. Seems to me, (I could be wrong) that he expects YOU to be the one who gives up everything.
He doesn't want to move nor change jobs, which leave ONE option, THAT YOU do a... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being too friendly with her? He says he doesn't want to be mean to her
Q. About a week ago my boyfriend met a girl through some mutual friends. My boyfriend says this girl flirted with him like crazy as soon as she was introduced to him and even told my boyfriend that he seemed like an amazing guy and that she really ...
A. 26 January 2014: I agree, I would not think you should HAVE to feel comfortable either.
SHE isn't a friend. And they way it's going that's not what SHE is looking for. She is looking for more. And your BF? Either he is absolutely dumb or he isn't thinking... (read in full...)
How do I confront my housemate about his ridiculous obsession with my mother?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really appreciate the opportunity to speak to someone about my worries, i have never openly discussed my problems with an agony aunt before. One of my housemates, currently a student, has an unnatural and exaggerated attrac...
A. 26 January 2014: Ignore it, your mom is a grown woman and will know better then to think anything of it.
However if he does say anything about your mom in your presence tell him to get a clue, your mom has better things to do then date a kid.
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If I make him dinner do I have to include meat?
Q. This is really, I guess, a question about etiquette. I am a vegetarian and the guy that I am seeing is not. He's been doing a lot for me lately and I want to try and return the favor, so I said I would cook him dinner one night soon. My issue is, if ...
A. 25 January 2014: I'm not a vegetarian, but we still have "meat-less days" much to hubby's aversion lol. But he still enjoys the food.
I do baked pasta with a homemade tomato sauce (without meat) and add some cheese on top and bake it for 15 min. It's pretty g... (read in full...)
How to friendzone a hookup?
Q. I met this guy at a party last semester and we really hit it off!!! we hung out a few times and ended up having sex twice... unfortunatly the sex was terrible and his pen15 was ridiculously small... it makes me really sad to say but it kinda ruined ...
A. 25 January 2014: Just tell him you aren't interested in hooking up no more. Don't explain why. Telling a guy his wiener is too tiny and he sucks in bed is just cruel.
Just tell him you rather just stay friends, if he can handle that. If he can't then you are goin... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate for a woman to give fragrance as a gift to a man who she isn't in a relationship with?
Q. Is it inappropriate for a woman to give fragrance as a gift to a man who she isn't in a relationship with? I had an argument with my girlfriend when she saw a type of aftershave that I wouldn't normally buy at my place and asked where I got it. I ...
A. 25 January 2014:
Do I think that only one's partner can buy you fragrance? Be it cologne, body-spray, perfume... No.
Though I would NOT normally buy a male friend a cologne. Now let's say I had been out of the country and gotten it tax free or before it's ... (read in full...)
My ex still contacts me and it's hard to move on
Q. My ex and I broke up a year ago. Months we wouldn't talk and others we would. He always initiated contact, I never did. Last year for around 1 month we started hanging out. Somehow we knew that all we were doing was just having sex. However, I still ...
A. 25 January 2014: I think you hit bingo with you last sentence :
****I feel like he reaches out to me just for sex and because he feels alone. If he had somebody by his side he wouldn't be reaching out to me.*****
I think you are ABSOLUTELY right. You are a... (read in full...)
I dyed my hair and now look so different! Is this possible?
Q. Simple question really, I've had long dark hair all my life and never had comments like this once I dyed it lighter. I'm tanned, but I'd say my skin is more olive due to being mixed race and I have brown eyes. My hair reaches just under my breasts...
A. 24 January 2014: Look at Beyonce or Shakira? (to name a few) Neither of them are "natural blonds" but they both use the lighter hair color and it DOES make them stand out.
And like Cindy said, the MAJORITY of people from India have black hair/dark hair.
Most ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a person cancels a date and doesn't reschedule right away?
Q. So, I met a guy online for a date two weekends ago and had an amazing time. The conversation flowed effortlessly, we kissed and had great chemistry, and both of us admitted that were were a little "twitterpated" by the end of the date. He made p...
A. 23 January 2014: Have you talked to him since?
Usually I would assume that he is either seeing multiple women, not that into you or he is FACT is REALLY busy.
Cancelling a date and not immediately rescheduling doesn't always mean either of the first two. It co... (read in full...)
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