Does asking for pictures make him a bad guy?
Q. I can't believe it has come to this again. Last week a met this guy through Uni and instantly started messaging me on Facebook once he tracked me down. And has not stopped since. He was shaping into such a nice guy, even invited me out for ...
A. 19 February 2014: I forgot to answer your initial question.
Does it make him a bad guy?
No. But like FA so brilliantly pointed out - IT IS a symptom of how people communicate today and how they see others. Instant gratification Generation. That is your generati... (read in full...)
My parents or my boyfriend? I feel like my parents are making me choose!
Q. Hello, my name is Alexis and I have been dating my boyfriend for five years. My mom works in the same school that I go to and a year ago my boyfriend went into rehab for smoking weed and just doing stupid things that he shouldn't have done. During ...
A. 19 February 2014: I will also agree with Cerberus 100%.
I have 3 daughters and I would NOT be happy with them dating a guy like your BF.
And 10 months rehab for pot? No way. There is more to the rehab then weed/pot. It's good that he got help if he has a problem... (read in full...)
Does asking for pictures make him a bad guy?
Q. I can't believe it has come to this again. Last week a met this guy through Uni and instantly started messaging me on Facebook once he tracked me down. And has not stopped since. He was shaping into such a nice guy, even invited me out for ...
A. 19 February 2014: I think sex talk and asking for pictures SO early on is a bit of a red flag. Because it makes he seem like he is OBJECTIFYING you, seeing you as a body, walking vagina, NOT a person. BUT you can also look at in a more positive light and say he is ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from girlfriend's best friend.
Q. I am getting confused by a girl I have feelings for. I told her a while ago I really liked her and asked her how she felt she just said I'm a no go area. She likes talking to me but says not about that and we should forget about that, but looks at...
A. 19 February 2014: Sorry in advance, I'm going to be blunt with you.
YOU are a piss-poor excuse of a BF. You are so focused on this BEST friend of your GF that you are making up excuses as to WHY she could want more and WHY it's OK for you to lust after the best fri... (read in full...)
Partner says he wants to be with me forever but has "itches that need scratching" with other women.
Q. I've been with my partner for 5 years. We met at uni. It's a long distance relationship but we are planning in moving in together this year. We are both each other's first sexual partners. I was in a long term relationship before but never had in...
A. 19 February 2014: He is promising the "world" to you, saying ALL the things you WANT to HEAR, so that you will agree to him doing what he wants. And what he wants is to have sex with whomever is willing and has a pulse, then go "home" to you.
You say you don't wa... (read in full...)
Who am I to criticise his looks?
Q. I am 5'4 and quite short. I generally date guys of 6' and have always been very drawn to tall dark haired men 5'11 and above. I have met someone who is really nice and we get in really well. I am finding it hard to adapt to the fact he is quit...
A. 19 February 2014: You like what you like.
Most people have a "type", sometimes we try someone who doesn't quite fit the mold, sometimes it works, other times it doesn't. My husband is NOT my "usual" type, and I'm not his. Somehow we just work well together... (read in full...)
Husband has many female friends. They don't want to be friends with me, just him. Am I overreacting in being upset?
Q. My husband got a lot of female friends that called him at least 5 times a day for advice and to talk, he told me to talked to them cause they are nice and he wants us to be friends too but when I tried to reach out for them (add them on Facebook) ...
A. 19 February 2014: My husband has SEVERAL females "friends" on Facebook - they aren't "friends" in the sense that they chat, see or hang out with each other - they are former co-workers. Nothing hanky panky going on. One had trouble at her work place and needed some ... (read in full...)
Is my husband trying to get the custody of my child?
Q. Hi I and my husband are getting divorce a "friendly" one! we got help from a mediator,so no lawyer. My husban is a plaintiff which the mediator said it doesnt matter but I felt in some ways she has my husbans's side! close to the court day i goft my ...
A. 19 February 2014: You agreed to no Child support?
If you have all these doubts I'm sorry, I would contact a lawyer. I think having a friendly divorce can CERTAINLY involve LEGAL advice.
How old is the child?... (read in full...)
He's been so disrespectful to me, I didn't even want to contact him except to tell him I'm moving so he can get his things!
Q. The guy I was seeing for a few months broke up with me a few weeks back. Well, I say broke up, he more or less ignored me til I got the hint it was over. When I finally spoke to him and asked why, he said it was because I was too much of a flirt ...
A. 18 February 2014: Let it go, it's NOT going to DO YOU any good to throw more DRAMA into this silliness. What good will it do that you TELL him you saw what he did? YOU are no longer his GF - he doesn't OWE you not to talk to her no longer. GET over it.
Pack ... (read in full...)
Do I keep blocking him or unblock him? I think how I've moved on is the best revenge?
Q. I had a few posts here and got really good advice. My ex dumped me nearly a year ago. We talked a few times. I initiated contact most of the times. I couldn't let go and get over him because we planned to get married before we broke up and he's my ...
A. 18 February 2014: Getting over heartbreak can be a long a bumpy road, the fact that you are wondering if you should block/unblock him from your life tells me that you are NOT over him.
You don't NEED revenge to be happy. If you think you do, you will end up being... (read in full...)
How to save a relationship from being destroyed by depression?
Q. My boyfriend and I have officially been together two months today. I know that may not seem like a very long time, but things became serious very quickly. We met in September and it was love at first sight the moment we walked into class (he is a ...
A. 18 February 2014: I will also agree with KC
He isn't clinically depressed, and unfortunately for you, he isn't OVER her either.
I would end it, walk away. Don't try and be his "friend" or if he reaches out and want something physical with you, deny it.
It s... (read in full...)
I'm worried about him being a dad to our daughter!
Q. my daughters father is still going through a messy divorce. been seperated two years, divorce is over a year and three months now. our little girl is 3 months old. he has shown mixed signals of his interest in her. i feel like he uses me as a ...
A. 18 February 2014: Are you living together? If so, I'd consider moving out.
As for Christmas presents.. well, she was a month old so she wouldn't have a clue or care about Christmas, BUT.... getting her a stuffed toy or an outfit would have been just fine. He did n... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend didn't make enough effort on Valentines Day.
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months dint give me anything for valentines day, I'm not being superficial but I thought he'd atleast put in some effort because I took a lot of time in picking his gift and brought him 2 things, not that I was expecting anything ...
A. 18 February 2014: Because you are not being honest with yourself. You say you weren't EXPECTING anything in return, but YOU WERE/ARE. Otherwise you wouldn't have been disappointed.
My advice TALK to him. Tell him about expectations for days like Valentin... (read in full...)
I got involved with a male colleague who's not single. Now he's cut me out of his life. How do I move on and forgive myself?
Q. Hi all I'm not asking for niceness but I feel extremely low. I stupidly fell for a guy that was attached, we were good friends and he helped me through a lot of personal stuff, he was with a girl he bought a house with. He told everyone at work...
A. 18 February 2014: Ok you have gotten 3 warning to stay away? Then that should be your priority TO STAY away.
The guy is a sleaze, He tried to see how far he could go with you and when he realized you WANTED more, it was over.
How do you forgive yourself? By rea... (read in full...)
I just met this guy a week ago and already we fight all the time!
Q. hi everyone. I just met this guy its been a week now, my problem I just don't understand him at all. we suppose to be happy but to my surprise we fight all the time. when we have to see each it must be on the street because where he stays he was ...
A. 18 February 2014: Just WALK (or run) from this guy it's been a week and he is already trying to get you to do things you are uncomfortable with, you think he will stop over time? No, it will only escalate..
Why do you think he and his ex broke up? I bet you, it'... (read in full...)
My friends want to move abroad without their young-adult children
Q. Am interested what you think of this situation. Some friends of min are bith 52, and have 2 kids: girl of 18 and boy of 20. The parents want to emigrate from england to spain on a permanent basis. The kids dont want to go with them. But the p...
A. 18 February 2014:
The kids are 18+ so they can make up their own choice of where they want to live.
You GF might not agree with it, but it's NOT her life, nor her children.
My guess is, the idea of moving to Spain is not something that has come out of the blue... (read in full...)
How can he love me and want to share me?
Q. I have met a man who seems wonderful in every way. We have an incredible connection on so many levels yet I have a question. He has said to me that if I feel the desire to have sex with another man in his presence he is ok with that. Even turned on ...
A. 18 February 2014: Yes, I would consider it a deal breaker for one simple reason, I feel a guy will give that kind of "permission" because he then feels free to do likewise (UNLESS he has severe ED and thinks he can't please you sexually). I saw it countless times ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is acting sneaky with his laptop and phone!
Q. I live with my boyfriend of 5 years and have always trusted him but have been noticing recently that he acts sneaky with his phone and laptop. If I come into the room he will swipe everything off his page so that I can't see he also always makes ...
A. 17 February 2014: It this is fairly new behavior and he isn't doing this because he has been either CAUGHT doing something wrong or ACCUSED of doing something wrong - I would talk to him.
I would tell him straight up that it's not adding up. And that after that man... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me? He's cancelled a couple of dates.
Q. I met a guy about a month ago and we have been talking every single day ever since. We are both artists and musicians and I love to talk to him, it's like we never run out of things to talk about. We went on our first date a few weeks ago and it ...
A. 17 February 2014: So when he cancels it's because he gets called in for extra shifts or because someone is sick?... (read in full...)
He bugged me and bugged me for a nude picture and I never gave in, but I want what we had back! Advice, please!
Q. Alright so this isn't really a question but more of a combination of a question and a rant. It might be really long but I really need help with this. Its kind of a long story so last year was my first year in highschool. my first seme...
A. 17 February 2014: YOU need to tell him to go FLY A KITE, and then you need to STOP texting him and stop talking to him. UNLESS it's REQUIRED (as in with school work)
They guy is not accepting that you told him NO - which means he has NO absolutely NO respect ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a man and love his personality but the spark is not there. I don't know how to proceed.
Q. Hi aunts, I've got a big dilemma! I've been seeing a guy that is not my type and I'm not really attracted to for the last 2 months. I was attracted to something about him initially when I first met him and wanted him to take me out. He did ask ...
A. 16 February 2014: I think you know what you SHOULD do. Break it off. Tell him he is a lovely guy but you just can't feel a spark.
Don't tell him his penis looks weird or that you couldn't get turned on by him though, I'd leave that out.
You took him for a test d... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me? He's cancelled a couple of dates.
Q. I met a guy about a month ago and we have been talking every single day ever since. We are both artists and musicians and I love to talk to him, it's like we never run out of things to talk about. We went on our first date a few weeks ago and it ...
A. 16 February 2014: It's OK to cancel specially if work has a tendency to pop up and ruin a plan. Work should be a priority.
BUT for him to call the SAME day and expect that you just sit at home waiting for him, not a god sign.
Personally, I would tell him t... (read in full...)
Am I too unrealistic in wanting to find a guy who's not into porn or casual sex?
Q. Please don't be nasty with your replies but I would like to know the chances of finding someone who; 1. Hasn't got much of an interest in porn when in a relationship 2. Hasn't had a one night stand or a friend with benefits 3. Doesn't see...
A. 16 February 2014: I think you need to just STICK to your beliefs. You will met a LOT of guys your age who things FWB is the thing, same with porn and so forth.
Which means, you NEED to go slow when dating/meeting guys. And you might WANT to avoid making too many... (read in full...)
Should I have talked to my Ex Husband?
Q. My ex husband and I have been separated for 3 and half years, due to his constant online cheating. After the split, things got ugly and he turned into a very ugly person, calling me names and threats, our kids dont talk to him. I saw him this wee...
A. 16 February 2014: Well done lady! YOU did the right thing.
Don't second guess yourself! HE made the choice to alienate YOU and YOUR shared kids, why should you now be nice to him? You weren't rude, you just decided not to waste time on being polite.
You cou... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't believe in Valentines -- should I be hurt?
Q. My boyfriend of only a few month. Didnt see me on valentines day. And didnt get me a card or present. When i asked about it? He just said he didnt believe in all that none sense. I'm a little bit hurt about it but not sure whether i'm being over ...
A. 16 February 2014: I don't do Valentine's day, my husband doesn't either - sometimes I sees something while out and about (around Valentine's Day) but generally speaking it's not a big deal in our household.
Did you GET him anything? Card, candy? Or are you of the b... (read in full...)
He's older, divorced, and giving me mixed messages about our arrangement!
Q. I'm seeing a guy who constantly gives me mixed messages, he's older, divorced and has two kids, we've been seeing each other just under three months. It started off with the intention of being a FWB arrangement, but that quickly changed, long story ...
A. 16 February 2014: You are wasting your time and emotions.
Like Auntie Daisy pointed out, there are many red flags and NOTHING you mention is positive, so WHY are you doing this to yourself? Why do you think you somehow OWE him to stick it out? Are you trying t... (read in full...)
She knew I liked her, ignored me for a year, and is now engaged to someone else. Why message me now?
Q. So after being ignored by a girl for a year because I told her that I liked her. She has since gotten engaged she sends me a random faceb00k message after a year..."Hi. How you doing?". I reply simply..."I am OK, and u?". She replies..."all good". ...
A. 16 February 2014: Eh, like Auntie Babbit said, she wanted an ago stroke and YOU would do.
I would remove her from your Facebook - un-friend her and block her, there is NO NEED to stay in touch.... (read in full...)
My LDR called me names and doesn't want to speak with me anymore.
Q. Why is he so horrible? He's really broken my heart:(? So my bf have been dating 10 months long distance where he'd call me all the time. But lately he had been acting weird lately not calling as much, no I miss you to love you. Today I went out ...
A. 16 February 2014: I agree with Ciar,
It's not adding up at all. My guess would be that is he either SEEING someone or interested in someone closer to his location and when you went to a party without "permission" he pulled the "I dreamt you cheated" - doesn't ... (read in full...)
How can I be intimate with my fiancé without upsetting my daughter? She hears us despite us being quiet.
Q. Ok, need help on this one! This is sort of embarrasing but I need someone to tell me what I should do. I have 3 children from my last marriage. I am widowed. I finally meet a wonderful man, and we are engaged to be married in July. I have a cape c...
A. 15 February 2014: How old is she?
If she is still up at 11, I'm guessing she is 15-16+? I would buy her some headphones - if she can hear you two, she can put those on.
She is quite sassy isn't she? I agree that you DO need to remind her that YOU are the pare... (read in full...)
The guy I've been dating is torn between taking things further with me or his female best friend. What should I do?
Q. Really need help So since early January I have been seeing this lovely guy, and we both really like each other and everything has been going so well but now just as we are on the verge of becoming boyfriend and girlfriend to one another he has t...
A. 15 February 2014: Honestly, it sounds to me that he is keeping you stringed along in case it doesn't work out with the "friend".
I would tell him that YOU have made a choice to END it. Don't sit around and wait for a guy to make up his mind of he wants to be with ... (read in full...)
.Women I am attracted to run when they learn I am also involved with a man
Q. Hey everyone... I'm having some struggles with my sexuality/sexual identity. I am a female, and I am in love with a man. We plan on getting married, we are both very attracted to one another and we're super happy. The thing is, I am also very att...
A. 15 February 2014: Like Cerberus mentioned there is polygamous-groups or swingers you can consider, but being bi sexual doesn't mean you should be with BOTH men and women at the same time. It means you are attracted to both.
I understand that if you met a bisexual... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or could he be cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and have lived together for 8 months. Recently, I've started to feel a bit paranoid that he might be cheating. I noticed he was getting emails from a swingers website about parties and ...
A. 14 February 2014: He works real-estate? So yes, HE would have to take good care of himself, look PUT together and yes, SMELL good. Who wants to buy a house from a unkept grubby looking and sweat smelling guy?
Have you even been to an open house (where they try and ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 14 February 2014: I think YOU should give the advice YOU feel is right for the OP, and let the other aunties and uncles give their 2 cents, how they see fit.
I understand the sentiment that not shaming ANYONE would be preferable, but I also think people shoul... (read in full...)
I'm a very sensitive person and I always get drawn to troubled souls. Should I follow my head or my heart on this one?
Q. I have just seen a guy again who I met a year ago. We get on very well and have a connection. I have one dilemma .I am 39 a mother of an amazinh boy. This man is 35 with no permenant job and my gut feeling is that he may be a little troubled. Im a ...
A. 14 February 2014: I agree with WiseOwlE
Don't take in strays, unless we are talking cat or dogs. A human being, you can't MAKE him feel better, do better byt "helping" him out or by loving him.
He SHOULD look to put himself in a position where HE can GIVE some... (read in full...)
I tolerated him making changes but it's killing me when he goes out!
Q. Dear Cupid, I do not know what to do. I am in a 4.5 years of relationship. Like 3 weeks ago, eveeything started to change. They go every friday to play volleyball or play poker and I used to go with him. One day, he told me whenever I go with him...
A. 14 February 2014: I agree with SVC 100%
Sorry, the fat lady had sung already. (with that I mean it's over )
I would also guess he has somewhat of a gambling problem if you all of a sudden is bad luck? What a load of superstitious BS - obviously you swallowed it... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea for me to get in touch with my ex?
Q. I'm not sure whether to contact my ex or not. We haven't spoken for a year and a half. The last time I spoke to him, he told me that he didn't want us to contact each other again. We used to have a lot of arguments, and now that I am older and a lot ...
A. 14 February 2014: I would leave this bear alone.
He already STATED that you two should have no further contact.
He has moved on and I have no doubt the arguments you two had wasn't ALL your fault so calling now to apologize? 1 1/2 later? Seems like a pretexts ... (read in full...)
Is it strange when a man doesn't have a picture of you in his office at work?
Q. I've been engaged for a couple of years. My fiance is a department head and he works with all women and very few men. The girl he dated before, he had a picture of them together on his office desk and word love was on the picture frame. ...
A. 14 February 2014: I think you equate him having HAD a picture of his ex and not you with HE must have LOVED her more.
And that isn't true. He has you on his computer, not in a frame, so every time he sits down to work, guess what? HE SEES you.
I agree with FA a ... (read in full...)
After four years everything he does irritates me
Q. I have been with my partner for 4 years. we Live Together and until towards the end of last year everything seemed fine with us. recently though everything he does/or doesnt do rather irritates the life out of me. he no longer comes to bed at ...
A. 14 February 2014: You two live together, is the place YOURS or HIS? or do you share it? Rent or own?
If you own it together, you two need to either SELL it and get 50/50, which means you BOTH need to find new homes.
If it's yours, give him 30 days to move out... (read in full...)
Will I have to be involved in my child's life in the future?
Q. I had a night out 2 weeks ago and slept with this girl who was on holiday in the city where I live. We exchanged email addresses and now I'm told she is pregnant. I honestly don't know how that happened because we used a condom, and sure I ...
A. 14 February 2014: I agree with the other aunties.
The likelihood of her being pregnant and it is yours, is small. However, it IS possible, all it takes is ONE time. A condom can fail for sure, I have a 9 year old daughter that proves JUST that.
Auntie Daisy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't last long in bed!
Q. Me and my common-law husband been together for 5 years and just had our first born, and he is still releasing himself to early, maybe 1-2 mins max, and i dont get to finish or sometimes anywhere near finish. He never had this problem before with his ...
A. 14 February 2014: I'd try using condoms for a while, the DO take some of the sensation away and CAN help him last longer.
I'd also suggest more foreplay so YOU are WAY closer to climax before penetration.
He kind of sounds selfish in bed.... (read in full...)
Wondering if he sent a Valentines Day card to his ex-girlfriend
Q. We have been engaged for 3 years now. The first year we dated I found out he sent his ex-girlfriend a birthday card. She had broke up with him and he was hurt pretty bad by the breakup since he loved her, wanted to marry her and he proposed to her ...
A. 14 February 2014: There could be a TOTALLY harmless reason why the price on the card was higher then the one on the receipt. It could have been MARKED down for the holiday.
If he gave YOU a card and there was ONLY one CARD on the receipt THAT would be the most log... (read in full...)
My mother is doing her best to come between me and my g/f
Q. I've been dating my gf for a little over a year now. Out of the that I was deployed for 8 months. From the moment my mom met my gf she said she was rude to her. My sister / friends all like her and thinks she is a great girl and I love her, While ...
A. 14 February 2014: I would ASK your mom to respect your choice in GF. I would tell her the MORE she pushes for you to dump your GF the more she is PUSHING herself out of your life. You also need to explain it's NOT a competition. Your GF is not her RIVAL she is your ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014: I guess I NEED to add that MY answer wasn't to BASH women who can't or don't breast feed. Or to criticize their choice. It was a simple statement that for ME, my boobs worked as intended. Because if we get down to the nitty gritty THAT IS WHY we ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014: Boobs are boobs.
TasteofIndia put it so simply - we want what we don't have.
Women with smaller boobs want bigger ones (at least for a while) and woman with bigger ones want smaller ones. The age old dilemma.
Ask any man if he can change the... (read in full...)
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