We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 30 March 2014: Kids are resilient. They takes thing is stride, it's always harder for us grown up to move on.
However, when you are ready to date the next guy I would wait a good 6-12 months before introducing them (your daughter and your date) to void that in ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 29 March 2014: He knows he messed up a good thing, that is why he dropped of the radar (my guess).
And I think it's OK to miss him and to wish things had been different, but after a while you have to accept that HE wasn't IT for you. And that it DOESN'T reflect ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 29 March 2014:
He doesn't seem capable of relationships.
I would tell him that you want no further contact. Because being IN contact with him DOES NOTHING for you, other then remind you that it didn't work out. And as much as you seem to blame yourself (an... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 14 February 2014: I think YOU should give the advice YOU feel is right for the OP, and let the other aunties and uncles give their 2 cents, how they see fit.
I understand the sentiment that not shaming ANYONE would be preferable, but I also think people shoul... (read in full...)
My mother is doing her best to come between me and my g/f
Q. I've been dating my gf for a little over a year now. Out of the that I was deployed for 8 months. From the moment my mom met my gf she said she was rude to her. My sister / friends all like her and thinks she is a great girl and I love her, While ...
A. 14 February 2014: I would ASK your mom to respect your choice in GF. I would tell her the MORE she pushes for you to dump your GF the more she is PUSHING herself out of your life. You also need to explain it's NOT a competition. Your GF is not her RIVAL she is your ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone who has a similar job in reception or administration that can give me some tips
Q. Can anyone give me abit of advice for starting a new job. I know its not a relationship question but its really getting me down. I'm by far a confident person, infact I'm worried that I won't be able to do the job properly and perform as they had ...
A. 14 February 2014: Are you being trained or just thrown in the job?
If you are being trained, take notes - don't just nod, and pretend you understand everything - ASK if you aren't sure, then JOT it down. Rather ask the same question twice then be clueless. Take you... (read in full...)
Tarot reader told me to end my relationship. Should i?
Q. Laat night I went to a tarort reader, she pulled out a card involving my partner.. she said he wasnt any gd for more and I need to make the descision to tell him its not working anymore as he wouldnt tell me hinself he moved away in November to work ...
A. 14 February 2014: Cards and reading aside.
You relationship IS over. He moved away without telling you? He has been removing himself from the relationship WAY before he moved. The MOMENT he got the job and didn't TELL you about it he had one foot out the door.
... (read in full...)
How can I stop my ex from harassing me? He wants me back, yet his actions are distressing me
Q. my ex boyfriend wont leave me alone. ever since he broke up with me, he has been getting into trouble, showing up in all of my classes, and he even asked my best friend out. we only dated for about a month, and even though i told him that i don't...
A. 14 February 2014: Suck it up anyways, and TALK to your parents. They will be mad but they will also support and help you, don't you think?
... (read in full...)
Should I tell him this hot sexy guy wants to take me out for Valentine's Day to make him stop being so cold?
Q. What should I do, boyfriend is breaking my heart.? My boyfriend and I usually argue about little things but this time I was really hurt and when we argued I was really angry and said he doesn't deserve me. I felt really bad and apologi...
A. 13 February 2014: I agree with CaringGuy it would more the likely backfire.
Personally, I think you need to STOP catering to your BF, if he doesn't want to talk and doesn't want to end it, then YOU decide how much more of this semi-silent treatment you are willing ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont help clean house!
Q. I need some tips on encouraging my girlfriend be a little more helpful around the house. We have been together 3 years and have lived together in an apartment for the past year. I will be the first to admit that I am not crazy about cleaning, but I ...
A. 13 February 2014: I agree with FA.
The chore list isn't working. Personally, it did for me with my first BF and with my husband (up to a point) I don't expect 50/50 as far as chores. My husband worked long hours when he was active duty - he was away a lot on train... (read in full...)
What is the problem with me and dating?
Q. Hello cupids. I ended my last relationship on the 30th of december 2012 and have been single for over a year. It hurts me that non of my relationships always see new year and am also always single on vals day so is going to be this vals day. The t...
A. 13 February 2014: First of.. Vals day? I assume you mean Funerary 14th - the commercial holiday to help jewelers and florists make some money between Christmas/New Years and Mother's Day. That is really ALL it is. It's not some galactic Day of Love. So do not feel ... (read in full...)
My sister is using funerals as a way to pick up guys??
Q. I'm concerned about my older sister, recently we've attended two funerals (neither individual knew the other, one was a business colleague of my Dad's, one was a neighbor killed in a car crash). I'm 19, my sister's 24, and single. It's her attitude...
A. 13 February 2014: Unless she is totally BLATANT about it, you never know where you will met someone special. Some people look for dates at weddings others at funerals. And as long as she doesn't start to go to funerals of people she don't know AT ALL, it's not that ... (read in full...)
I'm affectionate when drunk but not so much when sober. Is this guy just confused by my behavior?
Q. Hey guys this guy I've been dating told me he is completely besotted by me. What does this mean? I feel like the next day he was distant and cold, he kept saying I clearly didn't want him there which I did. My friends think this all could be because ...
A. 13 February 2014: If you don't put yourself "out there" and TALK to him (not over the phone or text) then you might as well give up on the guy.
HE isn't a mind reader and NEITHER are you. So unless you TALK you won't know what the problem is. You can ONLY guess an... (read in full...)
College peer said something which hit a nerve. How should I react to this considering the issues I have?
Q. Slight problem, but this ones getting to me. I am at college at the moment, and i'm doing some GCSE retakes because I decided it would be better than going straight on to A-levels. My GCSE cl...
A. 13 February 2014: Ignore him, that would be my advice. Why stoop to his level? He KNEW what might hurt your feelings for whatever reason, so again, WHY let him see it hurt you?
I have been called lesbian before, don't phase me at all, because I have no doubts a... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014: I guess I NEED to add that MY answer wasn't to BASH women who can't or don't breast feed. Or to criticize their choice. It was a simple statement that for ME, my boobs worked as intended. Because if we get down to the nitty gritty THAT IS WHY we ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014: Boobs are boobs.
TasteofIndia put it so simply - we want what we don't have.
Women with smaller boobs want bigger ones (at least for a while) and woman with bigger ones want smaller ones. The age old dilemma.
Ask any man if he can change the... (read in full...)
How can I stop my ex from harassing me? He wants me back, yet his actions are distressing me
Q. my ex boyfriend wont leave me alone. ever since he broke up with me, he has been getting into trouble, showing up in all of my classes, and he even asked my best friend out. we only dated for about a month, and even though i told him that i don't...
A. 13 February 2014: Yep, talk to your parents and I would consider talking to the school counselor. Him calling you "IT" is a form of bullying and having his friend call you a slut to "support him? Yes, that needs to STOP.
Do not take him back, even if you think th... (read in full...)
My ex is pregnant, she told me just after we broke up. I offered my support and she rejected that. Anyone else been in this situation? Help!
Q. Well here it goes, recently I got back with an Ex girlfriend who I had dated a few years ago, and I can genuinely say that I loved her then, and that things appeared to be going well second time round. Then it all went downhill. One weekend and ...
A. 13 February 2014: I agree with Auntie BimBim
First I would make 100% sure there is a baby. How long ago did you two break up and when did she announce she was pregnant?
If she IS pregnant - I would ask for a DNA test after birth. She might be offended but if t... (read in full...)
Is it weird?
Q. Is it weird for me to really like someone I don't know? Okay I've seen this guy a few times in public we have never spoke before but I like him.We know of each other over social networks and stuff but I don't want to approach him because he might ...
A. 13 February 2014: You have a crush, nothing weird about it.
I would just say hi when you met him next and strike up a conversation. Who knows he might be a good guy or.. you might find he is not what you expected.... (read in full...)
How can I approach this sensitive subject?
Q. So this is not a dating question, but it is a very sensitive subject that I'm not sure how to approach. I go out of town for business quite a bit, and I have a friend, a former coworker, stay with my dog when I go. He works in the area, but his home ...
A. 13 February 2014: Try live in the South. It's VERY common that people don't flush paper (Toilet paper that is). Specially, if they have an older in/or above ground septic tank.
My advice double or triple the bags in the can before you leave and ask him to please e... (read in full...)
What do you do when its always you doing the contacting? if stop I may lose what friends I have.
Q. We all get busy in life, work, family, hobbies, etc and at times it's not easy to see friends/acquaintances on a regular basis, some people we see regularly, some not often at all. Sometimes I feel like I am always the one doing the texting or ...
A. 12 February 2014: My guess is it's a pattern.
I have a friend whom I adore, SHE is always the one who contacts first. It's like she has the ability to know I'm thinking of her and calling her. She seems to manage to call me first. It's kind of a standing joke wit... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being rushed into marriage by my boyfriend, my parents and even my friends
Q. I feel like I'm being rushed into marriage by my boyfriend, my parents and even my friends to a point. Last week, during a family meal my boyfriend proposed to me in front of his family(Mum,dad and two brothers and their partners and kids.) I...
A. 12 February 2014: You need to sit him down and tell him that you ARE having second thoughts about getting engaged and THIS IS WHY: (and I quote you)
"It might be nothing but he deletes all his emails, texts, phone records. He won't answer calls if I'm in the room... (read in full...)
Does he like me or are we nothing to each other?
Q. Hey guys so there is this guy and he's 9 years older than me anyway he's is constantly hot and cold like it's okay for him to say he likes me a lot and misses me but if I say it back he's like stop rushing into things like we've known each other a ...
A. 12 February 2014: I agree with Cindy.
Stop wasting any more time on a guy who is this immature and playing little mind games.
... (read in full...)
Why is my ex adding me on social media sites?
Q. Ok, so a couple months ago my boyfriend and I broke up. We only went out for about three months. He was nice and sweet I guess and I liked him a lot, but I didn't really ever get close to him. After three months I was still very shy around him. ...
A. 11 February 2014: My guess is to keep taps on you. You dumped him so now he is actually a little curious about who you are.
Personally, I'd block him from "liking" anything on your wall/instagram, twitter and twatter.. whatever sites you are on. Check your set... (read in full...)
Is it normal for female friends to tease their male friends with their breasts?
Q. Is it normal for female friends to tease their male friends with their breasts? Since I met them in college, my two female friends tend to mess with me. They know I can be a bit, what's the word...embarrassed when I see their cleavage or something. ...
A. 11 February 2014: So what it's a pair of boobs! You make it sound like they just showed you the answers of the universe! BOOBS, my man... News flash... ALL WOMEN have them!
However, flashing you for a meal? seriously? I would actually laugh it off and NOT pay ... (read in full...)
Should I keep flirting or tell him I like him?
Q. I currently got to beauty school for nail tech. There I met a guy from the barber class. We talk on a daily basis, but the last couple of times we seen each other his been extra friendly, like last night he gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. ...
A. 11 February 2014: I'm with SVC - ask him for coffee afterwards. I would NOT tell him anything til you actually know if he is single. If you go for coffee he might bring up a GF (if he has one)... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I'm freaking out over nothing or if I'm just freaking out over sex.
Q. Ok, umm, I really need some help with this issue. So me and my boyfriend have been together for awhile now and were really happy together but I feel like he's pressuring me to have sex with him or to do anything sexual. Now before you start ...
A. 11 February 2014: You need to get counseling and deal with the past - rape and abuse you don't just hide under the rug and hope it doesn't show it's ugly head later.
Tisha gave you some good website link and a hotline number USE them. GET help.
And it IS OK ... (read in full...)
My ex can't cope with me seeing another guy I dated before him
Q. I dated a guy last year for two months who wasnt over his ex and we broke up. We had a great time but I could see he was still hurting over her and bowed out gracefully. Soon after I met a separated guy who was close to divorce after a 4 year s...
A. 11 February 2014: I agree with SVC - STOP the contact with your "resent ex" 100% - he dumped you because YOU saw though him. He was QUITE content being "separated" but not divorced, because it game him an excuse and a cover as to why he couldn't be totally committed ... (read in full...)
I thought I was doing the right thing by being honest but he turned it against me
Q. I recently met someone and felt it right to be upfront about the fact I had ( several years ago now) been involved in an abusive relationship. I left that relationship with nothing, emotionally,financially and tbh was completely broken and had to ...
A. 11 February 2014: I think it really depends on HOW long you have known the guy and how much information you volunteered.
But I don't think it's "wrong" to be honest about your past at all. Instead of feeling like it back fired, look at it as a learning curve, a... (read in full...)
Is it unusual for a man of his age to take lots of photographs of himself?
Q. This might seem like an odd question, but it's in the context of a lot of other behaviour that I won't go into. Is it unusual for a man in his 30's or 40's to take lots of photographs of himself - I mean lots of him doing activities but a...
A. 11 February 2014: I don't find it strange, but a little unusual for sure. However in the day and age with people plastering "selfies" all over the Internet, having some self-portrait seems kind of tame. Since he is 30-40 I can see why he does the photos instead of ... (read in full...)
Do I just tell her outright that I like her?
Q. Ok so there is a girl at work who I get on with really well, we have loads in common and we are really on the "same page" with all our thoughts/opinions. I'm 22 and she is 19. I like her, but she has a boyfriend of two years. All of my colleagues ...
A. 11 February 2014: I agree with WiseOwlE
No, you keep your mouth shut. SHE has a BF. You "declaring" your crush is going to make it awkward for HER and for you at work.
BE professional.
Even if she "question" her relationship she is STILL with him. Last but... (read in full...)
I sent an embarassing drunk text to my ex. Should I apologize or leave it?
Q. My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. We sometimes see each other in mutual events. We are friendly with each other at the events. Sometimes we talk to each other, sometimes we don't I drunk texted him two times before. The first time was on my b...
A. 10 February 2014: Definitely delete his number. And maybe consider drinking less.... (read in full...)
We're trying again, this time without it officially being a relationship, but he's wanting more than I'm comfortable giving
Q. I recently split with my boyfriend a month ago as the relationship was breaking down constant arguements and my lack of trust. I tried to sort it with him and he didn't show up and not a word was said. So I decided to end it. We met up a week later ...
A. 10 February 2014: I agree with Cerberus.
It's not going to work a second time around unless you BOTH are dedicated to fixing whatever past problems you have. Going slow is no use.
I'd honestly walk away.... (read in full...)
Should I work it out with the father?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and we now have two children together. Our emotional situation has been constantly insecure. I learned early on he had been lying to me about a porn addiction and we tried hard to work through ...
A. 10 February 2014: You think watching your Dad abuse your mom (be it verbally or physically and then constantly fight) is better then having 1 single parent who focus fully on the kids is better?
He will still be their dad if you kick him out (or leave) but you shou... (read in full...)
I promised my Mom I would get her a new house someday but now I don't want to!
Q. I promised my mom I would get her a house someday and now, she wants one. She just got re-married and he was bankrupt. She needs me for the credit etc. But I don't want to. I only meant that I'd save up to get her a house when I was able but now, I ...
A. 10 February 2014: IT IS OK to tell you mom no. I can't afford to being in on a house with you.
YOU ARE NOT responsible for your mom and her financial and romantic choices.
I would invest in life-lock to ensure she doesn't use your info without your knowledge. ... (read in full...)
I need help with my in-laws! I need a break!
Q. I'm feeling really mixed up right now. Please help. I've recently bought a house with my partner of 12 years. We're very happy together. I try to tell myself that his parents are good people. They've financially helped us buy the house and th...
A. 10 February 2014: Get a job that takes you out of the house? Or a hobby? Take classes? Something to get you out of the house.
Personally, I would tell your partner that it would be nice if they called first, before showing up. But not all people are raised that way... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 10 February 2014: I get that you nagged about the drinking, I mean what MOTHER wouldn't?
I also get that you feel responsible for what happened and maybe you had part blame in it, but you DIDN'T make him depressed, you DIDN'T make him turn to drinking. My guess is... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret leaving a nice guy and going back to their abusive exes?
Q. Why do some women, do not like romance, they say they would like to meet a nice guy , but when they do, they go back to the guy before, who was mentally, an abusesive, to them? when you start going out ,they tell you how bad their ex was to them,...
A. 10 February 2014: I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou.
It doesn't matter. They are FREE to choose their life and whom they date/marry/love.
I do think that MANY women who go back to an abusive ex believes they don't DESERVE better. You can tell them they do til you ... (read in full...)
My Bf admitted that he sometimes thinks about other girls during sex with me. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hey everyone, there is something that is bothering me and I don't know what to think about it, so I would like your opinions. Last night, my boyfriend and I had had a couple of drinks and were talking (and maybe saying more than we would have if...
A. 10 February 2014: If he was smart, he wouldn't have mentioned that to you. It's almost as bad as the question:" Do I look fat in these pants/dress?" No matter what he says, it can be interpreted as "wrong".
He says no honey you look great - then he MUST be lying. I... (read in full...)
How will I be able to learn sailing if I am not supposed to get my hearing aid wet? How will I communicate with instructor if I cannot wear my hearing aid?
Q. Not sure this is quite the right place but I wondered if anyone out there is partly deaf/wears hearing aids and has any experience of learning to sail? I really, really want to go to sailing club/sailing lessons but I have to wear one,some...
A. 10 February 2014: Yep there are waterproof hearing aids out there and MANY instructors use (hand) signs as well as verbal commands, so it's about paying attention more then "hearing" really.
Also you won't be going out on the high seas and heavy weather in the begi... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 10 February 2014: I don't think it was too fast. He KNEW you had a child, I ASSUME he had seem your place and knew how little it was. He JUST wasn't able to commit to the whole "family" thing outside of occasionally.
Do I think he could do better if you tried ag... (read in full...)
Crush on a guy at work, but he says he isn't gay
Q. I've been single for the past 4 years and I've been very happy single. However, I've been having these feelings for another guy at work. I came out as gay just before we started working together so he knows I'm gay. I think about him all day, every ...
A. 10 February 2014: Do you tell him how you feel? No, don't try and convince a guy that he is gay because YOU want him to be, or because YOU think he is. (and others think to)
IT IS HIS choice to come out, to CHOOSE what sexuality he WANTS to identify with. He might... (read in full...)
You wouldn't leave if you were in love, right?
Q. Idk if he loves me. Lots of points please listen and please help me. First during are 15 years he left me 3 times says he had good reasons now i dont think guys people leave the ones they love unless they dont love them. In serious cases like abuse ...
A. 9 February 2014: Why keep taking him back if THAT is how he makes you feel? Do you think he is all you deserve?
Honey, you would be better off alone then with someone who makes you feel that way.
Let him walk and tell him to keep walking.... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to date her after she blew me off?
Q. There's this girl I've been dated during December. She had to go to her hometown for the holidays, right after new years eve. Up until that point everything was almost perfect, and we were both pretty excited about each other. We agreed that it ...
A. 9 February 2014: I would pass on dating her again as well. I don't think she takes relationships very serious.
And I think she has little respect for men in general.
You ARE the consolation prize, the security blanket, that when the other dude turned out to be... (read in full...)
Is porn really to blame for the relationship problems many women attribute to it?
Q. Spoiler alert. Some may find this misogynistic and or demeaning to women!!! This is the Chicken/Egg paradox. When I was a kid most wives were stay at home moms, were financially dependent on their husbands and were either submissive by choice...
A. 9 February 2014: Gnarly Lackof Logic
Thank you for answering the OP more eloquent then I could. Obviously YOU got my points - he didn't.
... (read in full...)
Is porn really to blame for the relationship problems many women attribute to it?
Q. Spoiler alert. Some may find this misogynistic and or demeaning to women!!! This is the Chicken/Egg paradox. When I was a kid most wives were stay at home moms, were financially dependent on their husbands and were either submissive by choice...
A. 9 February 2014: I think you are trying to make sense of changes by making "issues" black or white - life doesn't work that way.
Porn is not a necessity. It's a choice.
As for your statement, numbers don't lie and statistics.. Well you can also say that divorce... (read in full...)
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