Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. Afte...
A. 12 May 2014: Thanks for the update and glad you dodged a bullet!... (read in full...)
How do I get more affection from my girlfriend?
Q. How do I get my girlfriend to get more physical with me? Before you decide I'm an ass, please hear me out. She goes to school with me but she is two years older and she sits by me at lunch and behind me in Algebra II. I helped her with math when she ...
A. 4 February 2014: Good for you to talk to her.
As for her issues (and you mention a few) I won't go into it as that was not your question.
Never be afraid to TALK to a GF about things you aren't sure about (with regards to a relationship) best way to sort stuf... (read in full...)
Should I make one last attempt to apologize to her and get her flowers?
Q. Hi, bit of a long complicated situation. So a while back I told one of my friends that I liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but told me that she didn't feel the same way. We still remained friends but I always felt I ...
A. 4 February 2014: I'm with Cerberus 100%.
YOU ARE missing the point, you don't try HARDER to woo her you accept that SHE is not a FRIEND (because you have "more then friends feelings for her).
You somehow feels she OWES you something because you have feeling... (read in full...)
How do I get more affection from my girlfriend?
Q. How do I get my girlfriend to get more physical with me? Before you decide I'm an ass, please hear me out. She goes to school with me but she is two years older and she sits by me at lunch and behind me in Algebra II. I helped her with math when she ...
A. 4 February 2014: NEITHER of you are really mature enough to date.
To me it like she wants the "status" of having a BF, but she really don't want one. Relationships takes work from BOTH people IN the relationship, it also takes communications and if you feel lik... (read in full...)
Avoiding the term "boyfriend" led to an ongoing misunderstanding
Q. I brought my boyfriend to an after hours work party four months into our relationship. I didn't refer to him as my boyfriend but he kissed me a few times and held my hand. He and I were already committed but i don't like the term bf. He's 38 and it ...
A. 4 February 2014: I don't see the big big deal here. YOU chose to not say, yes my "better half" my "Significant other" , my "man" is NICE like that - it would have CLEARED it all up for EVERYONE.
But in all honesty I'd forget about it.
IF she ask anything MOR... (read in full...)
I want to have the funniest most memorable 21st birthday ever!
Q. Someone please give me some ideas and or places to go for my 21st birthday. Im very excited about it, I want to have the funniest most memorable birthday ever. My heart is dead set on Vegas but the only thing is most of my friends wont be 21 when I ...
A. 4 February 2014: I know in the US turning 21 is this HUGE thing, because now you can DRINK! But plan a night where you don't end up so drunk that all you see is the inside of a toilet bowl.
What did I do for my 21st? I spend the week-end with my BF in London. ... (read in full...)
My ex is back in town for the week, should I see him?
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm having a hard time right now and could use your advice. I dated my ex for a year, we broke up almost a year ago and he moved to a different city a few months ago, but is back in town this week. He emailed me to ask if I w...
A. 4 February 2014: Since you two split on amicable terms I would met up, sometimes that can help heal whatever pain is left. BUT NO SEX.
My first love and I broke up after 4 1/2 years together and it was amicable, but it DID take me a good year before I could ha... (read in full...)
If I can't afford to do as my son has asked then how will it affect my relationship with my son and my grandson?
Q. I have a 3 year old grandson who lives overseas with his Daddy who has full custody of him. The little boy does not see his mum ever due to restrictions on her. I feel very sorry for him and feel bad that I live so far away, this means I get to s...
A. 4 February 2014: First off, your son JUST met this girl? So there is no need to 'panic" about Christmas just yet. But in that same breath, why not put a little aside each month, so you don't get overwhelmed at the end of the year?
Your grandson is 3. WHAT in the w... (read in full...)
Is he rushing me because he wants to bed me?
Q. So I'm texting a guy who is 9 yrs older than me we've only met once and both admitted there was a strong chemistry we are planning to meet but he seems to be coming across maybe a bit too strongly. Like he's alway saying that we are pointless ...
A. 4 February 2014: I agree, I think sex is definitely his motivation.
You DO NOT meet up at a hotel room to "chat" - you can do that at a coffee-shop, a park bench, over a nice lunch or dinner.
You met up in public places, you make sure someone KNOWS where you ... (read in full...)
Who means more to you - the person you loved first or the person you love today?
Q. So I'm just curious here. Who do YOU guys favor more? Do you have more thoughts, special feelings, or emotions towards your "first love" or towards someone who's your "new" love??! I find myself going back and forth between these two guys and there ...
A. 3 February 2014: I don't really compare.
My first love is someone I will ALWAYS remember fondly and whom I still talk to occasionally (as friends, nothing more) - I think what we had was pretty darn special, but again, I've been married for almost 17 years to... (read in full...)
He threatened that tomorrow either she's gone or he's gone. Any advice would help!
Q. Hello and thanks I have been married 22 yrs. I got married young. Its been abit of a roller coaster at times but somehow I stayed. My husband can be very mean when he drinks. He calls me names points his finger in my face I tell him to stop. Whe...
A. 3 February 2014: Amen to ALL the SVC said.
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Would it be best to keep my sexuality to myself for now?
Q. I've finally come to terms with my own sexuality as being gay, and I feel as if my parents already have an idea however they're always making a joke of it and have made it quite known that it's not something they agree with! Is it wrong to not tel...
A. 3 February 2014: I don't know who you think you OWE coming out to. If you aren't ready for what comes with it, then take your time.
Like YouWish put so eloquently - it's NO ONES business.
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Should I forgive again? Can I trust him again?
Q. I am trying to gain clarity on my relationship and figure out what to do... I have asked many friends for their advice, but realize that they all have some kind of biased opinions (they are, after all, close friends), so I need an objective and ...
A. 3 February 2014: Unlike Cerberus this would be a deal breaker for me.
He is still having friend who do drugs (yeah I consider Coke a drug) so for him to fall back off the wagon it not entirely impossible.
Coke however (compared to Crystal Meth) is not necessari... (read in full...)
I suffer from premature climaxing, any advice?
Q. I am a married women in my 30's and I suffer from premature climaxing... My husband and I don't have sex that often (once a week) due to family commitments and work and because of this I'm all pent up with desire, as soon as my husband enters ...
A. 3 February 2014: I would suggest after you climax you two SLOW down and do other sexual things (part from penetrations and then when you feel less uncomfortable you go back to it.
Having climax sooner doesn't mean you can't get another one..... (read in full...)
Do I still have a chance at attracting some 18-29 girl? Even if it's just to have as a friend?
Q. So, I'm 30 years old and I look at my life and feel like the only people I have in it are older people (my family and friends of my father's mostly). Dating-wise, it's gotten to the point where the only attention I ever get is from women at least ...
A. 3 February 2014: You are not LOOKING for a friend - be honest.
And wanting you date younger girls is not really uncommon, but my question is why can't dating a woman your own age make you feel good about yourself?
Do you think dating younger girls make you s... (read in full...)
43 with no children of my own. I'd like to have a child with my gay friend
Q. I am 43 and childless. I would love to have a child but the odds are stacked against me. I would love to have a child for a gay friend. My best friend is gay and I'd love to be able to broach the subject with him but I don't know how I should bro...
A. 3 February 2014: I agree with Auntie Em.
Is he single btw? If he is NOT single, I don't think it's OK to ask him.
If he is NOT SINGLE - You can ask, but consult a lawyer first and if he says no, then accept it. If he says yes, time to negotiate how and what kin... (read in full...)
Stepmother issue: I want to reconnect with my Dad, just my Dad and I. Am I being unreasonable? Honest opinions please
Q. I spoke to my dad the other day on the phone for the first time in a while. I've never lived with him and he has recently married his long-term girlfriend, who I have never got on with. When I was younger and obligated to stay with him occasion...
A. 3 February 2014: I forgot to add, this isn't really a step-mom issue. The issue is with your Dad.
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Boyfriend's comment has me crying!
Q. So, I was texting my boyfriend (as we do almost continuously) after he got back from the bar. I'm sure he was a little tipsy. But randomly, in the middle of a comment about how I thought he was attractive, he brought up that he was worried I was in ...
A. 3 February 2014: Let me turn the table. What IF, he had told you, you had the BEST boobies in the world and he LOVED your boobies. Would you not feel that he was JUST a little too focused on your boobies and not you? EVERYONE wants to be loved for THEM, not their ... (read in full...)
I ruined my boyfriend's life because I didn't lose my virginity to him
Q. Hello all, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3years 3months, just recently he found out the guy I lost my virginity to was 20yr old and I was only 16, I regret it completely and know it was a huge mistake when I was immature young and drunk. ...
A. 3 February 2014: Wow so according to him his "problem" is that your first was 20? Not that you had sex with someone else?
To me that sounds like he is afraid of not measuring up. But it also seems like he is USING this to make YOU feel like crap.
YOU HAVE NO R... (read in full...)
I ruined my boyfriend's life because I didn't lose my virginity to him
Q. Hello all, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3years 3months, just recently he found out the guy I lost my virginity to was 20yr old and I was only 16, I regret it completely and know it was a huge mistake when I was immature young and drunk. ...
A. 3 February 2014: Why did you wait 3 years to tell him you weren't a virgin? Not that I PERSONALLY think virginity is so "important" to "save" but I find it strange that you two have been together for 3 years and only RECENTLY talked about your first time.
You c... (read in full...)
Is there a correlation between a woman's breast size and her partner's use of porn?
Q. I've noticed that there seems to be a link between women with small chests and them saying their boyfriends watch porn and they don't like it. I want to know is there anyone who is big chested and has a boyfriend who uses porn? ...
A. 2 February 2014: I agree with YOUWISH as well.
Nothing to do with you OR your boobs.
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Stepmother issue: I want to reconnect with my Dad, just my Dad and I. Am I being unreasonable? Honest opinions please
Q. I spoke to my dad the other day on the phone for the first time in a while. I've never lived with him and he has recently married his long-term girlfriend, who I have never got on with. When I was younger and obligated to stay with him occasion...
A. 2 February 2014: I agree too. YOU are NOT being unreasonable. And HE knows your reasons why. HE knows she doesn't "like" you but HE prioritize HER higher then you.
We had my husband's son once in a while and I had him visit for long week-ends while my husband ... (read in full...)
Would it bother you if your partner was a nude model for Art Classes?
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm 23 years-old, and I'll be graduating with my Masters degree in May. I've generally kept to the "straight and narrow," so to speak--I almost always follow the rules, I've only had sex with one person (an ex bf), I do don't drugs, ...
A. 2 February 2014: I think it'd be cool too.
I drew nudes (took art classes) and we had some gorgeous models and some really average (even one plump 60+ lady who was amazingly sweet and graceful as a model).
IT is DEFINITELY not about sex.
One of our mode... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend told me after breaking up that he has Hepatitis C!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years and he just broke up with me because he said I work too much. He is on disability so is home all day. Said he is lonely and moved in with another women with three children. Then he tells me he is ...
A. 2 February 2014: Wow, I'd be GLAD to be rid of him!
And I would without fail go talk to your doctor about getting tested. It might require more then one testing (3 months and 6 months) Be proactive about your health.
As for him. Good riddance.
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I find I am propping up my boyfriend financially. What should I do?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have being dating for 8 months now. What do I do? I can't afford to give him anymore money:( So my boyfriend is having finical problems at the moment and I've helped him. He works but he doesn't save for a rainy day. He...
A. 2 February 2014: Sorry, did you tell him these were LOANS or did you GIVE him the money?
If it's the first DO NOT lend him anymore till he has paid you back. Make a payment plan with him to pay you back.
IF it's the second -then you NEED to stop. You are WA... (read in full...)
I am my boyfriend's last priority when wer're around his family and friends. I feel as though he doesn't care. Please advise.
Q. I feel like a third wheel in my own relationship. Whenever my other half (of six years) is around his family or his friends I very quickly become last priority. I could be left there alone at a table without him speaking to me for ages, and occa...
A. 2 February 2014: I'm waffling between the two great uncles (CaringGuy and CMMP) advice because I actually think they are both right in a way.
After 6 YEARS you can't entertain yourself or TALK to his family members without your BF to sit and hold your hand ?
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Why is my crush messing with my mind, how should I move on?
Q. i used to know this boy in year 4. we were good friends, because he was nice back then. but then we moved up to high school. he's a couple of years older then me )he's 15), , so i came to the school later on. i saw him a couple of times and just ...
A. 2 February 2014: Maybe he's been teased by peers for being nice to you, so he switch to being mean.
Maybe... YOU need to IGNORE him completely ( say hi if HE says hi first, but don't stop and talk, don't accept lunch or homework help) Pretend he is a stranger... (read in full...)
I feel that his actions disrespect our relationship
Q. My boyfriend has been talking to another girl recently and I'm wondering if I should be worried? This is what my boyfriend says happened: she is friends with my boyfriends friends and they met while they were all hanging out one night. Her and m...
A. 2 February 2014: I agree it IS disrespectful - sure he told her he has a GF, but THAT didn't make her back off, now she is texting too. And the BAD part... HE is enjoying the fire out of the attention.
While he might "think" he isn't going to cheat, I can see why ... (read in full...)
When is the time to stop lending money to a boyfriend?
Q. When is the time to stop lending money to a boyfriend? My bf and I have been together for 4 years, not living together. He pays maintenance for 2 children, I don't have kids. Over the past 3 years he has borrowed money almost every 2 to 3 months ...
A. 2 February 2014: Me personally, I don't lend money to people I know can't pay it back. I'd GIFT them if I CAN afford it and NOT lend if I can't.
I would sit him down and figure out a payment plan so he can pay back ALL the he owes you. And them STOP lending him ... (read in full...)
She hung my bookmark by her bed. Does this mean she loves me back?
Q. There is this girl that I have a crush on. We are best friends now and we danced one time it was the best moment of my life. I always wondered if she loves me back.I made a bookmark with her name as a Christmas present cause she loves to read. Well ...
A. 1 February 2014: No, it means she REALLY liked the book mark or a really good friend.
Love has nothing to do with where she put the book mark.... (read in full...)
Ex wants to be friends but with benefits. But I just want friendship. How do I handle this?
Q. My ex broke up with me since he had come out of a long term relationship not too long ago, and he wasn't ready to go into a new one. I was sad because during the time we were together he acted like a good bf, bt i still wanting him in my life so i ...
A. 1 February 2014: I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou - TELL him what you want, if he can't agree to JUST being friends (which quite frankly might not work well for you two with your past dating history) then cut him lose - that means NO contact.
My suggestion, do be al... (read in full...)
My ex is being awkward about my boyfriend spending time with our children, yet thinks it's fine for him to take them on holiday with his girlfriend!
Q. I have been trying really hard to have a good strong friendship with my ex, but he is making it impossible and his girlfriend is trying her best to ruin whatever we do have left! I'm losing my patience with her, almost as much as him! Ok, so basic...
A. 1 February 2014: Either you two need to get a LEGAL binding contract with how the kids needs to be protected/taken care off and I would also suggest you two (without the ex's GF and your BF) have a chat with a neutral 3rd person to figure out how to make this ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my coach pay attention to me when I'm working out?
Q. If this doesn't make a lot of sense, I'm sorry I'm on my phone in my lunch break. Okay, i do judo and basically, me and a coach have been really good friends and have know each other for a while now. We flirt quite a lot and we get along well. Ho...
A. 1 February 2014: I agree with WiseOwlE - he has realized that it's NOT morally OK for him to carry on flirting with you - it makes other students and SPECIALLY their parents question whether or not he really should be teaching kids and young adults.
Sure you are ... (read in full...)
Is the guy I'm dating a sex addict?
Q. I am concerned that the guy I met online and I am currently dating is possibly a sex addict! I've ignored some obscenities and red flags but now I am confused!!! I like him very much but I can't help but to be concerned with his preoccupation with ...
A. 31 January 2014: I don't know if he is a sex addict or not, but it seems like he has no respect for you (as a person) or boundaries (for what is OK and not OK in the early stages of a relationship).
The fact that you "let" him get away with it and keep in contact ... (read in full...)
Would you consider this emotionally cheating?
Q. I'm posting on here about my friends behaviour with my other friend who's a guy. I introduced them a while back and she and him had a fling, not so long ago, but it ended cause he got a girlfriend. However, even though he's now with someone new, ...
A. 31 January 2014: I agree with the other aunties.
You are not the morality police, you already told them what you thought and obviously they will continue to do "their" thing.
You can't control what others do. This isn't your fault for introducing them... (read in full...)
My friend has changed. Is he becoming more "manly" through a subconscious need to fit in, or is this the "real him"?
Q. I'm a little confused and hurt as to why my male friend seems very distant. We have been friends for about 4 years, but became closer after we kept in touch after we finish college. And NO before anyone pipes up I have no feelings for him I have a ...
A. 31 January 2014: I think he has been teased for being a little feminine and is now emulating more (in his eyes" manly traits and behavior he sees in his male friends.
Plenty of people change things about themselves to fit in. Others just "grow".
It could also... (read in full...)
I want to take some of my family to Disney World, but would rather not invite everyone
Q. I'm in the process of planning a trip to Disney World for myself, my husband, and five of my cousin's children. I've budgeted it all out for the 7 of us. The reason I wanted to take this trip is because their father, my cousin, died recently. T...
A. 31 January 2014:
I would express how you want to do something nice for BOB's children (the cousin who passes away) and that you have planned a Disney vacation to bring them along.
I don't think your cousin (unless she is a very entitled person) would be... (read in full...)
Ashamed I wasted 18 months with someone who puts me down
Q. Yet again my boyfriend of 18 months has ruined another special occasion. Yesterday I left work early and made a real effort to make his birthday special. I bought him lovely gifts, dressed up and booked a table at his favourite restaurant. We w...
A. 31 January 2014: I think you are right walking away now, him being upset with his son doesn't GIVE HIM the right to treat you like crud.
Don't beat yourself up, it might have taken you a little bit longer then you IDEALLY wanted to, before walking away - but YOU ... (read in full...)
Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. Afte...
A. 31 January 2014: Hmm you barely know her (2 months) and you are already seeing thing about you you don't like, I'd cut my losses - sounds like she has a whole other set of morals then you.
I would wonder too, if she would cheat on you at some point too, apparent... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid about my boyfriend adding a woman on Facebook?
Q. I'm so upset. I noticed that my boyfriend has added a woman on his Facebook page. She lives in another country. There are photos on there of her dressed in revealing clothes. The clothes aren't revealing on all the photos, but she is dressed up on ...
A. 31 January 2014: So why does he so DESPERATE want to keep her as his friend if she is just some random chick? Makes no sense if it was a. random lady and b. innocent.
What do you do?
I would just tell him that you don't understand WHY he NEEDS to be "fb-friend... (read in full...)
Was this man just using me?
Q. Hi I'd like your opinion. I was going out with my ex from March 2013 to Nov 2013, he called a halt to our relationship after I text him asking what was up and not to shut me out. I was right, there was something up, but he called it all off. In...
A. 31 January 2014: Does it look like you were "used"? Hmm, it looks like he TRIED to use you for late night/early morning booty calls and you ignored those.
The calling his work when he was hungover was your choice, you seem quite capable of saying no.
Why not... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking his comment?
Q. This is the dumbest thing I've ever asked.. But I'm not sure if I should be insulted or think it's sweet... My boyfriend said to me: you may not be perfect but you're perfect for me... I instantly thought "aw how sweet", but should I be insu...
A. 31 January 2014: I would assume he meant it in a sweet way. Besides NO ONE IS perfect. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend keeps pressuring me to perform oral and I hate it.
Q. I don't know how to say all this without coming out like an asshole but please hear me out. My girlfriend keeps pressuring me to go down on her because she goes down on me but I really don't want to. I've tried it before with several girls ...
A. 31 January 2014: I don't think ANYONE should HAVE to do something in bed they don't like to do.
But I do think you are a tad immature when you mention how icky it is.. you think the GUNK from your penis is lovely tasting? or that musk scent from your crotch? ... (read in full...)
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