A young pretty woman gets special attention whenever she has a maintenance problem. Do I tell his wife about this? How do I address it?
Q. I work as an maintenance assistant for a local housing association. In the office we deal with tenants on daily basis for repairs. Most of them get turned away unless it is serious or have to wait a few days for the repair. However there is a female ...
A. 6 March 2016: I'm NOT young or super pretty... but I do seem to get preferential treatment from the maintenance department. My BIL had to wait a week for them to show up with a leaking roof and they have never made me wait more than a day (usually my choice) for ... (read in full...)
Is flirting cheating?
Q. Where do I begin? Basically I am a flirty person by nature, and I never really had a problem with that, I have my fun, mess around, and never really have anything that lasts. However, just over a year ago now I met a girl who I really fell for. We ...
A. 6 March 2016: I think what I consider flirting and what YOU consider flirting are vastly different.
I don't consider talk about sex and hooking up for flirting. NOT one bit. Because there IS intend to follow it up.
I agree with LJCX, I think YOU don't real... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend has gone to Canada for the weekend. Should I be mad that he did this?
Q. So I've been with my bf of and on for the past two years he is 28 I am 32. Recently things have been really progressing with us it's been good. He has told me that he has wanted to take a trip to Canada and for financial reasons I am just strapped...
A. 6 March 2016: I'm with Ciar.
You told him you weren't feeling that good, so he decided to give you some space to feel better.
Though I think he could have told you ahead of time that he was spending the week-end in Canada.
Overall, I don't see ... (read in full...)
Is making me go home after our third date a red flag?
Q. Ladies,reconnected with a old girlfriend from four years ago, three dates, second date, amazing sex, but she wouldn't let me stay the night,third date great time out dancing, went to her condo, brought Chinese, watched a good movie,one thirty,had ...
A. 6 March 2016: I agree with Tisha.
SLOW down, cowboy.
Take a few to recall what REALLY broke you two up. Is it something you two can move past, can you resolve it, or is it this huge elephant in the room?
And sex on the second date doesn't entitle you to s... (read in full...)
How can I recover my self esteem? I was called ugly by a friend of my boyfriend
Q. I don’t even know the lad, never spoken to him. The only time we ever came into the vicinity of one another it was at a party my boyfriend invited me to. Apparently he keeps talking about me to my boyfriend in a vulgar/crude (sexual) way, which to...
A. 6 March 2016: I think your BF was an ASSHAT for "passing" on the information. What kind of BF would want his GF to feel bad about herself? Maybe because he was scared that his friend was right, that this douche-canoe could "pull" you. So by telling YOU - he ... (read in full...)
Would you ever be friends with an ex bf/gf who 'broke your heart' ?
Q. Would you ever be friends with an ex bf/gf who 'broke your heart' ? I was in a relationship for 3 years with a guy who I was really in love with and saw myself marrying one day. We talked about marriage and kids in the future, it was a pretty ser...
A. 6 March 2016: NO, I wouldn't try and be friends with this one. You still carry some emotions for him around that aren't conducive to being friends. HE is not looking to be friends, he just want access to you and your life again. So HE can stop feeling bad about ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get over my anxiety about tattoos? My girlfriend has two!
Q. I have a problem with tattoos on women and don't know what it is, after a girlfriend got her second one I lost it and flipped out and my anxiety level goes up around her and everyone in her family has tattoos and that bothers me more, Is there an...
A. 5 March 2016: Her body - her choices.
If you don't like them, don't date women with tattoos.
Talk to a therapist? This is your issue, not your GF's.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone
Q. I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...
A. 4 March 2016: Argh! Hit add answer before I was finished.
What I was trying to say with my first post to the OP is this.
Snooping, hacking, spying, tracking, stalking... a partner is not a good thing to do. Not so much for the guy you are doing it to, but... (read in full...)
My sister has sucked all the blood out of me and I don't know what to do!
Q. Dear all, I know this is not a love related question so maybe not relevant to most readers but I have serious family issues! My sister is sucking the blood out of me. All she ever did was ask, ask, ask. When she was a student, she did not want...
A. 4 March 2016: Have you tried citizen's advice?
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/contact-us/
Maybe there is some way to get her into a group home? and to GET her the help she clearly needs. (and get her out of your hair).... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone
Q. I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...
A. 4 March 2016: To nonny,
I'm not saying OP will go to jail or anything that drastic, but hacking IS illegal and WHAT good does it do her? She already knew he was shady. And it is immoral.
It's it NOT illegal to keep or make folders with spankbank materi... (read in full...)
People think I'm a lesbian!
Q. I'm straight and i am attracted to men, although everyone think that I'm a lesbian. I'm really stylish, and my style is a bit different and odd, i do wear makeup and my hair is very short . I enjoy whatever guys do enjoy, basically im a tomboy. Most ...
A. 4 March 2016: You could be called FAR worse things, you know that right?
I've been a "tomboy" most of my life, short hair, long hair, you name it. And I don't know if anyone thought me a lesbian at any point in time, nor do I really care.
I would just do li... (read in full...)
Will he go through with his secret online dating thing, and meet up with them? Should I leave him?
Q. Hey, I'm in a bad situation at the moment and don't know what to do. Ok, so my partner is VERY secretive about his laptop and phone(yet expects my codes!) and today he went out, anyway, I decided to do something wrong, I know, I opened his lap...
A. 4 March 2016: You write:
"When we are good, we're good. It seems when we're on a bad patch he goes on these weird sites. "
Seems like a bad excuse. When things are NOT working he starts to try and hook up with strangers. HOW is that going to fix the pro... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone
Q. I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...
A. 4 March 2016: IT IS illegal to hack someone's phone. And OP did hack, as the file/folder she mentioned was password protected. So it wasn't a little "LOOK SEE" it was hacking.
Let me quote:
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The Regulation of Investigatory Powers... (read in full...)
I'm 8 months pregnant and boyfriend needs space. He's leaving me when I need him the most!
Q. Im 8 months pregnant and me and my boyfriend have not been getting on. Most of the time its down to him keep going out every weekend and come back rolling drunk the next day or so later. My hormones are all over the place too and I snap at ...
A. 4 March 2016: Let him move home. What you NEED more than him is some peace and quiet the last few weeks. Not a whole lot of drama and certainly not some drunken BF rolling in at odd hours.
I think it might also give you some insight in HOW it is to be a single... (read in full...)
I'm not sure its healthy for him to be in contact with me when he has decided to try again with his LDR ex!
Q. For the past 2 months I've been in a primarily texting friendship with a guy I met when I was visiting friends on the other side of the country. We've become very close, and it's basically been a never ending marathon of instant messaging, voice ...
A. 4 March 2016: I'd talk to him and ask him to delete all nudes sent to him from you.
THAT would be my first step.
Second step would be to delete all his nudes as well, and then cut the contact. He was and is using you as a spare. A rebound.
He rebounded RI... (read in full...)
Is 4 months of dating too soon to ask her to marry me?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend.. I can't imagine life without her. She is everything I could have ever asked for and more. We have only been dating 4 months but it seems like longer. We have known each other for 4 years. I know she is the girl for ...
A. 4 March 2016: You haven known her for 4 years, so it goes a little beyond the 4 months of dating, but I would personally, wait a little. At least if you take marriage seriously.
... (read in full...)
Should I ask my LDR's relative more questions about his cheating with his ex?
Q. My current LDR's brother's wife has just hinted to me that my boyfriend was cheating with his ex while he was dating me a year ago. My LDR boyfriend's brother recently got married and I traveled to visit during the wedding and got to know his brot...
A. 4 March 2016: I wouldn't grill her any more. She has given you the info, now it's up to you what you want to do with it.
IF he indeed DID cheat that whole year, do you still want to be with him regardless? IF so, looking for more info from her is pointles... (read in full...)
My foreign girlfriend of 3 months is pregnant and I can't say that I love her and don't wish to marry. What should I do?
Q. I'm in a bit of a unique situation. I've been dating this girl for 3 months. I am 23 and she is 20 years old. I just found out she is 6 weeks pregnant with my child. She is from South America and is here with a student visa studying the Eng...
A. 3 March 2016: I think the last two Nonny's make sense in wanting paternity testing done before agreeing to marriage. If that means she will have to go home and you two figure out what to do from then on.
It DOES seem a little suspicious that you have dated 3 ... (read in full...)
What are other people's views on getting back with an ex?
Q. Hello, thanks for reading this and any advice you give me. I am in a relationship of over a year, and we had a discussion that I would really appreciate views on please. We were talking about relationships and I said I wouldn't get back with an ex,...
A. 3 March 2016: I think it REALLY depends on why you broke up and how long ago it happened, and whether the ISSUE that broke you up ever got resolved.
Would I ever date an ex? I think I might date one of my 3 exes, if I were single again and he was too. Even if... (read in full...)
I didn't do well on my exams and am unsure how to tell my parents
Q. Hi everyone, my question isnt about relationships but i am here to seek some advice. Today i got my exams results and well it didnt turned out the way i hoped. In all honesty, I did study hard day and night, i put great effort into my studying...
A. 3 March 2016: Just be honest, and then retake them. When you study for them the second time, don't use the previous method.
You might even want to talk to your counselors and see of you can find a tutor in the subjects.
They will be disappointed FOR... (read in full...)
My sister has sucked all the blood out of me and I don't know what to do!
Q. Dear all, I know this is not a love related question so maybe not relevant to most readers but I have serious family issues! My sister is sucking the blood out of me. All she ever did was ask, ask, ask. When she was a student, she did not want...
A. 3 March 2016: Yep, time for her to leave.
Does she have a job? If not tell her she has 30 days to find a job and a place she can afford. If she doesn't want to live alone, she should look into a room-mate situation or... move back him to your parents (if that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone
Q. I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...
A. 3 March 2016: Have you two had a conversation about keeping photos of exes? About keeping in touch? What you two BOTH find appropriate and inappropriate to do while in a relationship?
What YOU did by snooping and hacking his phone is a TOTAL breach of privacy ... (read in full...)
He lied about his drug use in the past, but then was upset that I needed time to deal with my anger about his lying. Shouldn't we take some time to calm down when we are angry?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, having a little problem in my relationship and I always find the advice here helpful. Recently I found out that my boyfriend used to do drugs. When we were going out, he did not tell me about his drug history. I specifically ...
A. 3 March 2016: Lying is never a good thing in a relationship, but most people do EMBELLISH a little. It's in our nature.
For me, however there is a BIG difference from telling a straight up lie to embellish the truth.
He lied because he didn't want you ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 3 March 2016: You getting "rid" of the dog - whether it's to the local shelter or a rescue IS not the option I would choose.
First I would call them and find the nearest available rescue center/fosterhome, then jot down all the info and talk to your husband... (read in full...)
Has he lost interest? Too busy??
Q. Hi... I've speaking to this boy for about a month now and we've only met up twice. The last time we met he text me asking to meet me in the week and I said yes and he said he'd let me know but he didn't. He sent me a snap on Snapchat and I...
A. 3 March 2016: I agree.
Sorry, OP he is just not that into you. IF he were he would make more of an effort.
It's only been a month, not a big loss.... (read in full...)
How do women perceive a guy with a beer belly?
Q. Have a few questions about dating and wanted to get women’s perspective. But if any guys have input would appreciate your advice as well. Thanks in Advance. I'm a guy who is 24 years old and currently in Uni. I’m finding it difficult dating...
A. 3 March 2016: When I was in my 20's I was extremely fit and dating very fit guys too. I was very into triathlons.
Reason I dated fit guy was because they understood the amount of workout I did, and the first BF joined in as well. It was one of our "things"... (read in full...)
He gave me loads of different reasons for our out of the blue breakup, and I want him back.
Q. There is this guy in my group of friends that I ended up dating for nearly two months. He had liked me for a bit before finally working up the courage (apparently with alcohol) to text me. We talked almost everyday but never really in person. He ...
A. 3 March 2016: I have to agree with Anonymous 123
He has given you reason after reason why he doesn't want to date you, trying to "make" him date you anyhow is not going to work.
Some time dating someone seems like a good idea for a while, and then not so ... (read in full...)
My foreign girlfriend of 3 months is pregnant and I can't say that I love her and don't wish to marry. What should I do?
Q. I'm in a bit of a unique situation. I've been dating this girl for 3 months. I am 23 and she is 20 years old. I just found out she is 6 weeks pregnant with my child. She is from South America and is here with a student visa studying the Eng...
A. 3 March 2016: Well, hindsight is 20/20, so I won't even go into how foolish it is to knock someone up after 3 months.
I can honestly see her point of view:
She can't STAY in the US and just be your GF. She isn't American, and only in the US on a student vis... (read in full...)
How do I make this threesome idea happen?
Q. I want have a threesome with my wife and friend. the game plan is they should not know each other so I want to blind fold them and to convince them for this and then the game goes on.... suggest me how to make this wonderful...!?...
A. 2 March 2016: You need to ASK your wife before setting this up. This has DISASTER written all over.
IF she is OK with a 3-some SHE needs to be allowed some input into WHO the 3rd person is to be... Who knows, maybe she prefers another guy in bed, not a girl... ... (read in full...)
My husband says that I take advantage of him because I'm a stay at home mom!
Q. husband says i take advantage of him. i hurts my feelings. everyday he gets mad and tells me that.. im a stay at home mom of 3 ages 5 to 10.. i try to make everyone happy. but husband is not happy. he tells me he loves me then uts me down. i dont ...
A. 2 March 2016: You need to sit him down and talk.
Being a SAHM should be a joint decision and if (let's say) financially it makes it VERY hard for HIM to be the sole bread-winner - maybe consider a half-day job while the kids are at school.
Why is he mad... (read in full...)
Is there a chance his feelings will come back for me?
Q. I've been dating a boy for 8 weeks, he'd been admiring me from afar and approached me, things were going really well, we were both really into it and talking about the future, his family and friends all knew about me. However, at the start he seemed ...
A. 2 March 2016: I think the BEST thing you can do (for yourself) is let him go. It's ONLY been 8 weeks and he has gone from chasing you to having lost feelings for you.. ALL in 8 weeks.
Don't play the "let's be friends card" it's not going to help you.
Back of... (read in full...)
Rules for texting a new love interest?
Q. Hello, I met a man through friends who is very kind and respectful. We have hung out many times in our friend group and have good conversations. He asked for my number and we have been texting. I know many times, people just want a "texti...
A. 2 March 2016: I don't agree with "game-playing" when it comes to dating. Yes, seeming to eager, too pushy can be a turn off, but knowing and showing what you want shouldn't be.
If you WANT to go out on dates instead of being text buddies, why not suggest ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 2 March 2016: https://canecorsorescue.org/rescue-faq/
https://canecorsorescue.org/
The Specific breed rescues do NOT euthanize healthy dogs. They find them forever-homes instead.
SEVERAL aunties suggested this. So maybe? look into it with your husba... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's fear of commitment normal or something we should both be concerned about?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year. It's the deepest connection I've ever felt with someone and he feels the same. Like puzzle pieces fitting together. But my other half is scared of commitment. As he puts it, half the time he...
A. 2 March 2016: I understand your worries. The notion that MANY young guys have, is that they "miss out" by not having a tonne of sexual partners is pretty common. At least for the ones who don't quite get that it IS quality over quantity.
It's ONLY been a year a... (read in full...)
I'd been seeing a co-worker who does have a girlfriend and now he's blocked me, is blanking me and has told everyone at work everything! How do I approach this situation?
Q. I have been seeing this guy from work since Mid December (I know it's risky and a 'no go' with colleagues from work, but there's something about him I like, and he admitted he likes me too, and when we were out on our Christmas Night Out we ended up ...
A. 2 March 2016: I agree with Auntie BimBim
There are consequences to every action. You ACTED like a selfish person when not considering anyone but you, in all this. And HE acted like a jerk.
So, LEARN from this lesson. When a guy HAS a partner/wife/ fi... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend is back in touch with her ex- how do I avoid letting jealousy ruin things?
Q. Hi All Ive been with my partner a while now, it is LDR but we have done the usual normal couple stuff, gone on hols etc and talk every night, and see each other every week (and spend all our hols together). We are planning to move in together in 5...
A. 1 March 2016: Because she showed you where her loyalty lies. She knows he isn't worth keeping in touch with if it hurt your feelings..
And... because now you know he IS NOT competition.
Pretty basic human behavior/feelings.... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 1 March 2016: I'm sorry, I get that he feels a responsibility to the dog - but I would REHOME him AND the dog asap.
This should be non-negotiable.
Find and contact a Cane Corso rescue (I think one of the aunties gave a link) then tell your husband there is... (read in full...)
Did my boss proposition me?
Q. I had this wiered convorsation with my boss. Think he might have propositioned me but not sure. I now feel very awkward at work. Him: Do you ever think about doing something you shouldn't do? Me: No never I'm a saint. Do you? Him: All t...
A. 1 March 2016: I remember that story from earlier in the year.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/was-my-boss-stepping-over-the-boundaries.html
You got great advice but you still seem to enjoy the game play and fantasy because this is a repeat post - just a bi... (read in full...)
I caught some feelings for a guy who I think is playing me and its destroying me. What am I left to do, why do I feel the way I do?
Q. My purpose of this q is to find out WHY I feel what I do, so I can find the reason and put a stop to it. I cannot be in love. So what is it? I am tired of this sorrow and hurt but I don’t know what it IS. I’m hung up on a guy who I had sexual r...
A. 1 March 2016: You know that you DO have choices, right?
You CHOOSE to not tell him, sorry I'm done with this and then block/delete his number. Maybe because you hold out hope that he will change or realize what a great girl you are.
You CHOOSE to give h... (read in full...)
My jobless fiance gambles and owes a lot of money. What should I do? How can I help?
Q. Hi.. im so stress out lately because of what happened to my fiance. We planned to marry soon and he tried to gain easy money from gambling. He lost all his money and worse, he used some of his parent money too. I dont even know while he did this...
A. 1 March 2016: I think Abella has given you great advice and I hope you READ her every word.
Bailing him out should NOT be an option. If that means it will take longer before you two can marry, then MAYBE it's a good thing. Right now, he doesn't HAVE much to ... (read in full...)
He didn't offer his jacket--was I in the wrong to get upset?
Q. My guy and I have a lot of problems, one of them being that I feel he doesn't show he cares when it really matters. Today we were sitting in a classroom that was incredibly cold. I was taking a test online and couldn't leave the desk. At times I got ...
A. 1 March 2016: I agree. HE did nothing wrong.
While you might have thought he was paying attention to your welfare, he was paying attention the his own work and the fact that HE was cold.
If the is a common thing for the classroom to be cold PACK an extra sw... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend is back in touch with her ex- how do I avoid letting jealousy ruin things?
Q. Hi All Ive been with my partner a while now, it is LDR but we have done the usual normal couple stuff, gone on hols etc and talk every night, and see each other every week (and spend all our hols together). We are planning to move in together in 5...
A. 29 February 2016: Where are you two planning on moving in 5 months? Near her or your location? Or somewhere in the middle?
Personally, I would NOT bring him up. BUT only because you said you were OK with it. So prove to her that you trust her by not bringing... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: I have wanted a dog for over 20 years. Hubby is not a "dog-person". WE have cats instead - all rescues. But no dogs.
And in some respects it's nice to NOT have a dog as it takes WAY more training and effort to have a dog over a cat.
I think... (read in full...)
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