Please help me. I need advice. I feel like my professor dislikes me.
Q. A month ago, my History professor gave us an assignment and he showed us a really good example that we could no longer use. He dismissed class and stayed at his desk and my friend and I began to walk to another building on campus. Throughout...
A. 12 March 2016: Unless he ASKS you to get up and get out, don't leave the class. YOU are PAYING for him to TEACH you.
Was he miffed that he overheard a couple of students "bitch" about an assignment? Maybe, but my guess is.. HE has heard it ALL before.
And you... (read in full...)
Why do people take advantage of "soft" people?
Q. I find people take the mick out of me for "soft" I have always been like this, people have said I need to toughen up but I like who I am so why do people need to take advantage? I hate the fact that basically I'm going to have to turn into a twat to ...
A. 12 March 2016: You don't have to go and do a 180 with who you are. But I'd say a good start is learning to say no and mean it.
So say what you mean, and mean what you say.
Women (most often) are NOT very good at saying no, when people ask them for favors ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's obsession with his friend's girlfriend is creepy
Q. My on/off bf of two years has known this girl for a year because she is on and off with his best friend. Ever since he met her, he’s hidden the fact that he’s socialised with her, he’s liked all of her profile pictures on facebook, all of her ...
A. 11 March 2016: You make it seem like he owns you. That you are some helpless little thing.
ACCEPT that you are NOT. BLOCK him on everything phone, e-mail, social media, tell friends and family to NOT give your number out. If you get texts or calls from him on u... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's obsession with his friend's girlfriend is creepy
Q. My on/off bf of two years has known this girl for a year because she is on and off with his best friend. Ever since he met her, he’s hidden the fact that he’s socialised with her, he’s liked all of her profile pictures on facebook, all of her ...
A. 11 March 2016: Any thoughts?
Yes, make the relationship a PERMANENT OFF situation. He is not being a good BF, though I OD think he is being a caring friend to his BFF's babymomma, but even THAT I would have my suspicions that he is trying to curry her favor. T... (read in full...)
I can't stand my boyfriend's rommate!!
Q. Hi, I do need help. I have a boyfriend who lives with 2 singles guys. Sometimes I go and spend a night there or most the time he comes here to my place (i live alone). last week he invited me to come over, when i was in the closet searching for a ja...
A. 11 March 2016: Buy your BF a NICE storage locker/foot locker with a LOCK on it to keep those things he doesn't want stolen. And maybe suggest he puts a lock on his room.
Secondly, accept that your BF has CHOSEN to live with these people. And if they steal hi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was rude to my old friend, was he unreasonable?
Q. It was my birthday a few months ago and I had invited my sister, her boyfriend, my cousins and some close friends including my school friend from secondary school to celebrate it with me in a restaurant. Hes a guy and I haven't seen him in years. ...
A. 11 March 2016: Stephanie, you NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED to let your EX BF go!
It seems like you are pulling all kind of stories out your rear to make us aunties tell you what a huge ass he was.
HE IS your EX!! What WE think is NOT as important as what YOU thin... (read in full...)
Can I learn to be a sexual 'sub'? The man I love is ending our relationship because he doesn't think so!
Q. My boyfriend just ended our relationship and I am devastated. He really was my best friend and in my whole life I have never met anyone on my wavelength like that. The reason, he said, he ended it is that he is into bdsm in a big way and is ...
A. 11 March 2016: I agree with Janniepeg and YouWish
The DUDE is full of himself and full of crap.
Being into Sub/Dom/BDSM is NOT a sexual orientation. It's a SEXUAL fetish, where power play and trust is the focus. I also agree that YOUR guy waited till he g... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my ex she has contacted me out of the blue and I don't wish to have anything to do with her
Q. Hello everyone. How are you all? Okay, so I'm not sure how this goes? First time here. I really need some advice. I, like many others had everything. Cutting a long story short. I lost it all. I got involved with a lady I should never ...
A. 11 March 2016: I wouldn't answer her, I would block her.
Once you block her she can't access your page and therefore she can't contact friends either.
I'd check the setting again, maybe from another computer - look yourself up and SEE exactly what EVERYONE ca... (read in full...)
How important is appreciation in the first couple dates?
Q. Just wondering... I'm sure it's important, but I wonder to what extent. I'm not the kind of person who says thank you for every little thing... I'm not sure why. I had an ex after dating for a few years tell me I didn't really say thank you when h...
A. 11 March 2016: I think it's about manners. Think of it this way, would YOU not like to be appreciated if you spend 6 hours in the kitchen preparing a dinner? 2 hours getting the right outfit on and hair done?
I'd say don't overdo it, because THAT can become f... (read in full...)
Ex partner is a born again Christian now and I am scared of our daughters upbringing
Q. Hello everyone, Can anyone please give me some advice on how to deal with bringing up my 2 year old daughter with my ex partner who is now an evangelist born again Christian. Before we split up I was with him for years and he hated all forms...
A. 10 March 2016: I think the BEST thing you can do it find a mediator and have a meeting with your ex.
USE that meeting to set rules and boundaries for your child's upbringing.
I think your husband is like anyone who has ever been addicted and finally beat it,... (read in full...)
Could this be called psychological abuse?
Q. Hello. Advice would be really welcome here. In a long distance relationship of over a year. Good times and bad. Currently we had a heated discussion last week which we did not share a view on, and he did what he has done before and totally ignor...
A. 10 March 2016: Dear OP,
I do think it's a kind of abuse. But more manipulation than actual abuse. For you this is one that you can actually "fairly easy" avoid. BY cutting him off, by telling him: " Enough. I will NOT be treated this way. If you can not communic... (read in full...)
Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?
Q. I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...
A. 10 March 2016: How can SHE be so hurtful?
Um, no one asked you to stalk her Facebook and go through all he posts...
She has done nothing HURTFUL to you. In fact what she did was far more kind then what your ex have done to you for so long. She told him to ... (read in full...)
Does he just want to be friends? Am I reading him correctly?
Q. I am 40 and been on off texting a guy and he sent me this message yesterday. 'Not scared off thought being responsible adult maybe for the best. Will be able to text Saturday night if you wish, text away' I read that as just wants to be fr...
A. 10 March 2016: I agree with YouWish.
WEIRD!
And the ONLY way this makes sense is if he is married, and thus can't text you on a daily basis. The whole " being responsible adult maybe for the best" kind of screams like a married dude who either got caugh... (read in full...)
He tries to kiss me then says we should just remain friends??!!
Q. Someone anyone pleeeaaassee. I am confused as heck right now!! Okay so a couple months ago one of my friends admitted he has liked me almost our entire friendship and had tried to kiss me. But when i just sat there and didnt kiss him back he aske...
A. 10 March 2016: He is testing your boundaries. Maybe hoping you will think he dearly cares for you and hop in bed with him in some "FWB" arrangement.
He already knows you like him, now he is just pushing buttons.
And he CLEARLY doesn't respect you, when you to... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong because I don't want my jobless boyfriend moving in with me and depending on me to get him a job?
Q. My LDR BF said he wants to move in with me and asked me to find him a job at the company where I work. He has been working as a part time delivery boy for a local restaurant for about a year after I've known him. Then he hurt his toe and said he ...
A. 10 March 2016: Nope, you are not in the wrong.
The parents are looking for a replacement of "themselves" to take care of him and because you have put up with this guy for that long they presume you are the most likely candidate.
His parents failed in instil... (read in full...)
He said he wants to try again but now has gone silent!
Q. Hi, my ex stoped speaking to me last Sept last yr , then all of a sudden he contacted me on 14 Feb, saying how he missed me, and how it was all him with being a father figer to my little girl and got scared, and wasnt used to someone being so nice ...
A. 10 March 2016: Stop contacting him. It's up to him to PROVE to you by HIS actions that he is serious. You shouldn't have to keep try to get him to commit.
And it doesn't seem like he is as serious as he is telling you. My guess is he is bored and wanted some aff... (read in full...)
Can I win her over?
Q. So I was in the library at my college the other day and as I was looking for a place to study I saw this very unique and exotic looking girl. She had the most beautiful dark hair and the most intense features. I saw her before on campus and her pers...
A. 9 March 2016: She was probably unsure of what to do when you first talked to her. She could have told you to bug off, but she didn't - either because she didn't want to be rude, or because she was a little curious about you.
However, she might also feel tha... (read in full...)
I checked boyfriend's ipad and found very hurtful things he told a friend when we were having problems. How do I move on?
Q. Hello this may seem long but I need some advice, last august me and my boyfriend of just under a year had sex, the condom split, I went to the Drs and got the morning after pill which I was told is 99% effective, turns out it didnt work and I fell ...
A. 9 March 2016: I think Chigirl's comparison with a diary is on point.
When we have problems with a partner, friend, child, family-member, acquaintance, co-worker, whatnot... we sometimes need to vent. Sometimes we need to talk it over with someone who ... (read in full...)
I’m troubled by my boyfriend’s sexual past! Please help.
Q. Hi Dear Cupid community, I've been dating a wonderful guy for about 9 months. But for nearly 6 months, I've been struggling to get over his sexual past. We briefly discussed our sexual pasts in the beginning of the relationship and I mentioned that ...
A. 9 March 2016: I agree that you need to consider letting him go.
He can't change the past, and YOU can't change how you feel.
I don't personally have a problem with people who has had a lot of sexual experience and a lot of partners, I CHOSE not to do that m... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend cheated in a threesome but won't admit it
Q. I am pondering a situation that occurred with my girlfriend after had been living together for just over a year. The evidence points to the possibility of her having a threesome with her best friend and her best friend’s boyfriend. It looks on th...
A. 9 March 2016: I agree you are WAY obsessing over this.
IF you are so sure she DID have a 3-some and cheated on you, END the relationship. Because she obviously is not someone you can or will ever trust again.
She doesn't have to tell you the truth if you are... (read in full...)
how do I determine if this guy is serious about me? Or is he just using me as a rebound?
Q. i just want to know if I'm overreacting or not , okay so I've been talking to my ex lately again he reached out to me and honestly it's kike a cycle with him repeating over and over again. Its like one minute he's all serious about being a relation...
A. 9 March 2016: I think you know JUST how NOT serious he is.
If he WAS serious his actions would match his words. He wouldn't make these grand declarations and then vanish.
It might not be a rebound per se, but you MIGHT be the only girl he can "charm" hims... (read in full...)
Has anyone else's husband said to his wife that she will be a burden on a business trip?
Q. My husband goes on some business trips during the year, but usually in the state we live in. Sometimes, I am able to go with him and he has been okay with that and he enjoys me going along. He will be going on a new business trip on the coa...
A. 9 March 2016: Maybe not go with him and take a week-end trip to visit a friend/family-member of yours out of state instead? And I would take that trip while he is NOT on a business trip.
O can't tell you if it is a hassle for him to bring you along or not, obv... (read in full...)
It's over. Is going no contact the best way forward?
Q. My boyfriend yelled at me. In his words, not yell but was speaking curtly. He used expletives and went on about how he wants nothing to do with me. I am a little unnerved and shocked. Right now, I don't want to have any contact with him. I am tr...
A. 9 March 2016: Of course it is. Why would you even consider staying in contact with someone who thinks talking/yelling at you like that is OK?
I get that people can be heated and argue, but he has said he wants nothing to do with you - so give him what he wants... (read in full...)
Could this be called psychological abuse?
Q. Hello. Advice would be really welcome here. In a long distance relationship of over a year. Good times and bad. Currently we had a heated discussion last week which we did not share a view on, and he did what he has done before and totally ignor...
A. 9 March 2016: It's called the "silent treatment" and it is a form of manipulation/abuse.
Here is a definition:
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The silent treatment is an abusive method of control, punishment, avoidance, or disempowerment (sometimes these fou... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a widow to sleep with her late husband's married best friend ?
Q. I am a forty year old widow. My husband passed away in January 2014. I was very lonely. My husband's best friend, X, and his wife Y used to visit when my husband was alive and continued to do so after my husband's death. A month later Y noticed ...
A. 9 March 2016: If Y and X and the widow are all OK with it, I don't see the problem.
If it doesn't cause problems in X and Y's marriage I don't see the problem.
However does the widow not want a man of her own? Instead of "sharing" someone else's husband?... (read in full...)
Was it my fault or my ex boyfriends?
Q. Am I in the wrong here or is my ex boyfriend? I invited him to my sisters bbq at her house. When we arrived my sister asked me what I was drinking and if I wanted some wine so she poured me a glass. My boyfriend said he didn't want a drink, I ...
A. 9 March 2016: Did he grow up with alcoholic parents?
I think it's besides the point in who is "wrong" and who is "right" here.
I see nothing WRONG in having a glass of wine or two at a BBQ, and I see nothing wrong in NOT having a drink at all.
I do thi... (read in full...)
I told her I didn’t think she was hot, but that she was super cute, and that’s when the trouble started! Help?
Q. So let me begin by saying im happy being in a relationship with my girlfriend. I love her and im thinking she could be the one. But over a month of dating she said she was ready to take our relationship to tbe next level. She's ready to have sex...
A. 8 March 2016: Well, if you got your feelings hurt, then my point got through. I have NO idea what size your penis is, nor do I care, but for a GIRL in your AGE GROUP her LOOKS, how she is perceived is AS important to HER as how a guy feels about his penis size. ... (read in full...)
Questioning my sexuality ( female ) help!!!
Q. So I've been questioning my sexuality for a while now .. I am a female and I am attracted to men I currently have a boyfriend now and But I have been becoming really good friends with this girl I work with at my job. We hanged out and to ...
A. 8 March 2016: You DEFINITELY need to dump the BF first. Unless you want to be a cheater of course.
But overall I think this has disaster written all over. YOU work with the girl. Let's say you dump your BF and experiment with this girl only to realize that wel... (read in full...)
I told her I didn’t think she was hot, but that she was super cute, and that’s when the trouble started! Help?
Q. So let me begin by saying im happy being in a relationship with my girlfriend. I love her and im thinking she could be the one. But over a month of dating she said she was ready to take our relationship to tbe next level. She's ready to have sex...
A. 8 March 2016: Did you step in it or what?!
I would actually compare your "put down" (because THAT is what you did, you DID put her down. Being cute is for kids, a purse or pugs. Not someone we care for.) Anyhow I'd compare it to HER telling you that your dic... (read in full...)
My ex keeps asking me about other guys that I meet! It’s confusing!
Q. Really need help please!! my ex boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. he first said the reason why was because he didn't love me anymore, but then he gave other reasons saying he wasn't ready, he was also telling his family different reason ...
A. 8 March 2016: I think you need to STOP talking to your ex about other guys. While you two may "pretend" to be friends.... you really aren't. You still have feelings for each other even if you both know you aren't getting back together. Or you SIMPLY need to take ... (read in full...)
Do people still fall in love these days or is that an outdated concept?
Q. What is everyone's opinion on this? Since I'm back in the dating world, I have to say that it's a real cesspool out there. Everyone seems a bit jaded, and women put up these walls and hurdles that you have to jump through in order crack thei...
A. 7 March 2016: Yes, I do think it's the age of ridiculous "political" correctness, personal entitlement and instant gratification.
Unfortunately.
Think about you can buy JUST about anything with a few click on your phone or computer. You want sex? BAM! there ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that my husband occasionally sleeps with other women on side?
Q. Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that husband sleeps with other women on side occasionally(paid sex with high end escort/companions)? He always use protection and is very hygienic. I've got him n myself tested few yrs ago when I i...
A. 7 March 2016: I couldn't and I wouldn't.
Each person is different though. If you want to live in denial, I suggest you find some hobbies to throw your energy into.
I also suggest to NOT have sex with you husband without a condom. Though he can STILL ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my new girlfriend I had a one-night stand with her sister before we met?
Q. I recently started going out with this girl. She’s beautiful, smart, kind and funny. Pretty much everything I could ask for in a girl. The only problem? I’ve slept with her sister. I’m 23 and she’s 22. We’ve been going out for 3 weeks now. The o...
A. 7 March 2016: Yes, I'd tell her. Because it will be MUCH better coming from YOU than from the sister.
It wouldn't be too hard to break the subject, by telling her that you knew you had seen your sister before at a night club almost 2 years ago.
I would howev... (read in full...)
I used to tell him that we should break up, but now that we have I feel devastated!
Q. Hi, I'm going to try and make this as short as possible. Im devastated that my boyfriend of 11 months broke up with me. I also feel a lot of guilt as I know I am to blame for it and it's eating away at me. I've always supported him, I cooked food ...
A. 7 March 2016: I agree with Auntie BimBim
Right now you are hurting because you got dumped. And I get that. You tried so hard to be that "cool and perfect GF" that you put him entirely before yourself. But when you DID put your self first, like having a drink wi... (read in full...)
My birthday was ignored yet again. Does my husband not respect me enough?
Q. Background is that during my Childhood, my birthdays were never celebrated, presents werent brought and it was generally glossed over. My 2 younger siblings, it was a big deal, parties every year, presents, cake, the whole 9 yards. I was oldest of ...
A. 7 March 2016: Happy belated birthday!
I'm sorry, I think he is mostly being lazy, but I also don't think he REALLY understand how it feel for you each year around your birthday.
My husband is BAD with birthdays. Mine, the kids, his family, my family, frien... (read in full...)
I messed up again, or maybe for the 11th time! Advice on how to get her back?
Q. I'm 20 about to be 21 she's 17 about to be 18 We meet each other in high school We worked together for atleast a year I was dating a girl Broke up with her to be with the girl I'm currently with Then broke Up with her and go back with the o...
A. 7 March 2016: I think you you need to slow down. You are ONLY 20, and at 20 most guys are REALLY not mature enough for a good healthy relationship. They love the IDEA of it, the reality though not so much.
And getting married so young, when you can't even HAV... (read in full...)
I'm speechless after my husband's reaction to my wearing my mother's ring!
Q. Hello! My mom, who was my best friend and to whom I had the closest relationship you could possibly imagine, passed away 5 years ago. A few days ago my dad gave me her engagent ring telling me she has always wanted me to have it. So- I have been ...
A. 7 March 2016: You DH is an idiot! Sorry, that is all I can come up with.
He is upset because HE didn't give you an engagement ring and now you sort of have one, but not one HE bought.
I'd wear on the other hand. That way YOU can still wear your Mom's lovel... (read in full...)
Why was I not good enough for him? After all I did and going into debt?
Q. I need help... My relationship with a guy 18 years younger than me ended 9 months ago.. I was the one to leave.. But I can't seen to get over him. You see we lived together for almost two years, of the two there was no intimacy for a year.. He would ...
A. 6 March 2016: The guy didn't LOVE you like YOU love(d) him. He did however "LOVE" the benefit of being with you. You paid all the bills, you cooked, you cleaned and took care of his kid. Build in housekeeper who ALSO pays the bills! What is not to "love"?
But s... (read in full...)
He's always staring is this personal trainer making advances?
Q. Hi guys. I'll keep it short: I am 22 he is 28. Recently I've caught him staring , to a point where it is just too much. When I catch him he continues to stare back into my eyes. Sometimes he'll stare at me with these eyes and just automatically get ...
A. 6 March 2016: Sounds like he is on "something". And when I say "something" I mean drugs.
Both marijuana and stimulants like cocaine, speed, crack, amphetamines can dilate the pupils. Cocaine and other stimulants (which he might use to stay awake for work) ca... (read in full...)
Should I send her a birthday text? Stay no contact to see if she contacts me?
Q. I have dated a girl for 5months who was much in love with me and I loved her too. in fact she was the one who made the first move of confessing her love for me. she has been telling me am the kind of person she wants for life and our sex life ...
A. 6 March 2016: I think it depends on what outcome you expect from sending her a text.
If you JUST wish to show that you remembered and you wish her a happy birthday - then fine, do it.
If you expect her to be MOVED by it and get back together with you, t... (read in full...)
A young pretty woman gets special attention whenever she has a maintenance problem. Do I tell his wife about this? How do I address it?
Q. I work as an maintenance assistant for a local housing association. In the office we deal with tenants on daily basis for repairs. Most of them get turned away unless it is serious or have to wait a few days for the repair. However there is a female ...
A. 6 March 2016: I'm NOT young or super pretty... but I do seem to get preferential treatment from the maintenance department. My BIL had to wait a week for them to show up with a leaking roof and they have never made me wait more than a day (usually my choice) for ... (read in full...)
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