He wants my help obtaining a British passport renewal
Q. Hey Aunts, There is a guy I've been talking to on for 5 months. We get along quite well and he plans to come to our country for a visit this summer (his is part nationality here). We like each other, just not in-love and we talk on a variety of ...
A. 21 March 2016: OP, sorry I think most of us misunderstood that part of your post..
#1 "He would like to send me some cash to arrange a passport renewal for him."
There is NO need for him to send you money to do this. HE can RENEW a BRITISH passport fro... (read in full...)
I don't know why he's become less friendly since our dates went so well! Advice appreciated!
Q. I am feeling very lost and confused. I've been on 4 dates with this guy and it was going so well, we messaged a few times a day for about a month and for the last week he's been taking ages to reply (as in 24 hours for a message when it normally ...
A. 21 March 2016: I fully agree with Ciar.
Do NOT contact him.
I seriously doubt YOU did anything "wrong" on your dates. It CAN be that he is dating several women and thus have less time. Or he is not as interested as you are. Or he is trying to not seem to k... (read in full...)
Still worried sick my ex might pursue one of my closest friends
Q. Not been with my ex boyfriend for about a year now (we were together over a year and a half) and my feelings are still there, his friends aren't the best and can be really horrible about me. When my ex boyfriend and I are by ourselves like in conve...
A. 21 March 2016: One thing your counselor should have kept reminding you off is that you can worry all you want, it won't MAKE it happen but it also won't STOP it from happening.
YOU CAN NOT control other people. You can't control what they say, do, think or feel.... (read in full...)
My baby is now a year old and I'm still not in the mood for sex
Q. My baby is almost 1 year old now and I still haven't got my sex drive back. It's a bit upsetting that I don't seem to want to have sex any more, my poor husband is finding it very hard to deal with. It's not that I don't love or fancy him coz I do...
A. 21 March 2016: I would go see your doctor. It can be your birth-control or the fact that you are NOT on BC. It might be that you do NOT want another baby right now and in your head sex=baby.
And it can be that your hormones are out of whack.
By the way, f... (read in full...)
He wants my help obtaining a British passport renewal
Q. Hey Aunts, There is a guy I've been talking to on for 5 months. We get along quite well and he plans to come to our country for a visit this summer (his is part nationality here). We like each other, just not in-love and we talk on a variety of ...
A. 21 March 2016: I agree.. I see RED FLAGS here too.
If he can communicate with you... online or whatnot - HE can communicate with his sister.
YOU have never met in person, you have no idea who he REALLY is or what his motives are. Not to call doom and gloom b... (read in full...)
When people say they are ''not ready for a relationship'' is that just a line to discourage the other party?
Q. I was seeing a 25 y.o. woman over a month ago. She just lost her mother due to very complicated circumstances so she went through a very hard time. I took the 'not ready for a relationship' line as sincere. I didnt pursue but was open to go on mo...
A. 21 March 2016: Don't beat yourself up. YOU didn't do anything wrong -
My guess is, she was trying to "let you down" in a nice way, a way where no one was the "dumper/dumpee".
So many girls are raised to be nice, she probably thought she was avoiding making ... (read in full...)
He confessed he wasn't ready, and now he wants me to relocate to be near him
Q. My long distance relationship ended today and by ended I mean I tried to end it but we're still arguing! Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years, 10 months of this has been long distance. We met at University, but after we graduated, de...
A. 21 March 2016: I agree with Auntie BimBim,
I wouldn't give up my job and move to a guy's locations - specially a guy who doesn't know what he wants.
What if you move there and CAN'T find work? What then? Are you supposed to live on water and air?
He is ex... (read in full...)
He moved in with his online girlfriend. We had such an intense connection, surely that hasn't gone away for him if he's contacting me and it feels like it used to?
Q. I started dating someone in early December.Things went on for nearly two months. It was magic. Incredible conversation, passionate intimacy - you name it. We were instantly drawn to each other, it was a ridiculous "love at first sight" type of ...
A. 20 March 2016: Yikes!
He sounds like a guy who lives in fantasy land. You starting up the sexual banter again, while KNOWING FULL WELL that he has a live-in GF now, that is just shady. Shady of you... and shady of him.
You two might have had a great connecti... (read in full...)
They don’t push their son to do anything, and it feels like such a waste! What should I do?
Q. I know the first response to this question might be that it's none of my business, but any helpful suggestions will be appreciated! I know a couple, both 40 ( and 8 years older than me) and they have a 10 year old son. It seems like they really...
A. 20 March 2016: I think you should leave it be. He isn't being neglected, he just hasn't found HIS passion yet. (as far as you know)
I have 3 kids (all girls) and they are all VERY different from each other. From the introvert to the SUPER extrovert. They are... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and left me, so why do I feel guilty?
Q. I need some help. Basically, my ex boyfriend cheated on me and ended up dumping me in order to be with the girl he cheated with. Now he didn't do this in a 'mean' way, he just seem very confused. He was still trying to make our relationship wor...
A. 20 March 2016: Why do women who were raped feel guilty?
Was it my short dress? Was it because I wore make-up? Or had 4 drinks instead of 3?
I know it's not a totally fair comparison but maybe you get the "gist" of what I'm trying to say.
THE cheating wa... (read in full...)
What should I do if my fiance’s parents kick him out of the house after he confesses to them about his gambling problem?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles.. i posted a question some times ago about my dilemma regarding my fiance was gambling and want me to help him with the problem by asking me to lend him money. From all the opinion and advices given from you, i choose to reject...
A. 20 March 2016: Honey, first of all... there IS no cure for narcissistic and manipulative behavior. But he can get help with his gambling. IF he wants to fix that.
I think you made the right choice here. You asked him to take responsibility for his actions.... (read in full...)
Disappointed by my boyfriend's love making. He doesn't satisfy me. What are some options to address this?
Q. Hi all, I'm 17 and my boyfriend doesn't please me in bed? he was my first sexual relationship but he had one previously. I've taken in on all the things that turn him on and make sure I do them, I'm not keen on blowjobs though because I gag real...
A. 20 March 2016: If you KNOW what you would like him to do, then tell him. TRY to NOT do it in a critical way - "like sex with you sucks" or "you are not doing it right..." Tell him, I would really like it if you and me could do more foreplay - unlike guys, gir... (read in full...)
My roommate caught me with my pants down - literally
Q. I have two roommates. One male and the other female. Im close with both but am closer with my roommate who is a girl as we hangout more. We are strictly friends though as I assume she has no romantic feelings for me. I don't have feelings for her ...
A. 20 March 2016: If she walked IN on you without knocking, well.. then it's kind of an her for what she saw.
Yes, it's a little embarrassing for BOTH of you - but it's not like you doing anything horrible or illegal. YOU were masturbating. So what? Doubt there ar... (read in full...)
It's been a year and I'm still upset over ex boyfriend. Will I ever get over him?
Q. Dear Cupid, it's almost been a year since my ex boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm still upset and I still miss him. I don't think I will ever fully get over it. I no longer think about it constantly like I did in the beginning, but I still thin...
A. 20 March 2016: I think you will get over him, when YOU are good and ready. Though until you accept that he will NOT come back to you, the longer it will take.
Making plans for weddings and babies is a nice piece of fantasy - plans change, people change. ... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 20 March 2016: It sounds like you are wasting your time trying to become a mind reader.
YOU two are no longer together. Why waste time on trying to sort him out? There is literally NO point to it. who knows? (except him).
IF he had wanted you to not drink at ... (read in full...)
Should I confess the details of my secret messages ?
Q. Should I tell my husband all the details of my relationship with an old friend ? My husband has always had a high sex drive and never had a problem with performance. But since he found out about us sharing some very explicit texts, he has ha...
A. 19 March 2016: I think you should be honest with your husband, after all he could have kicked you to the curb and he didn't.
Talk to him and find how you can REGAIN your husband's trust.
Personally, though, I would NOT go into deep details. Because while he... (read in full...)
Why is he not scared that I'll become pregnant?
Q. There's this guy that i am seeing that i had sex with on the third date, after that it has been once a week(everytime we meet). We have seen eachother for approximately 2-3 months. BUT, there is one thing i dont understand. He always comes inside o...
A. 19 March 2016: Why worry about what HE is or isn't thinking?
WHY are you letting him come inside you if you have no idea of his full sexual history and possible STD's?
Maybe he just don't give a hoot. After all if you did get pregnant he can always "vanish" ... (read in full...)
Why did my married man detach so quickly?
Q. Hi I am new and don't even know if I'm in the right forum. I was having an online affair with a MM for a cpl months. He said he was unhappily married and only there for the kids and I could relate because although I am not married I've been with my ...
A. 19 March 2016: Um, Anon female...
THE OP - is in a relationship too, a 20 YEAR relationship - so yes she is JUST as much to "blame" for the mess she GOT herself into.
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To OP, I think the reason he "detached" so fast after YOU got f... (read in full...)
Am I too boring to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance...
A. 19 March 2016: I agree with FA, the biggest thing holding you back is your lack of socializing. Going out with friends every few weeks.. it's kinda bordering on anti social behavior.
I don't know how often I see posts written by girls/women who's partner ... (read in full...)
My ex has filed for bankruptcy and the house I was awarded in the divorce is being included! What can I do?
Q. I got divorced a few years ago. In my divorce I was awarded the house with my ex husband paying the outstanding debt. My property stood good for the mortgage but my name isn't on the mortgage A few months ago my ex decided that he was filing b...
A. 19 March 2016: I think you should listen to your lawyer.
You ex's income has nothing to do with being able to file for bankruptcy. Heck, Trump have filed several times in his earlier days and THAT man wasn't lacking in income.
A Chapter 7 bankruptcy liqui... (read in full...)
Should I bother with a man who is always so busy?
Q. Met a guy and hes single with 3 young children who live with his ex. He works away all week comes back for the weekend. We went for a walk because i suggested it, chatted for a hour then i thought he might of said to go for lunch but he didnt, h...
A. 19 March 2016: You really don't sound like you are into him. I mean talk about nitpicking.. He was limping a bit? Seriously?
If he is not able to make you a higher priority than he is right now (I can see his kids coming before you, regardless) - and he doesn't ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 19 March 2016: I have spend 16 years as an "Army wife" so while you might think I'm judging her ability to do her job based on only my own personal beliefs, that isn't so. I have SEEN officers go down for having inappropriate relationships. 2 lost their ... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me months later to make amends
Q. I would like to get some advice on if I made the right decisions regarding my ex boyfriend. I am 22, he is 25. We were together 3 years and were friends for about 1 year before. All together I knew him for about 4 years, which is quite a long tim...
A. 18 March 2016: Don't worry what HIS friends think of you, or others, for that matter. YOU don't live to make THEM happy. YOUR life is yours and YOU! YES! you, get to choose how you want to live your life.
Don't let your ex manipulate you with his " you don't ca... (read in full...)
She's not sure what's stopping her from having a relationship
Q. just starting to see this girl we had an off and on ting going for a while. I love her very much she saying she wants to have a relationship with me but some thing is stopping her. she is unsure what it is she thinks I'm a really great guy and thin...
A. 18 March 2016: I agree with Ciar.
She DOES know what's stopping her. She might not admit it or WANT to admit it, but she does know. She is in her 30+ so not NEW to all this relationship stuff. She likes the notion of you, your personality etc, but she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Are we banned from this theatre?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were in the movie theater and i sat on his lap and we made out. However, an employee walked by and he said its okay to do that. But he had told the manager and so when the manager got us, he said we were having sex. We were ...
A. 18 March 2016: I'm questioning the age of the OP as well.
My guess is, your parents will get a phone-call (I HOPE they will at least) and then you will have to go from there. I don't think you are banned if you weren't SPECIFICALLY told so.
While I get t... (read in full...)
Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?
Q. How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...
A. 18 March 2016: OP
Remember this - YOU can not control how others think, feel, act or what they say.
So if they CHOOSE to blame you, there isn't much you can do. Jumping down in the gutter with them, just gives them more ammo to make you the "bad guy" or in ... (read in full...)
I found my cheating ex on a dating site again
Q. So I met a man across the country who lives in Seattle (I live in the east coast). He remained faithful for almost 2 years and before I flew out to see him I found out he was still on date sites and had dated several and hooked up with 2 (no sex). I ...
A. 18 March 2016: Honestly, OP I think you know that he is full of BS.
Even if he IS serious, that he goes on dating sites for grins and giggles, what kind of person DOES that? Does that to their partner AND to the unsuspecting women on THAT dating site? Does he ... (read in full...)
Who should pay more?
Q. My bf and I are living together, and I just got a job. MY Mother was helping with the expenses until now. I will be making 25,000 a year which is 2,083 a month. And my bf makes 40,000 a year. He wants to split all the expenses in half, but I ...
A. 18 March 2016: Who is on the lease?
Who is on the bills? (utility)
If you are BOTH on the lease, then you SHARE the expenses of rent.
If HE is only on the lease, then I'd consider that you shouldn't pay 50% of the rent as it is HIS place and he would pay r... (read in full...)
I think I said something that put him off, how do I fix this situation?
Q. I have a question about a sorta thing I had going with a guy. We have never actually met but we have mutual friends that thought we should. So here's what happened. We started talking on fb a lot two weeks ago. I was under the impression w...
A. 18 March 2016: I agree with SVC and the whole meet up time line.
Some people just like the "game" or fantasy of chatting and getting attention. Even if some mutual friend thought you would be good together.. you ARE still strangers.
If he DOES call you fo... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake of calling him cute?
Q. I've been seeing someone for several weeks and we got intimate twice. No sex (pants still on) but topless as we both agreed we weren't ready for sex yet (I'm a virgin). Both times were great however during second time I was shy and called him "cute" ...
A. 18 March 2016: I don't think it was the word "cute" that made him stop contact. I think it was the fact that he wasn't going to get sex for a LONG while from you.
While CUTE is not overall a great compliment, more for a purse, puppy, dress etc. than a person. ... (read in full...)
I'm overwhelmed and don't know what to do. Is his behaviour part of his grieving or something else?
Q. I am a 21 year old female with a same age boyfriend, we both are in school and work part time jobs. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. With a 7 month break up 2 years ago. It was a very ugly breakup, which was very hard on both of us. We bot...
A. 18 March 2016: When I read your post, I can tell you are a VERY loving and caring GF, but you can't quite see the woods for all the trees.
You write:
"I do so much for him, laundry, his cleaning, homework, scheduling classes. And I love doing it, I just feel ... (read in full...)
Is it worth the try or should I call it quits?
Q. There is this guy we met on facebook and started texting a lot... He keeps making plans but then he cancels some times he is cocky but then other times he is nice. Yesterday I told him to stop texting me and he said ok. but I missed him so much I ...
A. 18 March 2016: He is playing you. And YOU are playing right into his hands.
He isn't trying to find some deeper connection with you, he is using you as a "cure for boredom", my guess is you aren't the only girl he chats with.
It's going nowhere.
And ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 18 March 2016: Not "all" married men will toss the mistress under the bus, specially if the wife doesn't give them an ultimatum or if the wife "thinks" the husband will keep his promises and not see the mistress any more.
Some wives will turn a blind eye in o... (read in full...)
Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?
Q. How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...
A. 18 March 2016: OP learn from this. That is all you can really do now.
That and leave them alone. You know what you did was not right, yet you still did it.
And next time you are in an argument over ANYTHING don't resort to childish behavior. And don't dismis... (read in full...)
Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?
Q. How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...
A. 18 March 2016: Well, you can't really blame then for NOT wanting you in their lives. And yes, if I was the new GF I'd probably think you were a bit of a nutcase.
Sending anonymous nasty messages is childish, and I wonder what on EARTH you thought you would ac... (read in full...)
What should I do about this guy? Did I over-react?
Q. I recently started seeing a guy that i have known for quite a while (we attended the same school and live in the same town). He started chatting to me on Facebook after we had run into each other one night. He was always asking how i am, how wo...
A. 18 March 2016: I think he saw you as a FWB, not a budding relationship and when you seemed OK with him staying over and having sex with him - he presumed you were OK with it too.
Here is the difference with some men and some women. MEN will sleep with a women if... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea to text him? There was no formal goodbye to our relationship
Q. I dated someone for a month, which ended two months ago. There was no formal goodbye. The communication just faded on his end. I never reached out again but I find myself thinking about him all the time. I was very attracted to him physical...
A. 18 March 2016: He ghosted you. After a month of dating it's no longer the "norm" to do a "formal" break up. There is no need for "closure" or a "goodbye".
Someone who just stops contact after ONE month of dating - wasn't interested enough to keep at it. And to s... (read in full...)
Would it be too forward if I got my crush's phone and put my number in it?
Q. i have a crush on this guy that works at my local coffee shop and I'm pretty sure that he like me too. every time i go in, he would give me compliments and ask about my day. for example yesterday he gave me a hug and told me i smelled really good ...
A. 17 March 2016: If you want him to have your number write it down on a piece of paper with your name, no need for you to "get" his phone.... (read in full...)
Do I let him go after he basically said I was fake?
Q. Im in a new relationship (3mths), we had our 1st big agrument Tue. Long story short, he was MIA for 5 hrs (phone dead) but I have expressed the need for communication and being accessible for each other (kids). Next day phone dead all day while he ...
A. 17 March 2016: I think I'd let him go. It's only been 3 moths and there is already THIS level of drama going on. Not something I'd ever expose my kids to.
You said cheating is an issue.. After 3 months? If that is so, why even bother at all with this guy?
... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this girl whose nickname is my name?
Q. Hello. I met a girl this year at varsity she uses her nickname as my name. See, my parents gave me this cool name from birth and she liked the name before we met. Its a very rare name and it has many meanings in science. The problem is the girl ...
A. 17 March 2016: I'd ignore her. Or turn the question back on her. Ask her why she can't use her given name...
You don't have to prove squat to her.... (read in full...)
We’re back together so why is he on a dating site?
Q. I decided to dump my boyfriend but afterwards realised i didnt want to do it i was feeling low im much happier now , The thing is 2 week ago he said he wanted to give it another go and we made plans to meet but i was ill with tonsillitis so ...
A. 17 March 2016: I'd would ask him that question.
My guess is though, that he has gotten any bites on the dating site and THAT is why he wanted to get back together with you. So he HAS someone while he is looking for greener grass. The fact that he is still VE... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 14 March 2016: When you are with a guy don't be a "character" BE you.
Maybe that is part of the problem? That you try and play a role instead of being you? And you then end up coming across as either having multiple personality disorder or just... being fake.
... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 13 March 2016: It's pretty OBVIOUS that he isn't good for her OR her career but she is pulling the "I love him!' card out as an excuse to continue his and HER bad behavior and really, when people use the "I love him!" as an excuse there isn't much you can do to ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 12 March 2016: Your friend needs to stop concerning herself as to WHY he is doing and MAKE it stop. SHE can stop it, IF she so chooses.
I think your friend is a tad naive if she thinks ANYTHING good can come from this.
When or IF the wife gets enough of t... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 12 March 2016: EDIT:
He can TOTALLY much up her career if he takes this to their superiors. She should have known better. She knows about fraternization and the rules for officers. HIS WIFE can totally much up her career if she gets "proof" of the affair. ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 12 March 2016: Since she is military and HIGHER rank than him, I'd suggest she looks into reassignment or a school to "get away" from him for a while, if not permanently.
Since they are in the same chain of command she can't block his number or stop talking ... (read in full...)
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