We had a one night stand and now she is pregnant1
Q. We had a one night stand, and now a month later she's saying she's pregnant. I checked the condom after for holes and it seemed find as no water was dripping through. I wanted her to get an abortion as I'm sure she doesn't want kids with me an...
A. 26 March 2016: Are you really sure YOU are the one who got her pregnant? Or that she IS pregnant?
Did she show you a pregnancy text or results from the doctor?
While I understand that you are not shying away from taking "some" responsibility IF she is pregna... (read in full...)
I want to date him, but told him I want to be friends!
Q. Hi I've been single for over 4 years now had quite a few dates over that time but nothing came of them and then I stopped dating for over a year then I started talking to someone online and he asked me out, at first I said yes but because my ...
A. 25 March 2016: Don't feel stupid.
You could have "faked" a friendship and ended up with a LOT more feelings for him with no where to go.
At least now you know. So it's up to you if you want to continue being friends with him or, if you want to look elsewher... (read in full...)
I think I'm turning into a bunny boiler! How do I explain things to my ex and move on?
Q. Help - I think I'm turning into a bunny boiler!! How do I reverse this and make people trust me again? Without going into too much details - I was dumped by my ex, blocked and given no explanation. He wouldn't answer my calls or explain what I'd...
A. 25 March 2016: Does it REALLY matter if he will ever trust you again? He dumped you with no reason and totally unceremoniously. I don't see why you owe HIM anything, least of all your trust.
He couldn't be bothered to explain things to you so why do you feel you... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend is pregnant by another man and has asked for my help!
Q. How should I feel? My ex-girlfriend is pregnant by another man and wants me to take her to get a abortion? ...
A. 25 March 2016: How should you feel?
I can't tell you that, only YOU can.
So... how DO you feel?
My guess is she needs a shoulder to lean on and maybe because she knows you still care on some level, she has turned to you. Or maybe she knows that you are t... (read in full...)
Why do people think pretty girls are dumb?
Q. I do not consider myself "hot" i just know how to use make up. A lot of people who don't know me that well think I am really dumb but i am really a proud member of the "nerd herd" as they call us at my school. also why do people make fun of those...
A. 25 March 2016: Stereo types.
Blonds are stupid.
Jock are dumb brutes.
Nerds are awkward.
Goths are suicidal.
Specially in the US where kids "categorize" themselves and others throughout school. And they try and hang out with people who are like th... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend said I was too comfortable in the relationship
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he felt I was too comfortable in the relationship and Those were his own words. In a way I kind of saw where he was coming from, but for the most par lt I don't really understand. He and I always said thin...
A. 25 March 2016: I agree with Ciar,
He wasn't happy and that was the EXCUSE he chose to use when breaking up with you.
... (read in full...)
How do I tell this woman I've had second thoughts?
Q. Hello Dear Cupid Aunts and Uncles How is everyone? Okay, so here's my story... I am and always have been a bit of a cheeky chappy as my name says. I stop and talk to everyone. I've got time for everyone. It's just my nature and I think it...
A. 25 March 2016: If go out with her, do not make plans for a second date. JUST because you go out to lunch or dinner with someone doesn't mean you have to sleep with them or date them. If you go out on the date, there is no reason to avoid her at the Gym. If you ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating with a guy with a girlfriend and I'm really confused!
Q. I was going out with a boy for a few months last year then he broke up with me and got a new girlfriend. They've now been together about 4 months but in the past 2 months we've been seeing eachother without her knowing. On one hand I don't feel ...
A. 25 March 2016: I agree with WiseOwlE
You do NOT respect their relationship, and you need to stop lying, specially to yourself.
Even IF you broken them up and "got" him back, you know he will just cheat on you too at some point.
Take some responsibil... (read in full...)
Should I stay good friends with my ex for our son's sake?
Q. I have an issue that is sort of complicated. I have an ex fiancé and we have a son who is currently 3 years old. We were together about 4 and a half years or so. The reason we broke up is well he had cheated on me with a woman he had met. This st...
A. 25 March 2016: I wouldn't want to be friends with him. I'd be civil, but that is as far as I would go.
Let's say your son has a football game, then yes you can both go and if you feel like it sit together, but being friends? Nah, you don't need to do that. Be... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned? My fiance takes her phone everywhere and I think she's hiding something
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years and engaged for a couple years now. Recently things have changed her personality she's bitchy and nasty then other times it's how things used to be. She still says I love you and kisses me good bye. The ...
A. 25 March 2016: I have to ask, why be with someone for 10 years and be engaged THAT long? Why hasn't the relationship progressed?
My advice, TRY and mimic her for a week or two. Do the same with your phone and see how she reacts.
If she accuses you, the... (read in full...)
I want to date him, but told him I want to be friends!
Q. Hi I've been single for over 4 years now had quite a few dates over that time but nothing came of them and then I stopped dating for over a year then I started talking to someone online and he asked me out, at first I said yes but because my ...
A. 24 March 2016: Just tell him.
I think the fact that he didn't walk away when you suggested friendship show that he MIGHT have the patience to go at YOUR speed.
Tell him how nice the coffee date was and that you regret suggesting friendship over dating. But... (read in full...)
Why am I good enough to spend all her time with and have amazing sex, but not good enough to date
Q. This is going to sound a bit backwards since it's usually the other way around. However, I have a fwb and she kinda confuses me sometimes. We have been sleeping together for around 6 months. And the sex is mind-blowing. Two people could not have b...
A. 24 March 2016: I agree with WCA
Talk to her. Sounds like you already DO have a relationship just without a title.
Maybe she hasn't brought it up because SHE is unsure what YOU want.
What do you have to lose?... (read in full...)
Does this sound fishy to you? I need some tips!
Q. Dear Cupid I joined online dating couple of days ago, met a profile he mentioned that he has a kid, wife passed away and we chatted and he sounded nice and everything. We exchanged numbers, he didn't call but sends me text every 1 hr Max. Told me ...
A. 24 March 2016: First of all I figure I better mention this before I answer. I was an Army wife for 16 years, so I figured I can help you out a little.
1. Can u leave ur 10 year old kid with full time nanny and visit her only during vacation? Will social servi... (read in full...)
How do I deal with these quite vicious older colleagues?
Q. Hi all, some advice on dealing with older colleagues that can be quite vicious. So I'm a newly qualified nurse who has recently got a job on a large ward with a lot of staff. I'm young at only 23 and I think a lot of people have sly digs at me b...
A. 24 March 2016: Telling a senior staff might not even do anything good for you. She made a rude comment about your make up, that isn't harassment, that is petty jealousy.
IGNORE the digs. WHO cares what those old bats think of your make up? I do think keeping ... (read in full...)
Is sex such a big deal? Do I need to hold out for someone special? How do I know if that special person exists? Did you regret your first time?
Q. I am 16 and yes I know you might be thinking i m too young to be talking about sex. But that's on my mind almost 24/7. Unlike a lot of the people who claim to be otherwise, I'm still a virgin. I never really talk about it to anyone, not really ...
A. 24 March 2016: I agree with Cindy, and I like her food analogy.
Sex can be awkward the first few times, it's a fact. Having sex with someone you 1. trust and 2. feel comfortable with makes a HUGE difference.
I was 19 and had been dating my BF for 6 months. We... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my brother moving up his wedding to take place right in the middle of my exams?
Q. A sibling has moved up their wedding due to complications with their wedding venue. They could have postponed it a month. Now the wedding is in the middle of my exam season. How do I cope with this? I know I sound selfish but these exams are very ...
A. 24 March 2016: I would presume there is a reason why they picked the day/time that they did and that it wasn't to offend you or make things difficult for you. As it is THEIR wedding they probably picked a date that worked for THEM!
A wedding is a one-day ... (read in full...)
Should my youngest brother be allowed to get away with no paying anything to my parents?
Q. Paying parents, i have 4 brothers and we all still live at home. Mum has always worked out how much we should each pay towards living expenses. Mum has always said that however many of us there are we should pay the same percentage of our wages. So ...
A. 24 March 2016: I think it's up to your parents. 100%
I didn't pay "rent" till after I turned 18 (and I worked from age 12, after school).
I do think it's a good idea of teaching your kids that with adulthood comes responsibilities, such as rent, utilities ... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex-date happy birthday?
Q. Three months ago, I dated a man for one month. We spoke every day and went on 6 six dates which were all wonderful. After the last date, the following week he seemed to be withdrawing then coming back. It left me unsure of his feelings so I chose to ...
A. 23 March 2016: I don't see the point.
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Should I pass my number to him and be brave and ask him out for coffee?
Q. Hello guys. Just wanted peoples view on what I should do. I am a manager of a shop and have seen a customer pop in from time to time, every month or so not often at all. I passed him by today on the street and we smiled at each other. When he ...
A. 23 March 2016: Do you know his name, by chance? If so I'd do a little checking up on him first (like see if he has a Facebook or other social media website). Because that way you can avoid a awkward situation if he is married or in a long term relationship.
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Am I too uptight with saving intimacy until later? Does this turn men off and was it a mistake to visit his home?
Q. I posted last week and would appreciate further advice. I went on 7 dates with a great guy and we communicated daily. The last date, I went to his place and we made out but I was clear in not wanting to go further just yet. At the end of the evening ...
A. 23 March 2016: I don't think you are being uptight in wanting to way a while. Now I don't know the time-frame for those 7 dates - but I think waiting till you are in a committed exclusive relationship is fair enough.
2 things though:
I would however, NOT do ... (read in full...)
I think all my experience in improving myself should be there for all to see, otherwise why even try. What do you think?
Q. 26 years of working for the same company and i am suddenly unemployed. Basically i dont know what to do, they paid redundancy but offered no help in regards to securing another job. While i may have work experience my job advisor keeps going on ...
A. 23 March 2016: I would add them to a CV, IF you have a "paper trail" so to speak that you actually took those classes.
I don't know how that works in the UK, but I have taken a couple of courses here in the States and I got a grade and a diploma for them. (O... (read in full...)
Why was he happy to text me during that time but had to avoid me?
Q. I am in my early 40s and feeling a little confused. I had seen this guy in my local supermarket over a long period of time but he never seemed approachable but I felt I recognised him from my past (we used to go to the same pub but only knew ea...
A. 23 March 2016: I'd venture a guess... He is married or in a relationship.
While he had fun chatting up a storm with you he either got caught or caught himself before he crossed a line.
And I'd just wish him good luck, then block and delete. I mean what's the ... (read in full...)
I fell for my friend and now I feel like a fool
Q. Hi! I've always had a thing for this friend of mine but we both didn't act upon it. A couple of years later we got back in touch and decided we will go on a date whenever we are in the same city. It was supposed to be 'casual' because he isn't lo...
A. 23 March 2016: Look at it like it's a crush, nothing more.
You know HE isn't interested in you that way, so it's time to let go of the infatuation/crush because it is holding you back.
Obviously there are thing about him you like, so don't think of it as w... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hasn't been paying the agreed amount and now I am in debt!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. I am in love with him completely and he is in love with me. We moved in together after a year and a half. We have no issues living together and love being able to spend that much time together. our ...
A. 23 March 2016: Sit him down and talk.
Tell him it's been XX months and you haven't paid you share and it's frustrating me. I can't afford to pay FOR you.
The "good" think about medical bills are that HE can TALK to the hospital and arrange for a low monthl... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my husband is a house husband?
Q. Hello! My husband's firm has recently hone bankrupt and he has consequently lost his job. So now I am the only one working. We have no kids, I own the house where we live and I own the family car. He owns nithing.My job pays reasonably well so we ...
A. 23 March 2016: I have met a few house-husbands while my husband served in the Army. They wives were NCO's or Officers and they weren't working (usually due to a recent move or illness).
There is nothing wrong with it. AS LONG as he doesn't SIT ON his bum and ... (read in full...)
I called my boyfriend's parents house several times and he reported me to the police
Q. I did something wrong today. Last night I got into a huge fight with my boyfriend because he never has time for me and always makes me feel second to everything. I was still mad and we argued again today. Not only did he not admit he was wrong, h...
A. 23 March 2016: So break up with him?!
Why on Earth would you call his parents number and then hang up? Are you 7 years old?
If he isn't giving you enough attention and tine, you END it, you do NOT harass his parents. It's childish!
And there is no excus... (read in full...)
I feel scared that I'll be tempted to cheat again. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 37yr old married woman no kids. Have been super happily married for a few years now, but I am seeing my usual relationship pattern starting once again. And the pattern, which has always started after a few years into any of rela...
A. 22 March 2016: You talk to your husband about needing more attention. Maybe even spicing up the love life a little. Maybe role-play could be a thing?
Cheating is a choice. It's an action. YOU chose to cheat. You can CHOOSE not to as well.
You make it sound li... (read in full...)
Is it right to stay in a relationship when your partner indicates that someone before you was his ''perfect match''??
Q. I would really like some opinions about my situation and I'm not sure if I'm being an idiot staying with my boyfriend or if I should leave him. I've been with him for three years and from the second date he started talking about a female friend qu...
A. 22 March 2016: I get what he is saying, that you CAN NOT control who he is friends with. And that he SHOULD be able to have a friend who is both an ex and female without it being anything more than platonic, after all it's been over 10!! years since they ended ... (read in full...)
How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.
Q. My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...
A. 22 March 2016: You can't "make" her do anything.
You can ASK your family to back up and support you, but again, you can't "MAKE" the do anything.
Have you considered that your family are thinking of YOUR best interest in all this? That they aren't just "lab... (read in full...)
Should I trust and feel reassured by my Boyfriend's remarks considering he cheated on me?
Q. My ex boyfriend cheated on me and it has affected subsequent relationships. When I said to my current boyfriend that I always want to be his only one, he said to rest well knowing I am the only one he thinks about. Would this be reassuring ...
A. 22 March 2016: Would this be reassuring to you?
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Yes and no.
If he had CATERED to your insecurities and told:" YES you are the ONLY person I'll EVER think about from now on", he would be lying. He did tell you that you are the only one for him... (read in full...)
Am I sick to think this situation shouldn't be happening with the guy I'm dating and his cousin?
Q. So I've been dating this guy for 4 months now, he seems really sweet and just the perfect gentleman he's Romantic and very caring. He rents a one bedroom and his cousin 14-15yr old girl (pretty, nice little body) comes to visit him and I was on...
A. 22 March 2016: I think it's VERY odd for a 14-15 year old to go visit her older male cousin to take NAPS in his bed.
I'm sorry, that seems really creepy to me.
He might not be a perv at all, she might have a huge crush on him and sees their "time together" ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he wont leave me alone
Q. Hi, My ex and I broke up about 3 weeks ago and I thought it was mutual, both of us acknowledged that we no longer get on like we used to and have tried to make it work on multiple occasions over the past year. Basically it was one of those relatio...
A. 22 March 2016: I forgot to add, if you SEE him in person, DO NOT stop and chat. I think he takes that as an "invitation" to keep bugging you.
If he doesn't go to the college, you might also consider through your counselor to have campus security deny him acce... (read in full...)
Is using magazines for sexual release worse than watching online porn?
Q. I've read that watching porn can cause all kinds of problems, even impotence in young guys. I don't want to get a warped or perverted view of sex, as I was brought up traditional. However this also means that for me having real sex is not an option ...
A. 22 March 2016: Are magazines weirder? I definitely do NOT think hard core porn videos are LESS weird, gross or nasty.
To me porn is porn. Whether it's printed or streamed on a website. I don't think porn mags are "just depicting the human body in its most nat... (read in full...)
Can a man be too romantic? That's why my girlfriend broke up with me
Q. Hi,am thirty five,an my girlfriend just broke up with me,after six months,I treated her really good, she said the reason for breaking up with me is, am to romantic,am not a challenge, should I just move on,or try to win her back....
A. 22 March 2016: I agree with Cindy.
Everything with moderation. And EVERYTHING with sincerity. Romantic gestures when not done right comes across as fake and cheesy (not saying that yours did, but maybe?). Some people go a little over the top in the beginnin... (read in full...)
My wife refuses to accept my wish to be a woman.
Q. I would like to know why, my wife cannot understand that I want to be a woman. She see's me every day for the past 2 years dressed as a woman, she knows I pluck my eyebrows and have my ears pierced, she has even caught me more than once being with ...
A. 22 March 2016: She can't stop you from doing what you feel you NEED to do.
BUT she can end the marriage. She didn't marry a woman, she may not WANT to be married to a woman. AND that is HER choice.
I am also wondering if you have had any kind of counseling an... (read in full...)
We broke up but he wont leave me alone
Q. Hi, My ex and I broke up about 3 weeks ago and I thought it was mutual, both of us acknowledged that we no longer get on like we used to and have tried to make it work on multiple occasions over the past year. Basically it was one of those relatio...
A. 22 March 2016: I agree, his behavior needs to stop.
Like WCA suggested, consider talking to a counselor at school and your parents.
Actually, I think e-mailing him a short and to the point e-mail might be the thing to do. But I'd talk to a counselor first ... (read in full...)
Should I help my son financially?
Q. My son is 28, and has basically never worked. I'm soooo disappointed in him, I can't begin to say. He hasn't spoken to me in over a year.He doesn't respond to phone calls, emails, texts, or anything. He thinks I belittle him because when I was i...
A. 22 March 2016: If you WANT to help, help out his mother instead, but I wouldn't give her money either, as he probably will get his hands on it.
Gift cards to the grocery store or something like that.
However, giving HIM any money will just enable him to co... (read in full...)
How do you stop being an older virgin from beating down your confidence?
Q. As an older virgin, how do you not let it bother you? I tried improving myself and taking more interest in my hobbies. Focusing on interacting with as many people as I can. Downloaded dating apps to raise my confidence. I'm turning 23 and n...
A. 22 March 2016: How do you not let it bother you?
By accepting it for what it is. Inexperience. THAT is what virginity is.
I bet you aren't a formula 1 race car drover either. Does it mean you are stuck walking for the rest of your life?
You keep focusi... (read in full...)
Why would a guy come back after turning him down for sex?
Q. I was talking to guy about 6 months ago who made it plain the first time around he only wanted a hook up through his actions. He didn't verbally tell me but his actions indicated that he just wanted to hook up. He brought up sex in our first ...
A. 22 March 2016: He is cocksure of himself. He think your "no" means yes, if he is just persistent enough.
My guess is, he has met other girls who told him no, yet they still ended up in his bed.
I'd just simply block him, he isn't a "changed man" who all of ... (read in full...)
Why isn’t she wearing her bra in this instance?
Q. OK I don't mean to sound creepy or pervie, but what does it mean when my economics tutor at uni doesn't wear her bra when I was alone with her? Does she like me? Because during class in the morning I noticed her bra straps but later in the afternoon ...
A. 21 March 2016: Could be one of the under wires came loose during class and she took it off afterwards. I tell you being poked by a small metal rod in your boobs is not a pleasant feeling.
Could be new detergent that makes her skin itch.
Could be she grabbed t... (read in full...)
He wants my help obtaining a British passport renewal
Q. Hey Aunts, There is a guy I've been talking to on for 5 months. We get along quite well and he plans to come to our country for a visit this summer (his is part nationality here). We like each other, just not in-love and we talk on a variety of ...
A. 21 March 2016: OP, sorry I think most of us misunderstood that part of your post..
#1 "He would like to send me some cash to arrange a passport renewal for him."
There is NO need for him to send you money to do this. HE can RENEW a BRITISH passport fro... (read in full...)
He wants my help obtaining a British passport renewal
Q. Hey Aunts, There is a guy I've been talking to on for 5 months. We get along quite well and he plans to come to our country for a visit this summer (his is part nationality here). We like each other, just not in-love and we talk on a variety of ...
A. 21 March 2016: I agree.. I see RED FLAGS here too.
If he can communicate with you... online or whatnot - HE can communicate with his sister.
YOU have never met in person, you have no idea who he REALLY is or what his motives are. Not to call doom and gloom b... (read in full...)
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