Should I continue to trust my BF? My gut instinct is not to.
Q. Hi Cupids, I have a worry that has been giving me sleepless nights for nearly three months now. All my intuition tells me not to believe my BF anymore. And try hard as I might, I find it very hard to trust him now. All started at the beginn...
A. 22 February 2016: Ah so there is more to the story then the initial post.
The fact that he didn't tell you about her is a red flag for me. And the fact that he UN-friended you on Facebook when he got "caught" posting those photos... is another red flag.
So yeah... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm not enough for him. What's wrong, in that he needs porn before he can climax, when we have sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 3 months, its only a short time but i really do love him However in the past week or so we have had some issues when having sex! The past 4 or 5 times we have had sex he has been un able to cum just from sex...
A. 22 February 2016: I don't think it's you AT ALL. I don't... think it's the noises either.
I think your BF have been SO used to porn and his own tight grip that now when he has a REAL girl there with a vagina and NOT a hand to get him off he can't get off. He has i... (read in full...)
Any clue as to what to do? There are three guys who like me.
Q. So I have an issue with three guys liking me and I don't know exactly what to do. One guy is my ex whom I met in elementary school and we went out a little and then didn't really talk in middle school and then we started hanging out again in high ...
A. 21 February 2016: Seems to me that not a single of these guys are LISTENING or RESPECTING what you say.
If you have said "I only want to be friends" then either they back off and BE your friend or they walk away.
Seems like they seem to think that if they jus... (read in full...)
How should one deal with a narcissist in the family?
Q. My husband grew up with a narcissistic mother and father (should he start playing lottery ? ;). Father is out of the picture. He was a liar and a thief. I've seen him steal in a shop and deny that later. We live far away so his mother does not rep...
A. 21 February 2016: Do you have someone who can come and look after her a few hours a week? So you and your husband can "get out" just the two if you?
Taking a break here and there might help you two.... (read in full...)
What needs to happen? My friends say he's just nervous
Q. Hi! Alright so here's the deal. I like a boy, and he has told me that he likes me as well. However, he seems to have a funny way of showing it. He rarely initiates conversations, we never seem to engage in any physical contact (whether it woul...
A. 21 February 2016: Maybe you come of a bit too strong? Maybe he doesn't know how to handle it?
You are in the 13-15 age group so for some it might be something new and confusing.
IT can also be that... he doesn't like you QUITE as much as you like him. Or he ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to make my girlfriend choose between me and her friend?
Q. Ok my girlfriend has a female friend, but this friend hates me for no reason and gets "bad vibes" from me. This friend has tried to break our relationship many times and spreads horrible rumours about me even though I've never been mean to her. The ...
A. 21 February 2016: I would NOT tell her "it's me or her". I would however tell her, I really like you, I really want to be with you, but it's not working for me because of your friend "Whateverhernameis" and then lay out WHAT that friend did. Lay it out neatly, ... (read in full...)
Should I leave home because of my mom? She expects me to clean and help with bills and I think she needs to be told off
Q. I need some help dealing with my mum. I moved back home a couple of years ago and she makes me contribute financially and she complains when I make noise and wake her up but I am nearly 30 so I need to be able to come and go as I please and I don't ...
A. 21 February 2016: If this is a REAL post (still highly doubt it but whatever)
OP you need to move out. And grow up.
You are WAY over 18. You mom has NO financial responsibility towards you, to feed you, house you and definitely NOT clean up after you.
Ge... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign or does she think I'm not well dressed?
Q. I was on a second date recently. We both travelled into town together to see a show. We had a really good time and after the show we had some time to kill before the train back home arrived. We decided to take a look at a fashionable new store that ...
A. 21 February 2016: I think it's a good sign. Doesn't mean you aren't dressing "good enough" - it might mean she would LOVE to see you in something less casual.
As someone who have seen her husband in uniforms for years and years, seeing my husband in a NICE pin stri... (read in full...)
Should I leave home because of my mom? She expects me to clean and help with bills and I think she needs to be told off
Q. I need some help dealing with my mum. I moved back home a couple of years ago and she makes me contribute financially and she complains when I make noise and wake her up but I am nearly 30 so I need to be able to come and go as I please and I don't ...
A. 21 February 2016: WhenCowsAttack I didn't reply at first either because this MUST be a troll. What 28 year old acts like a 5 year old like this?
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My 27 year old girlfriend shares a bed with her 29 year old brother. Is it a cultural thing?
Q. So my girlfriend told me that her parents won't allow us to sleep in the same room. I understood and agreed to sleep on the couch downstairs. They live in a 3 bedroom family home, so when her brother arrived that night I assumed they would sleep in ...
A. 21 February 2016: It might be cultural.
And it might be the brother "protecting" his sister. I mean no hanky panky is going on in HER bed with him in it too, right?
But yes, THAT does sound weird to most of us Westerners. But it's not really an indicator that a... (read in full...)
How should one deal with a narcissist in the family?
Q. My husband grew up with a narcissistic mother and father (should he start playing lottery ? ;). Father is out of the picture. He was a liar and a thief. I've seen him steal in a shop and deny that later. We live far away so his mother does not rep...
A. 21 February 2016: Does she HAVE to stay in your home? Or is there a hotel nearby where she could be comfortable and you two can visit?
If not, I'd ignore when she talks smack and change the subject. OVER and OVER. Talk weather, travel destinations or somethin... (read in full...)
An ex, a breakup. Why is he acting this way, now?
Q. I fell out with a close friend I became romantically involved with briefly a few years ago. It was a complicated situation but resulted in is not talking for 2 years Then he started making the odd text messages occasionally and even after how he t...
A. 21 February 2016: So what do you think is the real him? The "sincere" or the "silence"?
Words are cheap. His actions doesn't really match his pretty words do they?
... (read in full...)
Its getting on my nerves that my boyfriend tries to act like my parent and hes the same age as me
Q. So my boyfriend is a complete know it all. I'm a big of a laggy in high school, only in my junior year though I'd like to transfer schools. He said I'm being an irrational child over this, and that I'm just mad over failing a class. I actually have ...
A. 20 February 2016: So it's school that isn't up to snuff, then WHY not switch? He might think he knows better, doesn't mean that he actually does know better.
IF your mom is OK with you switching schools (and you make sure to apply at the right time to switch) ... (read in full...)
An ex, a breakup. Why is he acting this way, now?
Q. I fell out with a close friend I became romantically involved with briefly a few years ago. It was a complicated situation but resulted in is not talking for 2 years Then he started making the odd text messages occasionally and even after how he t...
A. 20 February 2016: I agree. This is NOT a friend. This is someone who knows you have been "useful" in the past so worth keeping in touch with here and there.
I'd honestly, just accept that he is an acquaintance and no more... or just cut him lose (which means bl... (read in full...)
Should I continue to trust my BF? My gut instinct is not to.
Q. Hi Cupids, I have a worry that has been giving me sleepless nights for nearly three months now. All my intuition tells me not to believe my BF anymore. And try hard as I might, I find it very hard to trust him now. All started at the beginn...
A. 20 February 2016: I think your BF was doing what a LOT of people do when on business travel. They network. Taking her out to dinner and showing her around was a nice thing to do. Doesn't mean HE (or SHE) had ulterior motives. Someone might even have suggested that he ... (read in full...)
How can I best support my friend who has severe panic attacks and is under that care of a psychologist?
Q. My friend emotionally goes from high to low every single day and I need advice on how to help her. She has panic attacks several times a week, sometimes every single day and they last 20 to 30 minutes. She throws up most of what she'll eat durin...
A. 20 February 2016: I think your friend is totally unfair to expect you to be her "personal counselor" specially when you really have no clue what's going on, what she REALLY needs.
I can't tell you what's "wrong" with her either seems like she is all over the plac... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual, yet why do I orgasm faster with female partners than with men?
Q. From when i was about 14 i knew i liked men, i use to have cheeky self pleasures to gay porn and love it. As i got older i followed the 'normal' path, got a girlfriend and then came the night of losing my v, i panicked, what if i can't get it up i ...
A. 20 February 2016: We all have preferences. Even people who are bi.
Being bi ONLY means that you CAN be attracted sexually to both genders, not that you WILL like sex with EVERY partner equally.
Some people are good partners in bed, some are mediocre and som... (read in full...)
Its getting on my nerves that my boyfriend tries to act like my parent and hes the same age as me
Q. So my boyfriend is a complete know it all. I'm a big of a laggy in high school, only in my junior year though I'd like to transfer schools. He said I'm being an irrational child over this, and that I'm just mad over failing a class. I actually have ...
A. 20 February 2016: Do you think transferring will change your grades? If so, why?
Is your HS academically bad? Or are the teachers not willing to help you get your grade up, offer advice etc?
I really think it comes down to WHY you want to transfer.
I'm... (read in full...)
My fiance's overbearing brother wants us over every weekend and its exhausting for us. How do we draw the line?
Q. Hi- My fiancé and I have been together for almost four years. We dated for two years. We stayed at his parents a lot during this time because there was more space opposed to my parents. His brother and wife would stop by his parents here and...
A. 20 February 2016: Talk to your fiance. Decide TOGETHER how often you BOTH are OK with visiting.
Let's say 1 Saturday a month. Then BEAT the BIL to the punch by making the plans and let him know that you two NEED to have some relaxing downtime from work and thus are... (read in full...)
I lost my baby and family disagreements and making me feeling sad and disturbed
Q. I just lost my baby and now I feel very sad,aside from that I've been haveing very disturbing dreams and I feel so scared of losing my boyfriend. Now, family's are involved and my boyfriend and I are having disagreement between a argument that ...
A. 20 February 2016: I'm sorry for your loss. I think the best thing you can do is stay away from drama (family drama especially) and then go talk to your doctor.
Having a miscarriage or losing a child is a HUGE deal. If you can I'd say take a mini-vacation with jus... (read in full...)
What have I done to these women? How should I respond if a similar situation arises?
Q. Does anyone else struggle in social settings? I'm a young mum and my 3 year old was invited to her friends Birthday party. We went along and I seen none of the Mums I speak to from the Nursery were there, and I was the youngest Mum. I tried b...
A. 19 February 2016: I don't think it was your social skills that lacked that day.
WOW, I agree WHAT a bunch of COWS! Wall to wall COWS!
You have done nothing wrong to those women. My guess is they are ALL a bit jealous of you age and looks. Some women just don't... (read in full...)
Does this mean that a person could possibly be bi?
Q. If you're turned on by naked girls sometimes, does that mean you could possibly be bi? My first porn that I watched had something to do with boobs and it turned me on a lot and ever since then I'd been turned on by boobs. But boobs are boobs ri...
A. 19 February 2016: Women's bodies are lovely if you ask me. Go to any art gallery or museum and it's celebrated one way or another.
Getting turned on BY them doesn't make you anything (label wise).
I think a naked female body is beautiful and I'm pretty sure that... (read in full...)
Why does my lover play the push and pull game?
Q. Why does my lover push and pull? I am actually quite fed up with it. After 5 years, I don't want to be ignored and sent minimal three word texts. Have told him as much. I would much rather be told if he needed his space, didn't want to message. Not ...
A. 19 February 2016: He can't "play" the push/pull if you don't play along.
My guess is.. the guy is married? So you are NOT the top priority.
You make this ALL his decision, why?
If you are sick of it, CUT the cord! Why is it up to HIM alone to decide that thi... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship but has feelings for me. What should we do?
Q. I have feelings for a guy - but he is in a relationship. However yesterday he told me he has feelings for me aswell. What do we do?!...
A. 19 February 2016: I'd back away.
HE has a decision to make. HER or you.
Unless if course you rather be the "homewrecker" the "mistress" or the "other Woman".
IF he has deep feelings for you - deeper than for her. He will end it with her and date you.
If ... (read in full...)
Should I be sending risque pics to my boyfriend? Will it get on the internet?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we have a very close relationship. He is an incredibly sweet person and I honestly trust him with anything. The other day we were talking and it just so happened that he sent me a topless ...
A. 19 February 2016: If you are under 18, I'd say no - don't send any. You don't OWE him dirty pics. And... IF you two break up it's not something you want "out there".
Let me give you an example. Your BF's best mate (guy) borrows your BF's phone and while talking ... (read in full...)
My future MIL thinks we should get checked out because after 3 years together we still haven't gotten pregnant
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years now we are getting married this year... We have had unprotected sex for at least 3 years. If we get pregnant that great if we don’t that is still okay as we are 25 and 26 so there’s time. But his ...
A. 19 February 2016: So if you are not worried and NOT curious - I'd tell your fiance that ENOUGH about the subject.
Have you two talked about a future without kids?
At 25, kids were the last thing I wanted too. There were so many things I wanted to do and see an... (read in full...)
Is it ok to meet up with an ex employee?
Q. Hi Guys, so a lady recently left the company but before leaving she suggested that I find her on Facebook and we can go from there. Is it okay to meet up with an ex-employee?...
A. 18 February 2016: Why wouldn't it be OK?... (read in full...)
I'm dating 2 men, neither is quite right but I don't want to be alone
Q. Not really sure where to start with this one but here it goes...s I'm dating two men; one is extremely nice to me and loving and complementary. He buys me little things like roses and we have a good relationship. he's there for me if I need him, ...
A. 18 February 2016: I agree with the uncles and aunt here.
NEITHER are right for you.
Guy #1 needs to grow up, you can't do that for him. And you are NOT physically attracted to him, so DON'T string him along. It's not fair. Even if you did decide to go for #1 ove... (read in full...)
My future MIL thinks we should get checked out because after 3 years together we still haven't gotten pregnant
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years now we are getting married this year... We have had unprotected sex for at least 3 years. If we get pregnant that great if we don’t that is still okay as we are 25 and 26 so there’s time. But his ...
A. 18 February 2016: I can understand why you feel it's none of her business. But aren't YOU curious? Let's say you CAN'T get pregnant the "conventionally" way, well, if you know NOW there is time to save up for IVF (if kids is something you two want down the line).
... (read in full...)
I feel ignored and I don't know what to do
Q. How would you feel if you had a husband who constantly was on viber to some of his family members and friends and when I say constantly I mean sometimes a two hour convo to one friend and then to another; and two hour convos to his mother on a daily ...
A. 17 February 2016: I doesn't sound normal to me either. BUT I do think it's more common these days that some people live in some "online" fantasy - with the Instagram your breakfast - bitch about life in twitter and so forth.
It's been 4 years, he isn't going to... (read in full...)
What can I do about this situation? My male friend is too controlling
Q. My male friend is very controlling I think. He wants everything to be on his terms. He decides when and where we hang out. If he doesn't have time, we don't do anything and won't even try to compromise. I was having a party last week and he said...
A. 17 February 2016: So he should treat YOU better than a GF? WTF?
Just saying. What can you do? well, 1. accept that this is WHO he is. If soccer is important to him he might or might not skip a practice for YOUR party. 2. stop treating him like he is your BF. He i... (read in full...)
Have I already given my ex too many chances?
Q. I have been in and out of a relationship with a girl for about 7 years now. We met back in high school. Back in Dec 2014 I proposed to her but she said no. Shortly after I found out that she was having sex with one of her co-workers. she ...
A. 17 February 2016: You ex and you... I think have WAY too much baggage, and you have both don't stupid and hurtful stuff BECAUSE of each other. Your ex didn't MAKE you cheat - that was YOUR choice - you didn't MAKE her cheat either, again HER choice. So quit the blame ... (read in full...)
Where do I draw the line with LDR BF who is becoming provocative and sexually disrespectful?
Q. Hi there, I’m after some advice about a new relationship. It’s long distance and we met online. He’s a bit older than me and has been married before. He’s not really my type but pursued me, was incredibly lovely to me at the beginning, we ha...
A. 17 February 2016: I'd draw the line and pull the plug now.
It's really a no brainer. Some people think that BDSM is an excuse to treat others like crap outside of the "bedroom" as well as in the bed room, but that is something entirely different. THAT is just bei... (read in full...)
Do you think my crude jokes ruined my chances during the first date?
Q. There is a guy that I had been talking to for about a week. We spoke through text and calls, and finally met up for a first date last Saturday. He did not call me back after that date, so I have been analyzing everything I have said or done to make ...
A. 16 February 2016: IF you think the crude jokes were what "ruined" it for you - learn from it and don't do those on the next first date.
You only talked to him for a week then had a date, and then nothing.
Could be is is dating/chatting to multiple girls a... (read in full...)
Confront the cad or befriend the heartbroken girlfriend!
Q. So, out of nowhere 6 months ago a random facebook friend stole my heart. He wished me a happy birthday, charmed me right off of my feet and for a few months after that we chatted incessantly, day and night. He's a world traveling performance artist ...
A. 16 February 2016: Honestly, I'd just block her and leave his woman-troubles to him to deal with.
And I'd see him not as a potential partner but friend only and adjust the communication to match that.... (read in full...)
Am I jealous? is he going to spread rumours that aren't true?
Q. I'm really annoyed right now. Today me and my mate were walking down the street and we bumped into my ex. He ran over to my best mate and gave her a hug for about 2 minutes, I was just standing there pretending not to look. After the hug he looked ...
A. 16 February 2016: Ignore him. Don't "talk" to him through your mates. If he spread rumors he has NO pictures to back them up, right? (because you never sent him any).
If anyone brings him up or anything he says - LAUGH it off with the attitude that he is being ri... (read in full...)
I used a fake name on the website because I had been stalked in the past, now my b/f wants to end things!
Q. I met an older man about 14 years older then me on an online dating site. I went by my username since I met him, however I started a physical relationship with him 7 months ago. I just recently told him my real name because I started falling in love ...
A. 16 February 2016: Let him go, if he has met someone else he can't have been that serious about you in the first place. My guess is he has been "juggling" several women and is now nitpicking whom to keep.
And I agree waiting as long as you did, it's not really a... (read in full...)
Can I stop friends hitting on my mom.
Q. its about my mom, i think she is acting insane. I am 26, my mom is 46. My parents know each other since they were 14. They got married early and had me when they were 20. lately they are though friendly with each other, live their separate ...
A. 15 February 2016: I know it might make you feel creeped out, but you CAN NOT control what other people do, think or feel.
So no, you can't stop your make friends from wanting to get to know your mom. Or stop your mom from having lunch with the guy.
Your mom is 4... (read in full...)
Should I worry about his Valentine blunder?
Q. My BF of 3 years had to work all day on Valentine's Day. He gave me my gift and we celebrated on Friday. Yesterday we had a quick chat while he was at work. He texted me, "Be my Valentine?", and I said "Yes" and asked if he will be mine. He sai...
A. 15 February 2016: I have to agree with Chigirl here.
You need to chill. The ONLY one hurting you, is you. You have all these notions of what a BF should do, but have you actually told him?
It was Feb 14. That is it. You two already celebrated Valentine's and ... (read in full...)
Dating 2 years, said he wants to be friends, had an abortion after unplanned pregnancy and now don't know where I stand with him!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 2 yrs now but he says he doesn't feel the spark and wants to be friends and we found out that I was pregnant! He got close to me again and was very supportive during the abortion and keeps teasing me that we ...
A. 15 February 2016: I think the pregnancy scare made him realize that he isn't mature enough for all the things that comes with an adult relationship, but he doesn't want to lose you either.
It was good that he was supportive when you needed him. Doesn't mean HE ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex (now friend) how his past behavior affected me?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles I reacquainted with an ex boyfriend last year and its been great reestablishing our friendship again. I dont ever want to lose it again. We had been intimate but I am going to make it clear the next time i see him that I d...
A. 15 February 2016: I agree with Cindy.
I don't think there is much point in bringing up and re-hashing the past.
It's not going to fix the issue YOU have. That is something you need to work on.
Seeing or think you are seeing people who hurt you, right after a ... (read in full...)
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