I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 3 March 2016: You getting "rid" of the dog - whether it's to the local shelter or a rescue IS not the option I would choose.
First I would call them and find the nearest available rescue center/fosterhome, then jot down all the info and talk to your husband... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 2 March 2016: https://canecorsorescue.org/rescue-faq/
https://canecorsorescue.org/
The Specific breed rescues do NOT euthanize healthy dogs. They find them forever-homes instead.
SEVERAL aunties suggested this. So maybe? look into it with your husba... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend is back in touch with her ex- how do I avoid letting jealousy ruin things?
Q. Hi All Ive been with my partner a while now, it is LDR but we have done the usual normal couple stuff, gone on hols etc and talk every night, and see each other every week (and spend all our hols together). We are planning to move in together in 5...
A. 1 March 2016: Because she showed you where her loyalty lies. She knows he isn't worth keeping in touch with if it hurt your feelings..
And... because now you know he IS NOT competition.
Pretty basic human behavior/feelings.... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 1 March 2016: I'm sorry, I get that he feels a responsibility to the dog - but I would REHOME him AND the dog asap.
This should be non-negotiable.
Find and contact a Cane Corso rescue (I think one of the aunties gave a link) then tell your husband there is... (read in full...)
He didn't offer his jacket--was I in the wrong to get upset?
Q. My guy and I have a lot of problems, one of them being that I feel he doesn't show he cares when it really matters. Today we were sitting in a classroom that was incredibly cold. I was taking a test online and couldn't leave the desk. At times I got ...
A. 1 March 2016: I agree. HE did nothing wrong.
While you might have thought he was paying attention to your welfare, he was paying attention the his own work and the fact that HE was cold.
If the is a common thing for the classroom to be cold PACK an extra sw... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to delete my contact information from her cell phone? Or if I ask her that I will show that I'm hurt?
Q. I used to go out with this girl, I was in love with her, hut she wasn't into me. One night we ended on her kitchen floor and I started caressing her hair and arm, i realized she got excited when I was doing that but she turned me down at that spot. ...
A. 1 March 2016: I think she is playing head-games. Asking about flowers is her way of telling you that someone else is interested, but she is putting a spin on it, like "she is scared". She has told you in no uncertain terms that she isn't interested so let her go. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to continue being friends with her but it upsets me
Q. I'm looking for pretty open minded advice here so bare with me lol. My boyfriend and I were together for about 4 years. We had a great relationship but towards the end we had some difficulties outside of our relationship that we couldn't really ...
A. 1 March 2016: I don't think you are overreacting AT ALL.
There IS no real GOOD reason for him to stay friends with her. NOT if he wants to re-work the relationship with you.
It's like he wants to keep a "spare". Now he might claim they are OH SO platonic f... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend is back in touch with her ex- how do I avoid letting jealousy ruin things?
Q. Hi All Ive been with my partner a while now, it is LDR but we have done the usual normal couple stuff, gone on hols etc and talk every night, and see each other every week (and spend all our hols together). We are planning to move in together in 5...
A. 29 February 2016: Where are you two planning on moving in 5 months? Near her or your location? Or somewhere in the middle?
Personally, I would NOT bring him up. BUT only because you said you were OK with it. So prove to her that you trust her by not bringing... (read in full...)
Might my friends with benefits be developing feelings for me?
Q. This might be a silly question but I am seriously wondering if my friend with benefits might be developing feelings for me. So for the past three months or so he has been very attentive, calling and texting me all the time. He keeps asking que...
A. 29 February 2016: Are you looking for more than a FWB? If so, talk to him?... (read in full...)
Could my personal trainer have a crush on me?
Q. I am 20 and he is 36 and is married according to his FaceBook. When I first met my personal trainer, he kept looking deep into my eyes with the biggest smile. He then texted me asking how my day has been and when I am starting, to have a good ...
A. 29 February 2016: Does it matter? The guy is married. All you are doing by entertaining this fantasy is shooting yourself in the foot and setting yourself up for heartache and heartbreak. At the end of the day... who does he go home to? HIS WIFE!
A lot of "persona... (read in full...)
Beautiful girlfriend makes me feel worthless
Q. I really need help. My girlfriend is threatening to break up with me and it seems all I do is not enough. Right now she's telling me she's broken up and that she doesn't want me. But come later that may change. It's the same yesterday. We agre...
A. 29 February 2016: It sounds like a really unhappy and uneven relationship where YOU have given HER all the power to make decision and you just go along with it so you can get to "keep" a beautiful gf.
If having a pretty GF is more important than having a good and... (read in full...)
Finding a nice guy makes me want to run. Please help!
Q. I dumped my emotionally and verbally abusive BF about 4 months ago. I have absolutely no feelings towards him and am thrilled to get him out of my life. When I date, I tend to be a "woman who loves too much". Each relationship I have had ends in...
A. 29 February 2016: If you don't feel ready to date again yet, it's OK. If you think this guy might be a potential BF, then just GO slow like Auntie Ciar suggests.
YOU can not CONTROL how another person feel, act or think. And it's NOT your responsibili... (read in full...)
Is my ex manipulating me?
Q. Dear cupid, is my ex boyfriend trying to manipulate me? My 3 year relationship ended several months ago. He told me he was no longer happy and that he met another woman and was very sorry for hurting me. Only about 3 weeks after our break up, he...
A. 28 February 2016: He wants a "spare" and that is you. JUST in case this new girl isn't what he was hoping she'd be.
I think for you need to tell him you are not interested in being friends right now. And after that? I'd block his number. (just make sure all is s... (read in full...)
I've been intimate with my widowed aunt and now she wants me to live with her!
Q. Hello guys I am 30 yrs married now n I am from India where relationships matter a lot. My question is about the physical relationship with my maternal uncle's wife( aunt) This goes around 6 yrs ago due to my uncles death my aunt got disturbe...
A. 28 February 2016: How is she forcing you?
YOU CHOSE to have a sexual relationship with a TOTALLY vulnerable woman (your aunt) an you CHOSE to cheat on your GF with said aunt.
Maybe this is Karma saying hello?... (read in full...)
I transferred all my contacts to my new iPhone but I think this girl thinks I stalked her account for it. What should I do?
Q. So I used to hangout with this girl 2 years ago we stopped hanging out cause I stopped showing up or didn't get the ques she wanted to hangout.She usually texts me first but I havnt really had a good conversation with her in a year but I kept her ...
A. 28 February 2016: I don't think so, she texted you first, right? Which means SHE has kept your number too.
Though I don't see the point in keeping someone's number you have no interest in getting to know better, there is nothing wrong in keeping a girl's number (... (read in full...)
How do I backtrack on the date plans and do something more "appropriate"?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site which I was just using on a "see how it goes" basis - met him once and he was cute, so we said we'd meet up again. Texted for over 2 weeks since but we've been busy so we're meeting up next week. I said from the ...
A. 28 February 2016: I think the idea of pre-booking a taxi is a good idea.
I don't think you HAVE to trust him or take his offer for face value. YOU do NOT really know this guy. But with that said, I have been on a couple of second dates that involved the guy cook... (read in full...)
I met a woman on a dating site, we had a nice first date but now, she's stopped responding. Any advice appreciated!
Q. I need some advice here. So, I met this woman on OKCupid and we started writing to each other. I noticed that she logged in only once a week but she did respond whenever she logged in. The messages were also good. If I wrote 2 paragraphs her reply ...
A. 28 February 2016: I think she is "ghosting" you and thus I'd consider her NOT interested.
So many people rather "ignore" instead of telling the other person, I'm no longer interested or I don't think we are a good fit". Because it's EASIER for them.
She mig... (read in full...)
Dating. How long should I wait for some kind of chemistry to develop?
Q. So I'm dating this guy, he's 30, and though we get along really well I'm not feeling the attraction. And I know attraction is overrated, but I notice myself thinking I hope he doesn't put his arm around me or kiss me goodnight, because I'm just not ...
A. 28 February 2016: I agree, go on the 3rd date and see if anything has changed.
I would NOT date a guy just because he is nice to be around, and I don't think he is looking for a new friend either.
It's not fair on either of you to continue after the 3rd date if ... (read in full...)
Communication issues with my 21 year old partner. What am I supposed to do in this situation?
Q. Hi So i'm getting pretty desperate for someone to talk to about my relationship problems, and i've put off asking for help so many times because there's so much that needs including in the explanation that you would end up reading an essay. So ...
A. 28 February 2016: So you live together?
My advice, unless your parents life far from your work, spend a week-end with them. Get some rest and some DRAMA free time. Or I'd go sleep on the couch.
He does sound a bit insecure, manipulative and... immature. I mean... (read in full...)
The ex factor. Can anyone think of anything that might help or make it better?
Q. I have a problem and I don't know what to do about it. I've been with my boyfriend for four years now. A year before we got together he was dumped by his high school sweetheart who he was with for five years. At first he talked quite a lot about...
A. 28 February 2016: I think the more you let these dreams/nightmares/fantasies influence your life the more it will fester and the more it will upset you.
So you NEED to find a way to snap yourself out of it. EVERY time it pops not your head. An elastic band on your ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing? I want to know if my ex may consider a serious relationship with me in the future. Advice needed!
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles I dont want to mess this up again as I never had any one to advise me on relationships when I was growing up so I made lots of mistakes. Cutting a long story short, I met up with my ex mid last year. Had a few dates and b...
A. 28 February 2016: I would honestly forget about him.
He isn't looking for a relationship. What he wants is an occasional partner or companion. And you are "free" versus an escort who would cost money.
Sorry, I think you are wasting your time hoping he will c... (read in full...)
Dating a 37 year old guy. How can I tell him to use anti- wrinkle cream in a nice way?
Q. So my boyfriend is 37, happy guy and it takes much to irritate him. Though he doesn't look far older than his age, his face wrinkles a lot especially when he smiles. I can't change this fact but it might at least be lessened if he uses moisturi...
A. 28 February 2016: You DO want to change him.
And you could buy a NICE face moisturizer and suggest it will make his skin look amazing. Anti wrinkle creams is BS, they are not really going to "erase" wrinkles.
OR... you could accept him for WHO he is and HOW he... (read in full...)
To parents of children or people who are childfree by choice. Do you regret your decision?
Q. I'd like to hear from people who have children and those who don't. Do you regret your decision or are you sincerely happy with your choice to become a parent or childfree? I have terrible mental illness genetics in my family line so I'm leaning ...
A. 28 February 2016: I don't know how well mental illnesses can be mapped in a genetic profile, but if kids is something you might want, I'd consider talking to a doctor BEFORE making that huge decision. And don't forget your kids would genetically be half your ... (read in full...)
Have I rushed into dumping him ? How can I ask him for another chance?
Q. I dont know if ive made a mistake , I dumped my boyfriend yesterday because i came last in his life. I know work and family come first. I wouldnt expect to come before them, but he couldnt give me the time i wanted. I'm not demanding. I'd be ha...
A. 28 February 2016: Why settle for being a once a week GF in the first place?
Is it that you are more scared of being alone than being with the wrong guy?
Is he married? Is that why family comes first? Or does he have an ex and kids ? A sick mother/father?
... (read in full...)
A is a long term good friend. How can I convince my mum to let A spend the night?
Q. So, here's the deal. I have a good friend, let's call him A. Anyway, ever since I was little, I've always preferred hanging out with boys. But now that I'm older, I can't have a sleepover or anything. I wouldn't want to do anything sexual, and ...
A. 27 February 2016: I agree.
I have 3 daughters. 2 of them have male-besties and no, there are NO sleep overs. When they have "squad" sleepovers the male friend comes over for the dinner, and the hangout and my husband drives them home (usually around 11-11.30... (read in full...)
We kissed on our last date. Should I stay with her, even though I am not attracted to her?
Q. Dating a girl I'm not completely attracted to? I met this girl on a dating app and we've been on two dates so far. I like her personality so far and think shes kind of pretty but I'm not as attracted to her like I was with other girls I've da...
A. 27 February 2016: Good for you in ending it.
Chemistry is important in a relationship. Whether it's short term or long term. Attraction is part of it.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 27 February 2016: OP, block & delete her number. Stop her from jerking you around.
Once you cut the contact 100% it will be easier for you to let go and move on.... (read in full...)
Should I continue a relationship with someone who doesn't want children?
Q. I am currently at crossroads in my life. I found a guy I truly love and loves me for who I am. We seem to be made for each other. In fact, I feel that we are soul mates if not for one terrible flaw in him. He hates children! I have seen the wa...
A. 27 February 2016: Not wanting children doesn't make him a "man-child" or immature.
It makes him a non-viable partner.
How come you think HE needs to change his mind, and not you?
He is being honest with you, HE doesn't want kids. You do. So LET him go. That ... (read in full...)
I made an awful first impression, how can I 'correct' it?
Q. Hi i need advice on a dating matter . i am an extremely shy person and i went on a date with a wonderful guy the problem is i drank before meeting him it gave me too much confidence i know how to handle my drink but wanted rid of all the nerves. ...
A. 27 February 2016: I say move on and learn from this. You already explained it, and he did nothing. If he was interested, he would have accepted the explanation and asked you out again. He didn't.
Liquid courage is not for you, so tell the NEXT guy in advance ... (read in full...)
Why why do girls dump guys who treat a girl like an angel?
Q. I wonder why ladies, I never hear a woman, talk about them dumping a nice guy, on here. I here all the time,How they get hurt, by the guy who treated them bad. It does happen all the time, a guy treats a woman fantastic. Then a woman, breaks t...
A. 27 February 2016: Well, I wrote a long answer and it got eaten somehow, so I'll try and redo my answer.
My guess is that you are lashing out because you are hurting over a rejection. Romantic rejections suck. For men and woman. It's NEVER a good feeling.
My a... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 27 February 2016: There is no way of knowing if she ACTUALLY loved you the way you wanted her too, FACTS are though, that she has moved on with a new guy and is NO LONGER interested in you or your attentions and you NEED to accept and respect that by leaving her ... (read in full...)
Is this a break-up? Boyfriend and I haven't talked in 3 days after argument. Please help
Q. On Monday me and my boyfriend got into a fight over something small and now he hasn't said one word to me in 3 whole days ! I'm worried. I don't want it to be over I just wanna work it out . yesterday he called and let it ring 3 times and hung up ...
A. 25 February 2016: He tried to ring you, and you didn't pick up? Why? If you want to sort things out you NEED to put on your big girl panties and TALK to him.
Call him.
Obviously it wasn't such a "little" thing after all.... (read in full...)
How do I manage this family dynamic and new stress in our lives?
Q. You probably don't get too many letters from a guy my age. I am writing about my kids. My oldest, my daughter-age 27- meets this British guy at party.He works for a multinational U.K. company and is trying to deal with problems in one of their of...
A. 25 February 2016: You let her decide what she needs/wants to do with her life, including her love life.
Support her best as you can.
If she comes for advice, sit her down and help her make a pro/con list.
I moved from Europe to the US for my husband - we have... (read in full...)
He just wanted to hook up...why is he texting me ?
Q. I posted a thread about a guy who was giving the impression that he just wanted sex and subsequently disappeared when I made it clear that I'm looking for someone to date . Here is recap of this saga -I met a guy when I was out and he gave me h...
A. 25 February 2016: Ignore the text. Block and delete his number.
He is STILL looking to hook up and he was hoping you had lowered your expectations in the few months of silence.
He isn't all of a sudden going to WANT a relationship with you.
Or he haven't b... (read in full...)
How do I contact this married man to tell him I'm pregnant? I want him to help support me!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm the op of this post "He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?", which I posted a month back. I found out that I'm pregnant few days back and I'm positive he is the father since I didn't have sex with an...
A. 25 February 2016: How unfair of you to decide to keep a baby without his consent. That poor child.
Sorry, that is how I feel.
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But back to your questions:
1. How do I get him to acknowledge that he is the father.
Acknowledge to whom... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: I have wanted a dog for over 20 years. Hubby is not a "dog-person". WE have cats instead - all rescues. But no dogs.
And in some respects it's nice to NOT have a dog as it takes WAY more training and effort to have a dog over a cat.
I think... (read in full...)
How can I successfully encourage my Bf to take better care of himself and improve his personal hygiene?
Q. I want my boyfriend to take better care of himself when it comes to hygiene and clothing. I don't think I'm asking for too much: I would like him to brush his teeth twice a day, I would like him to shower and wash his face once a day, I would lik...
A. 24 February 2016: Your BF is right. He IS capable of taking care of himself. BUT not up to your (and the average person's standards).
And like SVC pointed out... YOU wouldn't LOWER yours to fit his, would you? Do why do you expect him to change his to fit yours?
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 24 February 2016: I'm absolutely with WiseOwlE
While I DO agree that MANY men watch porn, I think your excuse it ridiculous. You are basically saying because "all men" like porn you are going to continue to watch it and SHE can just suck it up.
YOU LIED in t... (read in full...)
Are his fantasies a sign he doesn't love me?
Q. I caught my boyfriend masturbating in the shower. I asked him if he thought about me then and he honestly answered no. It hurt me quite a bit because first of all I was home and I feel like he'd rather go fantasies about other girls than be with me. ...
A. 23 February 2016: Nope. His fantasies doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Actually his fantasies might have very little to do with you or with "love".
When you are in a long term relationship with someone you stop noticing others. You still notice attractive people. ... (read in full...)
Am I looking likely to lose her? Or is it because she needs to fight her demons?
Q. Hi, I hope someone can offer me some advice, I'll try to keep this short. I met this woman on a dating site 18 months ago, we hit it off very well, talked or messaged on kik, she has three children by the way. Anyway she has had some emotio...
A. 23 February 2016: I'm sorry about your mom.
I think it's a shame that she put herself on a dating site if she CLEARLY isn't ready to date. 18 months and never met in person? That to me is pretty iffy. If she needs to work on her past experiences, she needs to DO th... (read in full...)
What is the difference between friends and more than friends?
Q. My best friend and I are asexual. i live in a house with her and her dog. Where is the line drawn between friends and more? We're so close, I've never had a friend that knows me as well as she does, yet we insist on labeling ourselves as friends. ...
A. 23 February 2016: You say you talk about everything, right?
So why not have this conversation with her?
There are no set rules in stone for how you define what you have with her.
Personally, I draw the line between friends and "more" than friend, with sexual... (read in full...)
Do women mind being approached in the gym?
Q. Women, do you mind if men approach you in the gym? There's two women in my gym, around my age, who I've noticed looking my way every time we're in the gym working out. Usually I have my headphones on and mind my own business, but it's kind of...
A. 23 February 2016: I'd stick with pleasantries (such as hi, how are you with an added smile).
They might be watching you, but we can't tell you why they are.
I don't agree that it's "only" to talk to them if they are interested. That's ridiculous. But ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can help my jealous ex husband move on?
Q. My ex husband and I seperated over 5 years ago. We have two children in Junior High School. He tries to stay in their lives by coming by our house every morning to drive the children to school. I met a man in another State about a year ago and thro...
A. 23 February 2016: First of all, you NEED to tell your ex-hb to LEAVE the kids out of it.
This is NOT about them. So that NEEDS to stop. IF he doesn't stop, then I'd seriously consider cutting the contact between HIM and the kids.
Now you don't mention how old ... (read in full...)
I've been hung up on him for two years but haven't been able to rekindle our friendship or relationship! What should I do?
Q. So there's this guy that I've been hung up on for the past two years nearly. When we first met we instantly became friends maybe even a tiny bit more (constant flirting, long conversations etc). Then after a couple of months things got awkward. I ...
A. 22 February 2016: Doing the same thing OVER AND OVER and expecting a different outcome is... at best naive and at "worst" being dense.
I get that you are "hung up" on him. But is it because he somehow rejected you and you won't accept that, or is it that you don'... (read in full...)
Should I continue to trust my BF? My gut instinct is not to.
Q. Hi Cupids, I have a worry that has been giving me sleepless nights for nearly three months now. All my intuition tells me not to believe my BF anymore. And try hard as I might, I find it very hard to trust him now. All started at the beginn...
A. 22 February 2016: Ah so there is more to the story then the initial post.
The fact that he didn't tell you about her is a red flag for me. And the fact that he UN-friended you on Facebook when he got "caught" posting those photos... is another red flag.
So yeah... (read in full...)
Should I continue to trust my BF? My gut instinct is not to.
Q. Hi Cupids, I have a worry that has been giving me sleepless nights for nearly three months now. All my intuition tells me not to believe my BF anymore. And try hard as I might, I find it very hard to trust him now. All started at the beginn...
A. 20 February 2016: I think your BF was doing what a LOT of people do when on business travel. They network. Taking her out to dinner and showing her around was a nice thing to do. Doesn't mean HE (or SHE) had ulterior motives. Someone might even have suggested that he ... (read in full...)
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