The messages are turning sexual. When is it a good time to tell him I've never had sex?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and everything seems to be great and going really well. We've been on a few dates that have also turned out well and we both are starting to enjoy each other's company. I'm really starting to ...
A. 5 April 2016: So if he offended you why not just let it go and cut the contact?
It's only been a couple of weeks.
My guess is he WAS/IS looking for a casual sexual partner not a GF.
It's absolutely OK for you to not take crap from a guy and just block him... (read in full...)
What do I do? My BF refuses to stop talking to a girl he had a crush on before meeting me.
Q. So I moved in with my boyfriend in the end of OCT . It was love at first meeting and a very quick move in together. He moved me in on his birthday of all things and said I was the best birthday gift ever. Well since then Ive had to wade through ...
A. 31 March 2016: Find a place of your own, move out and forget this loser.
THAT is my advice. I will elaborate on WHY I give you that advice below.
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YOU are doing the "classic woman being cheated on routine". You are blaming th... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend insensitive to praise this new employee to the extent he did? Or am I being too sensitive?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a few years now and we love each other but a comment he made this morning really upset me... He was interviewing this woman for a job and he texted me afterwards saying she was excellent and that he would be hiring h...
A. 31 March 2016: I agree with Cindy.
If he was praising her SKILLS, then I think you are overreacting. I think he is VERY "entitled" to be excited and happy to have found an employee with the skills the company needs.
If he has interview a slew of candidates an... (read in full...)
I have a LDR but have reconnected with an ex!
Q. I have been with my current partner for 4 months now, and everything is fine. It's long distance (100 miles). But I drive to see her once a week. However, my ex has recently come back in to my life. My ex and I both moved cross country for ...
A. 31 March 2016: Well, this is a shit or get off the pot moment.
EITHER you want to rekindle things with the EX.. OR you want to continue your LDR.
Doing both is obviously NOT OK.
If you decide on the ex, tell the LDR and cut of the contact with the LDR, le... (read in full...)
I don't want to be fired but feel uncomfortable with what my boss is requesting me to do
Q. I started my job yesterday as an administrative assistant, at a private accounting firm. My boss told me today she wants me to call tomorrow a credit card company and be her and ask them to waive a fee for her. I feel kind of uncomfor...
A. 30 March 2016: I agree with Tisha, GO) to HR and tell them.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be fired but feel uncomfortable with what my boss is requesting me to do
Q. I started my job yesterday as an administrative assistant, at a private accounting firm. My boss told me today she wants me to call tomorrow a credit card company and be her and ask them to waive a fee for her. I feel kind of uncomfor...
A. 30 March 2016: This is not your in your job description (I bet) and definitely on the iffy side, and if I were you I would decline doing it.
While the Credit card company can't tell voices apart, it's still impersonation.
Also working for an accounting firm ... (read in full...)
He's asked for a second chance and I said no. Should I let him back? He's so jealous.
Q. I was in a relationship with this guy and at the beggining everything was great.it was my first relationship so i was really excited so was he. he was really in love with me and after a month he first told me he loved me. BUT he was jealous all ...
A. 30 March 2016: Good grief girl!
Do not take him back and for your OWN sake, block and delete his number. Tell him beforehand that you DO NOT want him back and you want NO further contact.
When you were dating you say a "little" glimpse of a guy with control... (read in full...)
Will his friend be thinking I am an absolute idiot to still stay with him? I think my husband took another girl's number while away with the army
Q. Hey. I need to know if I'm being silly or not. Last month my husband went away abroad with the army to malta and while he was there got girls numbers etc to be honest Anyway he wants us to go out with a guy and his gf, the guy we are meeting wen...
A. 30 March 2016: Have you asked why he got numbers of girls?
Have you asked him if he was OK with you getting random guys numbers WHILE he is away?
I think you NEED to solve this issue with your husband.
What his friend think or may not think about you is i... (read in full...)
Is it wise to confront him with all that I have found out about him in contact with his ex? We have been together for 12 years
Q. I have been with this man for 12 years I just recently found out that he has been paying for his ex bills though their kids are grown Found out Thur text on his phone with texting and calling each on it the daily found text where they are send...
A. 30 March 2016: Now that you know, what do you intend on doing AFTER you confront him?
Continue to BE with him? Or have you had enough ?
You say "he has hurt you as much as a man ever could even before this" - but you are STILL with him.
Why stay with a... (read in full...)
Should I be happy for my ex fiance after he cheated on me and hurt me so badly?
Q. About 3 months ago, my fiancé of 4 years ended our relationship. I would later find out he was cheating on me behind my back for about 2 weeks with a new woman at his work who he barely knew. I knew he met her and I actually knew her somewhat bac...
A. 30 March 2016: Why would his family say that to you?
To make his actions less vile. If YOU had cheated, then TRUST me they would not think he owed you to pee on you if you were on fire, but he is THEIR SON and probably can't do wrong in their eyes.
Someone... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to feel uncomfortable? Everyone has a past, but my boyfriend keeps dropping bombshells
Q. I have had a wonderful few months with my boyfriend but he just keeps dropping bombshells. The first was about a one night stand he had in his unhappy marriage two years ago which he regretted. Then he told me he uses alcohol as an emotiona...
A. 30 March 2016: You two have different view points on (I bet) several issues and since it's only been a few months... I wouldn't be surprised if more "bombs" were dropped over time.
One thing is taking drugs, doing coke, but at a concert with his kid? Yes, I s... (read in full...)
Truth or fake? Wish I never catfished him. Do I tell him the truth and end up with losing him, because he feels betrayed?
Q. So I had this crush and I found his boyfriend on online. I started talking to his boyfriend but used him to get info on his now ex. As it turns out me and him click I really like him as a friend and now after nearly 4 months of talking I feel bad...
A. 30 March 2016: Be honest and take the consequences as they come.
YOU made the choice to "catfish" or be shady, if you want to at LEAST make amends be honest. Maybe he will accept it, maybe he won't.
But isn't that better than not even GIVING him the choice t... (read in full...)
How can I stand tall this time without letting him back into my life?
Q. Hello and thanks for your help. I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 4 years. His attitude isn't good to say the least. He dictates how long I need to stay when I'm with him. If I can only stay a couple hours he argues. He wants me to cons...
A. 29 March 2016: Follow your instincts and dump him. BLOCK and DELETE his number and remove him from all social media, if he has your e-mail make SURE his e-mail address goes straight to spam or trash folder.
He is blaming YOU for his bad behavior, which means he... (read in full...)
The messages are turning sexual. When is it a good time to tell him I've never had sex?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and everything seems to be great and going really well. We've been on a few dates that have also turned out well and we both are starting to enjoy each other's company. I'm really starting to ...
A. 29 March 2016: I'd tell him if and when you two decide on being exclusive (aka BF/GF).
And maybe tone down the sexy texting. The dating phase is the time you get to KNOW the other person, not play fantasy mind games. While it CAN be highly fun, it can also mak... (read in full...)
Do all women like to be watched while they are bathing?
Q. When I ask my wife how she will feel if some one peek in her bathroom and watch her bath, she got extremely horny. Is that normal... how do I know she got extremely horny?, I was doing an intercource with her when I asked. So she basically went ...
A. 29 March 2016: No. You can't generalize like that. It's like asking if ALL men like Limburger cheese.
So some women might. In your wife's case I think it was the knowledge of YOU watching her, not some random stranger that turned her on.... (read in full...)
Will my wife ever have a threesome?
Q. My wife and I are married for 5years. I am a sex crazy person and my wife was traditional Indian. I always wanted to watch my wife in bed with other guys. I told her my fantasy during sex and she got turned on extremely. She has never watched porn ...
A. 29 March 2016: Nope, she already told you.
She likes the "fantasy" or the "novelty" of it, but the actual deed? no.
I don't really think it matter what social or cultural background people come from, we ALL have limits and she has TOLD you that while it tu... (read in full...)
Husband is complacent, and I am fliriting with a co worker.
Q. I have been married for 3 years now and I love my husband very much. There is a problem and I do not know how to overcome it. I have been gaining feelings for a coworker and I know that my coworker feels the same, we are always flirting and I cannot ...
A. 29 March 2016: Now I'm not going to coddle you in this answer. Fair warning.
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I think it's a little ironic how you make YOUR "Misdeeds" your husband's fault.
"I told him a million times to try to get us to become how we were before"
"He stop... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a dad, and the child's mother hates me!
Q. Hey everyone thank you in advance for helping me I am having an issue here and need advice desperately. For the last 5 months I have been dating a great man who has a 4 year old son with his ex fiancé, a woman who he still remains close wi...
A. 29 March 2016: I do agree that as a parent you HAVE to take care when, and whom you introduce your child(ren) to.
You have ONLY been dating 5 months and yes, I DO think it's WAY to soon to introduce a GF (or BF) to a child that soon, because until there is an es... (read in full...)
My stretch marks seem to be a huge problem for the men that I date
Q. I came out of a 3 year relationship almost 2 years ago and for the past year I have been dating again. It's kind of personal to talk about but I am someone with very sensitive skin, and my breasts grew very fast when I was young and because of t...
A. 28 March 2016: A LOT of people have this notion that their partner needs to be "perfect" (they don't obviously, because they know better).
Stretch marks are not just for pregnant women. It happens when people mature or grow faster or gain weight for whatever... (read in full...)
Should my stepbrother and I date in secret? Our parents have told us that we can't.
Q. me and my step brother like eachother but my step mom and my dad have set us tow down and said we cant date but i want to know if we should date secertly or not ...
A. 28 March 2016: I have to agree with SVC
You are both under the age of 18 thus in many regards "children" and while you live under your parents roof, you follow their rules.
If there are still feelings of mutual affections AFTER you both move out of the house... (read in full...)
He's at least 10 years older than me. Should I go with it?
Q. hi I started going to the gym and began to have a crush on a guy. I'm thinking he knows I like him because he introduced himself to me and said to ask him if I need help with the machines. The only thing is that he's probably at least 10 years older ...
A. 28 March 2016: How much do you ACTUALLY know about this guy? Do you know his name for instance? If not, maybe you need to find that out and see what you can dig up on social media. Like... does he have a GF or wife?
I do agree with wrathykins, that at 21, you ... (read in full...)
I so want to date but never get asked!
Q. I feel embarassed just typing this, but well... I am 22 year old, college student, I am outgoing, I have a lot of friends and I am quite popular with them. I am tomboyish as in "loving sports, fights and cars" but you wouldn't tell from the w...
A. 28 March 2016: I think it can be many things. I do think some good looking girls have trouble over the more plain ones because they seem less approachable.
And some girls who dress to impress (so to speak) can come off and looking "high maintenance" without ... (read in full...)
Tips, please? How to deal with a rude much younger colleague?
Q. when a work colleague ignores you? what to do? you say hi at start of work, they ignore you or say sharply "hi" or blank you and say nothing but talk and smile (and hug at times) and say hi to others you've done nothing wrong you work with th...
A. 28 March 2016: Just keep being polite and professional.
While a lot of us have made friends in the workplace - we really don't go to work to socialize. (it's just an added bonus sometimes).
I'd ignore the rudeness, or snubs if you like, and just go about yo... (read in full...)
Were we wrong to offer? Why did she not tell her husband about the invitation and the arrangements to attend the wedding?
Q. My aunt and I have always been close- she is 12 years older than me so more like a big sister than an aunt. A few years ago she moved to America with her husband and son due to her husband's job. Of course I missed her and we kept in touch and I w...
A. 28 March 2016: My guess is, as much as she loves you she doesn't WANT to come. Maybe she has had a big weight gain? And don't want to go because of it. Or there is some depression going on.
I would let it go.
For whatever reason she isn't keen on attendin... (read in full...)
I don't trust one of my new roommates
Q. I just rented a room in an apartment in the city I just moved to. I have three roommates, I didn't know them beforehand. But I love my new place and for the most part get along great with my roomies. I've developed a friendship with two of them whom ...
A. 28 March 2016: My advice?
Get a mini fridge in your room for the things you don't WANT to share or lose.
Have a little "bathroom" basket with YOUR stuff in it and bring it with you back and forth to the bath room when showering.
I say that because I had a... (read in full...)
He's married, won't leave his wife but calls me heartless for distancing myself
Q. Need advice!' I am recently divorced, because my marriage was never like a marriage and then he started cheating. My and my ex are good friends for now. Meanwhile, 6 years back I met and fell in love with a married man (I was married at that t...
A. 28 March 2016: What makes this hard is not his attitude, but the fact that you both work in the same place. Cutting him off 100% might not be easy if you are requited to communicate with him about work.
But U think you need to face that you have wasted enough t... (read in full...)
Is this a wild romance or am I fooling myself? Should I go meet this man or take a pass? Help!
Q. Hi everyone I know at my age I probably have experienced or seen almost everything regarding the relationship between man and woman, but I'm stumped to the point of distraction. So, maybe a bit of discussion and your help? I am in my forties, divo...
A. 27 March 2016: Is he single?
That would be my first question. You said you talked family, so you know whether he has a wife or not, but you don't mention it in your story.
If he is married, then no I wouldn't met him on purpose. If I run into him I'd have fri... (read in full...)
Are there men who want to build relationships and not just have casual sex?
Q. Dear Cupid It's a rhetorical question may be, but is there men who wants to build a relationship not just have casual sex. I have been dating for sometime and lost trust in male population as it is, everywhere I see people just want to have a c...
A. 27 March 2016: If what you are doing now isn't "getting" you what you are looking for switch it up.
Take a break from looking for a partner - go meet new people instead. You never know where that can lead.
If you have been trying dating sites - try something ... (read in full...)
How much does dating actually cost?
Q. So, I was telling my roommate about my plans to build a new computer and media center for the living room, and he told me I should get a girlfriend (instead of appreciating my contributions to the house). While he might or might not be right, I ...
A. 27 March 2016: I don't think it's that simple. As in.. dating will cost you XX amount of $ a month.
Unless you are expecting to RENT a GF.
Each girl is different, some have an income of their own and do the 50/50 on dates, others feel it's the guy's job to... (read in full...)
I'm a bit jealous about my girlfriend's ex being her first
Q. I have a minor but what I fear might be a big problem about myself in my current relationship. And rather than opinions and criticism over how juvenile I am, I would like to hear from people who had a similar experience, and how they got over it. ...
A. 27 March 2016: Accept that you CAN NOT change her, change her past or in fact change ANYTHING about this.
So fighting it and letting it simmer is doing one thing and one thing only, it's making you miserable.
I suggest you look up an YOS (he is an uncle here... (read in full...)
This new guy is generally nice but very strange at times
Q. help!! This new guy that i am seeing is generally a nice sweet guy, but he is weird in a way that he denies when i ask him not to do anything or change, basically everything. For example, he has a habit early in a morning create a horrend...
A. 27 March 2016: He isn't going to change. That is a fact.
He doesn't care if you want it quiet, if you want to sleep in..
Seems like it's his way or the highway. The fact that he keeps laughing it off should tell you that he doesn't take you serious.
A lo... (read in full...)
He seems flaky. Is he not that interested or just bad at keeping plans?
Q. I met this guy through a mutual friend 2 weeks ago.The first time we arranged to meet up, he flaked on our plans. Basically, we arranged to meet up after 6 pm when he gets off work.I texted him earlier that day and said "hey" but he didn't respond. ...
A. 27 March 2016: Eww, stop wasting your time on this guy!
He is RUDE and a time waster. I'd just BLOCK and DELETE his number and If your mutual friend asks, just say you aren't interested in that guy.
Apologizing profusely doesn't mean he was sincere or that ... (read in full...)
Why would he seem into me and then dump me and accuse me of something I didn't do?
Q. Dear Cupid; I recently met a man from an on-line dating site. After our first meet and greet, he said he really liked me and would like to pursue a relationship and said how about if we both delete our dating profiles, which we both did. We w...
A. 27 March 2016: I think he is full of crap, to be honest.
A GROWN man listened to a friend and didn't let you get a word in at all whether you were on dating sites or not... I find that odd and I'm wondering if that "friend" is female and if SHE lied to get him ... (read in full...)
Does he really want a relationship, eventually? Or not?
Q. I hope someone can help I fell out badly with someone I became close to Wasn't a relationship but was on its way there but then because of how it ended we ended up not talking for 2 years Then he gets in touch and messages sporadically but not...
A. 27 March 2016: Do you WANT another acquaintance? Do you want HIM as an acquaintance?
If you do, then regard him as such. AN ACQUAINTANCE, no more.
If you don't, wish him well and block him.
He doesn't want you on Facebook because he doesn't WANT anything... (read in full...)
How is a move to a new area and a new school likely to affect a 13 year old boy who is not very outgoing at present?
Q. What do people think of moving a 13 year old boy to a new school in a new location? Would it be a complete disaster or would he adapt? The reason is that my widowed partner and I are nearing our mid sixties and want to downsize and relocate...
A. 27 March 2016: We moved last time when our kids were 12, 10 and 8 and it's be been little over 3 years and they have ALL 3 adapted beautifully. Thankfully the school system they are in now have a LOT more activities than their old school did.
I would RATHER f... (read in full...)
I cant deal with my boyfriends irresponsibility
Q. hi, i need an advice regarding a bad situation between my bf and i. we are together for 2 years. in february he was in a car accident and needed some financial help to cover the expenses. i didnt have any cash at that moment but my $1000.00 credit ...
A. 27 March 2016: Good lord! Why do you put up with this dude?
First of all, yell him - I want my $1,000 back and I want then back asap.
YOU didn't ask for over the top Valentine's present.
You SHOULD have said when you loaned him the money, I want the money ... (read in full...)
I try to love my friend's child but it's just so hard! He's incredibly rude and I hate spending time with him
Q. I'm not sure how to express myself on this one or even what my exact question is or even if I HAVE a question.... all I know is that I feel really bad about this. My friend and I have known each other for over 10 years now. Her son has just tur...
A. 27 March 2016: I'd spend time with your friend and ignore the kid. I think he knows you don't like him (kids are smart to pick that up real quick) and he KNOWS you overcompensate by trying to be nice to him.
I'm amazed that his mother allow his behavior... (read in full...)
Did I jump the gun?
Q. So I have worked with this girl for about 2 years now and well we get on well and I do fancy her but have not let myself fully like her . She is very flirty physically and emotionally I know she can be with another lad although she says she seems ...
A. 26 March 2016: I think you did do the right thing.
She WAS being inappropriate while having a BF. The whole I had sexy dreams of you.. it's.. not appropriate to share.
And she IS a co-worker. So if it doesn't work out... it can get nasty and/or awkward. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this rejection?
Q. For the past 3 months me and this guy have been getting really close, he told me he started falling for me in the first month and I've never had a relationship before so I said to him I don't know what I want because I've never done this , I just ...
A. 26 March 2016: Yes, you block him.
And in the future give a guy a chance. Go on a few dates BEFORE you reject him (and yes you DID reject him first). If you aren't sure you are ready for a relationship, that is one thing. But if you aren't ready or really u... (read in full...)
I lost 42 pounds and gained confidence. Why are people now so mean?
Q. Hi guys. I'm struggling at the moment as I'm quite a sensitive person and I've always wanted to be liked by everyone. This means that sometimes I give people more effort or time than they would give me and I take comments people make quite perso...
A. 26 March 2016: You took a massive leap in growth. I guess you can say you hit YOUR rock bottom and instead of wallowing in it, you climbed your way out.
GOOD for you and congratulations in not giving up on life!
As for EVERY single person who now seems to "ha... (read in full...)
Dumped by a cowardly text!
Q. Hi I am hoping for some guidance with something that has happened to me this week. My boyfriend of a year dumped me by text. It was literally a line saying lets call it a day, following a couple of harsh texts between us. Ironically, I act...
A. 26 March 2016: I think LDR are hard enough as it is, with you thinking the worst of him constantly I can see why it might not work long term.
Carrying on a relationship via text is not sustainable. Same with having fights over text, it leaves SO much up to perso... (read in full...)
We had a one night stand and now she is pregnant1
Q. We had a one night stand, and now a month later she's saying she's pregnant. I checked the condom after for holes and it seemed find as no water was dripping through. I wanted her to get an abortion as I'm sure she doesn't want kids with me an...
A. 26 March 2016: Are you really sure YOU are the one who got her pregnant? Or that she IS pregnant?
Did she show you a pregnancy text or results from the doctor?
While I understand that you are not shying away from taking "some" responsibility IF she is pregna... (read in full...)
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