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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I met a girl this year at varsity she uses her nickname as my name. See, my parents gave me this cool name from birth and she liked the name before we met. Its a very rare name and it has many meanings in science. The problem is the girl keeps asking me if my parents gave me that name and that i have to prove it to her if they did. Like today she asked me, "what is the name that everybody used to call you with?". .she annoyed me today and im still annoyed. How do I deal with these? Next, she will be asking for my identity document. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 March 2016):
 I would not make a question of principle in this. Although obviously you do not have to prove her anything, in your place I'd just shove my ID under her nose so that she can shut up forever, case closed. Plus,probably she would feel like a total idiot, and I would enjoy that :)
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (18 March 2016):
 She sounds quite childish!
I agree with Ciar's sentiments!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2016): Ignoring will not work as she will keep asking.
you don't have to explain anything to her.
play a little game with her, next time she asks answer "don't worry" in the most uninterested tone possible and repeat every single time she asks not matter what and she will eventually get the message I promise.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 March 2016):
 Take her by the hand, pat it gently, grasp her upper arm, above the elbow. Ask as quietly and gently as you can, “Is everything all right with you? You seem very fixated on this name thing. I’m concerned for you. Are you okay?”
Perhaps the poor thing has a disability which is causing her to question you again and again. Or she’s trying to bully you somehow?
Just tell her that her questions make you wonder if she’s okay or not. And don’t answer her directly or offer proof. She’s got some sort of problem and the best way to point that out it to her is to ask her questions.
“Why do you ask? Is everything okay?”
“Why do you keep asking? Are you okay?”
“My name hasn’t changed, it’s my name. Why do you feel the need to keep asking the same question over and over again? It’s concerning and puzzling. Are you okay?”
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 March 2016):
 I'd ignore her. Or turn the question back on her. Ask her why she can't use her given name...
You don't have to prove squat to her.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (17 March 2016):
 Stop indulging her by having the conversation. The more you talk, the weaker and less credible you'll sound.
'The same name they have always called me by....MY name' is the only answer you give.
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