What is it with men? Do they want what they can't have?
Q. I wrote a question back in November, wondering if this guy was still a player or not. Long story short, I did cut contact with that guy, So for months I hadn't heard anything from the "reformed" player (nor have I laid eyes on him) until today when ...
A. 12 April 2016: Nah, not too tricky, you can do it.
Just ignore ignore ignore. NO need to "play" nice or be polite. You don't OWE him squat.... (read in full...)
Is it best to get sex out of the way?
Q. I'm a 19 year old virgin, and my boyfriend of three years recently broke up with me. He's adamant we'll stay friends and so far that's working, but I really want to have sex. The reason we never had sex is we tried twice and the first time hur...
A. 11 April 2016: I have to ask OP,
What is the hurry to not be a virgin?
While I usually agree with BrownWolf, I don't agree that a woman's virginity is her most precious thing. It's not the middle-ages no more, where women and their virginity was a commodity ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's attitude towards my godchild turned me off. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We recently started talking about moving in together. I felt anxious about that cause although we get along very well, I still think we're in the "honeymoon" period or something. Any...
A. 11 April 2016: Female anon who thinks taking the child along for a date is wrong..
She TOLD him beforehand that she was taking her godchild to the fair. She asked if he wanted to come. HE could have declined if he felt it was SUCH a chore. OP even states t... (read in full...)
Are they turned off by my virginity?
Q. I loved two different guys once upon a time... The first guy was into me, we had alot in common. We went on a couple dates and we discussed sex, marriage etc. When he found out I was a virgin tho , he said he couldnt be with me anymore.. The...
A. 11 April 2016: I don't think it's the "virginity thing" - I think it's a matter of you picking guys who may not be a great fit for you.
I think you presumed "wrong" with both men, I think they were hoping for something a LOT less serious then they told you. Not... (read in full...)
Is it bad for me to get him before the date, or should we meet up at the intended destination?
Q. So it's time for our second date, and he's back in school. His school is like 5-10 mins from where we are going so he asked if I could get him on the way. I'm being advised by my friends not to do it. They feel if I do, it makes me the guy in th...
A. 11 April 2016: Is it bad for me to get him before the date?
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I don't see how picking him up makes you "the guy" AT ALL. If it makes sense to pick him up on the way, then why not? You would think it a smart move if he picked you up on th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's attitude towards my godchild turned me off. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We recently started talking about moving in together. I felt anxious about that cause although we get along very well, I still think we're in the "honeymoon" period or something. Any...
A. 11 April 2016: I agree with Aunt Honesty
He is a VERY immature 28 year old and YOU are a 20-something. To have taken on such a HUGE responsibility - and yes I think it IS a huge responsibility to take on a child that isn't yours with such dedication is admirabl... (read in full...)
I regret texting a girl while I was drunk! How to recover this?
Q. I started dating a girl few weeks ago, we really liked each other, she is 4 years younger than me , she is very decent, nice and has a great personality, the thing is she is super busy with her full time job and her master degree , she also has ...
A. 11 April 2016: What do you do?
You apologized, she accepted the apology VERY gracefully. So now you accept that you acted like a prat and you LEARN from it.
There is no excuse for this. It's 100% avoidable. But in the same breath you are not the first person... (read in full...)
He says my vagina is too loose and that I'm cheating
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend since i was 16 im 23 now. Our sex life has always been good but now he has been saying im too loose and he thinks im cheating on him, which im not!! I have been feeling the difference also but im not sure why my vagina is ...
A. 11 April 2016: Ah another ignorant man who thinks a vagina is the same as an old sock. That if a bigger dick enters a vagina it will stretch and be loose for the rest of eternity.
Seriously. Giving birth will stretch the vagina (because it HAS to.) But for MOST... (read in full...)
I enjoy it more without climax - is this odd?
Q. Sex actually feels best when I don't cum? Am I normal? I'm a newbie to sex and have only been having it since last year. But I have done it a lot, and I honestly like sex when I don't orgasm the most. It just feels awesome, and I don't get spent or ...
A. 11 April 2016: Tantric sex is about the bond two people have and it doesn't HAVE to end in orgasm. It's not about the orgasm.
You should read up on it, it might be right up your alley :)
But yes, women can definitely enjoy sex without hitting a climax. If the... (read in full...)
I got drunk and revealed too much of myself to him and now he's ignoring me
Q. Hello. I've been feeling really miserable and need advice. The guy I really like was in the city for some work. We planned to meet but he got stuck somewhere. I waited for 3 hours alone despite him asking me not to. We finally met and it was good. ...
A. 11 April 2016: I wouldn't feel bad for sharing your future dreams with someone who turned out to not be interested.
Because THAT is what I think this is about, he wasn't really interested.
It's not like talking ambitions is SUCH a big no-no. Maybe getting ti... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me and then I found out he's living with a girl. Should I just tell him and cut all contact?
Q. Well this is kind of a mess of a story but about a week ago my ex boyfriend randomly contacted me through facebook and for the past few days we've been just catching up and chatting about old times, our family, etc. Nothing sexual or flirty ...
A. 11 April 2016: I would just block him for now. IF you aren't ready for friendship and aren't rally sure WHY he contacted you again, there is no need to tell him anything.. NO need to rub his ego any further.
Block and move on.... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to be engaged but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend and turn down his proposal
Q. So my bf of almost 2 years recently proposed to me. It's not that I wasn't happy to know that he feels so strongly about me, it's just that there's a few things keeping me from saying yes. I've been 'engaged' once before when I was younger. I u...
A. 10 April 2016: I agree with Ivyblue,
If you are not ready you are NOT ready. And that should be OK. I do think most people have an idea after 2 years of dating whether they can see themselves with their partner long term or not. But given your past experien... (read in full...)
If a guy has a wart on his penis, then is it genital warts ? And for how long can genital warts be dormant in a person?
Q. Hi all my boyfriend has a wart on his penis which he is not sure where it came from. We have been together for nearly 3 years and I know he has been completely faithful as am I. I don't have any warts or anything. My question is, For how lon...
A. 10 April 2016: It's good that he is going to see the doctors and soon.
Unfortunately.. he can still give you HPV (genital warts) even when using a condom.
From what I have read HPV can lie dormant for decades.
I would make an appointment for YOU with... (read in full...)
Would you be thinking there's more to the story here or just a guy wanting to get away at a casino, all by himself?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 2 years. We have been arguing a lot lately and have broken up some but then gotten back togther. I have never doubted his faithfulness to me. And I know he feels the same about me. So trust has never been an ...
A. 10 April 2016: He went to a casino all by himself? That just sounds fishy.... (read in full...)
He wants to move close to his baby mother! Am I overreacting?
Q. During a conversation with my boyfriend of 2 years, we were discussing areas of our city where we would like to live together. (We currently reside our parents) I told him that I wanted to live in a more central area where condos were being built ...
A. 10 April 2016: Are you overreacting?
Both yes and no.
Your BF and his ex, have had an agreement and arrangement for 10-12 years and I guess it has worked for them.
If he wants her to spend HIS money, well that IS his choice.
If he feel the needs to... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend should help me out with money for this vacation?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 2 years. We both want to go on vacation in a month or so (our first trip together). He makes about 4x the amount of money I make. So you can imagine that he is not concerned about money on vacation for ...
A. 10 April 2016: I'm with Anonymous 123
If you can't afford to spend $2,000 you can't afford the vacation. I can't see why HE should pay for you, just because he makes more money. Now if he had said from the get go, I'll be paying, then sure let him pay.. bu... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for not letting him move in?
Q. I met a ma online. We chatted and he gave me his number. I didn't call until a week later. He wanted to meet that day I was reluctantly and wanted to wait until the following Saturday. He agreed but tried to send a facechat call. I declined. We ...
A. 10 April 2016: I tried to get your bank info and move in with you within ONE week? I see red flags! And you are still with him?
Why settle for this liar?
A man who makes 180K a year doesn't need to move in with room mates.
If I were you, I'd tell him t... (read in full...)
He promised he'd pay, and we really do need the money
Q. My best friends fiance was organising a surprise party for her 30th and he asked if me and my husband would be happy to have it at our house as theirs was too small to fit approximately 30 people. He assured is he would buy everything-snack...
A. 10 April 2016: I agree with telling your friend.
My guess is he KNEW just well that what he brought wouldn't be enough, and that YOU would go out and buy more.
He didn't hire ANY caters (I bet) because again he made the presumption that because you guys... (read in full...)
How could people be so rude about my wedding?
Q. Hi, I don't know if I can post on here but I really need to vent and feel so upset. I got married in October and my husband and I were on a really tight budget, even though we had been saving for 2 years, making sacrifices and working every ext...
A. 10 April 2016: Dear OP,
I think you wedding sounds like it was lovely and intimate. JUST what a wedding should be (unless you are a celebrity, super rich or a royal).
Weddings have over the years (specially the last maybe 30?) become more and more costly and ... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to handle this ending of our relationship?
Q. I am trying to gently end a three month relationship with my 40 year old recently divorced boyfriend who has made excuses not to see me to discuss our communication problems. I am always willing to talk and I think I have gently supported him a lo...
A. 9 April 2016: Do you know any shared acquaintances? Have you tried the white pages? Or phone reverse look up? It can sometimes give you the address. I just did a white pages on us (my family) and it came up with our address.
I'd go with the white pages/re... (read in full...)
Do I say anything to this man or just wait until my life is straightened out?
Q. This is a complicated story but I will try to make it as simple as I can. I have been married but things haven't been working out due to many reasons. We have been to therapy, try working on our marriage and eventually got to the point where my...
A. 9 April 2016: I agree. Don't tell him.
Finish your divorce, keep it platonic with the guy. TAKE some time to work through the end of your marriage and how to start again ON YOUR OWN before jumping into a new relationship.
... (read in full...)
How can I get my pregnant girlfriend to understand my point about moving in with my parents?
Q. When I was 17 I got a girl pregnant. We weren't really dating just hooking up and she wanted to give baby up for adoption but I wanted to keep it. My family support me and when my son was born my gf signed over the baby to me and my parents have ...
A. 9 April 2016: I agree with Chigirl.
You can't "make" her want to move in with your parents, but she can't "make" you move in with her either.
Unplanned pregnancies can throw a wrench in the best paid plans. I think YOU staying put with your parents in the r... (read in full...)
What is it with men? Do they want what they can't have?
Q. I wrote a question back in November, wondering if this guy was still a player or not. Long story short, I did cut contact with that guy, So for months I hadn't heard anything from the "reformed" player (nor have I laid eyes on him) until today when ...
A. 9 April 2016: OP, if you look in your recent calls/messages it should show the guys number/name (name if he is on your contacts)
That way it should be no problem in figuring out which is his number.
And I agree with YouWish - tell your fiance about the... (read in full...)
Am I being a drama queen for blocking him? And why wouldn’t he have checked on me?
Q. Hi , last week I posted a question about what I should do about the situation I am in. I am 5 weeks pregnant and currently going through an abortion I am just waiting for the second lot of pills. I am so upset and distraught about the whole ...
A. 9 April 2016: Being pregnant means having emotions you can't always control, sometimes being a little irrational - and THAT is pretty normal.
But you are going through more than "just" being pregnant, you are dealing with having to terminate the pregnanc... (read in full...)
What is it with men? Do they want what they can't have?
Q. I wrote a question back in November, wondering if this guy was still a player or not. Long story short, I did cut contact with that guy, So for months I hadn't heard anything from the "reformed" player (nor have I laid eyes on him) until today when ...
A. 8 April 2016: Maybe now that you are "almost engaged" you are a challenge that he wants to test.
But... I think it's more about him being a guy full of himself. He thinks a few lines in a text will get you to drop a fiance and your knickers.
Personally, I... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 8 April 2016: It's nice that you are considerate of an ex. No doubt. But it can also make you a lousy BF. (for the new GF) as she might feel you are NOT over the ex, that she is your rebound or booby-prize/consolation prize.
But if you really want her to "win"... (read in full...)
What should I do so he could leave me alone without hurting his feelings?
Q. My ex and I broke up about a week or 2 ago because he felt as though we weren't "compatible". I ve been coping with it and I honestly don t want to talk to him nor see him because it makes getting over him easier. Ever since we broke up he s been ...
A. 8 April 2016: I would just tell him that you are going to block his number so YOU can work on healing and moving on.
You are no longer a couple, and you certainly aren't "friends" so there is NO need for contact if you do not WISH contact. You don't OWE him ... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 8 April 2016: Do you think it's fair on your NEW GF to treat your ex as anything MORE than a friend? Think about it.
And yes, she can sleep with whomever she likes. Whether the guy is a slimy douche-bag or a prince charming, the CHOICE is hers. If she chooses ... (read in full...)
She never checked his social media or snooped around, now I want to expose him! What do you think of my plan?
Q. My best friend has been seeing someone for the past 3 years and was starting to fall for him. I did a bit of snooping on his social media and found that he's been with a girl for over a year now. My friend trusted this guy 100%, so she never ...
A. 8 April 2016: I don't see why this is your crusade to be honest, you can give your friend the info and SHE can choose what SHE wants to do about it.
To me it sounds like like you want to stir up some drama.
A little to "social justice vigilante" for m... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 7 April 2016: I want to point out that.... sleeping with one or 10 guys doesn't make her a slut.
But as a friend, I'd say;" I know you you and "Bob" have been seeing each other for a while now, and I feel I should tell you what he said about you. Now you can ... (read in full...)
Do I expose his lies or just blank him ?
Q. Hi everyone 4 week ago me and my ex decided to give our relationship another go he spun me lines and i fell for them. My friend is on a dating site and saw him on there so told me im glad she did , im tempted to message him and tell him liars al...
A. 7 April 2016: I would call him and end it, or heck text - I don't think he "deserve" the courtesy of being dumped in person. If he asks why, I'd say something along the lines of; "I don't see a point in trying to make a go at this relationship when you are still ... (read in full...)
Is it morally wrong, and selfish on my part to tell him how I feel, and tear him away from this woman?
Q. I dated a slightly older man for about a year and half until I left to finish my college education. We had decided to break what we had off since we weren't keen on the idea of a long distance relation ship and we had different goals to focus on...
A. 7 April 2016: I agree with EyesWideOpen.
He might have told you it was a "marriage of convenience" because he knocked her up, but this is 2016 not 1950. Marrying someone JUST because they are pregnant doesn't make him a great guy. Specially if he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My Bf had two pictures of his ex in his jacket pocket. Now what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having the same recurring issue. When we first moved in I found a letter from his ex, from when they were going out. I got mad at him and told him to throw all the stuff out. Now today, 3 months after I look into his ...
A. 7 April 2016: Stop trying to control him?
I have a box of photos, letter and other mementos from my exes. And I have been with my husband for 20 years. There is no way I'd have someone DICTATE me that I have to throw it out. Seriously.
I think you are ni... (read in full...)
Should I let him do things his way? Or am I right in feeling this way about his reluctance to introduce my daughter to his family??
Q. Hello, I apologize for the novel and thank you in advance to those who take the time to read and offer any advice! I am a 24 yr old female with a daughter and have been in a relationship with 27yr old male for a little over a year and a half ...
A. 7 April 2016: I think for you daughter's sake it's a good thing she hasn't been exposed to his family yet. Seriously.
How anyone can blame a little kid is beyond me.
But I would sit him down and express HOW it makes you feel. The whole :" I feel like I'm le... (read in full...)
What would keep you from being in a relationship?
Q. What's up guys, I've been away from here for almost a year but I've had something on my mind for quite a while that I'd like to here people's opinions on why they don't want to get into relationships. I've heard this from a large number of my fri...
A. 7 April 2016: I took a couple of years of dating after my 3rd BF to simply find myself again, to get over the resentment (of myself AND him) and to find my "happy place" again.
I didn't feel like I had anything to "give". That I wasn't "good enough" of a GF. I ... (read in full...)
His New GF dumped him. Why he would choose to apologize to me after all this time?
Q. I'm confused about my ex and the sincerity of his apology. He treated me terribly but ended up apologizing to me 8 months later. When I first met him, he was intially really sweet and kind towards me but after about 4 months, I discovered that ...
A. 7 April 2016: He just got dumped and wanted a ego-boost fix. And he KNEW very well that you... would allow him contact. I'm betting all other girl's he has had contact with have all blocked him sooner or later - because? He doesn't care about anyone but ... (read in full...)
Is this a typical rebound situation. or the real thing?
Q. My ex of one year broke up with me 2 months ago. Said he fell out of love with me because I wasn't the girl he fell in love with anymore. Weight gain caused depression and I withdrew, so his claim is somewhat validated. Asked to move in together...
A. 7 April 2016: Whether it's a rebound or not, IS irrelevant. He is no longer your BF and no longer your concern. If they are obsessed with each other, that is OK! That IS how many people are when they first start to fall in love. YOU on the other hand are starting ... (read in full...)
She can’t have a simple argument, she blows everything out of proportion! I’m in a pickle!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a woman for the last three years. Throughout that time we in the main have been really really happy. We don't live together but have spent a lot of time with each other. When we do occasionally have the odd ...
A. 6 April 2016: If she leaves you 100 miles from home over a "trivial" argument, then I'd seriously question what you two have.
I don't think I have EVER had an argument where I found THAT solution OK. And refusing to talk? How is that going to fix anything... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I like different things in the bedroom? Do I stop liking anal? Or what?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 years now, since she was 17 and I was 18. We were both virgins (if that matters at all). We have amazing sex and often use toys, ties, etc. There is however one shameful problem with our sex lif...
A. 6 April 2016: If you keep buying lubes and rubbing the area you ARE pressuring her - it's NON verbal pressure.
There is no off-switch for liking things, but there IS an OFF switch in pushing for it and starting to respect her and WHAT she told you. She told you... (read in full...)
My friend is blanking me. I've asked if I've offended her. What can I do?
Q. This isn't a question about a romantic relationship, but instead about a friendship. I have a friend who moved away a few hundred miles from me last year, but we keep in touch by email almost every day and phone now and then. All of a sudden...
A. 6 April 2016: Leave her be a few days.
Or send her a cheery up kind of virtual post card.
You can't MAKE her talk to you. You can't MAKE her tell you what's wrong.
I doubt this is about you.... (read in full...)
He's a former coworker, but is he interested or not?
Q. I recently hit it off with this guy through email. We are old coworkers who reconnected, but haven't seen each other in several years. I noticed as time went on, he kept asking more personal questions, and even brought up the topics of marriage...
A. 6 April 2016: I think it depends on a few things, like how long have you two been "pen-pals" ?
I think if you were BOTH interested in something more, there would have been a plan to meet up for a dinner or something?
Hanging out, sounds more like something y... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I like different things in the bedroom? Do I stop liking anal? Or what?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 years now, since she was 17 and I was 18. We were both virgins (if that matters at all). We have amazing sex and often use toys, ties, etc. There is however one shameful problem with our sex lif...
A. 6 April 2016: Oh, BrownWolf just server you a dish of truth, OP. And I think you need to listen.
You DO come off as thinking that what YOU want sexually is WAY more important that her, and what she wants.
OK, so she was adventurous enough to try anal with yo... (read in full...)
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