Is this older, married man, hitting on me?
Q. Can anyone help me understand what's going on with a older (48) MARRIED man from Church? I used to really like him as a friend/ advisor kind of role to me. Lately I have wondered if he likes me more than he should. When we talk only always rubs my ...
A. 18 April 2016: So even the wife is aware that HE is acting inappropriately? How long do you think it will be till the rest of the congregation knows? And guess who will be the one to get the dirty looks? *hint" it's you.
He isn't BEING a friend to you. He is be... (read in full...)
My ex and I talk about reuniting but I can't compete with her current boyfriend
Q. My ex girlfriend and I talk about working things out on a very deep, personal, and regular basis, but her new boyfriend is ten years older, four inches bigger in penis size, and gives her drugs. She says she wants to get back with me and as soon ...
A. 18 April 2016: I think you need to re-think this reunite thing again. IF she was REALLY keen about getting back to you and HI she wouldn't let this guy distract her.
I think she is playing games, with BOTH of you. She is using YOU to make the BF jealous and she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants a break and keeps blowing me off
Q. we been together over a year everything was great no fights our kids got along. all up to this past valentine day she went silent not responding to text calls backed out of dates. come to find out she had a side effect from one of her meds which is ...
A. 17 April 2016: Why don't YOU just break it off yourself? A relationship that clearly isn't working any more can be ended by either of you.
If she needs to work on herself, then let her. I would just let her know that there is no guarantee that you will still be... (read in full...)
Is this older, married man, hitting on me?
Q. Can anyone help me understand what's going on with a older (48) MARRIED man from Church? I used to really like him as a friend/ advisor kind of role to me. Lately I have wondered if he likes me more than he should. When we talk only always rubs my ...
A. 17 April 2016: It can be he is just being kind, it can be that he hopes to "catch" your eye. But it really doesn't matter, as he is married and you aren't interested.
Could be that he thinks he is being charming and helpful, and isn't aware that the creepome... (read in full...)
Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?
Q. I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...
A. 17 April 2016: I agree that this post is not about breastfeeding. However, that was the "excuse" you (OP) used to "have" to bring the ex-gf on vacation with you and your family.
As for the mom to choose to still breastfeed, it's fine. It's just not helping ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, so why is he eyeing other girls?
Q. I met a guy at the gym that i initially developed feelings for. However, after finding out that he had a girlfriend, I've settled my feelings for him, and we've become pretty good friends. I'm pretty popular at the gym, and know pretty much ...
A. 17 April 2016: He acts like he is single, because that is his mind set. While he may tell girls he has a GF, he still likes the attention he gets from his job as a trainer and partly he has an attitude of "out of sight out of mind" since the GF is not around to ... (read in full...)
Would a guy stay with a woman who saves sex for marriage?
Q. Would guys still be with a girl waiting until marriage to have sex, but she'll do oral every day? And I know guys like to do oral back too, so I'd receive also. I'm not shy about my body, I just want to have sex with someone who will mean something ...
A. 17 April 2016: Hey OP,
I get you. I don't think you HAVE to have sex with a guy you barely know and who is only looking for sex.
But I wouldn't even indulge in oral unless it was a guy I was exclusively dating. Instead I'd take the time to get to know him ... (read in full...)
Why do men like to ejaculate on their partner's body?
Q. Why do guys enjoy cumming on their partners body? Wouldn't it feel better for them to just leave it inside? My boyfriend almost always pulls out when we have sex and I end up with his sperm on my stomach and boobs. I don't hate it or anything, I ...
A. 17 April 2016: 1. he is trying to avoid making a "wet-spot" on the bed.
2. he has watched to much porn.
3. it's territorial thing - "she is mine" like a dog pissing on lampposts to mark his territory...
4. he is trying to avoid coming inside you and av... (read in full...)
What should I ask, when I speak to my Bf, about a stained black dress I found under my Bf's bed?
Q. I found a black dress with dried up white spots on the front under my boyfriend's bed. I do not live with my BF. I was in his apartment tidying it up for him. Now I wonder if he cheated? First I would like to know, does semen dry white when ...
A. 17 April 2016: Just tell him that you found the dress under his bed an are wondering what it is doing there. I think it's absolutely fair enough for you to ask.
I mean you are curious, right? He knows you cleaned his place and he didn't mention it? That seems od... (read in full...)
Would a guy stay with a woman who saves sex for marriage?
Q. Would guys still be with a girl waiting until marriage to have sex, but she'll do oral every day? And I know guys like to do oral back too, so I'd receive also. I'm not shy about my body, I just want to have sex with someone who will mean something ...
A. 17 April 2016: Oral can still give you plenty of STD's though.. Consider that?
What it comes down to is finding someone who is on the same page as yourself. Nothing wrong or right in wanting to wait to have penetrative sex til marriage. It might just be hard to ... (read in full...)
I have tried everything but to her I am dead!
Q. I have only had one girlfriend in the past which was a LDR from my state to another state, a 14 hour drive. I was with my ex from the age of 19-24 and we had a lot of ups and downs. I was going through a bad time in my personal life with the de...
A. 17 April 2016: It's great that you have changed, good for you. But that doesn't mean your ex GF owes you squat. Or that she cares. And you have NOTHING to prove to her.
What ever changes you made should be for YOURSELF not for her. To make yourself a better p... (read in full...)
What could be the consequences if my Gf and I did follow through with our wish to have sex, discretely, in a public place?
Q. My gf and I want to experiment more sexually. She wants to have sex some place public, like a mall changing room or movie theatre . What exactly would happen if we get caught? She has given me head in a movie but we were pretty discreet about i...
A. 16 April 2016: Oh I forgot to add... most times, the FANTASY is much better than the reality. Think about that.
Or maybe consider finding like-minded people who likes to watch and be watched? That way you don't offend people who really don't want to see your bar... (read in full...)
Is my boss correct to pay me like this?
Q. My boss says she's going to pay me the 1st and 15 th every month, but that she has up to 5 days past pay date to pay me. Is this correct, should I accept this? I dont make that much anyways 25,000 a year. Also, I am living with my bf and have bill...
A. 16 April 2016: It doesn't sound off to me, BUT it can pose a problem with you paying bills on time IF you do not budget well. That means your paycheck on the 15th NEED to cover the bills due on the 1st and vice verse. To avoid late fees or even eviction.
So YO... (read in full...)
Do you think he's interested?
Q. I hung out with this guy, that I'm starting to have a crush on, and out mutual friend the other day. We were all talking about Hawaii and I mentioned that one my my ex lives in Hawaii and my crush asked me about my past relationships and it took me ...
A. 16 April 2016: You really shouldn't have to LIE about your number of sexual partners/boyfriends. Lying about that is pointless. It is what it is.
If HE has a problem with your number, well then THAT is his problem. It can be that he feels intimidated by it becau... (read in full...)
I'm in a stable relationship but I still can't achieve orgasm
Q. At 22 I have now found myself in a relatively new yet wonderful relationship, my first 'mature' partnership since school and college flings. My worry is a commonly asked question, why can't I orgasm? The sex is great, I used to fear sex due to ...
A. 16 April 2016: Can you get yourself off?
If you can, maybe show your BF what works for you.
80% of women don't orgasm from penetrative sex, so if THAT is "all" you two do sex-wise it might be you are one of the women who don't orgasm that way.
The rea... (read in full...)
Would a guy stay with a woman who saves sex for marriage?
Q. Would guys still be with a girl waiting until marriage to have sex, but she'll do oral every day? And I know guys like to do oral back too, so I'd receive also. I'm not shy about my body, I just want to have sex with someone who will mean something ...
A. 16 April 2016: Just a FYI OP - ORAL is sex too. It's just not penetrative, as in penis in vagina.
If a guy has the same values and mind-set as the girl, then I can't see why he wouldn't want to wait. But I DO think it's rare for guys in your age bracket to want ... (read in full...)
Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?
Q. I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...
A. 16 April 2016: I think the idea is even WORSE if your current GF isn't going. Taking your ex on vacation as a "night nursemaid" is (I'm sorry) ridiculous.
I'd definitely wait that year for her to wean him, whether the current GF is going or not.... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to understand how unhappy I am that he cheated and had sex in a massage parlor
Q. My boyfriend of 4.5 years has been a very loyal and humble person till recently. He had gone on a vacation and has sex at one of the massage parlours. He told me the very next day and has been very guilty and emotionally unstable since then. On the ...
A. 16 April 2016: I agree with YouWish and BrownWolf
I would not waste time OR effort in trying to show him how angry and unhappy HIS actions made you. I would simply end it.
IF he can cheat now, what on Earth would stop him from cheating again and even after m... (read in full...)
What could be the consequences if my Gf and I did follow through with our wish to have sex, discretely, in a public place?
Q. My gf and I want to experiment more sexually. She wants to have sex some place public, like a mall changing room or movie theatre . What exactly would happen if we get caught? She has given me head in a movie but we were pretty discreet about i...
A. 16 April 2016: Legally?
The Criminal Code of Canada states it's illegal to have sex in a "public place," which is defined as "any place to which the public has access as a right or by invitation."
In Canadian law, the issue isn't whether you were "technicall... (read in full...)
Until recently nothing has bothered me. But now I find myself conflicted. How do I go forward?
Q. 25 years, 25 years. I have been caring for both my parents and my sister for 25 years and to be honest nothing has really bother me. Until recently, my brother has suddenly reappeared in our lives after almost 10 years of nothing. The promises h...
A. 15 April 2016: I don't think it's EVER too late to start living life. OK so it may not be the life you dreamed about or fantasized about but it IS YOUR life.
Give your brother a chance, and LET yourself off the "hook", so to speak, of being the sole caretake... (read in full...)
Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?
Q. I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...
A. 15 April 2016: 19 months and still breastfeeding? Not that it's VERY abnormal, but really, at 19 most toddlers are eating 100% solids. Not to criticize, just a statement of fact. ( I am ALL for breastfeeding and nursed all 3 of my kids a minimum of 12 months.)
... (read in full...)
I told my married ex lover I had a boyfriend and he burst into tears.
Q. I have been seeing a married man for 10 years and he said that we could be together properly once the children were off his hands,but we split up due to me being bored with the situation....anyway I met someone else and although I don't love him I ...
A. 15 April 2016: I hope your new beau is not married!
As for the married ex-lover, his loss really. He dangled a REAL relationship in front of you for 10 years, you finally decided that you wanted more than he was willing to give you and then you found HAPPINES... (read in full...)
Found out I'm pregnant at 41 after a first date
Q. Please do not judge me , Im single and stable ,i went on a date with a guy we had a great date and planned to see each other again but he canceled the 2nd date saying he has issues and not ready to date. I have now found out im pregnant ( the condom ...
A. 15 April 2016: First off, IF you are happy to be pregnant, I wish you the best. It may not be an ideal situation, but you CAN make the best of it. Family might not entirely understand or approve, but... once the baby is there? They won't care. They will hopefully ... (read in full...)
Have any ladies ever been rejected in asking a man out?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem to ...
A. 15 April 2016: I think most women understand that it's quite an "ordeal" to get the courage to ask someone out. It's nerve wrecking.
I have turned down a few guy, and I have been turned down myself as well. I think it's just part of life. Does it get any easi... (read in full...)
STDs and dating. Do I meet someone for coffee dinner ect first and then tell them a bit later?
Q. So here goes, I've had an std( herpes) since just after I turned 19. I'm 25 now. I met a man shortly after who had it as well, 4.5 yes and 2 kids later I am a single parent to both boys. I am finally feeling in a good place to date again. I fe...
A. 14 April 2016: I don't think it's a first date kind of conversation, to be honest. I think it's something that NEEDS to be brought up BEFORE sex happens, but AFTER/DURING the conversation of exclusivity.
To avoid the serial-daters or the guys looking for casu... (read in full...)
How should I approach my roommate to tell her that it's time for her to find a better BF?
Q. How do you tell your roommate that she just needs to move on? Sooo my roommate has broken up with a guy for 5 months who basically threw her out on Christmas but she is still pursuing him. From what she says he is awful to her and Ive heard hi...
A. 14 April 2016: Have you tried asking her what advice she would give a GOOD female friend who was in the same situation?
That way she has to look at HER situation from the outside, not just going by what she FEELS.
Even with REALLY good and close friends it... (read in full...)
Meeting my ex for a drink?
Q. My bf broke up with me after three months because hes going through a divorce and is very stressed and depressed. He moved out six months ago after their child had grown up after a long drawn out unhappy marriage. We had a lovely connection and I...
A. 14 April 2016: I bet he IS a great guy, but he IS NOT ready to date. He tired only 3 months after leaving his family and it did not go well.
Till he has found his "happy place" again - he really shouldn't be dating. And that might take a while. Speciall... (read in full...)
Romance or convince? Or would you gals rather meet a guy at a mutual level of interest?
Q. Hello Everyone Not a douche. Just wanted to put that out there. Can you trick a girl into liking you? Not trick in a malicious way but rather convince after her initial hesitation or last minute resistance? Im thinking romancing. Oh and girls...
A. 14 April 2016: I think "tricking" someone or convincing them to date you is a show of lack of respect for that person.
If the person is unsure they are interested or feel anything, I'd let them go. I'd MUCH rather they come to the conclusion that "HEY maybe th... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision to give him space? because now I find he's dating someone else
Q. I'm pretty upset about a decision I made yesterday. My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 6 months ago but told me he still loves me and that maybe we would get back together in the future. I respected his decision and left him alone but he wan...
A. 14 April 2016: You made the right choice.
Being friends with a recent ex is rarely a good idea, specially if one person isn't over the other.
Contacting him was a bad thing for you to do, at least NOW you know where you stand with him. IT truly is OVER. W... (read in full...)
How should I approach my roommate to tell her that it's time for her to find a better BF?
Q. How do you tell your roommate that she just needs to move on? Sooo my roommate has broken up with a guy for 5 months who basically threw her out on Christmas but she is still pursuing him. From what she says he is awful to her and Ive heard hi...
A. 14 April 2016: I think IF she asks you can give her your thoughts and advice, otherwise? It's on her. It's her life and HER mistake to make.
Sometimes people can't see the forest for all the trees because they are too close to the situation. (which she might be... (read in full...)
When I am tested for a STD should I trust the protocols in place re my privacy or should I give a false name?
Q. Hi, I am in need of advice. I am 18 years old and I recently had sex with 7 different men throughout the year. I had unprotected sex with 5 of those men. I am afraid that I caught an STD so I want to get checked. I plan to go to Planned Parentho...
A. 14 April 2016: Hmmm, that is actually a hard question for me.
I get that you don't feel like your information would be keep as private as you may like, but I would like to add that if you GIVE a false name the privacy act might not even COVER the testing.... (read in full...)
What should I ask, when I speak to my Bf, about a stained black dress I found under my Bf's bed?
Q. I found a black dress with dried up white spots on the front under my boyfriend's bed. I do not live with my BF. I was in his apartment tidying it up for him. Now I wonder if he cheated? First I would like to know, does semen dry white when ...
A. 13 April 2016: How long have you been dating? And did he know you were going to clean his place? or was that a surprise?
Yes, sperm can dry white'ish on black fabric, but so can other things.
It seems really weird that a guy would leave a dress with "whit... (read in full...)
Do you think his response to the card I sent indicate that he is interested in me?
Q. Hello, I told a guy on his birthday like this:" that you special and that God created you and sent you as a gift to all who know you . On your birthday, I want to thank you that you have been able to change things in me that no one else could" ...
A. 13 April 2016: That is impossible to say.
I think he was being very polite in his answer. That is really all I can glean from it.... (read in full...)
Have you ever asked your partner to 'unfriend' an opposite sex friend?
Q. Would you or have you ever asked your significant other to unfriend someone of the opposite sex on Facebook? For whatever reason, you did not want them associating with this person; jealousy or insecurity issues included among the reasons. Has ...
A. 13 April 2016: No.
My husband has his ex-wife and his HS sweetheart on his Facebook and I have no problem with that. While I don't particularly like his ex-wife, she is the mother of his 2 oldest children, but more importantly.. I TRUST him to not behave i... (read in full...)
What do you think of a guy who is torn between two women?
Q. This guy and a girl date for a year. it's not an easy relationship. They fight a lot but somehow make it work. One day he cheats on her, she finds out and they break up for 9 months. She wants him back so they get back together. Right around t...
A. 13 April 2016: I wouldn't want to be his "friend" nor his GF. He is keeping the "friend" on a string, just in case the GF doesn't work out, to rub his ego and and preventing her from seemingly move on. THAT isn't a friendship.
I don't think he is torn at all. ... (read in full...)
BFcheated and confessed the next day. Do I cut him some slack because of his honesty?
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 4.5 years. Everything was smooth until now. My bf had gone on a vacation and had sex with some random girl. He knew he was doing the wrong thing and wasn't drunk but it still happened. He's still away but ...
A. 13 April 2016: That depends, is cheating a deal-breaker for you or not?
For me personally, I'd thank him for his honesty and dump him.
He made the choice to cheat and then he felt guilty so he told you. ... (read in full...)
Life is flying by, do I take a chance or wait?
Q. Hi i joined a dating site 2 week ago and saw a guy i know of and on rare nights out over the years we have spoken and said hi to each other ive always had a liking of him , its been 4 years since i last spoke to him. I messaged him on this dating ...
A. 13 April 2016: I would NOT contact him on Facebook.
I would look around on the dating site for another option. If the guy isn't active he possibly has a GF and a messages on FB would be awkward to say the least. I agree with chigirl on that!
While you may... (read in full...)
Should I stay with the boyfriend I met on facebook? He was taking drugs so I broke up with him.
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 44 days. I started dating him over facebook. I didn't know what he looked like so we met up and kept meeting then he asked me out. I dumped him because he was taking drugs, getting garried (a pill you swallow and it m...
A. 13 April 2016: "I know if you don't get with me again, I'll start smoking weed and getting garried again, you're the only person who takes it off my mind"
THAT is full on emotional black mail/manipulation.
Trying to make you think it would be YOUR fault that ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you react to your boyfriend sending you flowers?
Q. Hi All Ive been dating quite a while now, things are good generally I do get her the occasional 'just because' gifts, her fave choccies, an engraved pen when she started a new job etc- nothing too overboard though. I would like to get h...
A. 13 April 2016: I agree, if you want to give her flowers "Just Because" that is nice, but I don't see the need to tell her whole office/workplace that YOU felt like giving her flowers...
I think it defeats the purpose by sending them to her work, this isn't ab... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get Herpes by skin to skin contact?
Q. Is it possible to get Herpes by skin to skin contact. I only slept with one guy and he swears he tested negative. I have hugged other people but it was friendly hugs,nothing sexual. I am so confused because it was a full on outbreak for m...
A. 13 April 2016: This is from the CDC's website:
"Herpes symptoms can occur in both male and female genital areas that are covered by a latex condom. However, outbreaks can also occur in areas that are not covered by a condom so condoms may not fully protect ... (read in full...)
How can get a girl that I adore to forget about my past?
Q. How can get a girl that I adore to forget about my past ? From the time I was 18 I was in a band. Even though we were just a small town band we had our own little group of followers and got a good deal of attention. I was young and enjoy life. Ov...
A. 13 April 2016: You can't "make" her forget anything or overlook anything. Yes, your past is IN the past, but if she isn't comfortable with YOUR past, she isn't a good fit.
Personally, I'm married to a man who have had a LOT more partners than me, and I don't ha... (read in full...)
What is it with men? Do they want what they can't have?
Q. I wrote a question back in November, wondering if this guy was still a player or not. Long story short, I did cut contact with that guy, So for months I hadn't heard anything from the "reformed" player (nor have I laid eyes on him) until today when ...
A. 12 April 2016: Nah, not too tricky, you can do it.
Just ignore ignore ignore. NO need to "play" nice or be polite. You don't OWE him squat.... (read in full...)
What is it with men? Do they want what they can't have?
Q. I wrote a question back in November, wondering if this guy was still a player or not. Long story short, I did cut contact with that guy, So for months I hadn't heard anything from the "reformed" player (nor have I laid eyes on him) until today when ...
A. 9 April 2016: OP, if you look in your recent calls/messages it should show the guys number/name (name if he is on your contacts)
That way it should be no problem in figuring out which is his number.
And I agree with YouWish - tell your fiance about the... (read in full...)
What is it with men? Do they want what they can't have?
Q. I wrote a question back in November, wondering if this guy was still a player or not. Long story short, I did cut contact with that guy, So for months I hadn't heard anything from the "reformed" player (nor have I laid eyes on him) until today when ...
A. 8 April 2016: Maybe now that you are "almost engaged" you are a challenge that he wants to test.
But... I think it's more about him being a guy full of himself. He thinks a few lines in a text will get you to drop a fiance and your knickers.
Personally, I... (read in full...)
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