Girlfriend and I like different things in the bedroom? Do I stop liking anal? Or what?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 years now, since she was 17 and I was 18. We were both virgins (if that matters at all). We have amazing sex and often use toys, ties, etc. There is however one shameful problem with our sex lif...
A. 6 April 2016: If you keep buying lubes and rubbing the area you ARE pressuring her - it's NON verbal pressure.
There is no off-switch for liking things, but there IS an OFF switch in pushing for it and starting to respect her and WHAT she told you. She told you... (read in full...)
He's a former coworker, but is he interested or not?
Q. I recently hit it off with this guy through email. We are old coworkers who reconnected, but haven't seen each other in several years. I noticed as time went on, he kept asking more personal questions, and even brought up the topics of marriage...
A. 6 April 2016: I think it depends on a few things, like how long have you two been "pen-pals" ?
I think if you were BOTH interested in something more, there would have been a plan to meet up for a dinner or something?
Hanging out, sounds more like something y... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I like different things in the bedroom? Do I stop liking anal? Or what?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 years now, since she was 17 and I was 18. We were both virgins (if that matters at all). We have amazing sex and often use toys, ties, etc. There is however one shameful problem with our sex lif...
A. 6 April 2016: Oh, BrownWolf just server you a dish of truth, OP. And I think you need to listen.
You DO come off as thinking that what YOU want sexually is WAY more important that her, and what she wants.
OK, so she was adventurous enough to try anal with yo... (read in full...)
What considered proper etiquette for college evaluation visits?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for years We now live together. He has been divorced for 16 years and his 17 year old son has recently started looking at colleges. So far he and his ex wife and son have done day trips but they may turn into ...
A. 6 April 2016: I think (my personal opinion here) is that you stay out of it. Now if the kids and ex-wife were fine with it, then it would have been OK to go.
When my step-daughter was checking out 2 colleges near us (5 years ago) my husband went. Now I could ha... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to deal with this angry and feeling-entitled stepdaughter?
Q. I have posted in 2013 about my husband having a child which he never knew off. She contacted my youngest daughter via fb and after having paternity tests done it was confirm it is his child. She is 34 this year. She was rude from the beginning, ...
A. 5 April 2016: Time to contact a lawyer and show her you mean business.
Now I don't know WHAT about your daughter she can "expose" but I tell you this, ANY ONE who threaten my kids are going to be met with momma-bear.
So TALK to your husband, TALK to a lawyer... (read in full...)
Confused by my son's behaviour
Q. I'm a 42 year old mom, My son is 13 and while changing his sheets awhile back I found 3 pairs of my panties under his mattress along with some pictures of me from college in a bikini. I quickly realized he has been using them to pleasure with and he ...
A. 5 April 2016: I'm with Uncle BrownWolf here.
I think there is too much conjecture to know his intent 100%.
1. I don't think he wants his sperm to TOUCH you, I think he puts the panties back because he didn't want you to know he had used them. And puttin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is blowing hot and cold
Q. When my recently divorced boyfriend rows with his ex about their teenage daughter he shuts down and doesnt want to see me. They do not get on at all and all contact is via e mails. This has happened in the last month and we have been together ...
A. 5 April 2016: I agree with Ruby,
The guy is SO not ready to date yet. While he might feel OVER the marriage, 20 years is a LONG time and a LOT of baggage (good and bad). Him shutting down after EACH fight is proof.
HE needs to sort this out, he needs to find... (read in full...)
Why did he want to meet me if he turned out acting the way that he did?
Q. I dated a guy who had a little thing for a coworker and it turned into a messy situation and our relaitonship was on and off again and during some of the off times he would try and pursue this coworker of his. Anyways long story short.., I felt a ...
A. 5 April 2016: Yep, I'm with Cindy too.
He takes your for a mug, quite simply. When he is having a lull in his other "adventures" there YOU are to pick up the slack and give him the attention he craves.
YOU two had an ON/OFF relationship for a reason. Everyt... (read in full...)
I’m in love with my boss, why can’t he pick me? I’m in pain!
Q. Hi, I am a Personal Assistant and have been sleeping with my single boss for a few months. I have always had a crush on him from the beginning but I never thought that sleeping with him could happen. When we started sleeping with each other...
A. 5 April 2016: Look for another job BEFORE quitting.
And stop sleeping with him.
He used you because you were available and willing, and YOU used him right back. Sleeping with your boss is rarely a great idea. Looking for love in the work place? Not a gre... (read in full...)
My ex gave a weak excuse for breaking up
Q. Dear cupid I think my boyfriends excuse for breaking up with me is a cop out and that he won't tell me the real reason why he wanted to break up. He told me that he wanted to break up because of how neglectful I was the first 3 months of our re...
A. 5 April 2016: Does it really matter?
He used a lame excuse because THAT was the only "bad" thing he could find and use as an excuse.
For whatever reason he wanted out. So if I were you, I'd wish him well, block him and move on.
Sometimes relationshi... (read in full...)
The messages are turning sexual. When is it a good time to tell him I've never had sex?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and everything seems to be great and going really well. We've been on a few dates that have also turned out well and we both are starting to enjoy each other's company. I'm really starting to ...
A. 5 April 2016: So if he offended you why not just let it go and cut the contact?
It's only been a couple of weeks.
My guess is he WAS/IS looking for a casual sexual partner not a GF.
It's absolutely OK for you to not take crap from a guy and just block him... (read in full...)
I'm terrified I'll be a bad kisser!
Q. Hi! Im a 16 years old girl and I never kissed anyone and thinking about it just freaks me out, i know that I don't know how to kiss! I am going to be a bad kisser and since I am pretty popular at my school I know that I will be laugh at! Please help ...
A. 5 April 2016: No one is born being good at ANYTHING. Other than maybe breathing in air and producing bodily waste.
SERIOUSLY!
I agree with WiseOwlE, that kissing takes the RIGHT partner. Just like anything else you "need" a partner for, be it dance, sex, 3... (read in full...)
Love triangle. Should I just leave him? He says he loves her, but he also loves me.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. While I was pregnant I checked his emails and found that he had been talking about how much He loves and misses his ex. When I confronted him he calls and tells her he's going to be with...
A. 5 April 2016: Awww, I think you need to face the facts.
This guy loves ONE person.... HIMSELF. He plays the whole yo-yo back and forth relationship to make HIMSELF feel great. He has 2 women wanting him and HE can pick and choose whom to be with at any given ti... (read in full...)
I gave him an ultimatum, but am wondering if I’m being an idiot for giving him a last chance!
Q. Me and my current partner have been together for nearly a year now. i moved from manchester, fifty miles to be with him. we live together, our sex life is great, everything is going smoothly. we've discussed our future, kids, marriage etc. Howeve...
A. 5 April 2016: You ALREADY gave him a second chance and yes, I DO think you are being an idiot for giving him YET another.
(sorry) but you asked.
He didn't change after the LAST episode, and when you discussed it with a friend he tried his BEST to make you... (read in full...)
So many decisions. I need help. Do I consider the guy who wants children or the guy who only wants one child?
Q. I'm 23 next month and my boyfriend is 22 next month, been together for two years this September. Issues - has only met my friends once, doesn't really show an interest in them but says they can come out camping....shows an interest in 4wdi...
A. 5 April 2016: You can't always PLAN on only having 1 child. Thing happens, twins happen etc.
And I agree you are a TAD young to make this "problem" such a big deal just yet. What IS the hurry?
As for the older guy... yes I'd leave that one alone. If he has... (read in full...)
Am I potentially getting myself tangled in something too big for me to handle?
Q. I met a guy online about a month ago. After our 2nd date he started telling me some really personal stuff about himself. I got a run down of all the problems he has ever had in his life including an 8 year relationship that ended badly and his suff...
A. 5 April 2016: I agree, the guy needs a therapist not a GF.
Personally, I end it now. BEFORE you get too attached and start thinking you can "fix" him or something along those lines. THIS is FOR him to fix, NOT you.
He isn't ready to date.
He is so wrappe... (read in full...)
How do I cope when he goes away?
Q. Hello My husband an I are middle aged, he is in his early 60s and still works full time in a factory. Conditions are not good there but he wants to stay there until retirement. We have been on vacations to Cuba but I don't really enjoy it there m...
A. 4 April 2016: I agree with Tisha.
Spend the week doing things your husband may not like to participate in but that YOU do. Like go get pampered with a
pedicure or spa day.
Get things done you have wanted to do for a while but have procrastinated with,... (read in full...)
I like him a lot. How can I show him I'm worth a chance?
Q. ive joined a dating site about a month ago i got chatting to a lovely guy we met up had a great date and made plans to meet again. I took my profile off public so i wouldnt get messages off anyone else , but this dating site is saying I'm online w...
A. 4 April 2016: You have nothing to PROVE to him. Even if you could show him that you have not been on, he isn't going to believe you... because he doesn't want to.
READ WiseOwlE's advice, I think he is spot on.
And was this the guy who also dumped a previou... (read in full...)
I’m not sure I want to hear why he dumped me by text!
Q. Dear aunts, please can I have some advice. My boyfriend broke up with me via a short text after an argument. We were together over a year. Ww have split twice before, both my doing and both times I connected with him again. This time I messaged him ...
A. 4 April 2016: I agree with YouWish 100%
Set up a date/time for you to swing by and pick up your stuff and to drop of any of his - after that CUT the contact.
Be done with it. Just like HE is.... (read in full...)
Should I respond to my ex? Do you think I would look like a fool if I did? Or should I leave it and just delete his number?
Q. 3 days ago, my ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch and catch up. I decided to ignore the text completely, but honestly it has been on my mind constantly ever since. I think the reason this is botherin...
A. 4 April 2016: I don't really think there is anything he can say that will help you feel better about what he did to you.
And I don't REALLY think he wants to meet up for YOUR sake. He wants to soothe his conscience of what he did to you. He knows he was a to... (read in full...)
Forced breakup by parents, seeking any advice! Please
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half in May. We are around the same age, he is a year younger than me. We have only had one or two fights in the whole relationship and neither of them were bad at all. I recently was forced t...
A. 4 April 2016: I have to say either your parents are overreacting or you are not telling the whole story.
To be frank, as a parent I would NOT appreciate any of my daughters to bring home a BF who decides to confront me.
Now you never explained WHAT h... (read in full...)
Why do some guys lie about losing their virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together six months. Last week we talked about having sex for the first time. I asked would I be his first and he didn't answer, he just retorted by asking would he be mine. I said no, I was not a virgin. He then began ...
A. 4 April 2016: If I were you I'd talk to him and ask him to be honest. I'd also tell him that you wish he had felt more comfortable telling you the truth so YOU could have made is more special for HIM.
With most things people don't like to admit being inexperi... (read in full...)
How do I pursue this situation, she has 2 kids and divorced and I'll be leaving the country for a year?
Q. Quick background: I'm 25 years old, male. I've known this girl for about 10 years, since high school and she's always been my high school crush, way before I had my first girl girlfriend. She became my friend during early high school. After hi...
A. 4 April 2016: Stick to being friends.
She has WAY too much on her place as it is without having to try and juggle a LDR as well.... (read in full...)
Not sure if he was trying to steal from me?
Q. Hi everyone, I have an odd question, maybe, I think it's odd anyway. I think my boyfriend has tried to steal money from me. I won't go into too much detail but we are long distance and when I come to visit him, I will sometimes stay in cheap h...
A. 3 April 2016: I think if his intentions were to steal money from you.. you wouldn't have had a Euro left.
Maybe he was going through your purse out of curiosity, (as in snooping) who knows.
Only way to find out is ask him.... (read in full...)
She still wanted to spend time together but not romantically, so did I do the right thing in ending it?
Q. Did I do the right thing, an ex an me got back to get her, after four years she said at first let's have fun no commitment, I said ok,but we started shopping together movies going out dancing nice places to eat I was staying the nights, then after ...
A. 3 April 2016: If you don't want to be JUST friends, then yes you did the right thing.
She was the one to "flip the switch", by changing the rules without asking you first. So you can definitely decide ENOUGH is enough.
Whether she is a medium or not is... (read in full...)
Why is my BF of 2 years suddenly expressing concerns about my high sex drive?
Q. I've been dating a man who is 10 years older than me for the past couple of years. It's been a good relationship. The sex is especially good and has been since the beginning. He has always loved my passion and energy and that I have a high sex ...
A. 3 April 2016: I agree with Ciar.
And I also want to add that maybe he had a day where he just wasn't looking/wanting sex. We ALL get those.
And I think you are reading WAY too much into his behavior. Maybe because you feel he somehow rejected you and... (read in full...)
Is he interested? Is he bailing, even though he's been honest with me since day one?
Q. hi everyone , so im waiting to go on my 2nd date tonight the thing is the guy im meeting did say to me he was busy last night wouldnt hear from him much as he was at his friends house and i said thats ok id text him today. I've texted him twice an...
A. 3 April 2016: Good for you!
You held YOUR end of the date (by showing up) and he didn't, which means... you can now in good conscience block and delete his number.
And good luck with the new date.... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to deal with this angry and feeling-entitled stepdaughter?
Q. I have posted in 2013 about my husband having a child which he never knew off. She contacted my youngest daughter via fb and after having paternity tests done it was confirm it is his child. She is 34 this year. She was rude from the beginning, ...
A. 3 April 2016: I'd block her. You don't need to keep her number. Any number she uses to contact you with, you simply block.
I'd also keep a call log of the date/time/number she calls from and take/save screen shots of nasty emails.
And I'd suggest that you... (read in full...)
How to distance myself from my arrogant, know-it-all brother?
Q. I'm getting to really hate my brother. I am the only one of my siblings that my brother stays in touch with on a regular basis - basically because the others are married and he doesn't really feel comfortable around the inlaws. The trouble is...
A. 3 April 2016: You know, I have met quite a few of his type. The "almighty knowitalls" and if I have learned anything, it's that you CANNOT change other people.
So when in their company I just smile and nod. There is no point in debating anything with them.
... (read in full...)
I need a strategy. Should I play it cool? Have I tried too hard?
Q. I asked this guy, who works in the same building as I, out and he said yes, but about 2 hours before he sort of gave me an excuse. Prior to my asking him out, we had been flirting and messaging. Most likely I have made myself too availabl...
A. 2 April 2016: Ack EDIT!
I wrote:
So you were now HIS type, HIS loss.. move on.
Should have been....
So you were not HIS type, HIS loss.. move on.... (read in full...)
Do you think he and his wife think they'll get back together? what should I do?
Q. I have been seeing a man who's 6 yrs younger than me and he's married with 2 kids but they are not living together. This is the second time they seperated. When I first met him he said he wasn't sure what was going on between them yet. They have t...
A. 2 April 2016: Good grief, lady!
Why do you put up with this?
He isn't done with his wife, his marriage or their issues and he won't be till he grows a set and do what HE needs to do.
You DO seem like a "half time show". You are his security blanket for... (read in full...)
I need a strategy. Should I play it cool? Have I tried too hard?
Q. I asked this guy, who works in the same building as I, out and he said yes, but about 2 hours before he sort of gave me an excuse. Prior to my asking him out, we had been flirting and messaging. Most likely I have made myself too availabl...
A. 2 April 2016: Eh, stop wasting your time on this one.
Being rejected is not always a bad thing. I would seriously rather b rejected by a guy BEFORE putting forth a whole lot of effort and BEFORE getting emotionally attached. No need to take it personal... (read in full...)
I feel he lies about certain things! Any advice?
Q. Hello, I've been with my boyfriend for two years he's been seperated for 4 yrs and is getting a divorce. He's very affectionate and kind, I believe we could have a future together except I feel he lies about certain things. I live about 1.5 h...
A. 2 April 2016: I think he is not really ready to date seriously yet, and his behavior shows that clearly. He is still dealing with his past baggage and I think the lies are part of him trying to make himself look better than he really is.
... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt him but we're not compatible. How do I exit this relationship?
Q. This is going to sound so bad but I really need help. There's this guy, a co-worker who came by my workplace as temporary. We got along very well and became friendly. He met my family due to his offering to help us shop for a home. My mom told me ...
A. 2 April 2016: Just be honest with him instead of making up excuses.
"Look, Bob I think you are a great guy, but I think we have some comparability issues that have made me decide to end this relationship. I wish you well." Or a simple, "I feel we are not on t... (read in full...)
Is he interested? Is he bailing, even though he's been honest with me since day one?
Q. hi everyone , so im waiting to go on my 2nd date tonight the thing is the guy im meeting did say to me he was busy last night wouldnt hear from him much as he was at his friends house and i said thats ok id text him today. I've texted him twice an...
A. 2 April 2016: If you have set plans for a date tonight, I'd just get ready and expect him to show. Now IF it DOES turn out that he doesn't show... feel free to block and delete his number.
But IF I were you I'd chill a bit, it's ONLY the second date.
You hav... (read in full...)
Met this girl online but now I feel I've lost a new friend. what should I do?
Q. I recently made friends with a girl online and we really got on well to start with but past week we have had arguements around me being moody because I get anxious when waiting for a reply; I end up being rude. She is in a relationship but has chea...
A. 2 April 2016: Doesn't sounds like any kind of friendship I'd ever have. She was looking for attention without crossing the line into cheating and I think you were looking for something MORE than a GF.
When a person (you) come across as moody and clingy, ... (read in full...)
Should I text him to rekindle what we had? Or should I leave it?
Q. I met a wonderful guy off Tinder at the end of January, we had been texting constantly for 6 weeks and have been on 4 dates and we kissed on dates 3 and 4. All the dates went really well and he even said that he had a great time. After the 4th ...
A. 2 April 2016: Tindr is a "hook up" site, not a dating site. And my guess is that if you two didn't hook up (aka having casual sex) by the 4th date, he was already looking for someone who WAS willing to put out without having to go on several dates first.
Your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has accused me of suffering BO. I shower. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months thinks that I have B.O. and I'm very hurt. I always shower when he comes over and he says that sometimes showering isn't enough, and that the natural deodorant I use isn't effective at times. He doesn't mind but highlig...
A. 1 April 2016: Go see your doctor if you think there is ANYTHING about it.
If no one else have told you this, I'd find it can be his nose. (I'd actually as family and close friends over co-workers).
Now when he said B.O. did he mean armpits or crotch?
If... (read in full...)
He keeps flaking on our plans but then he keeps on coming back a few days later. Why would he do this?
Q. I recently had a guy who flaked on me when we made plans to hang out. We made plans to meet up when he gets off work at 3pm but I didn't hear from him until 9pm -he just said sorry something came up. Then he texted me 2days later again apologizin...
A. 1 April 2016: Instead of just deleting his number... block it.
The guy isn't serious and honestly don't give a flying fart about you or what you think.
Time-waster is about the NICEST thing I can call him........ (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship? It hurts me to end something that has so much potential and beauty to grow
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma. I come from a very traditional Pakistani family but born and raised in the states. I grew up wanting a Pakistani guy who looks like me and has similar values and upbringing because it's so complex and detailed. An...
A. 31 March 2016: I think you should end it. And do it quick.
It's not fair on him. He is who he is and you apparently can't love him for NOT being what you "think" is the right partner for you. Why you even dated him in the first place with your (pardon for bein... (read in full...)
Help! My boss thinks I have a crush on him. How do I deal with this situation?
Q. Help! My boss thinks I have a crush/ i'm in love with him. I've been working with this guy for a little over a year, he's quite reserved and a bit shy with other people, he can be even rude sometimes, but with our team he's quite funny and niceish....
A. 31 March 2016: Tone down the flirting, joking around and asking for favors.
Act professional and do your job, he will soon figure out that you are not crushing on him (If that is what you want him to think).... (read in full...)
What do I do? My BF refuses to stop talking to a girl he had a crush on before meeting me.
Q. So I moved in with my boyfriend in the end of OCT . It was love at first meeting and a very quick move in together. He moved me in on his birthday of all things and said I was the best birthday gift ever. Well since then Ive had to wade through ...
A. 31 March 2016: Find a place of your own, move out and forget this loser.
THAT is my advice. I will elaborate on WHY I give you that advice below.
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YOU are doing the "classic woman being cheated on routine". You are blaming th... (read in full...)
The messages are turning sexual. When is it a good time to tell him I've never had sex?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and everything seems to be great and going really well. We've been on a few dates that have also turned out well and we both are starting to enjoy each other's company. I'm really starting to ...
A. 29 March 2016: I'd tell him if and when you two decide on being exclusive (aka BF/GF).
And maybe tone down the sexy texting. The dating phase is the time you get to KNOW the other person, not play fantasy mind games. While it CAN be highly fun, it can also mak... (read in full...)
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