Has his interest in me lessened? Or has he just become used to dating me?
Q. Hi everyone, Just need some dating advice please. (Backstory) I have been seeing a guy for about 2 months.. Everything was going well, he texted me daily and we go on a date usually every Friday night. So after 2 months we had sex and everything w...
A. 24 July 2016: I think once he had sex with you he figured he "had" you "hooked" and thus doesn't need to put in as much effort.
Sounds like a lazy guy to me. Someone who after ONLY! 2 months take you a bit for granted.
I think the first 2 months he put hi... (read in full...)
Did he really want to date me? Or is it the cable that he wanted to watch? How do I hint that I want to go out with him?
Q. Help .... I'm dating a guy who only wants to sit on my sofa and watch tv... How do I hint to him that I want to go out ??? We have been dating a month I have known him for years he is a friend of a cousin , in one month we have only gone out 3 ...
A. 24 July 2016: Have you tried turning the TV off and suggesting you two go for a walk or out for a coffee/pint?
Personally, I think he is acting WAY to familiar WAY too soon.... (read in full...)
I need to return an item to my ex, but don't want to see him when I do it because I'm not over him. Is this wrong of me?
Q. I had written in here a few weeks ago. I broke up with the guy who I was dating. Since I do not date much, it's been increasingly difficult to not cry because I got attached. He was super cool, casual about the whole thing. He moved on very ...
A. 24 July 2016: Make sure you block him on your phone and social media afterwards as well, don't let him try and jerk you around any more.
And OP, I think there is a silver lining here, YOU dodged a bullet with him, he seems a totally uncaring kind of guy who ... (read in full...)
I was swept off my feet, then devalued and then discarded with no emotions
Q. Was I targeted by a sociopath? I met a 45 yr old guy online. It turned out we had many mutual fb friends. One of my exs was actually a friend of his. On our 2 nd date he'd told me he told him he'd met me. By our 3rd date he'd said he wanted more tha...
A. 24 July 2016: Hide his feeds on FB. Spare yourself the pain of watching that.
Secondly... I think he is one of those people who think love is like instant noodles, just add hot water and voila! And when it doesn't pan out like his fantasy he looses interest... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 24 July 2016: I agree that it shouldn't matte if you are dating or not, to look at someone face/eyes when talking.
You know how little kids when caught doing something they shouldn't, don't like to look the adult in the eyes? Maybe he avoiding eye-contact ... (read in full...)
Cheating. How do I respond to this? I really loved this girl, and was going to propose to her
Q. Well me and my gf are both 26 years old and have been with each other for the past 4 years. Met her in my last year of College and have been with her since. We started living together about 3 months of getting together and everything was lovely, ...
A. 24 July 2016: Could also buy a couple voice activated recorders (about $20) and put one in the bed room and one close to the front door.
It might be safer to put up a couple of cameras or recorders than showing up and confronting them.... (read in full...)
Why are all the girls wearing shorts that show their butt?
Q. Why are teenage girls and young adults wearing cutoff shorts so short that there cheeks hang out the back ?? I have seen this for most of the summer and is this the new fashion, to show off as much of your bottom as possible ?? I myself wear cut...
A. 23 July 2016: It's a trend that has come and gone since what? 1960?
If they are brave enough to have half their bum-cheeks sticking out, more power to them. Who cares?
If you don't like wearing shorts that short then don't, I doubt no one is trying to "force... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't like traditional sex. Is that a red flag?
Q. Maybe this is a problem a lot of guys would wish to have, but my girlfriend of one year doesn't like traditional sex. She loves to give me oral and when we do have sex she always steers it towards anal sex. I say this jokingly, but feel like I a...
A. 23 July 2016: Are you guys using condoms?
If not.. could be she is prone to UTI's or infections if her vagina is very sensitive to ph balance getting out of whack (from sperm).
Could be she feels like she isn't "tight" enough for you OR... she just REALLY ... (read in full...)
Is this stringing him along?
Q. Is it wrong of me to accept help from a guy who was interested in me before? Im not sure if he is still interested or not, I have not spoken to him for two years. Just happened to run into him, and he offered to help me when I mentioned I was in the ...
A. 23 July 2016: I don't think it qualify as stringing along. Now he MAY (or may not) be hoping for more than a thank you... afterwards, he might just be a nice guy.... (read in full...)
I need to return an item to my ex, but don't want to see him when I do it because I'm not over him. Is this wrong of me?
Q. I had written in here a few weeks ago. I broke up with the guy who I was dating. Since I do not date much, it's been increasingly difficult to not cry because I got attached. He was super cool, casual about the whole thing. He moved on very ...
A. 23 July 2016: Are you making a huge deal? Kinda, but maybe you can't HELP how you feel. And if you don't want to cry seeing him, just put them in a bag and hang them on your front door knob.
On the other hand, MAYBE it should be part of your healing process ... (read in full...)
What help is available for a man who feels "lost"? Loving wife and family, and yet I feel so very alone and isolated
Q. I am at the apex of my career. I have a wife who loves me and three great kids. Everyone sees a picture that is so far from what I feel inside. I feel increasing disconnected from everyone and everything. I have no one whom I can ask for help, or...
A. 23 July 2016: I think finding a therapist might be good for you. That way you can LEARN how to share your feeling. I don't think that is something you are super great at (no offense many men aren't because they are raised to NOT share and not show these kind of ... (read in full...)
My potential date is acting strangely. How should I approach this issue? What can I say?
Q. My friend and i have decided to go on a date next week. We always chat online ( we have met in person ). The other day he said him and his family were doing something for his dads birthday going to a seaside so the original date was canceled til...
A. 23 July 2016: I agree with Denizen.
Move on, girl. You are wasting your time here.
IF HE really was so excited about the date, don't you think he would have CALLED you if he had a new phone number? And do you really think he would be screening YOUR c... (read in full...)
Cheating. How do I respond to this? I really loved this girl, and was going to propose to her
Q. Well me and my gf are both 26 years old and have been with each other for the past 4 years. Met her in my last year of College and have been with her since. We started living together about 3 months of getting together and everything was lovely, ...
A. 23 July 2016: Hmm, this friend across the road is she REALLY looking out for YOUR best or does she perhaps have ulterior motives? I agree with Anonymous123 that it's NOT EVER a good idea to involve others in these kind of domestic situation. THIS is between YOU ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: OP, Both Anutie Bim Bim and Auntie Cindy put it so well, WE CAN NOT (just like yourself) read his mind or glean his personality or behavior from the little you wrote. All we can do is give advice on what WE would do in a similar situation.
Who k... (read in full...)
Almost twice my age, will he freak out if I tell him I find him attractive?
Q. How would men in their late 40s feel if a girl in her mid 20s had feelings and a few x-rated thoughts about them? Would they be repulsed or find it a joke, or be interested in her? Yes I do like a man a bit older and I'm so scared to hell him inca...
A. 23 July 2016: Is he single?
If he is then I would NOT start out by revealing that you have x-rated thoughts of him. I'd just ask him out for lunch/coffee and see where it goes. IF it them develop into more THEN you can tell him.
If he IS not single then just... (read in full...)
How can I stop caring about what people say about me?
Q. This is a tough question as I have spend most of my young and early adult life caring about what people think- my life revolves around other people's opinions and how to be a people pleaser - most recently I have gotten a great corporate job and it ...
A. 23 July 2016: I doubt you would lose your job is you don't fit in with a bunch of 20's somethings... unless THEY are actually running the company. Even if they are, it's not high-school but a company.
Do your job to the BEST of your ability, BE professi... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: Stop wasting your time on this dude?
He doesn't want to be your friend, accept it. He didn't work out as more either, so accept that too.
Be polite when you see him but don't waste your time trying to converse with him, talk to some of your oth... (read in full...)
Should I give up on a girl I like?
Q. I've known this girl, for what seems like an eternity, we get along great and I can always be myself around her, and I've always felt some form of attraction for her, nothing has happened between us, but in the last few months I felt I was losing ...
A. 23 July 2016: If you have known he for a VERY long time and nothing has ever happened, she probably don't see you as BF-material for HER.
JUST because YOU really like her and want more, doesn't mean she feels the same.
Seems to me that she sees you as a VE... (read in full...)
Four years of texting, how do I let go?
Q. Please can someone give me advice on how to forget/let go of someone! I'm holding onto scrapings of hope and I know it won't work! it's been 4 years of texting and only meeting a handful of times and nothing has progressed! ...
A. 23 July 2016: wish them well, end it in a classy manner, then you BLOCK the person, delete the number and try not to dwell on it.
Go out with friends, spend time with family, pick up old or a new hobby and GET on with life.... (read in full...)
Is this girl suitable as a LTR girl for me?
Q. We've known each other for two years and we've been starting something (seeing eachothers and sleeping together) for four months. I like her really. I liked her as a person also before, when we were just friends, and she has always captured my ...
A. 22 July 2016: EDIT:
you should have sex with her either.
Should of course have been...
you shouldn't have sex with her either.
... (read in full...)
Should I ask him what's happening, and if it's just sex?
Q. I started seeing a guy in September last year. We do work together and have done for a few years and always get on. Another colleague told me that this guy quite liked me so we started talking and went on a couple of dates and started seeing e...
A. 22 July 2016: I forgot to add...
Look at it this way..
In his eyes:
YOU are good enough to have sex with, but not "good enough" to date..
Is that what YOU want?... (read in full...)
Is this girl suitable as a LTR girl for me?
Q. We've known each other for two years and we've been starting something (seeing eachothers and sleeping together) for four months. I like her really. I liked her as a person also before, when we were just friends, and she has always captured my ...
A. 22 July 2016: The problem is not the gossip, OP.
IT's you. And your attitude. OK so she has a past, SO DO YOU! IF you can't handle hearing that she slept with XYZ, don't DATE her and DON'T sleep with her.
How is OK for YOU to sleep with her without being in... (read in full...)
Could this be the end of our marriage ?.
Q. I love my husband. We've been together for almost 15 years. We are in our late 30's now and don't have any kids (we both agree on that). We have weathered many storms (financial difficulties, moving away from our country of origin...) and s...
A. 22 July 2016: Are you willing to support you both 100%? Are you ABLE to support you both 100%?
IF the answer is no/no - then you need to tell him that HE needs to find a new job before quitting the one he has OR renegotiate his contact so he can work from hom... (read in full...)
Should I bale from this new relationship?
Q. Hi, I am in a new relationship and my boyfriend has suddenly changed. He is not the sweet, caring guy that I got to know. He's become very withdrawn and hardly speaks to me via call or text, even in person! Though he is always on his phone when I...
A. 22 July 2016: Should you bail? YES
There is NOTHING in your post that indicated that you actually CARE for him or he for you, so what's the point? Are you that scared of being single that you will settle for this kind of guy who treats you like a doormat?... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend agreed to meet next month. Now what?
Q. My ex and I dated for 2.5 years, where in the process I let myself go mentally to places I never should have, and I refused to seek help for my emotional issues until recently. I ended up breaking her heart by lying to her, throwing her und...
A. 22 July 2016: She might have agreed to met up to get some sort of "closure" to perhaps understand better why you did what you did.
It's really impossible for us to say.
If I were you I'd just met up with no expectations.... (read in full...)
Should I ask him what's happening, and if it's just sex?
Q. I started seeing a guy in September last year. We do work together and have done for a few years and always get on. Another colleague told me that this guy quite liked me so we started talking and went on a couple of dates and started seeing e...
A. 22 July 2016: I agree with Janniepeg.
He can like you alright, but NOT want to date you and not want a future with out outside of some sex here and there.
I think since you AGREED to having sex with him again without being in a relationship he presumes you ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my boyfriend's comment to his female friend?
Q. Should I be worried about my boyfriend's comment to his female friend?. They work in the same place. He did a shift before she started work. He had done something wrong and she had to sort the problem out. It was some mistake he made while working....
A. 22 July 2016: I think you are overreacting. It sounds like banter to me and not the flirtatious kind.
I have worked as a bartender and YES most bartenders do make banter with males AND females, that is partly how you earn your tips. Some flirt, some joke (li... (read in full...)
How many times can I keep bringing this to his attention before he gets that he's hurting me?
Q. I've been going out with my b/f for 3 years. He makes plans to do things with me then changes the plans if something else comes up. He'll say I don't do it on purpose but I feel like i'm only good enough if something else doesn't come up. When I ...
A. 22 July 2016: Since you have already discussed it a few times, MAYBE what you need to do is put the shoe on the other foot and DO what HE did to you.
I don't advocate tit for tat, but... HE may have to EXPERIENCE it to understand how it feels. So yes, I agree ... (read in full...)
Job centre compliance officer meeting. Has anyone else ever been in the same situation? Think the ex may have maliciously tried to undermine me
Q. hi everyone im a single parent to 2 young children i split up with there dad as he was useless and didnt bother with them i received a letter from the dwp to go for a meeting at the local jobcentre in 2 weeks time it was from a compliance office...
A. 22 July 2016: Is is because you live in government housing and do not work?
If you live in government housing and are NOT allowed to have other people than your kids living there, then don't do it.
I have NOT been in your situation, and can not guess what's... (read in full...)
How I get back to enjoying my favourite activity of fellatio, because currently, I gag when I try it ?
Q. Ok first is I have been with my fiance for going on 5 yrs, will get married in 2018. I have been previously married, and the reason I say this is I love the taste of cum. My previous husband was very sweet and tasted so good I can handle swallowi...
A. 22 July 2016: Pop a lifesaver(mint) in your mouth and stick to NOT putting more of his penis than the head in your mouth, you can also avoid that and ONLY do the "external" part.
You CAN also ask him to drink juice (sweet ones like pineapple) in the mornings... (read in full...)
Is this girl suitable as a LTR girl for me?
Q. We've known each other for two years and we've been starting something (seeing eachothers and sleeping together) for four months. I like her really. I liked her as a person also before, when we were just friends, and she has always captured my ...
A. 22 July 2016: I think you are a hypocrite in judging her past when your own is by far more "colorful" than hers. It's such a trite thing to see a guy who has had plenty of sex having a problem with a woman who have done the same. YOU would never had had the sex ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that my distant cousin and I share passionate times together? She has a Bf.
Q. I love my distant cousin. We have made love and it feels like the most beautiful thing I have ever done in my life. I don't even feel guilty about it. I have had meaningless sex with other girls before but with her its just amazing and I cuddle her ...
A. 22 July 2016: Banging a distant cousin is no big deal, banging a girl who has a BF? Shady. She is shady, YOU are shady.
It shows a clear disrespect not only for her, but her relationship and... her BF. Why does that matter to you? Well, let's put the shoe on ... (read in full...)
No longer feel any love from him
Q. I fear I have been deceived by my current partner who chops and changes his mind with the wind. Possibly he has been under the influence of another person but when he is near me he doesn't like anything about me and then he expects me to love him...
A. 21 July 2016: Has he said that he doesn't like/love anything about you or is that how he MAKES you feel?
If so, why stick it out with him? As I can gather from your post you aren't married so there is no (hopefully) legal reason that you HAVE to stay with him... (read in full...)
My partner lives in the old days!
Q. both me and my partner both work my partner thinks he lives in the old days thinks its down to the woman to do all the chores and dinner and gardening i feel this is very unfair he wants to get married and im undecided with way our relationship is ...
A. 20 July 2016: Tell him you don't believe in that, and since you are both working there are 2 choices:
1. SHARE the chores. Let's say you are a GREAT cook, he is a GREAT gardener... it's then obvious that you take on more of the cooking and he take on more of ... (read in full...)
He likes rough sex, I don't! Am I being unreasonable or is he?
Q. I recently started a relationship with a guy I met 4 months ago. We went out a few times in the last 4 months before deciding we wanted to give a relationship a go. We recently started having sex and it turns out that he is really into rough sex and ...
A. 20 July 2016: What you like in bed has NOTHING to do with being a feminist or not, what a load of BS from him. My guess is, he is using that "feminist angle" to try and "shame" you into just going along with what HE wants. Like being a feminist is a bad thing? ... (read in full...)
How can I find someone else at my age? Why is she ripping my family apart ?
Q. I think my husband of 12 years is having an affair. Myself and my hubby are in the same job but work at different locations. One of our colleagues told me she was concerned about how much help and time he was spending with a client. Anytime s...
A. 20 July 2016: You are facing the wrong person for your anger... SHE isn't "ripping" your family apart. YOUR HUSBAND is. IF he wasn't interested in HER, she wouldn't be responding and flirting with him.
YOUR husband is the one who made vow with you, NOT her.
... (read in full...)
I had a crush on my Teacher while at School. Should I tell him about that crush when we meet for a catchup?.
Q. I had a crush on my Teacher while at School. I recently came across his Facebook page and added him as a friend and we started chatting online. What have I been doing since I left School, (ten years ago). He is in his 50's now and still as han...
A. 20 July 2016: No, don't.... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever wasted 10 years of their life and not lived to regret it?
Q. This could be very long but I will keep it short. Has anybody ever wasted 10 years of their life.. And lived enough not to regret it. This holds me down badly. ...
A. 20 July 2016: I don't think you (general you) CAN waste 10 years of your life (unless you were wrongfully convicted and sat in jail for 10 years, and even then... you could have educated yourself while incarcerated, so.. time NOT totally wasted).
Life is life.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on a hook up site while I am away!
Q. Hi agony aunts, So I'm on a 6 week family holiday away from my boyfriend and I noticed that he had several emails from a hookup site called localblack^^^^s.com Before anyone asks, I wasn't snooping. His email inbox is on my phone along with ...
A. 19 July 2016: I would ignore it till you get back. That simple. YOU are on vacation and should ENJOY your time. LOG out of his e-mail and don't go snooping no more.
My bet is he will try and pull the "oh that wasn't me it's spam"...
For the next 4 weeks you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has ignored me for 3 days and blocked me from contacting him!
Q. First of all a bit of background information. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years and our relationship is pretty serious. Recently we've both been happier and better than ever, and have even spoken about marriage. Overall our ...
A. 19 July 2016: STOP trying to contact him.
Figure out how many days YOU are willing to let him IGNORE you and let's say you think 7 days ( a week) is your limit.. well after 7 days of no contact I would consider you single.
Now I DO get that arguments can ma... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend agreed to meet next month. Now what?
Q. My ex and I dated for 2.5 years, where in the process I let myself go mentally to places I never should have, and I refused to seek help for my emotional issues until recently. I ended up breaking her heart by lying to her, throwing her und...
A. 19 July 2016: Don't push for what YOU want. Apologizing was the right thing to so, but it DOESN'T erase all the crap you did in the past. She hasn't forgotten.
So while... "I'm not interested in meeting with her just to eat and say hi. I have tried to be clear... (read in full...)
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