Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?
Q. If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...
A. 9 July 2016: OP,
Don't worry about him calling you insecure and controlling, because in the end? WHO CARES?! You at least shouldn't because he is no one to you any more, and thankfully someone you are not going to keep in your life.
I think he called you "i... (read in full...)
She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?
Q. I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...
A. 9 July 2016: "I've just been blocked and unfriended by her on facebook, I'm quitting my job."
You are quitting your JOB because someone unfriended you from Facebook? Seriously?
YOU need to grow some thicker skin, son.
SO what if she doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
How can I explain that I need some help with the housework, even though he works full time?
Q. The past 3 years I have been a homemaker. I've taken care of all household cleaning and food preparations for my husband. I'm now in the process of starting an online shop to sell my artwork. For the past few months I've been working on creating...
A. 9 July 2016: Sit him down and tell him.
Say :" I REALLY want to try and make a business selling my artwork, but without your help and support I find it almost impossible, so I'm asking you to help me till it takes off. I'm not expecting YOU to come home aft... (read in full...)
Is a thankyou card to my doctor appropriate?
Q. Hi , Thanks for being helpful . I need a advice. I am going to doc for treatment. His treatment helping me a lot. I want to send him a card. I bought a thank you card.now I am confuse about sentance in the card. Its written thanks for making m...
A. 8 July 2016: I agree with WiseOwlE
ADDRESS it to the doctor AND his whole staff, that way there isn't going to be anyone misunderstanding what you mean.
The OB/GYN who delivered my #2 and #3 child had a WALL full of cards and pictures of kids she helped ... (read in full...)
Lies are taking me to the edge
Q. I've been a single mother to my 6 year old since she was 3 months old. Her dad walked out on us, and even though I tried to get him to see her, he pretended like she didn't exist. We were both 18 when she was born, and we had been together for ...
A. 8 July 2016: Keep being a good mom. SCREW him and the horse he rode in on. You can't control what lies he tells his GF (to make himself look like less of a douche) and you can't control what she CHOOSES to believe.
I would STOP trying to convince her of anyth... (read in full...)
I am cheating on my current boyfriend with my ex, how do I get out o this love triangle?
Q. I need advice and please bear with me and this long post! So my boyfriend (I'll call him Oliver) and I have been together for 5 months now and we're very happy together. He's sweet as can be and he treats me like a princess. My ex (I'll call him ...
A. 8 July 2016: You break up with your current BF, because you obviously don't love and respect him as much as you claim.
And then you decide if that EX really was worth losing your current over.
Maybe this would be a good time for you to be single a little ... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex happy birthday?
Q. My ex and I dated briefly for four months and broke up two months ago. His birthday is tomorrow and I would love to wish him happy birthday. He broke up with me saying he no longer felt chemistry, and I no longer have feelings for him as well. I ...
A. 8 July 2016: I agree, since you already deleted him off social media it CAN come off as you trying to re-kindle something.
I'd leave it be, if you run into him on the street (or wherever) you can say happy birthday, but I wouldn't go out of my way to contact ... (read in full...)
Guilty about dating best freind's brother
Q. I feel like I'm doing something wrong by seeing my best friend's brother behind her back, but I don't know what to do as I don't want to lose her friendship. I've known my best friend since we were 8, we do everything together, or did until last yea...
A. 7 July 2016: You should be honest with your friend.
I actually set my brother up with one of my good friends, who had a major crush on him... Well, they have been together for over 25 years... So it doesn't HAVE to end bad.
If you have to keep a relations... (read in full...)
His new girlfirend 'hates' me
Q. What should I do if my old best friend who I had a massive crush on, now has a new girlfriend? Our 'breakup' was pretty messy and his girlfriend hates me as does all his friends and her friends. I try to be nice but that is me 'trying to be her ...
A. 7 July 2016: Just be polite, you don't have to try and be her best buddy. If she is rude to you, ignore her - just don't be mean. WHO cares?
And yes, you CAN ignore her if you want to. People do it all the time. But if you want to show that there are no hard ... (read in full...)
What should I tell my ex'?
Q. My ex boyfriend got in touch. What should I do? He sent me a message on Facebook last night. I received it this morning. He asked how I was. I told him I was doing ok and that my flat is nice. Last time we spoke, which was last October, I had only ...
A. 7 July 2016: It's kind of hard to answer this when you leave out vital parts, like... do you have a BF? Do you still have feelings for him? Do you really WANT to met up?
Instead of having him stop by your place (which might not be a great idea) why not meet... (read in full...)
Is it me that is making women act like this?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm looking for some advice. I am a male who was abused both psychologically and physically. I am no longer in that relationship but I have been on my own for many years now. I do have difficulty in letting other people in ...
A. 7 July 2016: Nope, you don't OWE her a second chance.
Simply BLOCK her number and those of her friends who have tried to coerce you into giving her another chance.
It's ONLY been a month and she acts like this? DEFINITELY a red flag. And it's DEFINITELY ... (read in full...)
She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?
Q. I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...
A. 7 July 2016: You need to back off and let her decide if she wants to talk to you or not. YOU CAN NOT - I will repeat.... YOU CAN NOT make her want to talk to you or be friends with you.
You come off as clingy and desperate.
Like Auntie Cindy said, YOU ... (read in full...)
Should I give in to demands for anal?
Q. Dear Cupid, my boyfriend has been bringing up sex up the butt. I feel like I don't please him enough because he keeps trying to convince me about this, but I'm clearly offended that I'm not enough. Am I over reacting and taking it personally, or ...
A. 7 July 2016: IS it something YOU want to try?
If no, then tell him it's a no and no amount of him bringing it up will change your mind.
We ALL have dome limits to what you want to do sexually. Some people want to try it all at least one, some don't. Both... (read in full...)
She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?
Q. I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...
A. 7 July 2016: Ignore it?
It's Facebook, so no need to take it so personal. You two are obviously not really friendly but friendly co-workers.. So in the future? TREAT her like you would ANY OTHER co-worker.
Don't know what you posted on her "wall" but I don... (read in full...)
How do I stop my cell phone addiction?
Q. this isn't a relationship question, but maybe someone can help me. as silly as it sounds...i am addicted to my cell phone. it's been an on-again, off-again (mostly on-again) issue for the past six years; since i was in college. i've hesitated t...
A. 6 July 2016: First off, delete all the apps on your phone that you use for entertainment purposes. ALL. That will be the hard one.
Secondly, put your phone in your drawer and lock it at work. IF you need to make calls regarding work, I'm sure you have a land-l... (read in full...)
Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?
Q. If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...
A. 6 July 2016: Dear OP,
Is this the same guy who invited you to the same 4th of July fireworks as he was taking the ex to?
Make no mistake, the ex is not just "She is just a jealous female with good instincts". HE was allowing her to be "on" the date with yo... (read in full...)
Should I just swallow my pride and tell him I really miss him or should I just wait for him to message me first?
Q. So I've been at university in Oxford this past year and at the end of April I started dating an amazing guy who lives in Oxford. I'm back at home in Surrey for the Summer now, so I haven't seen him for almost a month now and I really miss him a lot. ...
A. 6 July 2016: I wouldn't give him an ultimatum, they usually backfire anyways.
You can't MAKE him want to have a relationship, giving him an ultimatum won't change that.
Instead? I'd tell him good luck in life, I have enough friends as it is.
And then... (read in full...)
Should I write my cousin off?
Q. Thank you in advance to all who read and respond to my question. I have a male cousin who is a good enough guy I guess. Our association has been primarily through facebook for the last few years and I always send him a Christmas gift at Christmas.He ...
A. 6 July 2016: I would just stop making a big deal out of this guy. He is all talk, no action.
And I don't think it was a faux pas to call him out on his crap, he just didn't like to be reminded about it, hence his snotty remarks back. You kept it OFF Facebook... (read in full...)
He ghosted and came back... what now?
Q. I posted a couple weeks ago. I dated someone for three months. The first two months were great. He was affectionate and planned thoughtful dates (as did I) and reached out daily. We met 1-2x a week. However everything changed last month and I ...
A. 6 July 2016: I agree that he isn't as into you as you were into him. The whole "busy with work" excuse really is no where. He would WANT to reach out if he was interested. He didn't.
As for removing him and his friends, yes go for it. Who cares? If you don'... (read in full...)
Should I just swallow my pride and tell him I really miss him or should I just wait for him to message me first?
Q. So I've been at university in Oxford this past year and at the end of April I started dating an amazing guy who lives in Oxford. I'm back at home in Surrey for the Summer now, so I haven't seen him for almost a month now and I really miss him a lot. ...
A. 5 July 2016: Good for you! At least you will know where you stand rather than wait around for HIM to spell it out for you.
Life is too short to wait for another person to decide if they want to partake in YOUR life or not.
I have found that most people who ... (read in full...)
Freedom to interact with others curtailed due to family rules. Why can't people leave things alone?
Q. Every social media I get is ruined for me! I used to be on live journal a long time ago, when I was 16. i tried to use it when no one was looking but when my dad backdated the computer, he saw it and browsed but only came up with my username. I...
A. 5 July 2016:
YOU should NOT be paying for a place you don't live at, that is ridiculous.
As for all this Facebook nonsense, stay off social media for a while till you are able to move out on your own.
If you are on your parents cell phone plan, GET OFF... (read in full...)
All I've met is harsh judgement. But I need advice and some support on what to do in my situation. Help, please?
Q. OK first of all please don't judge me on this but I got with my boyfriend while he was still married, he is now separated from his wife and with me. I guess he had fell out of love by the time he met me. There is 20 years difference between ...
A. 5 July 2016: If you are going to stay with him, at LEAST consider getting a job?
Don't let him TOTALLY isolate you and DON'T let him make you dependent (financially) on him 100%, because who knows WHEN you will be replaced by a younger model and you NEED to ... (read in full...)
Due to a chronic pain issue I cannot go ahead with this pregnancy. But is my reaction to this termination normal?
Q. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I am in a happy relationship. We are both at university and have no money. I have 3 kids, he has 2 from our first marriages. This baby was not planned. I am 5 weeks. Due to circumstances including a chronic pain...
A. 5 July 2016: I think it is a pretty normal reaction and I strongly URGE you to seek some counseling AFTER the termination. If you health wise can't handle another pregnancy/child then having a termination IS the decision for you, but if you have doubts... talk ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?
Q. If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...
A. 5 July 2016: I would wish him well and move on.
***** UNLESS they have kids together and one of the kids are ill or it was a REAL emergency about one of the kids.****
I find people who are busy texting instead of interacting with the people around t... (read in full...)
Should I continue as a friend and hope he'll change his mind? Or let him go?
Q. I am in love with a friend of mine and he has told me once before he doesnt really see me as what I see him. He doesnt want to date; at first it hurt but I got over it after a while. The feeling is back and I cant shake it off as I used to wors...
A. 5 July 2016: Time to make new friends, honey.
... (read in full...)
I am involved with a married man and I'm worried he will take up with this other woman who works for him!
Q. No judgment please. I have been having an affair with my married Martial Arts instructor for 2 years now. We still have the most amazing sex and electric chemistry and the relationship is mostly sexual although we both care about each other. I...
A. 5 July 2016: If you are SUCH a complete package... why are you just a mistress then? Why hasn't he left his wife and made you his GF?
Just curious...
As for the female boss, well for now maybe your MM is respecting the work boundaries and sticking to a wo... (read in full...)
Does he like me, even a little bit and if so will he think my behaviour is very strange?
Q. Ok so this guy that i like I also suspect that he likes me but i cannot be sure... He is at the same university as me but we don't see each other all that often - maybe once or twice a week in passing. We have had conversations before (before I...
A. 5 July 2016: I think he likes you, but I also think that HE believes you don't like him with all this ridiculous behavior of yours. Keep it up and he WILL move on to another girl, because he will get fed up with the mixed signals.
He is JUST a guy, no need to ... (read in full...)
I don't know if what he's suggesting is okay or not?
Q. Here is a bit info about me: I grew up in an unhappy marriage household. My parents never got a divorce(living in a conservative country) and argued everyday. To this day, I do not know how conflicts should be handled between couples or what is ...
A. 5 July 2016: You have been in a LDR for a year and he wants you to spend your summer with him, but NOT at his place?
That makes no sense. One WOULD think (at least I would) that he would WANT you to BE with him as much as possible while you can, he will be ... (read in full...)
She thinks it looks cool. Anything I can say, or do, to change her mind about smoking again??
Q. I apologize in advance for anything I'm not making sense on. I've had this issue before and now its cropped up again but this time it's even worse. Just over 4 months ago me and my girlfriend finally came to an agreement that she wouldn't smoke c...
A. 5 July 2016: So it's a deal breaker? Then why are you still with her?
You are NOT a shining knight in armor and she is NOT a damsel in distress.
YOU are both grown people, while I FULLY understand your wanting her to be healthy and NOT have the same fate as... (read in full...)
Should I just swallow my pride and tell him I really miss him or should I just wait for him to message me first?
Q. So I've been at university in Oxford this past year and at the end of April I started dating an amazing guy who lives in Oxford. I'm back at home in Surrey for the Summer now, so I haven't seen him for almost a month now and I really miss him a lot. ...
A. 5 July 2016: I would shoot him a text. It's not needy to tell someone I've missed you and been hoping you would have added me already on snapchat. That way the ball is in his court... IF he doesn't pick it up, maybe it's time to move on.... (read in full...)
Paper thin wall mean we can hear each other! What's the best way to deal with this?
Q. I live in an apartment building in which the walls are pretty thin; so thin that I can actually hear what my neighbor is watching on the tv. So, for the past couple weeks, Ive been hearing my neighbors going at it and its really awkward. I havent ...
A. 5 July 2016: It's life. When you live in a place with neighbors close by and thin wall there really isn't much you can do other than perhaps dial down the noise a tad (if possible).
No need to smother yourself with a pillow.
Are they looking at you b... (read in full...)
She thinks it looks cool. Anything I can say, or do, to change her mind about smoking again??
Q. I apologize in advance for anything I'm not making sense on. I've had this issue before and now its cropped up again but this time it's even worse. Just over 4 months ago me and my girlfriend finally came to an agreement that she wouldn't smoke c...
A. 5 July 2016: In short?
No, there isn't anything you can say or do that will make her stop.
All YOU can do is decide DO I want to be with a smoker or not. If it's not, then you break up. If you can live with it, then you will have to either set rules (such ... (read in full...)
Should I continue as a friend and hope he'll change his mind? Or let him go?
Q. I am in love with a friend of mine and he has told me once before he doesnt really see me as what I see him. He doesnt want to date; at first it hurt but I got over it after a while. The feeling is back and I cant shake it off as I used to wors...
A. 5 July 2016: Right now? I think your best bet is to let him go, because you are unable to be a true friend as you have romantic notions about him and he has none of those for you.
Telling him again, is NOT going to change how he feels about you. HE KNOWS ho... (read in full...)
Is it because I'm a teen that I'm thinking about my friend like this? It's stressful
Q. This is my first time asking anything here, I am a 13 year old girl, going into 8th grade. I feel really awkward because I've been having kind of dirty thoughts about one of my closest friends who I've known for 3 years now, but I never felt ...
A. 5 July 2016: I think it's pretty normal per se.
Hitting puberty opens up a LOT of "windows" in your mind, one of them being sex and sexuality. Just like you can't control your dreams for the most part, same goes for fantasies. But you CAN keep telling yourself... (read in full...)
Is it because I'm moody? Or is my partner acting abusively towards me?
Q. I think I may be in an emotionally abusive relationship but honestly I'm not sure whether I'm just being silly or not. I can be a very moody person sometimes and often can be quite snappy, so I don't want anyone to think I'm wholly blaming my partn...
A. 5 July 2016: Yes, some of the things you mention sounds like an unhealthy and abusive situation.
The phone thing though, it's hard to say if that is him being annoyed that you are not interacting with him when he is right there but busy on your phone. I can't ... (read in full...)
Should I mention I found out he's leaving?
Q. I have built a rapport with my co worker and I fell for my co worker but we work in different departments.We have little to no work related interactions.He's always friendly and was giving off subtle signs of interest. However, 1 month ago I decided ...
A. 5 July 2016:
OK, so you like him... He wasn't interested in you in that way - so really what do you hope to gain by wishing well or what not? Just to be nice? Or maybe to give him another chance to get your number?
You could, if you run into him tell hi... (read in full...)
What kind of man is he? And what kind of relationship can I expect with him?
Q. Hello I have been chatting with a man I met on a business website we have been chating for 20 days, from the first few days when he added me on Facebook he said that he liked me but he felt he was too old for me which is 20 year difference, but I ...
A. 5 July 2016: I guess you will know when you met him and get to know him.
I have to say, I find it odd to be sending "love notes" to someone you don't really know. 3 weeks of chatting online/text is NOT knowing someone.
Met in public, make the first meetin... (read in full...)
Do I leave my new job after only one week, and how should I go about it?
Q. Hey guys :-) so I hope no one minds but I have a career question here, I've been stressed about it all week and as the DC community are so lovely I thought I would ask here. Anyway I'm 23 and have been working in a public sector office job for j...
A. 5 July 2016: OP, it's 6 months. You can do it. Dry your eyes and act like a grown woman. You APPLIED for this job, you TOOK it and now only a week later you are whining because it's not your old job. Come on... 6 months will fly by.
If you hadn't already ... (read in full...)
All I've met is harsh judgement. But I need advice and some support on what to do in my situation. Help, please?
Q. OK first of all please don't judge me on this but I got with my boyfriend while he was still married, he is now separated from his wife and with me. I guess he had fell out of love by the time he met me. There is 20 years difference between ...
A. 5 July 2016: I agree with Tisha.
If you can't get yourself out, seek help from a woman's shelter.
In your shoes? I'd swallow my pride and ask family for help, and as soon as you found a place to live (even temporarily), you pack and move out, block him, ... (read in full...)
What satisfaction do some men get from sleeping with so many different women?
Q. What satisfaction do some guys get from sleeping with so many different women? Seriously, what satisfaction does one get from this? It really perturbs me that there are men like this out there. Men who think it's nothing to sleep with their friend's ...
A. 4 July 2016: Unfortunately, it's part biology (spread your seeds) and part social norms (the more sexual partners a man has the higher status he has among men and some women), and then you have the ones who are like kids in a candy store, they want to try ... (read in full...)
Warned that he was a bad boy but I still stay
Q. Okay so, I met a guy through a dating app,he looked cute to me, and we started off really well. Turns out,he is an acquaintance of a really close friend of mine,and she instantly warned me of his bad boy ways,it wasn't really difficult to believe ...
A. 4 July 2016: Eh, let him go. You are wasting your time and no matter how SWEET and pleasing you are... he isn't into you and don't want to date you, he just wants his fun and move on to the next naive girl. I think you have the notion in your head that if you ... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking this is rude and unprofessional?
Q. A friend of mine recommended me for a translating job. I was supposed to translate 30 short texts in 3 months. That was the deal. Even though the money wasn't great, I accepted the offer since the employer was a person of good reputation. In this ...
A. 4 July 2016: I would take it with a grain of professionalism and thank him for the work and send the last invoice (or however you dealt with it).
Then you contact ALL the ones your turned down, tell them you finished ahead of schedule (cause you kind of did) ... (read in full...)
How long do I give him to decide?
Q. Hi , I decided to bite the bullet and ask my friend out , there is some chemistry between us and he has told me he does like me in that way . he said he would think about it . How long would you give someone to think ? i dont expect him to get back ...
A. 4 July 2016: Yep, 3rd vote for move on with life.
He now knows you are interested in more and he has done nothing to further that... I would read it as he like you a lot, but... isn't sure about dating you.
And I agree, if he has to "think" about he might j... (read in full...)
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