Is it wrong of me to use him for sex?
Q. So there's this guy that fancied me. I sleep with him but don't have no feelings. Is it wrong of me using him for sex when he wants more ...
A. 6 March 2017: I think so. I think people should be HONEST about what they want. As in don't lie and say you want more if you don't.
How would you feel if you were being "used"?... (read in full...)
He slept with me, then slept with my best female friend and now he's acting all weird. What's up with him?
Q. i fancied this guy and he gave me a bi vibe. It was all secret cause I'm not out But he ended up sleeping with my best friend who is a girl and has gone really weird lately. He don't talk to either of us since my friend told him he was bad in be...
A. 6 March 2017: What do I think?
He isn't talking to either of you because she berated his bedroom skills and he KNOWS she talks to you.
And maybe? That is a good thing.
I think I would avoid him as a bedfellow. If he isn't sure what he wants that is f... (read in full...)
Terminally ill friend offered me her husband
Q. My best friend is suffering from a terminal illness and said something to me that I'm not sure what to about. I'm divorced and haven't had good luck with men and she has been happily married for 10 years. She and her husband are truly great people ...
A. 6 March 2017: I agree with YouWish,
This is her illness speaking. I'm sure she has told him to find someone after she is gone as well but that may not be4 what HE wants or needs - definitely not now.
NOR is it what SHE needs.
I wouldn't tell him either... (read in full...)
Could I be his back up option?
Q. I joined a dating site a month ago and got chatting with a guy. a couple of week ago he told me he had decided to see how it would go with someone he had already met so he was honest and didnt want to string me along. He said hes still on the site ...
A. 6 March 2017: Are you on the dating site looking for a partner or for friends?
My guess is a partner, so DON'T let this guy waste any more of your time. Wish him well and block him. Look elsewhere for a partner, this guy isn't it.
And yes, you DO sounds li... (read in full...)
Boyfriend no longer even tries to have sex with me because its painful
Q. I'm having an issue with my boyfriend of about a year now. We haven't had sex in about a month and he says it's because I'm sensitive down there since it hurts when we have sex. He said he's just tired of that happening so he doesn't want to even ...
A. 6 March 2017: Go see your Gyno?
It's not your BF's job to make it all better. It's your body. Talk to your doctor/Gyno and figure out what it can be.
I think your BF is just frustrated and not very good at explaining it. I think the "I'm tired of trying"... (read in full...)
I made a fool out of myself, how can I feel better about this?
Q. Long story short, I've done a series of things that made me look bad in front of my crush. I don't mean things that have to do with being rude, immoral, nasty or unkind, etc. I just haven't had much dating experience and made mistakes that made the ...
A. 6 March 2017: OP, EVERYONE has done something stupid or embarrassing at LEAST one time in their life.
If this guy was OH SO amazing he wouldn't judge you for ONE ridiculous blunder.
I don't think it was JUST that one "thing" you did that made him NOT go ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend charged me for work he did for me. Should he have after everything I have done for him?
Q. I have been dating a guy for almost a year. He is going to massage school and has jobs here and there. He lives with a family member. I have helped him lots of times with homework. I recently bought a new car and gave him my old car, because he ...
A. 6 March 2017: What was the AGREEMENT before he did the work?
IF there WASN'T one... no, he can't charge you AFTER the fact. However, you could pay for either all or SOME of the materials he used.
And stop doing things for him and his. Maybe even consider th... (read in full...)
I just want to know if this is all due to him being bipolar or if I really am just stupid enough to not see that he was just using me all along.
Q. My boyfriend (now ex) is bipolar. I have been with him for more then a year now and I do love him, but also know it's past time to throw in the towel. So I just want to make it clear that this is not a question of if I should get back with him. I ...
A. 6 March 2017: Why? Because he is an arsehole. Pure and simple. I think it would be such a "cliche" to blame his actions on "bipolar". Even bipolar people can make choices. Some are more impulsive, but this? I wouldn't accept it as "it's the bipolar speaking"... ... (read in full...)
My co-worker was pushing invitations to her church, was my response rude?
Q. My co worker that I'm friendly with would always invite me to her church and church related activities. She got really pushy and told me not to disappoint God...that it is for my own good.I never had any interest until one day I decided to just see ...
A. 6 March 2017: Good grief!
I can not stand when people "pimp" their religion. You handled it better than I would have.
We lived at some point near Seattle WA and CONSTANTLY had people come knock on the door trying to get us to join their church. There wa... (read in full...)
Why did she react the way she did to my words? She is the one who lied to me, earlier.
Q. Hi everyone This isn't so important just something that really confuses me. My ex-girlfriend broke up with me 2 years ago. The relationship had become long distance, she had changed, she insulted me a lot, I was not happy at all. so when one da...
A. 5 March 2017: She is mad that you called her out for being not only a liar but possibly a cheat. She doesn't like that you put a "mirror" in front if her, so to speak.
If I were you I'd' cut the contact with this girl. She is an ex-gf, and an ex-gf who didn't t... (read in full...)
Do I gave up on her or give her a chance? She visited her ex and relegated me to the friend zone.
Q. First of all, sorry for my english, I am not a native speaker. So I was seeing this girl for some months (september to december) and we had such a great time together. It never got into a serious relationship. Probably I was not ready for that, ...
A. 5 March 2017: Personally ? I'd move on and find someone who IS totally single and available. She isn't. That ex-bf was "lurking" in the background while she was seeing you. She was probably still talking to him and missing him, so you were somewhat of a rebound ... (read in full...)
I work with her. Should I act as if I do not know that she blocked me on FB? Or do I confront her?
Q. My friend at work blocked me on fb... I think it's pathetic, so do I confront her or not? (I'm thinking that I wouldn't really like to give her the satisfaction of knowing it's annoyed me...versus the making her squirm/lie about it...!!) ?? How d...
A. 5 March 2017: You said you WERE real friends, so something happened?
Maybe that is why she blocked you?
Some people like to play games, but the thing is... if you DO NOT play along their little games fail...
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I work with her. Should I act as if I do not know that she blocked me on FB? Or do I confront her?
Q. My friend at work blocked me on fb... I think it's pathetic, so do I confront her or not? (I'm thinking that I wouldn't really like to give her the satisfaction of knowing it's annoyed me...versus the making her squirm/lie about it...!!) ?? How d...
A. 5 March 2017: It's HER Facebook and if she doesn't WANT to be "friends" on Facebook that is her RIGHT. You can "confront" her all you want, but guess what? YOU will look like a loon.
Why not instead back away from that "friendship" and stop wasting your tim... (read in full...)
Why is he so hard to get to know?
Q. So this is a little bit of a head messer (for me anyway) So there's a guy I really like we know each other from social media and hears the thing. I message him and sometimes he replies sometimes he don't. We share a match in music taste. ...
A. 5 March 2017: "Why is he so hard to get to know?"
Because he doesn't WANT to get known. As things stand it's a bit of a "fantasy game" and he is in some respects more of a "figment of your imagination" than a real person.
Who "likes" your posts and who do... (read in full...)
Is a friends with benefits relationship sustainable?
Q. After 12 years of marriage, I lost my wife to an unexpected heart attack 9 months ago. It has been hard and I'm not sure what I want to do. I recently ran into a lady I worked with at one time while shopping and she offered her condolences. I'v...
A. 5 March 2017: I'm sorry for your loss.
It can work, but like Youcannotbeserious said, it ONLY works as long as BOTH of you want it. If one of you decide they want more, you either adapt or end it.
I kind of understand why you both are OK with this (for n... (read in full...)
She has no idea her ex cheated on her often! Should I tell her?
Q. I'm in a very very sticky situation. I have 2 very close friends. 1 who is male the other is female. Both of the 2 used to date for over 4 years, they had just recently broke up about 9 months ago and I was always very close with the male. He was ...
A. 5 March 2017: What's the point in telling her now? They broke up, she got rid of the cheating douche canoe...
You didn't tell her AT the time where it might actually have helped her and well, mattered.
ALL you will achieve now is create drama and pain f... (read in full...)
I try to put myself in his girlfriend's shoes, but I still like him.
Q. I began liking this guy (who I see at my bus stop everyday and goes to a different school) in the beginning of Feb and we never speak. A friend gave me his snapchat and we started talking from there and for two people who are shy, we were very ...
A. 4 March 2017: It's a good thing that you actually take the time to consider HOW his GF might feel in this kind of situation, but what is MORE important is how YOU feel. Liking him is all good and well, but could you really trust a guy who would say such OBVIOUS ... (read in full...)
She is getting me down but my boyfriend says "she is just a friend"
Q. There's a very similar question on here but mine maybe has a different twist to it. So me and my boyfriend have maybe not been as good as we were at other points in our relationship. We have been together nearly 2 years and met in work when his ...
A. 4 March 2017: Here is my thing:
1. I don't think a BF/GF has a "right" to control their partner's social media or circle of friends. There might be friends of your (general you) partner that you feel is toxic, but it's YOUR partner's job to figure that out and ... (read in full...)
Garment crisis in the carpark
Q. Hello everyone, My husband and i work in the same company different departments . So i just came from ethiopia to USA and i am experiencing cultural shocks! so the other day there is a fire alarm at work and all co-workers had to stay outside in ...
A. 4 March 2017: *snorts loudly at Chigirl's answer*
Interpret it as your husband being a jerk.
YES!! your husband is being an ass.
I get that his PRIDE got bruised that you declined HIS offer and took a jacket from another man - but seriously? Silent treatm... (read in full...)
The red-blooded male in me says to give her more experience, the gentleman in me says to wait a few years!
Q. Sex question- a girl I've met online is very inexperianced and wants me to teach her about the physicality of sex. What's the problem?- there's a 12 year age gap and while she's above the age of consent and therefore it would be legal, the ethic...
A. 4 March 2017: I so agree with Auntie Celtic Tiger.
No 16 year old is really THAT mature. It's an excuse you give yourself because you KNOW (I seriously hope) that what you are doing (grooming a 16-year-old) is not OK.
You not having done anything yet - d... (read in full...)
Our relationship is going fine. But our sex life is declining. What could be the reason for this decline?
Q. Does sex life tend to decline after a few years? My girlfriend was virgin when she met me. She used to love sex, was extremely naughty and used to want it more than me. Now few years later she isn't really up for it. She says it not me, she does...
A. 4 March 2017: Are you lacking? Maybe.
She isn't telling you the whole truth here. Could be that she isn't fulfilled sexually, but she doesn't understand that when SHE doesn't put in an effort, you get what you give. And if she just lays there... well, not goin... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time hoping something will eventuate between us? So far he's ignored my texts, shouted at me, and told me it will not work between us
Q. I met a guy 6 years ago he was going through a divorce and I a separation. After couple conversation we had words and he said that we will not add up. Sometimes I would message him and he would ignore my messages. I recently moved and last ...
A. 4 March 2017: My thoughts?
WHY are you wasting time and energy on this guy?
You met him 6 YEARS ago and nothing came of it then. He IGNORES your texts, so really HOW interested is he? *hint hint* not at all interested. When a guy says "we wouldn't add up ... (read in full...)
Did I lose my chance with this guy because we met on T
Q. I am a fun, bubbly, warm, funny, kind/caring, and positive young woman. I know it sounds silly to say, but I made a Tinder earlier in the year thinking that people used it to find relationships and stupidly, I found out most used it for hookups. ...
A. 4 March 2017: Why cares how he chooses to "see" you? IT doesn't mean he is right. After all, HE slept with you as QUICKLY as you slept with him. It makes him NO "better" just because he is a guy.
Now you MAY meet a LOT more guys who are JUST looking for sex ... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant with negative test results?
Q. I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...
A. 4 March 2017: Thank you for the update, OP
Did you get an ultrasound? (I'm guessing you did since they measured these fibroids) And what did that tell you?
And definitely get a referral to a GYNO that KNOWS or specialize in these things.
And I would not... (read in full...)
Does this signify interest?
Q. A girl at work responding to my asking her something responded "for you anything". I have had this also said to me in another setting by different girl (she serving me or telling me where a product is). Of course we've had a friendly chat or chats ...
A. 3 March 2017: It could be interest, it could be sarcasm, it could just be banter.
You can't JUDGE this by ONE sentence alone.
But if that is all you got, I'd say NO, it's not a sign of SERIOUS interest.
... (read in full...)
Could this girl be interested in me?
Q. I stop at this petrol station sometimes. The past two, three times there's been a nice young girl there, and as at the times I go there it's not that busy, we have a chat. Somehow we got on to the topic of massages. I said that my massages may be ...
A. 3 March 2017: Don't be creepy.
Offering a girl a massage when she is at work and a TOTAL stranger to you - it's CREEPY.
Her response was that of disbelief:" it's a joke, right? You got to be kidding me with that sleazy pick-up line, right?"
How... (read in full...)
Does his behavior indicate that he's an emotional abuser? Should I breakup with him?
Q. 1-) In life, we should have certain words filtered, my boyfriend does not seem to have one. I am upset because, he has this tendency of referring to woman as bi***es, ”oh tha b*tch does this or that, in a very despotic way, he does not say this all ...
A. 3 March 2017: I find the term submissive so ICKY when it comes to a relationship. I'm TOTALLY fine if two people are BOTH on the same page with one being more dominant/submissive - but when one partner EXPECTS that of the other regardless - it's just... yuck. ... (read in full...)
Does his behavior indicate that he's an emotional abuser? Should I breakup with him?
Q. 1-) In life, we should have certain words filtered, my boyfriend does not seem to have one. I am upset because, he has this tendency of referring to woman as bi***es, ”oh tha b*tch does this or that, in a very despotic way, he does not say this all ...
A. 2 March 2017: I don't understand why you need advice here.
The fact that you say:"I feel drained, mentally and emotionally by his ways".
THAT in itself should tell you that he is NOT a good match for you. Someone that takes you down constantly, NOT ... (read in full...)
Did he not know what to do with our relationship? What could have triggered his response? I am very confused! Need honest advice!
Q. I, Guess I Kind of broke up with my boyfriend ( 37y/o) I could not stand his erratic behavior anymore. last friday he came for his graduation, and he messaged me on past Thursday saying that on Friday he was coming early here to town where I live, ...
A. 2 March 2017: I'm not really sure what your question is.
All I can say from reading your post is that you felt he wanted you for sex (mainly) and always on his terms. And that you had enough and ended it.
And it sounds like the two of you had really bad c... (read in full...)
She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.
Q. Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...
A. 1 March 2017: I'd ask her point blank if SHE would be OK with you taking home a girl, female friend and all and "watch movies" all night in the same bed too.
Because I bet you, she wouldn't like that ONE bit. At least NOT if she cares about you.
If you ... (read in full...)
Why douche and hide it from me?
Q. My girl had to douch before we had sex for the first time after I got home from prison...and she tried to hide it from me that she did it. Does this mean she slept around recently before I got home...why else would she douch and hide it from me?...
A. 1 March 2017: She probably wanted to feel extra FRESH for you. And she didn't WANT you to know because she wants you to think she ALWAYS is that "fresh".
When, why and where she douches is really none of your business. That is HER personal hygiene choice. ... (read in full...)
I hacked into his email and discovered he'd applied for another flat! What do I do next?
Q. Hi! Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over two years now. Two months ago we moved together in a new city. Two weeks ago I did something horrible, something I can never forgive myself. I hacked, literally hacked into his email account. ...
A. 1 March 2017: You two have a toxic relationship that IS NOT working. No matter how much you IGNORE the issues (and you are ignoring them) it will not magically fix itself, not will it ever work.
Your BF has checked out of the relationship mentally and now he a... (read in full...)
He contacted a girl on social media after I'd asked him to remove her!
Q. Ok so this may sound petty but I'm pretty worried about where my relationship is going and how much I trust my boyfriend at the moment. Now, I know mobile phones have taken over but whenever me and my boyfriend would go out we would try not to be ...
A. 1 March 2017: Maybe you should act on it. But not by confronting him because THAT will get you nowhere.
If you actually SEE other women (or just this ONE in particular) as a "threat" to your relationship, maybe your relationship isn't as strong as you think it... (read in full...)
I've been with him for 3 years and he's always too busy to spend time with me!
Q. Hiya I've been with my boyfriend now for 3 years this past few months though I have got the feeling he's getting bored with our relationship He's started adding women he finds attractive on Facebook that's how we met by the way we used to go to ...
A. 1 March 2017: If you feel neclegted and unhappy WHY stay with him?
You hav brought the issue up and NOTHING has changed so WHY waste your time on somthing you hope for but that probably will never happen?
A partner who rather spend his weekends getting... (read in full...)
My married lover won't commit to me.
Q. Been having a relationship with a married man for 11 years, I have asked him on numerous ocassions for me and him to be a proper couple.....but even though he says he wants to in the future he can't right now because of the impact it will have on ...
A. 1 March 2017: He isn't going to leave her. He hasn't in 11 years. There will ALWAYS be an excuse. It will NEVER be the "right" time.
He knows you will probably wait around and stick around for as long as he can DRAG you around with empty promises of "we will... (read in full...)
I like this guy. But he has also become friends on social media with a girl who has previously said bad things about me. What can I do in this situation?
Q. Hello everyone I could use some advice It's a small world, definitely for me. I went for a pageant where my roommate wasn't such a good person. She accused me of stealing because all apple headphones look the same and I took her headphones by mi...
A. 28 February 2017: What do you do?
YOU accept that you CAN NOT control what other people say, think or feel. If this other girl doesn't like you and spread crap around there is nothing you can do about it.
BUT what you CAN control is how you react to it. 1. ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to hint to a guy that you are not interested?
Q. I went on a few dates with a guy, but I just didn’t feel a connection with him. He seems so enthusiastic about our next date, but I don’t want to date him anymore. So is there a way I can hint to him that I’m no longer interested? ...
A. 28 February 2017: Just tell him. Hint are not helpful or LESS hurtful.
Honesty is the way to go.
Call him - don't be a coward and text.
If I were you I'd call him and cancel the next date (if it's planned) if not, tell him you have been thinking about the ... (read in full...)
The lady I was dating has herpes, did she break up with me due to my paranoia?
Q. hello, i met some one she was honest with me, she told me she has had herpes for thirteen years, not on medication, but now she is, an we only been seeing each other for three weeks, used condoms, yes I've told her i am very worried about it, it's ...
A. 28 February 2017: You had your doubt when you first heard about it and then you went around and ASKED her DAUGHTER? Instead of talking to your OWN doctor about HOW to stay safe or simply NOT date her?!
I don't think her daughter convinced her not to date her, I D... (read in full...)
My FWB grabbed me by the throat when I said I would find sex elsewhere!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a couple months now. We made it very clear we do not want a relationship with each other. It is just friend with benefits kind of thing. We are really good friends and we're not sleeping with anyone else. Last night we ...
A. 28 February 2017: Why did he do it?
Because he is an ass! And an ABISUVE ass to boot when drunk. I don't care that you challenged him about finding sex from someone else, no matter how CRUDE that is - he shouldn't have put his hands on you. He was showing you that... (read in full...)
Does anyone know of a "safe" or reasonably safe natural remedy that a man in his senior years could use as a stimulate?
Q. I am 87 years old. Periodically what testosterone I have,kicks in with a vengeance and I long for sex. Or even succeeding at masturbation. My main problem is ED. I have been tempted to try Viagra or Cialis but they are not effective for me. Some of...
A. 27 February 2017: I'd say talk to your doctor first. And ask for natural solutions if he/she can recommend any.
IF you take any medications it is best that your doctor also factors that in.... (read in full...)
His family want us to marry, mine don't!
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I 'was' dating this guy for a little over two years. We have both met each other's families and all was well until last December when his family started asking him to get married. Now the problem is I am in my early 20s ...
A. 27 February 2017: First off, don't worry about your family. While they might seem to want to tell you what to do, they REALLY are doing it out of love.
They know he isn't a good match for you, they know he doesn't make you happy and that he doesn't pull his weig... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant with negative test results?
Q. I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...
A. 30 December 2016: Move your doc appointment up.
And yes, most over the counter tests are reliable these days as LONG as you follow the instructions.
IF you have tested more than once and they were both negative, you can actually still be pregnant as "Lik... (read in full...)
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